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Buddy,

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come on.

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Good to come as the event will please carry for the national anthem.

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That's all for the national anthem, please

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Thank you very much Please have a seat

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would like to invite Mr. Abramoff Ahmed for the opening prayer please.

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Okay, we would like to invite to start

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from one oma to please.

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dammit.

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Elevation

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meditation

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nation.

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Benefit subhanak alone will be harmed ignatia to Allah Allah highlandtown istockphoto wanna to buoy Lake wa salam aleikum wa rahmatullah.

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JazakAllah. Hey, don't start.

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Okay, so we're all welcome to the launch of the Merriam limoux marriage Academy. We said it earlier that this academy is a compilation of 30 years of marriage experience, and also the support of so many strategic partners that have come together to launch this course. So like to without wasting much time to introduce our guests and dignitaries, the chairman of this occasion, representative of the FSM ns the Sultan of Sokoto, Alhaji Dr. Shu Kingdom yamasa, PhD, the Emir of caffee would also like to recognize the mother of the day Dr. Asha, Dr. Dr. Mrs. Asha Mama, the first lady of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. Also His Royal Highness King Dr. Ambassador eponymous to the adoree ma

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according one and the

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two of us

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would also like to recognize the fallen national army Raja Halima Jeevan.

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Was the fall of vice president amin tahmina. Mati Sambo found that I care women and youth initiative and the Dharma foundation.

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We also have the Whopper circuity General among us.

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Also the president of

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abacha Muhammad.

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the unveiling of the course will be done by

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the unveiling of the course will be done by Mrs. Zara

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the founder of Zed LD homes.

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We also have our chief launch

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of the event

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Niala president and the executive governor of Kogi States Congress

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may also have us

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speech by the director Research and Training Institute Islamic education trust.

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We also have in our presence, the wife of the director, Department of petroleum resources DPR had yasunaga muscle sarchi

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would also like to recognize the chairman of the Secretariat committee, who has been instrumental in ensuring that we're working together in harmony. Professor materiala

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was to recognize excellence

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of the burden of matter state and immediate, immediate past chairperson modern business works for me.

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mungus film one is

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it's an organization that is of support to this anti anti center program. To Board of Trustees here, Justice Amina went by and

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sunny, who are also friends of Shalini would like to recognize them as well. Now this event has been put together and it will this course has been put together by the hard work of our strategic partners who we can't thank you enough. The Islamic education trust for mass fact.

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oma,

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which is the Muslim public affairs center shows your seats near school girl child concerns during my actual women and youth initiatives and the woman in Daraa

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applies

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the details to the Secretariat

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for job recognition

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wasting much time would like to go to the opening remarks.

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We like to go to the opening remarks

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by

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His Eminence Allah charges abraca defense return of Sokoto be represented by the Tanya Cathy

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I was with him in the shade and regime.

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It smelled like rotten Rahman r Rahim.

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Your Excellency, there is active governor of Kogi state, the representative of the First Lady,

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the wife of the former Vice President,

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Zara Muhammadu Buhari in dimmi.

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The host, Maryam Lehmann,

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the chief Imam of the central amongst distinguished guests, ladies and gentlemen, assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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I'm standing here on behalf of His Eminence. So I'm going to read his message to this program,

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In the Name of Allah, the beneficial damasco. I am indeed, very pleased to appreciate His eminence, for granting me the Royal permission to stand for him as the chairman of this occasion. luncheon fist, my young limo marriage Academy.

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Let me affirm that the institution is the first of its kind in Africa and the cherish Li endorsement of our distinguished delta of nobility, Zara Muhammadu Buhari, distinguished guests invited special guests. It is obvious to share my perception, generalization and empirical conclusion about this occasion, which I found the assembly as more of blessing, which relevance could benefit us anonymously as the cartel rampart cases of diverse in

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fidelity, domestic violence, and forms of harm to our marriage, harmony, the presence of His eminence, which I stood for him

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Here she will be seen as a clear representation of historic and support of the cardinal vision and mission and philosophical framework of the Academy, which is not only rewarding, but intended towards sustainable marriage development in our country, and India, Africa. Furthermore, it is very worrisome, and the state opoli that my heart bleeds everyday, that hardly a week passes without a notice of marriage ceremony, but also hardly a day passes without a diverse accordion.

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But let me pose and raise this Cardinal question. What is happening today that married couples no longer tolerate and parent each other. Despite Allah blessing upon them with the children

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of crucial importance, His Eminence stand tall, without stage phobia, to commend the prophet to the management of myeloma Academy an order stakeholders for providing your resources and applying managerial tools in building a home and educating humanity to be successful in their marriages. As well appreciate and truly have respect for each other. Let me quickly admonish the management of Marian legal marriage Academy as a matter of relevance, and academic convenience, to always lies with the Department of guidance and counseling in our tertiary institution, especially the unit that can provide support and guidance to popples. Their fiscal involvement could impact greatly to us the

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realization of institutional intended objectives or mandate, Also of note, the academy most equally tried to build a strong bridge of synergy with the Ministry of Education, women affairs, and other relevant agencies for their constructive input as to make market the institution to viable height.

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In making the institution greater than now, I advise the institution to collaborate with the religious organizations of JNI. On can to make the input in the aspect of marriage. It's evidence that Nigeria is a secular state and religious group conducts their marriages in cognizance of their belief that you need the impute via a summit or conference to add value to the institution. intention, when we call on our religious leaders, to always preach tolerance and forgiveness to the faithful and to make the couples realize that it's endless destiny for them to become husband and wife. Since the creation and must learn to show love to each other, it is obvious to all of us the

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call on the traditional rulers to play a critical role in reducing the amount of diverse and violence against a woman or anti policies against women in marriages. It is so unfortunate that most traditional rulers often pronounce I call on social and management scientists, especially the sociologist, psychologists, and anthropologists to extend your services in the support of Merriam, l'amour marriage Academy. It is evidence that the sociologists talk about marriage, believe is fountains of marriage and also conclude that marriage is one of the institution that regulate sexual behaviors, which where your F office is situated as a map, to respect the doctrine of social

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corporate responsibility, and Allah shall grant you blessing, love, peace and marital bliss, saying thank you for listening. May God give us the word of what we are trying to do for our nation and Africa. As we meet here today, may Allah join us in our agenda for dosi together was Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa Taala.

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Sri Lanka Rahmanir Rahim. Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. It is my great pleasure to speak to you on the occasion of the launch.

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of the marriage Academy. Thank you. So for that riveting speech, I would like to recognize the presence of the mother of the day represent the representative of the model of the day. And most of the day for this event is none other than Her Excellency hodja Ayesha to Muhammad Bari, mother of our nation, who is ably represented by honorable Dr. asobi villita Bashir, the director general of the National Human Development Center.

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presence or the representative of the governor of Niger state, who is represented by the Deputy Governor, His Excellency Ahmed katsu

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would also like to recognize the presence of distinguished senator Yakubu Sani representing Kogi central pharmacist Mohammed Jammie masuku, the chief of staff on label engineer Sadie Co. Abubakar are here a permission of works on housing on label bodystyles salami Ziggy Commissioner for local government and chieftaincy affairs, Auditor General of the state or local government of all of Kogi state would also like to recognize Her Excellency, Dr. Zainab Shin caffee Babu, a consultant paediatrician, the founder CEO of Medicaid Cancer Foundation and she's the first lady of Kp state

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would also like to acknowledge the representative of mascot, Dr. salado

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without wasting much time we'll go to the next event on our program, which is our keynote address by the former National amirah in

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Japan

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let's go

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Okay.

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Now I think

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I was a bit i mean i shadow on a regime smilla Rahmani Raheem.

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esteemed elders,

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and

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esteem esteemed elders, distinguished Ladies and gentlemen, permit me to skip the protocol so that

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I don't

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create any offence.

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Alhamdulillah

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all thanks, due to Allah for making this day, a reality.

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The family

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as trends current trends have demonstrated,

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you know, the family is on trial.

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The marriage institution itself

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is at the crossroads.

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For many couples, it is to be or not to be.

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This runs contrary

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to the principles of Islam and to the principles of any religion.

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Allah tells us on the Quran that he has put love and compassion between couples.

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The Prophet sallallahu wasallam said,

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marriage is my practice.

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And wherever abandoned seat is not of me.

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Yet as a nation, as a people before our very eyes

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and the last few decades, the marriage institution is crumbling.

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This in itself is a recipe for chaos. It's a recipe for instability in our country, not only in our homes. And that is why today we are faced with the crisis that we have on our hands as a nation.

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National Bureau of Statistics 2019 says 14 point 3 million Nigerians

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and get I mean, engaging one kind of substance abuse or the other.

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This includes youth is includes has a family's

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It includes mobis and this is because the peace, the tranquility, the fortress that the family institution is supposed to be

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is, you know, is on the wane.

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We have youth delinquency, placa, demick performance of children. We have increased in crime, kidnapping banditry. Have we ever thought that these bandits and kidnappers are one of parents?

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Yes, they didn't come from the womb.

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So this is this, this tattly reality before all of us as parents, as leaders, as in or CSOs as religious leaders as traditional rulers.

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And that's why form one believes that this academy,

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you know, has come at the right time, we congratulate our daughter, Maryam lemo, and our son, her husband, for putting up you know, this academy, we believe that this is a step

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you know, in our

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return to those family values that can make for peace anchor back can set us on the right of rectitude, inshallah,

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permit me to use this opportunity to appeal to our fathers here present,

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that there's an urgent need for us to revisit the social norms and cultural practices that work against the marriage institution. And I want to particularly mention the kayaking

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which is absolutely non Islamic. You know, a practice where the bride's parents are burdened with the provision of furniture the provision of foodstuff for the bride, as she gets married. This in itself exposes the girl and her parents to serious economic exploitation. What happens in the long run is that well, the young couple has exhausted the bags of rice, the bags of beans, the palm oil and granite oil, the man throws out and he's on the lookout for greener pasture. Yes, he's looking out for the next family, reach our family back home, you know, from which he can marry so that he replenishes the foodstuff, the furniture and everything else. Farmer is ready to work with

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traditional rulers at all levels of society, to ensure that we change these cultural norms because they are not Islamic, and they work against the marriage institution, they also prevent young people from getting married.

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I also want to say

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that the the

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I run business, yes, that that is on the increase, where young men are engineering where young men are looking for rich families from which to marry. You know, so that that can be a springboard, you know, to other things that they want to do. This really puts the girl at a great disadvantage. And I would want us collectively in our different spheres of influence to do something about this. One small farm one congratulates

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the the

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the initiators of this project, and commit to collaborate with the Academy, especially in reaching out to rural, the rural areas where marriages are also, you know,

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experiencing trauma.

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And a lot of those rural women have no avenues for redress. And on this note, I want to say congratulations, we thank all our friends and supporters, fathers who

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have made it to you know this occasion and pray that this is the beginning of very good things to come inshallah was Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatu. Thank you for listening.

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Thank you very much.

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Before we move to the next event would like to recognize the presence of Gombe state First Lady, Her Excellency, Dr. Hagee, asthma, India yamnaya.

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Yeah, sorry. Apologies. Yeah. We also like to recognize the presence of the honorable Commissioner for investment. Niger state Dr. Mustapha Japan.

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The next item on our agenda is a virtual message from

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the 14th

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of January in Nigeria, is

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a sentence message. So

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thank you.

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It's like a Rahmani Raheem. Solomonic Mara.

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It is my great pleasure to speak to you on the occasion of the launch of the marriage Academy by Miriam Nemo. It is an extremely important initiative for the Muslim ummah. We spent so much time in academies to learn about many things. But we did not spend enough time to learn about the most important institution, you know, in our life, which is marriage, because that is where the family is born. That is where children are brought up. And that is where our lives are shaped.

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A major part of the social

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piece comes from

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often Muslim guidelines and guidance on marriage, the lack of love, the lack of responsibility, between divorce, the lack of passion and compassion, and your mind the very essence of marriage as an institution that is grounded on law on love and mercy. Because you can hear one word Allah in the Koran, Miranda more has for years been involved in this kind of concert in an informal manner. And it is a great

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it's a great thing. And something that is worthy of commendation that she has set up an academy and following the footsteps of her parents of sharing knowledge and improving the welfare and the religion and the spiritual life of this woman. Congratulations, Miriam. And I hope that this academy will play a major role in improving our society and

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much needed. I'm here to support you at any time.

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Step aside, you're looking

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to just if you finish the care pictures, just step aside please.

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Little audio issues, but it's going to be fixed in a bit.

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Okay, well, we'll play this later. Let's move on to the

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Samsung TV Please take note. So just shout it out. Then we'll come back for that.

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Next item on the agenda is a keynote address

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by the former vice president excellencies.

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Woman emaciated the foundation.

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She steps up

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the chairman of the occasion, the representative of the First Lady,

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the representative for His eminence, Your Excellencies distinguished

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governors here

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the founder

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of the maritime Academy

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excellencies wives of governors, distinguished Ladies and gentlemen, as salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa Taala.

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I wish to express my sincere gratitude to Allah subhanho wa Taala for saving our lives, to be part of this great occasion.

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this occasion,

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the launching of the maritime Academy couldn't have come at a better time than this, when the high rate of divorce in our society is not only alarming, but it's scary when and where we saw.

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Marriage, as we all know, is the social

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and legal contract between two individuals, which eventually will lead to a family unit that will be

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either I stir

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or hope for the society. Marriage, as we all know, is a strong Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And when we are going to undertake it, we have to do it. Right. It has been spelled out to us and thought by the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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I believe

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the family been the bedrock of the society needs a social foundation for peace and harmony, that we nurture a mold, the character of the children on sound, values and ethics. For these, and many reasons, full knowledge of what it entitles us to be on the taking for it to be successful.

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I believe this academy, we provide the opportunity for their newly married couples, and also those all already existing in that institution, an opportunity to be well equipped

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to be well equipped for the life that they intend to go into, affording them a union built on love, trust, a mutual understanding.

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I have always found that and wondered,

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in

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the 80s, when we are going up

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our elders and our grandparents I will see, used to tell us of what married life was in those days, usually,

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the wife to be, I've never met her husband, and the husband has never met his wife, the only meat on the day, the bride is taken to the house.

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And what's the I've been told is, please respect each other, the y be obedient to your husband.

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And please do not bring shame to the family.

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And insha Allah, that my wage, you will see was the best and longest marriage ever. They had a lot of children.

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And I haven't even lived the society was much much peaceful that we had today.

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But today,

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he will see that our children are some of us even we chose our partners. We selected our houses, we planned for the wedding, we had a fabulous wedding activity.

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And unfortunately, sometimes it doesn't last so long.

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And that is why I think my sister

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at

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my Wendy Moore decided

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me, we go a long way in saving these marriages of today that do not learn in that do not leave a long span of life.

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The negative consequences of diverse and not only limited to the couple alone, it extends to both families. It extends to children and grandchildren.

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and by extension to their society.

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The negative effect

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will be so bad that the children will be led to any situation that will affect their lives and their future ambition.

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So what really are the causes of this more than these shots on my weakness? Is it that some husbands have neglected

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responsibilities?

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Or is it that some wives have abandoned their primary assignment at the home?

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Or

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more? There are more visits much more than this that I've said

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I hope this academy we will be able to give us those answers.

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This question

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Your Excellencies distinguished Ladies and gentlemen, but may permit me to say that my wait when the first edition of humanity does not require any formal enrollment, it only requires mutual consent. You will learn on the job.

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You are neither paid

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or have any overtime.

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There is no pension. There's no Bateson

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there is no retirement or retirement benefits. And in some cases, there is no appreciation.

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But certainly your award or your compensation is what Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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And if you had a good intention for those good things you have done in that maritime contract insha Allah, your final output will be terminated details insha Allah,

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I will like to commend my sister for her foresight

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for her efforts.

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Today realisation of this bit, marriage Academy, that is the first of its kind in the whole of West Africa.

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I pray to Almighty Allah to guide you, and to accept it as a form of certify to Java.

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We care women and youth initiative and Gavin Newsom Foundation,

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we are so proud of you.

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We are proud to be among the strategic partners.

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And we continue to stand by your side. Because we believe in saving the crisis of marriages in Nigeria, especially in the north.

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May Allah make it easy for us, and he give us the non lack of good health to continue. Thank you and God bless.

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Thank you very much. Please,

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please.

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Let's like we said at the beginning is important that we have strategic partners to support this initiative. The more strategic partners we have, the more lies we can touch.

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Imagine the future of this country where we have well grounded families because people have been able to take this marriage course and have a better understanding of what marriage and tails and then be now able to adjust the moral decadence that we find in the society. Before we proceed to the next item on our agenda I would also like to recognize the presence of the mother in law of Archie found Villa had Jada in the me, who is the mother in law of Mississauga body in the me. They found out of Zed MB homes, an orphanage in Kadena is doing amazing work.

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would also like to recognize the presence of the accountant General of Kogi state, Alhaji mergeable,

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who is also here to support this initiative as well.

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Our next item on the agenda is a keynote address by the Secretary General of the women's rights advancement and protection alternatives. rapa has been instrumental in supporting women and upholding the rights of women, especially in marriage by supporting them getting a financial education and all the support

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from the Secretary General

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multi

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presented Rashid, the former vice president's waive the walls of the executive governance of Niger can be

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the representation of the First Lady and our daughters are I want to stop here and

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stand or at least respectfully observe all other protocols, but Your Excellencies presidents

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ladies and gentlemen

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My greetings, and I convey greetings from honorable justice fatty lammi, Abu Bakar, the founder and chair of the women's rights advancement and protection, alternative rapper,

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honorable justice shotty. Shane's how greetings to learn, and her family,

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both for the initiative, we're launching today, but most importantly, for agreeing to enable our partner with that he or she to

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forever and has already been said

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somewhere in 2006

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concerned with the statistics, these are real life statistics that come to organization

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between 2003 to 2005. noted in 2003, we had 442 divorce cases that we register from the cases coming to us.

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I had 438

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cases, that is women opting out of marriages, for reasons and the allowance given by Allah subhanho wa Taala, for them to move out of a marriage, if they have a cost to do that, because as we all know, Islam does not

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allow a woman or a man to remain in a relationship of marriage, where that is

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and why that is also known love, why the situation is just not acceptable, and rather than clean bliss, began since in 2004, we recorded 317 divorce cases 188 cases, the holy cases became less in 2004 because there was a judicial cautious, a diversion, to ensure particularly endzone for a cabbie and Sokoto that these cases do

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reach the finalization of UI. This is courtesy of the work we're doing with

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our government, intestinal states.

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Tell us if we have gone to sleep.

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Five divorce cases were registered 358. And then cases just shot up to 407 million that

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were seeking out of marriages,

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then remaining in marriage

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without fast track to 2018. And this is very alarming. In 2018, proper registered cases collected divorce cases 2625.

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A 30 2019. We have 2335.

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Through all the efforts

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with the support of the judiciary, the merger, and organizational partners such as form one who our partners, and other organizations worried

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we're able to address

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in 2018. And we're able to us on 1647.

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The one will ask why

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do we have these alarming statistics. And ladies and gentlemen, this statistics are only from the seven of western states of Nigeria. I'm not talking about the 36 states of Nigeria. We got this statistics courtesy of a project that we have implemented over a 12 year period that has the endorsement of digital

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Islam. And we were able through this project to design instruments and mechanisms to respond to the trend. However, one of the things we had to do was to do research. Why do we have this? Is it just a factor of compatibility? Or is it a factor in some of the things that my sisters have already mentioned? That is

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that is the responsibilities.

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Three responsibilities that go or is it the preparedness of the couples to be? Is it the interference of families? Or is it the lack of social support systems are excellent she mentioned our grandmothers and mothers. They had an extensive family support structure around them. Even my own grandfather, married a nine year old girl

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I may have missed him about it, I will tell you what she did. She stayed with us play all over the house with us. until probably she was about 14. I never knew she was a wife. She didn't.

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So nobody delegitimize this light. But we ask that consummation of marriage be stalled. Marriage is legitimate, even with a child and by Islam. We understand that because of marriage, the responsibilities of marriage, both for the man and the woman, I feel that we have not underscored in this country.

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We have,

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but we don't have

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we have managers, they are bedeviled by our social insecurity issues that make it difficult for a hard working couple to survive. Is it the interference of families? Or is it the lackluster political will of the judiciary to push couples or husbands or wives

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to what our parents as high excellence, he has said to institutions daily,

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today,

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he is

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the knowledge get his pic or the smoke painter getting close

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will come to know and ask for the hand of another girl and he will do it

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to what did you do with the last marriage.

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And then that is the the

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times you come to marriages, depending on the dress you are learning. And the reality is they will just say Your Eminence

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and not necessarily known to anybody who is assigned as a one D because he has a responsibility to manage his function. But today, every marriage is in this country out of 150 artists function.

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There are children, those who must continue to tall that's the women I mean,

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because they do want to risk the lives of their children, but

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they are unhappy.

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In this country we have what is the extent

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to do you go to

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Egypt

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in which our attentions in marriage are to be addressed. Unless one what Allah has left nothing uncleared for us. Why don't we resort to it. Having said all of this, ladies and gentlemen, rapa has done something over the last 12 years. We have done many, many programs targeting love Western Nigeria called Islamic family, my project, it has been assessed, it has been successful. And because of what we have done, we have contributed to the reduction of divorce cases. Last was at least as reported in 21 of our pilot Musk's

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Ladies and gentlemen, as we speak, we know that the problems we have in this country as follows from the kind of marriage we are living,

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of Nigeria

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will ask many of them to give him to us

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in Africa, and they ask what

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he wants to have a fifth wife.

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He divorced one of them. And before she completed that he married another woman, which makes him a man with five rows. But because he is because he's socially high, nobody has been able to say anything to him. Now the impact

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what which marriages are dying and waking up and coming back to life should be addressed. Your MLS

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the traditional institution has printed while you're under religious institution as represented by you, Your Excellency. We have worked both in Roper and across organizations, we now have a quote, which, if observed, will save the marriages in our society and Islamic families. The message is out

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Well, he is a supporter of one of those initiatives. And I know if you put political will behind it, Your Excellency will see a true reduction. Hello, sir.

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I want to congratulate my sister and daughter, Miss Maria. And her

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beautiful has been Oh call you get

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to be handsome. But one day exceptionally support women, my man so much to society. Thank you for doing that. Thank you.

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We appreciate you. We feel

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it's tricky.

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To make a contribution to society is not a weakling, please, very strong and confident man.

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That's all we need. And please continue talcum. Ladies and gentlemen, honorable justice RT is proud to be an associate

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a strategic partner to this initiative, we have to support the women who will come through

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If not, each other programs will still happen because it is a human institution. So when those problems happen, you need to look for form one Knutsford rapper

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to help them through those

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pitfalls, which no matter how much you tell them in the pre Metro counseling will still happen. We look forward to being your support in that direction. And we wish you very well, ladies and gentlemen, my regards. And thank you, and good afternoon.

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Thank you very much. Now, there's something that we want to let everyone know, the

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the entire program the entire course, we're using the hashtag change the narrative. I know that a lot of us that are here are probably going to make post about it. But take yourself as someone that is also sharing that message. Please use the hashtag change the narrative, and let us move action from hashtags to actually changing the narrative. Personally, I'm going to come and meet Oh, I like to say due for coaching, and mentorship as well, because I can see that like they said, you know, a strong woman is not a threat to a man and we as men must do our best to ensure that we support the woman in our lives to achieve their fullest potential. Now one last announcement please members of

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protocol or the Secretariat, the second Michael have another mic Please someone collected it and has not returned it when needed for address whenever for the address bar tipologia. So please,

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please just kindly send it to the secretary. Because I don't want to believe that mics have legs. I

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would like to the next agenda is to play the virtual message from Khalifa mama Tennessee the second the 14th me of color and the grand Khalifa of Tianya in Nigeria. Salaam TV, please take care

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of the launch of the marriage Academy.

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It is an extremely

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Okay, please another round of applause I

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would like to recognize the president of the Minister of women affairs, Dame Pauline Talon. Please round of applause for her.

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Next item on our agenda is a keynote address by the president of one oma

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Muhammad

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is the end of applause as he steps up.

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Similar al hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah. Say now Mohammed Allah Allah.

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Robot, Salaam Alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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And we give the greetings of peace as well to our non Muslim brethren who also here with us. We have made the almighty bless our Goblin, I said,

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Our mother, sorry, before commencing all protocols duly observed our father's elders, respected brothers and sisters.

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I was dreading coming on the stage after listening to Hagia Sophia to Maddie, because I learned that I would like to have such a powerful speech. So I was glad when it was

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no of Canada went on. And then I was called to come on after him. May Allah bless them all, and bless all the speakers that are here. I would like to bring a bit of a lighter note, because I think it has been very tense. When I heard all the discussions early, I was almost trembling like can I do this? Can I speak about these issues. But on a lighter note, just to talk about what the marriage

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Academy which was done by sister Marian layman, for two reasons, because I have been involved with them personally, to see us get to this point. And I must say, I'm truly proud I repeat this before them behind them in every gathering, I am truly proud of what they have helped to bring to light today, which will help many families that can access this sort of

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material to learn about marriage and how not just to get married, but to stay married.

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On a lighter note, I am very much more like my dear brother, but

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in so many ways,

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in terms of his demeanor, and in terms of so many other things. And I have seen how that has helped in not just building but maintain in a healthy relationship. And one cool thing that draws between us all that will say, influenced us to this is none other than our souls Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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already know that he is the best of example. We already know that. He was sent as a leader, and to teach and train and make us understand and go through not just the aspect of our worship, but everything that has to do with our lives, and marriage is one of them. And so everything in the course, takes us back to that history of the rise the life of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and how he led his life. And what were the things that he did to make him be a successful leader, and also a successful husband as well. Sister Miriam Les Moonves champion this. But as Hagia Sophia had mentioned, her strength lies and comes from the partner that Allah has granted her who

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has supported her through the journey, because she would not have reached 30 years of marriage without a marriage.

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Right, is it possible she can come here and okay.

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In this very elaborate, you know, event, invite every one of us here and said, I have done 30 years of marriage, why is the husband

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the same way the husband wouldn't be able to do the same.

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So really, this platform, and you know, we have to consider what is a growing trend as well, this platform helps all of us, not just those who are going to study or those who are going to or have been a part of it, it helps all of us why because it helps us change our society, it helps us to reform. The hole truly is the bedrock of any good society, it is the heart. And whenever the heart is good, every part of the body is good. But when the heart is corrupt, then every part of the body is corrupt, as well.

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So I really commend sister Marion for this great effort, she has made the 72 wonderful episodes, I bet all of us to take time to register, to go through it, to recommend it for couples who have been married, who are yet to be married, and who are intending to get married. I recommend that

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we don't only listen. But we take our time to implement everything that we learn from the course. Because what it will do is to take your relationship from a state of I'm marrying someone just for my own sake, or because I love the person because it's good to marry for love. We're all married our spouses by the grace of the Almighty for that, or at least out of respect to our parents. Why? Because there was once a time when parents could say to their children, I have seen a good spouse for you, and you will get married and you will be married and stay married and stay happy in that marriage. Unfortunately, we're at a time where this has changed. Where couples today want to know

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each other. Because unlike the past, where there was a level of sincerity, there is not so much of that today. So couples want to know one another before they go into a marriage. You as the parents, whether you accept it or not. They are interacting behind you don't just think to say Oh, but my child would never do this. No, there is someone who is there is just they are not ready to bring such a person to you.

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But before they get to that, this can help them to know about those critical things they should look for in a marriage. What are the red flags, that once you see it from the beginning of the relationship, don't even let it go further. Cut it from there. What are the things that when you're married you experience don't just go all out and say you want to end the marriage No. Find a way to counsel one another. We have very limited counseling sessions on marriage and that's why a lot of my