Inspirations From The Righteous – 11

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Biography of the daughter of Rasullah, Fathima Bint Muhammad (peace be upon him)

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Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was salam wa rahmatullah the middleman who de novo bill Yes. And

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we begin by freezing Allah and asking him to send his peace and blessings upon the final prophet Muhammad, Abdullah Saleh Allahu alayhi wa sallam and all those who follow his way with righteousness until the last day.

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So today inshallah, we begin the 11th lesson in the series on the lives of the righteous predecessors.

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And today's lesson is on an inspiring individual, and the choice of topic is itself inspired I chillingham data we are looking at the leader of the woman of Paradise, and one of the for a woman to have attained perfection in her email.

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Now,

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in previous sessions, we did discuss two of the other four women who have attained to fiction game and we looked at the life of Asya, the wife of the Pharaoh, and the delight of Mario invito, Jesus, peace be running. So Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has told us that they have for women in history who perfected the man, right? And he said they were the wife of the pharaoh arsia volume the daughter of imraan. Khadija, who is the wife of Russia, the first wife of Rasulullah, sallAllahu, Alayhi, wasallam, and Fatima, the daughter of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So today

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we are going to look at one of the woman who perfected her Eman who is also the daughter of one of the woman who perfected her Mr. Right, Fatima, who is the daughter of a teacher. So Fatima

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is a woman who perfected her image and you can see from the fact that she's a DJ, his daughter, that has something to do with parenting. Now, today, I want to approach this topic a little bit differently than we did in previous weeks. In the previous weeks, we focus on more of a chronological discussion, right? We look in the order, from birth to death of the Sahaba that we were discussing today. Instead of instead of focusing focusing on her history, I want to focus on characteristics, right? What made her the one of the woman or perfection, what qualities did she have, that we are supposed to emulate which Allah subhanaw taala regard as qualities of perfection.

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And I want us to be special attention to this, because it's not enough to know that she was a person of perfection, if we do not make any attempt to emulate her lifestyle. So Fatima Raji Aloha, from the very beginning we can find one of the main qualities or one of the first qualities that made her outstanding. We have appearance, right? She's the daughter of a DJ, and Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, just to give you a word about the family of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam the date Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he first married Khadija, right? Khadija was twice widowed before and she was the one who actually proposed to him and she married him and they had six

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children, two sons and four daughters. Right. The two sons Abdullah and Qasim passed away when they were very young, and their daughters, Rokia, Zainab and Fatima from them. Only Fatima lived longer than Rasulullah sallallahu sallam. All his daughters passed away in his lifetime, except Fatima, who passed away a few months after he died Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam in the latter part of his life. He married many other women. We've already discussed Ayesha and masala mata meloxin the others as well like hafsa and Sophia, and Xena equimi Habiba. So,

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when we look at Fatima, we actually read that she comes into the picture. Fatima was the youngest of the living children of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam the youngest. And this means she did not get to spend as much time with her mother as the other children. Because she was born two years before Rasulullah became a prophet. And her mother passed away just after the boycott. So she was about between the age of eight or 10. Rita mother passed away. Right? So from all of her sisters, she got to spend the least amount of time with a mother because her mother passed away when she was still a child. Right. So Fatima was essentially from that age onwards. She was first raised, or rather when

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you look at it, she was in the house.

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Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam without a mother until he remarried. And then she had several models, not one, but several.

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So her training her tarbiyah, although a lot of it comes from Khadija, most of it comes from Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, because there was a point in his life where he was a single father raising Fatima by himself, only Fatima because his other daughters we already married, you already grown up American. So even Khadija passed away, it was just Fatima and Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, he was alone with his small daughter. And what's beautiful about the relationship was, even though she was a child at this time, Fatima was the one who took care of Rasulullah slicer for the few years, until he could get married again. So this means for a few years in his life, Fatima as a

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child, she is cooking and taking care of the house and taking care of a father who is a single father, doing the most difficult work anybody could have done. Right. This was the most difficult point in his life. His wife, Artesia, had died, I would call him his uncle had died, he had no protection now from amongst the leaders from amongst the leadership of the courage. So he was in a very difficult situation. This is also around the same time that thought if happened to him is when he went to talk to the city of Troy to ask for help, and the people pelted him and he said, it was the worst day of his life. So at this point in time, he's not married rasulillah this point in time,

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he's a single father, with the most beloved woman on earth to him, his wife Khadija, having passed away, and his his daughter, Fatima, who is taking care of him during this time. So the form is a very close connection, there was a very close relationship between party my father, not just the close connection, but he influenced in every way, so much low that it is narrated that the closest person to Rasulullah saw some in terms of manners and characteristics and personality was Fatima. She walked like a father, she talked like a father, she looked like a father. She was an example, you know, if Rasulullah saw is the example for the men. Fatima is the example of his lifestyle

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transfer to a woman, right, she lived like him. And she took care of him during his most difficult times. And the relationship was not one way you know, the two way relationship, because it is narrated that even later on when she grew up, and she got married, whenever Fatima used to come to visit Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wasallam, he used to get up from his seat, he used to go and greet her and kiss her and make her sit in his place. Right? This was the level of respect that he showed to his daughter.

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And it reminds me of the Hades way Rasulullah lollies have said

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that we should respect those who are older than us and be kind and merciful to those who are younger than us. And what happens very often is we only could have the Hadees. Right, we see Rasulullah saw Sam said, respect your elders. And the same elders who say that are sometimes very mean very harsh, and very intolerant to the younger people. But actually the IDC showing us a two way relationship,

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being kind to those who are younger than you will make them respect you. And being respectful to those who are older than you will make them more softer and kinder to you. And so it's supposed to be a two way relationship. And so parents who want their children to respect them, the secret to having your child respect you is not to beat it into them. It's not to be harsh to them, is not to be mean with them, is to show them the love and mercy. And in the case of Rasulullah Mita, not just so love and mercy to Fatima he showed respect to his daughter, he respected his child. And in return his child respected him. He loved his child in return, she loved him. Right? This is the

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relationship that he developed. And so this is how we are supposed to be with our children. Right? And even with if you are a teacher, this is how you're supposed to be with your students. And even just the average Muslim dealing with the children of the oma, you know very often, you know, in many communities, children are afraid of the masjid. Why are they afraid of the masjid?

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It's because we tend to treat them very harshly in the masjid. Now you have a young brother, who, for example, he wasn't praying for Allah. And he decided one day that he's coming to the masjid and you're going to start praying Salam today. So he wants you to do it. For the first time full of zeal, ready to suffering, he fell out. And immediately somebody picks on him for his parents being below his ankles, or why he's not wearing a hat. Why he has this kind of hairstyle. You know what happened to that guy? He'll come back to the mastery for many years. I this this this is not the attitude of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, you know, he was merciful to those who were younger than

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him because he understood they were struggling to practice Islam they were struggling to grow right. This is what this is something we don't understand. We expect perfection from others, even though we don't expect perfection from ourselves. So rasuna last lesson, he nourished Fatima he grew up in this way full of

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respectful of love, and she gave it back to me she was just as respectful and just as loving to him, right until the day she died. In fact, some of the scholars even say that she died out of heartbreak.

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When her father passed away, she couldn't take it. She couldn't live without him. She became sad, because of his death, and it affected her house, if you actually passed away from this, according to some of the scholars in the analysis of history, Allah knows best. So you can see from here, the importance of having a strong relationship, the importance of the Father having a strong relationship with the children. Again, some people think it's just the mother's job to raise the children Rasulullah saw some meat trade was his job, he made sure he was playing an active role in the lives even after the children were grown up, as you'll see later in her life. So they had this

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close relationship. And because of this close relationship, and because of the way he raised, she grew into a very courageous, a very brave and a very righteous woman.

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And her courage, you see the second quality to look to look at. So the first was the parenting and the love and the mercy and respect. The second thing to look at in a life is her courage. her willingness to be different, a willingness to stand out from society, rather, a willingness to stand up to society. And I'm not talking about her doing this when she was like 30 or 40 years old. I'm talking about her standing up and being outspoken and being brave, when according to the different generations, she was either seven or nine years old. I want you to think about this, a seven or a nine year old girl

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standing up to the leaders of the connection, this will get the story, right very, very powerful story from the early days of Islam.

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In the early days of Islam, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam faced a lot of opposition. His followers were less than 100.

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Less than 100 followers, and the leaders of Makkah with the enemies of Islam. And so if they did anything to a Muslim, there wasn't anyone to defend them. There wasn't anyone to help them in this period. During this period, those who hate Islam, they do a lot of evil things.

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And one of the innovations mentioned that one day Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. He was worshipping Allah at the Kaaba, and he was in such depth. Now imagine this is the Kaaba, in such that just outside the Kaaba, in the most holiest places the most holiest of people rasulillah

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look at what happened to him. The disbelievers of Makkah, are looking at this and Abu Jamal who was known as the Pharaoh of this woman. That's how evil he was. He could not stand to see Rasulullah worshipping in peace. Now, what is Rasulullah sallallahu is doing? He's not you're not even preaching. He's not even doing or saying anything to anyone. He's just worshiping his creator. But I couldn't stand to even see him do this. And so I would call that something absolutely despicable. He takes the placenta, the afterwards of a camel.

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Right camel had just given birth. The birth of the camel is a really disgusting thing. Right full of blood and full of food. And he takes it and he places it on the neck of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And I want you to think about this Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam was a man known for his cleanliness. He was known for smelling good, right in fact, even his sweat smell good omen Salah we spoke about two weeks ago, she used to collect his art his his way of his sweat as an eater. She actually is a quality sweat because it smells so good. Right? And he was known for smelling good. He was known for looking good. He was known for being clean. He was known for being a good person. He

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was known for being the best of people. Can you imagine how low and how painful Abuja must have been to do this to that kind of man? Right? And I can tell you this much Rasulullah saw so no matter what Abuja would have done to him, he would never have done the same in return.

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Right? Russia would never have done this to Abuja, no matter how evil he became, no matter what he did. I can never imagine the proper source of doing the same. And I'm mentioning this because very often we justify it. Do you see the Confederate doing this to us? So we should do the same to them. It doesn't work like that. We're supposed to be the better people. Right? So Rasulullah saw him using such and Abuja puts this faulty thing on his neck and the blood starts dripping down his neck, this dirty blood is dripping down his neck and the smell is dead. And also some can even sit up or stand up because what will happen if he sits up or stands up what is going to happen is that that

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for the Buddha, go to his clothing, address his clothing and mess the rest of his body. So he's now stuck in such that with his foot on top of him, and Abu Jamal and his friends are literally rolling on the floor in laughter

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And the Sahaba who are powerless, they can't do anything about it.

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But someone does do something about

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the person who does something about it, the Fatima

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and she was either seven years old, or nine years old at this time. So imagine a seven year old, a nine year old girl. Look at from the traumatic perspective. Imagine a seven year old nine year old girl, knowing that her father is one of the most amazing men, we know how much he loves a father. Now her love is even more because her father is one of the most amazing men, right? He's one of the best of people, one of the nicest people. Imagine seeing people doing this to your father. And there's nobody to help him except you know, how traumatizing that must be for a child. But remember, we spoke about this with the life of Ayesha, that back then people mature a lot earlier. So many of

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the Sahaba used to get married up with nine or 10 or 12 years old. So at the age of seven or nine, Fatima was more mature than the average nine year old or seven year old today, because she was raised the proper way. So she's the one who stood up and did something about it. She went to a father, and she began to move this foot from his neck with her hands. Like this, just see the seven year old girl or nine year old girl, taking this photo with her hands beginning a hands dirty, to help her father to protect her vital, right. And as she's moving into the hands, she starts to cry.

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Again, no matter how righteous a Muslim is, you're still human beings. This Google a high rating Cora. client is part of being a person crying is part of being human. There's nothing wrong with crying. So Fatima, she cries, and she's moving this foot of a padded snake and she's crying, you can just imagine what she must be feeling and going through that time. And then she turns around, and she begins to take off and to shout the leaders of the enemies of Islam, she begins to shout and to berate Abu Jamal and his and his companions. Right? Remember, these are the these are the tyrants of their time. And this is a child who is standing up to the tyrants and taking off with him and

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letting him know that what he did was evil.

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So this is not just going against society, this is standing up in society. At that point in time,

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he set out for me such that and he may do it, he raised his hand.

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And he asked Allah to destroy a Buddha Hall. And he named the other people they as well were assisting him in this. And all of those enemies of Islam were the first people to be killed in the Battle of others, and ultimately, due to the law, slavery.

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Now,

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one of the things this, this story shows us is just how dangerous hatred is.

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Right here, hatred, be very careful of hating people. Be very careful of, of becoming such that your life is consumed with the hate of somebody else. It's very easy for us to have problems with each other, to fall into disputes, but never allow a dispute a problem that you had with someone to make you hate the person to a level where you are unable to see right from wrong. It is this pure hatred in Abu Jamal and his companions had that drove them to do such an evil act, which any thinking sensible person would think, why would I do this to a good person? We have different beliefs. But he's a good person, right? But he blinds them to be careful of hatred, he does something evil. On

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the other hand, the story shows us the power of love. The Fatima's love for her father was so strong, that she was willing to defend him in public even when she was still a child. Right? And this really shows you why she was known as one of the women of perfection, because this is perfection.

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Think about it today. One of the reasons why many of us don't follow Islamic teachings in our lives, is because we are, we are afraid of what people are going to say greater freedom society, we are afraid of our social standing. Right? This has become one of the main things you know, someone who used to work in jobs has stopped using it or because people are seeing you funny, right? Someone who used to pray fudger stop spraying because people are calling in extremists. We become so afraid of what people will say that we stopped practicing Islam based on what they see the Sahaba no matter what they did, they did not stop practicing Islam. Forget about what he said. It didn't matter to

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them what the people did to them. You know, we actually have easy. Our difficulty today. Our test today is just having to put up with harsh words. How many people say things about us? Maybe people will call you an extremist fundamentalist? Maybe people will tell you that you you practicing too young, right? I mean today if an 18 year old or 16 year old is following Islam, they tell her or him you practicing too young when you older. Fatima was seven or eight

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She was already a fully fledged practicing Muslim, appears in return she was older. Didn't Allah Enjoy your youth when you're older you can start practicing Islam, the daughter Islam from the beginning. So by that age, by that age she had the mind, but that he had the duck walk, she had the courage she had the personality to stand up for the truth. So

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really don't worry, what do people see, this is something that is stopping us from attaining perfection, we are more worried about people will see that what Allah will say. And this is what is stopping us from reaching the heights of Mr. Fatima de la she did not worry about this. And she focused on pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala. Through the years go by Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam he gets Valley to soda and to Ayesha as she moves, he moves to Medina, he actually met in Asia after he moved to Medina. And Fatima, she actually gets married very late. She gets married when she was 18 years old. Now to the last 18 years old very late.

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I know I never married my wife was 18. I was 20. And people told us we got married really young. But that's because our society is the opposite of the

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time you get married when you're 912 14 as soon as you attain puberty. So for Fatima to wait until she's 18. That was something in that in that day and age, which was regarded as a late time to get married. People at that age are nominally mothers already. So why did it take so long to get married? Firstly, because she was taking care of her father, and she was helping a father with his daughter and she really didn't have she really during the most crucial difficult time of the day, our manager probably the last thing on her mind. You know, if you look at the time of thought, and the Muslim being oppressed in Makkah, it was busy with the Hydra, not really going to think about

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magic at the time. The other reason is, although many of the righteous Sahaba and the pious Sahaba had proposed to her Rasulullah saw Sam was waiting for someone special. There was someone in his mind. He was hoping or he was waiting for that person to propose for Fatima.

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And that person was his cousin.

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Now, he was too shy to propose.

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Why? Because Ali was raised in the house of Rasulullah Salah, which means he has bought the movies together. Right? Because he is the first cousin of Rasulullah. He is the son of Abu Salim Rasulullah Xavi, the son of Abdullah and these are brothers. So Ali is first cousin and by extension party, my second cousin, right. And what happened is I would have had a lot of children, but he did not have a lot of wealth. And so his children were brought up by other relatives. So each of the children had grown up in different homes. Ali grew up in the house of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, that's where he grew up. He was

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but he was raised in his cousin's

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house. And that's why he was one of the first for people to accept Islam. But this means he was raised with Fatima. Right? He grew up together. And now he wants to marry her. And he's too shy to tell his cousin we also would like a father figure to him that he wants to marry his daughter. Right? So when he comes to rosulip slicer, he decides

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he comes to

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him and he's, he just keeps quiet. He doesn't see anything. He just too shy. So Rasulullah tells him I think you came to propose the market. And he says, yes. So Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Lee, what do you have to give her as a mother as a dolly. And he says, All that I own is my shield. That's all I own.

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I didn't have a big bank account. He doesn't have a lot of money. He only has one shield. Rasulullah saw some calcium, sell the shield, and use the money as you're given the money as the model. So he does so. And Ali frt market value. She's a team. He's 24 they get married, and he doesn't matter to anybody else while he is married to her, which is about nine years. Right? And

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we look together now look at this

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lovely salon, when it came to choosing a husband for his daughter. He didn't ask you how much money do you have?

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He was looking at something threatening, something more important than that. He was looking at the man. He was looking at the character. And he was looking at the compatibility in terms of personality. I thought imagine someone who's very similar to in personality since early and the reason is evil. They have the same upbringing. They have the same similar personalities, right? So they make a perfect match. Now, I'm not saying that money is not important. When it comes to marriage. No, it's very important because it is the man's job to provide for his wife, which is obligatory he's a farmer upon the man to provide for his family. Right?

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But what I'm seeing is,

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very often we reject or we accept a medical proposal based on how big the guy is bank balances, not realizing that over the next 20, or 30 or 40 years, rich people become poor, poor people become rich, nobody's financial situation is guaranteed for life. So if you only married someone because of his bank balance, what's going to happen on the day when he faces bankruptcy? or difficult time, or he loses his job? Will you be there for each other during that time, it will just the money can pick up two people together. You see the point, more important than a person's money is their personality.

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And part of this personality in terms of finding a husband is someone who is responsible and mature. So instead of asking a young man, who most likely won't have a lot of money, because he's still young,

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growing up in life, is asking, How much money do you have? Is it wise for men today to ask him? What's your financial plan for life? What are your long term goals? Because someday you can see the man's personality, whether he's a responsible, mature young man working towards certain financial goals are whether he is an immature person who's just spending money. Because if you're gonna, if a woman is gonna marry a billionaire, who is irresponsible, within a few years, they're gonna be bankrupt. Right? All the money is going to get blown in holidays and fancy cars and things like that, as they go bankrupt, right. But if she marries a guy who's responsible, that has a plan, and

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he's a righteous person, he's earning a lot of money. And together the struggle together, they will reach a point where they'll be financially secure, or they'll get there together, and the love between them will be stronger because of it. Right? Because they did it together. So we need to change our perception on marriage is not all about the money. It's about having someone worth living this life with somebody who is worth sharing your life with. And so Rasulullah ism, he chose early to be the wife, the husband, so he chose to be the husband of ottima Raja lo Anna.

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And it's quite interesting that Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam even after Fatima got married, he still did the active role as a father to both her and

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loved his son in laws. He suddenly lost Ali and who else who has the understanding of Rasulullah.

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Anyone who

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does have the rightly guided caliphs, imagine one of the

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daughters, and when she passed away,

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when she passed away, Rasulullah sallallahu, I told him, if I had more daughters, I kept getting them. Right, he loved this man, he loved me, right? He loved his son in laws. And again, in law relationship does not have to be a stereotypical hateful relationship. The sin is to love who your spouse loves, or at least be good to them, because their spouse loves them, even if you don't love them yourself. Right, just out of love for your spouse and respect for your spouse, you'll be good to them. But Rasulullah saw something the best of mankind, he took it one step further, he loved his son in law, and he loved his father in law's abubaker and always follow the loss. And so he was a

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very, very good father in law too early. And one of the best parts about having him as a father in law was that whenever Ali and Fatima had a dispute, whenever Fatima Ali had a difference of opinion and had a domestic dispute, Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam would make peace between him.

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He would not take his daughter say, very, very important lesson Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, if Ali and Fatima had a fight, he would not take his daughter aside, he would make peace between them. One of the main causes of marital problems in the current society is whenever there is a fight, people take sides to their own child, they become blind to the faults of the own child. And this this compounds the problem, Justice demands, the Quran teaches that justice is to speak the truth, even if it's against you or your family. And even if it's in favor of somebody you hate. This is justice. And so with Ali and Fatima whenever they had a dispute, Rasulullah slicin would make

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peace between them. And once we had a marital dispute, he left and he left the house very angry. He left the house and he went to the masjid. And then the machines don't have carpets. The mosquito said she was lying down in the sand and he was covered in sand and that's Sue Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam when he heard that ad and Padma had a dispute. He went to look for Ali to make peace between them. And the first place he went to look is the masjid. And when he found out he he saw he covered in sand and he called Ali Abu to rob father of the sand. And he was so happy to hear Rasulullah saw him give him the nickname

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He just had a fight with his daughter, you should be angry with him. He said he's giving him a loving nickname. Right? So he this broke that ice and they spoke and they were able to solve the medical issue. And they got back together. Now firstly, again, you know, the issue of solving marital disputes, we see nothing inside receipts. But notice earlier when he had the dispute with his wife, he left the house and went to the masjid. Meaning he didn't go

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and do something bad. He didn't stay and fight. He didn't really blow into an argument. Right. And generally a man when he when he's angry, what a man needs his face. He needs to be alone. Right? So that's my little tip. If your husband is angry, leave him alone for half an hour, you come down, right? So I'll leave it alone in the masjid and he come down, everything came right. also important to note, Romeo. Ali is from one of the four greatest men after the prophets, Fatima was one of the four greatest woman to walk the face of this earth. They were married to each other, and they still had disputes. Meaning it is absolutely normal, absolutely normal part of life for the husband and

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wife to sometimes have a difference, we have an issue, because it is two imperfect human beings living together is going to be false, it's going to be problems, right? So don't don't expect perfection from your spouse. And don't let every small issue blow out of proportion. Right? learn to forgive. And this is why one of my friends told me that a successful marriage is a union between two people who are good at forgiving. Right, two people who are good at forgiving each other. That's a good marriage, because it could definitely going to be problems. And so Ali and Fatima Hamdulillah, they had Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam with them, to guide them along the way. And it wasn't just in

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disputes, Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam at the time of the 100 at the time of gambling, he would actually wake up and go to the house and wake them up with 100 he will go to his house to make his his son in law and his daughter for 200. And something didn't feel easy. And he will leave a lighthearted comment to remind him of the importance of tahajjud. So you see this relationship he has with you that he took care of them. And he even after they were married, he was still like a father to them, which means parenting does not stop when your children get married. Parenting is for life. If your children are adults and married, and you see they're going astray, you see they're

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slipping into ibadah, you see they're starting to fall, you still have a duty as a parent, to remind them in a nice way to kindly and gently bring them closer to the sinner. Right. So if your son or daughter gets married,

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and they start missing shoulder to budget, or they start doing something they're not supposed to do, it's still your parent to duty to remind him of it. Right this duty is for life.

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So what would Fatima we see that we see that she had a blessed marriage. She also had bless her children, because she was the mother of who

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Hassan Al Hussein, who are the leaders of the youth of paradise. Right? So you can see again, this is the issue of parenting. We have extraordinary parents Rasulullah Khadija

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having an extraordinary child, Fatima, Fatima maddies, Alisha, now we have another generation of extraordinary appearance. And their children, her husband has seen another generation of extraordinary Muslims, or righteousness. So parenting continues, and each generation can get better than the generation before it. And this is something we see over and over again in our history, that when you have righteous parenting, each generation gets better than the generation before. Right? So for example, if you look at some of our scholars in history, many of the famous scholars in history, we're actually third generation scholars, right? For example, if you look at even damia, even

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taymiyah, his mother and father were scholars and his grandfather was also a scholar. But he's the famous one why it took three generations of righteousness and scholarship to produce the likes of him. That means he grew up with Alibaba and Alibaba and Ali, Ali grandfather, he grew up in him. So he grew up to be on a higher level. So if we can be good parents will have good children. If we can be extraordinary parents will have extraordinary children, and even more extraordinary grandchildren. This is how it works. This is what we need to work towards when it comes to raising the next generation of Muslims.

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So we look at her marriage, we look at the children, we look at the carnage another important thing about the life of Fatima

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another beautiful thing about her life is her simplicity.

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Fatima radula was a very simple person again, she had the character of her father. Her father was a simple man. She was a simple woman. She did not have any

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domestic worker in our house. That is not that is wrong. In fact, I didn't have slaves for the father did not want her to have a slave because she and her father with the role models muslims for the for the rest of humanity. And so one day, Fatima was finally the housework very difficult. And she heard that the Muslims just got some captives of war as slaves. So she goes, and she speaks to Ayesha, the wife of

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her stepmother, and asked Ayesha to talk to speak to Russell on her behalf about organizing for her slave, a worker to help her in the house.

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And I shall conveys your message. And Rasulullah has lots of he comes, he comes to visit Ali and Baba, and he sits down he talks to them and he says that you want to have asleep but let me explain to you or let me teach you something better than having asleep having someone to work for you the house better than that is to you to say to the handler to the three times for you to see a hungry letter the three times for you to see a lower quantity four times. You know in our community, we call this this V Fatima.

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This is where the name comes from Rasulullah sallallahu taala. Now again, let's analyze the region.

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Firstly

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Rasulullah Firstly, we see that Ayesha

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and Fatima have a good relationship. Who is Ayesha to Fatima

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her stepmother after her mother died, the province of America whose older Fatima Asia. Fatima. She's 10 years old in a stepladder. Imagine your mother dies, and your father marry someone 10 years younger than you?

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How does the average person react? But Fatima had a good relationship with Ayesha the fact that she comes in confides in Asia, and tells her her problem he conveyed to her behalf shows they had a close relationship. And we have another narration to prove it as well, then we're going to look at a bit later. So

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we seem to have this relationship. And again, you know that out of respect for your parents, you know, very often when if someone's mother or father died, a lot of people don't want him to marry again. It's their right to marry again, and that should be respected. So I shall convey this now. Rasulullah, he could have given the amount of sleep. And she had perhaps more right than anybody else in the community have asleep. But instead, he taught her to make Vicar instead.

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Now, one of the lessons I personally take from this story is that Rasulullah sallallahu and his daughter Fatima, he wants, he wanted him to be a role model for us a role model in terms of that we should not feel it is below our dignity, to take care of our own homes. On one hand is nothing wrong. Nothing wrong with hiring someone to do that for you. On the other hand, if you need to do it yourself, do it yourself. Right? I mean, we're not just talking about humans, our men and women alike. Rasulullah saw himself used to mend your own shoes. He used to sew your own clothes, you just rebuild the house, and he wasn't qualified to be the same. So they can be role models that this is

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part of the sooner the sooner is that this is my home, I'm going to take care of it. And so this is how we should be this how we should raise our children. We should not regard it as below our dignity, if we need to do any housework, right? It is easy for men and women alike. Right? So this is one lesson another lesson from the story is the importance of Vicar. the remembrance of Allah. And liquor is a concept which is very much misunderstood in our times, we have reduced it just like soda and just like fasting we have reduced the curve to a ritual without any impact. Now what's the word Vicar means Remember,

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the granola means to remember Allah. The reciting Quran is called Vicar.

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Praying sola is called Vicar, saying Bismillah before you eat is called Vicar, single hamdulillah after this called Zika Zika is this broad concept of remembering Allah in everything you do, and whatever you do, and whatever you say, it's not meant to be, which is once a day you sit behind the law, and you try and finish it in one minute. And for the rest of the day, you don't think about a lot. It's not meant to be like that. Right? It's meant to be this consciousness of Allah, this remembrance of Allah all times. And very often what happens is the actual vehicles that are found in the sooner we end up belittling it, right, many people say that Why do you make Islam so difficult?

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You know, the eating with the right hair, entering the toilet to the left foot and saying Bismillah before you eat and humble after you eat at the door before going to the door before sleeping, why make it so difficult? And the reality is that this is not meant to make these difficult. This is actually not compulsory. It's not compulsory, but it's there for purpose. The purpose is if you are the type of person

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He says Bismillah before eating Alhamdulillah after eating, if you make dua before going to the toilet and when you step up from the toilet, if you make dua before sleeping when you wake up from your sleep, this means you are remembering Allah throughout the day. It means that you are conscious of Allah if the first thing that you see when you wake up in the morning is the doable waking up. That means the first thing you thought about in the morning when you woke up with a look, this is what it means. This is the purpose would be to create this network, this God consciousness, this is what the gorilla does to us. But when you just see and you don't know what it means, you don't know

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what to handle. That means to say the 100 times 1000 times is not going to make any difference in your life because you don't know what you are seeing or why you are seeing it. What is true behind Allah

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Subhana Allah is translated as Glory be to Allah. It is a way of praising Allah for his how amazing he is. Right to Allah is praising Allah for how amazing is Alhamdulillah praising Allah for who he is. So when you see something we normally see, when we see or we experience something beautiful illustration. If you see a beautiful flower, or a beautiful waterfall, right, you see silverhand Allah, how glorious is Allah

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suited for husbands when you see a wife's a super handle? Our breedable is Allah who created her, right? So So Allah, this is what it's meant to be. It's supposed to connect you to Allah, they when you see something beautiful seeing the beautiful thing connects you to Allah. What is Alhamdulillah

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Alhamdulillah is a very important statement received after eating received after sneezing is the first words of the Quran. The Quran begins with Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen it's important to even what does it mean? All praises for Allah? It means that no matter what my situation, no matter what is going on in my life, no matter what is going on in the world, Allah is always deserving of all praise. This is what it means. in all times in all situation, Allah is deserving and Worthy of all praise. It is meant to create this connection between us and Allah. That we always thinking good of Allah in times of good times or bad

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luck.

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A lot of work but means Allah is the Greatest. It is the first thing we see when we start our Salah. Have you ever wondered why we start our Salah with Allahu Akbar? Why don't we start our Salah with superhard Allah, Allahu Akbar specifically, Allah is the Greatest. We started with that said when we started our Salah, we think Allah is the Greatest meaning. These next few moments are dedicated to Allah, I'm only gonna,

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I'm only gonna think about Allah only going to worship Allah.

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Allah. Allah is the Greatest and everything about sports, we think about work, we think about

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what is the greatest to us? What is our priority? Right? So, when Rasulullah saw me teaching Fatima to see disease to the handler to the three times in a day, you see 100 times a day to be four times a day, not just talking about seeing it as a ritual, right? He's talking about living and experiencing it, that to remember a larger out God will be far more beneficial for you in this world and the next, then having a sleep or walking in your house. And what is the benefit of victory in this world?

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What is the benefit of remembering a line this

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allows us in the Quran, Allah busy karela

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it is only through the rigor of only the people who are remembering Allah, it is only the remnant of Allah that brings peace. It means inner peace to the hearts.

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This inner peace in the entire world is seeking. Everybody wants in a peace. Everybody wants to feel happy on the inside, peaceful on the inside, no matter what's happening around it. We have people who have sought this in this world, right? They chase after the world, they become multimillionaires, they have mansions they have workers they have everything they want. And these to commit suicide. This will have to take antidepressants. Why? Because they don't have the remembrance of Allah. If you are seeking inner peace, it comes by remembering, remembering Allah comes from doing these small acts of worship for praying this other property from reciting the Quran from

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saying Bismillah Alhamdulillah blessing Subhanallah this creates inner peace and so inner peace is far more better and far more valuable than having a someone to help you with the housework. Why? Because when you have inner peace, nothing's gonna bother you. Nothing's gonna bother you. No matter how much the housework is not gonna bother you. No matter how irritating your boss at work is it's not gonna bother you, no matter how heavy the traffic is is not gonna bother you, because you have inner peace. This is what we want. And our students I mean, this is the

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teaches us how to get it. It teaches us the inner peace comes from remembering a lot. So let's stop doing Vicar in a ritual way. Let's really remember All right, let's really remember literally think about a lot, right?

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Alina Yoko Luna la yamawaki, Udo aku, Allah, Allah Subhan, Allah describes intelligent people. That is Allah description in the Quran of intelligent people. Allah says intelligent people are those who remember Allah, we did he are standing, sitting or lying down.

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meaningly wherever you are, whatever you're doing, even if you're lying down, if you're still thinking of Allah, Allah describes this in the Quran as a as a sign of intelligence, because you know what's best for you. So this is the vicar of Allah. And this is, again, we see the simplicity in the life of Fatima. And really, it is simplicity in our lives, that

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that helps us have inner peace as well. The more complex Our lives are, the more unnecessary things we have, the more credit we have, the more debts we have to pay, the more mortgages and rebar we have to owe people. The more unsettled Our hearts are, the more difficult life is, the more simple you love. living within your means having what you need, or what you want, that you can afford all halaal the more peace you are, simplicity brings peace. extravagance brings headaches, right? You may have the fanciest car, but you're still only 24 months worth of payments on that car. Every time you look at the payments, there's no peace, but we want a cheaper car cash. You don't have no

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worries, you sit in the car, you know, it's yours. You don't want anybody money. That piece is there. So you see the simplicity of it. Miranda has a family. And from day we learned the importance of living in this world like travelers living a simple life.

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Fatima is also very well known for her generosity, right? She's very well known for generosity, that they will night when her family, her children and herself used to go to bed hungry, because they prefer to give the money and the food the way

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they would rather spend the night hungry Did you know somebody else is doing so this is again, perfection of demand without me not to

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be told to provide for our families first and avoid this. But this is a higher level of demand.

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Finally, I want to end off with the story of the death of akima hora de la. Now, here's a question to think about how old you think she was when she passed away.

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She was 29 years old.

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She only lived in his words for 29 years. And in 29 years, she attained perfection, you know, she became the leader of the woman of Paradise, she became a role model goddess, meaning it doesn't matter how long or how short you stay in this world, because this world is nothing. This was gonna come and go everyone's gonna come and go. What matters is how did you spend your time? Right? If she waited for she was older to start practicing Islam, she wouldn't have done what she had done, she wouldn't have accomplished what she accomplished, she wouldn't be this role model that we're looking into today. Right? She worship Allah from the time she was a child as soon as she passes away at the

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age of 29. And she leaves such an amazing legacy. And what's more amazing than the fact that she passed away at the age of 29 is her reaction to the news that she's going to die. And that's the last story I want to narrate today.

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It is I shall reach to us that when Rasulullah Salallahu is finally in this Fatima came to visit him.

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And so she whispered something if it was yours, and she started to cry.

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Then he was with something else in the years. And she started to laugh. So I was puzzled. Once again. She's crying the chickens laughing strange. So she asked Fatima What did what did your father tell you? And Fatima says it's a secret. So she leaves a few weeks later

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and passes away. So I shall still here. Can you tell me now tell you what the law says yes.

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My father told me that Jabra used to recite the entire Quran to him once a year. But this year GPR decided the entire Quran to me twice, which means I think that means I'm going to die. So when he told me he's going to die, because remember how much they love each other. We spoke about what they've been through together. So she started to cry. And then my father told me that I will be the first one to join him after he dies.

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The first one to join. And when he said that, I started to

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now think about this. Why is she laughing? She just got news. She's 29 years old. She just got news. You're gonna die in the next six months.

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What will you do? 29 years old. You can

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You will die in the next six months, cry with depression. She loved,

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she loved because she lived a life worth living she lives she lives like he dies, that you're not going to do judgment in the afterlife. And so she could laugh about the fact that she's going to die because she loved the die in view of the Father. They live in this world without him. I this this was the level of love image which you see the perfection of an image. Now this story also shows us again, is Ayesha and Fatima had a good relationship. And I mentioned this because they are groups today who try to make it look like the Sahaba hated each other. There are some groups a fever party, my alley, and they make it look like Ayesha Curry against him. And they create this culture of

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hatred, understand that hatred.

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Any any group or any Akita or believe that is based upon extreme hatred.

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It is definitely a wrong belief. And it creates nothing but problems in the life of the person who holds it. Because people who hold beliefs have hatred towards the Sahaba, or any of the early Muslims, such a person becomes angry all the time. They're always looking for the fights. They're always looking for faults in others, they're always looking for a reason to get angry and to fight. Right You don't have you can never have it means you can never have peace in your heart, if you're very fundamental beliefs are based on hatred. And so understand that that is a habit, this idea that the Sahaba hated each other or they used to fight with each other. Yes, they had the differences.

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Yes, they had some civil war between them. This This happened. But this happened on a political level, he does not necessarily lead one the good and the other the bad guy. It's not as clear cut as that. We don't think pictures like this align most forgiving, Most Merciful. He's perfectly human perfectly within the mercy of Allah, that two people can fight with each other. Now lucky for both parties, right? So don't fall into this trap of hatred. The Sahaba did not have this hatred for each other. They had this mutual love and respect. Fatima, Ayesha, they had a close relationship. Otherwise Fatima wouldn't have told you the secret, right? And so this is something that we need to

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think about that if we have any beliefs, which are based on hating other people, where there is hatred for Abu hanifa or hatred or even Tamia or hatred for the Sahaba or hatred for early Muslim, or other Muslim who lives across the road with a double Muslim to go to this Masjid burrito Muslims with that kind of hat, or this kind of quota is gone. That heat is only hurting you so hurting them. It makes you angry, it makes you sad. It makes you unable to enjoy your life. It makes you unable to appreciate Islam and appreciate Allah don't live a life based on hatred, live a life based on worshipping Allah and pleasing Allah and loving those who Allah loves and trying to be a means of

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guidance for others, trying to be a means of bringing others towards goodness. And this is the life and the legacy of Fatima rhodiola. So Fatima, her father passed away.

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And she passed away a few months later, notice Rasulullah sallallahu sallam. When he passed away, he only has one child left Fatima and she passes away a few a few months later.

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Now, again, one last point for you all to think about. One of the hardest tests in this world is losing someone you love. And every single human being experiences this in their life, right? every single human being experiences the loss of a loved one. And is that person themselves the idea? This is life. It's a fact of life. It's one of the hardest things to deal with. Now think about this Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam in his life. Firstly, before he was born his father up to that date. Then his mother he experienced the death of his mother Amina, why is the child and his grandfather Abu Talib, and his beloved uncles I would call it Hamza passed away during his life. And one of his

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favorite cousins job when he passed away during his life was murdered. Hamza was murdered. Right and he's adopted his excuse to call adopted son lead even Lisa Martin during his life. All of his sons Kasim Abdullah Ibrahim died as children during his life. All of his daughters died during his life except Fatima, his beloved wife Khadija passed away during his life, can you think of a single, close loving relationship in which Russia last legend did not experience the death of a loved one?

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Any type of death of a loved one did you experience

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all of it in his lifetime? in his lifetime, he had to live through the death of every type of person, wise father, mother, son, daughter, cousin, adopted uncle, grandfather all of it. And he cried. He cried, he brought him down. He cried.

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He cried, and he said that he taught us how to handle it. He taught us the eyes can try and the heart can feel pain, but the tongue was not saying anything except what is pleasing to Allah. Meaning it's okay to cry. It's okay to feel sad when someone you love died. But don't ever say why did Allah do this to me who is allowed to take my luckily for me, don't say

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Things like this, right, except the color of Allah. And so we learned from this, that the importance of dealing with that test in the right way, because every one piece of the test isn't there's no way that you can live in this world for 50 or 60 years without experiencing the death of a loved one. It's just not it just doesn't happen in a hurry to anybody. Right. So we have to prepare for the test. And so Fatima, her father passes away.

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And the scholar some of them say that she couldn't handle living without him.

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She was so close to him. She became such became kind of depressed, and it affected the house and remember this sadness, depression, anxiety, all of these things have effects on our health. Right one of the one of the words using the Quran to describe sadness is Barfi. The word Buffy means to kill yourself with depression. This word Arabic word kill yourself with depression indicates that depression can kill you. And this is a proven psychological fact today, depression leads to many illnesses that kill to be careful of going too deep into depression. You find yourself falling, find a way to get out of it, get healthy, get out of it. Right. So, Fatima, she became sad the death of a

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father. A few months later, she passes away. She passes away at the age of 29. In 29 years, she left a legacy like this. The likes of which many people who live 60 or 70 years can't even dream of leaving, leaving why she never wasted her life. She never wasted her time she lived a life of Allah subhanho wa Taala. What kind of legacy Are we going to need? Fatima is the leader of the woman of paradise. Which means brothers and sisters. If Allah accepts our deeds, it forgives our sins and enters us into paradise. ask Allah to do so. When we get to paradise, she will be our queen.

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No matter what stage what level any of us get into paradise, she is higher than us.

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And so if we want to be near her in Paradise, if you want to be under her in Paradise, then we need to follow her lifestyle we need to become like we need to emulate a good quality We ask Allah to help us to follow in the footsteps of the righteous predecessors to remove ether from our hearts and decrease he would love for those who Allah loves. We ask Allah subhanaw taala to help us to emulate the qualities of the wrath of the righteous predecessors and to make us the neighbors in Paradise and to forgive our faults and to help us to lead the next generation towards success without will compete for today's example of Iran after Davina will have the de la COVID alameen wa Salam alaykum

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warahmatullahi wabarakatuh