Responsibilities Of Muslim Women

Khalid Yasin


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AI: Summary © The speakers address the challenges and obstacles facing Muslim women, including negative impacts on personal and political rights and the negative impact of culture and cultural practices on personal and political rights. They stress the importance of studying the Quran and Sun statement to determine rights and responsibilities, protecting women's well-being, and participating in strategies for developing resources. They also advise against domestic violence and emphasize the need to be prepared for future events.
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My dear Muslim sisters

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We ask Allah subhanaw taala that he guide

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our heart

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and that he

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open our minds and make it

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conforming to an accepting the denial of Islam, the proofs and the evidence is of the Quran and Sunnah.

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And we ask Allah subhanaw taala that he allow us through

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the disciplines which he has given to us through his noble messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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to be able to address the

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the rights and the responsibilities of the Muslim

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It is appropriate for us that we begin

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with some standard as of the Quran, which is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he used to recite

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as they have it

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out the Villa homina shaytan al rajim Bismillah Ar Rahman Rahim

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Yeah, you Allah Dena Amma no taco law.

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haka to Karachi he

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was 11 to Muslim moon.

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He said, Allah subhanho wa Taala Are you believe, Fear Allah?

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Was the fear and the consciousness which is his exclusive right.

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And do not die unless you are in submission to him or that you are Muslims?

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He said subhanho wa Taala.

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Yeah, nasiru takuro kukula The halaqa I've seen wahida wahaca minha zoologia Waterman humare. Jalan kathira

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water hula hula de Luna de Waal or ham in de la Cana La La Kiba.

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He says hello to Allah, O mankind.

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Fear your guardian Lord

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who created you from one single soul

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and created from it its meet and spread from these to a countless number of men and women.

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Fear Allah subhanho wa Taala by whom you demand

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your mutual rights

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and give reverence and respect for the wounds that gave you life. Surely Allah subhanho wa Taala is over you as a watcher.

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He said sapan what Allah Ya, Allah Deena Manu, taco La, la ku, Colin, Saudi.

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novacom Roma, UT la what a Zulu faqad faza fosun are the man or you who believe she Allah and speak words that are straight,

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direct and truthful. Allah subhanho wa Taala will make your deeds correct and reconcile your affairs and he will also forgive your sins and whosoever obeys Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So certainly they will achieve a powerful success.

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Now these ads are extremely important to be kept in mind

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in our discussion

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Because Allah subhanho wa Taala

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He is calling to our minds first, a taqwa.

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Because before we speak about the issues of rights,

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and responsibilities, there's a necessary tool that you need. The tool is taqwa.

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To secure those rights, and to fulfill those responsibilities we need taqwa.

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After that, we should understand that

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this taqwa is the exclusive right of Allah subhanaw taala, that we need not be conscious of anyone, and that we need not feel obligated to anyone. And we need not fear, the blame of anyone except the loss upon Allah, and that we have this feeling

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of MPM surrender submission to Allah subhanaw taala. And that we hope to die in that condition.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala cautions us to fear Him as our rub, to remind us that these rights and responsibilities and that our risk, our sustenance, whatsoever portion, he's going to give us in the life, it is from him.

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It is not from anyone else, it is from Him because He is our rub. And he is by being our rub. Then,

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the evolution,

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whatever we will receive that causes us to grow and to develop our complete evolution. He knows what we need, and he gives it to us as it gives it to everything else into creation without us even asking for it.

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He says remember, that He created you from one single soul This is important

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that Muslims understand

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that the human beings have been created from one essence.

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They are an unfair

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two expressions of the same source, male and female.

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They are from the same source in their essence, but their social role and responsibility. They are not the same.

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This is from the headmaster of a loss upon with the honor.

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And from these two

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different manifestations, different genders, that he created male and female,

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our Father, Adam, la slim, and our common mother own however, Allah subhanho wa Taala he spread a countless number of men and women from them that we cannot even measure.

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And he says, fear love, by whom you demand as a result of these mutual relationships between the male and the female, feel loved, by whom you demand these mutual rights and give reverence and preference and respect for the wounds that gave life to you, your mothers,

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your daughters, your sisters,

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the women

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who are themselves the possessors of the wounds, give them preference.

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Give them the respect because Allah subhanho wa Taala is over you as a watcher. He said soprano tala again feola

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wakulla colons de da,

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speak words

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and seeking your social rights, your political rights, your personal rights. First, be truthful, be direct.

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Don't be extreme. Don't be excessive. Don't be subversive. Don't be selfish. And don't falsify wakulla colons

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be straightforward.

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Then if you do that Allah subhanaw taala says, He will use mmamoloko he will straighten out he will reconcile. He will make good he will make sound your actions meaning your involvement, your issues.

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And besides that, where there is some fault on your

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For some sin on your part, Allah subhanho wa Taala will yo philippou He will forgive you your sins.

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And whosoever takes this advice and speaks the truth, and is in obedience to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they obey Allah in his camp, and they obey the prophet to last them in his sooner than the last on dialysis, because of this obedience, they will achieve their objectives and they will be successful.

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These organizers of this auspicious gathering, they gave to me Mashallah a cover letter.

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And they also added to that cover letter. Some points they wanted me to take into consideration which I have done

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to the best of my ability

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having taken into consideration

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I'd like to say to you that

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the problems, challenges and obstacles facing Muslim women today are staggering

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and often quite frustrating,

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compounded by General Ignorance,

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subordination to cultural practices, and subversion by the enemies, the historical enemies of Islam.

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Now, I want to repeat that because, in my estimation, from a sociological point of view, and this is the perspective that I'm going to be dealing with here, for the most part, from a sociological point of view. These are the reasons why such a staggering

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set of challenges are facing Muslim women today. One

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general frustration.

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Compound compounded by General Ignorance,

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that is people themselves, they simply don't know. So they're ignorant and word for ignorant in Islam is called

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Jay Hill.

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The opposite of having knowledge, according to the Quran and Sunnah is Jehan.

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Whether you following your own feeling, the feeling of somebody else, your own conjecture, or the conjecture of someone else, your own assumption, it is still genuine.

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Because for it to be based upon correct knowledge, it has to be from the sources of the Quran and from the sources of the sun.

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Secondly, subordination to cultural practices, I call it cultural baggage.

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One of the scholars of Islam, he put it another way, he said today,

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Islam has been placed inside of a prison.

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But the prison is not the prison of the unbelievers. We are today reacting to Muslims being put in the prisons, of the unbelievers are the oppression of the unbelievers. But it is Muslims, who themselves have placed Islam into a prison. And Islam is trying to come out of that prison. But the Muslims have the key and they won't let it out. What is that prison

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is the prison of cultural practice.

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So Muslims, they are wearing their culture on the outside, practicing their culture on the outside, and Islam is in the inside. And so what most people see is not Islam. When they see Muslims, they see the culture of the Muslims

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and what we are reacting to with each other. For the most part, it is not Islam, it is the culture. And if we do not reverse this trend, if we don't put the culture inside the walls of Islam, you will never find the solution we will never find the solution. Islam is never meant to be subordinate to people's culture. But on the opposite. People's culture must conform to Islam as the water conforms to this vessel.

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Historically, the enemies of Islam have always polluted,

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distorted the Islamic message to confuse Muslims and also to dissuade non Muslims who may be attracted towards Islam.

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These are three of the major problems and challenges. Nevertheless,

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these challenges are not insurmountable, nor do they exist in a vacuum. They can be evaluated, they can be diagnosed, they can be harnessed, they can be treated with science and medicine.

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The science

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is the science of the Quran.

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The medicine is the medicine of the swinger.

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However, Muslim women themselves

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their husbands,

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their families, their relatives, they must be willing to make a genuine commitment and enter into a direct allegiance with the author of these sources, Allah subhanahu wa taala Allah

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and placed themselves under the care and the guidance of the dispenser and pass him the dispenser of resources, Mohammed bin Abdullah, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam them

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if we

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put ourselves under

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and make a genuine commitment to the Quran, and place ourselves under the care of Mohammed, so a lot of us have them as we go to a doctor, and we accept his diagnosis, and we place ourselves under his cap, and we take the prescription that he gives to us, if we do that islamically you will find that these problems gradually, we will place them under control.

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Today, we want to survey the rights and responsibilities of the Muslim women in the light of the Quran and the Sunnah.

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We want to look at what our contemporary situation and circumstances dictate for us, because it's important that we look at things in the light of our present situation and circumstances. And not always looking back the sources for the sources we look back.

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But for the solution, we have to look in the present, and we have to look towards the future.

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And what advice has been given to us by present scholars and students of knowledge on a wide range of topics? Now, what I will attempt to do here because in my estimation,

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there is such

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a wide range of evidence

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available for us on the internet. So why should brother Khalid Jesse, who is a student of a student of a student, why should he be given to you some things from the top of his head, when there are people who themselves are certified scholars and students of knowledge they have written they have codified they have made it available for us on the internet. And so we should make use of that. So from time to time, I'm going to make use of a website here. And you please bear with me because I'm not as technically

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capable as I might be able to talk was about the caches.

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What I would like to do while my brother is

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accessing a one of these websites for me, I would like our brother, Chef.

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Mashallah. I would like to please read from the room.

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And I will just then read the the English translation, translation. And this would be discussing some issues in the light of these items.

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shaytani r rajim, Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem amin II and Hala taco Minh to rob from either and to mushroom tissue

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and the last part of what Allah says

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among His Signs is that he created you that is Adam alayhis salaam.

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on how from the rib of Adam.

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He created them from dust and then from the rib of Adam, and then his offspring from the semen and behold, you are human beings scattered. I mean, is he and Haleakala come in and fusi comas virgin, he does Kuru LA, wa Jalla avena Kumar, Rama in the VEDA,

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Tomita socceroo.

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And among His Signs

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is that he created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find tranquility in them. And he has put between you affection and mercy verbally and that are indeed signs for a people who reflect

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when he

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was in a Chico mall when you come in.

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And among His Signs is the creation of the heavens and the earth. And the differences of your languages and your colors. Rolly and that are indeed signs for men of sound knowledge balita ballerina salamu

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familia de mon Allah La primera hoomin Siri may

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for those who do wrong follow their own desires and lust without any knowledge. Then who will guide him when Allah subhanaw taala has sent a stray and for such there will be no helpers

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so set your face towards

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the pure Islamic monotheistic religion, the deed of honeys worship none but Allah allows fitrah

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that is the natural state of our creation with which he has created mankind. No change Let there be in the creation of Allah subhanaw taala

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that is the straight religion but most of men do not know.

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Muro de Rouen, Evo sins, corruption, and this obedience to Allah has appeared on the land and the sea, because of what the hands of men have earned by oppression and evil deeds, that Allah subhanaw taala may make them taste a part of that which they have done, in order that they may return by repenting to Allah and begging his pardon.

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To see you fill out a refund. Kiva can Atiba to learn he

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sell, say, Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam traveled through the land and see what was the end of those before you most of them were mushrikeen polytheist idolaters disbelievers in the oneness of Allah, something which led to him mean to mula Murakami

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young lady.

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So set your face in obedience to Allah subhanaw taala to the straight and right path before that comes from Allah a day, which none of you can avert. And on that day, men shall be divided in groups or group in Paradise and a group in hell.

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My dear Muslim sisters, we read these verses, so that it serves as a means of reflection and a means of reference.

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Especially so that when we complete this gathering

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And the and this is edited for us, we will be able to again refer back to these areas inshallah, for our reflection,

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I have here something from Professor Abdul Rahman adeoye, who is well known professor of Islamic Studies.

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So Professor Dory has given to us Mashallah women in the Quran and the Sunnah. And what I'd like you to do is to write these references down, I'm just going to read maybe some reference from it. But I would request from you. And I would suggest to you that each one of these references, you write them down, because later on, you're going to find them extremely resourceful

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and necessary for you to be able to do your own research and study on this topic. Because what I'm just going to do simply is navigate, I'm going to navigate you to the sources, make some comments and come out of the source and go to another source and show my top.

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One, I'd like to say to our sisters, that

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there are

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many rights

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and responsibilities.

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Among the rights and responsibilities,

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we deal first with the rights

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because everyone wants their rights, even before they are prepared to fulfill their responsibilities.

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Sometimes, we want the house before we even think of what it will cost.

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We want the house before we think of what it will take to maintain it, we want the wife or the husband, we want the benefit and the pleasure before we think about what the responsibility will be to maintain that fulfill that. So in keeping with human nature, let us discuss the rights first.

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The first right,

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is the right of justice.

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Every Muslim woman has the right

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to have justice.

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And that justice that she has a right to

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his her right, whether she's living among the Muslims or living among the non Muslims, she has recourse to justice.

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Whether she's living in a Muslim country, whether is Islamic judicial institutions, or whether she's living in a non Muslim country, where there are no Islamic judicial institutions, she still has a right to justice.

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And her right to justice never

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is taken back because of where she is.

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The Muslim woman has the right to have her person, her property, her Ana respected by Muslims and non Muslims.

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The Messenger of Allah said

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colosimo haram

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good Kula Muslim, Muslim harangue

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them no matter who

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Allah is a lot of a sudden,

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the whole of a Muslim to a another Muslim is sacred, inviolable,

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you cannot transgress risk, you cannot transgressive demo. That means the blood

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blood meanings, what is running in your body, as well as your family,

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mellow your property

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whether material or financial.

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Your Honor, your reputation.

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And we can recall on one occasion when the honor of a Muslim woman was violated

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in a non Muslim place, and that issue reached the halifa.

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Only that woman's honor was violated. And the halifa sent a message to those people that if that issue was not rectified, he will come there and conquer that whole place just because the honor of that woman Panama.

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You see,

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the justice of Islam,

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the Muslim leader, he was not thinking just to go there and straighten out Who did that? No, he told them, the honor of that Muslim woman is so great that if you don't apologize and straighten it out, I will come then conquer your whole country. Today, we have no such people.

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Also the quality of the Muslim woman, we don't mean the sameness we mean equality in the sight of Allah subhanho wa Taala, which is her right before Allah subhanaw taala to be judged in accordance to Islamic Sharia.

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That is when a man or another woman or any human being whether she is a woman who is poor, to be judged in the same way along with the ruler of the Muslims,

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because in the sight of Allah subhanaw taala.

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In the sight of Sharia,

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women have equal status with men.

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The right for them to be dealt with, with kindness, more so than that of men. Because the last panel to Allah when he is addressing the affairs of women, when he is addressing the person of women, and when the profits and losses dealt with the women of his family and other women, a loss hunter uses a special language and uses a special manner, treating them with a sense of

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being fragile

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knowing that they are different from the men so Allah subhanaw taala, he said, originally qalamoun Allah Nisa,

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he did not mean

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that men they have some special excellence over women as some men that maybe they want to think. Now, Allah subhanho wa Taala, he placed the men in a position over the women to protect them, because they are fragile, just like a mother, hen house, she will sit overtop of those eggs. Why, because those eggs are fragile. And Allah subhana wa tada has her to sit over them, to protect them, to care for them, and to use her body as a screen for them, because she can absorb more than those eggs who have to hatch. So Allah subhanaw taala made the men to be the protectors, the sustainers of the women in that regard, he called them a Wham

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because they are fragile.

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They have an absolute right

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for social participation.

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The men they have no right

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to use cultural means or political means or personal means or ethnic means to cast a woman in some kind of way, like they are below them. Or they are some kinds of different kinds of species, we don't want to see them. No, this is from the culture and the insecurity of men.

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Although for sake of fitness, and for protection of the dignity and the honor of women, there is something called hijab

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and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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he exercised this and he recommended that and he ordered that among his own women, and among the people of the Sahaba and the tablet.

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But I want to remind the Muslim men, we should not become extreme and this issue

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because in the beginning, when the ads of a Java was reported was related, we knew how the wives of the prophets allows them, they responded to it. And that is the basic understanding we have how they responded. At the same token, in the message of the prophets, a lot of

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there was no curtains at that time.

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No curtains.

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We know this by evidence from ASVAB.

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Is that came down, telling the men to lower their gaze and guard their modesty. There was no need to say that if there was his job in the mosque, and their places of gathering, we know also from us Verbal newzoo on one occasion, when some women from Medina came to the masjid of the prophets, a lot of slim and one of those women was very beautiful, and the men knew she was coming and they was in the salon looking under their arms and such. And the last panel Donna said, I know what goes before you and what go behind you. How they was looking under the arms to see a look at that woman if there was a curtain in the mosque.

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So we know

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that there is no need for men

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from a point of culture to exist.

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Rate issues that put the woman in situations of discomfort, and do not give them the proper rights as is afforded to men such as we go to places where the men gather, and the women gather. And we find huge places, mosques, wide open, well lit, well carpeted with facilities for the men. And then we find some little dark stairways going around to the side of the back, but no lights smelling bad restricted for the women who in most cases, number more than the men. This is from culture, this is not from Islam.

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And women,

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we have to correct this, because the women they have the right to have social participation equal with us, we should ask ourselves and the women should also ask the question, the women of this locality, what are their numbers in proportion to men

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in the space that should be given for the women and the math should be according to their proportion, and not designed in such a way to give them some little small place to suggest that only a small some small group of women should come there from time to time.

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Women should have full access to all the Islamic social institutions. So they have the chance to develop as human beings alongside of the men.

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Secondly, women must have proper representation.

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Whether she has a Joaquin, or whether she has a Whitney

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whether she has a natural wanting, or whether she has a surrogate Wali

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whether she has someone selected as her work you are someone who is her natural working woman must have representation. And it is not something that is ordered upon them. It is something which is a rite of this because without avakian again, they don't have proper representation.

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she reported from the prophets last name that no woman must be the Joaquin of another woman.

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No woman must marry without a volley.

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And if she marries without a Wali, her marriage is void. Her marriage is void, her marriage is void.

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And we also know that Muslim women if they need to travel, they need to go someplace where they will be exposed to the public.

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They need to have with him something called Muharram.

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All of these is what Allah subhanaw taala gave to the Muslim women as a right of their protection. It is not something to encumber them to make something difficult for them that they can't move like the men can move No, because they are gentle, because they are fragile, because they are expensive. And because they are the ones that God the inner sanctum of the Islamic Society, Allah subhanaw taala wants them to be protected, just like money that's being taken to the bank by a big company.

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You see, if you were a big company, and you had big deposits to make to the bank, or money going from the central bank, to the small bank, it is going by armored car.

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And if your money is inside there, you will want it to go along with that armored car to be protected. So our women, they are more valuable to us than the money that is in that armored car.

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No one will take money from one big bank to another without an armored car. So no Muslim lady must be traveling without Muslim. And the men who allow their women to go without representation without protection on the day of judgement, Allah subhanaw taala will not even look at them. And there is a word in Arabic about these kinds of men who have no no concern about their women mixing with the men and just traveling about and they don't care. They're women and their daughters and their wives and their mothers just traveling. What does determine and out of shape you know that's name?

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Yeah, I will think about it. It's a it's a very strong terminology. And allow will not look at them on the Day of Judgment.

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Secondly, the Muslim women have the right to have full ownership of their property in any amount they want.

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The woman she can own a bank,

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her own airline.

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She can have her own industry. She can have 1000s of men working for her

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as Khadija

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Say the Haditha delana she had our Prophet Mohammed Salah was working for her

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sapan Allah, how Allah subhanho wa Taala put our prophets of awesome insubordination and made his boss a woman, Mashallah.

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And that same woman who was his boss, his supervisor, the owner of a company, also was the one that directed him towards someone to explain for him.

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What that vision was that he saw when jabril Allah Islam came to him Subhana Allah, how Allah used a woman to benefit our prophets and allow them to benefit this Deen.

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The woman has complete control of her property, even when she marries her property never falls into the hands of her husband, she can share with him if she wants to, but he cannot take any portion of it. Also, her property is her property, it is not her father's property. It is not her son's property, it is not her brother's property. And she has that property even though her father, her son, her brother, or her husband still have to take care of her. I take this this panel, I think when people start talking about the rights of Muslim woman being oppressed, we need to bring that point out.

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Brother cashes

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my computer just died again.

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So this issue of ownership of property is absolute.

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Something that the non Muslim women until just 30 or 40 or 50 years ago in the most sophisticated country, they did not have that right.

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Also, they have what is called due process in the law.

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Due process, witnesses can be brought against him they can be brought forward also as witnesses and no one can just treat them and just make judgments against them without due process.

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when Ahmed mahatva

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gave his opinion about the amount of dowry which a woman she can receive. This was his opinion.

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A woman she stood up and said Dr. Murray.

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This opinion which you gave is your own personal opinion. But this is not consistent with the Sunnah of the Prophet so a lot of them and she gave him the delila. She was very forceful in what she said to him. And Omar Mashallah he was sitting in the bench of his authority.

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And that woman, she was not afraid and she spoke directly to him. And that day on Fatah, Subhan, Allah he respected the delille. And he said today, Omar has been corrected by a woman because he's proving

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as a representative of the prophets a lot assume that women have their right in their position and access to their proof and evidence and due process. Secondly,

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can you put it on the

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shoulder? Second, another thing I want to remind you that during the time of

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he assigned a woman

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to be the supervisor, the Marshal of all the the soup, all the marketplaces of Medina. That mean her job was to make sure what people were selling, how they was buying, how they was gathering, make sure the weight and the measures, make sure what is being sold, what services are being sold, and she had under her administration, many men and people came to Qatar and they complained to him and said Yama, how you will put a woman in charge like that and then we will be subordinate to her. He said this is my choice. This is my decision. So you go back and report to her.

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Also, women have the absolute right of protection. They are the first protected species, the men and the women of loss upon me the woman and the children. Allah subhanho wa Taala mentioned in this ayah ruggero comunale Musa because Allah subhanaw taala gave the the men

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strength and sustenance, which makes it their duty to protect those women and those children.

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Secondly, they have the absolute right of support. If she doesn't want to work, she doesn't have to work at all. So panela

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the woman that can go to school, get a master's degree a PhD and after that she doesn't even have to work

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same to me that

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advantage advantageous position

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and she still has to be supported by her husband, and her father, and her brother and her son. And she doesn't have to spend any of her money that she collects on anything but herself.

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I think this is a good deal.

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This is why, historically, the wealth has always gathered

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in the hands of women in the oma of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam.

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Because the fathers and the sons and the brothers and their husbands, they always have to keep giving and giving, you know, you're always asking, asking.

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So the man he was really having nothing at the end because then it will be split up between his family, but the woman they still wind up with.

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This is the wisdom of Allah subhanho wa Taala to guarantee those women, their protection and their property and their dignity and their armor which Allah gave to the woman 1500 years ago. Secondly,

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the woman that they have their own right for marriage,

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and to be given a free gift that marriage to another gift, the law give to them.

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In some religions in some cultures, as the woman gets married, she her family has to give a dowry to the man.

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In Islam, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam said this is absolute right? Allah subhanaw taala has only made the private parts of women lawful by the payment of the dowry. This with the Messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam said, the payment of the dowry.

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Secondly, Muslim women have their own right to divorce. The first right is in the hands of the man who is sustaining who is protecting her who is taking care and preserving her and representing her Yes, it is his first right but Allah subhanho wa Taala gave to the women a backdoor and emergency door. That if that man for some reason, or that relationship for some reason, she doesn't want it anymore. She has a backdoor called hula.

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And although Allah subhanho wa Taala warns her and the prophets last name wander that Allah curses the woman that seeks divorce without a good reason.

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Still, she has that backdoor

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and so we realize the first hula in Islam, how it came.

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The wife I think is named in case

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she came to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. In Seattle Sula, some A lot of us. My husband is one of the best Muslims of Medina.

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But I think if I stay with him, I will endanger my religion.

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Some of the olema they said

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that when she married in case

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she thought he was a good looking brother.

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But when she saw him one day walking between two handsome men, she said, Oh no, I don't want him

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annaleigh machine she said he's a very good Muslim, one of the best Muslims of Medina. And she came to the Prophet said a lot of this shows us many lessons.

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That the Muslim lady she has the right to go to the to the Dalai Lama. Whoever is controlling the power of the Muslims, the judge or the copy of the Imam, the Muslim lady should have the right to go the man he can't say I don't I forbid you to go. No, she has the right to go.

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The second lesson, she said only good things about him. She never said anything bad. She only said I think if I remained with him, I will endanger my religion. So panela how she spoke

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and how the Prophet Sawsan responded, he said, Will you give him back the dowry which he gave to you?

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She said yes, the Messenger of Allah philosophy he did not call the place to discuss the matter with him he simply brought called him and said

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give or take back from her the diary which you gave, and then he told her to observe the depth for one month.

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This many lessons just in this small situation mini lessons. This only shows that the prophets a lot of Sam he gave

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to this woman based upon her statement

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and that he did not give him advice. Even

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any choice above that matter.

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So Panama,

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and the woman they must have equal access for education, to seek knowledge of Quran to seek knowledge of the sooner to seek all the sciences of Islam and also,

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if the men can go to school to learn the sciences,

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to become professionals, who is it can say the woman that cannot do that?

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No, the woman's place is in the home, yes, no doubt, that is her major station. But if she can take care of that station, and also maintain a position of excellence in professional life, or business, she has the right just like the men. All of these are some of the rights and there are more, but I think you would agree with me that this is a tremendous amount of rights that are lost upon delegates to the Muslim woman 14 126 years ago, and the non Muslim woman even until today, they do not have access to the same rights. And if they do have access to them, they don't have it by virtue of legislation itself.

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Now let us talk about the responsibilities

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ladies and you please I think the sister she said from the beginning, there's one hour for the first session is it How much time do we have for this session?

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Is it 1015 minutes left?

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I just like to know in shallow

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is it

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15 minutes does.

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So we will deal with these responsibilities, hopefully in the I will go through them and then end the next session. Then we're going to sort of summarize talk about some of the problems and then we'll have a q&a inshallah.

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The responsibilities One,

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two, God, their morality.

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And I put that first because the Messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam said to his companions,

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I leave behind you know fitna greater than the fitna of women.

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Now this fitna is not the fault of women. So the husband you don't have a right to say yeah, you see you have big fitness.

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No, the fitness of the women is mostly caused by the men.

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It is not a fitness by the women themselves. It is a fitna because of the reaction of the men themselves. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told us Be careful how you deal with the women. Because how you deal with them, how you react to them, how you interact with them, how you fulfill their rights, or how you transgressed upon those rights, or how you lead them to violate those rights, even themselves. those responsibilities will become a great fitna.

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So we see today,

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the greatest fitness

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of the developed societies today is the fitna of naked women.

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And one of the signs of the destruction of a nation is when the women take off their clothes.

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This is an area which we read here having to do with that.

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In a society

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where rape and incest and fornication and adultery and drinking and debauchery, and suddenly and lesbianism and all kinds of filthy things like that start to taking place, common way It means Allah subhanho wa Taala he is assigned for that society,

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Now that destruction will not necessarily happen like that.

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But you'll start to see the erosion from the inside the crumbling. We have seen in this society where we live in, in the Western society on the outside, we see the McDonald's the Burger King, the Pizza Hut type, mascara, lipstick, we call it.

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Burger King, the big buildings and all of that this is the mascara and lipstick of the society, the falseness of the woman's beauty, you see, but on the inside, she's just a prostitute.

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Nova virtue whatsoever. We're talking about the society here. And so one of the things you see is that she has lost her dignity. She has lost

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Her honor, she no longer has any dignity or honor the society we're talking about. And one of the first things is that family itself disappears.

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Today, there is a social statistic that only one

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in 17 families eat breakfast together, or eat dinner together.

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So if they don't eat breakfast and dinner together,

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how they will maintain how they will supervise, how will they will coordinate the values of the family. Because dad is rushing out the house with a croissant and a cup of coffee and a cigarette.

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Mom, she's packing the lunch to the kids.

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Some Kool Aid and some other little sandwiches or cookies, put in a bag for them and she's off onto she's going to her job.

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The kids eating by themselves, the parents eating by themselves. And when the children come home, they're they call them latchkey kids, I think you call them maybe they let themselves in the house by themselves. That is still at the work or at the pub.

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Mom, she shopping Oh, she's at the hairdresser. She didn't get home yet.

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She left for microwave dinner on the stove for the kids. So she just told him go to McDonald's to go to Pizza Hut or something. Get yourself something I'll be home soon.

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Bye by the time mom comes home, the kids have already watched two or three hours of whatever kind of TV they can watch.

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By the time dad gets home, they usually sleep or pretending to be asleep.

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The children have a television in their rooms. So Jamie has her own TV. Johnny got his own TV, Mom and Dad got their TV and has another TV in the room in the living room for the guests.

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This is the modern nuclear family the family has disappeared.

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Another sign of the erosion of the society.

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Another sign that the destruction is imminent.

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So the Muslim woman must guard her morality. Because by the Muslim woman guarding her morality, she will fortify the Muslim society. And as the other society on the outside is crumbling apart, the Muslim society is building and developing. And all we have to do is leave them to themselves. Like rotten teeth, they will just fall out.

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our children and our wives and our families will be fortified. They will grow and the other people their families will fall apart.

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We will have fabric they will have no fabric. This is the color of Allah subhanho wa Taala the Muslim lady must preserve her dignity. The outward sign of her dignity is her hijab you must all be Mohajer that

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you must not leave from your homes without your hijab.

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And the hijab is very clear. It is a uniform.

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Allah gave to you a uniform.

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Like an army there is a uniform.

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Like the hostess is on the airplane, they have a uniform. Like the doctors have a uniform like the police have a uniform, every important group of people that have a specific job. They have uniform, Allah upon delegates to the Muslim ladies they own uniform.

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Never leave your home without your uniform. Shame on the men who allow the woman to leave without the uniform.

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Because what will a policeman look like? If he did not have on his uniform and he ordering people around and stopping you on the side of the highway. And he got us at a baseball cap on and some trainers.

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Unless he's undercover.

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He must have on his uniform.

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Because this will keep him conscious of what he's doing. If he doesn't have on his uniform, maybe he's inside the pub dancing around. Maybe he's in some kind of buffet over there seeking some prostitute. But if he have on his uniform, his badges gun, his radio, all of that. How will you look inside the pub dancing around and drinking beer, no alcohol and a problem someplace. So similarly, the Muslim lady, if she has a uniform, Allah subhanaw taala gives us this so she will be protected from the outside and from the inside.

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You must protect your home.

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You are the ministers of the interior.

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One of the most important governmental positions. My wife she'd like me to say that

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So when I come home, she's telling me what to do.

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And it's her right

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inside the house, she's telling me what to do sit down over there. Go over there. Go get this for me

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hamdulillah This is her right? Mashallah, why because this is her area.

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But she must also when I'm not there, she must also protect it. She must be the guardian, the harissa.

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She had to be standing, watching, checking the children going in and out who's coming, who's going, what's being delivered, what's being done, who's watching this, who's reading this, what activities are going what's being spent, she must be watching, checking, because this is her job.

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Because if the woman do not protect the home, who's going to protect the home,

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she has a double job to do. And we do not envy the woman. They have to do jobs on the outside, where they are held responsible and accountable. And they also are held responsible for doing the job on the inside.

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They must cultivate their families.

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They must

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purify them,

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European and also cultivate them.

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grow them, charge them, counsel them, watch them, cultivate them, they must advise their husbands or Dean and see how

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they conform to his orders to his pleasure, but they also advise him

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especially at the time of fragile,

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you Muslim ladies, you must become.

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Because if you are people are fragile.

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Then you have the right to advise your husband and chase him out of the house at the time of failure.

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Wake him up, aggravate him. say to him, brother, you don't want to go to the machine and pray. So Pamela Habibi 2727 rewards you would get for us? No, no, get up out of the bed, go and pray Allah What's wrong with you.

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And then if he doesn't get up, go and get some water.

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You see, throw some water on him and then run in close the door.

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He will be angry that you did that. But once he gets the habit of performing the budget, he will love you for that.

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So become women of the future.

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Also, when you want to advise your husbands advise him in a nice way. say to him, don't say oh, you know, you always say you're going to do this. You got to do that. You don't never do what you say.

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No, tell him say, Yeah, baby, listen, you know, did you ever did you read this hadith? I read this hadith from the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. You know, I was reading this I have Quran. And I was wondering, did you know the Tafseer of this ayah or, you know, I was reading this book. And I didn't quite understand this terminology, what you think it means over here? You see, oh, you know, I was just thinking I was supposed to buy something and I didn't remember Did you pay me the dowry

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you know, in a nice way. So demand Subhana Allah, He will know how you reminding him and he will not mind. But you should not be very badgering.

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But you should advise them.

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The woman must participate in the society, you have responsibilities into society, your responsibility is not just for yourself, and it's not just for your home. You must think about your neighborhood.

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What has happened?

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Don't worry, I will talk. Can you hear me sisters? Very good. Let me bring the water here.

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You must participate in the society. You must ask your neighbor. See what their condition is. Look across the road. Look down the road. See who your neighbors are on your way to the shop on your way to work. See who they are the five neighbors that are on this side on that side, in front of you and back of you find out their names so that you can serve them. You can know them

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If your street is cluttered, there's something dangerous, you should report it. You should be involved in your Parent Teacher Association, you should be involved in the neighborhood council, you should be knowing what's going on who's coming going, who should not be in the neighborhood, you should be watching.

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Not just in other people's business, but looking out into the issues which is part of your business.

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Participate in the society. Don't just be looking at the TV, look into magazines, looking on filming for your own self, look in the refrigerator, only looking to see going window shopping for yourself for your children. No be concerned about your neighbor. Because the Prophet sallallahu ever said on his deathbed, when he was dying jabril Allah Islam kept coming to him, ask him about the neighbor. So much. So the prophet SAW Sam, he said he thought maybe that the neighbor had a right to his inheritance.

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Ask about your neighbor. Get to know your neighbor, interact with your neighbor. When your neighbor has a concern for you. When you have concern for your neighbor, respect for your neighbor, you will find the neighbor will have concern and respect for you. Then the neighbor will see Islam through you.

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Be involved in your society. be an example for the women

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compete with other women in taqwa and knowledge and other and sacrifice and seeking knowledge. Be example for the women compete with each other, have caught on memorizing circles. 1015 sisters get together once a month or twice a month and another sister's house and they compete with each other to memorize Quran

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to memorize a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. They discuss with each other ways and means of perfecting their job, dealing with their children, dealing with issues. be an example for your children.

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The woman that sleeps through the ledger, or doesn't perform her prayers. Generally speaking her family they also will do the same.

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The woman who watches a lot of TV, her family will do the same.

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The woman that is selfish, she will raise a selfish family. The woman is the first university

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what she teaches the family. In most cases, the family will never unlearn it, they will carry the rest of their lives.

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Secure functional knowledge sisters, before you start learning, you know sometimes just as they want to learn

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I want to memorize the whole Quran.

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Sisters make this up Jay said this my objective my goal I want to memorize the whole Quran.

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But the companions of the Prophet SAW said they used to memorize 10 ads, and then act upon it. And then learn 10 ads and act upon it. So all of us want to memorize the Quran. But memorize it like that. So your knowledge becomes functional, memorize Jerusalem,

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and the Tafseer of it from here. And the verbal news on how those why those is were revealed, under what circumstances memorize the alibi.

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And then get the explanation of it from some amount of fuqaha.

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Then after that go on to issues of soon soon.

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Understand the seerah of the process, a lot of them understand issues relative to your salon and your taharah

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this is functional knowledge obtained that first before you go on to more difficult things. Obtain the very best education that you can shame on us living in the West, where you have access to education and the Muslim ladies, they don't take advantage of it.

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And even you don't have to leave from your home in many cases to obtain a degree. This is what you need to know also,

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today with the internet,

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someone said on the internet there are more than 716 different degrees that a woman can earn without even leaving her home.

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So can Allah

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secondly, fulfill your Islamic duties?

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Your Islamic duty between yourself and Allah subhanho wa Taala your Islamic duty to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam your Islamic duty to the leader of the Muslims, your Islamic duty to your husband, your Islamic duty to your family, your Islamic duty to the community, your Islamic duty to one another

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god your tongue

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There is nothing more destructive for Muslim women than the tongue.

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The Messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam, he said to a group of men and women, if you guarantee me two things, I will guarantee you paradise he said,

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the tongue and the private parts. And one time when the mercy of a loss, Lawson was passing through his machine, and there was a group of women sitting there, he said, Oh, women, a loss of 100 allowed me to look into the hellfire. And I saw that most of its inhabitants, many of its inhabitants, there was women.

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And those women asked him, How come you said that? He said, because many of them, they gossip, and they talk too much.

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And they are ungrateful to their husbands. So that when their husband gives them something, they spent everything on them.

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They say, Oh, you can just accola Hayden, but when they are angry with him, they say oh, you never did nothing for me.

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And they are also given to

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Tell Barry, using the telephone. You know, telephone tell a woman

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there's two ways that communication,

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telephone and tell a lady.

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Why? Because you have more time.

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You're more provocative.

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The men they do the same thing, but in different ways. But because when you do it, it is more dangerous because you stand between the men and the children.

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God your tongues.

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The Prophet son lost him said,

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let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day, either say what's good, or keep quiet.

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So when you see sisters talking foolishness, say, sister, listen, if you don't have nothing good to say, my suggestion for you is was good.

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Keep quiet. This was the process. Lawson said Don't be angry with me.

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Also initiate Tao among the women.

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I will tell you a statistic

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108,000. Somewhere around that figure.

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People became Muslims between Great Britain

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and North America and Australia last year

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And I will tell you that 63% of them were women.

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This means about 69,000 women.

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The other statistic I want to share with you is that

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the opportunities to give Dawa among women are greater than the opportunities among men. Because women they don't have the same level of ego.

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Women have vanity, but men they have ego. And vanity is different from ego. Ego is like climbing up a mountain going through a steel wall.

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vanity is a matter of logistics.

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And women, they can penetrate the vanity of another woman. But sometimes it's very difficult to penetrate the ego of a man.

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And this is why I find that women tend that when you tell them they're doing something that is wrong. And they see it as very clearly wrong and silly. They have a tendency to accept it and change men, they get attitude. Why are you talking to me like that?

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They don't want to change and they want to get angry and they want to fight.

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So take the opportunity to initiate dialogue so that we men, we don't have to do that. Because there's a special fitness for the men who have to give down for the women.

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We have to do it. If the sisters they don't do it. But that's not our job. And this is a great liability for doing that. And I tell the brothers, if you can avoid doing direct that with two sisters, leave it alone, leave it for the sisters, or if a woman is interested, send it to your wife. As long as the wife don't think she's gonna become another wife.

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If that's the case, send it to somebody else.

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But you sisters have a rare opportunity to participate in the dialogue.

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We're gonna come back to that topic a little bit later on. Don't worry. I know some of you thinking why he said that

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out we're gonna come back to the issue about the other wife later

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in this year

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The Dow among the women, because that's your job.

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Because I believe I believe that the Dow more so than any other element

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will contribute towards the Islamization of this society.

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And this civilization,

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because to the dour, we can enter the hearts, we can penetrate the minds, we can capture the whole family. And once people become Muslims, you don't think they're gonna drop bombs on their own cities.

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They're not gonna put their own children in Guantanamo Bay or Belmarsh or whatever prisons they have here.

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No, so we should give the dollar because the dollar is the imperceptible way of communication. We can capture hearts, we can capture minds for Islam, and in some cases, it is irresistible.

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Promote resource development, Muslims today need resources.

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We need human resources. We need material resources. And we Muslims need to concentrate on strategies for developing resources.

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And since I already spoke about the issue that women have more money than men, in many cases, net women are more talented than men for certain things. See how the citizens have organized this. If this was organized by the men, it wouldn't have been it wouldn't have happened on time.

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All the things would have not been here. Every time the system is organized, something always is better than the men.

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Whenever there is a Masjid or an organization that has the participation of the men, they have a much better chance of being successful.

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When the women are not there.

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Usually you find the men going to be stagnant.

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not without coordination. They miss all the little small things they don't cross the T's they don't die. They always forgetting things.

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Because the woman they're gonna make that list. You see, they always gonna be asking bothering us. Did you do this? Honey? Did you take care of that? Sister Did you song so they got the old Listen, men don't like to be told like that.

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So the brothers should take the lesson that when you have a project, make sure you got a committee of sisters, chances are that project is going to go all right.

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Muslim women should also be involved in defending the oma

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learn to write, learn to speak,

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learn to do research,

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learn to argue in the best way, as the last $1 says,

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learn to defend the oma

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from poison

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from enemies, from dangers

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from things that we may not see coming.

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And finally,

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Muslim woman, you must support community projects.

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And when there's an issue that needs to be addressed, do not be afraid to say this, we have to form some kind of a think tank, a committee to deal with this issue. If the Imam or the brothers don't want you to meet in the mosque, then meet in the library. Meet in your homes. If the mom don't want to meet with you meet with his wife.

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If you don't have a wife,

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I don't know who you'll meet with him.

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Give him a life. Maybe that's his problem.

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support the community projects. Because without your support, chances are the projects are going nowhere.

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So sisters, for this session,

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I have covered some of the rights and some of the responsibilities. And now I want to just before we end the session, I want to read to you because I think it's too much information. For me to read from the sources themselves. I'm going to give you the sources. So if you just bear with me a moment, and if you have your pin I'm going to give you some sources one

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the Muslim woman and her rights.

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Or if you like I can have brother caches during the intermission. He can write them down and put them up on the screen. Is that better? Good because I have 12345678

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nine different websites that themselves one of them one of these websites have over 74 different links.

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So I think that the contribution I'm trying to make to you is that I'm going to provide you with the resources for you to do the research to broaden this topic for yourselves inshallah, then when we come back after the recess, I want to talk about some of the special problems that we have to deal with in to deal with these rights and these responsibilities. And then after that, perhaps we can have some questions and answers, would that be appropriate?

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Okay, inshallah, during the questions and answers, I will share Sheikh Faisal, he will assist me inshallah.

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With that, because it's always good to have someone who has a more formal background in issues of Islamic Studies. So he will assist me in that. So after the break, we'll deal with some of the special problems, observations from my part. And then after that, we'll have some q&a to see if we can resolve some of the special issues that you may see yourself sapochnik along with the Hyundai Kona Chateau and Isla Elantra wanna start Fukunaga, Lake Samadhi Kumara

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salatu salam, ala rasulillah salam wa alayhi wa sallam

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while he was having he was was he women wanna

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Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

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jimson sisters, thank you very much for your patience and tolerance for us to be able to synchronize the

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technical issues here in sha Allah.

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The other thing is that we will try not to go much beyond the allotted time.

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to complete our tests can show up. Before we go to the issues of the questions and

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subsequent answers, I just want to talk about some of the problems

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that I see in this topic that we're talking about. And I'm speaking here as a

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I'm trying to be I'm trying to be objective as a father,

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as a husband,

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as a brother as a

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responsible Muslim.

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But I'm also speaking as a sociologist, a person

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having some background and special

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involvement and training in the field of sociology.

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So when I speak about some of these problems,

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someone else may review them from a physics point of view. And as these questions come, I can already see that many of these questions.

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People are asking me questions as if I have the capacity to be able to answer these from a 50 or African point of view, I do not. And I will not.

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Because there are people in your locale, people that are here in your country, in your area, your city, who have the qualifications, even if they are not willing. And even if they are not accessible, sometimes

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I should not do that.

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Because I don't have the qualification. The second thing is that I

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am steering you towards references that are reliable,

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that are repeatable and that are accessible.

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So many of the questions that some sisters are asking, you're going to find it when you go to these references. So this is not going to be a shake and bake deal, that you're just going to write some questions and cotton is gonna take the responsibility to answer them or feistel is going to do that. No, you're going to do some work and we're going to do some work. So if there is a way for me to be able to respond to this from my background, familiarity, I will do that. The check will also help me. But

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if I choose not to answer a question, it is because you will find the answers and the references that I'm given to you. Because five or six of these references, they are websites of people who themselves can give fatawa

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In the last panel data says First of all,

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in quantum ledger,

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ask the people of the vicar. It means the people of the vicar, Vicar means Quran and Sunnah as the people of the Quran and the Sunnah that means as the old Ummah and as the fuqaha, if you don't know.

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So some of the special problems.

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One, and I'm just going to deal with 10 of the most obvious problems that they are relative to Muslim ladies seeking their rights and fulfilling their responsibilities,

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both in the Muslim world, as well as in places where we are living as minorities such as Australia.

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Number one.

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The first problem is social and political contradictions within Muslim societies themselves.

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This is one of the major problems

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that we are unable, in many cases to make a reference to Muslim societies

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to resolve our problems, because in many cases, in fact, in most cases,

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the social and political contradictions that exist in Muslim countries are so rapid, and so staggering and so complex,

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that we cannot even use them as a reference in many cases. I don't say we can't use scholars who in those countries, I say that the contradictions the social and political contradictions in the form of institutions

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are so contradictory that we are not able to use them as a reference.

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I mean, contradictory towards the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. That's one problem.

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The second problem is

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that many of the rights and responsibilities of Muslim women

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are being subverted

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and resisted and denied by Muslim governments themselves.

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Now, I take the responsibility of saying this. So the shift is not saying this, I'm saying this.

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And I'm saying this having visited at least 27 Muslim governments,

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if I was only there for a week or 10 days, I have visited them I saw for myself, what contradictions are there.

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And what resistance and denial and subversion of the rights and responsibilities of Muslim women exist inside those countries. So this is a second problem.

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I take the responsibility of of this myself, and I don't mind

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number three,

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cultural and ethnic practices, that Eclipse

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and nullify the Islamic sources.

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People are practicing cultural and ethnic issues

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and they are so blindly attached to those cultural and ethnic issues, that when you tell them a law said, the Messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam said, the Sharia provides, they don't even care.

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So it means

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the, the act

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or the principle of the Sunnah, is completely eclipsed, you cannot see it. There's no appreciation, no application for it, because the people they prefer the cultural or the ethnic issue. It could be an ethnic prejudice or an ethnic preference.

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It could be a cultural practice,

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or just some cultural aberration, then

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prevailing customs, persuasions and personalized trends styles that established innovations. I'll repeat that prevailing that means

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dominant customs

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persuasions like a sister, she asked me a question one day,

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as we clearly read, the Hadith of the Prophet SAW Sam about

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it being forbidden for women to tie their hair on top of their head.

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And for women to be shaving and shaping the eyebrows. Assistant that she wrote the said or shake

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Is it alright if because I want to appear nice to my husband if I have my eyebrows lifted.

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So in spite of the fact, we want to we still want to see if we can scout around skirt around subvert, we can twist it bend it. No, the Muslim is not like that

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kulu Colin sadita you hear it straight, you respond to it straight.

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If someone owes you money, you want to count it out completely. So when a law orders you something, you respond back to Allah subhanaw taala completely. Allah mentioned in the Quran into into Islam can threaten

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completely wholeheartedly.

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So there are dominant customs persuasions, within the individual personalized styles, trends. That established innovations. Sisters want to add something little twist to their hijab, they want to put a little flower up here.

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You want to put a little split on the side of the skirt.

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know things that make it a little chic, you know,

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when to put a little

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Gloria Vanderbilt

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on it, or the other one with the cross, what's her name? You know, you sisters know, the moment the cross was Sunday. You want to put a little style designer thing to it. It's not enough that you covered you want to be designer covered.

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So they are prevailing customs and persuasions and personalized trends that establish innovations. And when you establish your innovation, what you basically do is you undermine the Sunnah.

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Then there is direct opposition and intervention by non Muslim governments and authorities such as what has happened in France.

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That direct opposition, an intervention by non Muslim governments and authorities

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for various Islamic practices and rights of Muslim women, and the fulfillment of their responsibilities. Number six

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aspersion and dialectical confusion. aspersion means to put something in a bad light

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to speak about something and so what you cause confusion in people's minds.

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You say something, well, you say yeah, in the Quran, God says this, or Muhammad says this, a lot of him however, it don't make sense. It's not even rational. So, you know, the calculus is how they talk.

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or non Muslim intellectuals say

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that this was done in the time of the prophets the last name, but we have no need to do that now because now we have modern facilities. So we have aspersion, putting it in a bad or negative light, and dialectical meaning using words to confuse people, created by intellectuals from the Muslim community, who most of them are conservatives,

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and non Muslim orientalist, that is non Muslims, who academically know more about Islam than most Muslims, but a lot blocked him from the guidance.

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So they are donkeys carrying books.

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Number seven,

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resistance to the Islamic act.

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and lack of respect for the Sunnah by Muslims.

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So Allah subhanaw taala said, and the Muslim lady, she says, while I can,

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however, or my situation is different, my situation is that or her husband says, Yeah, but however,

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our Allah knows best.

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So we resist the Islamic ruling.

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Or when we are given a ruling by a scholar, we're not satisfied until we go to two or three other scholars until we find a scholar who will answer us the way we like it.

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Or we have a lack of respect for the messenger of the loss of a lot of them, because we think that what he ordered us to do, this was back in the days like antiquity, we say, Well, you know, when the time of the prophet SAW slams, they didn't have certain technological, intellectual scientific facilities. We don't have to do that anymore. Because we are advanced people, which means we are saying that Allah subhanaw taala is ye to the prophet SAW last name was not as advanced as we are today.

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Number eight

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the preponderance

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That is the preference

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of blind following

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is the terminology It is called tech lead.

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Now, tech lead

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is permissible for some people blind following of methods.

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Because if you or I, if we do not have the ability to understand from where the Mr. He got his evidence, we can follow him

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because we have to have evidence that we don't know from where he got it from. We can follow him blindly. Why because we have to follow the evidence. But if we have the ability to know from where he got the evidence, we can not blindly follow because they are not absolute.

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Imam Abu hanifah

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Rahmatullah de

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mhfa Imam Malik,

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Ibn Hanbal, they were not absolute, and their statements are not absolute.

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Because the companions of the Prophet so awesome, they will not absolute,

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yet they will companions of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam.

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And the companions of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam never took any one of themselves and consider their word, the last word in any issue. So if the companions of the Prophet SAW Sam didn't accept each other, as the last word, on any issue,

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but that their position was we take and we leave from everyone Illa Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam.

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We take and we leave evidence from anyone Illa Rasulullah Salas and why because from Allah, it is absolute from the Messenger of Allah sauce it is absolute, and where there is h ma from companions of the prophets, a lot of Assam It is also absolute.

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But mmm Shafi demand Hamblen, Imam Malik, Abu hanifa, they will not have that category, although they themselves were relying upon that kind of evidence. So when we want to use them as a doorway, as a school as a platform, we are using them to obtain what the evidence we're not using them themselves as evidence. We're using them to lead us to the evidence. So what becomes a delille? For us? What is it what is the ruling verse, the sauce for us, it is the evidence itself. However, some Muslims, they insist on saying, check so and so.

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Mostly so and so.

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The elders

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mmm so and so.

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scholar so and so. And they're using that person's name, or they use using that person's opinion as a final source. And they're stuck on it. They don't care what you say, even if you give them a stronger Hadees. And even if you give them if they give you an idea, and there's been something called Nasik. Well,

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they give you an idea which has been abrogated. And you tell them this AI has been abrogated. They tell you, I don't care to share, he told me this is called blind following.

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So one of the problems is that most of the Muslims or many of them, they are blind following. They don't care about references. Secondly, they are not only blindly following scholars, but they are also blindly following personalities.

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And sometimes the personalities they're following is just personalities who they like how they look.

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He's a singer he's a recital of Qur'an or he's he's an imam of the masjid you like his beard or his turban You know, he graduated from such a university or whatever it is, and I don't care that's my man. That's my mo

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fixation upon personalities and blindly following scholars. Number nine I don't want anybody to say that I had it said we should not follow methods. I didn't say that or that we should not give the scholars their due. I didn't say that. I qualified it inshallah. Number nine, ideologically arguing and blaming, which leads to accusations and condemning.

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So we have some Muslims who are so right,

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that everybody else is wrong.

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We got Muslims who are

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critic critiques of the Muslims. So when a sister walks in the door, they look at the system and say, oh, hijab is not right. Oh, her slippers is not right, or her dress is not right. Or she didn't sit right, or she's not eating right, or house is not right, or children is not right. Or she decided that wrong or so. So we become so much critiques of the Muslims, that everybody becomes wrong except us, or our group, or our leader.

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This is called ideologically arguing, blaming, criticizing, leading to accusing people and giving them names. We have Muslims today who have given names for everybody.

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If you say something, they say, Oh, he's a coochie.

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Oh, he's a Suri.

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Oh, he's a selfie.

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Or he's a shy

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or he's a hottie g

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Oh, he is ashari.

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Or he or she is this or that? Or he's the Teddy.

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Today, we have 25 or 30 different names and categories that we want to put the Muslims in. And once you put them in that category, you feel comfortable who they are. And the question then is what category are you in?

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Most of the people, when they put everybody in the category, they're going to say they are

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physical, physical to Nigeria, the rightly guided group, because that's the only one that's left.

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These accusations inevitably, when people disagree with your accusations, then it leads to the final thing, which is condemnation. You wind up calling people Kaffirs, you wind up calling people moon ethics, you wind up calling people distant calling people that. And once you start calling people these names, eventually it leads to the shedding of blood or the removing of honor.

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The last thing groups that adapt extreme behaviors and mentalities. these are these are Muslims and themselves. That is, they start to see themselves

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in some real self righteous position. And then they begin to isolate themselves away from other Muslims, and they start telling other Muslims, you can sit with that Muslim, you can equal that Muslim, you can't take can't take knowledge from that Muslim, you can't visit that Muslim you can say Salaam to that Muslim, you can this you can say that. And eventually what happens those people wind up in painted in their own corner. And when they get painted in their own corner, they also start breaking down in their own group. And they start creating uncertainty until there's only one person left.

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This is the historical set of problems.

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And pointing these problems out from a point of history and sociology.

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When you go into the sources that I have given to you, you will see the solution, the position

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and the evaluation, and the proof of those problems. Now,

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this is I want to just just go over these

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sites with you. And you don't have to worry about it. What we're going to do is what's the name of that news newsletter that comes out again? Oh, just a moment. Don't say it don't say the brother. He wrote it for me. It's called the wake up call newspaper.

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So you will find it in the wake up call newspaper. All of these will be printed for you in the next edition. Also, the transcript of my presentation to you today. We will ask them also to put it there and also these sites. Let me just go over them with you quickly inshallah. The first one is on the position of Muslim women or a woman in Islam and in Islamic Society by Dr. And this is supposed to be

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Hasson to Robbie. I'm sorry.

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Can you correct it for me brother hesitant to lobby

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you don't have the right assistance and show up because you're going to get it all

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corrected for improvement? I need to say hasn't. That hasn't Robbie is a

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a well known Muslim scholar

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and he has written a very beautiful treatise on the position of women in society that you will appreciate in Sharla.

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And this happens to be his field of expertise. Also

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The next one is the rights and duties of women. And this is a 24 page booklet by Dr. souhei pesan. Mashallah, he's on our board of trustees. And also he has written many other little small books called introduction to the science of Hades.

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Many good small books he has written. He's the Imam of Masjid.

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Mosquito hate in London,

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the rights and duties of women. The third one is women's role in contemporary society. This is written by

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a Muslim sister and I found it to be Mashallah very well written and a good reference

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number. I can't seem to find them before he is therefore, maybe not.

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Young, Muslim and female in America by assisted by the name of aneesa Nadia,

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a sister who is basically writing her experience being young, Muslim and female in America and the challenges that are involved.

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interaction between men and women on the internet. Check Solomon out.

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You will find his fatawa available on a website called Islam today

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Sheikh Salman

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women in the Quran and Sunnah by Professor Abdul Rahman boy Mashallah a very capable and

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prestigious Muslim scholar who has written many things on social and political issues relative to women.

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hijab in the Quran and Sunnah. Another very beautiful research paper that has been prepared, and you will be able to access these by just putting going into Google and putting in the titles themselves.

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Not gaggle, but Google

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the Muslim woman and her rights and again by Islamic world, Islamic world dotnet a sister site very beautiful site also

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nipkow according to the Quran, Sunnah.

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www every

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And for the sisters who don't know what the terminology niqab means, it means the part of the hijab which covers the face and also includes the wearing of the gloves,

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which is a part of the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam and justified by His own and authentic hadith. niqab according to the Quran and Sunnah, women in society again by Professor Abdul Rahman boy

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make way for the woman

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another very good article that I read and I thought that you sisters would appreciate women in society www Allahu Akbar dotnet

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the Quran and women, www Quranic teachings.

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I can't think that so if you don't mind me, I'm going to put a dot here. Because usually that should be a dot with the brother, he'll have to do that.

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You see, I'm not that technologically advanced.

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The Islamic movement and women's activity, a very extensive,

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socially and politically written

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research paper

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written by Dr. or shared use of qaradawi, who is the convener or the chairman of the the fifth committee for Europe.

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And most of us know Shaykh Yusuf qaradawi, from one of his very famous books, halal and haram for this lamp, and many other books that he has written.

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Number 16. And this one is a very special one, because this particular one, it has about 55 or 60 different links Muslim woman's homepage, Muslim woman in the Sunnah. So I think sisters that inshallah, if you will make reference to these.

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A few will go to these references and use them.

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I think many of the questions that you're going to ask me can be answered. So from this point, what we'll do is we'll try to start to respond to some of these questions. Now some of them are these the ones what I've done was the most of the questions if the sisters went to the sites, all of these questions will probably be answered Yes. For the sites to sisters to study and testing and research themselves.

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aside, and these ones are more socially related.

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Okay, so I'll deal with these. And if I think and if I think I cannot deal with them, I'll hand them back to check fights over here.

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The first question says, domestic violence is becoming an issue among the Muslim community, to many of the victims, they find it hard to talk to Muslims, fearing people will talk.

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At the same time, they fear to go to certain government groups because their advice or not, according to Islam, please advise us of what to do in such situations.

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I think that it's necessary here. First, always exhaust

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exhaust the availability and the accessibility of

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the Muslims of responsibility. I mean, if there are 15 or 20 masjids in this city, where the prayer is being led, and where Juma prayer is being given.

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If there's a problem assistant she has, and she cannot get it done, fixed or resolved in her locale, she needs to go with her

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to every place where there is some residue of Islamic responsibility or authority until she gets it resolved. Now it may take a long time to do it. But I'll just remind you of this, that some of the complaints of the profit or loss and they traveled for months and years just to get a authentification for ahaadeeth.

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So don't look for shakin vague answer, don't look for something a phone call or just somebody's going to send you a file over the internet and make an appointment, you're going to go there and they're going to give you a stamp and a C and let's hit know, if it's something that you want and you need some time sister, you're gonna have to stand in line, you're gonna have to be frustrated, you're gonna have to go and wait some way all day long. And people don't answer you or whatever it is, it may take you a year just to get the issue resolved.

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If you don't get it resolved by going through that procedure, shame on the Muslim leaders, Shame on them.

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Your next recourse I would suggest for you

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is that you go outside of that locale

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seeking people who have a reputation for responding to these kinds of issues, who have written on these kinds of issues, who may have websites or giving fatawa on these kinds of issues. Have your situation certified that means what you understand it to be have it certified by witnesses,

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write it down and have seals put towards it and then send it

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to a Mufti. Now it may take three months, four months, whatever for them to read and get back to it and send it back to you or whatever. But if a Mufti responds to you with a certified fatwa it is the same as if he was in your locale.

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Even though that fatwa may not be able to be executed, because usually when a Mufti gives a fatwa, the government has another area of the government that executes it. Like a judge. He gives a judgment in the court, right? But the police, they execute it.

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He makes a judgment, somebody goes to jail, he makes a judgment, something is dissolved. But unfortunately, when a Mufti from another place gives a fatwa, there is nobody to execute it sometimes. But at least you have the fatwa in front of you. That's one way. Another way is that Muslim sisters, and Muslim men should form research groups, help support groups that sit down with individuals and hear this situation and, and hold it in confidence.

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And then write it up for them, write a synopsis for them, and then filter it to the people of responsibility. So that what I just mentioned can be done. Now, this is a long process, but it is one of the processes which you're going to have to learn to resort to because we are not living in ideal circumstances. And sisters. Let me just remind you something I said previously, even if you were living in a Muslim country,

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you may still not have access to do what I'm telling you. So don't think because you live in Australia. Somebody say I wish I would live in a Muslim country, Katherine Song Song So no, maybe if you are Muslim in a Muslim country, you find it even more difficult.

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So I'm just trying to give you some suggestions. The other thing is

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My suggestion for all of you

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is that your families should be attached to a student of knowledge

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or to a scholar, or to someone who themselves

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are closely attached to students of knowledge or a scholar. Why because if your family is attached to that kind of a person, you are learning from that kind of a person, that person can facilitate that knowledge for you better than anyone else.

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But this means that you have to become accountable to that person. You can't use that person like a doorknob,

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or I'm going to see shakes on so I'm gonna see shakes on so the only time you go to see them or respect them is when you want something. No, if you go to that person, and your family is attached to that person, you should become accountable to that person for your knowledge, so that if there's something wrong with you, or your family, they can advise you, and you will correct yourself. So it's a two way street here.

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To solve this issue, on a different perspective, concerning domestic violence, it's very advisable for any lady with to actually take measures before it comes to that situation of violence,

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or violence. I'm not sure she's just mentioned the West domestic violence which can be broken down into physical, emotional, those sort of things. But I think what we should keep in mind is before situation actually leads to physical violence of any such kind, you need to see someone about that, whether it's the family or the ship that's connected to your family, before it leads to such a situation, the sister should have a courage inshallah, to actually address the situation before it goes out of control, and leads to a situation where we need to go to the courts, we need to go to the law and non dismissed situations. So inshallah just keep that in mind.

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We need to solve the problem before it reached that situation.

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Now, the next question is, is emotional neglect, a valid reason for Hola. That is the husband does not

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ask about the wife's emotional feelings. Now this is not this is not a fundamental reason for Hola. Because Allah subhanaw taala had told you to be patient.

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Are you just you, you, you, you, your husband, he makes you cry, your husband, he makes you sad. He doesn't give you the warmth or the love that you think that you expect, and you want Hola.

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Now, this is not the justifiable reason.

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I have to remind you sisters,

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that there are women who because they want to preserve the integrity of their marriage and their children and their home, that they live with a man and they undergo his

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inconveniences or insults or other things or even he doesn't satisfy them, or whatever the case might be. And she remains in that situation for a loss upon Allah Allah. And there's a special blessing for that kind of woman.

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But the woman who is looking for just you know, the slightest thing, he makes me cry, I'm emotionally unstable that he doesn't respond to me or whatever the didn't cut the air conditioner on when he came in last night though, she's looking for what she wants to be in the marriage for

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hula is an extreme situation.

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But be careful about it. This is because the prophet SAW said a lot curses the woman

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who asked for a divorce, why she does not have justification for it? Yes.

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If you live in another country, with your husband away from your family, is it permissible for you to travel to your parents without a Muharram

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that is we can only afford for one of us to go this is a question such as that you can.

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You can get have this answered on one of these sites here because this chick Selman outershell, Yusuf qaradawi, check, check.

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Check Salim halali there's many different scholars, Shakib and gibreel. Many of them they have sites and you can put this in and they will answer it or they already have fatawa already written. And also there's a set of books called fatawa, which is you can get from dar Salaam is a book distributors. It's a set of fatality. There are four books now. And I think they have a collection of over 3000 fatalities.

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And it's by the,

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the higher

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level of odema and fuqaha of Saudi Arabia, about

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Five different olema they have collected these fatawa so if you can get these books for your home inshallah you will find inshallah answer for that

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sister says, I work in a lodge, I'm going to go through them quickly because it says 15 to 20 minutes, I'm going to see if I can stretch it to 25 minutes. I work in a large company, and most social events, gatherings

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involve alcohol held in parks, etc, I still have

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to interact with colleagues.

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In my career, what shall I do? Well, you have to tip though, you have to tiptoe through the minefield,

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there are circumstances that you cannot avoid, sometimes, maybe you need to think about a different occupation.

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Maybe that occupation is hazardous for you, maybe it carries too much liability for you, maybe it is not praiseworthy for you, maybe there's something else better for you that you can do that earns you less money and less prestige, you have to decide that. But if it is the case that you need to stay there, then you have to tiptoe through the minefield, knowing sometimes that you're gonna step on something that's gonna blow up in your face. That's, I'm being real with you about it. A Muslim woman must be very careful about her environment, because her reputation is at stake all the time. And once your reputation is ruined, it's very difficult for you to get it back.

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What if a Muslim woman does not have a male to accompany?

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I needed to go back to my country to see my family and I didn't have a Muslim. That's the same answer. And also a sister mentioned to me that, you know, today, there's a lot of trend that sisters are going to hide with no matter.

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It's very clear says you cannot make hedge without Milan. Now, from what I understand there is a provision.

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I have made a provision like this, that if you are traveling in a group, and there is a legal maharam for you in that group, that group can be as a Muslim for you if there is a person who one of the sisters in that group has Muharram for her. But you cannot be alone with that particular person. But there is some provision for that. But I think you need to really look into it and examine it and don't just, you know, get your ticket, pay for it and just jump in.

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Go with a group and you at the airport and Bismillah I'm going to Hajj and you walk around every place and you got nobody escorting you. Because in that case is that you are in a situation where perhaps you nullify your hedge because you didn't even look into the protection of the issue of Mahara.

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How did the wives of the Prophet Sawsan become so knowledgeable they was married to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam they the way he was coming in front of them and also Allah bless them to be people who they acclimated themselves and conformed themselves that even when they were in error, Allah and manage them and they conformed, so Allah He blessed him and he made them Omaha to

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