113 The Disease And The Cure

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The legalization of Islam subhanho wa taala is a legal practice in the United States, which is illegal to commit to a sex relationship with someone who is not their own. The speakers discuss the negative impact it has on society, including the legalization of sexuality and the use ofn't in the title of the book of Allah. The importance of protecting one's religion properly is emphasized, as it is used in the title of the book of Islam and is used in the title of Islam. The speakers also emphasize the need for strong leadership in society and advise against going out in public, as it is illegal.

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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim

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wa salatu salam ala rahmatullah wa alanine and Abhi. In our Halina Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salim Muhammad

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Ali yo

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fellas mean Shahabi

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Jumada Akira Alfa Romeo will tell us is not of our own and more perfectly

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sit in Sherry You know

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Alfredo was never actually was it there's enough he had the Kitab Mobarak at that would do.

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So sort of Allah subhanaw taala anybody can feed now if you monitor lemma. One you have a feral learner as the lat welfarism. Only whoever adagietto v li.

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If you remember

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last time

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we we stopped at the scene of the leaf for saloon,

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I'm sorry, the scene of the multifocal Allah Allah Who subhanho wa Taala and further of Allah Allah Abdallah have the 5g Minho, Philosophia Allahu ala AlFalah he be doing?

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Live says Allah subhanho wa Taala base the success of a person on

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that person protecting his private part and

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making sure that he preserved his honor and dignity.

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So Allah subhanaw taala mentioned that there is no way for a person to succeed unless if he preserved his honor and dignity. And this is one of the objectives of the Sharia. And to support this fact that I live quoted the first and the beginning of the Surah Al Momineen. When he says cut off the helm, you know

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Alladhina Anfisa team culture well Lavina Khomeini level Maori don't wear Lavina home leave Lisa catify alone. Well, lady, normally for regime half you do in the other as well as Alma malecha, to a man who, by normal guy or woman who mean for money but of our daily calculi. Kamala do. So that's why we stopped Allah subhanaw taala says we're Lavina Khalifa regime have you? Those believers that Allah smart Allah mentioned, to be the most successful one or the only successful people. It says they are those people who are protecting and preserving their honor and dignity. They don't use their private part in the wrong way. They don't commit Zina. They don't engage in any form of

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illegal relationship between them and others, they restrict themselves to that which is halal for them.

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What is that, in other words, except for

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their, their spouses, except with their spouses, Alma Malakut, a man who all the grants themselves relief with those who Allah subhanaw taala bestowed ownership

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and each other them the slaves, the female slave that a person can take her as, not as a wife, but can treat her in the way he treats his his wife. So two things Allah subhanaw taala mentioned to be the only permissible means for somebody to relieve himself. And this is the reason why the vast majority of the scholars believe that committing masturbation or anything of this nature, you know, is impermissible Islamically because if that is permissible, then

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should be okay for a person to do it. And we should find it also, in the Quran been mentioned by Allah subhanho wa Taala that a person can masturbate.

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He says they preserve their private part, except when they use it with their spouses and their slaves they have mama cat and mono.

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So the scholars said this is a restriction. This means a person cannot masturbate. A person cannot go and marry another person with a similar gender which nowadays we found to be in existence. And subhanAllah you find even some who lost their uncle.

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You know, I repeat that word lost their uncle.

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The so called scholars who will tell you that did could be legalized.

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Yeah, I didn't know what happened to that, of course, because even some of the animals don't understand this, you know?

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To have the same sex marriage. A girl is marrying a girl and a boy is marrying a boy. You know?

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The second one when the first nation did it, Allah subhanaw taala turn their country upside down. Yeah, they turned the system upside down Allah subhanaw taala turned them also upside upside down. He killed them in the way he never did with any any person on earth.

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If you look at Surah to cover, you understand how Allah subhanaw taala destroyed those people

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that Fajr was not good for them. And Allah subhanaw taala told them from the beginning, this attitude has never been introduced by any nation, you are the first people to introduce it.

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And nowadays, it is legalized. And as I said, it is so silly to find some of those who are the people call scholars, they will tell you that it can be found in the book of Allah subhanaw taala, legalization of that I don't know how many Quran we have, but the one we have,

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you know, on our hand, rejected it, and shows that this is the most hated one of the most hated things to Allah subhanho wa Taala

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I heard Allahu Allah and I don't know whether it is correct or wrong, even they have their own misogyny in some in some places. So lesbianism and

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sodomy or homosexuality have no place in the religion of Allah subhanho wa Taala and bestiality have no place in the religion of Allah subhanho wa taala. I don't know the name of the other one also they have a with a dead body, you know, I can see you know, subhanAllah a person who go and see a dead body he has interest in none except the dead people.

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That one have no place in the religion of Allah Swati, it has no place in the religion of Allah.

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Allah restricted this in German to be placed in two places, the spouses where the legal marriage happen, or if a person on Islay in legally and we already know what is the legal way concerning that matter, it is only one way or the way that is generated from that, through the legal jihad, that is prescribed by Allah Sahaja and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam led by the authority, you know the way the prophets Allah Azza used to do it, or somebody who bought a slave who was captured based on that legal way.

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So this is this is the only way Allah subhanaw taala mentioned in the Quran and from the Sunnah of the Prophet Salah Hassan for a person to himself.

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There are some people who are suffering from this attitude and bad manner. And subhanAllah it is too bad, you know, to hear, you know, the statement of one of them long ago one of the younger ones, no melasma to preserve him and protect him and guide him also. He was telling me was Dad, is there anyone you know, when I talk about this matter long ago in the school?

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He says Is there anyone among the youth who is not doing this Subhanallah

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this very dangerous, you know, is there anyone amongst the youth who's not to it this something which is rejected by all the scholars except a few and those who legalize it, they legalize it in a very narrow situation. And usually when there is when there is

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what equal a need to take the lesser of the two evils either a person commit Zina

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can Oh, he does this. So there's they chose for him to live himself in any way other than the Xena.

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And those are the minority you know, some scholars and who reaches this situation

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didn't find anyone who is in the situation usually. And even if he gets himself into the situation there is a way out. Because you cannot just go and live in the middle of the tragedy and the fitna

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and thinks that everything is okay. How many people live in the middle of the fitna and they try all the means given to them by Rasulullah sallallahu soon but nothing seems to work.

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They try everything given to them by the prophets Allah so my looks like nothing seems to work

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nothing seems to work.

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Why was that? Was it because there is a problem?

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them in the looseness whose love Allah, not at all, but because the environment they're living is not supportive, you know, you know, you have the EMA and you have the righteousness, you need to support that. You can just go and live in an environment that is 100% corrupt. And then do you think everything's going to go? Well, no, it doesn't work like this. That person who committed the murder, you know, and he murdered 100 people, when he managed to repent,

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the share who was guiding him to the repentance, told him you have to leave the place. Because you're living in Arden Sue, a place that is so evil, that people here cannot good. If you stay, they're going to drag you, you know, to them. European today, tomorrow, somebody is going to be defined the same old way that you're suffering from, and you will be going back to it. That's how it works, you know, you'll come near the the calamity come near the sins, you're going to commit it.

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That's what Allah says, still go for do dilla Falletta Kureha these are the producers of Allah subhanaw taala Do not come near them.

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So that man told him, You have to leave your place to another place, you want to succeed, you shouldn't stay here.

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And this is a completion of the repentance, which many of us cannot afford to address. The first step is to boycott the thing that is putting you into that trouble.

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You have committed a sin, because of your connection with friends. The best way to get rid of this and is to get rid of them first you live with them will not be easy for you to have the Tober and nasarah.

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You are in trouble because of the internet. Stay away from it. Because the more you go, the more you see those things and the images that are putting you into trouble.

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You have a problem with a place stain in the city.

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When you want to repent, you have to migrate from that city to another city that can help you to preserve.

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That's why the concept of Hijra is always on until the day of judgment until the day of judgment. For those people who cannot practice that religion properly in the place where they are located, they must move to another place where they can serve the religion of Allah subhanaw taala properly, it is wajib upon them to leave the place where they cannot practice their religion properly to another place where they can preserve that

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this is my message to the younger ones. And whoever is tested by this disease, please

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pitch yourself you know this masturbation will never help And subhanAllah as in both me and used to mention that you are exhausting your energy yourself and you need it for the future.

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Yeah, you need for the future, this is a reality you need it for the future. If you read books and hear the scholars receiving questions from the younger ones, and new married people, sometimes a person will be complaining that he is affected by a magic you know, somebody did magic on him.

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Why was that? He will tell you that because he cannot approach his family.

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And some of them there is no magic. There is nothing but they already waken themselves before.

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Yeah, apart from the health issues, you know, that it brings and that that thing brings to that person who is doing it also have this evil consequence that when you marry, a person might face problem, a lot of problems when it comes to satisfying him himself. So stay away from these things. The same goes to those people who are enjoying the images, whether physical image, or that you go to the media and look at those images. And a person is relieving himself. Allah never made your path through this. And subhanAllah it is creating this you know, darkness in the heart and strong illness and disease in the heart. There is no way for somebody who you know,

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I mean, keeps looking at the opposite agenda and go and see those images. This is his attitude. ImmunoCAP is going to talk about them in detail. Ash Kasoor he call it

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a skull sore. Somebody who is having this

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I don't know what kind of what did they call it crush in love, one stage of love that which is very, very, very, very high. So somebody is having it on the images and pictures, it will never let your heart relax.

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Take this from me there is nowhere for a person who is behaving in this way and at the same time, you'll find him getting the relief, you know at the peace of the heart, you want the tranquility, you want the focus, you should avoid those things. You want the light from Allah subhanaw taala to be dominating your heart, you should try your best to stay away from these images. You know in the same surah Allah subhanaw taala talk about

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his his attributes a new Allah Who knows similar to a lot in the same surah Allah Sparta talks about God the bustle, lower in your case, you know, and making sure that when you go to the houses where there is nobody except people who are not your family members, your family here I'm referring to your spouse, you know, you should always look for the permission to enter the only person who can just get into the room without taking the permission. Saying salaam first without taking the permission is the spouse because there is no barrier between them. Other than that, no, you have to take permission. Your children you must take permission their parents you must take you must take

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permission. Your sisters, your brothers, your aren't your grandparents, you know all of them. So you have to take permission before we get into the place where they are located.

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Why is that? Because of the protection of the eyes. The prophets Allah Elisa said in NEMA Jurina is Iran, I will even mean agilely Elbasan. Allah Azza to prescribe seeking for the permission upon the believers that when they go into territories that don't belong to them, they should ask for the permission before they get in, to protect the image that is to protect the site. Because if you just go inside, you might see something that you cannot remove it or delete it from your brain.

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There will be tragedy because there are some people who you shouldn't see them in that nature.

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They cannot forget and you cannot forget. And this is a last one to protect you from the shaytaan who might be putting things in your brain as we're going to see in shall live, okay, I'm talking about that might be putting things in your brain in a way at the end of the day, if you're not careful, something is going to happen between you and that person whom you you saw in the room, when he gets inside without without permission.

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So look at how Allah azza wa jal connect this, I mean, I mentioned this idea, you know, in the same sort of way, he talks about the light of Allah subhanaw taala Nurul. Iman, the light of iman in the heart of the believer, can Okay, even Taymiyah says, the more you lower your gaze, the more you close your eyes, the more you turn your eyes, you know, from that thing, which Allah doesn't want you to look at it, you know, unless if it is accidental, the more light you get in your heart, and you need that light, especially as a student of knowledge, you really need that light, especially in the time we're living in, you really need that light. In the time of the prophets, Allah Sama, they

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need that light more

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you know, and believe me in our time, we need it more than that time, because in that time, they don't have the issues we're having nowadays. No entertainment, no anything of that nature, we have it nowadays. So we need it more than that.

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You need that light, you need to be very strong you need to observe patients to stay away from anything that Allah subhanaw taala made haram upon you.

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As I said, as a student of knowledge, you need to have that light so that you will be able to remember your rules properly.

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Because Imam Shafi said he says chakotay in our que su a heavy for our shed any electrical mousy Wirkkala Arlen be analyzed maneuver Hola Hola, yo, the house it. He says I've complained to my chef. Okay. Even though Jarrod Kofi Rossi, he said I have complained to him that I am suffering these days from bad memory. I can't remember properly that which I heard from the scholars. He said I complained to my shake work here. So I have the you know, the bad

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memory I'm having these days

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for how to shed any electrical mousy. So he told me the best way to fix this is to stay away from six

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Stay away from six regardless of their nature and their size.

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Well Carla Lambie and l Malone one Hola Hola, yo daddy acid. And he told me you should know that knowledge is a light from Allah subhanaw taala given to

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the believers, one over Allah lay your daily RC and the light of Allah SmarTech cannot be given to around.

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So that's the reason why I said you really need it as a student of knowledge so that you can have your heart to be fixed, and to be pure, to be clean, so that whenever you hear something from your scholars, you will be able to remember it in sha Allah until you need Allah subhanho wa Taala So in short, all of these methods that people are using to relieve themselves are canceled and they are wrong. Islamically accept two ways. Marriage and milk clearly. Yeah, marriage and milk milk and Amy

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hopefully Amin means a person who has a slave and he lives himself towards that female slave if he owns a slave legally. And some people think that nowadays the maids in the house they could be considered a slave. This is a lie. It is false. A maid in your house is just like you a free person. Yeah, Allah subhanaw taala just granted you you know

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ability to control them because they're looking for money you know from you, but they're not related to you in any way. Except if you happen to take somebody from your your relative and that will be also a mistake from your side because how do you employ your relative to come and do this? This job although it is halal, but ethically shouldn't be done in that in that way. That Allah subhanaw taala grant us Tofig so the only two ways are the marriage and also the thermal Clemmie. So no masturbation, no lesbianism, no any other or relieving oneself through the images. All of these things are strictly rejected Islamically because they lead to

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because they lead to pain lead to evil,

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they are rejected Islamically because they lead to to evil so Allah subhanaw taala says we're Lavina homely for Rajim haffi loan Illa Allah as well as our market Mr Humphrey normal Zuma lumen, if they do it on the wives and milk Alia mean that Allah is my hotel will not blame them. So for those people who are suffering from this

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evil attitude, the best way is to follow the Manage of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam

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and the best way for them is to follow the manager of the prophets Allah Allah salah. There are some other man aged given to them by some other people, but they will never be equal to the Manage given to us by the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam out to control the desire. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Yeah, mashallah Shabaab manasota Amin cool butterfly laters a watch

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and enable loci mentioned in this book inshallah we're going to see that he said, There is no remedy and medicine for somebody who is having this problem that is better than marriage. You Allah, there is nothing better than marriage. Because it takes everything you have.

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And it leaves you with nothing except focus in on increase your piety isn't Allah has

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nothing can give us more than the marriage. That's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said whoever can afford marriage foliate as a word watch, whoever can afford Alba Alba, according to the best interpretation of the scholars is referring to

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financial capability and also physical ability to approach a spouse sexually. That's the best interpretation of the scholars in sha Allah manasota Amin Kamal badger, whoever can afford Alba he should marry. So that's mean financially He's capable. And when I say financially, he's capable. I don't mean what is practice nowadays, you know, Subhan Allah, smart Allah.

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We distorted the system. That's why we don't see the benefit. And we end up receiving nothing in many instances except why divorces the person married but he doesn't

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see any benefit in it.

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Because we don't do it in the wave of hula sulla sama asked us to do it.

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So that exaggeration has to be avoided. That kind of cut that part of the culture must be avoided.

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it, regardless of who your family are, you're coming from the richest family on Earth on Earth, it doesn't matter, when it comes to marriage make it very simple. And a father should understand that his daughter is not asleep.

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His daughter is not asleep.

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In some cultures, and some of you will understand this properly, and you know, what I'm referring to, in some cultures, the family of the wife, you know, they are the ones who are going to do the same, I mean, everything

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Subhanallah just bear with me, and then let's see, if you have different perspective, you know,

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I always see this practice to be like, you know, I am taking my daughter, you know, as a slave to somebody,

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the father will be the one who by all the furnitures you know, the father of the

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bride, bride bride is the woman right? Yeah, the father of the bride will be the one who by the furnitures

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the beds, couches, everything, you know, the kitchen utensils, everything they will provide,

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you know, and they will buy the carpets, they will buy everything in the house, everything that was there, they have to, and also they have to also bring food to the, to the to the house, they support our with food for one month, you know, and somebody was telling me that if they, if they don't find a good husband, also he sells the thing been brought, which belongs to the wife

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So imagine the husband just provided a house, and it is the responsibility of the family of the girl to bring together with her all of these things. What is the job of the husband? Nothing, except to come and enjoy his life? What is she doing there? You know,

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I don't know who is pumping any those people to maintain this culture and to hold upon it. And they are willing to change. But I heard I've heard that there are some people who are fighting for the change, because this is not according to the message of Rasulullah sallallahu salah

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the husband is responsible to provide the house, she's supposed to come to the house

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as a very highly respected person together with her cloth.

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We give him that Sudan he pays.

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And she goes to the house. And that's it. He keeps the house that's how it's supposed to be done.

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In a very respected way. It has a lot of benefit in it. It has a lot of benefits. And that's why they call a woman mutt Luba. And Tarik you are the you are the Talib, you're the one who is requested you know,

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you are the one who is who is requested, you have to go to a you have to take permission, you have to go to this, this and that no Subhanallah all of these procedures, Allah subhanaw taala provided them, you know, so that you can have a chance to even to approach her, you have to go through a system, you know,

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after that whole, do the rest of the thing you do, she comes and meet you in the house. Her job is to respect you and to obey and to listen to whatever you say. But when it comes to the financial expenses and provision in the house, this is not the job of the parent of the bride, it is the job of the husband and his family members.

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So that culture has to be avoided and somebody has to take action, there must be a sacrifice. Some people who say they don't want to do and they insist. And slowly, slowly we get number two, also, there's another one, having the law, we started seeing somebody, I mean some people who are doing the correct thing. You know, I heard about one of the scholars, they said his daughter's whoever wants to marry them, he will tell him, she will come to your house and the way she is created, you know with her clothes, and as it we will not buy anything else.

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It's up to you go and stay with her with nothing in the house. And I appreciate that. And subhanAllah they said that chef is that this is one of our seniors in the Islamic University of Medina. When when when the boy comes he tells him that the the weather map and he takes them out completely and give it to the girl this is your money. This

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is also another thing which some communities you know somehow like the sisters data is no that's why I said this is similar to the slaves being taken to to others. Even the money demand given the parents are going to use it for something else. The grandparent aren't the sisters and some people they're going to use it for something else.

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She goes with what

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And this is wrong because that money belongs to her.

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She should be given that money immediately. So that person will tell the boy who comes to marry his daughter, that I don't ask you to do anything except them. The rest is between you and your wife, whatever you want to put in the house, you go and do it.

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I mentioned this to you, because I came across people who suffered, marriage have been postponed, canceled, why? Because the family of the bride cannot afford

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all of these expenses. And they had to cancel the thing.

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And some people relate the rate, the increase in the rate of the divorce in that community

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to be based on this because the husband does nothing. Yeah, tomorrow, if he devotes her tomorrow, he's gonna he's gonna go get another one. I know, also bring everything to the house, you know, and then that no tolerance tomorrow, he will just divorce also another also bring everything to the house, you know, but imagine if he is the one who will buy everything. That's why this is sometimes after the marriage, you see, the boy started having white hair, you know,

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we don't want him to be like that. But I'm just telling you how much he's supposed to be doing in terms of supporting the marriage, which I believe will help the marriage to to exist. We don't impose it on him as the family of the bride. Yeah, but we leave it to his own discretion. What he wants to put in the house. He goes and put according to his capability, he's going to do it now. He's going to do it gradually. You know, it's up to him.

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That's the best way to make it. So when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Minnesota, I mean, como Bah, you know, he talks about financial capability with no exaggeration. You know, we didn't put a very big Mar like we heard from some of the countries in talking about the average man is 40,000 Ringgit.

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40,000 ringgit

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is more than enough to finish the marriage most likely and, and and get some job, you know, but 40,000 ringgit is the average.

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You know, and we're talking about that at the other ma 150,000. Ringgit, or more than that. Subhan Allah Subhan Allah, you know, as if we're making our daughter's product to be sold.

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But sometimes the family have this Tushar home with them that, no, she has to get this amount of money because in the future, he might divorce her. She needs this money to move forward.

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Look at the chapeau Why do you need to begin a life like this? You know, what can to be like? Rasulullah Salah Sama, have good expectation. This optimism must be there. You give him your daughter with the intention of having somebody who can keep her forever was done with that. But from day one, you started having the the thought that she was going to be divorced, what kind of therapy are you gave her and what kind of person you are granting your daughter, you know, to

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the first place you should be thinking wisely, to make sure that you put her on the right hand. The one that you know insha Allah will keep her protected and respect her until they meet Allah subhanaw taala.

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Yeah, that's why you see many scholars and this is the correct opinion that says as Awaji Binya Talaq bouton. Marriage with intention of divorce is fake, is false is bad is wrong, you know?

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Why is that because it is none other than deception. Nobody will accept it, the one who's doing it, he will never accept this to happen to his daughter. People expect a marriage to last longer. But nowadays, we have this pessimism, you know, subhanAllah we give our daughters but we have the thought that in the future, the husband is going to divorce them. As such, we have to protect their side by increasing the amount of the MaHA.

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That's why in some societies, a person can afford buying a car you know, but he cannot marry

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whereby marriage supposed to be simple. Look at a term of the prophets, Allah Sama, somebody married with nothing

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the memorization of the Quran that he did and he's going to teach his wife, that's it.

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I believe nowadays if somebody is going to do it, some people will have doubt in that marriage, whether it works or not.

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Somebody married with nothing except this.

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In the past, somebody married with nothing except that the husband

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says he will accept Islam and the wife said, You Islam is my mom

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who accepted that Rasul Allah did that marriage between a Muslim and a Buddha.

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He accepted Islam.

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Nowadays you have a person who will tell you that it is impossible for me to get a girl who will accept Islam and then marry her.

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Smile Allah

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Who told you, they need you at first? The first place, you know, Allah subhanaw taala when he creates people, He did not create only one he creates so many, you know.

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And that's also another issue. And the sisters accepting Islam but somebody to marry the brothers and accepting Islam but to get somebody from the the ready. Any Muslims, you know, is not easy.

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They feel they're isolated and segregated, disappointed by the community.

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So if they're not supported by strong Eman, they might go out of their Eman, you know, since we accept Islam or nobody in the Muslim community to accept us. Why do we accept Islam that?

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So the point is, is that almost Elaine, she married Abu Talha without a physical mouth. And the companion said the companions said, they said that was the best man in Islam. Because the Islam of of the husband was the MaHA she said I don't want anything except this can see how marriage has been made easy. And even me Taliban he married the daughter of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, I guess no matter how much genuine somebody has in his brain, you know, he will never think that his daughter is like Fatima, Binti Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, no matter how much somebody is going out of his mind. He would never think that the virtue of his daughter is equal to that of Muhammad salah.

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But guess what, when she was going to be married to the cousin of Rasulullah, sallAllahu semma and that aren't going to be tolerated.

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She was going to marry Ursula. Absolutely. She's going to marry

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Olivia Vitali

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and Russell so lots of ask Halloween and metallic proposed. So Alexa,

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do you have anything to give for the mod? He said no

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smarter law. This is the daughter of Rasul Allah, you know, the best the best person on earth.

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In Amman, Mohammed Salah is somebody even some scholars said she's the best woman you know.

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And you can understand that, because the Prophet sallahu sama said, come on. I mean, in reality if you rule

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while I'm here Kamal Mina Nissei Illa herba.

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He said that among the brothers, so many who are perfect and complete it

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you know, look at the messengers of Allah subhanaw, Taala and the prophets,

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all of them according to the majority of the scholars from the brothers.

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There are some scholars who said they the reseller is only for the brothers. But number one, since it doesn't necessarily mean to go and carry the message and convey it to others. There are also sisters who are who are who are profit is a controversial matter according amongst the scholars, but the vast majority of the scholars said there was no a profit amongst the sisters

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well I'm yeah call me in and they say larva the prophets Allah sama say from the sisters, those one that Allah has been granted that kind of perfection, therefore.

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But this doesn't mean that I is violated which says in Kurama con in the law here at Kotaku, the best in the eyes of Alaska is the one who feels a lot smarter. The more we're talking about the perfection that Alaska knows you cannot point a person and say yeah, this is among those perfect ones.

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So we remain equal in the eyes of Allah. Whether you're a male or a female, equal in the eyes of Allah subhanaw taala you are better than her. If you have more Taqwa that

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she is better than you if she has more Taqwa than than you This is how the system is.

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But alas for her or to Allah knows whom he chose.

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So he says there are four sisters who are so perfect. The most perfect sisters are four.

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The first one

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was asiyah

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of intimacy,

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the wife of her out and you have murdered Maria and Imran the mother of acla Salaam. And you have Khadija been to coilette. The wife of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and you

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have the data of Muhammad Fatima mentor Mohammed said Allahu Allah Himself.

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So if you look at all of those sisters and you study that history, you will understand why they qualify that position.

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And Fatima According to some scholars is the best among all the four. She's the best. First of all, because she's coming from the best, you know, from the sisters and the best from the brothers Rasul Allah sama said Fatima Baba to me, he says Fatuma is flesh from me,

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as well when they were debating, you know, competing each other who is the best in the eyes of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam and they put Fatima inside Rasulullah Salah Sama, take out of the discussion. He said Father, Baba to me, it says Fatima is part of the

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who can compete with Fatima in this industry that nobody.

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And she is coming from Khadija bit to hoilett also one of the four

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and she's also among the four. She is coming from one of them. She's coming from the best of the best. So let's Allah Azza no human being is even closer to Rasulullah sallallahu sallam.

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She is coming from him. I mean she is part of it.

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And she's also part of Khadija de la and she's also among those who are so Lhasa sama counted to be to be the best. I'm just giving you this so that in case there is somebody out there who think that he has a daughter that could be compared with fobbing out of the Allah on her he should understand who fought in my was that he will wake up from his dream.

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Nobody can reach this woman, Ravi Allahu Allah.

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But he is far the man of the Allah and her going to marry somebody who is poor. And Rasul Allah is lots of ask him, do you have something to give as the man he said, No, I don't have.

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He said, What happened to that shield? The armor that we gave you after one of the battles? Is it still there? Because he belittle it, you know, the other one? What is he going to do with it? You know, the prophets Allah Allah selama asked him, Do you still have it? He said, Yes. He said, give it to her as the MA.

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So if Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam let his daughter to go to Alina Vitaly,

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you know, and also the mod was very simple.

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You know, why can't we do that with our daughters? Why can't we love that which Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam allows for his for his daughters, you know?

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So Brian says we need to think properly. This marriage system need to be addressed properly. We're suffering a lot people are suffering. And this illegal relationship amongst the Muslim is at the increase nowadays for the elder biller.

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And the province a lot is Omar said the best way to curb it and to stop it is to marry. He says Marcia Juba, Minnesota, I mean, como activators outward, whoever has the strength and the financial capability to marry, let him marry.

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And also he has the physical ability to sustain a marriage, the prophets, Allah Azza wa said he should he should marry. And that's the reason why I

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want every one of us from going through a system that destroy that energy that a person will need in the future, through the masturbation, lesbianism watching the images, pictures and all of these stupidities, that people are doing to relieve themselves. These are all wrong practices, which have their own evil consequences in the future. Somebody was asking one of the one of the English speakers he says, How come when I marry? It is not interesting at all. It used to be before. I mean, meeting with that sister used to be before the marriage actually is supposed to be the opposite, you know, but he couldn't find the marriage interesting.

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I was his answer. And he was right. In that answer. He says because pay too much mix with each other before the marriage did too much look at each other, and the prestige and the interest that is supposed to be there as opposed to remain after the marriage was gone before.

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So that's why in a Islamic way, we didn't do all of these things. You go to the house when you identify the person who you want to marry you see the girl you want to marry how there's no apparent and go to them immediately. If you're ready for the marriage coach or the military, a possible that marriage shouldn't take you no

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more than a week I know you will be telling me what are you talking about? You know, I

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Wallah, he possible it shouldn't take more than a week, I was told about a marriage, it just for one week

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that has been the man identify the one he wants. We're really serious. He went to the family and they agree, fellas, they married within a week they marry.

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And these marriages who had a lot, if they identify the good person, these are the successful marriages, because they last longer. They need that shyness and procedure to remain amongst them. You know, there isn't one I have heard, it was two weeks. And his friends were surprised how come two weeks somebody was telling me these are the marriages we want to see now in our community, you know,

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compare this with the other 110 years they have been engaged in a bad relationship, you know, meeting each other every time for 10 years or more than 10 years.

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And then somebody says at the end of the day, there will be one of them was saying that he doesn't know what happened and to know that this marriage is not is not waiting to happen.

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Yeah, because you don't want it to happen. What exactly are you looking for?

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They fought with each other, they know each other, they talk to each other, they sit with each other and sometimes even go beyond the limit. You know, amongst themselves, what else you he wants, you know, when they married she has no respect to him and he has no respect to her.

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And when the votes take place, they blame each other.

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So the prophets Allah Allah Silva said Minnesota I mean comal batter violators I watch for in for Donnell Basa wa Sanyal Forge. He said marriage is the best way to give yourself relief. If you can do that, you cannot afford the marriage. You know, he says before then the prophets Allah Azza wa gave us the reason why he was proposing the marriage he says for him No, I'm not drill, bustle. Waxaan relief Archie, because it's the thing that is helping you to protect your eyes.

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Yeah, it helps the person to protect his eyes. What Asada will Virgie and it protects you to give yourself enough relief in a way you will not think of something else.

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It is supposed to be in that way. The prophets Allah Allah Azza wa said, this is the best remedy you have marriage if you can afford it.

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Allah marriage is tranquility. I still remember some of the bad in a very, very bad people, you know, that we know since we're young, we know them to be really, really bad. smartLav one day, they just pass away young we don't even start studying at that time. But I can see that woman just passing with hijab as well.

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Nobody will believe that person will be wearing hijab in the future.

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That happens after the marriage. Now a decent person goes into school.

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Nobody will imagine this, you know, a decent person go into school, what they call Islam yet in that in that place, you know, go into the Islamic school, study, all of that stupidity is gone.

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That's why I always say marriage is tranquility

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is gives you it gives you comfort. It helps you to defeat shape on

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the professor Alyssa said this the best remedy, you know, to help you to lower your gaze and to control your desire, if you can afford it. For instance, Allah subhanaw taala tested you to live to live in the place where marriage is very expensive.

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Like those one that I have just mentioned,

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almost you do, or Allah is bound to test you to live in the midst of parents who lost their, their uncle, because I can't understand a father, his daughter or his son tells him that I need to marry

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and he was he will keep pumping them with the so called more than education to be finished first, and then they can marry.

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You know, sometimes my dear brothers sisters, they send their children to a place and the children will go and do all kinds of stupidities. You know you know what I'm talking about? And they don't care about this.

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You don't care about this.

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When they ask him to make in an illegal way, he will not accept

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And subhanAllah if you go and check the status of the father, the father is very rich. He can support the marriage he can support them in their life doesn't want And subhanAllah if you go back to history, his parent did not do this to him.

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His family did not do this to him

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and what's wrong with threaten him?

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marry, you know, let's say you're married and support his marriage, you know, let him combine between the education and the marriage. What's wrong with that?

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And experience have taught, as I've seen people who became experts in their education and excellent in education after the marriage.

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And what do you think he's going to do in education? Is that thinking of marriage is this disturbing his brain.

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So if a person is tested to be part of this family, this is really a test.

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And the prophets, Allah, Allah says, I advise you to take the second remedy, which is to fast.

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He says, For a law Mr. De valet, he does so many, if you cannot afford marriage, or you can afford marriage, but your parents don't let you marry

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us, the province, Allah said, If you cannot afford marriage, or you might be able to afford the marriage, but your parents don't want that.

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Because of their own personal interests, you know, subhanAllah, sometimes it's just a personal interest.

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The worst thing I heard about this personal interest, the parent and not letting the children married, especially the sisters, you know, unfortunately, he wants her to go and work so that she can provide him with money. You stop your daughter for marriage, just because you want her to support you with money in her workplace. Subhanallah

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the words I heard, I read in a book called a loser, you know.

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He was caught in a question that was cast to one of the scholars. You know, there was a father, he has four daughters. Imagine the youngest. Her age was 24, the youngest, and he's taught all of them from marriage. The first one is about 40. Something, he deprived them from marriage. They try the best father doesn't want

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anyone to be separated from them because of personal interests. They work they get him money, if they go to others, the husband will be benefiting from the money look at this house shaytan has given him this hot hot tub.

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So he stopped them from practicing there, right given to them by Allah, which is part of their nature.

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The oldest one got sick,

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you know, might be based on depression, you know, because they said when she was very sick at the last moment of her life, the father came together with the rest of the sisters, you know, and they were surrounded, we're sitting next to her. And then suddenly she kept on looking at the father. She kept looking at him so much.

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And then the last word she mentioned before moving out of this life, she said May Allah

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make Jana haram for you in the way you make marriage haram for me. And then she closed her eyes and die Subhan Allah, they said the man was crying since that moment, after the moment they are reporting to the to the chef. They were asking the sheikh what to do we even the rest of the sisters even told him just relax, stop crying, we don't want to marry we just want you to relax. And how can he relax? Because if that statement is not a DUA, she is saying something you know that she heard from the angels, you know, everything is possible, that is going to go to hell who knows. And even if it is dua he knows he was oppressing her, and she's making dua at that last minute of her life.

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That's why he couldn't relax is one of the worst stories. I've heard concern parents stopping their children from marriage because of their own personal interests, you know, somebody should feel Allah subhanaw taala because he is going to be questioned about this. Yeah, she is responsible if she went and do something wrong, but the part the father is going to take the portion portion of that responsibility.

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So if a person is tested to be in the midst of these parents, the problem is a lot of summer advisors to engage in the second remedy which is the first thing it says follow he does solely for a no hola who is a professor last summer said let him fast, because fasting will be acting as a shield and a protection against the shaytaan and the evil desire, you know, against all of these these things for him.

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So fasting is acting upon this nature if it is to be observed according to the Sunnah of the Prophet, Allah Salam. Yeah, because we have people who are complaining that we have been fasting somebody says, I have been doing the fast for every day. But still the desire is the increase.

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As one of them were the state

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He told me the place where he stays

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what, what can I tell him, you know, one of the private universities that some of you know, the private university, I'm referring to, that I will not mention that the university otherwise those people will think that I'm trying to tarnish the image. But he knows what is going on in the private institution, because there is no proper monitoring system.

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That's why up to date in terms of monitoring, you know, and supervision, the government institutions, they're the best, they're the best. They're trying their best, you don't see these two pieces taking place in public will lie there was university that I used to go on teaching that university, one day, they blocked the road, then it happened to, to come from the

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the Waco behind the hospitals, you know, I saw something, you know, subhanAllah they have the shine in the main road didn't do it. For I see brothers and sisters to do in that place. I told the brothers, you know, subhanAllah if anything happens, you know, to me at the gates, people tell me to go back, I will never beg the security to get inside this community, you know, Subhan Allah.

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This is what our children are doing right. And the father is in his country. They're, you know, Yan, Chen and others that my child is staying in this place. And that place you know, study,

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which study we talking about?

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You know, let us fear Allah subhanaw taala and understand this matter properly. So how is it possible for a child who lives in the middle of those ones in the classroom? He is surrounded by everyone, you know what I'm talking about?

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How can fasting works? How is it going to work?

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How is it going to work? If students are complaining nowadays, Wallah, I have to remember the person who was telling me that I cannot focus in the class, I told him why he says because of the lecture. What happened?

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He said the lecture is, so I'm so and so. And so. And to him, she's so pretty.

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So he couldn't focus in the class, because he's always in front of him.

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Honestly, speaking, Please do help me, what can you what can you tell somebody in this situation? You know,

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he has to go to the class. And this is his teacher. And this is what happened between the membership and no matter how much you try to convince him to focus to close his eyes, what is he going to do, you know, in hygiene where people go, a person told me that I couldn't make them laugh. Luckily, the opinion of the scholars who says that you don't need to make, although for the draft to be accepted, is the best opinion.

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Although the safest opinions to have although but that one is the best opinion.

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Because you have some people who cannot observe the laugh properly. Because in the laugh, you have excused because everyone is there, you can tell the brothers of the sisters to be segregated, is is not going to be practical. That's why it was kept for ages since the time of Rasulullah, sallAllahu selama, up to date.

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So somebody couldn't make the off if he couldn't make the work properly, his will do Captain been broken because he tried I told him close your eyes. He says even after I close my eyes, it keeps on coming in my brain, you know,

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he lost his will to go and make you to come back to throw off you know, imagine to have a father somebody is going you know one tawaf, you know, take takes you two hours sometimes, you know, imagine his you do get broken. And then he went and come back again, another two hours go losses, we'll come back again, another two hours. When is he going to finish that off, then?

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I'm just bringing this example. If this is happening in Makkah, somebody cannot do that properly. And this is the place where he he is supposed to have the word of Allah Subhana Allah, he's thinking of nothing except Allah. What do you think of the classrooms? So customers, we have to act decently. Whatever is in that class has to act decently

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as the reason why in some places, they promote this education whereby both are supposed to be taught by by the same genders. I received this complaint starting from the younger people up to the after the big, the big wars.

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So my question here is, if you live in that territory in that kind of environment, how do you think fasting is going to help? It will never help you will keep on doing but the desire will keep on coming. Because you need to support your your Eman, you need to help it by staying away from those areas that can provoke you desire. This is how it works. You can just say okay, let me fight

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And then go in the middle of the tragedy and think that this medicine will work.

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I guess it will came until the end of the book he will be discussing this this matter from time to time inshallah. So the prophets Allah Allah Silva said from Allah Mr. de Falla, he is solver in the hula who, the WHO which. So here Allah subhanaw taala says Illa Allah as well as Alma Malakut, a man who have a normal human human thermal limits of our delicate for all Africa whom Allah do whatever goes beyond these two places where Allah Sparta prescribed for them, either marriage or milk leave me if you go beyond that Allah smarter says you are transgressing the limit. Anyone who tells you masturbation is right, is cheating you because Allah subhanaw taala mentioned these two ways and

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says what it says these are always going beyond them looking for something else is going beyond the limit, you know, and as a sinful act.

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And as such, all of these other forms that are the people are having rejected Islamically and they have no place in our religion at all. As I said, even some scholars when they say this, they are talking about a very, very narrow situation whereby a person knows if he doesn't marry, he will engage in Zina, and he can do the lesser of the two evils. But even this one, my dear brothers, sisters, if you are suffering from the pressure from the parent who are depriving you from marriage, you know, when you read this situation, you have to disobey and go and marry, you must disobey.

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You want to marry and your parents don't want to get you married and you need it, you know that if you don't do it, you might be engaged in the commission of Xena, you have to go and marry and skip them. Whether they like it or didn't like it, it is up to them, actually, they're committing sin by depriving you from that marriage. And this is for everyone, including the sisters. Although I will say if she can be patient is better to be patient, you know, because she's not sure about how she will be going because I heard a story of a sister who went against the interest of the parent and she married somebody else.

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You know, the family disowned her. I don't know, how does that work? You know, your daughter who came from you? You say that she's not part of you in any way. As Junoon Allah does genome, how does that work?

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Logically it doesn't work, but they do.

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They disconnected themselves from her Subhanallah that sister was tested, the husband died. And now she wanted to come back to the family. They rejected her they said she is not one of them.

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What is this? So that's the reason why sometimes I say there is a legal ruling. And there is an advice also,

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if I'm to advise, I will say to her to be patient, unless if she's in a situation whereby she knows if she doesn't marry him and have committed the Zina in this case, she has to keep them all of them. If the family don't want to get the married marriage, then she goes to the to the coffee to the judge. She goes to the authority administer the Prime Minister, Governor, anyone the authority, the king, those one shouldn't reject. They just have to make sure that they are given how to somebody who is qualified, who is covered to her.

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After that, she just married and ignore to protect herself and she is not disobeying Allah she is doing actually what is what is right. But as I said, being patient is always good. I'm just talking about the circumstance where a person is given two option is between two things either to commit Zina or to marry without their permission. And he tried his best to get their permission they don't want in this case, he shouldn't commit Zina, he has to go and look for the halal marriage. If it is a brother, he doesn't need the permission of the parents in the first place. You know, legally Islamically their sister she needs the permission of the worry if the lead doesn't want to get

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permission, she just go to the king or the prime minister or the president that those one can arrange the marriage she cannot marry herself to somebody but she can go to those ones they can help they should help actually her to get the marriage.

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Allah subhanaw taala grant us good. And inshallah in the next class, I will take the remainder of the verses mentioned by Allah subhanaw taala in

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this part of the Surah In sha Allah, I think we have around two three ayat, we will take them for

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the sake of the benefit inshallah and then we move to the comment mentioned by Ian. Okay. Abdurrahman. Zakka Lokeren a return at the mic back to you

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Salam o Rahman Can you hear my voice?

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Romain Can you hear my voice

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okay man I didn't know what happened I can't hear you. Let me go out and come back again

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Salam Alaikum

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okay so I think the problem is from my side

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okay Rahman send me the question one after the other let me read them from myself and answer them I think I need to restart my computer for me to get the voice because nothing works at all

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think the problem is from my side because I tried to play some

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videos also nothing is making any sound so

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for sure it is from me

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just suddenly they get the question because I restarted so I deleted all the

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added those

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Okay, let's be joined through the phone maybe it works

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Try speak

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Salam Alaikum

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I think this one doesn't work on me just go to the questions

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Okay, question number one

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is the one that says

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masturbation is it haram in Islam and what if someone is involved in full occation in his past, and currently struggling to control his desire is it allowed for him to masturbate? What is the best way he can do to overcome this problem based on Islamic practice other than getting married and fasting.

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As I said, the best way is to do those things because these are prescribed by the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And for the fasting, I really advise him to do it according to the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam don't eat a lot, eat a little in the Sahara and, and also when it comes to the Iftar eat, gradually be moderate in eating, and apart from this, if I can add is to advise him to leave the place where he usually get into trouble because of that, because usually these things comes because him interacting with different types of people get it so those people who are causing him to be into trouble, the best is to leave them go and stay in another

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place. If you are studying in a school, if you can afford change in the school to another decent school, this is wajib upon you, not just better, but it is valuable for you to move to somewhere else where you can preserve your honor and, and dignity. So this is a very good method, you know, look into the thing that is putting you into trouble. Stay away from it. This is part of the hijab mentioned by the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. But as, as I said, the best remedy for masturbation is to marry does the best marriage number one medicine is marriage. Apart from that is too fast. If you cannot afford the marriage, do it according to the Sunnah of the Prophet salallahu

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Alaihe Salam, and try support these two by staying away from anything that can provoke your desire,

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then go and visit website and channels and places that don't stay in areas and places where you can be interacting with the opposite gender because your desire will be will be provoked, provoked.

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There is nobody who can help. Yeah, because even the thing given to you by the province a lot so we would never have you have people they bury already, but they're still, you know, disturbed by these images. They're married, they have their own wives. So one of the things either they keep on putting the sob into the same trouble before the marriage, or they tried their best, but Subhanallah that spouses are not smart enough to help them to

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get the satisfaction they need which can help them to avoid that problem because sometimes the spouse the person is living with is putting restriction on him. This is really happening a lot a lot a lot a lot

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either from the brothers or from the or from the sisters put in restriction and it's very dangerous. This is very dangerous. And also at the end of the day if something happens and he will be blamed what happened here especially when it comes to the sisters if he goes and married many people remarry again because of this. Why because he doesn't find his satisfaction in them not because they're not pretty they are you know beyond what he needs but unfortunately they put so many restriction on him which is depriving him from you know, his right that allows for to granted him and pushing him to go back to the Haram one because when he goes to the Haram, he find no

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restriction from those ones. Yeah, because then he would Sheltie they will have noticed

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direction they will do anything possible to make sure that they steal his Iman. So wife should be very smart should do anything possible to make sure that she keeps the husband in the house. She helps him to lower his gaze and the husband also should do should do the same thing. Allah Allah

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one waste so this is another question also.

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I guess from say shefa saying that when we stop at a word we can't understand in Arabic while reciting the Quran do we continue to read from the following idea?

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Or take another

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Surah for for a while.

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Okay, I didn't get this, that much. Sensation shefa you you stop at a word that you cannot understand. In Arabic, why reciting the Quran? What do you mean by stopping? You mean you're reading the Quran and you decided to take breath and you stop at a place?

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Yeah, I need to understand this question correctly before I.

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Before I answer it, in the recitation of the Quran, when you read and you start in a place, try not to begin in the middle of with the middle of that word. But you can begin from the word you stop at or the next the next word, don't go to another Surah keep reading. For you to get the reward. It is not necessarily that you must understand what you are, what you're reading. And my advice to you as a Shiva is to use the sign being placed in the Quran. You know, the Quran, where you were using, there are signs G meme lamb, you know, those follow those ones, the place where they put where stopping is recommended stop at that place, they should be your guide even if you don't know the

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Arabic language that can help inshallah to better to have a better stopping and a better beginning Shala

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when a woman is praying

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she said his woman's praying better at home because they can avoid man's attention

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Other than this, is it better for a woman to stay indoors and not to be unnecessarily outside as as long as she can be inside? Happily? Yes, that's That's true. Because this is what a lot smarter sees Welcome to Phoebe to canola turbo Raja Tuberosa he he, even the brother CC the scholars are advising them if they didn't have anything, take them out of the house to remain in the house is better for them. And for the sisters the emphasis is more Allah Subhana Allah says in surah to Allah Azza wa Khurana Phoebe at quinoa tuber Regina Tamara jdh continued says this is a command from Allah Sparta for the sisters in general, not just the wife of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. This is Jenna

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general that staying at home is better for for them. If they don't need to go out if they need to go out there is no restriction they are like anybody else, just like the brothers except that they have to observe the hijab properly not to do it in the way that generally sisters used to go out without properly covered themselves. Yeah, but going out there is no restriction and in the way the boy can go out the girls who can go out the only thing is that Alaska to recommend and advise her not to go out if she doesn't need to. To go out it's better for for her is better for her.

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So what you have mentioned is is correct the more she stays home and pray at home is better for her in the eyes of Allah smarter than go into the massage it is it permissible. There's a question from ceremony, is it permissible to avoid

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going to a wedding when they have a music or extravagance

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based on past experience of their previous child's wedding,

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no, it is it is not permissible for you to attend.

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Yeah, it is not permissible for you to attend any gathering that is

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involved in Haram practices. You know there is a marriage which has haram practices in it, you are not supposed to engage. I mean to be part of that marriage, you should apologize to them or less if you know that when you visit the place you will advise them to to stop.

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You get it when you have the experience that this marriage is having going to have all of these things then you don't go to them unless if you know that you are going to advise them in a nice way. Then you can go on and advice other than that, you should just avoid it and stay and stay home.

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Zaid says What advice would you give to Shabaab stay

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didn't have private universities

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to marry first before I go, and I mean, my word

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was me my word. If a sharp can marry before he goes to a private university he should marry before going to the private university.

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This is my advice. And if they happen to be in the private university, you know, before marriage, they should try to stick with the Islamic society, if that Islamic society is really an Islamic society, because I visited a university where they have an Islamic society, you know, so Hala, they invited me for a lecture, I was questioning myself, am I in an Islamic society or in that, in an event where, you know, people are just mixing with each other? You can see the way they interact with each other. So Had Allah I don't know, how did they manage to call it Islamic society. So I advise anyone who is in any university without having his wife to stick with the brothers and

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sisters who are a decent, be with them and be patient with them. You know, live in your room. If you don't need to go out when you go out, go to library if you need if you don't need the library, don't go to library because library also you have every every I mean, all types of people, you know, sheltering and incivility,

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especially in those universities where there is no restriction people can come with, with their own clothing

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in the way they want.

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So be in your room if you don't need to go out.

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And the wedding night, if the woman is menstruating, and a couple cannot pray that to work together. Should the husband read that you are that the groom reads on the wedding night putting his hand on the head of on the head? Or should he wait until the wife is

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to wait for the wife to beep you know, he shouldn't he should do whatever he can do.

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Put your hand and make the DUA and then the prayer they should do it and when the time

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is already gone, even if they didn't do it because it's not worth it for them to pray that they have to wait until the purity that's why in some cultures they don't make this mistake Jose, in some cultures they don't make this mistake what they do is they wait because this menstruation is going to take place for 2345 days you know they wait for us you know so nobody will need to ask these type of questions. They wait first they have the marriage when she is she is pure clean because usually says they have their own culture or practice in demonstration they know when it is coming in or when it is when it is coming to the wait for the marriage to be to be taking place after the purity

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also, should only the husband read that

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every time before the physical relationship or both husband and wife the prophets Allah Azza was addressing the husband and it hadn't come in yet. So even if he does it alone, it's okay but if she does it also there is no problem with that because this is just a dua they are both asking Allah smart Allah to protect them from Shiva and to grant them and to protect that which the he gives them from the shaytaan

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the ramen waitwait whenever I start reading question when you send another one it takes away the one I'm reading

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so Okay, that's it so that she can read that she can say this Malachi can also complete the donation.

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Can maternal uncle not be the only dueling that

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the marriage? Is it always it always has to be from the bride's father side. Yeah, this these are the because she belongs to them. She doesn't belong to the mother side.

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And naturally she does but

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Islamically she is considered to be somebody who belongs to the, to the to the Father side. That's why in inheritance she inherited from the Father side not from the mother side from the other side. She just inherited from the mother you know, density. So the hourly, they are from them the father's side. When they finish and there is nobody even Some scholars say we go to the king, we don't go to the mother side.

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But Allah Allah, maybe if they finish and there is nobody then we go to the mother mother side

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and these days where both husband and wife is

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Working how can we make the marriage successful in the field with Barca given the limited time for both to spend time together? Well, I the first advice, I give us a if the wife doesn't need to work, the husband should feel last minute and take responsibility and let her relax at home, take care of the children, you know, take care of the house, that's the best arrangement of a family if she doesn't need to work. If she needs to work, this is something else. Finish she tried their best to see how to come back home and say they shouldn't come back home and sleep.

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The moment they reach house, you know, they should look for a time where they sit down and discuss and increase their love and, and hold the affairs of the house together. But as I said, my humble and sincere advice is to advise the wife if she doesn't need to work not to go for that. The first place is not good, is not good. Surely when you want the best Serbia for the children is when the wife doesn't work the husband go on cater for everything they need, and support them financially.

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But if there is a need for her to work, then there shouldn't be any problem with that Inshallah, as long as the place where she works, it can be seen.

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Okay, the last question I have here is from Sister Shiva, when we enter the bathroom, we have

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the DUA to enter but if we have separate

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space with no toilet for the shower is Bismillah enough

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is Bismillah enough and is spending time in this space for various poor person Okay, without the danger of the evil

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K those places where you have two things, you know, when you go to the bathroom, the place where it is called the toilet, you know, you should do that, ya know, when you go to that place, because people sometimes do everything in that place except economic Kamala, the right the poop, you know, sometimes also people pee in that place the place of showers, sometimes also people do that. So it should mention that you are completely when you are entering that, that place to get it at the place where it has the door, not the place where you are making the window, because sometimes they have two places, the place of the window, and the toilet itself, whether toilets for the bar, for the

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shower, or for other purposes, get it and spending time in a place which is not meant for anything but attached to the bathroom, there's nothing wrong with that inshallah if a person needs it. But if you don't need it, that place is not meant for, for for state.

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Do we have the definite number known of a major since? No, we don't have. That's where we identify the major sins by their nature, since their last one to curse the one who did or he said he will be punishing him on the day of judgment or last month I set up a prescribed punishment or pizzazz. For it in this life. These are the one that we call major, major sins, or we don't have the precise number for them

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is the effect of one's name caused by the intention or meaning of

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the effects of one's name

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caused by intention or

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meaning all the time.

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So we'll meaning also matter an effect according to the different spoken languages.

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I don't get this you're talking about the effect of the meaning of the name on on a person, you know, to freeze according to the intention of the parent if they intentionally give the name for that person because of the meaning.

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So if this is the correct understanding, the scholars have mentioned that the name has impact on on the on the masama that's why it is his right for you to give him a good name. The professor last summer whether the parent intended or did not intend the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam usually change the bad name according to the meaning of course, since they're all Arabs, when the name comes and the name sounds to be bad, in terms of meaning the prophets Allah so much changes the mean. So if a person is in a country, and the name according to the language of that country is good, he shouldn't care that is good. You know, even if he is going to visit another country, you know,

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temporarily it doesn't matter. To get idea. We don't tell him that you have to change the name to look like the Arabic name. You know, no, we don't force him to do that. But if you live in an Arab Arabic country, then you have to design your name according to the nature of the Arabic language because the Arabs when they hear that