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Bismillah

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Alhamdulillah

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Nakamoto who want to start you know who want to start?

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What should we learn?

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fusina orientalia tr Melina

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Maria de la hufa mobila

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woman, Lil Fela de la

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ilaha illallah wa de Who? La sharika

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why shadow Mohammedan Abdullah who was Zulu

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Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala Sayidina Muhammad in fille aveline

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Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala Sayidina Muhammad Mohammad in fill, serene

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Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala Sayyidina Muhammad in film Allah Allah Allah, Allah yummy Deen

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My dear respected brothers and sisters in Islam Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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I am to address

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a very sensitive subject,

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which is becoming an epidemic, to say the least

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in the world in general,

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the Muslim world in particular

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the subject of pornography,

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watching sexual material,

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whether

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online,

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television,

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cable, magazine, whatever it is,

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a study was made

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the first 10 countries

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in the world

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who search for sexual materials

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on the Google engine,

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six out of them are Muslims.

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And I'm not gonna name any of them. I don't want to offend anyone who is a citizen of these countries.

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But actually number one country in the world.

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Searching for sexual materials online, is a Muslim country.

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Brothers and sisters in Islam.

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There are two types of Phaeton

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which our hearts

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get exposed to.

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trials and tribulations based on Hadith for the family man, or the loved one, are presented to the hearts

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to ora bulafit Anwar al kulu Vika de la Sierra Siri, oh, no older than

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the fiction. The trials

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are presented first to the heart.

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One after another, like I met

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like layers in the mat.

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Now

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if we keep doing,

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exposing our hearts to these Phaeton

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they become corrupt.

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There are two types of fit and

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the first type is fit and

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the fit and the trials pertaining

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to misconceptions regarding the religion. It will be the

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issues with the head

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Aloha Rouge, how are Gianni? Secret coverage the ideology of coverage? multiple people who have misconceptions regarding

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principles of the religion regarding the religion like section now we mentioned because they want to believe that

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because they are driven by the love for the world so they justify these misconceptions and sometimes they actually go and search for them.

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So this is the first time and this is actually very dangerous.

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That I believe fit and Shahar Chabot had the the Phaeton the misconceptions pertaining to the dean are very dangerous because nobody that people don't recognize them.

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He actually believes that this is the religion.

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This is confirmed by the statement of Sophia and authority, Rahim Allah when he said, and be the heir to a Hubble Elashi upon immunol kaviraj.

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Being indulged, engaged in innovations in beta is more beloved to Satan than you being involved in a major sin because everyone knows that it's a major sin.

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But innovations Normally, you already believe that this is the religion

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and they given that beautiful parable. And I have seen this with my own eyes, that when you give a cat a piece of meat, the cat eats it next to you.

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But when the cat snatch, the cat runs away to eat it somewhere else because the cat knows that it's not local.

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But in San Juan Island FC he basura

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madiera

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my subject tonight is not of the first type of fitting

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my subject

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is in the area of the second type, which the scholars they call it fit a new shahadat.

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fritton pertaining to the whims and desires, something that you desire so much, that you end up doing it over and over and over again, non stop until it kills you.

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Again, I love these parables that shifted now we always throw like a battery that is no good anymore. You still have to charge it in order to have a living phone, but yet it doesn't get charged.

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Some people they keep doing the wickedness over and over again. Ignore him said because of infinite mercy, because their neffs became accustomed to the sin. They do not enjoy the sin anymore. It does not give them the pleasure that they used to get ears back. They don't enjoy it.

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But this is part of me.

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informasi alejado Villa

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I hate to be busy mystic. That's not

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the style of

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of people, you know we should give hope. And again the verse is beautiful. One zero mineral qurani men who are Shiva, Rama

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indeed in the revelation, there is Shiva.

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Brothers and sisters in Islam Allah used two words. Shiva means remedy. Cure, Rama means immunity.

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That if you follow the Quran and the Sunnah, initially, you will not fall into these

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whims and desires into these major sins. But if you happen that you fallen into them, then the first word takes over is the fact that your

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brothers and sisters in Islam

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a lot of the Muslims,

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by the way, brothers and sisters, some of you may assume that it's only males who are true

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monography also women do watch pornography.

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Some of them, they think the impact of this acts ends by going into the history and delete history.

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Then she's done. He's done.

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No, it's an ever lasting impact

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on your neffs

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on your family

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and people like ourselves, we get that side of the story.

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How would you imagine a sister calling you?

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Dear ma'am? My husband didn't have a relationship with me. And I'm trying to be nice here.

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Since six months,

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he sleeps with the computer.

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I'm just quoting you what we hear

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is the act of pornography is associated with masturbation.

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Or, here's the thing my husband doesn't arouse, and I'm sorry, this is a very, I'm just it's the reality

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this is what's happening. And please, if you have kids, just take them out please.

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I don't excite him anymore.

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I wear all these nice things and he doesn't get excited anymore and he doesn't but when he watches these virtual videos online, he is

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shinda We also I'm sorry, I'm using as a reference he told you that happy happy what equals what happy what doba mean? What is it what what name Did you give it your Mohammed happy What? You said happy What? The dopamine?

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The Happy What? The Happy chemical.

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You see, you're not getting the point here. What is the happy chemical?

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There is a substance in the brain.

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We as Muslims, we should not wait for medicine to validate our religion.

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But it feels good.

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You know, when the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that, if a fly did sit, swing in your cup, the other wing and drink, we should go with that. But I think it feels good to know that there is a wisdom behind it. So getting medicine to validate our Deen is beautiful. There is nothing wrong with it. They tell you that when you watch these

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actresses,

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these actors, these people are paid to do this.

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They are not normal.

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She is not you should watch her. Dear brothers when she wakes up in the morning.

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She's dressed to act the scene for you. It's not normal. So when you watch these clips, what happened? The brain produces that happy chemical which the scientists or medicine people, the people of the medical field they call it dova mean? dopamine, that's how it's called. That causes the arousal of a man to be able to have a relationship with his wife.

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Now, his wife is not gonna play that Barbie on the clip. She is not regardless of what you do.

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She's a poor girl. She's been working probably in the kitchen the whole day taking care of the kids.

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These guys are making a living out of this. You don't understand the industry. That's an industry. It's industry actually that more money than they I heard the NFL.

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Can you imagine how many videos being uploaded into the internet?

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And the number of people watching it's an industry. It's business. It's work, but it destroys families.

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And I want to tell you something.

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There is a country called New Zealand.

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You know New Zealand is not a Muslim country. It is not a Muslim

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Did you know that they ban pornography,

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they actually bought some filtering software just to prevent their citizens from watching it, because they learn the serious devastating consequences of such a thing.

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For you go and watch this. Alright? You get that arousal easy. You don't have to work with your wife. You don't have to flirt with her.

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You don't have to tell her I love you, baby. You love me. You don't want to do that you want to easy, you know, like they they can build dogs and cats. They tell you people like to have dogs because you get easy love out of dogs. But cat I think some cats is it cats cats are hard to get the love they, you have to. That's that's the analogy here.

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Instead of for playing with your wife.

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Now you want to just that's called selfishness. Let's put it this way.

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So what happened? Your wife is not interested to you anymore. Your wife is not of interest to you anymore. Your husband is not of interest to you anymore. You want something else? And when it started this? No, you know, if you go back and watch the same video that you are, and cause you to arouse is not going to arouse you anymore. You need another one.

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And guess what? You need a better pattern. And you may find yourself watching sexual.

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What do you call this? That you would never even imagined in your life that you want to watch?

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should do the same sex that you find yourself going into?

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Because what because what's happening? You need to carry on with this. That's the danger of it.

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Why do Muslims get into this?

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In my opinion,

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the first reason

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is being

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I want to use the word ignorant. But you know, I don't want to be disrespectful to any of your being unaware of these consequences.

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A lot of the people they think that

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the consequence or the impact of watching that video ends with turning the screen off and deleting your history away from the Google even though you know Gmail is governed meal that you know that you know that even if you deleted it spear saved with the government. And now you got what you got Donald Trump now he's gonna

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you gotta be mindful.

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They think that it's over.

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You know, the second most silly reason,

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a lot of the brothers and you hear this amongst the youth, I'm not married.

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And I want to learn how it's done.

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You see, in America here, these are young men, especially youth, Muslim youth, especially Muslim, I want to find out how is the processes done. They call it sexual education, how it's done, I want to watch how it's done.

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All one of the most interesting execuse is it's better than adultery.

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the lesser of the two evil.

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Instead of committing adultery, going and having sex with another unlawful woman, let me just do this.

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And all of this will lead to your destruction.

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I say to the brothers who would say that, especially the youth, I will do this until I get married. You know what, you're not gonna be able to get married.

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Because you're already married.

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You're married to these

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clowns on television. On the screen.

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This is the time which will satisfy you.

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Any other women will not.

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will not.

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So brothers and sisters in Islam

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another reason

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which is obvious

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as to statement that is famous out there.

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enough so Islam desarrollar

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chavela kabil maaseiah

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You have

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an animal, and I'm going to use the same word that you use. You see, I was listening to you.

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You have an animal inside you an animal.

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If you don't keep that animal busy with doing good things, that animal will take you to do wicked things.

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What happened to begin with all these brothers and sisters will find themselves into this pattern of life, which is a secret world that you only know.

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You see, this is a very private world that you find yourself into, and you're going to be extremely protective of it.

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Sometimes the wife finds out, she catches you. She comes and reports you to the mom. She's lying commandment. She is lying. Why would she lie about this? Come on, come on. Let's deal with the issue. She's lying. I'm not doing

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it's a world of your own that you develop inside your bedroom inside your basement. Maybe you go up the roof wherever it is, wherever there is Wi Fi.

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It's a world of your own but very dangerous world.

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Inside you there is an animal enough.

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We know Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran eco one FC one. So for Allah Maha fujimura taqwa, enough's is ready to go both ways. Now, not only are you buying your neffs with the Hillel stuff with the Salah, with the provider, with the recitation of the Quran, with the Dix,

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your your neffs needs to be occupied

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units has been a go into this stuff. And this is one of the other reason, of course, weakness of faith

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as a person has faith.

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And again, all of these contribute to the same issue that your Eman is not the

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knowing that Allah watches you regardless, knowing that the government watches you regardless. What about that?

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Okay, can you imagine if you know that there is a third party out there watching this

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lovely man, talk Allah subhanaw taala. But also, I think there is another reason for it, which we have to admit to not having harmony with one spouse,

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especially brothers. He always argue with his wife, his wife argues with him, he has that sexual drive and he wants to fulfill it. And this is the way to do it. Instead of me going and apologizing to her. And so not having a good accord basically good relationship with your spouse, or marrying someone that you're not attracted to, to begin with. And this is where actually you're supposed to marry someone that you're attracted to. Rasul sallallahu wasallam una mahirap. Lucia, love your lionfish. Soon nnsa came to him and he said Dr. rasulillah messenger of Allah. I propose to a woman from Lancer, Hannover Ella, did you look at her?

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Rosanna is not just looking at. Look, see. Does she have what you like?

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Does she have what you like?

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So these are all reasons brothers and sisters in Islam, which may lead to this.

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What are the cues?

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How can we come out of this?

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I want to tell you something is not easy.

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is not easy.

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is extremely difficult.

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Why? Because you're trapped.

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It's addiction. You're sick.

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The person is sick of it.

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It's a sickness. It's a disease that you need to remedy you need treatment. He needs to rehab.

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He will coordinate especially if it is done for a long time and I always like to use this parable which was used by multiple Admiral Josie and others. Unit a sponge.

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a sponge and if you place an ink pen on that sponge and you keep it there for a while, what is going to happen? The ink is going to penetrate the sponge is going to go inside

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Can you easily remove that ink out of the sponge? No.

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You have to keep washing it, wash, washing it, washing it over and oh, you have to keep it in water and milk it and said something. The water here is the tears of regret.

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The tears of regrets. This is wrong, every time that you go back to it.

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It's not easy. But everything can be easy if Allah subhanho wa Taala will help you. The first step brothers and sisters in Islam like I promise I don't want to prolong this

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towards remedy

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is to admit,

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stop being in a state of denial, yo.

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Stop.

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If you're doing it, admit it to yourself and admit it's wrong.

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And you know what? A lot of the psychiatrist psychiatrists now because it allows them

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by default, if you sin

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you could you're not supposed to disclose the senior

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kulu Cala salada salam, the Prophet sallahu wa salatu salam says Coloma tema de Lune. All my oma are entitled to the pardoning of Allah subhanaw taala except those who disclose their sin. But a lot of psychiatry's, they actually said you should reveal the fact that you're addicted to this to one person, preferably your spouse,

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or preferably, if you're not married to someone that you're close to, that you know that they're not going to disgrace you. They are not going to look down upon you. And brothers and sisters in Islam, please don't misunderstand me. Don't misunderstand me here. Don't you dare think that this person is bad. If someone comes to you and tells you that Listen, I am involved in this. Don't look down upon them. Don't.

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We have had the former top one that a man used to be brought to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam so often to be flooded. He was guilty of a kind of addiction, not necessarily pornography. He was drinking intoxicants. So they used to flog him as he was being or while he was being flogged. One of the companions said, Lana hula, may Allah cursed him. He is often brought over and over, he doesn't repent. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Don't do this. Don't help Satan, again is your brother. Actually, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said something very interesting about this person. Alive, not him out. He said about him. He know who you

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are Rasulullah he loves his messages.

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So yes, you may find someone who is involved in this act, but he loves Allah and His Messenger, he's addicted, he's sick. He's he can tell but

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if your husband, your wife, your spouse, your very best friend disclosed the fact to you that they are involved in such act, don't look down upon them rather help them now.

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They throw in the responsibility upon you to help them to give them the help that they need.

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Brothers and sisters in Islam, when we say confessing the fact that you're doing this, that means to break in front of Allah subhanho wa Taala. To remorse to regret that this is wrong. don't justify it. Don't say I can tell that. It's very easy accessible for me. It's very tempting. Don't say that. Say it's wrong. Even if you go back to it say it's wrong.

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You see, if you'll find an excuse for doing it, you're actually playing in a very tricky area here. You may be highly realizing it for yourself.

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Who will this? Well, Joe, mocha Surat when a person makes Hillel. What is haram? knowingly?

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This is unrestricted. That's the clear one. Knowingly Yes.

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Herman Miller

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when he rejects the command, knowingly, not out of faulty interpretation, he leaves the fold of Islam. So what I'm trying to say is your first step towards cure is to admit that you're doing this and this is wrong, and you want to change. You want to do it.

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Number two brothers and sisters in Islam, don't despair.

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Don't despair.

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Regardless of how much you go back to it, repent, after every single time.

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repent.

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You see, what are your chances now, that death would come to you while you are in a state of repentance, which is good. But you stay in it and saying, I'm gonna plan to do it tonight or tomorrow or the day after? What happens if the Angel of Death comes to you while you are having these plans in place? masala masliah.

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muscle that you're insisting on committing a sin.

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Abdullayev novice has a statement that when you insist upon a sin,

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even though you may consider it minor, it turns into a major sin for the message here, repent, repent, repent. Number three. And the last for the sake of time here, brothers and sisters in Islam is find what triggers this.

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Normally, and I came across a study that is very interesting.

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A lot of times what triggers This is you going into websites that are not related to that subject, but they trigger you.

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They remind you of this, she need to stay away from that.

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These websites even though these websites are not explicitly

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designated for such materials, but they are the entry you need to stay away from this.

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Ideally, place your laptop computer in the living room.

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If you're weak by yourself, give your password to someone else. You cannot delete the history without that person. Now you're looking for treatment, you're looking for cure.

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Bring a big screen and Buddha's in the living room. And don't turn it this way. Make it open. Everybody could see you what you're doing online.

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That's one way to go about it. But again, if you fall short again, and you fall again, go back and repent. Even though you're trying go back and repent. Go back and repent. Brothers and sisters in Islam Jani

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Lynn Cheryl

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being busy with the recitation of the Quran, volunteering giving your time busy,

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and so forth. Some some of the people are actually triggered by this or triggered by any triggers to do these things by the fact that they are depressed and depressed. Or I'm having a problem with my spouse, all of these. So this is an individual kind of, you know, approach. Each person has his own triggering variable. So you need to find what triggers you to go into that area to begin with, and find a way to cure it insha Allah Allahu Allah Subhana Allah handig a shadow Allah Allah hetland esta foto de Waal hamdulillahi Rabbil aalameen