The Right To Both Parents – In their Shoes

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Zahir Mahmood

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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Karim Allah Allah He was hubie woman Serbia home. Son Isla de Nova their respective brothers elders sisters. salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah.

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The greatest sin that a person can commit,

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which is

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not forgiven by Allah subhanho wa Taala is to commit Schick.

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This is the greatest sin, where you prescribe a partner and to Allah. So Allah Who created everything out of nothing, and then you turn around say, No, you're not actually absolute. There are others, equal to you, this is the greatest sin in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And it's interesting

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that in many places, in the Quran,

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where Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about chittick

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He also speaks about being good to your parents.

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So, where he speaks about, do not prescribe partners with me in multiple places, he will go and then speak about being good to your parents. And the reason for this is Allah subhana wa Taala wants to signify how important it is to be good to your parents, to obey your parents to be you know, people who who will not ever take off to their parent This is what Allah tala requires of a believer, what often do not even say off to your parents. And so Pamela Majin off is like today would be something,

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you know, some some, if you can't say that Allah Subhana Allah hits the lowest denominator, therefore anything above that is worse.

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One thing

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that Allah subhanho wa Taala has created the most important union that you will or you could even say a contract that you and I, most of us will undertake in our life

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is marriage

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is where you marry a nother person, you have a nikka you have a contract with that person. That is that you will remain faithful to that individual you will remain good to that person.

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Now,

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the purpose of the law it was seldom said abogado Heller in the law talaq the most despised the most despised. halaal. The thing in the eyes of Allah is the luck. And a wonder he mentioned when a husband gives his wife the lock the urge of Allah shakes.

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This is the most despised thing, but it's halaal. Why? Because sometimes you have two individuals who actually have two very good individuals, but they can't get on.

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They're just not compatible.

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And that same person goes on to marry somebody else and they get on fine.

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So two individuals who may not be compatible. On other occasions, what you have is maybe a husband, who's oppressive to the wife. And as a consequence, she can't bear it and she leaves.

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In some cases you have where the wife may be oppressive in one form or the other abusive, oppressive, and therefore he wants out. Now this is a part and parcel of life. This is how it is. But even look interlock. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, For him, sir could be maroof otoscope, three of the ESA

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if you decide to keep your wife's, then live with them maruf in a good way. maruf is the opposite of evil Mancha.

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If you decide that you want to keep your wives, then it's not just a matter of you keeping your wives or staying with your husbands but it has to be in a manner which is in a good way

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out the 300 son, and if you decide to go your own ways, listen to the words of the Quran. You decide to go your own way. You can't get on there for one reason or then even in your moment of separation, your moment of talak the three

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Big sun, even Allah wants to be a boss in a good person, a actually a person who does favors on other people, even in your moment of talak Pamela

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and many societies and many individuals have taken a person that if to husband and wife don't go on, we will make life hell for him or her and everybody connected around them.

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In another place, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, We're not done. So we'll follow Allah

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Subhana look at the words of the Quran. If you decide to go your own way. Don't Don't forget the Father, don't forget the virtue amongst you. Don't forget your moments. Don't forget the year, the five years, the 10 years, the 1520 years that you shared together, in those moments that were very many moments which were happy moments, many moments where you laughed and you cry together many moments who you played where you went to holiday where you had shopping, time you spent your bedroom together for years, a law saying they said if you decide to go your separate ways, don't forget the father which will between you. And then Allah subhanho wa Taala says in the lobby Matata Luna Brasil

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remember this?

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Allah ultimately is watching what you do.

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allows you to see Allah knows, Allah says Allah knows what you are doing. You can do whatever you want in this dunya.

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But remember, when you go back to Allah subhanho wa Taala then Allah subhanho wa Taala will take you into account.

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And this is the beautiful life such beautiful teaching of the deen of Allah panel hautala you get away with it in this dunya but watch, ultimately, you will die, you will die and you will stand in front of Allah subhanaw taala on the Day of Judgment. And you know, how many people are dying around us now. Every morning you wake up someone so you knew as passed away, so and so you had a new pathway. So many times, if this does not rig close to home, that nothing ever will.

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So Allah once you

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allow once you that if you happen to divorce,

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that even in your moments of divorce, don't forget the good things amongst you.

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You know, sometimes the bad time start after a few years before that there were years of good times. There were years of moments that you you know, you love each other.

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But we forget everything, isn't it. And that's why Allah Allah will follow the law. Do not forget to use it or do not forget those moments of virtue amongst yourself.

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15 years of marriage, and you get divorced. And now you can't remember one moment of happiness.

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And you guys know what I am talking about?

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Because many of us when it happens, we are in the midst of it, even if it's got nothing to do with us.

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We're the stirs we're the ones who pour the fuel on the fire.

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And then what happens is not just that then it's collateral damage, isn't it? families, children and Allah is saying they said if you have a divorce amongst yourself, remember be machines. Don't forget the virtues but no. Generally in our unfortunately in our community, divorce now I can take you to the cleaners.

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I'm going to take you to clean out and make life so difficult. You are not gonna see the children if I can help.

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And I said what lies unless you see cases where you know, lady, Oh, poor, oh, first domestic violence and there is no domestic violence. Then they throw that out, then it's rape.

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Sometimes I've seen cases where the woman who will put allegations of rape and abuse of the children.

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And then the police said throw that one out as well. And it's not once Well, I've seen it so many times

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the pattern and then if the poor guy happens to be religious, terrorist,

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radical imagine

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imagine just going through the trauma of the police coming to you

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house and saying, Oh, we got a complaint from your wife that you sexually abused your children just to get the upper on your husband.

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And then there's the brainwashing

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the brainwashing so oh the if the husband has got the child, brainwash against the mother brainwash, if the mother happens brainwash the inlaws, either side of your father was like this, or your mother was like this. Listen, if you too, could not get on that show problem.

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That's your problem? Why are you making life difficult for that child? Who has a loving father? Who has a loving mother?

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What has he done?

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Why is that child done for you to deprive that child of his father? Allah again and again in the Quran speaks about schilke. And he mentioned the parents next to it. What you're going to say on the Day of Judgment,

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what you're going to say on the Day of Judgment, when Allah will call you up, and you will allow say, you deprive this child of its parent, we even adieu.

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Allah says logical lahoma often don't even say off to the parents. So what are you gonna do?

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Just because you couldn't get on with your husband, or you couldn't get on with your wife.

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So you deprive that child of one of his parents, because you want it to get back at the parent.

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How, what can what bigger? Can isn't this

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you know what, sadly, maybe walk us through the Atlanta embrace Islam.

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He had a very, very loving mother and sad was known to be very obedient to his mother, wherever his mother said, sad did.

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So when she found out that her son had embraced this lamp, what she decided to do, she took an oath, she took an oath that she would not eat you not drink, she would not comb her hair, and she would not take shade. Now you can imagine that her opening to the heat, you're not taking not eating and drinking. You're not taking shade.

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One day elapses.

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She's a bad state. Second day elapses. She's in even worse state.

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Third day elapses.

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Sandra de la new comes to his mother. And he said, Oh my mother, eat, drink. Don't take a shade. That's up to you for I swear by Allah. If you died in 99 times after this time.

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I am not gonna forego this religion.

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I am not going to forego this religion. Allah subhanaw taala on this occasion revealed the verses were in jaha Dhaka Allah and to silica be Bala silica be further to Emma. Allah says if your parents argue with you quarrel with you, that you should do schilke with me, without you have no knowledge. do not obey them was Sahiba maffetone Iam alpha, but still in this dunya your parents who are telling you to do [???] with me? Allah the summit, the independent who needs nobody who creates you from nothing.

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They are telling you to do silk with me.

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Allah says to them Allah say do not obey them. Well saw him whom have adonia Moreover, but remain with them in this dunya in a good manner.

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Allahu Akbar. Allah didn't need to say that Allah coulda said never talked to them again.

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Never look there were again they're doing silk we want you to do silk with me. This is what allows enjoy because this, these parents are mushriks

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these were and Allah is saying

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obey them although they are telling you to do silk with me. Sorry, be good with them in this dunya

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don't obey them or be good to them in this dunya although they are commanding you to the silk with me.

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This panela Why? Why? Because the greatest relationship a person has in this dunya is with who his parents

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to what allows one parent to deprive the other parent of the children

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was zulum is on the child. That child has now has to grow up

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with only one parent

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and brothers and sisters will lie This happens all the time.

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You know what I'm speaking about, you've seen it.

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And this is Dunum.

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If a husband and a wife don't get on, then that's their issue. But the child remains that child.

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And courts may listen, courts may give you custody.

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But in the court of law, it works different.

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And the court of ally works different. If you feel that the father or the mother have no right over the child at all.

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Then you go to an Islamic court. You go to Sharia Council and get the ruling. If he detrimental to you or you think he detrimental to the children for a reason. If it's not for a set a reason, then it's hard.

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It's hard for you to deprive that child. The burden is on the law, who has some of them said Allah is the Messenger of Allah said that Allah on the day of judgment

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will deprive that person who deprived a mother of the child from his clothes once on the Day of Judgment.

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You deprived a mother in this dunya of seeing her child alone will deprive you on the Day of Judgment. Omar had a child who is living with the inlaws and he divorced his wife.

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And he decided to come and bring that child home. Abu Bakar was at that time, you know, how close Omar Abu Bakar were, you know, the virtue

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of the Allah and the Messenger of Allah said, if he was to walk down one path shut down would not be able to walk down that path. It was bought to Abu Bakr Abu Bakar said, Omar give that child back you know, right over it.

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It's his biological child. Omar is the second in charge of the Muslim world after Abu Bakar.

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Abu Bakr said give that child back because you have no right over it. The messy you Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said

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he will reconcile ties, he who reconciles ties any of you relative to lives who break ties with you, you reconcile ties with that relative, the Messenger of Allah said, Allah will elongate your life, Allah will make your life longer.

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This is your nobody relative? I want to ask you a question. I honestly won't lie, I want you to think about this.

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What about that person who breaks that tie, which is the strongest tie? Not your cousin, not your uncle. But your parent. Imagine the hours of brainwashing that child goes through, oh, your mom was like this. And she was like this, and your mom was like this, and and with the call, and then the in laws, all of them or your father was like this and your father was like this. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Whoever hide the sin of a believer

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who hide the sin of a believer, Allah will hide his sin on the Day of Judgment. What about hiding the sin of the child parent, the father.

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And brothers, these are not these are not minor issues.

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Because they are rife in our church community. And I was speaking to one Sharia council very interesting. They were saying it's as worse if not worse, in the religious Muslim tobacco, as it is in the non practicing one is as bad why because what we do is that we justify it to us off. Like when you have the luck, you forget the 15 years of good, and you can only remember the negatives. We go towards Oh no, he was like this, oh, he had no good quality. And then we start brainwashing the child. And from the age of 235, whatever age, the child has 1617 he'll know what he sees as a parent.

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He doesn't want to see that parent, because you brainwash that, but imagine on the Day of Judgment.

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Imagine on the Day of Judgment, you know the status of a parent, how are you going to stand in front of Allah?

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You have no right. Even Listen, even if that person, the husband or wife, you did not get on with it. You have no right to deprive that child of its mother or father.

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That is a right given to that child by Allah and only Allah can take it back.

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Unless the sherea count codes, the side country that that person is unhealthy, but you don't have the right because you are subjective in the first place. You just got

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Divorce with a person.

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I want you to I want you to finish off on this hadith.

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The barrios, Allah Salam said that Allah says, I am a man.

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I am the man, the Merciful beneficence and I have created kinship. kinship in Arabic is known as the Rahim. Rahim, from my own name.

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Family kinship is made from the name of Allah, and is no Allah from Rahman, the beneficence.

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And then Allah says,

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Whoever joins kinship, I will join with him.

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And whoever surveys kinship, whoever surveys will relationships, then let him know that I will swear my relationship with him.

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I say I let him know that I will so where my relationship with Him

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imagine what relationship is greater than a child relationship with the father or the mother.

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And this is a really, I really want to change your perception on this.

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Even if you have a family member or even a close family member, many go through divorces. But you have to be just to a child. It's a proven that children who are deprived from one of their parents says statistics. They say not so well at school

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crime, they're more prone to crime. They're more prone to you know, behavioral issues, everything. Why? Because I only have you deprived that child of its father or its mother, but all the extended family as well.

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All the uncles and Auntie's

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so May Allah subhanaw taala makers amongst those who are just in our decisions. May Allah subhanaw taala never make is amongst those who come between a child and their parents. And our last panel Allah allow us to do what is pleasing to Him. May Allah subhanaw taala appreciate it. reunited agenda for those Baraka Luffy comme salaam aleikum, wa rahmatullah.