Live a life of Rahmah

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Ismail Kamdar

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these things the attribute of a loss of a handout with other that is repeated in the Quran more than any other attribute. And that is the attribute of Russia of compassion and mercy.

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And this is the attribute found even at the very beginning of the Quran and the beginning of every recitation, because every time we recite Quran, we begin with Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem.

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And both of these names of Allah r Rahmani r Rahim both talk about the last

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one is Allah refer to every creation of these specials that we will experience in general.

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And even at the very beginning of the Quran, we begin with Surah botica with Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil, aalameen r Rahmani Raheem. Again, the same qualities I mentioned. And throughout the world.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about his Rama. And one of our favorite chapters of the Quran is Surah.

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With the opening verse is nothing except the name of Allah, our ohana. And so this emphasis of Rama of compassion of mercy is found throughout the Quran over and over again. Even when describing the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam. Allah describes him as

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a compassion and mercy to this entire universe.

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And so that brings us to ourselves, What does Allah expect from us, in our interactions with each other?

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He expects us to be people have

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to be people of compassion with people of mercy, to be people who care about one another.

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That these attributes of Allah subhanho wa Taala, like his Rama, His mercy, his compassion, his tolerance, his forgiveness. These are qualities that we are supposed to try and emulate on a human level.

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If you forgive others, allow them forgive you. If you adjust to others, Allah will be just to you. And in the Hadees that we quoted in the beginning, if you show Rama to those on Earth, Allah who is above the heavens will show raha to you. And so how do we earn the urashima for love superhero and Allah, we earn it by being people of well being people of compassion by the people of mercy.

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But in our times is this concept of Russia has been replaced with a harshness and the hardness and the strictness that is far away from the center that is alien to the center. That is completely opposite to the character of Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wasallam, both in person and online. When Muslims interact with each other, we tend to be harsh, critical, vulgar, mean, judgmental, and the way that we talk to each other, it tends to chase other people away from Islam.

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The very often when you meet a young person who is no longer practicing the religion, and you ask them why one of the most common answers is the harshness of the practicing Muslims.

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Yeah, this harshness is the opposite of this.

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It is not the string of Allah, it is not the string of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. It is not the cylinder of the Sahaba or any of your losers. Russia is the default of Islam. And harshness is an exception to be used only when absolutely necessary and white. That's the only time you should ever be harsh to anyone.

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And the level of drama that we show depends on the type of person we are dealing with.

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the Iraq War of Islam is so, so vast, that in the Quran, when talking about how to deal with the pharaoh the worst of all people, Allah commanded the Prophet Moses, peace be upon him. What's the double golden leaving? Speak to him, gentlemen, speak to him softly. Speak to him with compassion. Perhaps you believe

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I want us to think about this. Why is Allah telling Moses to speak gently to battle? He says to me that he might be exempt. What does this mean? This means that when we speak harshly to someone, they're not going to reflect.

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Think about this. When we upload some, somebody would harshness with the roughness. Immediately, they might switch it off. They don't hear anything that we say. All they remember is the angry face. At the end, it will, but they won't remember what you said. But when we are gentle when we have compassion when we have Rama, this opens up the heart to our message.

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And so Allah subhanho wa Taala. Under the brand, he talks about, one of his gifts to the loss of love, while he was alone, is that Rasulullah saw the sun was gentle towards the sun.

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And then gentleness brought me to Islam. And Allah tells the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had you been harsh, they would have run away, had the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam been harsh, the Sahaba would have wrangling. So what I want us today, when we are harsh, with each with our elders, with each with our children, whether it's with our spouses, with it with the community at large, when we are harsh, what do we think the result of that is going to be, he will run away.

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And so let's remember, in our dealings with anybody, we should have a default position of compassion, and mercy. And harshness should only set in when absolutely necessary, beginning with our outfits, because we live in a time and a culture, where the concept of respecting your elders, it's disappearing. People don't want to hear about it anymore. People don't want to talk about it anymore. It's looked upon as a kind of weakness to be respectful to your elders. But we should never forget that this is our religion, respecting those who are old enough is our religion, especially our parents and our grandparents. And so our default when talking to someone who is older than us,

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should be in the position of raha to have the gentleness and compassion and how we address it, to talk to them with terms of respect. They are doing something wrong, we find the respectful and genuine way to correct it. You have some young people who only first start practicing Islam, they go through this period of extreme zeal. And in that extreme zeal, they will go home, and they will start fighting with their mother because she doesn't want any job. Or they start fighting with a father because he doesn't have a beard, or they will start fighting with their parents because indian indian conception the parents are doing some kind of beat up, or whatever it is, they start

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to break Family Ties over these issues, not realizing they're doing a major sin, the breaking of family ties, and the disrespect of parents because of a mindset or even a matter of difference of opinion.

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So we need to realize that respecting our elders in all situations, and the Quran gives us an example of this Prophet Ibrahim Ali Salah. These are passage in Surah birth of Prophet Ibrahim Elisa having a conversation with his father. And I would highly advise everyone to go and read the translation of this passage, because it gives you the best example of how to deal with your elders with Iraq.

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Because Prophet Ibrahim polysomes father wasn't someone committing my innocence. He wasn't somebody doing something with this difference of opinion. He was an idol maker, not just the idol worshiper.

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But when you read the passage, in Subramaniam, he keeps talking to his father about love.

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And he keeps addressing you as your ability. Your ability is a stronger form of Yami. Like most of us who know a little bit of Arabic, we know Avi means my father. It means my beloved father. It's a term of respect. No matter how harsh his father gets, no matter how around his body is no matter what his father treated the world. His response is always here. My beloved father, the respect, the compassion, the wisdom remains, that should be our role model beginning with our elders. The same applies to our spouses that are the hardest people to maintain this gentleman his word for many people is their spouse because you would that person every day, and it's easy to meet someone for

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five bonus after Juma and to be gentle with that person. Could you only go to

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See them once a week of violence, but with a person you are living with every day, you begin to irritate each other, you begin to get in each other's ways. And sometimes the harshness develops between spouses. So let us remember that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said the best if you are those who are visiting families, meaning the true test of our rosmah is when we have Rama towards our family members. And in the army, Allah describes the relationship between the husband and wife. He describes it as what the what love and compassion

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is supposed to be the default dealing with all these functions. Can we speak to our spouse gently, and then we understand our spouse is human, they will have their own mistakes, their own sins, their own weaknesses, cannot expect perfection from them additional expect perfection from us, but together, we help each other on the path towards genuine, we help each other to move in the right direction. You can't help someone if you're constantly harsh towards them, you will chase them.

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Then these are children and those who are younger than us. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, none of you truly believes until he is respectful to his elders, and compassionate Rajma towards the youngsters. I said none of you are one of us until he is respectful towards his elders and compassionate towards the youngsters. Why compassionate towards the youngsters.

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Because most of the time, it's human nature, that we get irritated with someone who is younger than us when they are making mistakes with being overweight. When we see a repeat of who we used to be, right, you see this with parents with their children, especially with the children or teenagers or young adults, because they still learning. They still haven't made the mistakes and still don't have experiences who don't have wisdom, you have to guide them gently towards the path of Islam, you've got to show a good extra compassion, because they're going to make mistakes that we made 20 years ago, they're going to make mistakes that we really learned from a long time ago. And the only way to

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help them through those mistakes, is with Rama. And we see this in interactions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam with anybody other than him. We see this in interaction with other people

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who served the Prophet so long while he was on for 10 years. From the age of 10, to the age of 20, he worked with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And he said, the prophet never once said a bad word to me,

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not once in 10 years, and this is the time of your life where you're going to make mistakes. And unless you want to even report some of his mistakes, that the profit and loss I'm sending to do some work and he saw children lately suffering with him and he forgot to do the work and the profits on so I'm giving money to go and buy something and he lost the money. But in these cases, the prophet SAW value somebody being compassionate and merciful. We see even with the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam Delta with the sins of young people, the young person would come to the Prophet slice, I mean, say that I want to commit sin.

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And so instead of chasing him away, instead of shouting him, instead of embarrassing him, he speaks to him gently and explains to him, why is he not eligible? And this helps the youngster to understand and to avoid this and another young person comes to the Prophet slice them and says, I kissed a girl, what can I do to make up for myself, and the prophet SAW he saw me completely compassionate and non judgmental way, teaches him to pray to the gods of salah and teaches him that good deeds make up for sense. Again, the compassion of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam for those who are younger, and finally, compassion for everyone, because the idea states that whoever

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shows compassion to the people on this earth, and some of the comedies are not talking about the people of this earth, he's talking about everything on this earth. Animals plot everything, whoever shows compassion to the creatures of this earth, Allah will show compassion to them. And so whether you are dealing with your neighbors, or your employees, or your employer, or your friends, or people who you disagree with, are people from other sets of people with different understandings of Islam, or people who are not Muslim, or even when you're dealing with your pets, or you're dealing with animals and you're going to sacrifice for me or anything. The default of a Muslim is compassion.

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Even when we are putting a sheep down to slaughter him. We do the compassion appear to show compassion to a sheep that we are about to slaughter. What about the human beings that we live with and

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let us make urashima our default setting let us make it our way of life. Let us make it part of who we are. Then when people look at us, they know us to be the people of Russia and then

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doesn't live the life of Rama and it does die upon Rama. And it does. We ask Allah to make us from those who in this life and the next slide and in the grave experience nothing but Allah Subhana Ramiz NYC foon was seldom another Buddha said he was 111

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hamdu lillahi wa Salatu was Salam ala one Lana Viva la Vida De Sica tabula rasa jihadi Mohammed in Salalah alayhi wa sallam was born in

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Baku,

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Baku, Goku,

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Goku.

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We talked a lot about Russia. But very often people don't know how they know they're supposed to have Rama towards each other. But they don't know. How do you show them? What do you see? What do you do.

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And perhaps this is why some people with good intentions are still very rough. They are still very harsh, because in their mind,

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in their mind, they are saving someone else from the help by stopping somebody else upset. And they don't realize that the method that they're using to do it, maybe pushing their person.

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So let's go through a few steps of that we can derive from the life of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, from the teachings of the Quran. Number one, the primary way in which we can show Rama to anyone is to speak to the agenda.

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Going back to the verse that we quoted about Prophet Moses, peace be upon him, and the battle will who will go to the speaker.

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This is the default. And you will find that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam 90% of the time was gentle in his speech. And he was only harsh when it was wise to be harsh. And he was only rough in his speech when it was wife era speech. But his default setting was gentleness with everyone, even with his enemies, even with someone who was known to be an enemy of Islam, he would still talk to that person with kindness and with mercy, hoping that that person's heart will open up to Islam.

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And so anyone that we talk to, whether it's our children when they mess up in life, whether it's our spouses, when they do something in irritates us, we need our elders when they persist in deeds that we may think or innovations, whatever it is, speak with gentleness, the person is more likely to listen to what you are saying, when you are genuine. So let us begin with our speech, our speech should be gentle. The second part of Rama is that our heart should love

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We should have in our heart, a genuine care for others, the practice of the love, I think, none of you truly believe until he loves what he's proud of what he loves for himself. And some of the great scholars have said that this means even for the non Muslim that you love, the DB context, that you love the gender, that you love, the experience of beauty of Islam, that you love for everybody, what you love for yourself. And so this is supposed to be the heart of the believer, that you love for others, what you love for yourself, you, you genuinely care for humanity, you genuinely want good for others, that when you see someone, you don't want to see that person fall, you don't want to see

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that person fail. You don't want to see the person make a mistake. You want that person to earn a lot of money, you want that person to go to general, if your heart has the drama in it, it will manifest it in our hands, it will show in whatever we do, and however we treat that person, and so the roughness of the heart is so important. Number three, is forgiveness. forgiving and overlooking

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these a story and your end to the story. That

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when the wife of the Prophet slowly is not our mother I showed her when she was slandered by the hypocrites. One of the individuals responsible for spreading that slander was her cousin who

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to take care of actually. So this was a young man in the community who he was in Mahajan where the immigrant Medina he didn't have anything. So Abu Bakr radiallahu been a relative of his was providing for him financially. And when the news reached Abu Bakar the one of the main people were spreading the slander against his daughter is this own relative who has done so much good for Abu Bakar promised never to give him another chance, never to give him any money ever again.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala revealed in verse in Surah, addressing Abu Bakar

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in which he says forgive an overlook, don't you want to learn to

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forgive and overlook Don't you want Allah to forgive you?

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So Dr. Rajan who forgave this man and continue to provide for him to be able to take care of himself. The lesson here for all of us, family can mess up. Friends can mess up, everyone's going to be suffering, all of you will be everyone makes mistakes. But if someone genuinely repents, if someone is trying to change their life, if someone is trying to be a good person, but they have their faults, they have the mistakes, forgiving overload. Why? Because you and I also have faults and mistakes, everyone will have to forgive them a little mistakes. And so let us live a life of raw, they just be chained to in our speech. It has been loving in our hearts, let us be forgiving

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and overlook the faults of one another. And if we do this, we will earn the love of Allah, the mercy of Allah and the forgiveness of Allah subhana wa

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