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Khalid Yasin

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Shame on you're watching

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Bismillah

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What is happening?

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Anyone life other than modesty, higher means life. But there's a difference between these two words hyah which is modesty and hyah which means life. But they both have the same roots. And if you don't have higher if you can't have higher if you have no modesty, you have no life. Your Eman will suffer death and Subhanallah Think about this. If you are not shy from Allah subhanho wa Taala if you are not modest, whenever you are thinking about the fact that Allah subhanaw taala is watching you if you don't feel that sense of shame and bashfulness in front of Allah subhanho it's out, then what's going to hold you back from doing those shameful acts that enter a person into hellfire.

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If you have no higher, you're going to do as you please which means those people who say Do what you like

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give the reins to your muffs

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that is an expression of lack of hair. And therefore a person who lets his lips or her lips

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guide and lead and hold the reins that person has no hair.

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And remember hair is the defining characteristic of this Deen in medical Lee in in chanukkah wa in Islam he said Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam in this authentic text every Dean has its own defining characteristic and the hook the state remember of knifes the defining characteristic of Islam is hair. And he said when he put in a Jamia

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so hon Allah He said I didn't

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only students

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he said so the law will send them

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essential

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and help

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me and we have been always held together

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if one of them is lifted when the other one is lifted,

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that means what

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if there is even there is here

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is there is no email there is no hair, if there is literally man there is little hair, there is a lot of there is a lot of hair. If there is no hair there is no even.

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In other words, these are indicators if you will, by which we gauge if you will,

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the level of image of ourselves

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and of our surroundings. Remember, Rahim Allah gave the example

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of Narayan Rahim Allah to Allah that whenever a thief is entering into a house

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and he hears the doorknob rattle you know, imagine someone robbing a house and he hears the doorknob rattle. And he goes in he hides he just committed should because the law was watching him the entire time. But he wasn't ashamed of what he was doing or he did not become afraid until he heard the doorknob rattle because a human being what's coming. So the very very first thing that we have to understand is that hire first is from Allah subhanho wa Taala. being shy is not just the way you dress, these are categories of

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being shy is not just the way you dress. It's not just the way you interact with the opposite gender. It's not just those things, the very first most critical ingredient is being shy from Allah subhanho wa Taala knowing that my creator is watching me right now, whether I'm in my room and it's dark, whether I'm in front of my laptop and no one's home, whether I'm on you know I'm chatting with somebody and no one can see those chats except for me and that other person and the 20 other hackers on your computer that you don't you don't feel shy from them. Okay, whether it's this or that I'm being watched Allah subhanho wa Taala is there watching me? So I have to feel that sense of shame

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and shyness from him and also loss I sent him said in the Hadith, it's narrated in Abu Dhabi with a soulless ice and I'm so excited statue may no longer happen Hey, be ashamed of Allah subhanho wa Taala beside from Allah subhanaw taala how can how can the way that shyness is due to him for law who have put him in a loss of Hannah hoods Allah has the greatest right for a person to be ashamed from him. Think about the things that you would not do in front of your parents but you do in front of Allah subhana wa tada all the time. Think about the thing that things that you do with your friends.

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But you would never do in front that you would never do in front of your friends but you do them in front of Allah subhanaw taala all the time. Allah has the greatest right upon you that you should be shy from Allah subhanho wa Taala you should feel modesty you should feel bad.

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You don't just go doing every sin that you can find an excuse for a no one ever told you point blank that it's hot um, and you couldn't find a more liberal fatwa on it. You do things knowing that Allah subhanaw taala is watching you so you feel shame, because Allah has a greater right upon you that you should be shy from him and the key elements in the heart is higher.

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It is modesty.

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It is decency.

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The process of them said even spoke about

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that higher, the higher middle man what a man will agenda.

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That Verily, decency and modesty is part of faith. And Eman will lead you to paradise.

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So higher is a crucial concept. It's a crucial ability or a crucial quality that we should have within ourselves. and higher is not just modesty or shyness. It is something to do with limits, that we know the limits of each other.

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And the real shame and modesty is not just from human beings is for Allah subhanaw taala.

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So we are modest because of our relationship with Allah subhanaw taala not because we fear people.

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The prophet SAW Selim said there were three people in kodesh three people,

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they were the best of people.

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When they spoke to you, they would tell you the truth.

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And when you spoke to them, they would not accuse you of lying. They would not suspect you.

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They believe what you say. In other words, the innocence

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your innocence innocent until proven guilty.

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They accept what you say. There's three people

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abubaker acidic

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was man Ebony our fan and Abu Zubaydah genre, our three people and of these three Apple beta stands are on the highest stage.

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And he is described as having he was Cassia dulhania.

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He was modest and shamed to the point where he wouldn't even look you in the face.

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But this modesty that he had is not weakness. He was just a shy person with believers. He is innocent person with you. But it is reported that when the enemies of Allah subhanaw taala came Abu Zubaydah, they described him as the sharp part of the sword

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turned into a lion asset.

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He was humble and modest with believers.

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But when the enemies of Allah came when danger came, he became a lion.

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He was the first in the line,

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no fear in his heart.

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And so this is the description of a believer. This is the modesty we're talking about. This is the higher it is a modesty with Allah subhanaw taala.

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Whenever people die, they don't walk in our houses, they don't sit with us. They don't come after 40 days and eat videos or mokulua they don't do any of that stuff. All that is garbage. That's true. But at the same time, it is from the arcade of Alison Noah, Gemma that the people who are dead can see the actions of the living, they can see the deeds of the living. Once you lose a parent once you lose someone that's very beloved to you someone that used to have someone that you felt a great sense of shame from imagine now that when they are dead they can see your deeds

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that are the Allahu taala he used to say Allahumma in the arrow became an army or mln Zb here and the Abdullah no hahaha Oh Allah I seek refuge in new his friend his companion I'm loving it Allah has passed away up with the dot the great scholar while the Aloha tada I know, he says, Oh Allah, I seek refuge in you from doing anything that would humiliate me in front of our beloved murabaha. So when you think of your beautiful grandmother, your beautiful parents and those types of things, guess what? You're being exposed to them right now. They can see your actions. They can see your deeds. There's so there's feeling a sense of shame. And the reason why I mentioned this, I know that

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it's uncommon. This has a profound effect that had a profound effect on me. That's scary. If you love someone who passed away, that's scary. They can see what you're doing. They can see everything that you're doing all of your deeds and then the aspect of the living

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And some of us might think, well, if I'm shy from Allah subhanho wa Taala then why should I be shy from people? There is no contradiction. They didn't know Sabbath about the Allahu taala. I knew he was once walking to Salatin fetchers they didn't know that but one of the greatest scholars is oma has ever seen. And as he's walking, he was coming late to slot and fidget. And the people were already leaving the messages. And he put his head down and his face was full of redness. He was so ashamed of himself, you know, most of us will out the budget. Yeah, whatever. If you can get a rower to forfeiture, that's great. His face was down and he was full of redness in his face and he was

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saying men lamb yesterday, man and nurse them yesterday, man, Allah, whoever is not a shame from people is not a shame from Allah. subhanho wa Taala. So whenever you don't feel a sense of sinus, that sense of shame, whenever you don't feel like there's anything wrong with posting this picture, writing this status or doing this or saying I was here, I was there. Or suddenly that what, whenever you don't feel that sense of shame. Whenever you're at a university or at a college campus, and your parents aren't watching you, no one is there. Whenever you don't feel it from other people, you don't feel it from Allah subhana wa Tada. You cannot be shy from a lot and not be safe from people.

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Look, we're living in a time where you are constantly exposed to shamelessness, and you're exposed to it so much, you're desensitized to it. So when you see something lewd and vulgar the first time when you do have your shame intact, you get disturbed. But if you see it over and over and over and over again, you don't even know what the big deal is. Why are people making such a big deal about it? You know, and so you become desensitized and then you start questioning why why does Elon make such a big deal of it? Why is it that's it's such a it's such an evil. Understand that when you see something corrupt like something shameless, something lewd, you know, something you shouldn't your

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eyes should not be exposed to, or you hear something your ear should not be exposed to. And you don't find a problem with anymore. It's an indication that you've got a serious problem in your heart, because your heart is not disturbed by sin anymore. Your heart is not disturbed by evil anymore. That's that's a problem. It's a very deep spiritual problem. Let us try and analyze what does our Creator almighty God have to speak about modesty? Allah says in the Quran in surah nude chapter number 24 was the machete say to the believing man that he should lower his gaze and garden modesty? Allah first piece about the models for the man and then of the woman? Whenever a man looks

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at a woman, any breath and in his mind, you should notice give.

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There was a Muslim who was staring at a girl for a long time. I told her, what are you doing? It is haram to stare at the woman. He told me our beloved Prophet said the first dance is allowed. The second is prohibited. I have not yet completed half magnons

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What did the Prophet mean when you said the first glance is allowed, the second is prohibited. What he meant was if you unintentionally look at a woman do not intentionally Look at her to feast on the beauty. That doesn't mean you can look at a woman for 10 minutes without blinking and saying I am the company in my glands.

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The next person speaks about the leader for the woman, Allah says is renewed chapter number 24 verse number 31 says the believing woman that she should lower again the God of modesty and display not a beauty except for appears ordinary off and draw her will head covering all the bosom except in front of a father, a husband, her sons and the pickiest of myrams who she cannot manage given

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the Lakers girl at home in a law hobby you

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tell the believing men to reduce some of their vision and guard their private parks that is pure for them or for them indeed a lot is acquainted with what they do. Well boy Mina to bounnam in

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me know.

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And tell the believing women to reduce some of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment, except that which appears there have and to draw their head covers over their chest and not display their adornment, except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands, fathers, their sons, their husbands sons, their brothers, their brothers, sons, their sisters, sons, they're women, women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women, women, and let them not stamp their feet to make known what they can seal of their adornment, and turn to

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Allah in repentance, all of you are believers, that you might succeed. I always say that today, a woman has been reduced to basically an object of sex, an object of attraction for a male and all the males must just fill their eyes and just the eyes must be quenched. And that's it. So when you see the naked women of the street, you don't appreciate your own life. You don't because you've seen much better than you've already seen. So Allah says, look, all men know your gaze as well. It's no excuse, even if they're doing that. The women covering their heads or covering their bodies is not an oppression. their husbands didn't tell them to do that.

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Their fathers didn't tell them to do that.

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their sons didn't tell them to do that. The mom didn't say to do that, God said for the Muslim ladies.

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Draw your clothing across your bosoms

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and do not allow your natural

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ornaments to be shown except to those within your family circle. What are the natural ornaments of women in case you don't know what they are?

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their breath

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their shapes that happened to be different than that of men,

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their hair here, those adornments should be covered. I remind you that the concept of hijab is a concept that is found very explicitly in the book of a law gender Gerardo, and very explicitly in the Sunnah of the Prophet salallahu idea he was selling them. Allah says in the Quran, well, that led the believing woman while you're gonna be humara hinda Allah. Allah says in the Quran, that led to believe in women draw their Homer over there, do you and Homer is the plural of Mr. And Hema is the Arabic word for that which covers your head? In English we call it a headscarf. So Allah is saying, Let believing women draw their head scarves over there June and July is their chest area. So

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Allah is saying, take your headscarf and make sure that you cover even your chest with the headscarf. This is very explicit in the Quran. There is no ambiguity here. Many people now are saying where does the Quran say we have to do a job. These people are people who have never read the Koran. It's right there in front of them black and white. It's right there. Allah says let believing women put their head scarves and cover their necks with it. Why is this because some women Listen to this. Some women in the days of Jamelia, they would cover their hair, but they would take their headscarf and throw it behind their back and they would expose the upper chest they would expose the

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upper chest you know how the dresses are in our times the low blouses that are common in the western attire in front of other women that is something has been in front of men. No woman can wear something like this. So a lie saying even if you wear a headscarf make sure you cover the front part of your body as well don't just take the headscarf and throw it behind you take the headscarf and put it in front of you. So the Quran is very clear. And realize my dear sisters that this concept of learning

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modesty is something that Allah is doing not just for our protection but primarily for yours. Allah says in the Quran that led believing women wear their coverings and garments, why vatika Arjuna and your offener father you think that is better for them. Allah is saying, for you to wear your scarf for you to wear your covering, it is better for you, Allah say why, so that they will be recognized and not taunted, not humiliated, not become the object of teasing and of evil things further, you think? So my dear sister realize that this protection that Alo wants from you, it is to protect you not only to protect the rest of society, but to protect you also realize that our Prophet salallahu

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idea he was sending them. Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam praised modest women. And he praised women who guard their chastity and who guard their beauty that Allah has given to them. And he also was not happy. In fact, in some a Hadith, he cursed those women who flaunt their beauty. In one Hadith, he said, those women who do so they will not smell the fragrance of paradise. In another Aditi said, these women who flaunt their beauty are of the signs of the Day of Judgment. This is of the signs of the end of times that women will lose modesty and in another, all of these are headed basically they tell us the positive of covering the positive of being modest, and the negative of

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being immodest. Now, for the Muslim lady, the wearing of the hijab

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is a protection for her, it's a distinction for her. Yes, it is a uniform, so that she will be known to be a Muslim, she would not be molested, she would not be consulted, and no need for me to stay at home and look at her because there's nothing appearing of her. That would cause any unnatural attraction. Therefore, it is more than likely, she can come and go with decency and dignity, and that her natural ornaments will not create inordinate liability for her, like so happens when you see women when jeans and clothing seem as if they painted it on themselves.

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Now all you got to do is look at these two women.

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And you can see the problems that exist.

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Now, of course, it doesn't mean that every woman that does recover herself completely, it doesn't mean that she's immoral doesn't mean that

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but the Quran gives to the Muslim woman, what we consider to be

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an ounce of prevention is worth what?

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what's the what's the what's the, you know, the note, you know, the, what's it called an ounce of prevention is worth one pound of cure.

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So just like, just like, any one of you, if I asked you, what's your PIN number?

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You wouldn't tell me.

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If I came to visit you in your house, you wouldn't have your certificates of deposit in front of me, you wouldn't have your jewels in front of me, you wouldn't have your stack of money or your savings in front of me distributed just because I'm afraid and everything should be transparent. No, you have those valuables in a place that is safe.

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Might be a bank might be a safety deposit box. Well, that's just money. That's just tangible things. So don't blame us. And don't blame God, if he tells us that our mothers and our wives and our daughters that they should be covered in a safe place. But in essence, we become free that way we free ourselves from the material world by enslaving ourselves to God, you see, because sometimes we claim to be free. You know, the girls in the womb down the street, and they're wearing nothing. But belt. Yeah, the ring two belts, almost their stuff.

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And then they see I was my free dammit. I'm free to do this. What what, you know, you guys like this? And I'm like, wait a minute. Do you really comfortable like that? Are you really comfortable? You're blisters on your feet? your code arcoxia goosebumps. Are you comfortable? This is a natural state of being as a human being? Of course not. Are you crazy? They're like, well, well, it's my choice. It's not your choice, because you've been fed that because that that defines who you are, who you are, you know who you are. It is a reaction to society. And that's the beauty thing. Because what it says, it says, Are you just going to be a reaction to your society, are you going to be just

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what your forefathers were doing? It is a profound question because we go to any society. Go to Tibet, pure in Tibet, in the Himalayan Mountains. If you had a baby boy or girl, you have to bathe them in freezing cold war. That's what they do. That's the society and you think is a normal thing. And they say because if it dies, then you wouldn't survive the human lane winters. Yeah. If you go to America, in some parts of America, you know, having abortion is like eating ice cream. No

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Nice incest CPA Review brought your daughter and your sister or your own brother is a normal thing in some places. Some people are saying like 2% of America coming in says there was a woman I think in Texas, right? You know what she was doing? She went to the High Court to say I have a right to my my son.

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So So social pressure ways you're gonna waste is just going to change. So I use the reaction social pressure is the human being are they going to be just degraded to the point that you just have a reaction to the whole society. This example blew me away because this is not from this hobby. This is not from the tabea. This is not from 400 500 years ago, three years ago,

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or so I don't remember how long friends put the ban on hijab, I actually forgot the year that they actually did hate banning a job in public schools. There is a young girl 12 years old, and she's French. Okay, she's actually French. And she's a Muslim. And of course, now all of a sudden, they're prohibiting girls to go to school without their hate jobs, or with their hate jobs. That's a Pamela had been this girl does something and some of you might have seen the story that I thought was absolutely iconic. I'm not getting into the 50 discussion of all those types of things if she had to do this, or if she did it. Or if it still counts as her job. She goes and she shakes her head. You

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know how hard that is? Think about that. Those of us who are out always to try to show off and show people that you know how good we look brothers or sisters because brothers dress and act like women today. It's true. All right, you stand in front of the mirror longer than girls do. All right, I'm not talking about that. But the fact that she's still a 12 year old girl, imagine the self esteem the effect of self esteem, had the courage to shave her head and then she would dress herself all the way up to her neck. Again, don't worry about the filthy discussions, the attitude and go to school like that, and have everyone jump on her and make fun of her and go through all of the

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humiliation that she did.

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And you know what she says this is a quote, whenever she was interviewed, she said if being beautiful in the eyes of the Creator, if the creator means being ugly in the eyes of creation, then it's worth it.

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If being beautiful in the eyes of the Creator means being ugly in the eyes of all creation, than it's worth it. If I can gain higher from Allah be bashful and shy from Allah. I'll be shy from the people. I'll be bashed for from the people, but it's comprehensive will hire me then a man hire is from a man. We ask Allah Subhana Allah to grant us the gift of an HIA and the love of our messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and not to make us amongst those who buckled to all of the pressures of society and the buckle and the pressures of shape on we asked the last panel to had to make a strong on our Eman and to grant us the farmer will hire