Musleh Khan – Back to School Tips – Dealing with Distractions

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa about a cat, everybody. Welcome. This is the third video. Sorry, I
was just updating something on my Facebook. So the third thing that I want to talk about inshallah,
preparing yourselves to get back to school is eliminate distractions. That's exactly what was
happening with me. Now distractions really, I want to just focus on two things. The first is your
job and your friends. Now, eliminating your friends is very, very unhealthy. But having friends that
constantly distract you and steer you off into the wrong direction is even worse. So you want to
make sure that once you get back to school, you want to sit down and at least assess what kind of
		

			companions Do you have the people that you spend your time with? Are the people that are productive,
especially for the Union College students are up? Are you around people that are productive? That
are students that are taking their time seriously, especially for the high school students? Are you
amongst people that simply don't have nothing else to talk about, except just you know, wasteful
issues? You know, there's some friends that if you sit and you talk with them about something
serious, it becomes very awkward. They'll they'll even ask you like, bro, what are you doing? Why
are you so serious for let's change this up, subject and talk about something that is something
		

			else. And there are other friends that you're always serious with them, the moment you start to joke
around or talk about something casual, it becomes very awkward. So you guys want to look for the
friends that have at least a little bit of good balance in them when they see something wrong with
you. Now this doesn't necessarily have to be Islamic. Like if they're see that you're rude to a
waiter or a customer or something like that, or some other friends at school, that at least they
have basic morals and ethics. They have basic basic manners. They'll say to you, bro, why do you
have to be so mean? Just relax, don't scream, don't get upset, simple little things that they can
		

			help you out with insha Allah. So you want to assess the friends that you have. Many of us including
myself, we have tons of friends, but we're not really close to all of them. It just people that we
know here and there. That's good. And that's okay, and hamdulillah. But you always want to have at
least a few people that you can confide into, that you can talk to about any personal issues and
problems that you might be experiencing. But these people that you talk to, you have to make sure
sure that they can give you good solid advice that they can steer you towards doing the right thing.
The primary choice here is that you always want to choose a Muslim friend just simply because it
		

			makes your whole Islamic life that much easier. So that's the first distraction. You want to
eliminate, eliminate friends that literally waste your time. The second thing here is your phones,
your gadgets, your social media, all of those things. I'm not saying for you to get completely off
of it. But you definitely have to get control over it. You have to limit your time on this. Now this
takes a lot of discipline. Now remember, in our religion, Allah azza wa jal constantly encourages us
and teaches us to have discipline, we are allowed to play, but we're not allowed to play that much.
We're allowed to be serious, but we don't have to be serious all the time. Allah azza wa jal always
		

			calls us to have a balance in these two things. And the same thing with the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, you'll find that when it came to his teachings, when it came to spreading guidance
to the the companions, and everyone else, he was serious about it. But then at the same time, he
would also wrestle with our model de la Horan. alioto, the loved one, he would race with his wife,
they would go out into the middle of the desert, and they would just enjoy themselves. So it's
important for you to have that balance as well. Now, social media literally eliminates all of those
things, you lose a sense of just enjoying your life and going out. And having that amusement and
		

			that interaction with people. We've become so consumed with gadgets and social media, that we've
forgotten how to be social with actual people in front of us, you'll find that you don't want to
speak to no one anymore. Even if there's a Hi, how are you, you feel very awkward about it. It never
used to be like that. So you want to make sure that with these two things, these two important
things that you're engaging with, and you interact with every single day of your life, especially
when you're back in school, you want to make sure that you have control over this, because the
moment that these two things start controlling you guess what happens? You start to lose focus in
		

			everything in your life, not just School, which you start losing focus with your religion, with
allies. So watch out with your prayers, everything around you starts to become a complete disaster.
So you want to make sure in sha Allah that you get control, and you develop that peaceful life where
you eliminate
		

			These kind of distractions or at least get control of them to the best of your ability. May Allah
subhanho wa Taala reward all of you for your efforts, just like Milo Hydras that I'm already from
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