Ismail Kamdar – Abu Talha al-Ansari – A Model of Masculinity

Ismail Kamdar
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of men in protecting and leading their families, protecting their families for their safety, leading to their success in society, and creating a culture of love, passion, and caring for others. They touch on the history of Islam, including its rise in pride, bravery, self discipline, and generosity. The speakers emphasize the need for men to consider being a father figure and address past experiences, as well as the legacy of theying Islamic culture and its impact on society.
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hamdulillah who was selected was salam ala Aman Lana be about

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for inner circle Hadith the Kitab Allah Wilfredo had you heard the Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was shudder morning said to her what Columbo has said in the book will be out in Delilah Kulu. Enough.

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One of the hot topics of this year amongst many of the young Muslims, is the asking a lot of questions about the concept of masculinity in Islam. What does it mean to be a real Muslim man.

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And historically, we did not need to address this topic in Karatbars, and lectures and books, because this was something that boys learned from the fathers and from their communities. However, growing up in a time where people can change genders, with gender has become something that is just a social construct in the minds of people, where there's so much confusion on what is a man and what is a woman. It's only natural that the young people growing up in this era, that they will have questions on their mind as to what actually is a man and what actually is a woman in the Islamic definition. Now, when I'm doing my research on today's hobby, I will tell her that sorry, but you're

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the one who, what struck me about him is that he is the model of a true snowman. He is a model of masculinity. And one of the sad things about our tradition today is that we don't actually talk about Sahaba like him that much. In fact, when I did a search on the name, Abu Taha al on Saturday on YouTube, zero videos popped up,

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is like not a single English video about this hobby. The story comes up in the story of his wife who measure them, or he steps on a single Malik, and many of the stories we're going to read today, you know the story, you just don't know the name of the hobby involved in the story. So it's important that we know who this man is that we understand his legacy, because he is a model Muslim man, and really for those youth who are seeking what does it mean to be a man do not look to the west do not look to non Muslim resources. Look at the prophets look at the Sahaba they were the best of men and the best of women. And last week, we look at a model of the best of woman, right, the wife of Abu

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Talhah, almost to lay in Romania, that she was a model of what we would call the best of woman a true model of femininity, how she raised her children, how she took care of the offense, how she gave everything for the sake of Allah, her courage of putting her willingness to put Islam first, her husband Abdullah, is likewise a model of Islamic masculinity. And what we find in the story of Abu Dhabi is the three primary roles of a man and the three main characteristics for fulfilling those roles. So what are the three main roles of a man in society, the three main roles of a man in society are to provide to protect and to lead, at the very minimum, he should provide for his

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family, protect his family and lead his family. This is minimum, but a great man provides for society, protects his community, and leads his community. And I will tell how was this kind of man, you will find in the store? He didn't just provide for his family he provided for for the Mahajan. And the answer. We find that in the store, he didn't just protect his family, he protected Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam, we find his story, he did not just leave his family. He was a leader of the unsub.

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And he had the three most important characteristics to fulfill these three roles. He was a model of courage. You cannot be a protector if you don't have courage. And he was a model of generosity. You can't truly be a provider, if you're not generous, and he was a model of caring for the community. You cannot lead a community if you don't care about them. And so we find in Abu Dhabi, in all these stories, as we look at the stories I want the young men especially to reflect on what does it mean to be a Muslim man, and to see and I will have the model of a true Muslim man, a man who was a provider, a protector, a leader, brave, generous, and someone who genuinely cared for others. And

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his story begins with a a ad that really shows all of these things in one

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that we already mentioned a lot of the story last week, so I'm going to skip over some of the details. But I will tell her, was one of the early converts to Islam in Medina. And he converted why? If you remember last week's lecture, he learned that humans today was widowed. So he proposed to you as the one of the wealthiest men in Medina, he proposes to the widow so he can take care of her and her children. And she says, I don't want any money. I only want one bottle from you. That Maha is that you convert to Islam. And so he converts to Islam as hahaha, and her son honestly permalink performs the Nika and

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The Sahaba used to say we don't know of any Muhammad more blessing than the MaHA congratulate her Muhammad was the conversion of Abu Dhabi. And this was a gift to the ummah. Because I will tell her becomes the very definition of an unsavoury. There are very few Sahaba, who when we say the name, we say Allah and Saudi, because they were the definition of an Assad, then if you Abu au Al and Saudi, I will tell her and Saudi, these were some of those who were the definition of what it meant to be an unsavoury. And what what really defined the Assam was how much they cared about others how generous they were, and how selfless they were. These were people who took immigrants into the home,

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immigrants who they did not know. They took them into their homes, they're willing to give them half of their wealth.

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They are willing to do anything for the immigrants help us in the purest sense of the word. And I will tell how was the definition of these qualities. And so he is there at the pledge of Aqaba, pledging to Rasulullah sallallahu these are what his wife he's one of only two men who go there with his wife because Mr. Lim also demanded that she takes the pleasure of Allah. So he takes the pleasure of Allah rasool Allah flows and moves to Medina, Abu Talhah, does not miss a single battle. He is present in every single one of the garden hood.

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All of them I would tell her is there. And he's not just there. He is in the front lines. He is in the front lines of all of these battles, to such an extent that in the Battle of Wuhan, when things got heated, and people were running away, Abu Taha was right next to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, depending in one of the narrations that he'll bucardo described it as such that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam is holding a shield, protecting the two of them, and I will tell how using his bow and arrow to fight past the shield at the enemies, the two of them are right next to each other rasool Allah so lonesome handling the defense, I will tell her handling the offense. You can

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see number one, how much Rasulullah saw the loss of trust in Him. Number two, you can see his courage. And you can see his dedication to protect Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam, when everybody else is running away, he's right there next to him in the heat of the battle, at the most dangerous time in the most dangerous battles. And again, in the Battle of Hooni. In another battle, where people ran away, I will tell how was the hero of winning, he was the hero of winning, he's one of the few names that pops up as a hero on that occasion, when everybody else was running away, he stood firm, and he fought and the Muslims won.

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I will tell her do not just fight physically, but he uses other gifts in battle as well. And that's the gift of His voice. So he had a loud voice. And you know a lot of young boys when they growing up the become a good one in that developing this loud, scary voice. That's not the voice they used to. And modern society shames them for this you know, what in society quality toxic and they say you need to be soft, and you need to, you know, be timid. But the Sahaba were not like that they knew how to use the skin things in a way that is beneficial in a way that is for Allah. So I will tell her the loud voice and use it in a way that was pleasing to Allah. How did he use it in the

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battlefield, he will be the one talking smack to the enemy. He'd be the one scaling the enemy telling them, they were coming for you. We coming to get you he would terrify the enemy on the battlefield to such an extent that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam said that the voice of Abu Talhah is more scary to the enemies of Allah than 1000 soldiers. This was the impact of Abu Dhabi on the battlefield. So this was a man of pure courage. He was willing to give everything for Rasulullah sallallahu when he was looking for the cause of Islam. He also was a man of self discipline. It is narrated Dalhart radula. One who fasted every single day of his life unless you were sick or

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traveling. He was a man who consistently faster unless there was a reason not to fast like it was a day or he was traveling or he was sick, he was fasting. Now what what does fasting do? Fasting builds self discipline.

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Let's see what he does. It builds self discipline. And this again, is a quality that is lacking in many young men today. They lack self discipline, they lack self control, and Rasulullah sallallahu ala give some advice to young men. He said whoever amongst you can afford to get married. And if you can't get married, you should you should fast. Why? Because fasting builds self discipline builds self control. I will tell how was a married man but he still fostered most of his life, because he understood the level of self discipline that you get from this beautiful act of worship. And so this was a man known for his courage, a man known for his fasting a man known for his salah. Moving on to

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the next major quality of Abu Dhabi. I would not have regular and who was known for his generosity. He was the very definition of an unsavoury. Last year he mentioned the story of how when Rasul Allah so Allah is somebody and you will * rune went to the home of humans to them, and she had like four loaves of bread. They all ate from it without getting finished. Right. And this was one of the more desserts of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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But I want you to look at the beginning of the story. How does the story begin? The story begins with Abu Taha going to the masjid and greeting Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam when Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihe Salam replies, a look of worry comes in the face of Abu Dhabi. And he goes home and he tells his wife who Mr. Name. When I greeted Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I heard hunger in his voice. Do you have any food, let's give him some food. Again, see the genuine care and concern that I will tell her head that even when he's talking to someone, he's looking at the body language. He's looking at the voices. He's looking at signs of whether this person needs help.

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam did not ask people for food. He did not ask people for anything. Right? This is again, part of Islamic masculinity that you don't ask people for this, the Sahaba the minimums. Isabeau is such a big deal on a horse and they drop the stick, they will get up and pick up the stick themselves, because he never wants you to ask anyone for anything. So I will tell her know that Rasulullah saw some he's not gonna ask you anything. So he had to read the signs. And he picked up from the voice of Rasulullah slicin When he said while he como Salaam in the voice, he picked up that he was hungry. So he organized the food and medical happening. But there is one

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amazing act of generosity of Abu Dhabi that started a movement that revolutionized the world. And I want to even realize that it was like one absolutely extraordinary act of generosity from Abu Dhabi that changed the world. And that is when the verse of Surah Al Baqarah was revealed, where Allah subhanaw taala says it is not piety, until you spend from that which you love. Now, how do we understand this verse, right? It's not piety to give away something you don't care about. You have some old clothes and broken things, you give it away. That's not piety. It's piety. When it hurts you, you're giving away an amount that hurts you. It's something you actually like, how do I go tell

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her understand it? He thought to himself, What do I love the most in this world? I want to give that away challenge. What do I love the most in this world? Now I will tell her we said he was one of the wealthiest men in Medina. How did he get this route? Understand Medina is a oasis in the middle of the desert,

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who has the wealth enjoy an oasis, the people who own the wealth, the people who own the few bodies of water, the people who own the date, palm trees, and hotel her owned the most productive and profitable garden in all of Medina, over 600 date palm trees, and multiple wells were in this garden. And it is from the

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profits of this garden that he built his route. And this while this garden was the most beloved thing in the world to see when he hears this verse, where Rasulullah saw some translate the verse, Allah subhana, Allah says that you will not attain piety until you give that which you love. He says oh Rasul Allah, Allah Islam. The thing I love the most in this world is my garden. I want to give that piece of Villa, I want to give the whole garden feasts appealing. And Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam convinces him to keep something for his family. Because again, you have to provide for your family. So eventually gives 600 date palm trees and three wells feasibility law. Now, why

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is this significant? This is the first time in Western history that someone donates a property to become nonprofit feasibility law for the benefit of the poem. In other words, the first work of many historians say this act of generosity. But I will tell her is the first work of the first endowment in the history of Islam. The word work has not even been invented yet. But this is the first time is how we decide that this land is a nonprofit land. This plan is all for the poor. It's not for me, I'm not making any money off it. Whatever comes up, this land is going to the poor, it now becomes a nonprofit property dedicated to the poor. The first work of the significance of this act. Think

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about it in light of the Hadees Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam said, whoever starts a good practice will have the reward of everyone after them because they could practice. The concept of the worker for the endowment radically changed this world, especially the Muslim world, because in the golden ages of Islam, when the Muslims were the dominant civilization on earth, and we assume they have more wealth in the new what to do with, what did they do with that wealth? They established off upon old power endowments upon endowments to such an extent, you wanted medical attention, hospitals were run by wealth of free medical attention. You need education, schools or universities run by Oh,

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cough, free education. You want to go to the library. It's run by Oh, cough, your animals. There's animals on the street. Neither home the allergic cat shelters run by Oh cough your horse

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He's gone too old, you can look after the animal. They are old age homes for houses done. And almost every civil service that people needed was free in the Muslim world because of the knockoff system. And many of you here today I yourselves involved in running or establishing or coffee, that is continuing the legacy of Abdullah and inshallah we'll get part of the reward. I want you to think about this. Think about the baraka of a single, sincere act for the sake of Allah. This man gave this garden of 600 day poverty for the sake of Allah in in itself. This is a truly extraordinary act of generosity that most of us would never imagine doing.

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But the bedrock of this app is that it changed the world, the O cough system became one of the most important systems in the world that made life very easy for most for people living in the Islamic empire, it made the cost of living very low. And on the flip side, when non Muslim ideas entered the Muslim world, and capitalism entered the Muslim world, what's one of the main problems of capitalism one of the main anti Islamic forms of capitalism, that they privatize Social Services? So they enter the Western world? They like your hospitals are free, can you making a profit of this no longer Oh, God, you don't have to pay for hospitals. Your schools are free, you should be making a profit of

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this normal oh god pay for schools. And so many Muslim lands overnight, went from having free medical service, free schools, free riding through all of this free to suddenly all of these things being paid services, the salaries are still the same. The cost of living has skyrocketed. We wonder why the Muslim countries are in poverty. This is one of the main reasons why go back historically, and you can pinpoint the exact time when the British took over Muslim land, destroy the OIC have replaced it with these privatized industrialized for for profit businesses. And that's when poverty entered those lands. National Poverty introduced interviews. So what can we do provide your court

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system, the 100 likes Africa, we are doing 100 many other countries I've been to people haven't even heard of a work of literally a Muslim communities. We have never heard of a workable handle we are at least we have the system. And we can revive it to a level where we can do so much more confident, so many problems in South Africa to be solved to the system. This system goes back to this one, and this one extraordinary acts of generosity. So this is the legacy of Abu Talha a man of courage, a man of self discipline, a man of generosity, and these are the qualities of true Islamic masculinity.

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From Hannah Rebecca Robin is at MTSU Boone was alarmed and number two Selena.

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Hamdulillah he walked out was Salatu was Salam ala mon Lana.

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You had you had the Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was Shiraz morning to help them pick up cocoa beans Akintola

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so we said that I will tell her story of your loved one who was a model Woosnam man. And for any of our youth who are confused on what is masculinity, look at the model of Abu Talhah. He was a provider, he took care of not just his family, but his community. I mean, look at him donating a garden of 600 date palm trees, for the poor to eat from this is providing for society. Right? He was a protector, him on the battlefield next to Rasulullah sallallahu, defending him with his life, the very definition of a protector. He was a leader. He was one of the leaders of the unsolved who went to Africa and gave the pledge of allegiance to Rasulullah sallallahu I think he was and I want to

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end with one beautiful quality of our data that is lost in our times. Our data going back to the very beginning of his story, how does he slowly begin? He learns that a woman is widowed. He reaches out to her he proposes to her he marries her. And he and they have children together. Right you have a man who died young and that's another story with lots of lessons, how he dealt with the death of his child. And then they have Abdullah nine months later, who grows into a righteous lobby of his own and his sons all become so proud of the Quran.

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Almost to them already had two sons from her previous husband who had died. I will borrow even Malik and honestly family and Alba Reuven Malik is already a young man at this time, but honestly well Malik is only eight years old. When his mother remarries. So honest, even Malik grows up in the home of Abu Dhabi. He spends the daytime in the company of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the evenings and nights in the company of Abu Dhabi. So even though he grows up without his father, he does not grow up without a father figure. He's always around one of two father figures, either Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam or Abu Dhabi. And almost really, when she praises her husband, we

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mentioned so many amazing things about her husband in this lecture. What do you think she praised him for? She didn't praise him for his courage of everything else. Yes, she did. But what did she specifically mentioned? She said, may Allah have mercy on Abdullah?

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He treated my son's like his own. May Allah have mercy and I will go out he treated my sons like

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I will. He was a man who genuinely cared for others. He marries a widow, he raises her son like his own son, and even the oldest son, you can even see similarities between him and I will tell her even though he was already a young man, remember I said I will tell her was one of those people who used his voice in the battlefield of Barack Obama. He was also one of those men who use his voice in the battlefield. I will tell her I was the one who was talking smack to the enemies of Islam and Barack Obama, he was the one who was singing war songs in the battlefield, riling up the army with his one the sheets. So you can see the similarities there as well. But I want you to think about this. I

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will tell her and again last year dimension this, that there was always orphans in the home or motel hydromorphone. They were always orphans in the home of America and omit today, meaning whenever a child was orphaned in Medina, they took their child into the hole and raise the child as they will. So this is a man who is raising his own children, raising his stepchildren raising orphans, caring for the poor, protecting Rasulullah slaley Islam, this is a true community leader. If you want to know what it means to be a man, really, it means to become a community leader to be like Abdullah, but there are certain things he did in the story that have today become lost in our taps, for

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example, taking on the additional responsibility of additional cameras, to take on the additional responsibility of a widow or a divorced woman and her children and to raise her children as your own.

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Well, if a man has the emotional and financial capabilities to do so, in this is the sunnah to see what Rasul Allah salAllahu Alaihe. Salam did this is what I would tell her did this. Or did you see what Omar did that when a woman was divorced or widowed, and she and she had children, they would make that home part of their home, they will take on the responsibility of additional families, and they would raise these children as their own children, and Rasulullah saw Tim did that as well. In his story, almost Salama, you see that he literally raised the children of almost Salama like his own children. And we see this as well. So these are this is a sunnah that has not only been lost in

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our times, but honestly, it's become taboo in our texts, where people don't even want to talk about it anymore. But it's something we have to consider reviving for the sake of the children. You understand that every young boy and girl needs a father figure in their life. And if they don't have a father, the men of the community should be the father figures, just like how I would tell her and Rasulullah sallallahu. Some were both father figures to analyse, but Malik, every man in the community should consider being father figures to those boys in the community who do not have fathers in their lives. This is an important part of Islamic masculinity. So this answers our

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question, right that many of our young men have what does it mean to be a man, we say study the lives of the sahaba. And you will see real men and real woman I will tell her was a real man. He was a provider. He was a protector. He was a leader. He was brave. He was generous, and he genuinely cared for his community. Understand, when you genuinely care for your community, you will be the leader automatically, because everybody loves to the person who genuinely cares for them. You're not going to go to a leader who is abusive is not going to go towards the leader who is too radical, they all going to flock towards a leader who genuinely cares about and that is why I will tell how

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it was unsavoury. He was D and he was the definition of it. I'm sorry. And we all must strive to revive his legacy in every aspect of our lives. So Hannah, Rebecca Robin easily mo yesterday, Paul was salam Selene will hamdulillahi rabbil Alameen de Mistura

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