Refining the Self – 9

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The speaker discusses the importance of learning from the three types of people, including cowardice, lie, and criticism, and emphasizes the need to avoid regret and mistakes. They provide examples of how people of these types are more rare than those of the first category, and advise against avoiding negative consequences and avoiding false assumptions. The advice is not a solution to a problem, but rather a way to make people feel embarrassed by their statement. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of mindful behavior and planting in the past to create destruction.

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So I wanted to long rakata thank you for joining us and they are law class.

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Today inshallah we are continuing talking about the true rationality and the true irrationality. Ma'am, hasn't Rahim Allah earlier mentioned that the true irrational is the one who disobeys Allah subhanaw taala.

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The true irrational is not the one who loses

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the lots of money. The true irrational is the one who disobeys Allah subhanaw taala. And the true rational is the one who obeys Allah subhanaw taala. Here, the Imam goes on.

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It is also irrational to be consumed by the affairs of this world.

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To try hard to please people in order to serve one's goals whether these goals are bad or not shameful or not. to empty clever means to increase one's wealth and fame and to secure high positions by wicked religious means. He is telling you this is also irrational.

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Do not think that any status you get any position you get is good. Maybe it's not good.

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So this is also irrational.

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These people mentioned above, who are these people

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are called maloca. Nana smile, knockaloe. McAnuff. Yes, hi, besides the ones that he mentioned earlier, the ones that they testify that had we have here

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have sound hearted, we wouldn't be in this situation.

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So remember how Allah is telling you, those people who confessed that they were irrational, and of whose condition Allah approved, were consumed by the affairs of this world. Now, on the day of judgment, what will happen?

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There are several times in the Quran where Allah subhanaw taala mentioned the dialogue between the followers of the leaders and the leaders.

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The followers are blaming the leaders.

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That's why we are here in the Hellfire because we followed you, the leaders will tell them, we have no authority over you, you you lead us, you followed our lead, we did not force you.

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The followers will tell the leaders will tell Allah subhanaw taala to increase the punishment for the leaders.

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And they confess that

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they did not have rationality in this life. Now those people

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who followed the leaders

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who followed our own, who followed him around, they were as Mr. Hamill is telling you, they were consumed by the affairs of this world. They were taught to increase their wealth

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followed obediently their kings. They followed them and everything. And we're protective of their leadership positions. But was that enough for them? What's the use in the day of judgment? If you will end up in Hellfire, they're not the use. So that's irrationality. Make sure that what you're doing will help you in the Day of Judgment.

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Now we are moving to another issue. After we spoke about rationality and irrationality. We are moving to another issue. Remember, Allah is telling you the fundamental virtues are four. We have for one fundamental virtues. Every other virtue is composed of these fundamental virtues. They are justice, understanding, courage and generosity.

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shujaa will Jude or a ninja and Al Jude. These are the four fundamental virtues. The fundamental vices are for every other vise is composed of these fundamental vices. Again, this is not an arson. This is the opinion of the Imam Rahim Allah is telling you there are four fundamental virtues and four fundamental vices. They are the opposite of the virtues we enumerated above.

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Thus, they are injustice, ignorance, cowardice and miserliness.

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So we have four fundamental virtues and four fundamental vices.

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trustworthiness and honesty are forms of justice and generosity.

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trustworthiness and honesty are forms of justice.

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You are just when you are honest.

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And you are generous as well.

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You tell the truth

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people could trust you

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This is part of justice.

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uprightness is a virtue that is composed of courage and generosity, perseverance to is so composed.

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So again, that's what the mama handle is telling you, uprightness

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is a virtue, which is composed of courage and generosity. Now why you are upright? Because you are courageous.

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What does that mean? That means you don't care what people tell you. That's the courage. You are upright, regardless of what people say.

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Sometimes they may tell you it's not right.

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To be straight, try to hide sneak.

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You say no.

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That's courage. That's what they memorize telling, perseverance to is so composed. Also, perseverance. Perseverance is not an easy thing. It's very difficult, except for those who are courageous and generous. forbearance is a unique form of courage. forbearance is a unique form of courage. Actually, forbearance is almost the highest level of courage. The highest level of courage is not to kill the enemy or to overcome

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your enemies who are stronger than you. This may be courage, but it's not the highest, the highest level of courage is forbearance. Because when you are considered

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you will be considered for winning when you are able to punish, but you don't do. You are not considered for wearing.

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If you already cannot do anything to that man.

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You are five foot and the man standing before you is seven foot, Hong Kong.

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And he's very strong. And you say I will forgive him. Of course you forgive him, you cannot do anything. If you try to hit him, he will kill you. That's not forbearance. But when you are able to punish, and you persevere and you say I forgive you, that's the carriage. So that's why forbearance is a unique type of carriage when you are able to punish, and no one will tell you anything wrong. You can do it but you don't do it. That's extra carriage.

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That's why the prophets I send them said, the real powerful is not the one who wrestles who knocks down people. The real powerful is the one who controls himself during anger.

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It requires lots of strength. Now, we're moving to one of the vices which is lying.

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Mr. mahama Allah says nothing is more aboard than line. It's the worst thing line is telling you is the worst thing. What should one think of a sin of which Khufu

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is a species? Every cover is a form of flying. He's telling you if we divide

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since two circles, all of them would be included in the biggest circle which is lying, including cover is telling you Cofer is inside the bigger circle which is lying, every type of golfer is lying. So he's telling you lying is worse. Worse than any other type

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of vise.

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Every golfer is a form of lying is telling every golfer is a form of lying. Thus, lying is a genius and cofra is a species that belongs to it.

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Because the gaffer, he doesn't become a Kaffir until he lives

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he says Allah is three or he is not the messenger and he is lying whether he admitted it or not. Because deep inside within, they know that they are not telling the truth. So lying is worse than any other sin.

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The prophet SAW Selim when he was asked about

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the man who commits adultery.

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Who steals who lies.

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The prophet SAW Selim said, the believer may steal. He may commit adultery, but he may not lie.

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He doesn't lie. The believer does not lie.

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Lying is generated by injustice, cowardice and ignorance.

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These are the reasons for lying.

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And most of the reasons for lying is the second one cowardice while you lie. Oh, I don't want him to be upset. That means you are not courageous. You are not strong enough to tell the truth.

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Why you lie or if they knew they will beat me up. If they knew I will lose this and that. That means you're not good.

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Mouth most of the times people lie because they are afraid.

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So that's why people lie. Whether it's they are doing injustice, or because of they are cowards or because they are ignorant.

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For cowardice produces low self esteem and lying is a cause for low self esteem.

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It prevents the self from feeling honor and praise worthiness.

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That's what language would do you.

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So try to avoid line. Never ever lie for any reason.

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The prophet SAW Selim said, Allah is Allah Raja Leah stuck with Harrison hataoka vandalized the man would tell the truth, and he will do his best to tell the truth until he will be considered as sort

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of a worker of the Lohan was praised for his truthfulness and he was called us deep.

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While you lie one time, and you say it's nothing, then you lie another time and you will be considered liar.

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Now, moving to another issue, types of people,

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once we mentioned seven types of people, but this is different. There we mentioned seven types of people according to their praise and criticism.

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Here, according to their speech,

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he says, Rahim Allah, I found people divided

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into three categories, according to their speech,

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which distinguishes them from donkeys, dogs and insects. What's the difference between us and the animals? We talk, they don't talk, even if they talked, we don't understand them, they have different language. So this thing that Allah subhanaw taala, distinguished us from them.

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We have three types, we are divided into three types.

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The first type, the people of the first category, say whatever comes to their minds, that's the first type. The people say whatever comes to their mind, without attempting to verify whether what they say agrees with facts or not. Most people are of this category. Most of the people, they say anything, they don't care about what they are saying.

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They tell you there is no tax on your roads.

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They will not charge you. But actually this is wrong. Because there is a huge tax. You may be thrown in Hellfire because of a word you said.

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So most of the people they don't think they just said say something because they want to why you say this, I want to

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the second type. People have the second category affirm what they believe to be true, and deny what they believe to be false, without actually examining the facts, but only stating what they think.

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Many people are of this category, though, not as many as those of the first category. Now this is different from the first one, the first one, even if they know it is wrong. They just say it. I want to say it. That's it. The second category, they say what they believe is correct. But that does not mean necessarily they were correct, but because they believe it is correct, they say it again, many people are of this type, but not as many as the first type. Most of the people are of the first type, they say whatever they want, regardless, even if they know it is wrong, I want to say it

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but the second category, they say only what they think is correct, but that does not make it correct by itself because it it is maybe wrong.

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They are less than the first category. The third category people have the third category say only what ought to be said.

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So they stop when they need to stop and they talk when there is no need to talk. People of this category are more rare than the red sulfur.

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Very, very few people say they needed words only. How many times you regretted our you said how many times you wish if you did not say this word.

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So try to be always from this category from the third category. You say only what ought to be said.

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Mr. mahama says whoever is distressed by the truth will be distressed greatly and for a long time. The cupola hammelmann ha ha ha ha why

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You are feeling against the truth. While you should be happy with the truth, if you are not happy with the truth, that means

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you'll be unhappy for a long time. Why? Because even if nowadays people believed you, eventually they will not. Eventually the truth will prevail. That's what what they always say. So if you don't like that, if you try to hide the facts, if you try to work against that, you will be in distress for a long time,

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you have always be happy.

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And how can you tell that whenever you find the truth is, is in one direction, you go that direction,

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whether you like it or not, you have to like it.

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There are two traits that are very comfortable. Two types of people.

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They are very comfortable. The first is greatly praised. And the second is get greatly scorned.

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They are not being concerned by the affairs of this world and not being concerned by matters of shame.

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We have two people, both of them are happy. But one of them praiseworthy, and the other one is blame worthy.

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Although both of them are comfortable. But

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there is 180 degrees difference between each one of them. The first one is not being concerned by the affairs of this world, the one who is working for the hereafter. Even if he lost his money, even if he lost his relatives, even if he lost his position. He's still comfortable, why he's looking for another thing. He's aiming high for paradise. So whatever happened here,

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could be managed.

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if he lost the Hereafter, that's the great loss. That's why he is comfortable. He's not

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sad or mad

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or stressed by this life. Now the other one is also comfortable, but is blameworthy. Why? Because he's not concerned about the matters of shame. He does whatever he wants. He's not shy. He doesn't care.

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Whatever happens, I don't care. He abuses this one. He wrongs this, this one.

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He exposes others people's

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secrets. He doesn't care.

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So this one also comfortable lie because he doesn't care. But he's blameworthy he is not praiseworthy. So both of them, they are having the same feelings, but one of them is praiseworthy, and the other one is blameworthy.

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he's telling you the following observation is sufficient to make one less concerned with this worldly life. Do you want something to help you being less concerned in this life?

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Especially if you are old or if you are married or if you are having a hard time from the students, from the brothers from the sisters, Mama shamala is giving you

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a training

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every person in this world when he sleeps, forgets everything that he cares about in this world, everything that troubles him and everything that he desires, when you sleep

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What do you remember what do you recognize?

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You are sleeping,

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whether you are in prison, or you are in palace, you are in, in an island on the seashore, you are in a in a Hot Country, wherever you are, when you sleep, we forget everything.

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Is this true or not?

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in sleep, a person does not remember a sun family affluence, laziness, governance, dismissal from a position of authority, wealth, poverty or calamity. This is true.

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There should be a sufficient lesson in this observation for whoever thinks rationally. So this is training for you. You want to be

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less concerned about this world. Try to be like the sleeping person is telling you there should be a sufficient lesson and this observation for whoever thinks rationally.

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Train yourself always like being sleeping.

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Oh, this is so difficult. I cannot do it. When you sleep you forget it. So try to forget it now also, that will help you

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among the examples of the marvelous split

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Have Allah the Exalted, full of majesty, is that whatever is most needed is made plentiful.

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This is another great thing. One of the best things in the book.

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Whatever is most needed is made plentiful.

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Think of water and those things that are needed more than water.

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How much is the water?

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A bottle of water? How much is

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50? cents? $1? Why?

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Why it is not $10 or $20? Why the water is not expensive?

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Everybody needs it. If everybody needs it, shouldn't it be more expensive?

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It's free from Allah subhanho wa Taala. Exactly. That's the thing. The Imam is telling you. Allah made it free because you need it. If you find something very expensive, that means you don't need it. He's selling you think of the water? How much is the water? Very cheap. Do you think? Do you need something more than the water?

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Yes, you need the air you breathe? How much is the air you breathe?

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Free? Imagine if you had to pay for the air you breathe?

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Don't you need it more than the water?

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Why is it free? Why is it not even with for one cent? Because you need it more. The water is very cheap because you don't need it. Or you need it a lot less than the air.

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This is one marvelous thing. The other thing, and whatever is not needed is made rare.

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Think of red Ruby, and those things that are needed less than Ruby. Why diamond is so expensive.

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Why diamond is so expensive. Because you don't need it. Because we don't need it.

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What if you lived all your life without diamond? What will happen to you?

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Nothing. Right? Maybe sisters won't agree with this. Why gold is expensive.

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Because you don't need it. Why the the Lexus or the Mercedes or these cars, why they are expensive. You don't need it. You want a method of transportation. You could get it for $2,000 very good car. And you could get it for $30,000. And it will do the same job with little differences. You don't need it.

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Anything you need, it may be sure that it is cheap or free. If it's expensive, that means you don't need it.

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That's what the man was telling. So what do you think

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makes sense.

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For sisters, maybe that's not

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the example of people's concerns is that of the cattle, the prairies, once they have covered the piece of land, new territories lie open before then.

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This is the nature of this life.

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You are 15 years old. I'm done with mid school. I have high school. That's it. You are senior you finished high school that's it. Then there is the college. After the college That's it, then there is your job, then marriage then children. Every time there is a new challenge. That's the nature of this life. Once you think you're done, you will have new things coming in the road. That's the nature of this life, there is no rest, you will rest when you slip in your grave.

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And then you will rest forever inshallah in paradise. But in this life, there is no rest. That's the nature of this life. Therefore you need to learn from now do not postpone things not to say later when I get married. When I have children when I get a good job. Every time there is new challenges coming in the road.

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Similarly, every time a person satisfies a concern, new concerns are open before him. Also, that's the nature of this life.

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When you were in the high school, you wished to have a nice car. You got the nice car. Now you want a nice wife. You have a nice wife, you want a nice house after every time. Think of the small things and the big things, even your cell phone.

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I just want the cell phone when you get it. No I want the small one with camera then you want this with with another features. That's it.

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be less concerned about these last because there is no end. There is no end.

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Remember, if you if you were in the elementary school and you all what you wanted is bike bicycle. That was your ultimate goal. And now you have hundreds of bicycles but they are nothing or the PlayStation.

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Now maybe you have lots of them.

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This is the nature of this life. And marginalises Rahim Allah. He said I had ambition.

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His uncle was the Khalifa.

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And his father was the ruler of Egypt.

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So he wanted to be like them. And he became the mayor of Medina. He became the prince of Medina.

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Then he had ambition higher. He wanted to marry the daughter of the halifa and he married her. Fatima bint Abdul Malik.

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She's the daughter of the Khalifa. her brothers are Holika and her husband became Khalifa. Then he said I wish to become the Khalifa. And Amara Han Allah He became the Khalifa. Now what is higher than being the king or the president of the entire world, there's nothing higher than that. He said after that I wished paradise

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because I got everything in this world.

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So every time you get something, there are other things will come.

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One tells the truth if he says that the rational person is troubled in this life, and if he says that the rational person is comfortable in this life.

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So if you say the rational is troubled, you are telling the truth. Also a few say the rational is comfortable. Also you are telling the truth, how

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his trouble.

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or his trouble is that he sees the spread of falsehood, and its dominance and the difficulty of making the truth prevail.

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That's the trouble of the rational. He wants people to be guided. Now don't you feel sad for those people who are lost? Don't you wish if they are having a good time, you are troubled by that. But he's come he's confirmed is that he is not concerned with what consumes his fellow men.

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You are troubled because you want people to be guided. You see false hood, and you don't like it you want people to to improve themselves to stop sinning. But at the same time, you're comfortable. Because when you see everybody involved in worldly matters, and you are not involved like them,

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you are comfortable. That's why if someone said you are comfortable, he is telling the truth. And if he said you are troubled, he's still telling the truth.

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The Mama Mama is telling you stay away, stay away from agreeing with the wicked companion. And from helping people even a little in matters that are harmful to your heart, to hear hereafter or your religion.

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Don't ever agree with people. If that thing will harm you, in the hereafter.

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Don't agree with him.

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Don't prefer this life over the hereafter. For you gain no benefit from doing this serve regret. That's exactly what you will get only regret. And they are after you regret that you agreed with them in this life, where regret is of no help to you. And those whom you helped, will not be grateful to you. But they will feel satisfaction in your misfortune.

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That's what will happen.

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Look at the criminals.

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When they commit the crime, everyone is happy. Everyone determines what he gets. They divide the shares, even before they do their crime after they do their their crime. Everyone gets his gets his portion and they leave. Then imagine if one of them was caught.

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What will happen and then all of them were caught. Everyone will blame the other. That's what happens. So never agree with people and things that will not help you in the hereafter.

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You will gain only remorse

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at the least which is guaranteed. Those whom you helped will care nothing about any bad consequences of your deeds. Now if you're caught in a crime, Could someone come and say I want to be in his place.

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could this happen? It will never happen. It will never happen. So don't do that.

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However, do not seek conflict, even a little with your companions and the people of your era in matters that do not harm your religion or your hereafter, for such conflict leads to harm, tension and enmity. On the other hand, some people they like always to be known,

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just by disagreeing with people. Now something that will not help you the hereafter something that has no effect, neither on this life nor in the hereafter.

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While you disagree with people,

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they will not appreciate that

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if you dispute with your friend for hours, where this remote control is manufactured,

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in China beach in Mexico beach in USA, what will happen

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and you don't know where it was manufactured, leave it, this will not help you look at the people they they spend hours they waste days arguing about things that will not help them neither in this life nor in the hereafter.

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You just want people to say oh he knows this thing. So what should know where they made this? Or how many gigabytes in this or what's the brand of this car? What are the features?

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Sometimes especially when people are sitting you find one always he tends to disagree with people. Why? They will not like that, they will not appreciate it, you will create enmity. Now when when you should not do this in matters that will not help you in your religion or it will not harm you. But if it will harm you then do not agree with them. You cannot agree with them.

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This may even lead to great detriment without there being any benefit originally. So you are causing trouble without any benefit. don't disagree with people if there is no use.

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If there is no escape from choosing between angering people and angering, angering Allah subhanho wa Taala or between rejecting people and rejecting the truth, then choose to anger people and to reject them, but never anger Allah or reject the truth. This is a rule always.

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If you do this, you may lose your job.

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But if you don't do it, you will displease Allah subhanaw taala

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Oh, no, no, I will. I will do it. I want my job.

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What will happen eventually you will lose your job and you already displaced the last panel.

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There is one lady

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she married and her husband asked her to take off her hijab

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after some time, otherwise, she will be divorced. He told her whether you take off your hijab or I'll divorce you and she loved him.

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She was advised. Don't take off your hijab please Allah subhanaw taala

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she did not listen.

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Less than 40 days after she took off her hijab she was divorced.

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Don't displease Allah subhanaw taala. At any rate,

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if you please Allah subhanaw taala at the expense of displeasing people. You will praise Allah and Allah will make people pleased with you.

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If you displeased Allah subhanaw taala at the expense of pleasing people, you will displease Allah subhanaw taala and people will be displeased with you.

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So if you have no choice whether to reject people, or reject

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the obedience to Allah subhanaw taala

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always obey Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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Always, woman yet tequila de la Maharaja, Allah will give you a solution.

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It is beautiful to following the example of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, in admonishing the people of ignorance, disobedience and sin.

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When you want to advise, you have to follow the way of the messenger sallallahu wasallam.

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Whoever admonishes sternly and harshly is mistaken.

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You are mistaken because you are not following the Sunnah of the messenger assassin. He's mistaken and he has transgressed and in most matters, entices the admonished person to persist in his erroneous ways in order to infuriate the harsh administer.

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Many times people make mistakes

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accidentally, or they did not mean to or they couldn't help it

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and they are willing

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To give it up, but the way the ad manager came and he said, Don't you understand Are you fool? They say you have no business. And I will do it again. Just because of what you said, this happens many times.

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So, why this happened? Because you transgressed you did not know how to advise them. Now, they are wrong also, because when I get the advice, regardless of the way I should accept it,

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but most of the times, if the advice was not delivered properly, you will not get the result.

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So, you have to follow the Sunnah of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you advise in a nice way.

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This way, the person who's offering the advice is blameworthy rather than being praiseworthy. Now, you want to advise him to stop, he was willing to give it up because of you, he is doing it again. So now you are blameworthy or praiseworthy.

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He became blameworthy. For you did not say anything, it was better.

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Whoever admonishes he should admonish, kindly, softly and with smile,

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as if he were offering counsel and informing about the deeds of someone other than the admonished person.

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Other than the admonished person has admonished effectively and successfully.

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If you wanted to advise someone, don't tell you have to do this.

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The first thing they will say, I don't have to Why should I listen to you? But if you come and say,

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there is a man who did so and so it was good.

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It is as if you're telling him Why don't you do like him?

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Or when you come to him and tell him, how about doing this?

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Now when I tell john, turn off the light, he may not like it, but when I tell him, can you turn off the light? Oh, yeah, of course I can and he will do it. Right. So if you offer it as a suggestion, they will accept it. This is important way to give the advice.

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If the person rejects the admonishment, then the ad manager should attempt to make the admonished person feel embarrassed by his erroneous ways. And he should do this in confidentiality.

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You offered him the advice you told him? How about doing this? Can you do it? Yeah, but I will not do it. Why don't you try? No, I will not try. You come to him again. in seclusion, privately, not in front of everybody. And you try to feel to show him that he should be embarrassed.

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Don't you fear Allah subhanaw taala look at what you're doing. That's not right. You are so and so, you are you are a good man you have you have sanity you are wise you should not do this. That will help.

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If he still rejects the admonishment, then the ad manager should try to admonish the person in front of someone in his presence, the admonished person feels embarrassed.

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We have very clear example. Mom, my brother did so and so,

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what will happen, oh my god.

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Or you have so much respect to someone and you are admonished by a brother not to do this yet you kept doing it. He came to that person whom you respect very well. And they told him what will happen to you.

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You will be embarrassed right?

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Most likely will you be doing it again or you will stop doing

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you will stop. So this is helpful also, but not at the beginning.

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In advanced step, these are the manners taught by Allah as he commanded us to admonish but be kind.

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Okay, so it's really nice how to advise someone how to give the

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the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to admonish indirectly by saying, What's the matter with people who are doing such and such.

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Now again, when you confront someone, they will reject it, they don't like it. But if you mention it,

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and you keep it vague,

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not specifying the person.

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First people did not know who did it, and they will avoid it.

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He enjoined people to be kind and commanded them to make things easy for others and forbid people from repulsing others.

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What do you find this what's the evidence that he did that the messenger sallallahu Sallam

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that he commanded people to be kind?

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You don't know any any Hadith of the messenger Salaam he encouraged people to be kind

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you know

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yes love for your brother what you love for yourself but this is in direct

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prophets awesome said this Shirou will attend a funeral. Give glad tidings do not alienate people WASC to make things easy, well, I trust you and don't make things difficult.

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And the other Hadith the prophet SAW, Selim said in Allah you have to Allah if Allah gives on kindness, but he does not give on harshness.

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So that's the way you should do it.

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He used to be selective in his admonishment. So he would not cause the admonished person to be bored with his constant advice. Again, trying to choose the suitable time because if everyday, everyday everyday everyday you tell the same thing.

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There's no need to tell it the next day. I already memorized it. I could tell you what you're going to say. But be selective.

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Allah subhanaw taala said if you were severe, or harsh hearted, they would have broken away from about you. While couldn't afford one Khalid al Colville and subdomain Holic

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why people did not disperse from the prophet SAW Selim.

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Because he was kind hearted.

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And he's the Messenger of Allah, Allah, Allah.

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If he was harsh, people will not gather around him. And he is the messenger of philosophy. Why you blind people, if they are not listening to you, you are not the messenger Salaam and you are not

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yet you expect people to be with you.

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But severity and harshness is obligatory only in enforcing the bounds of Allah subhanaw taala. That's when you have to be harsh.

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If someone

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drank alcohol, and there were witnesses that he drank alcohol openly, he has to be punished.

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You don't say oh, I have to give him kinda advice. The ruler has to punish.

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That's his job. If someone killed an innocent man, you don't come and say why you killed him.

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Don't do it again. You don't do that he has to be killed.

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These are the bounds of Allah subhanaw taala. That's only when you are harsh.

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There should be no softness exhibited by the one who enforces these bounds.

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Another aspect that is quite effective in delivering admonishment is to praise in the presence of the person whose behavior is to be corrected. Someone else whose deeds are opposite to the wrong ways of the first person. This is another method.

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He's telling you, this is also helpful.

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You know, someone who doesn't come to the masjid,

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you come to him, and you don't tell him anything. But rather you tell him, you know, that man, and you start praising him, he comes every time to the message of Han Allah how righteous he is, or you start praising him. Now in general, praising is not good, but he's telling you in this case, it is good. What will happen,

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the one who's listening, he will say, I better be like that man.

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It will encourage him to improve himself. So this is also helpful in admonishment.

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This would invite the first person to change his way, and engage in righteousness. I know of no value for praising someone other than this one. So in our handler, it's telling me this is the only way when it's recommended to praise someone, which is to encourage those who hear the praise to do likewise.

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It For this reason, that people should make it part of their tradition to keep track of virtues, dates and vices.

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So he's telling you, it's good to document these things, right? The righteous deeds, what the pious predecessors did. Now, when we read in the books, what they do what they did, we say Subhanallah This is impossible. But it is there in the books, that's what they did. So what will happen, we'll try to

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do like them. We try to encourage ourselves because they already did it. But if it was not documented, we don't care. We'll say no, it's impossible. No one would ever do it.

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You tell me someone prayed. All the Quran in America

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prayed six hours standing, that's impossible. But when you have it there, what will happen? You will say, oh, if he prayed six hours, at least I should pray one hour. And at the same time you look what happened to the people who disobey the laws of Karnataka,

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you try to avoid it. This is a helpful method, to encourage people, to do the good deeds and to stop them from doing the evil deeds by writing the virtues and the vices. So a person would stay away from the vices because they are scorned in the tradition, and emulate those whose virtuous deeds are remembered in the tradition. And he would learn from the lessons of the people before his time.

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Another topic now

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the member Himalaya is saying I have pondered all

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terrestrial beings, and I have thought about them for long.

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The things that Allah subhanaw taala created, I found that everything living or inanimate, in its very nature, if it has the capacity, the capability is to attempt to bestow its qualities on other things and attribute to them. Its modifications.

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living or inanimate, it has, it likes to enforce its qualities.

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Its modifications on other things, like what?

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You are a father,

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and you studied engineering? Most likely you will ask your son to study what?

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engineering, right Why? That's the nature he's telling me. That's the nature

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even in the materials,

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in chemistry, they know that the strong

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will affect the weaker component. And they will be mixed together.

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The same thing in this life.

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You see the virtuous wishes, that all people would be virtuous? Isn't this true?

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If you are righteous, you want everybody to be righteous, and the inadequate wishes that all people would be also inadequate. And this is as well true.

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And you see that whoever mentioned something, instigates others to follow what he says. So he might say, I perform such and such deeds. Now why would someone tell people I pray? In the night I memorized the Quran, why would you tell that?

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Because he wants others to do the same thing.

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That's the nature we like others to be like, and we think always that whatever we do, people should do. That's our nature.

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And the people have the vices, they want others to do the same. And they consider this wise is the upright thing.

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While the people of flute were kicked out of the city,

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ultima karateka. Why?

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In nomina, takahara. That was their crime.

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All the people have linked.

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They were committing that horrible sin, homosexuality. But the family of need they did not.

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So the people of loot wanted to kick them out of the city. Why? Because they are purifying themselves and that's a crime.

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We are wrongdoers you have to be like us or you have to go away. That's again the nature of people.

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And you see the one who follows a certain sect wishes that everyone would follow that the same sect

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again its nature.

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And you also the see this in the elements, if an element is more

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effective than another, it attempts to change to change it to its kind.

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And you see this in the composition of trees and in their dependence in their feeding on water and the earth and how they transfer this into wet tissues

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while you have what tissues because the the earth was worth if it's dry, you will have it to dry. It's the same thing.

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Glory be to the one who created the nature of things and sustains them. There is no deity but he is pinata.

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Among the wonders of Allah's

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omnipotence is that is the innumerous multitude of creation.

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How many things that last panatela created

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Can we count them? list them? It's countless billions upon millions of things, only humans they are billions. What about trees? leaves? birds, fish?

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How many? You will never see two things that are exactly alike, without there being some difference between them.

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Now is this good or bad?

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In the inanimate objects, it's not good like the car, it has to be

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the same.

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identical, but in the last creation, even the twins, they were born the same time, one minute difference there is that you have to see a difference. That's the greatness of Allah Spanner. They'll take the leaves of one three, even if it's more than 1000 leaves, and try to put them there is a difference, even if it's small, there is difference.

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I have asked one who lived for long and whose age was at whether he has ever seen an image exactly similar to the one I was showing to him. He said to me, no, every image has its own unique aspects.

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That's the creation of philosophy panatela.

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This is true throughout the world.

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The one who ponders the compositions of bodies and of instruments and encounters them frequently, and looks at them hard and deep will definitely distinguish between them, and observe differences between them that are known by him, and which he cannot express in words. So Glory be to the exalted the most wise, whose powers have no limits.

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Now we're moving to another issue.

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the ills of corrupt morality and the remedies. How many minutes do we have?

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We will hurry up inshallah. Whoever is tested by vanity should think about his faults.

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If you give yourself too much credit, remember your faults. If he's impressed by his virtues, he should search for his vices. If his faults are totally hidden from his knowledge, so that he believes that he's free from fault, he should know that he is troubled forever and that he is most among people in imperfection, the greatest default and the weakest in recognition.

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If you think that you have no faults, try to think deeper.

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If you thought and you still say no, no, I am perfect. Then according to one has Mahalla, you are imperfect forever.

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Because you did not find your faults.

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And whoever tried to correct you, you will not listen. So you are worse than the one who has faults and he knows of his faults.

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his utmost fault is that he is ignorant and demoted. And there is no other faults greater than these two, he's ignorant because he could not know his fault.

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try always to remember your faults. If you felt arrogant, sometime.

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Think when you go to the restroom? What do you discharge,

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the discharge honey,

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gold, silver,

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so you should be humbled.

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For the rational person is one who is capable of recognizing his faults. So he works to correct them and seeks their removal. The fool is one who is ignorant of his own faults. That's the real fool. The one who is ignorant of his own faults.

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We should know with certainty that no human is free from shortcomings. Save the Prophet save the prophets sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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The prophet SAW Selim said khulumani Adam hapa all sons of Adam make mistakes, all.

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All of them are all of them.

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If one is not aware of any of his faults, He therefore has fallen from grace and has become so insignificant and heedless that he is no longer above any vise and he is the lowest of the law.

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I think I should stop here. These are really nice words. I need to reread them again. Next time you

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Allah. So we conclude our session other solo Solomon amagasaki management