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remains now with a continuation of the story of the sleepers of the cave

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on iron Ember 61.

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So

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it's not 61?

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No, say

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things like,

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Oh, yes. Can you just repeat the food, please?

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Yes.

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So,

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basically, we mentioned last week that the parents of these children are

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mentioning, but they made a decision themselves to leave the party.

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So my question was,

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around people that's going after now and the children

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thinking about places and environments that you want to raise your children in. And so do me as like actually have control over

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if our children are guided or not selected us in

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America or Canada, or Amsterdam, or even is

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is that putting our children more enters? And, like they weren't grew up with the same culture, the same environment?

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But at the end of the day, they are still the one that is Hidayat. So do we actually are?

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We?

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Okay, so the reason I wanted to delay this question to this week was, it's multi dimensional. It's not just one, you know, monolithic approach to this. Because there are so many factors that would entice people to attend live as we relocate

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for various reasons, like violence in the country, poverty, unemployment, whatever the case may be, how much of a difference or how much the role does it have in the upbringing of the child that is the outcome of the child, very important question. Because it's, it's,

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it's something that the prophets have instructed us with, but it's also something that Allah Subhana Allah somehow gave us a different perspective on in the Quran as well. So the instruction and the perspective that Allah gives us, it's like, the two opposites on the one hand, the prophet Alex, that was the that teaches us Columbo, eluding you like

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every child is born upon the fifth row. And then our understanding was the fitrah is is a natural innocence right, Islam believes. Islam teaches the belief that children are innocent. We don't believe in regional, economic regional cities that the son of Adam is passed down from generation to generation we've spoken about that briefly before we believe the child is born completely innocent. But then you say for a while you're with daddy Oh, you're nasty Ronnie Are you manage a parent's income and influence the child to the point of the child becomes either a Judeo Christian or matron etc. Now, the way I understand it is not as literal as you might first glance, because the

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profitsystem is actually cautioning us, that every person is born with an inclination towards belief and towards probability iniquity for only one God with no partners. outside influences will then come and cause the person's belief, the child's belief to change and deviate from the heat from oneness. And this this outside influence

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in an in a, an agrarian society, you know, before the first Industrial Revolution before the ages of technology, and you know, where we are now, and people were still living in close knit communities and so forth. The primary influence for a child would be the parents that if we had formal schooling, we would receive visa education from the beatings from the neighborhood. So the parents played a much larger role in the life of a child in those days than they do today. Today, that same responsibility is now shaped by the nanny by the TV by the preschool and creation of the K, the grandparents etc. So, the influences are far more reaching than just the parents. So we have to

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understand that in light of that, that the person a child is born with the innocence but then outside influences come and cause deviation. So we need to be aware of that this is directly in correlation with

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The essence of sort of our environments have an effect on us,

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our environments and effects. And so when we say vitamin C, we don't just mean the geographical environment, but our social environment has a huge effect. And as we are social beings, you take on the characteristics of the people around you. So, this tool is dealing with teaches us that, you know, probably more than any other story in poker and teaches us that

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however, as your question asks, to what extent is the parent responsible? Now we know that responsibility, to nurture to heat to nurture, adapt to nurture, we know that it comes from the son of the Prophet and so you know, that comes from almost $400 commands just to get the door

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open. I mean, as Virgina wasn't ready yet, you know, what are under the 13, EMA practice, the boomers are our eyes are our load with our spouses and with our children and make as the leaders of the righteous that last call is actually make us the parents, the leaders of the righteous, our kids. So our kids need to be the 13 and we need to be leading them in that. So this radius texts from Quran and Sunnah that can be cited to prove that you have the responsibility to do what

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the best way capabilities to do your best in nurturing the ideal Islamic characteristics within your progeny.

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So that includes education, that includes character, this includes etiquettes, models, ethics, etc. However, after you have that your base still understand that when a human being becomes neutral enough, through outside influences through their own pathways, their own thinking their own, their own, knifes particular, they make their own choices, and the ultimate outcome is not dependent on the parent,

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the parent will have the responsibility to the extent of influence. So let's say for example, I get my child, no Islamic upbringing, no Islamic education, they were not influenced by a student, they didn't know the province, I certainly didn't know. I just gave them everything of the dunya. And then they go astray, maybe leave is now maybe slightly based in that, in that case, who's responsible?

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Who's responsible? Obviously, I will be responsible because I took no precautions, I didn't do my face.

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But in the case of appearance, and all that gives us examples with a beta test the pace and scale this deviation, despite that, the obviously the ease no responsibility on the beta. And the example of this is that of Levine, that we know

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is the most obvious example, His own Son. And I encourage you to look at for our own epi Mohammed's also not in terms of his kids, but other family members of hula, that appeal to heavy water. So again, you have to do your best as far as what is logical and in terms of, you know, the best standards of upbringing, etc, you have to think you have to apply yourself FTS wisdom and nurture these qualities by the case to a point where you've done your best you're no longer in the driver's seat, US me

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being the very modern problem that you bring up is

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if you know if you relocate to a place like United States or Canada, where you're going to different Muslim minority, remember, that is a unique type of Muslim minority situation that was the minority and these challenges of video. Then, depending on the age of your kids and the type of upbringing you gave him, etc, you do have responsibility over over what it takes place the many people don't take this into consideration. So they would relocate based on you know, dunia reasons with its wealth.

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But not often do people do the property searches, look, how close to the machine Are we going to be? Easily madrasa is the Muslim community, you know, and that means if this is nothing like that, and you actually say well, okay, I'm going to just give my child a completely different opinion. So you have a stake in that if you don't take the necessary precautions, if you don't do what you what you need to do, to make sure that those qualities are preserved, then you have responsibility in you awkwardly partly responsible for what happens thereafter because you are putting in the factors that would

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probably lead to something problematic and the same thing applies to what we said about taking a child away from the own

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Seeing friends and Muslim community and putting them in a place of education with primarily secular, primarily a religious, you know this, no Muslims at all. And we take them out of madrasa and we take them away from the Islamic heritage and culture and so forth. You can do that for the sake of education. In and of itself, you're not necessarily doing something wrong. But if you don't take the necessary steps to preserve the Islamic identity, when you do that, now you're causing a major problem. Because you're essentially taking, you're taking something, you're taking a logical situation where humans are social beings, and you don't want it to work. You want them to not be a

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social being not being influenced by the environment. And yes, that's the word comes down to social vocab. As you can see, when you do some analysis, the knife teaches us this, it's a really important lesson. Now, I don't want it to be limited to children, because it applies to us as well. So let's read and try to discover someone's opinions.

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Yes,

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beans, immigrant can work toward

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more challenges.

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But in

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terms of environmental factors,

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in terms of

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really agree, it's not common

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to have cross boarding.

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Now with that, I'm asking you for questions. We allow girls

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to come in and get the ease of silence around them. Why because events are both spiritual and learn people are helping with the feel of a human vehicle.

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And you just need

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to let

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the audience know the both of those factors will actually go to participate, we will have an It was a conscious choice a decision made. So why don't we apply that c++ argument to today's times?

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and not use the argument of rationalization that we ought to justify our actions Yamagishi was a pillars coming

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in that is why we are in this identity crisis, we uncovered becomes an ethos become free. And then

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to make it more palatable,

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dominant culture Yeah.

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Yeah. So again, it comes down to this whole.

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This whole concept of

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conformity that you spoke about last week was last week or the week before the show, but one of the most serious dangers that we face is the idea of liberalism. Wanting to turn the deen into something that is in conformity and pleasing and appeasing to the other. That's a serious issue, and it has implications across the board. And this is just one of it. Right? So if you if you try to present an exam with a lady cannot travel

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to the other venture back when Islam is

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occurring, Islam is lagging what what is this? You know, this is anti human rights activists, NGOs. So what do we do, instead of standing up ground and saying, well, this is the law, Allah, this is our east is worse than

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most, most, many Muslims today want to actually go backwards and present a different type of Islam that is more in conformity with what the other can be satisfied with and comfortable with. And that's a problem that we've seen this and they all perhaps some jurisprudential justifications for that type of thing. However, I have personally seen that even in this day and age, with all the safety factors and a travel and so forth, the dangers of schooling, women with a female, she can be our professional she can be how educated etc. I've seen it we you know, just one thing goes wrong. Not you can't even really call it harassment yet something that alludes to investment. If you become

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so shaken up, at that point, Buddha's return to

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which is so vulnerable to this No Well, that can go directly in the and that's usually what she seeks out. Now. I'll be criticized for saying something like that in

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Why does she need to do fitness you can defend yourself, etc, etc. So I don't want to get into all of that. But the point is yours aka me learning about

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The importance of not giving into conformity don't give into trying to make something more comfortable for the other, these young, these youth, they could have just, you know, disguise themselves and use the legitimate form of what people do. And just pretend like they are with everybody else. Just go with it. Safety, the life has been saved and another issue, but they chose not to, they chose to stand up against the grain. And so we are different, our identity is different. So let's see how it unravels and we can we can discuss this in more depth uses a lot of lessons that we can take from this

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work and then we cannot assume that I lay him Leon

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Sarika that way, but here is yet another one of a number of them like that, we caused them to be discovered. Because they will not cause them to be discovered how they discovered amendments.

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In your

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they add money back and money and they were hungry. So they saved one of them a get something to eat. But if you can, if if today you go to a shop with money a few years ago,

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people are gonna look at you like, Whoa, where does this come from? And what is this? Right? So people obviously suspecting that these, these guys found the treasure some way because they come with gold coins or silver coins, etc. You have silver coins, and we need to find out where they came from.

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In the meantime, the young man who went to purchase the food is looking around looking over there wasn't a McDonald's on this corner before. And this is what is this this burger king, I don't recognize these places. So he was obviously finding this strange. Furthermore,

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these young men didn't just go and buy the first thing you can find me they are, they are still in the minds that are fleeing persecution. They are fleeing for the life. So what do you do?

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So the modern mind might wish to buy anything, don't worry about

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the first, the first priority was going to find the most the most pure food. Remember that point? Then

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when they said, you know, don't be discovered while you're off. Be careful, tread carefully Don't be discovered. They also showed us how the minds work.

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Remember that point? They say? Because if they discover you that if they discover you, they might tell you today?

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Oh, I might even return you back to the region.

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You see the priorities for them? data isn't as bad as very tactical foot. That's how bad Khufu is in the hearts and minds. We have to remember this. Because we give an insight into the persona, the way of thinking right, it's very important that we see that because within the the way of thinking we actually find the answer to salvation of a lot of our issues that you face.

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So called a winner. Okay, so they were discovered, they come back with young men, they go and see these people from 10 years ago.

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Alone, why did you do this? The FMO so that they know that all of them know the main, the youth as well as the people under the law, that the promise of Allah is through what promises?

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What promises that

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that is life often, they like that is life after this simple fact. I can push you to sleep within entities and then I can bring you back to that, hey, well, I'm gonna say it that way, Buffy that and that the hour, there is no doubt in it. There's absolutely no doubt it easier the nurse or whoever

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they may be when they were arguing about the theory or arguing about the method.

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They were arguing back and forth over how long it will remain. They say it's a possibility for call boo, boo Yan and then the people didn't quite know what to do with it. Because at this point, a lot goes into to pass away. And if you find these types of miracles occur, and you know,

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when when a certain group of the Venetian you will turn into monkeys and pigs, they in the Quran is mentioned by those people that in the fall. So don't think like okay, the monkeys and the pigs of the sacred today will give us something out of the ordinary acts like this in history, the Quran is clear that they don't survive because it's out of the ordinary, it's out of shooting that a lot. So it's not something that we can we can actually say okay, carry on to this day.

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I'm not sure that there might be some exceptions to that. So the people said, Okay, let's build a machine over these people here. Our serious problem and then we'll be our nose base with regards to the start disputing as to what

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We should do Should we? Should we, you know, take them elsewhere should we make a shrine Allah knows basically because they are afraid they are just human like everybody else all along you know all of that up to him, but those will eventually those who eventually won the debate

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they have the game back and forth basically letter P then either you must either we will build a mosque here in this on the site.

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Now, something very interesting. I always point this out, they say sample unit anantha. Soon they will say falletta they will say three

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Aurobindo The fourth is the dog, we have una Hamza, they will say five Sadie. So,

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the six is the dog Rajan when we when I say just throwing in the unseen, this is an expression, which basically means that guessing at random, we are gonna influence over these things. When

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they will say similar, so, I mean, what I mean, who can go home and the dog

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could ropey animal we're interrupting him, say, my goodness, based upon how many there were Miami vanilla pony banana Nose Day, except a few. So what I learned from this verse and I always like to point out is, don't get caught up. In, in the apparently unimportant things, if our didn't make them important. They're going to go people are going to go back and forth. And you find this handle on all of the stories of the

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student number used to particularly discussed this before people will draw from other sources in order to be able to give you more and more detail. So they will go into how many were they in the cave? What were the names? What is the city? Were they what type of dog was it was the killer dog was the crossbreed was the pure breed right? To the dog? And when they that, yes, it's mentioned that the dog's name was XYZ.

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In the story, what did he take when he was a youngster, what is the color of his coat was the multi technical greenco it was mechanical. So many people get so fixated in those things, things that our didn't mention, these are the profits or something mentioned. So then they go in. Like other sources, let's say just for information sake, feed what happens, what happens,

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we tend to miss the moral of the story, we tend to miss the actual issue that allows you to to absorb

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and it's so it's such a frequent occurrence that I think that happens more often than you could imagine. So if you if you listen to the stories being narrated,

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etc, you get so caught up in the details that are not highlighted in the Quran in the sooner that you miss the lessons that Allah wants you to take note of in the Quran in the book and teach it so simple. And then we make it complicated, because I want you to really internalize the lesson. But no, that's not enough for us, we want to expand a little bit, right? So this is actually why you will notice that if something is vague, like we they have or what they do, who the names were, you will about cash machine versus even though if we wanted to we could get some information like that. Unfortunately, people get caught up and I believe that's the ending of this was my IRA money, love

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money, money news day, except a few. Meaning my definition of disease knows the true reality of of them in a situation except a few. They get caught up in

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the details of the story as opposed to the the real listening. And again, these two primary reasons here. So one is about piano like that. It's it's something that is reality as online besides the game, and the other is the way these youth handled.

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conformity, societal pressure, liberalism, how they handle what happens when the whole world is going bonkers. And you want to preserve your Islamic identity. That's the actual destiny and although highlight that for us again tonight in our discussion here within the lighter Island, just stay with me, it gets gets even more interesting than that, for that demography him.

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Do not

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Do not debate about them. Don't get into this type of discussion. Let me run on border on what SFTP means. And don't seek fatwah from them meaning from the non us things from the Venetia, it cetera, et CIE factor from him about this, because the courage to trigger me to get off stage they would tell us about some stories so we can ask the professor. And of course, that was the backing out in our context, we will still refer to the story

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Because you won't move something wrong, but we shouldn't be caught up in that.

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When I say enough, I mean that.

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In a nutshell, we've covered the station, don't say about anything, I'm going to do that tomorrow. Except that you say insha, Allah, we've covered at least 111.

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When to say it, why you said why you say,

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one kurapika.

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And remember your load when you forget. Remember, you wrote when you forget these different layers of meaning here.

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The one that, obviously is, whenever you become unmindful of love, remind yourself of a wall. That's the real function of the law. The law is not originally intended to be a ritual, you know, we come together, we decide some stuff makes us feel good. Recruiters actually intended to program so that we can be called conscious to go through your day, I am losing focus, man, I'm forgetting what my real purpose of life is we just Cisco for a few moments and remember a lot. That's the original purpose of the program. This is different meaning

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that we get from this as well, as we've seen, it's a habit that I've somehow picked up over the years from my teachers, and I've seen my teachers doing it. I'm sure you've seen it elsewhere as well.

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When somebody tries to remember something, and we say alongside Dr. Mohammed, so I always wanted Why didn't Why did they do that? When I discovered I was so pick that up that comes from this wife could Raka can remember your load when you forget. So when you sell long Sunday is in the Mohammed you're not only remembering Allah, you're also remembering Rasulullah saw salon, and they buy within me and it helps you to remember and that's so the little superficial understanding of the first part is it's a meeting and that is

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what will I say? Yeah, we are European Economic, Russia. And when you forget, winning money, forget a law when you forget, the bigger picture will say, say I said percherons perhaps a young lady Robbie, my Lord will guide me

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to better guidance. Don't get lost in the detail. Don't get lost in unimportant things. Allah will guide you to that which is more important in our comments on the period that they remain. Whether it be through FICO has been an SME ITC Nila was designed very mainly in the cave for 300 years was there too, and the increase in nine without getting into too much detail to discussing this at length, the rhythm I have sort of concurred that this means the remaining three ended solely as the 109 lunians. And this is only mentioned here and not when they debated because when they debated about along the way, what was the point?

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The point wasn't the accuracy. The point v was the relativity of time.

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The point there was some some of them still to this day, some of them suitability for portability. The point there was to remind us that this life is too short. And as short as it feels now at your age, my age. It's going to feel just the show when we leave this world goofy like a blink of an eye. And when we get to the camera to see like that as well. style is relative. When in reality they were actually for 300 years swannanoa Cooley level Atlanta movie minor before that, oh, my nose piece about how long did he make again, doesn't really do to dwell on that. That's not that's not the moral of the story. The movie was seven musawah Ola belong to the unseen of the heavens in the

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earth, meaning he knows all this all these details, I will still be watching them. ecosystem to see me with any causes others do meaning sometimes over gives us insight into some of the things that we haven't seen. But that he's the minion Malibu in tuning he knew what he was usually goofy hook me.

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But the reality is, no one can be a guardian of the unseen. No one can be a partner in the unseen no one can be a party or was low. anyone at all. No one is equal to almost 400 data in that regard.

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Just after the story of us 400 data towels, Rasulullah sallallahu, etc. What's tomorrow here?

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recite what is being revealed to you from the book of your love by the radical MIT. No one can change its words go

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We preserve one antigen in 2d image, the header and you will never find the refuge pattern in a wall.

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This is now the hook between the stories actually go through this one verse because it's so suitable for the story that we just said was big enough soccer. Milan De Niro naraku locati will actually remember your route.

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Remember or rather waspy have suffered with yourself with those old one they know that remember the beloved it was actually in the mornings in the evenings, you need to know what you have. One thing is pleasure one thing is faced here means one thing is brilliant, while recording,

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do not deviate, to turn your eyes away from them, to reduce another hierarchy to one thing they by the worldly life with a low life will lead to determine our feminine, palpable and the cleaner do not obey those whom we have made his his heart unmindful of our remembrance of our whatever our fantasies desires are kind of off. And his end result will be the statue.

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year, this entire verse

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teaches us the moral of the story, the second model of the story, which is who you spend your time with, who are those around you? Because they make you where they break you. The background of the studio is the correlation all the profits are the same. We will come and sit with you. Okay, we'll come and listen to you listen to your tower no problem. But not when we allow these the and the Sony's the attorneys the cause as the senate the policy was super teeny.

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I don't belong in our company. They are the lowlifes of this world, we are the the aristocrats of society.

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The profits are

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sometimes even considered it just considering because you know, it's not it's not all to say look, okay, guys, I'm just gonna have a meeting with these people here quickly. Because look at the the greater outcome, the greater community they embrace Islam, there is no issue low correlation people see everyone is fine. And then you just give them back afterwards.

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Allah says no, was fair enough said you will keep yourself in the world that is used to suffer, you will endure yourself with those who call upon the root wanting an eerie, meaning the first concern is a love. And the last concern is Allah Don't get the wrong impression that you know all they do all day long. He said that Mexico City, Mexico. Now it's just that the fullest and the last answer is all of these are the people who wake up and actually do this 100

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anything I sleep at night

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they have a lot of the minds and all of their hearts. They work like everybody else. They do what everybody else does. But the priorities of our love for this world is something of in this world.

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Because what they want from life is always pleasure and the life of the author.

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The profits are so many still don't turn your eyes away from me wanting to hear

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I think jr What?

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He didn't want any Jr. He just wanted the courage to embrace Islam. That's it. Because if those prominent speakers embrace Islam, then everybody else will embrace Islam, they for those who do not know it's tantamount to wanting dunya because you get to facilitate ease for yourself. This is it always speaks to the those who mentally go on the table right? When I turned to a nanny to using the hair to dunya wanted to get my outfit in Nepal, and the cleaner don't follow those whose hearts and mind for parliamentarians

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whatever However, they follow the knifes they follow the Hawaii they desire what kind of amaroo furuta they will be destroyed.

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JOHN Malone, I think his motivational speaker he says

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that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

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Just to listen to that again. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with

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because you're a social human being so you're influenced by those around you the qualities after for you. We've heard this many times before in different forms the prophets of Santo does this as well. The example of a good thing is that is that a perfume seller, you sit with him even if he doesn't give you perfume even if you don't sell perfume. You walk out the nice company smelling like what I cook for you an example

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The bed frame is like that of a blacksmith, right? You don't need to touch the gold people by the fire where the smoke you just said these company walk away You smell like smoke.

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So the provinces myth is telling us in Vegas a Heidi is an immigrant as well, then you will be influenced by those around you. So choose, choose carefully choose wisely. I think about that in light of the discussion we had earlier on, you know,

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moving abroad for economic benefits and so forth. And the dangers that we face when we do that. Don't take precaution.

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Again, not trying to discourage the decision to deal with. Think of them in light of the conversation and back into schools. We know environment is dangerous.

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We learn so many things from from the way these young people and to the society. Let's take it from the top. And I'd like you to come in at any point to tell me what you've picked up this well. They got fed up with what

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they got fed up with what

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I, what else I specifically explained was basically goofy. But were they having bad times like

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woeful times was like crappy times, or that was the community I bought into.

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Yeah, I think the time in the life of a bird feeder.

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that teaches us that no matter how much you pursue the thrill of the knifes in the dunya, what dictum today is the hidden the secret, hidden is a time to fulfill your own desires, fulfill your desires, you actually become tired,

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because sooner or later you wake up to a

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new way of doing it anyway, all I'm doing is trying to get an external time to get an exposure and exposure. So that's what happens. That happens a lot that edits.

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For example, you don't always rock bottom isn't always in the in the initial point of the last thing, sometimes it's when they reach a point of internally, they feel like there's nothing left, they emotionally managed to reach rock bottom. And the next point is

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don't wait for your own experience of that. learn from this experience. You'll never get that fulfillment from the dunya will never get that from for much advice. Okay, mix this, they withdrew themselves. This is important. We've overlooked this too much. If you're in a V of all, and those were buyers had periods in their life in which they withdrew themselves from normal life, not

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perpetually.

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But in small, small portions of time.

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We can proceed with this activity of the preferences of the image of our hero before he was even, you know, officially an AVI, he waited for periods of bad days are in To do what?

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To reflect, to do introspection, to worship others perhaps to speak to Allah. We can go through the whole Quran, you'll see that every now and in the times that they spent alone with Allah, that's when the most miraculous things happen in the life.

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Just take one or two more examples. When did our speak to the reporter

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when he left his family and with a loan to the burning bush, and when asked me to wait and the only to the mountain for 40 nights, when did God speak to say that Maria Maria Sentosa when she was worshipping Allah alone in the middle?

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So we are taught as human beings even through the surah because these are nonprofits that we need, occasionally to withdraw from our normal everyday life, just to get perspective again into temporalities. In order and check where we are with God.

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chiqui Allah is in our life, because if we know it always in our life, we will know will be step by step.

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And we must speak into the machine for the five watts, it's not long enough. The Prophet is only for days and

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we speaking about at least like 24 hours in a city six hours, 72 hours, just a couple of days. So we know

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that seclusion to reflect, we can, you know, expand on that so much that we find it Yes, well, then the next lesson we learn

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than just withdrawing from society. They also found solace and compassion among each other. When did they become strong when they stood together? Because your faith, your faith is strong. Perhaps when you are alone, it's stronger when you are with others. We really said sort of it how we don't really say in a certain study, Allah guide you to the straight path when he said the man Guide us to the straight path.

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said he would do what he asked us to? Do I seek assistance. Now we say he can now go to war Iraq and Western Europe. Do we worship you? Or do we seek assistance now, because when we stand together, we stand strong. liberalism is teaching us don't stand together, stand for yourself, set your staff, your wife, make sure you succeed in life is needed to help.

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It's it's a big, it's a big difference. capitalism and materialism is teaching us just make sure you're fine. You don't need to be concerned with the rest of the world. Islam is teaching us No, no, no, no, you absolutely need to stand together. When they sit together, they stood strong. What How does this apply to us? In one word, three things now, but it means a bit further analysis, and that this comes down to choosing the right partner in life. So the main choosing the right wife, okay, if we were just using that as when

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it comes down to making sure your kids have the right frame that you choose the right schools, right, if you choose the right social group, that you actually have an active role to play in the life of family members who they hang out with, because it's not as simple as Oh, no, you're not my friend, he or she is a body and mobile person. It's gonna cost quality. Right? So you have to be conscious of your environment. It's not only about them, the communities we live in a lot more than then being hurt by the poverty that I see in the in the poor cape flats areas, I go into those areas, the thing that irks me the most is, how does one break see from the environment that you're

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in.

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So let's say you get some you get some person, you have some money.

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But you living in an environment way, you just drive in and you smell, you know, marijuana being smoke patterns being smoke, whether it's one o'clock in the afternoon, one o'clock in the morning, kids are playing outside in the street, they stand people walking around this violence taking place over psychologically, you did have in this, in this prisons, rahimullah, this poverty cycle, it's not just about the money in your pocket, you are stuck in a poverty cycle, because your way of thinking is influenced by this environment.

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You think you can come out of the just dressed slightly differently and not be influenced by return on you. So imagine with somebody that has no choice but to live in that environment.

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That's what hurts me the most about it. Because it's a mindset. You know,

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some of the flags actually, not really not too long ago, they revamped the whole flat and looked amazing, the painting that they had on the old boy, that doesn't even been like a year or something complicated. Now, we can fit these back up on the walls, that's 30 all over.

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It's not the absence of money that does that. It's the mindset that goes along with it. So you need to escape like these youngsters estate, you need to literally escape the depth of your environment and free yourself from that for that move that you make the that will will ensure a huge contributing factor to save you. If your work environment is poisonous. If your work environment is poisonous, it's another contributing factor. This lesson is profound. And the fact that although he emphasizes in this quote, but afterwards, to the profits of the virus, Allah subhana wa, he is Rasulullah saw somebody is being told that over you spend your time with those who call upon Allah

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morning and evening, you mentioned that who can negatively influence

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who can be a bad influence on you? No one. But because he is an example to us, he had to come up he had to conform to the detriment of Allah so that we conform to it as well. So how do we implement this?

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I remember I had to actually once put it up, I had to phone my friends and tell them listen, I'm not going to be coming around with you. Literally, I'm not saying anything to them. But if you are the five

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if you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with,

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into several

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Let's see who we are.

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And, and we try to influence that by changing by changing maybe you spend less time with those five people that you bring up you bring on board some more positive influences in your life.

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When they say it, you know these motivational speakers they speaking more about like if you want to be

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the most successful businessman and spend time with five extremely successful businessman like back then that's one thing but here we speaking about the just in terms of your morality and ethics. Nonetheless, that concludes the story of the secret of the cave. You

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Next, we can move on to the next story in Sha one, we'll run through the code that will focus on the next story. And we'll leave it at that.

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Quickly, are there any other questions? Because I'm going to leave just before they start the Shahada. That's another presentation this evening in the settings in APA next week in Charlotte Dallas. If you're having any questions right now before the then I'd be glad to answer them.