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The series of lectures on the topic of marriage and divorce will be on a weekly basis, and the series will be on Wednesday after the first lecture. The success of marriage in Islam is bounty for married women, and the importance of praying for marriage is emphasized. The segment also touches on the benefits of marriage, including protecting oneself from sexual predators and finding one's partner's, as well as the importance of finding a good marriage contract and protecting one's wealth and family. The segment ends with a brief advertisement for a book called "by Jesus."

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Can you come closer?

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In and hamdulillah mahamadou who want to stay in who want to stop?

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When we let him in surely I'm fusina wanna say? Melina manga de la, la, la La

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fille de la

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la, la la la haut de vous la sharika y shadow Anna Mohammedan Aveda who won a solo? My brothers and sisters in Islam Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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This is the first lecture of our new series inshallah, which will take us some days to complete. And it will be weekly, every Wednesday after Maghrib vanillite Allah.

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And basically, the series is called focal aucilla.

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Which I chose a name which is love marriage and divorce. But in reality, we're talking about the family.

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The family is the first brick in a Muslim community.

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And if it is sound, then the community will be sound.

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If it is not, then the community will not be sound.

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It's exactly like the heart in the body.

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And we have to admit, my brothers and sisters in Islam,

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that we are having serious problems at our homes.

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Because when we got married, we did not know how to go about it.

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As a matter of fact, let me say this, we did not know that the religion has a say

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about it.

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A lot of people

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lack of knowledge,

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lack of understanding

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about the religion of Islam

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Subhana Allah, which teaches us how to go to the bathroom.

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Our religion teaches us how to answer the call of the call of

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You think our religion then we'll ignore

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such an important

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thing in our

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everyday life. Absolutely not.

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If you check the Quran

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you will find the Quran once it comes to the Salah for example. The Quran says we're up to masala establish the Salah.

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Then the Sunnah came and explained how to pray.

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When it came to family issues.

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The Quran spoke about it in details.

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marriage and divorce. We have a whole chapter.

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The second longest chapter in the Quran, called the women.

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It talks about marriage and divorce and how to go about it. We have a whole chapter called the divorce in the Quran.

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So our religion provided ways to form the family

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provided ways to live

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as Muslims within that family, but because a lot of us are not aware of it, then we'll go ahead and adopt other ways. And this is

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the result of this. We have what we have

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families breaking apart.

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divorce rate is high in the Muslim world. Every six minutes in the Muslim world, there is one divorce

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in the Muslim world.

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We're approaching the same ratio of non Muslims.

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We have a serious problem.

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And I'm telling you, for us to reform the oma and come back. We have to begin from there.

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winning an election

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having the house of speakers is not the solution. The solution

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How can we reform our Muslim homes inshallah

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brothers and sisters in Islam

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normally, before we begin, I am to explain the title which I chose

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the title is made of three words, love.

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What I meant by love really is the duration of engagement

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the time which comes before marriage,

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that you start developing feelings for the opposite gender. Islam has a say about this to what you can do and what you cannot do.

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We're gonna explain this. How can you actually Bravo's and who you can propose to and who you cannot propose to? And how should the father handle a marriage proposal? According to the Sharia, according to the dean with evidence,

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and what the Bravo's the what would they call the fiance and the fiancee something like that what they can do and what they cannot do.

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This is love in reference.

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I'm hoping this love will continue on during marriage.

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But our religion tells us that is not necessary.

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Love may disappear after the first second third year of marriage.

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Then another thing emerges called Rama. Merci.

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Amin is iottie and Holla Holla comin amphu sukham as well gently Tesco Allah wa Jalla Bina Kumar data, this is love woroch ma mercy. One of Allah has signs that he needs for you from your own selves, mates, spouses, where you find peace and tranquility. Second, and he plays between you both love and mercy.

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So basically, Islam is telling you, if love disappears, then be merciful with one another. This woman still your sister,

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this woman, still your sister, be merciful to her, this brother, still your brother, be merciful with him.

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So but the ideal thing that love continuous love carries on after marriage. But I'm telling you, let's be realistic.

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In a lot of cases, it does not. Now, there are some boundaries for a husband, he cannot cross. There are some responsibilities above the husband that he must fulfill.

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And also there are some boundaries upon a woman or for women who cannot cross and there are responsibilities above a woman above the wife that she has to fulfill. Regardless, now we'll we will explain this in sha Allah

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and the evening light IRA. This will take us to the final piece

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which is having problems.

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Marriage problem,

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marriage problems. I want to say that the house of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had marriage problems.

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If you pretend that you do not have marriage problems in your homes in your houses, I'm sorry, you're lying to yourself.

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I'm telling you, the house of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had problems, but now how to deal with these problems, how to resolve these problems?

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how to go about it. And what happened if it cannot be resolved, who should you go to? To find the solution?

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And then at the end of the day,

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then at the end of the day, if it is not working, possibly, possibly is not going to work. Divorce is the solution.

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But now, when Muslims divorce, they kill one another.

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Vengeance from one another No.

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divorce. We're going to teach you how to go about divorce with the least damages.

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I'll never forget this day when some brother

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called me and I know him personally in Egypt. And he's asking me I wanted to go and perform Hajj for my father.

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Brother in law

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and I know he got divorced.

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And I said, What do you mean? Aren't you divorces? Yeah, but my ex I mean ex father in law. his ex father in law still likes him. Even so he divorced his daughter to call him to perform Hajj for him.

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That means a lot.

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That means when he divorced this woman, he followed the Sharia. He followed the deen

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with the least damage.

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Because my brothers and sisters in Islam, like marriage, both people together, both families together, divorce destroy these bonds, these relationships. That is why you have to follow the Sharia. You have to follow the dean in how to divorce

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because marriage is the most important of the three words beetelite Allah allow me today to give a little introduction

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about marriage and the importance of marriage. First of all, Allah subhana wa Ireland made it one of the signs for his mind and power.

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Woman area tea he unheard of color coming full circle as well.

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One of the signs of Allah subhanho wa Taala that he made for you, from your own selves.

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Wives, meets

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the scholars of the field they say, Allah subhanho wa Taala could have

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made all the children of Adam or made all of Adams males. And then he would have created for example for him, females but from another race like Jin.

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But as a matter of fact, Allah Subhana Allah created from you, your spouse, and you read in the books, that when Satan Adam alayhis salam,

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our father was created.

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And he was placed in Paradise by himself. He feels lonely.

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He felt alone. No one is around him.

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Then Allah Subhana Allah created from him

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from his rip,

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his wife,

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Eve, however,

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and he placed between us

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my word, love

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and mercy.

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Marriage brothers and sisters in Islam is actually a bounty

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of bounty. Allah subhanaw taala

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labeled to be a bounty from Allah Subhana Allah, Allah Subhana Allah says in Surah Tina, will La Jolla La La kumin m fusi comm as well

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where jalila come in, as well as your company in our halfa waratah paku minocqua

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and Allah meet for you, from your own selves, spouses, mates, and out of your mates out of your wives. He given you children and grandchildren

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and he bestowed upon you of his boundaries. So marriage as a matter of fact, is a bounty.

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So if you're married, you should be grateful to Allah subhanho wa Taala

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and if you're able to marry, you should be grateful to Allah subhanaw taala and go and get married.

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Marriage brothers and sisters in Islam, Minh akkad Sunil MBA

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the way of all the profits

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what occurred our cell now roussillon min Camila Khawaja la home as jeonhwa to re

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O Muhammad, we have

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sent messengers before you

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and we made for them wives, wives, wives, and I'm not going to say more than that.

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And offspring

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say Abraham had to Sarah and her job. Correct? Say the Suleiman had 101 day he said La la la la la

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rue La Crosse have a look at the Bill Hader he console the two

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men Eric and Sunil MBA deal for

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messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us to get married.

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But before the messenger we say Allah subhana wa Taala also commanded us to get married.

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Allah commanded you to get married Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran when careful area mommy income was solid in the Kuma

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the Ayana, those who are needing marriage and they are not very well off

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and the righteous of your servants.

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Allah Subhana Allah says in Surah Nisa, the famous verse that older men memorize, then caribou moto Bella camino Nisa, Marina was una hora Anika of handle one

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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When added nspc Muslim, when those three individuals came to the house of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam hanifa

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and they asked

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his manner of rulership

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is my ruffian has a lot of benefits, but I'm quoting it just for one thing.

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Basically, they came to the house of the Prophet sallahu wa sallam three individuals from out of town. And they asked the wives of the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, how does he worship? What does he do? They explained to him, of course, they said sometimes he plays with us. Sometimes he actually cooks food, sometimes he and when time to pray, he leaves. So these three individuals they said, you know what the prophet sallallahu wasallam is not making enough is not pray is not doing enough.

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bad hard.

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work. And now Mr. Paul Lu, and then they felt like that is not good to say about the Prophet sallallahu sallam, you know why he's not doing enough? Because Allah Subhana Allah has forgiven all his past and his future sins.

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Well, this is even not correct.

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Yeah, Jani is about the Lavanya when she entered into his room, when he was praying into the room when he was praying, to the extent that his feet got swollen from standing at night praying to hydrate and she asked him sallallahu alayhi wasallam Why, why are you doing this? He said, When Allah subhana wa tada has forgiven all your past and future sins. What did he say? FLR aku? Arden, Shakira, shouldn't I be a grateful servant of Allah, a shadow. The important thing is one of them said, I will fast every single day.

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The other one said, I will pray the head good every single night. I will spend the whole night every night in Salah never sleeps. The third one saying you know those women and children who will occupy me from the worship of Allah. I'm not going to do it. I'm just going to stay as a monk, no marriage robinia What did the Prophet sallallahu Sallam say about them? He right away called the whole oma to the masjid. And he got on the bobet and he said to ma la casa de la palabra. I heard what these three individuals are saying while la he by Allah in Nila Alamo, Camilla, and the most knowledgeable amongst you have Allah subhana wa tada and his attributes. And his name's what I said to Camilla

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Harsha. And I'm the most fearful of Allah amongst you. And I pray at night, and I sleep at night, and I fast and I break fast and I marry women.

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Well, I

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will act as a word UniSA rather the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in another Hadith he says hope Viva La Ameen. Dunya como Nisa what we will do a lot karatu ie for Salah. The two things that I love most from your dunya from your dunya is women and musk and the apple of my eye my comfort. I always find it in the Salah very soon until MBA.

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Soon until MBA and a refusal Allah wa sallam commanded us to do it. He actually called upon the youth and especially right now in the oma, we have the youth who say we shouldn't get married now. You know, some some young men they say let me just play around for a couple of years for 1015 years and then get married after that.

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Atilla tequila the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam adhesiveness Road well how do you say hi addresses they use Yana Shara Shara or use many Stata I mean qumola at affiliate so if you're able to get married get married woman let me stop and if you're a if you're not able to add a song for inner hula who will then fast of course the movies and the soap operas they kill you take cold showers, cold showers is not going to help. Okay if you have that craving for the opposite gender fasting to do with fasting will bring you down. Oh this is important for our youth to know this is important for our youth to know.

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This is a question and what is

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it? What is Bessie Annie been wounded them they

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know how mahak Monika

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what is the ruling regarding marriage in Islam?

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When you ask that question, what is the ruling? What do we mean? You see any command that we have in the Quran or in the Sunnah falls into five areas must do meaning work? Why?

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You must do it means Why do you recommend it? What does it mean? Why is it that you're sinful if you do not do it?

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That you must do it you have no choice man that already

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recommended meaning you could do it. It's up to you. If you do it, you get rewarded if you do not do it, you don't get punished. There is muster there is MOBA. It's permissible between and there is this life to do it. And there is haram to do with five areas. So when I say what is the ruling regarding marriage in Islam,

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here it is, number one, it is mandatory upon every Muslim who is able to financially and physically and he's being exposed to fit Nah, because of women.

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It is mandatory upon this person to marry if you have the money. And if you have the physical strength. And you're going around looking at women,

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maybe going around and because looking is haram wilhelminian domina busara him, aka luminati I'm sorry him that also applies for women. Now if you're able to do this, then you have to get married to protect yourself from the fitna. It is this like to leave it, in this case highly disliked leave it because you're in need for it. It is recommended upon a person who's able to but he is doing okay with the fitna of the women. Because I want to tell you brothers and sisters in Islam, and do not deceive yourselves about this. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, as a as a Muslim man to faith Nah, I said do Allah reject Amina Nisa.

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Oh, I have not left a fitna a test that is harder, more hard or harder on men than the women.

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The thickness of the men is the woman that is the messenger. This is what Allah says. Now don't say no, I'm in control and

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carry on.

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Doing this, deceive yourselves. Don't deceive yourself, then tell him if Tim should get them aka. Dr. Pepper.

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Yeah, and when some cool girl walks in front of you with ear moves

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when I'm in control, oh, the only way for you is to protect yourselves by marriage. So it is recommended for that person who is able to it is haram and in some cases disliked for a person to marry who is that person who is not physically fit and you know what I mean by that he does not have the ability to have intercourse with his spouse. Unless he reveals that to her before marriage and she agrees to it. That's another issue that for example, they just want to be together for

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not necessarily for this but I am telling you this the having the intercourse is mandatory. You must be able to do it in order to get married.

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in the minutes I still have, I still have maybe 20 minutes. I want to mention seven benefits

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that you harvest from getting

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married. Basically, I'm trying to convince you to get married tonight. If you're not married, if you're married, that's fine. But if you if you're not married, then I want to, and you're able to I want to convince you to get married. Number one, like I said,

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the best way to protect yourself

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is from that fitna, the greatest fitna that basically left for us men,

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which is women is to get married and have a Muslim,

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but understand the problem properly.

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Allah sallallahu Sallam Prophet salallahu alaihe salam says, In Malacca to be roofie surah t shaitan tobon Allah. They come after you women chalet Actually, that's not what the Hadith says.

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Basically, when a woman walks in front of you shaitan beautifies her in your eye,

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makes her beautiful.

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will allow her in Alma either for Jasmine Beatty as rough as shaitan when the woman leaves her house, in a way that she's an icon of temptation. shaitan basically looks at her and says, How can I make the best use out of you? Come, look,

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and then he would beautify her in your eyes.

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In Alma either Harada Minda is Sasha shaitan Hari, but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says he was a Muslim in America took me roofie surah t shaitan. What would be roofie surah t shaitan

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that she goes out shaitan beautifies her in your eyes? And let's say you're married. You desire this woman.

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You see what the prophet sallallahu Sallam says, for either a hadoken minima 18 mer you achieve Woohoo, failure at Allah.

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If you're walking in the streets, and your eyes landed in a woman

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shaitan beautified her too much in your eyes. Go and sleep with your wife.

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Why for in Delica era do maths enough see this will help you to kick off that thought. You go to your wife of

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solution. By the way, how many of us experienced this? Come on? Let's be realistic here. Our solution? Our way of production right here. Right here.

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The Rasul Allah, Allah salam, when he commanded us to get married,

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to get married, commanded Who? The youth

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who may that desire, by the way in the youth is the highest when you grow up, it declines.

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It fades away.

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But for the youth, the peak and that is why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he encouraged he said, Yeah, I'm not sure I shut up. Or youth minister pa I'm in khumba at affiliate as a watch. If you're able to get married, get married. If you're not able to then fast. Allah subhanaw taala when he described the believers in Surah, mini and solar the moon, what did he say? But after the honeymoon alladhina homefield Salatin,

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one lady in a home, live Fuji him harfield hoon. One of the attributes of a believer that they got their private parts that they do not commit illegal sexual intercourse

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with someone whom you're not supposed to.

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Hmm, Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam a

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man young man Lee Medina FACA he was very he Amanda Holden.

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guarantee for me two things. What is between your two jaws? And what is between your two thighs? I will guarantee gender for you.

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And for Julie shaniqua are the most dangerous tools that you have.

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Marriage can help you. So the first benefit that you harvest from marriage is you're able to protect yourselves from such a thing. Because Listen, Allah fashion you to desire the opposite gender. Now, the only way for you to fulfill that desire is by marriage any other way is a lawful is illegal is unlawful in the sight of Allah

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Hi now what Allah was Xena. Adultery is a major sin in Islam

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is a major sin in Islam.

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That's one benefit. I'm going to quiz you about these benefits.

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The second benefit, listen to this

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Rasul Allah Allah Allah wa salam says, at dunia Mata, the life of this world is a temporarily enjoyment. Listen to this Waheguru mata

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xojo saleha.

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And the best of its enjoyment is a righteous wife.

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Well I have the best enjoyment of dystonia is a wife, who is righteous and pious,

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who you go home

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and find comfort

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that you want to be there. You want to stay the

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Ghanian Royal Opera, that

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sooner or later that this wording right now for say a Muslim,

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another wording or a couple of nonverbal aspects for sooner sooner an essay Rasul Allah Allah says, either Navarre la has a service.

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When you look at her she pleases you.

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Women now the wives now when they are at home, they are like policemen

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she's willing always the kitchen cloth. And when she goes out she boots

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the white and the black and they go on for who

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you're supposed to be vice versa you're supposed to be at beautify yourself for your husband. Not for the people outside. Oh, for either Novotel la her as a rock. If you look at her, she will please you

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will either accent Allah our luck.

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And when you take an oath on her by Allah you have to do this. She tells you Yes, I will do it.

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And you say Allah, a woman now you take an oath and her her. She does the contrary. I shall assume Tara to Malta Marshall Misaki in order for you to fast three days or two feet in Misaki just to get you in trouble.

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But so just slowly I will not do this

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will either rip the antenna? And if you leave the house,

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You don't even have a doubt that she will guard you in herself

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and in your money.

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She's not going to allow someone to come into the house in your absence, and she will guard your wealth. Isn't that what you want?

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Isn't that the type of partner who you want? Yes, well, when Allah subhanaw taala described that relationship between the husband and wife he says with Hannah with Allah, Allah.

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Allah Allah Hoon Lee basler Kuma and Tom Lee bass hula when

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you know what the best means?

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They are a government for you. And you are a government for them.

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That means you were one another. Government also it means the value. We all have shortcomings.

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We all have shortcomings. Your spouse should value should protect you.

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Because you're exposed to her and she's exposed to you.

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Now, we're like garments to one another. Also the concept of garments worn when you're cold. You'll find this warmth and that relation ship.

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We need this as human beings. You need to understand this we need this. We need to be able to fulfill that sexual drive that we have. We need to have these feelings at home. So when we get out of the house, we're ready to help the oma

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you know the problem is now our houses are not like that. That is why you come out of the house trouble fighting with everybody because you're fighting at home. But if you find the second at home, the peace at home, the tranquility at all the serenity at home, you will be able to go outside and fight not in the sense of fighting but rather deep

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With the challenges which you're facing, but what happened, what is happening now to us, to a lot of us that were facing challenges at home, the home is turning into a battleground, and we'll go outside, also a battleground, that is not our feet, we're not feeling that peace, and inshallah you Yanni I want to stay positive and busy mystic in sha Allah, busy mystic or optimistic? Yeah optimistic in sha Allah. So the purpose or the intention behind that series is to make this happen in sha Allah.

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Thank you.

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Number three, like I said, marriage brings families together

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Subhanallah someone from Palestine, marries another person from Egypt. two families are coming together. Huge. Two blocks are coming together. And Subhan Allah Allah mentioned this in the Quran. Well, who will lead the Hala communal in a bath Sharon fecha Allahu ness haben was citra

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and Allah Subhana Allah created from the water, a human being, and then he turned that human being into basically nessa relationships was the raw

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Subhana Allah.

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You end up marrying a woman and then you end up having the whole family. That's my brother in law.

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And you probably don't know the family. You just got to know the women. But that is your brother in law. That is your father in law that is your mother in law.

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And uncle

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so that's one of the boundaries of marriage.

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alphabet masala

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he went to Banila masala a tribe in the Arabia.

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And he basically captured the majority of the people there

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to be prisoners of war.

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Technically they turn into slaves.

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But we'll have a

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look at this now. Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married Julia.

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Julia is one of the life of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam among many you area bentall Harris.

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So basically all the almost 2000 of her tribesmen, they are related to her.

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Now in the companions learned that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam marriage area, they said shame on us to hold family members of the life of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam as captives

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freedom. All of them are free because of UAE mental health. Why? Because they are related to who? To the wife of the Prophet salallahu audio center.

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So this is another bounty that we get out of marriage. Yeah, if we're Rasul Allah, Allah wa sallam, we already had the love. This statement is normally said in the tongue of people as our junus food Dean. Getting married is half of the religion. And that really comes from a Howdy. Howdy, Ronnie, we Saladin, Hassan Hadith and Sunnah Malika Viola Juan, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, men Tessa was after this tech miscellaneous pettine. Whoever gets married, he has completed half of his deal.

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What does it mean? What does mean? That he's protecting himself

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that he is not going to commit.

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A lot of haraam. He is guarding half of his de familia tequila half innisfil.

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Then be careful about the second half for whatever lucky an hour back home where we come from Villa Carmel, Dena, remember half of your religion Why didn't you do have your religion? Get married half half filfil. Well,

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another wording of this Hadith, Mustafa al Hakim, Fatah distech Mela, Aeneas Eman, half of the faith that means the other half is easy to fulfill. Number five, marriage here is what is the only way to have children.

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Children who come out of wedlock

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are weak, not accepted in the society, a buzina. And if

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you are neither is an actually this is the view of the majority of the jurist that if you have a choice

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out of wedlock, it's not to be related is not to be named after you only have

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one camera in the view of the minority is more.

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Yani accepted

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tomato shuffle Islam. But the view of the majority of the universe, they say that if you have a child out of wedlock is not to be named after you.

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Because it's a son of adultery.

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And so panela How many children now,

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in this time where we live, they come out of wedlock as a result of illegal, unlawful relationship between a man and a woman. Oh, for the only way for you to have a child who will be who will not be harassed in the society, who will not be harmed in the community is by getting married, getting married and having children Yes, what should be your goal?

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Annie, they tell you

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the problem with a lot of the Muslim right now that if you ask them why do you get married? Why do you want to marry

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the Guna stellar

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they are not going to answer you right away.

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Or more than Katara Johan says what what law he in Nila are woofing nikka. By Allah I do not desire having intercourse with my spouse. Look at Roma. Whether kinni aqui Hoon FC Island nikka had Yahoo Jae min Buhari NASA Mattoon to set the hola

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but I forced myself to it with the intention of having offspring who will say la ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasul Allah,

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children Yeshua, you see when you produce children, and you bring them up as Muslims, you are bettering the future of the oma. And this is not only your own work, no katapola de la Han, says natural a man the Hadith that I quoted earlier.

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What did he say? How do you spell Bukhari? Allah by Allah aku fennel Lila, tonight, I will go around all of my wife's 100 of them. Why in order to have children who will serve the cause of Allah

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say this will Amen. While I'm here Stephanie, he did not say in sha Allah, that he did not work.

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He got a fetus.

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Because he never saw Sal and says that while me as Stephanie would have said insha Allah

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he would have got the 100 children, but he did not say insha Allah that is why he got a fetus for the intention is to have children. I want to tell you something, the best investment

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and the best investment that you can make is to have righteous children. Now, Daniela

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So the fifth benefit of getting married my brothers and sisters in Islam, like we mentioned is to have children

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Rasul Allah Azza wa sallam actually told us to choose the woman who can give you give you children. He says, there's a word called Word who do Alva doodle well, who would

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marry the women who are loving and childbearing? Who can give you children. It tells you also that when you have children, it will lead to love.

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Sometimes that bond between you and your spouse develops actually after having children, after seeing the produce, after seeing the harvest of that relationship, that you see that child is the result of that relationship, lawful relationship between you and this woman, children, brothers and sisters in Islam is the best investment. I'm telling you. If you want to make an investment with Allah, invest in your children.

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Invest in your children. When you teach your children how to pray, you get rewarded, when you teach them the Quran, you get rewarded. A child who memorizes the Quran will place ground made out of light on the heads of the parents in the day for the erection. Even when your child dies, and you are patient.

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How do you feel Buhari? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that when Allah subhana wa Taala takes the soul of a child of a believer.

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Then Allah subhanaw taala will ask the angels

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and Allah Subhana Allah knows best. I have taken the soul

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of the son of so and so what is he saying?

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What is he saying?

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Allah subhana wa tada knows. But the angels will report and say to Allah Subhana, Allah, Europe, they are saying he's saying Alhamdulillah

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he's praising you.

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He's praising you, Oh Allah for taking his son. Because there is no, there is nothing he can do about it. nothing he can do about it. Allah Subhana Allah will commend the angels built for my servant, a house in paradise. Call him call this house, the house of praise.

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Nevis Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he soon and in Sai is

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one of his companions used to come and sit with him. And he used to bring his little boy with him.

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And he used to love He used to hug him and touch him and you can see the love between a father and his son.

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Later on the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam noticed that this companion does not come anymore.

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So he asked, Where is he?

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They said O Messenger of Allah, his son died.

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The child he used to bring with him to your gathering passed away.

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But before I when Rasulullah Salallahu alaihe salam saw him playing with his child. He actually asked him this question and he said to him,

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Do you love your son? You know what the father say? I have become law who cannot

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shoot. May Allah love you as much as I love my child.

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Then Allah subhanaw taala takes the son away from him.

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So later on

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Rasul Allah wa salam called upon him to come

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back to the gathering.

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And then the Rasul sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells this father, would you like your child to open the gate of gender for you?

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Then the patient for hatha Subhanallah female till Abner Mikva,

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if you

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look under Sofia 31 of the Imams, he actually the thought occurred to him,

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he had one of his, the only son actually who has and he read this hadith about the virtue of having your son dies and your patient. So his son is walk in front of him.

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And he says Yamuna Allah

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Jin, he wants to go to Japan

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so panela his son died

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Oh, Abdullah II believe if I'm not mistaken, his son passed away. You know they asked him Okay, fair. Okay, fair. And how are you feeling? By Allah? abou them and mineral?

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Am urinating blood because of my grief over my son.

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Jani they can benefit you in the dunya Look at this. There was also a law to sell them when honey sauce is Muslim. He says when you die when you die, you receive no more good deeds in America. No Adam I will insane in kapa amaru inland in

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the first one is what well, Dune saw Yahoo near the righteous offspring who will invoke the mercy of Allah upon you for how are you going to get children? What is the way to have children, children who come out of wedlock. They are not the way to go. They are weak. But the best way to have children is to basically get married.

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Brothers and sisters in Islam. Marriage is a way to earn a lot of Massenet

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to earn a lot of good deeds. fee Sai Muslim Hadith Abbey

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Road The Allah one.

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The pool of the Muslims came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and they said to him, Yara, Sol Allah, or messenger of Allah, they have a blue ribbon.

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The wealthy and rich people got all the rewards. They pray like we pray. They fast like we fast.

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But they are rich. They give sadaqa so they get rewarded more

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told the pool of the Muslims every time you say Subhana Allah you get a soda Alhamdulillah you get a Hasina you get a hacer una Alhamdulillah you get a hacer una Allahu Akbar. You get a hacer una you enjoy in good forbid evil. You get a Hashanah. Here it is. Wolfie both a Heidi Kuma sada Hashanah.

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And if you sleep with your spouse,

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if you go and make intercourse with your wife, you get a kasana

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your rasulillah or messenger of Allah. I don't know what

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one of us will come and fulfill his desire and he's still good. Get a good deed because of it. What happens if he places it in haraam? Within he get a sin? Yes, hacker for even when you sleep with your wife with the intention that you want her to be protected, because the wife also needs that. Women also have that sexual desire. Now the only way for her to fulfill this is through you. So if you have that intention before sleeping with your spouse, you get a Hasina brothers and sisters in Islam Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on Hades Mata fatale

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in tune Fukunaga, cotton Tabitha dB, hawala, Illa Allah Hi.

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Fi fi rhotic

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there is no naka any spending that you make any amount of money when you go shopping to this to the store. When you go to the store shopping, you frustrated aren't you? Because you're going to end up spending $100 $200

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right. Have your intention that you want to feed your spouse for the sake of Allah. This is a sadhaka

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coffee theme or attic. What do you feed your spouse? What do you feed your

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Life What do you feed your children even if you die protecting your family. If someone comes and attacks you in your home and you stand for the person to protect your family and protect your wealth EULA Shaheed Alhaji fishermen Abbe de una manmadhudu li one le for whoever Shaheed whoever dies, protecting his family and his wealth. He is a martyr in the sight of Allah.

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Number seven and the last Subhana Allah, a lot of us think that when we will get married

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is going to be difficult. We're not going to have money, we're not going to have means, as a matter of fact, and listen to this Hadith, Alhaji Fie Sunni Lima with tirmidhi will hack in washerman Senato Hassan Fela tune How can Allah wa whom

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three types of people they are entitled to the help of Allah help

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sirianni Allah promises that he will help them. One of them. Al Mujahideen de Sevilla, someone who goes out in the cause of Allah subhana wa tada to Alamo caribou Riedel as someone who was enslaved and he told his master, I want to be free, how much $100,000 Allah will help that person to air to earn to gain his liberty. Number three, when nakki who you read will FF

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and someone who wants to get married in order to protect himself and God has checked chastity. So Allah subhana wa Taala will help you brothers and sisters in Islam. In conclusion, just a Kamala Harris This is like the first lecture of the series love marriage and divorce, like I said, but I want to close by saying

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and listen carefully to is

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Allah subhana wa Taala called

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the marriage contract in the Quran.

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or describe it to be

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me and Holly for

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a firm

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and a strong covenant.

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When you go and marry a woman,

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that covenant in the sight of Allah

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is strong,

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very strong and very firm. As a matter of fact, the only other covenant The only other contract, the only other contract, covenant means a contract. The only other contract which Allah Subhana Allah giving it that description, you know what contract the contract which Allah subhanaw taala has with the prophets and the messengers to convey the message. What if 100 Naveen Naveen and the third woman come in knowing what Ebrahim Allah is apne Maria, what a husband wife rahima Moosa is apne Maria, what occurred Naveen home? Mita Saliba. Fadi careful, you need to learn how to fulfill the conditions of this contract. You need to learn how to fulfill it. Because in the Day of

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Resurrection, if you are falling short, regarding your duties and responsibilities regarding the marriage contract, you're going to be questioned and going to be asked about it in the day for selection in sha Allah. The next lecture, we're going to begin talking about the first part of the series, which is the marriage proposal. Who can you propose to the etiquettes of proposal, the guardian of the women, how he should respond? What the marriage proposal allows the fiance and the Fiancee to do, basically, and who you cannot propose to so don't miss the next lecture in Sharla. We're gonna talk about al helped by

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proposing to marry in Islam till then Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh