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What to look for in a Muslim Spouse

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Karim Abuzaid

Channel: Karim Abuzaid

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Brothers and sisters in Islam as salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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My dear daughters, and sisters,

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we all talk about

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love.

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And when you're brought up in an environment,

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soap operas, movies, they always talk to you about a love story between a man and a woman.

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And normally the story would end like, they married one another. And then they lived happily ever after.

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My sister's, my daughter's. That is not the case. They never show you what happens after marriage.

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Marriage is a test. Marriage is an institution.

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Marriage is a project.

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You want a good partner.

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You want a quality partner.

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And that quality partner is a righteous man.

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There is no harm in marrying a rich, handsome, prestigious, good family man. But these are not the criterias

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my sisters in Islam,

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they are old was shared with us.

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Beautiful love stories between Romeo and Juliet, Cleopatra and Antonio, and others, so many names in different cultures.

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But you want to know the best love story I ever read.

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I ever learned.

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The best love story in the whole world was between a man

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and a woman.

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The woman was 15 years older than him.

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I'm talking about Khadija and Muhammad

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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Ayesha Viola Juana, brothers and sisters in Islam.

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She made that statement and she said, I have never been jealous from the living wives of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam more than I'm jealous of Khadija.

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Khadija is dead.

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Khadija is not alive.

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And when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with mentioned her, I can tell how much excited he is about her. Her deja used to have a sister Her name is Hannah.

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And when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would hear the voice of Allah outside he would say Allahu Allah, this is hella get me holla

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and when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would slaughter a sheep, he would make sure that he tells his wife, make sure that you give some of the cheap to the Friends of Khadija.

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Ilana would say Why are you doing this to her deja hombre?

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She had no teeth. When Allah subhanho wa Taala replaced her with better women better wives like myself.

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Here is the statement that I'm looking for brothers and sisters in Islam. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam kills eyeshadow Viola Rhonda, Aisha lacquered Rosa to Hawa

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her love, her love

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was placed in my heart.

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You see, these hearts are not in our hands.

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Obey Allah and Allah will make you love your husband.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is showing the oma that the love comes from Allah.

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If you obey Allah,

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Allah will make you love your husband

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and will make your husband loves you.

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I'll share with you a real life story that happened at our time.

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A man

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who went to the moon

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worked in the Gulf countries, and Emirates for years. 20 years, very poor to begin with, he became wealthy.

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His father was a very righteous man. He used to be the Imam. This is the real life story is not a sci fi.

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So, the man after accumulating all his wealth, he sent to his father, my father, I want to get married.

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A lot of the years passed by without getting married. Now it's the time and I want you to choose a life for me.

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And I want you to go ahead and put the marriage contract together. And I want to go into the actual marriage. The wedding day, I want it to be the day that I arrived, and I don't want to see her.

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This is how much trust this man this young man had in his father.

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Of course, a righteous man knows that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said a woman is asked in marriage for four reasons. Both beauty lineage and the deen. You better go for the deen. He chose in a quality religious women wife for his son. But yet her physical appearance was not the best.

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The son arrives to Egypt. At the airport, he is backed up. And he is taken to his wife, who was wearing a veil. And then basically he got into the room with her alone.

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As soon as she unveiled herself.

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He became shocked.

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He became shocked.

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This is the wife that my father chose for me.

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She's not beautiful.

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She's not beautiful. He became so depressed here I am coming after all these years. So excited, so excited.

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He became so depressed.

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So he slept

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towards the last third of the night. The wife

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who understood that the action of the husband.

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She tried to wake him up. He refused. She tried again. He refused.

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And then she sprinkled water on him

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to wake him up.

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So he waked up.

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And she spoke to him. And she said, I know how much disappointed you are. And I understand I'm not beautiful. But you know what?

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I wished to get married. For one reason.

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I wanted to implement the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. When he said, Rahim, Allah whom are juhlin

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may Allah have mercy on a man who wakes up to pray at night.

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And then he would wake up his wife. And if she does not wake up

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navaja Allah, Allah, he would sprinkle water on her to wake up. And this is the segment that she wanted to implement was Rahim Allah hombre? A wife and May Allah Subhana Allah have mercy on a woman grant His mercy to a wife who wakes up to pray to head up at night.

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And she wakes her husband up to pray with her

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and if he does not wake up

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she sprinkles water in him

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one law he

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I'm so grateful to you.

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That you granted me that wish. I wanted to implement that Hadith so much and I was a little bit hopeless that I will get married because I know I'm not beautiful.

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Can you please now fulfill the rest of this howdy with me?

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Can you wake up

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and just lead me in Salah. Break the hatchet with me.

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He waked up

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and he led her in Salah

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brothers and sisters in Islam. This man swears by Allah.

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That as soon as he ended his dad Jude leading her and Salah. I looked at her as if I'm looking at the most beautiful women in this world.

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That's the way it goes.

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Don't be deceived by all these soap operas and movies.

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Love gets to the heart because of Allah. Allah can make you love your husband, but you and your husband obey Allah.

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lead your wives in Salah. Have your husbands lead you in Salah at night.

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Family brothers and sisters in Islam.

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They have grandchildren who memorize the Quran

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and they are students of knowledge. And some of them are about to be scholars of this oma

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brothers and sisters in Islam.

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Don't compromise nor test the commands of Allah. If you want to live happily like they say in the movie ever after. Marriage is a tough institution.

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enough that shaitaan everyday places the crown on the head of a shaitan who separates a husband and wife.

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You need a good partner for the mission

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and the quality that you must seek

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righteousness and piety.

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And if you do, you will get the best of this dunya

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and be in the light Allah. You will be with your reformed husband and reformed wife as virgin Mata hora purified spouses in gender