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Marriage 10 Wifes Rights Upon Husbands 3
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brothers and sisters in Islam as salaam alaikum warahmatullahi over cattle.
This is the 10th lecture
dealing with circolo surah. Again, that's the subject really. We chose to call it love manage and divorce series, but we're really dealing with the family.
like we mentioned, one of the big problems that we have in our homes that the husband doesn't know, his decade is short.
What are his responsibilities according to the Sharia?
What did Allah subhanaw taala command him to do in that marriage?
What are his duties
and also a lot of our women do not know their duties as wives.
And that leaves things open to he had speculations.
But if we want to establish a family, it is important for the husband
to know his duties.
And it's also important for the wife to know her duties.
the fact that the husband is the
man who's in charge
responsible for the rest of the family members
called Tyler original comunale Misha
men are in charge of the women.
We started talking about the responsibilities
and we covered already one important aspect
in what Allah subhanaw taala says,
Yeah, you had ladina Amano, who flew Sakuma de coonara
Oh ye who believe?
Save God. You're
after yourselves, of course, the hellfire.
That means like Ali Vitali understood and commented about this verse, or the Allah hanadi. He said, teach them the religion.
You gotta teach your wife to pray. That's your responsibility. It's not an option.
We worry sometimes about how our wives are dressed and how our wives are behaving and we complain, but you never taken care of your responsibilities making sure that she prays.
I mean, actually, we should be worried about making sure that she prays the sun that way.
How many husbands now they sit and watch the wives pray make sure that she prays the way that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam prayed.
He said what Salo karma
right? Is your wife praying the soon away Salatu Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and if she is not, are you teaching her?
Are you making the resources available for her?
Your wife goes through seven days every month, no Salah, no fasting. She's exposed to shaitan
because the level of Eman is down, do you teach her the car
The car which can substitute this which can subsidize a Salah because we know when a woman on her period she cannot pray she cannot fast. That means her level of Eman is what?
That is the definition of non default with Dean. Dean Dean here means a man because they do not pray they do not fast like we do. The Dean goes down. Now we need to subsidize this with what the teacher the cost
In the morning at nine so that she is not exposed to the fitness and then handler we covered this site and we spent a lecture talking about it. Today I want to go to the second command in the Quran called Allah tada y Xu Dilma now
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treat them kindly
live with them in a kind way.
Don't turn the lights into Hill.
Yes, well I really I would like my brothers to be attention to this. It is easy for you to get out of that relationship.
I'm talking about Islam Islam here. I'm talking about our Sharia here. I know in America, you can go to the courts and do what you want to do. But I'm talking about you as a man. All you have to say what
it was right.
What about your wife? Can she do this? Can she says to a divorce? You know?
One is there in every
hour an hour means in prisons.
in prisons, who say no.
For the sister to come out of that relationship islamically Islam, a sister who fuse Allah,
a sister who want to come out of the relationship according to the Sharia, she must go to the Imam. And she must ask for something called hula
Now she has to say all type of things. He's bad in bed. He's terrible in this, she ends up saying things that
me as a listener, I sit out there feel bad for her that she has to say this. But she has to furnish evidence in the Sharia according to the Sharia, which gives her the legitimacy to ask. Because as a party as a judge, you're not going to give her a whole lot because you did not give her monthly
expansion or something. It must be a reason that is what important reason so she must come up with sometimes they have to come up with these things.
I should never know. Oh
says regarding this verse, wash your mouth.
Your pool for you, boo. Acquired Akuma hoonah.
Talk to them nice.
Honey. Sweetheart. Listen, I mean, you see, come on. We watch that stuff in television and we like it.
What did you say to your wife?
Probably husbands now Muslim husbands they say to their
co workers. Oh, pa ye boo. acquired akula hoonah wa has seen a file akula hoonah. And also your actions towards them
as much as you can, to the best of your capacity.
This command has to do with good man.
Having a good character with your wife.
And yeah, so hon Allah.
If you don't want to do it just for your wife do it for Allah.
To get the rewards.
He shouldn't be the tirmidhi you have no huband Hadith.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says Mammon che in F calu. finis and in minio malkia mill fosmon pulu.
Nothing will be heavier in your scale in the diff resurrection than having a good character. We're in a Maha Listen to this. We're in Allah hi up Baba. Fair he shall be the UN Allah hates hates yada
yada. You know normally in the Quran, you find in Allah Allah you lay your head,
negating love, but here Allah hates
Daniel, if you negate love, that means there is what still what soft can lie you have biological physical metal. No dude, lay your head.
Plugging in Allah yep Bob
He goes and he tells if you if that you end this be that Allah Allah
Allah, I hear it a family because of the type of work I do.
Women tell me that that their husbands speak to them in this manner.
My infant this is a bad character. This will destroy this marriage.
The sunon epi that would was a bad Hi this is
Carlos Allah. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says in Minna la you Derek the first new hoodoo key. The Raja saw him we'll call him
because of having a good character. You reach the status of a person of a person who fasts every day and pray to Him every night.
is more than a one please accept this. I love you all for the sake of Allah Yani
yet with Allah. Allah mobila the problem now with the husbands that they are so mean at home and as soon as they go out of the house,
totally different. You know that bipolar thing two characters having two characters.
As soon as he goes out, he smiles at the people how you doing his friends, his buddies, look at the Prophet sallallahu sallam. Yahuwah mahalo mahalo pelea de Nabi sallallahu Sallam Look at me Nina imana son whom Who? Luca wahkiakum fear comeliness him
the best person once it comes to me man is the best person who have a good character.
And if you want to practice this good character, you should practice it with your wife, Zodiac urogen somebody someone who sleep with
someone who sleep next every night.
Had a good luck a charity begins with elaborate care even a charity begins way home. Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
hi eurocom hydrocone as
salam O Allah.
The best of you are those who are good to their families, and am good to my family. And you're also I'm your example.
And your example
insha Allah let's see how howdy tada Jani, FISA de Kalam, Mama acraman Nisa Illa Karim Hannah hoon.
And a person who honors his wife is a generous person is a good person and a person who humiliates his wife is ungrateful. Let him let's see how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us what to do.
Let's go over it. What can you do to show to implement that command?
And coluna v stones will be nice a
few Corrado soon.
say he will he was
encouraged to move would
treat them kindly. Be nice to them have a good character with them? And then Allah says and if you dislike them if you hate them, for us and Takahashi why ajala houfy do
you may dislike something? Yeah, this wife can be a source of goodies for you.
Yeah, Jeff McCarthy said
that one of our righteous predecessors he had a very mean wife, mean wife. She's known to everybody about her bad character.
Why didn't you divorce her? Is it you see, am inflected with her. I should be patient. Now if a divorce her another Muslim brother has been a marry her and is going to suffer
is concerned that if he divorces her
Another Muslim Brotherhood, the fitna. I can handle it. I'll be patient. The inquiry to moon fossa and Croatia where dama houfy haven Casio.
Let's imagine you have a wife at home.
All right, and you're going back home.
What is the first thing that you should do? As soon as you enter the house as salaam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh do we do this? Oh
I'm sorry. It was killer Nana we think this is optional. This is up to us for either the whole to boo, boo.
Boo seeking even if you do not have somebody in the house. Actually if you live in by yourself, you're supposed to say salam aleikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh
Salim Allah come to hate me in the LA market on eBay. And if you enter
any home including yours Of course say what a seller wanna you Kumara Mottola not hi Anna Liliana will uk Hi.
A new sub and full.
We could say sub Bach Allah who will hire Masekela who will hire who could say this, but the Salafi has an ad
is LMP Baraka Hassan al, Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us with nomadic love your loved one. Well, certainly to me at javaone my little son, Jeffrey learned that
either the Hulk
either the Hulk Tyler lick fslm yakun Salah mukha Baraka de nada kawada
yeah Allah don't we need Barakatuh we say no Baraka in the house is Shay Athena Molina is shopping filling the hoods are Baraka say salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. If you say this, this will bring Baraka a blessing to your family
and Hotronix upon Allah and there is a lot to sell emphasize Muslim he will not he
will not enough CD by the one in whose hand my soul is. Leonard who will Jenna Tata to me. He's addressing the community members, not the family Yes, but the community talking about us You will not enter the agenda until you believe
in Mr. Whelan to me No.
And you will never attain a man that is why we said if you see faith without brotherhood without love Rest assured there is something wrong in the
in the teaching.
And if you see the people coming together without a man, this is masala
Our meeting because we're having some project that we will execute together and as soon as the project is over is what?
beta beta everybody goes his way.
One to me no ha, ha ha boo. You will never be able to achieve that faith until or unless you love one another. It is Luke omada Shea in ultimo who
shall I tell you about something that if you do you will love one other. I mean, if it's Salam aleikum, we'll make you love somebody who is not related to you. Don't you think he's gonna bring love between you and your wife and your children?
Shall I tell you about something that if you do, you will love one another? Bella rasulillah shows.
This is for us as community members to love one another. What about you and your wife? What about you and your children as salaam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he walks and there is something comes between him and another person. He would go back and say Sarah, what are you like if you go to the kitchen and come back as salam aleikum wa rahmatullah if you go to the bathroom and come back as salam aleikum, wa rahmatullah away Asana, Asana
rate that a man came to the Salam aleikum, the prophet Chetan Hasina, another one came as salam aleikum wa rahmatullah. He said, 20 Hazara, the third one came and he said Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato wabarakatuh. He said, 30 hassane. Imagine this. What
could we do if met will be the route honey sorry.
So imagine Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah and then you go somewhere.
Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah cumulating Hassan al Hadith here.
Aha value Salim Ali, if you meet your brother see Salam aleikum to him
either halat for inherit beno Houma Shara algae down alhaja su malatya value Salim Allah
Yanni if me and you are walking
and it happens that there is a wall and you have to go this way and I have to go this way after we meet to supposed to say what
this is the evidence for if you go to the kitchen if you go to the bedroom on a
piano is not mandatory, but this is really recommended to do this. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
when he was asked to say Hey, man, how do you have a live nominum that are sort of the Allahumma and halal Islam, the best of Islam. Kala he said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Hyrule Islam the best to fill Islam and to pray enough
that you feed the hungry, what to do Salah Allah an hour of the woman
and that you say salam aleikum wa rahmatullah to those who you know whom you know, and those whom you do not know, woman Allah to say for one of the signs of the day for selection is Solomon little cos person. We see it in the machine sometimes. And I noticed it sometime that brother because he never spoke to you before he never comes and say Salam aleykum Selam Aleykum to you, because he doesn't know actually it's a sign of the hour that you only say Salaam Alaikum to the person who you know
sign of the
party. So you entered the house and you said what?
shaking hands. Belay, I like to shake the hands of your wife. Oh, yeah, if you don't know. I mean, there is a reward about this. I mean, we find Muslims now asking Sharif Can I shake the hand of this woman and this woman? Yeah, I'm telling you.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that in order
to receive it
You better be step two the needle. Needle Miss needles small needles. la hora
Murphy up min min min Heidi. Long mo needle in your head is better for you than touching a woman who's aloof or for you to touch.
By touching Why? Suddenly Molly salamati my wife. Shake the hands walk was good as
Go hold the head.
Oh, look at that. He would have this little
motto of no magic. Kala sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, ma'am in Muslim Amy
effetto Safa had a love for Allah hula hula cobbler if
I meet with you and we shake hands
before we leave, Allah forgives my sins and your sins. Imagine this year what some of the problems that we have in our homes is because of sins.
Yes, you see sins brings problems.
Regularly there couldn't Athena makin for for in Nova two zero Nan, if Allah has blessed you with a bounty guarded
With what? Stay away from since
B then B
and we overtook them because of their sins.
When you send a flexions problems come
I'm telling you they used to say this one lie on our righteous bladesystem they tell us one lie by Allah.
when I commit a sin, I see this in the way that my wife treat me.
Now when you're straight with Allah, Allah will make up everybody
around you straight.
The good luck of Allah in Neela Allah modem beefy Hello kremerata were there but he had our code the way that they treat me you did something wrong, you go home. Halas problem waiting for
If you shake hands you get through the fourth
number three having a cheerful face.
Happy Face. Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says,
big problem by the way
that stops us from smiling in the face of one another
that we belittle it.
By the way, when you smile in the face of your brother, you get to
happen. You get a good deed actually, an angel writes. Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah good deed. But look at this what will stop you from I want you to look at the context of this hadith
what will stop you from seeking that the seeking that has given you belittling it will actually lead to how to run minalima Rufus a while and tell
him Polly Oh, do not belittle any good deed Yeah, he was doing Oh my Ethan will have the scale will be by inch with
this smile that you smile in the face of your wife in the face of your brother can be the reason for your scale to go down.
We know brothers that there are people and that it was production whose deeds will break even even
allara sobre la la la la la
on the tool between Gen and Hellfire
smile in the face of your wife
comes in number four good words. That when you arrived
What happened? Did you cook here was dinner
and it goes to the kitchen Why you didn't cook or everyday fool fool fool beans beans Jani
Kilmer Bye bye.
How will you give me a give
bat* helicoverpa Shirou Allah tuna fue Bashir upon Allah. Allah Allah tada Allah subhanho wa Taala says what Puli NASA for SNAP lenez still them good words would never allow yourself to say hi even honey daddy rhodiola one it could narrow Bishop kitamura protect yourself from the Hellfire even with a half a day femen lemmya Jade Fadi Kelly Matthew Paiva
if you do not find half a day to give in charity to protect yourself from the Hellfire then good word the F will kill mahalo will carry metal Paiva to sadhaka
added fee so I have not had bad webinar hoceima Hadith ebihara radi Allahu
wa amin el calor will Hasson
ismar for daddy.
And one of the good things that you can say
that you call your wife with the most beloved names to her.
Martin Kula, Talia shazzy
we he calls her with a name that she dislikes. Now you have Omar Maha pop, he made a good statement. He said yaku
Salah satune eobd mannella canwood fcwc.
If you want someone to like you, three things guarantee the love of your brother for you.
Number one, and to suddenly marry their lakita
when you see him as salam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh to one two to see Allahu fille Magnus, you're setting like this, and your brother arrived the other day, which was
to do a lesson when he arrives, you're sitting down if you want to get the love of now this applies to us here was this applies to ask him but this is at home. We better begin at all. You know if we apply this at home, we're gonna apply it here. And then we're going to say hello film a film A plus three while an Uber had been a smell
and that you call him with the best means to him, the most beloved means to him.
Yeah, Omar Abdullah Marisa la sala Karina Dr. Ayesha Yeah, Omar
The canola Yeah.
Don't tell me Well, I'm busy doing my PhD. I don't know your audio needs to receive revelation dealing with the oma. Oh yeah. Omar Abdullah
Khanna, Salam Ala Moana Chateau de la cama.
She said to him, Africa Matheson and Abu Dhabi Alona, so Tamia rasulillah
colusa havilah hoonah Puna. Moulin aamupala moolah, moolah
all my friends they have going on so and also we know I did not have children or their loved one sakala he said to her externally the Nikki Abdullah
lovin mean a smell of blindness away. Oh well mold for Islam
and they used to him used to call isodiol on a Yeah, Omar Abdullah Abdullah also giving it some soft Yeah.
Her name is what I used to her. Tell her what?
You pre op Salah. This is jabril saying salam to you, Carla to Allah He said a la jolla Baraka to tarama rasulillah. You see that which I do not see almost a year of Allah.
cola had all of this will bring love and affection between you and your wife. Especially when you see her doing something good.
She's been cooking the whole day in the kitchen.
Hello, hello. Thank you. Dr. Lachman law school nurse Lascaux Allah. If you cannot say thank you, he and his wife standing all day long in the kitchen preparing the food for you when she has children, taken care of the children and she's running around the whole day and she is imprisoned in this house while your excellency as going out come back says Jessica low higher on tour. Thank you. Al mosqueda Howdy. Yahoo Allah says because of Allah So Pilate for the sake of Allah subhanahu wa Tada. Also
saying a good word when she's angry when she's upset.
Oh, you as a man don't
relax, relax. You're the boss. Remember we said you're the boss. You're in charge. You have the whistle you can call that relationship of at any time.
Why do you get upset? Why do you get mad? One reason I want you to reason why do you get mad and upset?
Relax chill. There is a low RSL MP Muslim. He says to I shall have the Lavanya one line by Allah in Nila. alifu haba vacuuming Devaki
I know when you get upset, Chef.
Chef I know when you get upset and I know when you're happy with me
when you're upset you always say let the Ibrahim know by the load of Ibrahim and when you're happy with me pleased with me you say level of Mohammed
no by the Lord of Mohammed che Shiva Shabbat
shalom. Look at the wife of Yolanda when she sometimes
you know wives also the the need to be at the same level yet. Sure. Well mahila euro
I only leave off seeing your name but you're here in my heart chakra color.
he's sitting in the farm with his wife and the moon Full Moon scheifele Elena, whatever her name is look at the full moon you look like the moon and you know that it was summertime so they were frogs frogs making car kakaka Do you hear the sound of the frogs sound of the frogs he
can fill armor with
sometimes, you know being in the same level that helps. Yeah, and the lovely bit of leftover the animal is a scenario.
The man is trying hard boom efficient. The women also look what law he'll do in less Mac Sheffield column, column columns you hope I only leave off your name and Assalamu alaikum Ciao
I'ma tell you
what I can
look at this a few other qalamoun didn't
even ask Zoda
we're talking about a woman here who's staying at home taking care of the family and the children also implementing that command
have a good character with them Why shouldn't
is supposed to be nice Say hi Robbie. kinda nice your wives.
Les bill owns
an RGB huddle, huddle.
huddle, huddle. Moser
Jani I look at this article, so al Bukhari 11 pages, or seven pages, I'm sorry, seven pages.
Imagine the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam is coming back. He's the master of Allah. He's in charge of the whole oma. And then he arrives at his house. And I want to tell him about something happened. And she told him every single words
what happened 11 women, basically 11 women in jail at a time
they decided to set with one another and each one of them will report her husband the way he is.
She will say something about her husband and his family and he will not gonna read the Hadith. But
I'm just trying to get to the essence here, which is what he is the Messenger of Allah. Imagine coming back tired, taking care of the theory of evolution through what we call
And he's sitting out there listening, listening to her statement of 11 women. I told I'm telling you if you obey the Bukhari seven pages and he's listening,
you leaving her at home, correct. She wants to speak with somebody and women like to talk bye bye for information women like to talk. If you do not communicate with your wife, you're in big trouble.
If you do not speak with her every single day, you must give her at least 1015 minutes Good. Good value, good. Value time, all your attention. Kick that phone out, switch off the television and sit with her listen to her what's going on every day until you if you don't do this, it will keep build up build up build up build up and she's not gonna come to ask you to speak with her. divorce me.
And Nevis Allah Allah wa sallam listens to her. And then at the end, he tells her I wish I'm like Abu Zahra to Hamza EV and he listened.
He was not like that. And sometimes when we speak with our wives, and she's
Yeah, and then she, she, she she she gets you she figures this out that you're not paying attention. What did they say? Ah.
And then you start the Susannah 1111 woman Phil Jenny. This happened in January
Will Ferrell they will kill kill me. What is this nonsense? Oh Jayla there he is listen to each one and then he chose the best hospital
you see each one of them reported her husband said My husband is this and this and this and this. The best of them was Amazon and then he says to her I'm gonna be like Abu Zahra.
So I'm going to be like the best of them to you Chevron collapse
at our sort of loss of a lot of audience and
plane with them
we're not gonna come and visit you and then broadcast them we were talking about your home
will be your with your wife at home, playing with her.
Yeah, and and in a Salalah cell embraced with his wife I supplies who for a while after her
work will have at the time before
they were returning from a battle. He asked the army to move ahead, and he said to her race with me.
And he raised with her Sabatini.
I was the little she won the first time.
then he waited until I started having what laughs
And then he got her back and said race with me and Salalah Salam was faster than her. So why why the one for one?
What would your wife have fun with them at home? play with him.
And listen to this. fee Cipla, Jose Manuel Muslim. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, kulula when barfing
every fund that you try to do
everything that you do for the sake of having fun, is bootless I think that's the word yonny. Useless. But bootless right.
Yeah, it's it's useless young, the meaning is useless, but it is useless is not valuable. Except
one around me.
That you train, what's your cell phone? What are the lit leaves? Let's move on with this one. Or
that you play with your horse. you train your horse, or you play with your app. You play with your wife you play with your children.
when nobody's allowed to sell them come up with Buhari
And he said to him, where are you going? He says, I just got married. Who did you get married to?
I am from a
woman who was married before from an uncertain and he says and the Quran to learn
how to live.
play with your wives. I mean, play with them, have fun with them. Let's have fun.
Another thing that you can do brothers and sisters in Islam, well, especially the brothers here or actually
another implementation of that.
That you show good character with your wife.
And you fulfill the will of the prophets of Allah while you're setting them in stone. So when they say hi Allah
be good and nice to your woman
is helping her in the housework.
Jani we know ideally in a family where the woman is staying at home, and you are the one who's going outside. The ideal thing is what is the woman is in charge for the housework.
You come back home. You cannot imagine how much you impact your wife positively. When you go and help her in the kitchen.
You cannot imagine because we're talking about being happy even when that when in a family where the husband is providing and hamdulillah and his wife is not working.
Even when the wife goes and helps the husband with with his responsibilities. She like this. You like this, don't you? When you're sitting in your office trying to do all this paperwork, her mercy and then she comes. Do you want me to organize your office for you? Don't you like this? The same exact thing
that you go Jani, so a lot of your Lavanya Ayesha was asked about the Lavanya 130 k for Ghana Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. TBT How was the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in his house? Paula, she said, Can Bashar Eonni this is the way how can a Bashar and mythical Bashar
can asuran misled Bashar he was a human being like any other human being. You fell he fell over.
He gets his clothes and he goes see if there is dirt here there is insects here you find litho
and he would
circle the his his boat or his sheep
was why are the Mona Lisa
and he used to serve himself. Reichenbach Harry, she says Can I aku Feeny is not the athlete. He used to serve us Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam used to serve his wives
for either How about your Salah. Learn how to rewire karma lasala but when it's time to praise you, we don't know him. He lives
at home at home.
And this is something that we we should do. Especially in some cases when your wife gets sick for example Narada when she's pregnant, she cannot even walk around the house
or when you are
Buy some company into the house helper can I help? You need help in the kitchen today? What can I do to help you? Listen, we're talking about you maintaining remember every single day, you still married to your wife, you proving that Satan is failing. Because remember, every single day shaitan is after this marriage. He wants to break you up. He wants to separate you all these things will make that marriage go when they one day all these things will make the marriage work.
Move on. Mashallah. Oh, all these things? Even wives they say you got a lot of credit today. You got a lot of credit because what he ended up doing what all these things would stay like.
Should I listen to this carefully? Why should
having a good character with your wife that you have Matura with her
that you consult her about your decisions
on a coffee Howdy. And arguably hadn't hadn't had it out of this world at Casa Thompson.
What happened and how you feel Buhari has so scented marijuana when hakama swallow, he is also allowed to sell and after he established the truce of the idea was so highly of nom de mushriks.
Basically, the agreement was that we're not going to go to Makkah. So he said to his companions, to savani stand up and shave your heads and slaughter your head.
Offer your sacrifice. And let's go back to muddy
Sahaba because of the grief and the sadness that they were longing
to go to,
and they were hoping that
something will come down. They were hoping for a deal they did not saying no to the Prophet, be careful with this one.
Be very careful know that.
Sometimes you find in the Sunnah, the Sahaba. The Companions or some of them say is it from your message of Allah from Allah, they are not differentiating between the two. But if it is from Allah, that means it's what
it's done. Linda
was shadow he knows the unseen shadow up the road with a Sri
Lankan avocado. So they are waiting, hoping that Allah Subhana Allah will bring revelation saying, you know what, just for they were hoping for this Friday, they are delaying.
Then he enters into his 10
and he's disappointed and sad for Colella, he said Tom Salama helical Muslim una Muslims.
The Muslims are in trouble yo masala
I told them to do something and they are not doing it. For call at law who flocked to Dharma, look at the the Akuma sometimes, sometimes Yana unit you need to discover your wife. Just talk with her and see what is your opinion. Look at this. Look what she says. Oh, whoa.
So meletakkan go out right now and do not speak. Do not say a word.
Blair to call him a hardened men who do not speak to any of them. Had
Buddha neck Buddha until you slaughter your camel. Whatever Oh Halak saya Allah cluck and then you call upon you. The barber the person who shaves to shave lay will help the barber to shave your your head for Harada then you can leave. He went out on a law settlement. He did exactly the same. He went out he got his camel slaughtered it can shave all the Muslims immediately and everybody this thing they knew that way. Let's just do it. But look, that's your wife, your wife. Oh, oh, by the way, and you look at us. You know how valuable this is that I come to you. Actually salamati kookiness the sheer luck tomorrow. Can I please give me your opinion about something Don't you feel
special? Don't you? Come on, don't you when somebody comes to minister Sheila maga Sharma, she does model
those techniques in color your wife the same thing. Honey, can we talk about this? This is this thing can we talk about it? How even if she is not having an opinion, this will raise hers. She was gonna say my husband likes me loves me. Things that are
That's that's how it is, we should use Matura with them.
Also another thing that you could do all of these are practical implementation implementation of that was
also a good character that you go out to visit others with your wife.
And we would not make this up, madam as soon as
And you make sure that the place where you go and do there is no music, there is no mixing, Baba Yanis era, yada, yada, yada, yada, yada, yada, there is no violation. If you had the
beautiful one, the Muslim Hadith and a cinematic
Look at this, and jaren Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam have any
ardella husana What can I play with
you and he prepared a meal for the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam and he used to be a good day has good the good cooking and good food for para la jolla. rasulillah Allah He said O Messenger of Allah, I am inviting you to come and eat in my house for call Allah who had he?
He said to him, and this too. I shall be alone. The man said no.
Time to understand why is it though, but it doesn't know. Just you.
You just you I just want you. It's just for you. Yeah, I really don't have time to go and find out. What the scholars said about this. Why did he say no to begin with? He said,
I'm not coming.
Me and my wife or we're not coming for Karla hula linderman left actually and then he returned. Yasuda la The food is ready for you Carla, we're heavy. What about this call? And he said yes, you can blame her for karma today. Five. They stood up rushing with one another go and found out when you go out with your wife.
Normally you break that boredom they call it right and melon is more optimal Phil Bay. Your wife gets bored at home. She's when you go out with her. Yeah, this is something that is that is good.
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10 more minutes sorry, we could finish this one shala woman host militia also assign that your Yani kinda nice
to your wife.
Why, you know Bill Maher.
One of them is that you spend on them.
That you spend in your family you spend in your life about him.
In our job,
you spin the new wife is mandatory Abu.
Why Allah says well, originally our Mona Lisa, de la Ba ba ba ba ba ba ba. And
you are the custodian you are in charge because you spend in your wife because you're spending on your family. Before the light that Allah subhanaw taala says noon. do certain men, women could you
tell him how soon
even if you don't have to have you still have to spend because it's upon you.
It's your responsibility to take care of this to take care of spending. If you shouldn't be there,
how small we have enough either of your loved one Malia
or the loved one. He says your Rasool Allah, Maha poo Haku
zodat de la what is the right of our wife
or once wife upon him. For Paula sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says to me, either
that you feed her from that which you feed yourself when you have a doctor say
and that you close her.
The circle had a
But look at this. And I really would like you to pay attention to how that manner even so it's incumbent upon you to take care of your wife and children.
Even so it is the responsibility. Even so you will be questioned why didn't you take care of it you're not allowed to sell them says cafe will not Eastman and you will buy Armani, Armani It's enough of a sin that you do not support the people who are under your custody. The people you are responsible for that you do not feed them that you do not close them that you do not provide for them. It's actually a way to be near Allah subhanaw taala to get near to Allah subhanaw taala Look at his face I am Muslim ebihara rhodiola Juan Carlos Allah, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, the noun and the houfy Sevilla. dinar is currency that you spend in the course of Allah. You
build the masjid you will the school whatever it is, what the noun and factor houfy are Acaba and Edina that you spend in freeing and somebody who's enslaved it the title Roma Woody, Woody now, Dr. De Allah miskeen and again another dinar that you give to a miskeen worthy noun and the who
and the knowledge that you spend on your family, look at this
ajuda a lady and talk to who
that you see, look at these categories here. He said barilla miski
miskeen and we said well, if you
look at this, and you're spending this for your family,
now some of us will say you will go and I'm working and I'm giving you my money. yaqi Nia, Nia, if you have the right intention, this is the best nefa you get rewarded for it.
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you do not spend any thing in the cause of Allah Subhana Allah, Allah subhana wa Taala provided that you're doing it for the cause of Allah sincerity.
But Allah Subhana Allah Subhana Allah will reward you, even that which
even that which you place in the mouth of your wife.
You feed your wife, Allah who will reward you, if you have the right intention.
Yes, it is a responsibility
yes, to certain means it maybe Salam says Kapha will not a yes man and
Amani aku Yes, it is a responsibility but you could find a way to Allah subhanho wa Taala and to be near Allah subhana wa tada and gain the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala because of your taking care of the expenditure of your wife.
As a nanny,
there are three diseases once it comes to this issue.
three big problems. Number one
Kathy Romanian Muslim in a lot of Muslim men, they are so stingy with their families.
Whenever salasar Yakumo I will show
a public body against this. Look at this and help me show Dr. efimova if you're stingy with your wife,
hint, been taught by the wife, Sophia.
She went to the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam. And she said you're rasulillah women, of course will become so happy with this lady. Yasser Allah in Sofia Raja Lune miseq. Abu sufian is a little bit a shy, shy
he doesn't spin the
now What did the Prophet say to her holy
take from his money.
But magic Viki manisa Tina law sisters fear Allah don't take all of his money.
All of his money.
Somebody called me Subhana Allah, his wife called the cops on him he went to jail and he had some cash in the house. She took the cash and run away.
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Take what will suffice you and your children according to us customer
I tell the brothers if you're stingy
if you love your wife is gonna go and what?
Why Why do we Why would you do this? Why would you put your wife in that situation? You actually
why didn't you sit together and agree what how much a month Do you need her? Here it is.
I agree with her. Well this is my income. You know how much do you need for this? How much do you need for that and and settle this with her instead of her going and sneaking behind your back and trying to get money because she has to do this. She has to provide for the family. She has to provide for the family.
The second sickness there are three sicknesses once it comes to this issue is being extravagant. You see the opposite?
That you're What?
What a jolly adakah, Nabu. lathan Isla opik wallethub. SATA, Columbus Walla, Tibet, delta zero in and MOBA v. Nakano.
extravaganzas is terrible, you find it and then some Muslims rooms now. Three, four cars, five cars parked in the parking lot.
You find what the home is like your garage?
What about the house in action?
And then the brother complains I have to take a loan. Look, while law if every Muslim checks his bill every month and he goes through each single item. He will find out he does not need to disobey Allah to live at all. He will find out that he can live he can live without having to disobey Allah subhanaw taala by dealing in ribbon so it's extravagant. The among is the servant of a rock man. Why better off man? One of the attributes qualities well Edina either aku Lem, you sifu wala yocto Waka anabaena Danica karma Don't be from the brothers of shaitan
brothers of Satan are those who are traveling and but the brothers of
B from the servants of rough man those who are simply
stay in the middle we said three sicknesses right? The third sickness in men will either
Of course you spending in your wife hmm and then when she gets you angry and upset, I have given you this and I have given you that and I did this to you and I did and I bought you this and I got it. Yeah, you
can bill money whatsoever. Do not do man hulless you spend it for the sake of Allah right? Because it's your responsibility and you're trying to basically gain the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala don't come back and try it I will and I go to this and I got you this real real brother does not see this little man had a laser and impervia
Muslim. With this inshallah we have shed a lot of light on the concept of Alicia novels, how can we treat our wives in a kind way? There is a little piece that is left and it's so important, which has to do with the bed relationship, and inshallah we'll delay this to get you to the next lecture.
This is the special piece. We're gonna stop here. It's about the relationship between the husband and wife in the bed. And the nature of that relationship. Islam spoke about this efe and also tells you for play and all that stuff that we hear in the movies, we it's it's here in the sun now, but next week, inshallah Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.