Overcoming Anxiety

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All praises to to Allah alone. And then we seek aid and assistance and to Him we turn both in repentance and for forgiveness. Truly, Allah subhanaw taala guides and can mislead and humor Allah leaves to go astray there is none who can guide and that but what is it there's nothing worthy of worship, save Allah alone. And then Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is both a servant and His Messenger.

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One day our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam entered into the masjid

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and he saw a man

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who was there at a time when the masjid is typically empty.

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At a time when people are working on their business, or tilling their fields, or trading goods.

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This man was alone in the masjid.

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So the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said to him,

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oh Abu Mama.

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Why is it that you are sitting here when it is not the time of prayer?

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Meaning why or what are you doing in the masjid? It's not the time of prayer. It's not the time of a bad day. And this is the time when people are working. What are you doing here in the masjid?

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So I'm oh man I said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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who met me. What do you know Nia Rasul Allah. He said to the Prophet anxiety has entangled me

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as well as dex O Messenger of Allah.

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Meaning that he felt so overwhelmed by anxiety and stress,

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that he came to the masjid seeking some relief.

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And that these, this stress and anxiety came out of the fact that he owed debts to other people.

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So the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said to him,

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shall he not teach you

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words that by which, when you say them, Allah will remove your anxiety and settle your deaths?

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And another narration, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said,

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shall I not tell you that which when you say in the morning

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when you awake, and in the evening before you sleep,

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that allow will remove your anxieties and settle your deaths? So do I have to say, twice a day, when we awake in the morning and before we go to bed?

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Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught him this?

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He said

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Allahumma inni will become in a Hemi wellhausen

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well I jersey well castle

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Well,

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why bother?

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at all Allah I seek refuge with You.

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From worry in grief.

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From incapacity and laziness, from coward dice and miserliness and from being have heavily in debts

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and being overpowered by men.

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And as of nomadic for the long run, who was the servant of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, I serve the prophets for years and he made this to so often I asked

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didn't hurt him making this too hot.

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And there are so many benefits and wisdoms we can extract from this to our Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, especially in an era and in a time, where so many people are struggling with mental health challenges, which have become only more and more intense.

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Many people feel a stigma

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when it comes to talking about mental health challenges, if I were to say how many people here are suffering

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from diabetes,

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everyone here who is diabetic would raise their hands. If I said, How many people here are suffering from high cholesterol? The people who have high cholesterol would have no problem raising their hands

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and find out who's suffering from high blood pressure. Likewise, whoever is suffering would raise their hands. But when you say who is suffering from depression,

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or who is suffering from anxiety,

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most people who suffer these things would not raise their hands. And that's because society has taught us

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that some diseases are not shameful. And we can speak about them. And some diseases are shameful, and we shouldn't speak about them.

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Yet when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asks, remember in this Hadeeth

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What are you doing in the mesogens

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I'm Oh, mama says homeless I'm acne.

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Anxiety has overcome me.

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I'm oh mama does not have the stigma that we have. He tells the prophets, I am suffering from anxiety.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam helps him,

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empowers him gives him this to

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tries to strengthen him and support him with this trial. And this shows us the stigma sometimes prevents us from getting the help that we need.

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Because if I said oh, no reason, I'm here for no purpose.

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And the Prophet wouldn't have given him this.

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But because he said I need some help. The Prophet gave him help.

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Likewise, if we are struggling with these struggles or illnesses, we need to seek the appropriate help from the appropriate people as well.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him, to say this too, I along my India will become an enemy. What will hazard

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or lie secure refuge from him? And hazard?

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What is ham?

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ham is anxiety,

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fear and concern over the future

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has his sorrow, sadness

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over the pain of the past, regrets over things that happened to me in the past, regret over missing out on things I wanted to achieve or hardships that have afflicted me.

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Some people think

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that a good Muslim doesn't feel these things that a good Muslim doesn't feel intense or strong sadness or sorrow or anxiety or depression.

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But look at this Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu I know you send them

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he said now saw

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minhang min.

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Well, it hasn't been well our Hahnemann had to show Can you shocking? For a lot of

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the Prophet said no more me no believer is afflicted

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with him.

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sorrows depression has anxieties, the opposite, which is intense sadness. Even the thorn that pricks him except for the law will expiate his sins, but look at the Prophet sallallahu Sallam say, No woman.

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No believer, not even a Muslim. No believer is afflicted with things like sadness, anxiety, except that Allah forgives their sins, meaning that believers are afflicted with these things, meaning that believers are afflicted with sorrow and depression and anxiety.

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And in the Quran, we read so many examples of strong believers who struggle with sadness and sorrow. When we're young

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for Karim, Allah says I'm a prophet Yahoo.

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His eyes turned whites meaning he became blind. from middle house from sadness

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for whom he meant he was suppressing his sadness.

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There's a lot criticizing coffee at home for the sadness. No.

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He's a good believer, he's a prophet. But he feels sadness. Because we're human beings and we feel sadness.

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Right.

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And so this to our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam telling us to seek refuge in these things, shows us that even though every human being faces, sadness and sorrow and depression and anxiety, we all face some level of this.

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There is a level of it that becomes so significant.

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it hinders our dunya and akhira it becomes a barrier and an obstacle against us achieving what we need to achieve in this world in in the next world. It can become a barrier even to prevent someone in their worship of Allah subhanaw taala.

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And so the believer needs to struggle against these things, even though it's natural to feel them, even though it doesn't mean you're a bad believer that you feel them. But we still have to struggle to overcome them. Because there's a point of it where it becomes too overwhelming and it takes over our lives in a way that is not healthy.

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And so we seek refuge in Allah subhanaw taala from these things, and by doing so, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is showing us to use the means at our disposal to overcome anxiety and depression. Do AI is a means at our disposal to overcome anxiety and depression.

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seeking medical help and attention

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or even medication when appropriate, can be a means at our disposal to overcoming anxiety and depression.

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Seeking appropriate therapy

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when it's necessary or when it's applicable, again can be a means that are at our disposal to overcoming anxiety and depression

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alarm and the arrow the becoming an HMI what has an Oh my sequel refuge from Hanneman hasn't? Then he says, well, actually well castle.

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And from incapacity

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and Castle laziness, we can understand this,

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as an artist is

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I have

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the will to do something. But I don't have the ability.

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I have the will to fast. But I don't have the health too fast. I'm incapable. I have the will to pray in the masjid. But I don't have the capacity because the medicines are locked down. I want to do something but I can't for reasons outside of my control. Whereas castle laziness is I have the ability but I don't have the will. I can fast and just don't have the will to do so. I can pray in the masjid I just don't have the will to do so.

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But what's interesting is why this is mentioned in this Hadeeth in this in this context.

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People will talk about and their studies about this, about how we have a biological response to threats.

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Every human even animals have a biological response to threats.

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So they say

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fights or flights

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as in when we face a threat, either we will fight it or flight we will run away from it.

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This is a biological response.

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Except there's actually three responses that we might have. One is fight

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to his flight to run away and the third is to freeze

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even with animals sometimes they see a predator they might freeze and not run away nor fight it's and we human beings operate similarly.

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Why is this important? Because if you think about it, this to AI is asking you to seek refuge from two of those things.

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Now, incapacity is like freezing.

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The person feels incapable biologically of responding to the situation they freeze

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and laziness is flight running away.

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People act like this in our lives we do. Somebody has a debt, because this is about debt, somebody has a debt in their life,

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their flights, their laziness is to pretend it doesn't exist. Ignore it as if it doesn't happen as if it's not happening. Even though their data is getting worse, and it's getting worse, and their problems are getting worse. They're just pretending it doesn't happen.

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They have a problem with their wife, or a problem with their children, their children or, you know, going in the wrong direction.

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That that casts them that laziness, running away from it, it's pretending it's not happening, ignoring the fact that my child is doing this or that. Is it solving the problem?

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No. Are your problems getting worse over time? Yes. Is your child going in a worse direction? Is your debt getting even worse? Yes. But this is castle, running away from the situation. And I'm freezing to stop doing anything.

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You have a Dutch and you're just frozen?

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In the Hadeeth? He's in the masjid.

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Why is he in the masjid the prophets telling? Why are you in the messages? He says I have a debt? Well, why aren't you working to pay off your debt?

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He's in the messaging because he's frozen. He doesn't know what to do.

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This happens to a lot of people, here's a debt, or my child is doing this. I'm frozen. I don't know, I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do. I'm just frozen.

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The Prophet says seek refuge from these two responses. Because our response should be fights. Meaning to deal with the problem to deal with it head on to address the issue that we need to address. And so these concepts are all connected.

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Then he says, Well broccoli will German

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and miserliness and coward dice. Again, these issues are related. Why? Sometimes when bad things are happening to us, we start to destroy our own self worth our own self esteem. So for instance, you fell into debt. What's happening in your mind?

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You're saying to yourself?

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Why did I invest in that thing? I'm such an idiot. Why did I do that? I'm so dumb. Why did I do this? Why did I do it? Why did I lose my money like this? And so in your mind, you're attacking yourself. And you're attacking your self esteem. And you're attacking your self worth.

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Right? And what happens? Now you become afraid.

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I'm afraid to take any risks. I'm afraid to donate any money. I'm afraid to, you know, try something new, because of what might happen to me because of what already happened to me. Right? So you live in a world of fear. And that makes you a coward. That makes you stingy.

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So the Prophet is mentioning to us when

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coward dies and stinginess.

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And this is why so much of our Deen is about freeing us from fear.

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Especially fear over what happened in the past. You keep beating yourself up over a mistake that happened. That's good for you.

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The Prophet tells you

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in the valsalva meconium stack what afflicted you was never not gonna afflict you.

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And whatever avoided you What didn't afflict you was never gonna happen to you.

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Right? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says,

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and then other Hadeeth affair.

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He said do not say if only I did this, this would have happened if only I did this for me. I did that the Prophet says don't do this. rather save. Under Allah, Masha. Allah decreed and why he will has taken place for in the know. Because if only if only the Prophet says this word, it's only

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tough to hammer the Shea fine, it opens the deeds of chiffon, it opens the working of shavon once you start getting into that mindset, now shavon is talking to you all the time. You're so bad, it's so bad at this, you're so bad at that you're such a bad Muslim breaks down your self esteem. Right? seek refuge in Allah subhanaw taala from all these things.

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And there's an interesting book called The happiness advantage where he talks about something interesting. Are people successful? Because they're happy? Or are they happy because they're successful? We tend to think that people are happy because they're successful. Oh brother, Mashallah. He's so happy all the time, because he has a nice job because he makes a lot of money because he has a nice house. We tend to think that way. Sometimes it might be true, but usually it's not. This book shows us that and actually, usually, it's the

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The opposite. Because the person has a healthy state of mind. They become successful. Why? They have a healthy state of mind. They're more resilient. If something goes bad. If they made a bad decision, they don't sit there beating themselves up. Oh, I'm so dumb. Why did I do this? Why did I do that? They don't do this. Right? They're more likely to take risks, to be courageous to take risks, and the things that they're doing, they're more capable of overcoming failures. And this is what actually allows them to become successful. And so everything the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is telling us to seek refuge from if we understood it, and we made the dry we understand it, it would

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allow us inshallah to become successful both in the dunya and in our Deen as well.

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And then he says, well, vada Dini will help us region, from being overcome seeks refuge in a law from being overcome by debt, and from being overpowered by other men. debts and oppression

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are major contributors to mental health challenges.

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Our debt sometimes sends us into the spiral of grief and, and and sadness and regrets. And that's why the profits from the long wedding send them encourage the believers not to get into debts. The Prophet would say alone, many are the becoming a net thumb. While maharam all I seek your refuge, in sinfulness and in depths. One of the companions when he heard this too, I sent a messenger of Allah, you're always making dua, seeking refuge against deaths. He said, My Ogg format is that

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you're always making to seeking refuge from debts. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, for quite a no Rajan, either either. def a chasm, well, what are the facts? He said, The man when he falls in debt, He will speak and lie. And he will promise and break his promises. And this shows us that, you know, these types of problems sometimes make us fall into other problems makes us fall into worse problems, and so on and so forth. And that's why the prophets will also encourage the believers to forgive debts, or to make things easier for those who are in debt to give them more time, and so on and so forth.

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And while being overcome by people, oppression, oppression makes us feel a lot of these things as well. Look at what happened in London.

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When we think about it, were like, what can we do?

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How do you save yourself even walking down the street, they got killed, it makes you feel incapable.

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Even though there's a lot of things we can do. We can try, we can write we can, we can reach out to other people, there's a lot of things we can do that in the long run might help us. But in the moment when you feel oppression, you feel incapable. It makes you feel like everything's useless, you become lazy, and makes you feel afraid. So you become

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you become, you know, lack you lack courage. Right? And so we have to seek refuge in these things that we struggle against them, because the best worship of Allah subhanaw taala is the worship when we feel a free spirit within ourselves focal decoding

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in the hole of

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smell our handle all sorts of cinema and also the law. He also could be woman or whatever.

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You know, there's a lot of things that can add What time was, of course, running late, but you know, just again,

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you know, advice that if you're struggling a lot with your mental health, to seek professional advice, and at the same time to turn to Allah subhanho wa Taala. To make dua to Allah azza wa jal to include this to every day as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said when you wake up in the morning, and when you go to sleep, to turn to Allah azza wa jal to be in the service of other people. These are things that can lift us out of a lot of anxieties and depressions that we might face in our lives. And of course, there's a lot more to be said, but I hope inshallah this chutzpah can help us in terms of dealing and managing our sense of anxieties and sadness that we might face

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in our lives. May Allah subhanaw taala save us from dexmet lives and save us from sorrows and depression and anxiety. May Allah subhana wa tada save us from stinginess and coward dice male last panel data save us from incapacity and from laziness. I mean, in the lahoma, it could be

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a normal Sunday we're sending out a CD now whenever you know have you been hammered? along Sunday Adam hemangioma abroad was only on a

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Sunday

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or Monday immediately on Monday and while it was heavy, heavy and while imagine meaning early

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on