Irshaad Sedick – Family Goals – from the Prophetic Model

Irshaad Sedick
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of family goals in Islam, including goals for the future and family members. They emphasize the need for parents to use their influence and independence to determine which schools and culture will be in their children' schools. The challenges faced by young men and women in their youth, including pressure to study HIV and religion, and the importance of finding comfort and joy in their children while also finding peace and happiness in their own lives. The importance of setting ground rules and setting clear guidelines for one's life is also emphasized. The speakers stress the need for a holistic approach to family life, setting goals for one's own health, spending time on learning and learning about the cost of living, and setting clear guidelines for one's own family members to avoid surprises.
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Alhamdulillah robola aalameen or salat wa salam ala Ashrafi Lumbee you will mousseline Sayidina whenever you know more or less Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were either early or sapi Jemaine Assalamu alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

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Praise and thanks to you sorry to Allah Subhana Allah Teresa's peace blessings and salutations. upon our Master and exemplar Nabi Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam, Allah Subhana Allah blesses on this day and forgive our sins, and make us from among those who attain the full blessings of Yama Jumar Amin aerobill alameen.

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Speak to the elders, brothers, sisters in Islam and viewers.

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The discussion around goal setting has led us to a framework of the Constitution area as a platform through which we can structure our goals. And among these five, we focused odd on him the dean

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to the preservation of our religion and having religious goals or spiritual goals. And then of course, these knifes, NASA Ockel and Mal, O translated spiritual goals, health goals, family goals, intellect goals and financial goals.

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Having looked at spiritual goals, I decided today to immediately go into family goals.

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the concept of family

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can be looked at in in various ways.

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Because we can look at the importance of family as a whole

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Silla to Rahim Silla tool, or ham, the draining of family ties. But there are various dimensions within the discussion on family, different aspects that can be focused on even further, for example, the concept of parenthood in Islam.

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And then beyond that, these siblings in sibling rivalry, for example, is the husband and wife factor. And we've had talks about these before. So to begin, today, we're going to look specifically at our youth, our children, as a family unit, how do we, how do we structure our goals around our children as well. This is a very important dimension of the family because of the challenges that our children face in the world they are growing up in today.

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And yet, when we speak about children, we are not speaking about any specific age categories. We're not speaking about, for example, teenagers, or toddlers or babies, but youth in general. And we are looking at it from the perspective of how we as parents need to structure goals for our families, specifically our children. Now, the default status quo is a good one. In other words, if we just did nothing, and we just allowed nature to take its course, without outside interference, which is practically impossible, but theoretically speaking, Allah starts us off in this world on a very good footing. Kulu mo Luden EULA do al fitrah every child is born with a natural disposition towards

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toward innocence. Speak about as we say, the innocence of the child.

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However, this natural state this pure state that children are born in, quickly becomes influenced the way the Prophet alayhi salat wa salam expressed this was that Farberware who you have we Danny oh yo na surani Oh, you Medusa and he he this is a Hadith we quote quite frequently.

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The parents then come and then change the child into a Yahudi or an assault or an Serani or my Jucy.

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But this is of course,

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something that needs to be taken in light of seventh century Arabia.

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The primary influence over one's child in seventh century Arabia

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would have been the parents. Excuse me, I just need to

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If one's if a one's atmosphere or environment is such that there are hardly any outside influences you as the Father, you as the mother, you are the child's school, you are the playground, you are the culture, then this hadith would fit 100% even into our own lives.

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That said, the situation is different today. How much contact time do parents actually have with the kids throughout the childhood throughout from birth until until they eventually become McAuliffe because for us as Muslims, the age of that leaf when a child becomes McAuliffe for all intents and purposes, that child is now an adult. We don't have a teenager concept in Islam, we have something called them yeas. Age of distinction. But that's basically from about seven years of age onwards, we a child cannot distinguish independently between right and wrong, good and bad, to a certain extent.

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We don't have the teenage phase, we are lucky, you can do what you want to do. There's no consequences for your actions. It's a trial and trial and error situation. You're old enough to do adult like things, but not to face the consequences they have. We don't have that the moment we become Mukalla. As Muslims, we believe that we are fully responsible by Allah subhanahu Allah for our own actions. And this is very important for Muslims to understand because when we deal with with our children, we shouldn't look at them as children if they are Mukalla.

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Right, we shouldn't treat them as children, if they are Mukalla. Yes, they might not be mature enough to be fully functional adults. But we cannot give them the same leeway saying that they're just kids, you know, they're just Dean's, this doesn't apply.

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Because now the outside influences happened to be so many. It's not just radio, it's not just TV,

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we understand that in the last 30 or so years, the access to information has exponentially increased.

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Right? If we wanted to myself now speaking, if I wanted to find information growing up, I needed to go to the library, you need to visit an encyclopedia. I don't think anybody needs to do that any longer. Really.

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This also means that it comes with access to good as well as access to bad.

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So the outside influences have become Mini.

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And as parents while we don't have as much influence personally, we have a

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we have autonomy as far as the decisions we make, as to who and what those outside influences will be for our kids. We decide which schools they will attend. We decide what rules will be set in their upbringing, we decide how much screen time they're allowed to have. We decide the culture of Dean in our homes. We decide how important sada is in the lives. We decide how important Islamic education is in their lives, and we decide how important Allah is to them. And we have to accept that it is our responsibility and the age old excuse of you now with ease and you know kids today and No, no, no, no.

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We cannot look at what the majority of people are doing. Right we're into their atheroma and fill out the UD Luca and Sabine FW una Illa Vaughn Noah in Himalaya Rasul Allah says, if you keep on following the majority, And Yahweh speaking, of course of the non Muslim, the, you know, people who don't live by our ethics and morals and standards and laws, if you follow the majority over time, they are going to send you a stray from the path of Allah. They are not following except their own whims and fancies. They do whatever they please, for in Himalaya, who soon and they will not exit, but lying. Now the challenges are many, and I don't want to only focus on the negative, but it's

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very important that we understand the challenges

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as as a community leader and so forth. I have been shocked in the last couple of years. At some of the phone calls and visitations that I received about, about our youth, preparing to phone me up and say my child, 16 years of age has left the fold of Islam just the other day. My daughter 19 years of age, says that she's a lesbian. This is the world we're living in today. A boy will come home and tell his peers

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that he made his girlfriend pregnant and the parents who saw hamdulillah he's not gay.

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That's the reality. So, I'm not going to be speaking about the homosexual, transgender, all of these things I think we have enough of, you know of that happening, although in an Islamic paradigm, we need to address it more frequently. My point here is more general. And that is that we need to be awake. And we need to be educated and informed and prepared for these challenges. Because they are our children and they are within our responsibility.

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Subhan Allah.

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The positive side of things is that we also living in a world we many young men and women have dedicated their lives to Islam.

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And sometimes without the influence of the parents. Often a child would come and decide that he or she wants to be a practicing believing servant of Allah subhana wa Tada. Parents sometimes even become shocked at this. My child says he wants to get married. My daughter says she wants to get married. She doesn't even have a boyfriend. Parents are shocked because they expect well boyfriend girlfriend scenario and yeah, the kids are coming in this and a widow and that we want to please Allah subhanaw taala that's the positive side of the spectrum. We have young men and women coming in saying I want to study HIV, the Quran, I want to study the religion of Islam, I want to be a more

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practicing Muslim. We have that also. So the good 100 Alhamdulillah seems to be getting better.

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And on the other side of the spectrum, the bed seems to be getting worse. Where do your children fit in?

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We do your children fit in because the trains don't matter. Your Trains matter, right? What's happening in your home matters. And you know, who decides that we decide that

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it's not a matter of oh, you know, my child is gonna make Sala

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it's a matter of because of the decisions I made, my child is not firm on his side or on her Sala Oh, you know, my child keeps on hanging out to the boys hanging out to the girls, you know, partying and so on. I don't know what to do anymore. No. First take responsibility, that decisions that you made about which school your child is going to about the friends that you allow your child to have, and about the leeway that you give your child in this world in this challenging world with all the trials and tribulations first take responsibility that it is your decisions that has led to this. And then we can talk further rather than just you know what's happening in the world and you know,

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things are today no, that is a pacifist approach. And we are muslims Kulu kumara in workqueue Luca mas Ohlone and Raji it, all of you are shepherds and you will be responsible by Allah for your flocks. He will be responsible by Allah for your flocks.

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Parents have many options today, options that my parents that your parents perhaps didn't have. I couldn't go to a okay. I don't know, maybe I could. I couldn't afford it though. Right Model C schools and predominantly, you know,

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European culture schools if I can call it that. So mashallah, you know, they give a really good education, I'm sending my child they really are you ready for that? Are you ready to give your child enough Dean in your home and supplement the security education with enough Dean to prevent and to inoculate them from all the challenges that you are making them face? In that school that you're sending them to? Are you Did you really think about this? Did you really think about what it meant? We need to reach out from a dresser saying that you know what? They busy with soccer practice music practice, piano practice, Guitar Practice, hockey practice, all the practice but you know, Mantra

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says, but difficult now my child I have to consider the health and the well being, you know, and they have to wake up very early to go to school and they come home very late. I can't wake him up at four o'clock in the morning for Fajr sada you know, shame.

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So, the situation is such that once a parent realizes that ay ay, ay, ay must take responsibility for my child, not just for what I give them in this world, but for where I send them in the next not just for what I give them in this world, but for what for where I send them in the next world.

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And use of course, I know what it's like I know the feeling of being in the shop and seeing this is a very small example, seeing a nice toy or a nice, a luxury item and you really want to give it to your child because you know, it's the coolness of your eyes and she's the home and you want to win their hearts over but I need to ask myself first. What am I doing what

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consequences of this action. When I buy my child that smartphone when I give them Wi Fi access, you know free rein Wi Fi access at home, when I place a TV or monitor or computer in the room, I need to think about what I'm actually doing and what the potential consequences of his actions are.

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It's not just kids will be kids.

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Maybe we could do that in 1950. We can't do that today. It's a different world.

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So we speaking about goals. What are sound goals for us to have for our family? Allah says Altavilla min ash shaytani rajim Bismillah R Rahman Rahim while levena yaku Luna Rabina habla Ana mean as Virgina or Julia Tina Kurata Yun or journaling? mustafina Imam to dua we know this da, we've heard it. We've said Amin to it many, many times, oh our Lord, they say this Surah Furqan, verse number 74. They say, Oh, Lord, please grant us from our spouses and from our offspring, the coolness of our eyes and make us the leaders of the righteous. I mean, I mean, what does this mean? When Allah teaches us a dua in the Quran, just think about what's actually happening. This is Allah telling us

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what to ask Allah.

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Allah is telling us what to ask him for. See, if Allah is telling us what to ask him for, then that means that Allah wants us to aspire to this to whatever do I need to I in the Quran? It is, it is, you know, a sort of expression of Allah saying, Look, I want you to aspire to the senior life. So what are we aspiring to you? Grant us the coolness of our eyes in our spouses. So they we've got a goal for our marriage. What's the goal in in marriage according to this door, it is to make my wife the coolness of my eyes to make my husband in the case of the ladies the coolness of my eyes. That expression needs to be unpacked but what it means is I find comfort, I find tranquility I find peace

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I find a home within my spouse.

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This is a big thing. It might sound so simple, but within every way we turn to the TV we turn to fishing we turn to golfing return to sport, we turn to our friends. Sometimes we turn to substance abuse. Sometimes we turn to our secretary now the biller to find the coolness of our eyes, Allah sees the coolness of your eyes in your spouse gave you a hello life. There's no spark of Love Light the fire rekindle that flame. But that's not our point of discussion. Yeah, our point of discussion is the next part.

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We'll do react, Tina also make the coolness of our eyes in our children. When we look at our children, when we interact with our children, we need to find love peace, harmony, tranquility, we need to find the bliss of life. We need to be looking forward to seeing them to holding them to embracing them to speaking to them because Allah says you need to find your coolness of your eyes day.

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In the next part, watch Elena little Mata Tina Imam Hello, and make us who sang the DUA. The parents, the parents are saying this to Allah make us the Imams make us the Imams the leaders of who have the Buddha Cain, who is the Buddha Cain referring to our children.

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This is is teaching us in such a beautiful, succinct way that believers make your children

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make your children of the Mukta teen of the hour conscious. Give them Taqwa you gave them a PlayStation how much data did you give them? It gave them an Xbox how much data did you give them? You guys in the best security education? How much decoy did you give them? You gave them case you gave them diesel? You gave them g-star? You gave them Gucci? You gave them Louie Vuitton. How much Allah did you give them? How much Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu? I said and did you give them? You give them Justin Bieber you gave them Lady Gaga? How much of the Sahaba did you give them? Because really, which one is going to turn them into them with the pin? Allah subhanaw taala Quran does the

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understanding what Jana lil Mata Tina Imam and make us the Imams the leaders of the righteous, so we need to be positioned in such a way. Yes, they are the MATA cane, but we are the leaders to understand what that means. That means we have to lead by example. The whole idea of my child must be super bias. And I'm not even making Sala on time. It's a crazy idea. The idea of a father or mother smoking and saying to the child Don't smoke it's crazy.

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The idea of a father mother saying to the child have good luck, excuse me, have good luck, you know you

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Eat healthily, etc, etc. And then you do the opposite. Our children are non stupid think back to when we were kids and we were looking around, seeing people's words contradict their actions told us everything.

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He told us everything. And when we as Muslims don't live up to the man we profess, and our kids witness that, then they tell themselves without even saying it. But in this isn't was just a joke. She's going to Juma for a joke, which is going to the masjid on weeknights, it's just a joke, because then the next day, we just go back to normal again, it's just the formality that you need to get out of the way. And then we find so how much? How much importance Do I really need to attach to this formality to the sculpture? Okay, I'll keep the name. I'll keep the name Muhammad NanoBeam. But what does it really mean? I don't even know how to say that I know the karma properly. I don't even

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know how to make a stingy take will do. So what is didn't really mean that much to my parents, so I don't really care. Now.

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It may still be okay. In our circumstance, because our kids are perhaps still playing when we nag them and we, you know, threaten them then they still pray they still make salah. But here's the real question.

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The culture of Deen that we are giving to our kids. Is it enough to ensure that the kids will still be Muslim?

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I repeat the culture of Deen in our homes that you and I are giving to our children. Is it of such a standard of such caliber that we can feel somewhat secure and you know, somewhat comfortable that the children will probably also be Muslim.

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When we arrive in the dev Kiama Allah make us successful in that day.

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And in sha Allah, we decided to go to Jana and now we're going to meet all of our progeny.

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Mala Vina aminu, whatever attune to Rhea, to whom be manning I'll hop on a beat him do reata home, those who believe and the progeny follows them up in face, we Allah will reunite him with the progeny in the after.

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Is it going to be that we look for our grandkids and great grandkids and they standing in a different queue?

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Allah forbid, are predictors.

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But I can see this, I'm not that old. I think I'm still pretty young. But in the short lifetime, what I've seen is that the level of deem that my generation's patrons gave us may have been enough for the time for some of us, not for others. But it's not enough for today, wala allowed him it's not enough for today, if we don't step up, they're going to step out. It's as simple as that. It's really as simple as that.

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And, and I'm not trying to say this to to, you know, make you feel scared, or whatever the case may be. It's a wake up call for myself also, it's a different world. It's really a different world. If we can see that our grandparents were stricter than our agents, we are less strict and our parents, what's gonna happen to our kids with their kids? Where are we going? What's going to happen to our identity. So if we don't make the change now, if we don't change the ways things are the culture of Dean, the level of observation of Allah's laws within our home, the strength of Eman within your heart if we don't make that change now, and take the the what you call the bull by the horns, so to

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speak, the bull is going to run away with us.

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I see some parents being the children to a Janessa Salah for example, because you must have to go to a Janessa Salah if it's a family member. And then there's like a 15 year old boy or a 17 year old boy standing next to his father not having a clue of what to do. He's looking at

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embrace Islam yesterday. That's absolutely fine, by the way for people who just embrace Islam they learning. But if you're sitting with a 17 year old son who can play soccer, who knows how to play guitar is a Western Province cricket player, whatever the case may be, but he can't pray to Allah.

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Levy's situation in the afterlife.

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The scary thing that they always ask is, will that child of yours be able to make dua for you when you pass away from this world?

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Well, they know what to do at yo Janessa. What will they do with your inheritance? Are they going to be clued up to that? Are they going to be the cause of you being punished in the grave? Now the biller? Now that's a statement that needs to be understood, right, nobody else can be the cause of you being punished in the grave. But if you are directly responsible for the actions, then unfortunately, it's your own actions. Allah grant us protection and guidance. I mean Subhan Allah, Allah gives us another goal in the Quran.

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Allah says yeah, you're living in Amman, oku and Fusa come Holly, come now or Kudo, Hannah so well hedgerow la harmala iica to Nicola Shida to lay out soon Allah

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amerihome Wi Fi Luna Moon serata Hareem verse number six oh believers Save yourselves and your family from Johanna. The few of the Jahannam is going to be people. And it's going to be stone Mufasa rune, explain this refers to the idols. For me, that's actually really scary because imagine, we make our Bry in stone, because it's not going to catch fire. Imagine fire that is fueled by stone, yes.

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But this verse is directly telling us your job, my job, and your job is to save ourselves and our families from the fires of jahannam. Notice how Allah puts you first. Because you can't save somebody else, if you yourself are not being saved. Right? So your first concern is, How is your relationship with Allah, but then it's your kids, I would love for somebody to give me an understanding that is a parent who would allow for the child to just walk into the middle of a highway and allow themselves to be knocked over in a car accident, while this parent is watching, and just let it happen and says, you know, their own choice, you know, kids are today it's the

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trends, man, they do these adrenaline rush things and what can I really do about it? You know, my hands are tied, they challenge me, I don't want to also, you know, be pressure on them. And, you know, they might just turn their back on me and leave me and so on. So every time I do whatever, no, we do that. Yeah. Rob, imagine you send your child into a gang infested territory with a busy shooting, no pay, you will tell them you go they, I will personally kill you.

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Why? Because we understand there's serious danger involved.

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But you don't have to wake up for 5g. And you can have a boyfriend or girlfriend. And it's you know, I'm not going to ask you about Xena and stuff. If you have a girlfriend up in your bedroom? It's no.

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What's the difference? The difference is the one danger we can see with our own eyes, the highway, the gangsters, the shooting, and we understand that they're going to lose their lives. The other danger is not immediate, it is by Allah, it is Jahannam fire. Maybe we don't believe in it that much. Maybe we don't think that serious. Or maybe we just living in ignorance Allah knows based, but allowing certain things thinking that we being liberal, and we being cool parents, and we just you know,

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we have a different approach to upbringing, that is just simply insanity. It's simple insanity.

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If we understand that our responsibility is to keep our children safe. keeping them safe doesn't mean giving them all the luxuries that this world has to offer. It doesn't mean making sure that they have the nice house and the nice car and the nice life in this world. It means that they will eternally be saved in the after.

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Wala Alvim while I love him, I would rather see my daughter in danger in this world, or impoverished in this world or homeless in this world than to see a go to jahannam in the world after because this will it's just a few short years. Am I really willing to sacrifice an eternity of salvation in the year after, just so that she can, you know, be cool and hang out with the girls in the nightclubs because you know, that's what teenagers do. Now the biller Allah grant us the understanding. So these goals are not goals that I've even taken the time out to structure Okay, so what can we do about this? We are intelligent thinking rational human beings, Allah azza wa jal doesn't give us

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detailed guidance. Sometimes he just gives us well, he does give us detailed guidance, but sometimes in the Quran, it just gives us guidance in summary form. This is the objective, right? The fill the Arcada, etc. That's where you get the details. But this is the goal. You do what you need to do of Halau means to get to that goal, because if you don't get to that goal, you're going to be in serious trouble.

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That's where this comes in this discussion. Yeah. If these are our primary duties by Allah with regards to our families, then I ask the question today, how many of us have actually thought about our life's goals, rules and regulations, our home and what we allow and disallow for our home for our family, for our children, for ourselves, in light of these goals that Allah had set for us, and if our answer is nothing or not at all, may Allah protect us.

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Theoretical you know

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Yes, I want him to do anyone want is going to get you no way it's going to get you nothing. We need a solid plan, we need to lay down ground rules. For example, simple stuff. The ground rule number one is that every person of my household will make saw that every single day of their lives on time, no matter where we are, no matter what we are doing. Isn't that the basic fundamental ground rule?

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Right, you can get more detailed, this hood is not about specifically telling you which rules to set. But you could for example, say you know what, no Wi Fi in the home only wired internet access and internet access will go to this massive 8k screen that you can, you know, multimedia entertainment system, you can go both there on that system where I can see you. But furthermore, no, you know, that you can get as detailed as that if you so wish. But the point is to first realize that we can't just wing it. We can't just go through life seeing like, how it's gonna go, what we're gonna end up how they're gonna end up, you'll see how they look when they graduate, if they

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graduate. No, we don't treat life like that. Parents know when the child is born something like people ask me what school your daughter's going to go.

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How should I know? That's because the trend is that we know what school what primary school with high school or university, they're going to go to what they're going to do, what the savings policies like, etc, when they are still toddlers, because we must thinking ahead, but we only think ahead for a couple of years beyond that we don't think at all. This needs to change. So if the message today is clear, good. If not, it is this. We need to have goals for our families. And our goals can't just be about the dunya our goals can't just be limited. Our goals need to be holistic. And just like we have an holistic approach for our own lives. We we follow Dean, health, wealth,

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family, it's a true intellect for ourselves. We we as parents need to structure the goals of our family in the same way. We need to see rules for how they live their lives. As far as health is concerned, can they eat any Janko is the at least some regulations as to what they are allowed to eat and what they are not allowed to eat? Not talking about halal. Talking about health wise, do we set some regulations as far as how much exercise they need to get in a week is that part of because if we don't, then we basically saying I don't care about your health. You know, as long as you have been you smiling, I really don't care what diseases you develop, or what you eat to how you can't do

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that. So we need to have holistic goals. Our children's intellect is the rule that they must read or that we read to them, etc, is the rule that they must learn and you sit with them and you help them with the learning or you get the help that they need for the learning, not just Dean goals. Do we train our kids about how to be money wise how to deal with the finances, that pocket money is not just the luxury pocket money can be used in a very wise way where they earn it. Number one, they receive it and they are trained as to how to spend it, make him part of the family budget so that they can understand income and expenses that they can understand how the world works and what the

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cost of living really is. Give them the shock of the mind before they have to be shocked themselves. Right? Nobody trained us out. To do that. We need to make a very big change as far as our family structure is concerned. If we want to see our kids, our grandkids and our great grandkids and our great great great grandkids on the day of Kiama still under the banner of the aroma of Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam May Allah grant that to us Minato Bellami

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we coming out of a very tough time COVID was a challenging time on many fronts. It remains a challenging time.

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But one of the biggest challenges was what happened to our interpersonal relationships with our household with our extended families and even with our community.

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The managing committee and I we have been you know, racking is racking our brains we've been thinking a lot about what we can do to get our Jama back into the masjid

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but I think that it's unfair for this only to be my thoughts and thoughts of the committee and and our honorable Imam this is all of our concern isn't it? Is no clergy in Islam. So we want to involve all of you

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and your families because we see the importance of family values. And we had this going before COVID And then God that Allah Masha file now we need to revive it and I need your assistance. Never have I said on this platform that I need your assistance for something very simple.

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cific today I am saying that this Wednesday, until Ramadan, every Wednesday, we are going to be having a family course here in the masjid. And it's going to be an absolute failure unless we have your support. And your support is not in the form of money. It's absolutely free of charge. Your support is in the form of you coming here with your family and bringing your family to the house of Allah, and that way taking them to Allah. So every Wednesday from seven o'clock to eight o'clock in one hour, we're going to be doing a course I've called it the fifth of vicar, the fifth of the Quran, which essentially means the understanding of remembrance of Allah. In every class, the whole

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Jama present men, women, children, of course, will have all regulations in order, we'll be dedicating some time to the vicar of Allah subhanho wa taala, learning about what it means its virtues, the prophetic methodology as to how to make vicar and in the spiritual values that's supposed to come innate from that, in what, in what form and for what objective towards the preparation of Ramadan. The Ramadan coming up is a very, very important Ramadan. It's Ramadan, we begin to make it or break it for ourselves, for our community for our families, because it's our chance to revive that spirit that was dwindling because of the situation through the pandemic. It's

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your duty now, to be part of this revival. It takes nothing more than you making a commitment today. That Insha Allah, I'm going to bring my entire family and I'm going to invite other families as well. Just one hour. Yes, we are going to broadcast it on our magic Facebook page, but that's not what we want you to participate in.

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That's not the idea. The idea is come to the house of Allah and breathe life into your family by breathing life into the house of Allah subhanho wa Taala much the Mako Moon fee Beatty Minwoo de la he at LUNA kita Allah He Orietta del rasuna FEMA by Nina home Illa and halfa Tamara iica guava Shia tomo Rama Vanessa la talla hemos Sakeena Wacka humo Lo Fi man female in the when people gather in houses of Allah like this angel surround them tranquility descends upon them and Rama envelops them. This is what we want to bring back into this Masjid in into our communities. I really appeal to you today no matter where you live some of our Mussolini's mashallah I believe living Komachi as come

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from even you know other distant places people are telling me every week I come from you I come from the Masha Allah so come twice a week now. Come on the Wednesday evening Inshallah, if you can't come for the full hour come for a half an hour. And if you're not coming for you because you think it can ally with this, the income for your family because they don't. If you're not coming for the information, fine. Come for the Spirit come for the environment come for that atmosphere in which the heart thrives. And don't come alone. Come with others. Come with your wives come with your mother's come with your sisters come with your daughters come with your sons come with your brothers

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come as a family and inshallah I look forward to having an amazing time in this process so that my heart too can be revived for the month of Ramadan. We all need it. And if you didn't know Ramadan is 60 days away, possibly less 60 days two months. Allah grant us all the success are SallAllahu ala Sayyidina Muhammad Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah or by the cinema Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh magic Majid Rashi Dean in Mowbray as somebody flushing news that we wish to share with each and every one of you, our upcoming series of classes presents a beautiful opportunity a long awaited opportunity for the entire family, to engage in the crew law realign our hearts, minds and souls to prepare for a spiritually rejuvenating Ramadan. Imagine what Ramadan would be like if your heart was completely prepared for it. Bearing in mind of course that Ramadan is only two months away in our free Wednesday night family course the fit of you and your family. This includes women and

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children who come to the house of Allah. Engage in the remembrance of Allah learn about the meanings, prophetic methodology and virtues of wicked and cover the classical text by Imam and Mahmoud Mahabharata and the translation by Sheikh Hamza Yusuf, we welcome you all to join us for this Ramadan awakening, spiritually uplifting and richly informative series in sha Allah. We look forward to seeing you live and in person so yes, we do want you to come to the masjid for this meeting.

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nificent gathering, but we will broadcast the program for our followers abroad as well. So join us on Wednesday evenings from seven to 8pm. Starting this Wednesday, the second of February 2022. All health and safety protocols will be observed. There is no charge there's no registration. All welcome.

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Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

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