The Fragile Vessels Rights and Obligations Between Spouses in Islam – 66

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The importance of praying for oneself and others is discussed in a series of segments, including the importance of avoiding negative emotions and learning to control one's emotions and actions. The operator emphasizes the importance of praying for oneself and others, as well as avoiding close relationships and not cutting off long relationships. The importance of praying for oneself and others is also emphasized, as it is crucial for avoiding negative emotions and achieving success in relationships. The segment ends with a recitation of the Prophet's words and a recommendation to a booklet.

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was a pleasure

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to be

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here

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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim

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in Al Hamdulillah Hina Madhu who understand who understood funeral

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are some more who Allah Muhammad Juana de was soft BA in 100 ruble al Amin, amin era

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or praises due to Allah herbal Allah Allah mean for all his blessing that we have received before. Before we are close to Allah, Allah have given us a lot of blessing. Even we are so disobedient, ungrateful and faithful. But Allah never abandon as he provide us the provision we need.

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He keeps on opening the door of repentance for those who want to come back to him. He can just punish any one of us who are ungrateful to him.

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He had won us, but he never

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use his

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drive, but he used his muncey Keep on forgiving us until today.

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Now this is very important for all of us, as a believer to understand the Mercy of Allah is so great. But we hope we don't take everything for granted. Because the danger if you take everything for granted, there will come a time you don't have any values anymore. You yourself have no value. Because you do not know how to value

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Allah's mercy. You do not know how to value how your parents have suffered for you. You do not know how to value how the good friend that you have before suddenly you abandon them for new friends. That new friend no history old friend and pick they have some good back ground and also something that we have benefit from. So don't abandon anything that is all for something that is new. Sometimes the old one have more value

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is very important. Until you are sure that the old one have partially

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the old one have decided to move on without you. So you also have to move on

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without letting the old thing stop you from moving forward. That is the reality of life.

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We love many things in life. But our love towards Allah should be creator then you can survive better. But if you learn the creation more than the Creator, you will suffer more

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anything in life. If your love to something is greater than God, sure you will suffer even things. You will love your headphones so much when your handphone

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somebody stole it colors. You get so crazy now

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is gone.

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Maybe there's some wisdom you can get a new handphone

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one like the one the new one I want oh one because one has all my information. My data is okay.

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Sometimes on the old information is not important anymore, but we just keep it

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we have to move on.

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Now brothers and sisters, every Sunday we are trying to inform

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all of us who are not married mean you still have parents who are married now you are a husband and wife. And today we just have an a pika just now the honey shaving the baby's head and we do that honey we put some honey in the baby's mouth so that we rub on the babies gum and make prayer. All this is part of the sunnah of our Prophet that a lot of people are not aware of it. Shaving the hair on

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have a baby girl only once in her lifetime. Now,

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when she has more than the seventh day we shave

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for the boy the same, but for the girl only once in her life after that, no more shaving

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for the boys, they still can experience saving, if they go for Umrah, they can shave their hair go to harsh they can ship the hair

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all these have a lot of

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lesson learn how

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to clean all these cleansing process. There are two types of cleansing one they say that cleansing the physical body or you can say trees second, your mind must also be purified with the right knowledge and your spirit go through another kind of cleansing from believing in these dead these bring blessing number know the tree the moon the star sometimes we promised you know under the stars under the tree for nothing, you know the moon become a witness now the sun NO NO NO NO NO. The witness is Allah harborlab. So, we have to test fear that should fear mean purification very important. Now, when you want to drink water, a lot of people is telling you take this filter by

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this filter Coway and way any way so many ways to filter your water just water

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big filter, a smaller filter from the tap direct another filter. Why we do that?

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Because we want to have the best water.

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So that whatever

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come into our body is something good, pure clean.

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Is that important? Very important.

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Why? Because by you taking care of what you eat what you drink, make sure is clean pure healthy, then you appreciate life better.

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If not, what is life?

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What is life when you are not healthy?

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Hola ruble, Allah min remind us for even Armando be Miss Li Ma, mon Tombi for pada do before we go into the topic.

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Allah is telling us if you want to be guided,

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is very simple.

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In surah baqarah was 137 Allah says, if you believe as how the Prophet and the Companions believe,

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then you are guided.

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So if you want to be guided, that every day we ask Allah Dena Serato, Mr. Kim or Allah guide us on to the strip. You just have to believe that how the Prophet believe how the Prophet have taught his companion to believe. Just follow be a good follow. And that's why Allah horrible Alameen also remind us again, I have to revisit all this good reminder from Allah because being human we keep on forgetting.

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Now Allah who created all of us the own knowing or seeing is telling us talking to wasabi cone

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was Tabby Kunal, our Luna mineral Mahajan will answer this in surah. Toba was 100 surah. Toma is nine. Chapter nine was 100. It's good to just note it down so that you can refer back chapter nine was 100. Here. For people who don't have this book with them, the fragile vessel is highly recommended to have in we do have some copies, if anybody wants to purchase they can purchase later on. So that you can go back you know and read

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and try to benefit from what you have left behind or you are not here from the beginning.

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Allah is telling a savvy goon a Walloon.

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Now look at how Allah is telling the first to embrace Islam.

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The first and foremost among the more hygiene an unsolved

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Mahajan are the first group of people who accept Islam Abubakar Omar Katya, Ali.

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Yeah, all these other muhajir in

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with everybody against them.

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But they hold on de la ilaha illa Allah Muhammad Rasul.

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Their friend become enemies, the neighbor become an enemy, their family become enemies, girls because they want to follow what is right? Not tradition, not what the people want them to do what Allah want them to do what the messenger want them to be,

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be to be the best. respect the elders, love the young, honor your neighbor.

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And also always

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on the right of the opposite sex the woman, like a woman have no value before

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you send an object for the men to do anything they like.

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anything bad happened to your husband, family, all the blame will go to the woman because of you woman. You are the cause of every problem.

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That was before Islam.

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Did your Helia woman have no value? No, right?

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The man can just pass you to one and they can share everything everything is for sharing.

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No. Until Islam community on the woman

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they have this same right line, every one of us.

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Allahu Akbar is a blessing. So Allah says why you have to follow them. The first group are the people, the people and those from Medina. Because these are the first group of people

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who have sacrificed everything for the sake of God.

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They face all the problem

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and they are so steadfast and consistent.

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Because they please God, Allah is telling us what has been taboo Oh whom Allah say whoever follow them.

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You are sure

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to be blessed by Allah. You are sure to be a winner at the end of the day. You will never lose anything you will never regret at all.

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Why Allah say to us, because these are the group hola se Radi Allahu Anhu more or Bhuwan is special

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status that Allah have given to them.

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The highest

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yeah

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stated given to other than royal family is what in our country.

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The highest tune desires

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of the debt is no more for the layman. That is for the royal family to Gula Punku into autumn Kooten Kuzma is for the royal family. We as layperson, you and me higher tune

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there's a highest Hola, ruble annemann Give this special title to this group of people are all the Allahu unhung waterborne that's why we call the Sahaba Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Anhu Omar Radi Allahu Anhu Osman Radi Allahu Anhu Ali Radi Allahu Anhu Khalid Radi Allahu Anhu Abu Hurayrah Radi Allahu Anhu we call them on Radi Allahu Allah.

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That is the highest

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that Allah Gren other than the prophet

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the Prophet have different

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category

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I did they become khalifa to Allah. As they become Khalil Allah. Either they become Habibollah

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Yeah, and on the other Rasul Allah, other than that, or audio law and whom will do

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the same go to the family of the Prophet Ali, cousin.

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daughter, wife, y.

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They also have the same, like the Sahaba Radi Allahu Anhu

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Yeah,

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Just to share with all of you, why Allah

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give them that knuckle, that knuckle that grip

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on them or the Allahu Anhu because they rebel. They are so

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you're obedient to Allah faithful to Allah, whatever happened to them, they just accept and move on and have faith and never wonder why me not like us

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we have a lot of wine

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different big or small way.

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But all these companions they are ready they know what they're going through. If they become a Muslim they know they're going to face on they're ready for Allah Akbar.

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And what did not promise them all of your uno de la home Jana?

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I have prepared for them paradise. They assure to go to Paradise. Allah promised them Allah never break his promise.

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So who is better than the people of paradise?

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No one

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and the 10 Paradise is cheap.

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Paradise small and you can just go and sightseeing and

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but better is Allah is not cheap.

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Allah said in the MaHA Storrow Mina Mina and fusheng What Amala whom the Anala Hmong Jana, you caught in Luna visa be de la vida young student what you tell him

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but then Allah He can be tolerated only in JIRA. In the ayah Allah say I am going to treat with all of you

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to the people.

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I want to give you Jana, I want to sell my Jana in the MaHA surah he used the words is Tara.

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I am going to sell Jana to you. How do you feel? Do you think you want to buy

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of God gauze they are expensive

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What do Allah says

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he wants to sell his Jana with your life and your property

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whatever Allah one from us is very minimum pray minimum five time

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is that difficult?

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Whenever Allah wants you to do is something very minimal if you can do

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you have please him

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and also you're well

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well I'm wanting to go Allah know you love yourself sometime.

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That's why you

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when you're young you may not know how to take yourself but when you try to grow

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then as you grow older, you want to become younger always. When you grow older than you appreciate your

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young life.

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Then you start to put cream this cream that cream, little face small pastry cream near the eye near the cheek here and why you do it because it's a big business No.

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Just cream Monia Allahu Akbar

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Dhoni cream that the men will be exposed by cream for their hair.

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Men are different they are more

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Manchu they're

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used to it but woman you're fitrah is different you want to look younger now.

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No more retching on the put some red chick now. Some bright colors here. No, it's nothing wrong for you to look good.

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Allah no you love yourself you are prepared to spend so much just for the little face.

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One of my family member one not yet Muslim.

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When I look at her makeup,

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cancer at least 3000 Singapore dollars

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she had the money yes the fees only 3000

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What can you do? Is nothing about if you want to beautify yourself. Allah know you love yourself you have prepared to spend some Allah if you want something for you. Minimum two and a half percent of your annual savings.

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Then I will give you Jana minimum you can do the minimum Alhamdulillah if you can do more Allah Akbar.

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This is just an example. And Allah said, When I

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enter all of you to Jana,

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in Jana,

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you cannot imagine what Allah had prepare for you. Jana had been Tegile Rita Do

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you have all the delight that you could not imagine?

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And you don't have to feel shy to ask anything you want. Allahu Akbar.

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You just sacrifice a bit here.

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Please Allah follow his way.

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You will be happy all the way.

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an everlasting happiness

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and Allah says you will be there for forever. Cardi B not be

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our happiness here is that forever

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our health is that forever?

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No.

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Today you healthy in him tomorrow you're not well, it's not forever

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but over there forever happy

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Can you imagine that plays no cleaning?

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No doctor.

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No pharmacy.

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You just enjoy

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you never feel all anymore.

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Everybody will look very handsome.

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Your husband Allahu Akbar. Every day you look at him, he become more attractive. Not like today after some time you look at husband

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this old face

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but over there in the face the look keep on changing the attract you further and further and further. You never feel bored at all. The same goes to the husband or the wife, Allahu Akbar.

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So brother and sister let us try our best

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to attain this kind of specialty from Allah.

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By trying your best you have to do the minimum verse.

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The companion the ASTER Prophet, if I pray five times a day, I give ZACK I first Ramadan, I go to hash once in my lifetime. I want to go to Paradise era so Allah can i

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The prophecy Yes.

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As long as you really do it properly.

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You pray with the knowledge of praying you know the raccoon, the YG bad or the rule and regulation of prayer you do it? Yeah. In the way along when you do even just five prayer Alhamdulillah

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you just pass and you fast follow the way of the Prophet one month only per year, one month Ramadan.

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Enough.

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There is one Islam when you do the minimum

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can all of us do it? Yes, anything medium?

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Allahu Akbar. Now brother and sister let us go back to the topic.

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Why we use this book, The fragile vessel because we have a lot of challenges. As we grow as a family members, husband, wife,

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and then father, mother,

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children.

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But all of us want the best drone, not

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bad pattern one the best for the children.

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Children are the one that bands from the parent.

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Husband, one the best from the wife, wife, one the best from the husband, Miracleman

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who are the

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first group of creation of Allah who don't like us to have the best

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shaitan

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shaitan will be very, very jealous.

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He keeps on whisper disturb the mind the feeling of every one of us.

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There is his work

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and he

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have his own SOP. He also have his own SOP.

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Now we start from

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the family of the profit.

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We are nobody compared with them. So you go back to the fragile VESA because this kind of family relationship is very fragile.

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Why? Because we are close. If you're not family, what we bother you is you me is me. I don't have any relationship with you. But when you are related

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through marriage,

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become husband and wife. You cannot think that you are just friend no more.

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Just not friend, but I am your husband, you are my wife. I am your wife, not just girlfriend.

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Then I am your son. I am your daughter.

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I am your grandson. I'm your granddaughter this how you move

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forward. And this relationship is very fragile.

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But whatever you encounter, you have any problem don't ever use your feeling to come problem you cannot.

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The Muslim is being guided you have problem. Sit down.

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Sit down, face to face, we talk you have to talk.

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You have to communicate with one another.

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Suddenly, when you sit down with an open mind and you're taught you're

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tired, you can see the pitcher pedal Oh.

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Then you understand the reality of life and

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there was no problem at all ie we came a problem because you don't communicate.

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Who stopped us from communicating shaitan

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there is his work.

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Don't meet, don't stop. You decide.

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Use your

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authority.

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You become a dictator to yourself.

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Can you judge anybody that he or she is guilty without

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hearing their sight?

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No one in this world or any court can make a worthy apostle worthy master judgment to anybody without hearing

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from all parties involved.

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When you want to judge a person, you are wrong, you have no right

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now

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we look at the wife of our Prophet. The youngest, Aisha Radi Allahu Ana, the most active, the most learner because she was young

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and dynamic, very brave, outspoken.

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And she don't have any children with the Prophet. So she is a very free woman

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and the people of Jana

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the ones that Prophet, the people of paradise.

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Despite the great love that Prophet Muhammad SAW on a show to Asia,

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the Prophet, love and the love on the otherwise

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but the way the prophet is sharing is when she he is with the this wife, he will only talk good about that why

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she don't bring other woman otherwise in the picture. When he is with this one. She just, he'll just talk about why. Praise the wife, always comfort the wife. The need or the wife is been looked into.

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She understand

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the feeling of everyone.

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The only wife that she can relate on and off is the one who have passed away.

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That is

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At The

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Zoo Aisha, this is what i

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She was extremely jealous over the profit.

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Why?

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In some incident demonstrating these are stated in the next chapter

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it is interesting to note as we saw earlier that her jealousy extended to Khadija

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who died three years before marriage.

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There's one pass away.

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Now Aisha is saying

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I was never jealous of any woman as much as I was jealous of Catia.

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Normally you see what together the person that you are there is no more here by right

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why is your God because Prophet Mohammed Salah frequent mention of her

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now this is one thing we learn.

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Prophet more is showing his gratitude.

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He's very grateful and thankful

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to what

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cartagia have given

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even Khadija is no more with Him.

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The First Lady Khadija nobody support Prophet chi was there to give 100% support

00:36:52--> 00:36:57

everything the Prophet one as a wife, she is ready to just

00:36:58--> 00:36:59

supporting

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never one you see the history of Khadija and the Prophet Mumbai. She belittle him

00:37:08--> 00:37:12

the guy he is her sales man. She's off Boss,

00:37:13--> 00:37:14

boss cool.

00:37:18--> 00:37:19

The real boss

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my she was a very loving respect for Lady.

00:37:29--> 00:37:34

harangue among the community of the crush is very noble.

00:37:37--> 00:37:50

She was always there for the prophet from before he was a prophet until he became a prophet. Never one she abandoned him at all. She criticized him.

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talk negative about him never once.

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It's not easy

00:37:59--> 00:38:02

not to talk negative about your close one.

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Because everybody have their shortcoming.

00:38:07--> 00:38:12

The closer you are, then all the real color will come out more.

00:38:14--> 00:38:20

Where you're not close to other people don't know your weaknesses. You only show you the best, the best the best.

00:38:21--> 00:38:24

When you are together that you will know what is the best.

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But she'll never never have any problem and the Prophet never experienced any problem with the first wife,

00:38:38--> 00:38:39

Allahu Akbar.

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So the Prophet are very grateful to Khadija.

00:38:45--> 00:38:51

To the extent the cottagers status in Paradise is different

00:38:54--> 00:38:59

that Gabriel came to the prophecy when you enter Jannah

00:39:00--> 00:39:06

there will be somebody offering you food during

00:39:08--> 00:39:15

Sen mais Salaam and the salam of Allah Almighty to this person

00:39:17--> 00:39:35

and town this person Allah have built a castle of pearl in Jana is so pitiful, but this special person will be given granted by Allah the special Castle

00:39:37--> 00:39:39

make from Pearl

00:39:40--> 00:39:46

profit was a prayer who is this person? That is Katya

00:39:47--> 00:39:54

because of her sacrifice and low, her support the Prophet Muhammad, Salah Mozilla

00:39:57--> 00:39:58

Prophet would talk about

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It's like no, our parents who love us on and off. Do you think you want to talk about your parents?

00:40:06--> 00:40:08

Do you think you'd like to talk about your parents?

00:40:11--> 00:40:19

Because until today, I still talk about my mother to my friend to my nephew, my nieces.

00:40:21--> 00:40:23

And what are the good thing that you have done?

00:40:26--> 00:40:26

I never forget.

00:40:29--> 00:40:31

Of course, anything good is good for you to

00:40:33--> 00:40:34

recall

00:40:36--> 00:40:39

is good for you to remember all the good thing.

00:40:40--> 00:40:43

All the bad things are so good to remember. But not to talk about a

00:40:45--> 00:40:52

lesson learned Okay? On blending, don't talk because when you talk the negative is not good for you.

00:40:55--> 00:40:57

The positive years

00:41:01--> 00:41:04

unless an on Salama reported.

00:41:05--> 00:41:20

That was when the Prophet SAW memorial was in Ayesha's house, the house where the prophet body is been buried in Medina, anybody who go for Umrah has you will visit Medina, then you will visit

00:41:21--> 00:41:27

the grave of our Prophet and the grave is in the house of Aisha

00:41:29--> 00:41:31

because he died

00:41:32--> 00:41:35

in that place, when he was with Asia.

00:41:36--> 00:41:40

When she was he was having the pain

00:41:42--> 00:41:47

that he always lay down on the lap of Asia

00:41:49--> 00:41:50

and he passed away

00:41:51--> 00:41:59

in the house of Aisha and where the prophet die. He must be buried there that's why his grave is there

00:42:06--> 00:42:17

Paul Foot salon salon was in Asia house with some of his companion with some other guests on Salama stand to him a plate of food

00:42:18--> 00:42:21

when Aisha Radi Allahu and saw it,

00:42:22--> 00:42:26

she took a rock the size of a hand and hit the play.

00:42:29--> 00:42:40

Your knowing and feeling or feeling ad profit with me you go and come and serve him. When he goes to you you serve him

00:42:42--> 00:42:45

is coming to me and then you going do extra.

00:42:47--> 00:42:48

Aisha is not happy.

00:42:52--> 00:43:01

Breaking to two pieces the profit gathered the plate parts and told his companion

00:43:02--> 00:43:03

if

00:43:04--> 00:43:16

your mother was overcome with jealousy, he always talked to the companion. The wife or the prophet is a mother figure. The Mother of the Believers

00:43:19--> 00:43:25

the way they addressed the wife the prophet is like a mother figure even Aisha is very young.

00:43:26--> 00:43:32

But when you become the wife, the Prophet, you become like a mother to the ummah.

00:43:36--> 00:43:43

Your mother was overcome with jealousy. Yes, the Prophet also acknowledged this feeling of jealousy.

00:43:45--> 00:43:48

Meaning can we have jealousy is okay.

00:43:50--> 00:43:54

Common if there's no jealousy or so there'll be a real problem.

00:43:58--> 00:44:04

So they act the profits rather than keep the broken play in Ayesha's house.

00:44:05--> 00:44:11

You see how the profit respond when this thing happened? And it happened in front of the guest

00:44:13--> 00:44:15

the Prophet never scream at her

00:44:16--> 00:44:24

and call her shout at her come and pick up the broken play. You mess up this thing payment no

00:44:25--> 00:44:29

see how the profit yeah all come this

00:44:30--> 00:44:34

challenging? He himself picked up later

00:44:35--> 00:44:40

neither he won the talk basically just gathers and nobody can answer Oh, yeah.

00:44:42--> 00:44:45

But let's continue with our food.

00:44:46--> 00:44:48

Don't Don't think about just

00:44:51--> 00:44:52

saw the ad.

00:44:54--> 00:44:54

Then

00:44:58--> 00:44:59

the profits of Sam's

00:45:00--> 00:45:16

zaten Mel are compatible plate for a damaged plate and a competitor foot for a damaged food. He replaced with something that may here respond with something positive, he's not going to make an issue out of it.

00:45:19--> 00:45:30

You see as this is how we a husband and wife should react when something happened that is not under your control is not under their control been human.

00:45:31--> 00:45:38

But we hope that later on we can sit down and discuss so that this kind of thing, don't repeat

00:45:39--> 00:45:40

is not good.

00:45:41--> 00:45:41

And

00:45:43--> 00:45:48

Aisha then reported that one night she could not find the profit next to her.

00:45:50--> 00:45:52

Yeah, sometimes the profits are not some

00:45:54--> 00:45:56

do some extra things.

00:45:58--> 00:46:00

without even informing the wife.

00:46:02--> 00:46:04

Then she found him nearby praying,

00:46:06--> 00:46:10

she passed her finger to his hair to see if he had us shower.

00:46:13--> 00:46:20

Sometime women also have their own way of looking at things he just

00:46:22--> 00:46:24

whether it got wet or not.

00:46:25--> 00:46:27

Because if you are aware,

00:46:28--> 00:46:35

if you want to pray, if you have no relation with why and then you have to take a bath.

00:46:36--> 00:46:40

When you take a bag, you know that then you don't have the blower.

00:46:41--> 00:46:43

So the head is going to

00:46:46--> 00:46:47

get wet and so on.

00:46:49--> 00:46:55

Having a suspicious that he might have secretly visited one or otherwise

00:46:57--> 00:47:07

the feeling a young woman normally have more extra feeling Yeah, the elderly are more

00:47:08--> 00:47:09

patient.

00:47:13--> 00:47:26

He later said, Caja Abishai upon your devil has surely come to you now the Prophet have to address this method. No one in between here and her.

00:47:28--> 00:47:32

When there's somebody be careful, but when you're both together then you can

00:47:34--> 00:47:36

just remind one another.

00:47:38--> 00:47:47

Now that the prophet is telling the truth, he was people in the guidance from Allah shaitan is working on Ayesha.

00:47:49--> 00:47:59

Shaitan can come from any angle, he cannot come direct to you, he go to somebody that you love, or you love somebody who's closer to you.

00:48:00--> 00:48:01

He never stop.

00:48:04--> 00:48:08

He may come to your children, he may come to your best friend.

00:48:09--> 00:48:12

He may come to anybody just to create

00:48:14--> 00:48:19

Tao just to create an easiness suspicious feeling.

00:48:20--> 00:48:24

So prophet is telling

00:48:25--> 00:48:28

Aisha Caja akin che upon

00:48:29--> 00:48:32

your devil has surely come to you.

00:48:33--> 00:48:37

You see when the Prophet said to Isaiah she how I respond.

00:48:40--> 00:48:47

She asked the Prophet, O Messenger of Allah, do you not have a Shaitan to?

00:48:49--> 00:48:49

You are talking much.

00:48:51--> 00:48:52

How about your shaitan?

00:48:55--> 00:49:06

Why because she have knowledge, the Prophet have conveyed on the idea that was revealed to him to his wife, Aisha Aisha is very sharp,

00:49:07--> 00:49:09

and also to the companion,

00:49:10--> 00:49:11

the prophet

00:49:12--> 00:49:17

receive an idea from Altair that every one of us have Corinne.

00:49:19--> 00:49:26

We have our own gene. Enemy Within every one of us have.

00:49:28--> 00:49:33

XO I? Remember, you know, you're talking about my shaitan

00:49:34--> 00:49:36

Don't you have your Shaitan to

00:49:38--> 00:49:39

my BATNA.

00:49:41--> 00:49:44

The wife very outspoken immediately she respond.

00:49:49--> 00:49:56

The Prophet also respond again the Prophet Nilesh Cree Mara, hunt. What'd you say to me? You said shaitan

00:49:57--> 00:49:59

No, no, no, no, no. The Prophet

00:50:00--> 00:50:13

Just listen, communication, when you want to communicate, when you want to advise somebody you must prepare to also listen, the meal counter you so you must be ready for that.

00:50:14--> 00:50:18

The Prophet reply Bala he never denied

00:50:20--> 00:50:22

the yes indeed

00:50:23--> 00:50:28

there is the shaitan gene Corinne in me.

00:50:30--> 00:50:47

But Allah helped me against him, so that he embraced Islam, the Quran that the Prophet have like all of her because the Prophet was so good so pious, so faithful so consistent, that the shaitan become good

00:50:50--> 00:50:57

the bat set and become good shaitan can become a Muslim and leave the Prophet in peace never disturb him

00:50:58--> 00:51:01

they can because the property is so good

00:51:04--> 00:51:08

but we are Jean until today is not a Muslim yet

00:51:10--> 00:51:13

because we are not good

00:51:15--> 00:51:20

that how the Prophet is we sometimes like to be the agent of Titan

00:51:23--> 00:51:25

we encourage a tank to come in

00:51:26--> 00:51:28

with you good energetic

00:51:34--> 00:51:42

this way we are in anger you know he's coming when you have suspicious feeling his coming rate please remember Oh, come

00:51:43--> 00:51:47

on, we'll be done now Chaitanya Jin look at the positive

00:51:48--> 00:51:52

thing what is good better than the negative

00:51:53--> 00:51:58

but normally, how do we feel sisters when their bad feelings start to develop?

00:52:01--> 00:52:06

Do we all come with something positive of we are going to add more chili on it

00:52:09--> 00:52:10

we add extra spices

00:52:12--> 00:52:15

normally we will add normally

00:52:16--> 00:52:18

we start to recall again Oh

00:52:19--> 00:52:37

yeah. Last time I heard somebody also informed me you're prosperous again immediately you remember all many things, but the good thing can you recall the good thing once upon a time you all are so good, why suddenly you become suspicious towards one another?

00:52:38--> 00:52:42

Because somebody said it anybody can say that.

00:52:44--> 00:52:52

Sometimes when people want to get close to you and they know you are close to that person, they trying to play their game they

00:52:53--> 00:52:58

create some suspicious feeling to you. So that they can come in.

00:52:59--> 00:53:01

So they can be close to you.

00:53:03--> 00:53:05

And this is very common in a relationship.

00:53:07--> 00:53:14

Yeah, very common as friend to when you have a close friend and this new friend want to get close to you to

00:53:15--> 00:53:22

my How can he get close to you? He can try to develop some suspicion and let you feel

00:53:24--> 00:53:25

adult for now.

00:53:26--> 00:53:30

Then he come in, in trying to show you that history a better friend for you.

00:53:32--> 00:53:34

Have you experienced this in life brother and sister.

00:53:39--> 00:53:42

We are sure to experience whether you realize or not.

00:53:43--> 00:53:44

But please remember

00:53:47--> 00:53:50

I show you one simple ex example.

00:53:54--> 00:53:55

Relationship between

00:53:56--> 00:53:57

parents and children

00:54:01--> 00:54:03

which one is longer your friend,

00:54:04--> 00:54:10

your husband, your wife of your father and mother which one longer?

00:54:13--> 00:54:13

Your parents

00:54:15--> 00:54:23

from nothing you exist and they're gone through all the pain and all the suffering just to make you happy.

00:54:25--> 00:54:28

Suddenly you got a partner in life.

00:54:30--> 00:54:36

You want to get married of course the parent wants the best for you too. They also support you.

00:54:37--> 00:54:44

Now your love towards the stranger will now become your wife or your husband more than your parents.

00:54:46--> 00:54:47

Do we think that is right

00:54:49--> 00:54:50

now

00:54:52--> 00:54:55

this relationship is free John.

00:54:57--> 00:54:59

Something may happen pop go

00:55:00--> 00:55:00

On

00:55:01--> 00:55:02

finish

00:55:03--> 00:55:08

but your relationship with your parent is lifetime

00:55:10--> 00:55:13

you are part of your parent your parent is part of you you can

00:55:15--> 00:55:19

that relationship is not allowed at all.

00:55:22--> 00:55:24

But something we do that through

00:55:25--> 00:55:28

we experience some people just ignore don't care anymore

00:55:32--> 00:55:36

is a challenge for everybody is very fragile.

00:55:39--> 00:55:44

But as of the time with the parent is a big sin.

00:55:47--> 00:55:50

Awkward Holiday Inn is kabaah Ale.

00:55:53--> 00:55:59

Meaning cut off the relationship with your family, or you become

00:56:01--> 00:56:03

very ungrateful to the parent

00:56:04--> 00:56:06

is one of the great sin in Islam.

00:56:09--> 00:56:14

You can love anybody, you can love and respect your partner,

00:56:16--> 00:56:20

your husband, but you cannot let that thing happen.

00:56:23--> 00:56:30

parent is better even your parent and not yet Muslim, they're still your parent. Anything that is not against Islam on that respect.

00:56:33--> 00:56:36

If they don't understand you be patient. So

00:56:39--> 00:56:45

if you need to migrate, stay out, stay out, but never cut off the time.

00:56:46--> 00:56:47

Don't do that.

00:56:52--> 00:56:55

Shaitan work on every one of us.

00:56:56--> 00:56:58

So when these things happen,

00:57:00--> 00:57:05

always think of what Allah and the Prophet Allah says. It is our

00:57:08--> 00:57:13

there you will find you are able to control yourself. Be careful with your

00:57:14--> 00:57:21

tongue. Remember the Hadees I always remind auditor memorize la Dasara while at the

00:57:23--> 00:57:26

LA Daraa Wallah de ra don't forget this hadith.

00:57:31--> 00:57:40

Meaning don't do don't say anything that cause harm to yourself and cause harm to your loved one the others, especially the family don't do that.

00:57:41--> 00:57:44

You may have a lot of disagreements sit down.

00:57:45--> 00:57:59

When you sit down and you listen and listen, when you sit down. You don't sit down and look at one another with anger. And you don't listen you're one other side to listen to you but you forget to listen to them. Listen.

00:58:00--> 00:58:03

That's why the power of listening is important.

00:58:07--> 00:58:08

And when you listen,

00:58:10--> 00:58:14

you should solve the problem guided by the Quran and Sunnah not by your feeling.

00:58:15--> 00:58:21

Your feeling cannot be right. When there is a problem following pilling is wrong.

00:58:24--> 00:58:28

You just follow what Allah and the Prophet say

00:58:29--> 00:58:38

is just like the court of law, they must have evidence and evidence also you must check the evidence.

00:58:39--> 00:58:47

How authentic the evidence there's a benefit of doubt then case close.

00:58:49--> 00:58:57

Does the benefit of doubt hearsay hearsay, anybody can see anything. Oppression false.

00:58:59--> 00:59:04

Maybe somebody will corrupt somebody they want you to say something bad about that person.

00:59:05--> 00:59:07

No, you can get this you can get that

00:59:08--> 00:59:14

then you will be pressured. You talk bad about the other person where that person is your friend.

00:59:16--> 00:59:22

The car the people want to hit that man. They use another person

00:59:24--> 00:59:26

as a bullet they don't have the bullet

00:59:27--> 00:59:30

they use the bullet from somebody and shoot

00:59:31--> 00:59:33

the people wait must you allow that to happen?

00:59:36--> 00:59:40

Everything can be wrong something not the to me.

00:59:42--> 00:59:50

So the pot a very careful. That's why the Prophet said if there are three judges to go to hell, because they have their own interests.

00:59:52--> 00:59:59

They don't follow the SOP. Only one will go to Paris because they're very charged. Very careful.

01:00:01--> 01:00:03

Don't judge a person

01:00:04--> 01:00:05

because of pressure

01:00:06--> 01:00:11

or have any favor no. Right is right or wrong is wrong.

01:00:13--> 01:00:15

Especially when you want to pass judgment.

01:00:17--> 01:00:31

So, the Prophet said to Asia, yes, I have a gene you have a gene shatta is working on his shaitan also work on me before but Allah helped me my shaitan have became a Muslim.

01:00:32--> 01:00:39

One your shaitan become Muslim colors. You don't have this negative feeling anymore, everything become positive.

01:00:42--> 01:00:56

Similary Aisha Radi Allahu Anhu reported that she missed the Prophet someone one night and taught that he went to enter the one of his wife, I should have been a young one always had this kind of insecurity

01:01:00--> 01:01:06

so she started looking for him and found him praying in sujood

01:01:07--> 01:01:17

and whispering them in the Prophet was reciting some things to behind Nicola. So behind NACA will be handy La Ilaha. illa Anta

01:01:19--> 01:01:24

meaning the Prophet sometime when he recite his voice can be heard by

01:01:25--> 01:01:27

others Yeah, especially the wife.

01:01:28--> 01:01:44

She then said, Me My father and my mother, be your ransom in the you are involved in one affair? Worship and I am in a different affair jealousy.

01:01:46--> 01:01:57

No, she is coming herself down. She had a bad thought, because the jealousy is Yeah. But the prophet

01:01:58--> 01:02:03

is not sleeping resting beside her because she's is praying.

01:02:05--> 01:02:16

This also show us when you want to pray any optional prayer, don't force the other party. Something you encountered this as a family husband and wife.

01:02:17--> 01:02:21

You become more pious, you want to wake up at night and pray.

01:02:23--> 01:02:26

is sunnah is not YJ you can

01:02:27--> 01:02:32

but you don't force the other party. Even though profit never falls.

01:02:34--> 01:02:37

If the profit points that mean distinct won't happen.

01:02:38--> 01:02:48

And then when the profit on to come and then pray you can wake up Aisha, let us pray together the Prophet now. Let Aisha res and he will just

01:02:49--> 01:02:50

when and pray.

01:02:51--> 01:02:57

So, I have experienced people who came to me Alhamdulillah

01:03:02--> 01:03:05

the husband is very righteous man.

01:03:06--> 01:03:10

Every night they pray meet the Tahajjud prayer very good.

01:03:14--> 01:03:15

So the wife

01:03:17--> 01:03:19

like to rush because their wives tired.

01:03:20--> 01:03:22

Entertaining the husband

01:03:24--> 01:03:25

has been very energetic.

01:03:26--> 01:03:29

Now his first husband's had to complain.

01:03:32--> 01:03:36

I thought my wife is a righteous woman of the manga. I realize

01:03:38--> 01:03:41

No, she'll never wake up at night and pray with me.

01:03:43--> 01:03:51

Now he is trying to make that as an excuse. I don't entertain as it Why must she wake up

01:03:53--> 01:03:57

is that Purdue Purdue opera is your duty to wake up.

01:03:58--> 01:04:02

But on and off the Prophet did something with Aisha

01:04:03--> 01:04:09

because they have a discussion early. Then I shall miss it when you wake up with me.

01:04:10--> 01:04:12

Then the Prophet will recur.

01:04:14--> 01:04:23

But if not, the prophet will not force anything that is not why Jeep compulsory on another person.

01:04:24--> 01:04:26

He will just do it by himself.

01:04:27--> 01:04:34

Now when these men complain about the wife been lazy, not a good wife, he don't pray night prayer.

01:04:38--> 01:04:40

So you want me to advise the wife

01:04:43--> 01:04:47

so I was talking to now the wife also have another story.

01:04:49--> 01:04:51

And her story also very valid.

01:04:56--> 01:04:57

She had been suffering

01:05:00--> 01:05:08

They he's so busy and I hope he spent time with me he only keep on praying he don't have time for me

01:05:10--> 01:05:12

that also very wrong you cannot do that

01:05:13--> 01:05:15

your wife have right upon you to

01:05:17--> 01:05:21

the wife is waiting for the husband the husband don't care

01:05:22--> 01:05:24

about her feeling at all.

01:05:26--> 01:05:43

That's why even in the Quran if we talk about Ramadan you remember the verses of Ramadan fasting month and Ramadan after Allah talk about Ramadan you should pass and so on. Then immediately after that Allah say when night come

01:05:44--> 01:05:46

after the breaking of us

01:05:47--> 01:05:50

Allah no been human you have the

01:05:51--> 01:05:54

feeling the love for one and

01:05:56--> 01:05:59

so approach your partner

01:06:01--> 01:06:06

this is the time Allah say you allow is also an act of worship

01:06:07--> 01:06:12

having relationship with your husband your wife is an act of worship.

01:06:14--> 01:06:18

But all these things remember cannot be done by force

01:06:19--> 01:06:21

is a matter how you approach

01:06:23--> 01:06:28

and how the other party respond this is also very important

01:06:31--> 01:06:34

everything is now have taught us

01:06:36--> 01:06:38

don't go to another extreme

01:06:39--> 01:06:41

maybe you're ready

01:06:42--> 01:06:49

you should approach her or she can you can approach him nicely and see how he or she react

01:06:53--> 01:06:57

if you just TASH yeah and then yeah

01:06:59--> 01:07:03

no reaction that means he's in a deep sleep.

01:07:04--> 01:07:04

But

01:07:07--> 01:07:16

if not when you keep on touching rubbing off and Tom reaction is that is a sign that he is not so tired

01:07:19--> 01:07:25

everybody is waiting for some action and reaction. But you can do that

01:07:29--> 01:07:36

by even after you pinch in no reaction you know that he's really in deep sleep, don't pause

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let them rise

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all these are very important

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that we must learn because the relationship of a family husband and wife is very fragile

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all these are things that we all must learn those who

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don't have the book.

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The book is around you can purchase it and read slowly inshallah it helped.

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So I found now acknowledge the jealousy that she always have. The suspicious feeling is just fulfilling.

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But the Prophet also know as a person who's very close to Allah, He always praying Tahajjud prayer is compulsory on the Prophet

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not for us.

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Because before the Voodoo prayer was made compulsory, the Prophet have even started to do the neck prayer.

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I shall reported that one night when

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when it was hurtin with the prophet. He retired to be took off his apple Garmin, took off his shoes and put them Near his feet.

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He then spread the edge of his is lower Garmin and lay down he waited until he thought that she was asleep.

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Then pirate got up and took his apple Garmin put on his shoes open the door step out quietly closing it behind him.

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No profit. So Dave had the Ayesha

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yeah have slept so he

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woke up slowly without disturbing Asia.

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And dress up

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and open the door.

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Quietly see how the profit on respect those who are sleeping. That's why when you want to pray, don't go in, read or answer loud and disturb other people who's going to sleep

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No don't do that

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I shot quickly put on hook Dresden wall hit cargo wrap around the ISA and ran after him.

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nominee I shall want to see what is happening. Why suddenly a profit no recap up and then dress up and then

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leave the house

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the Prophet walk towards where bucket

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what is bucket bucket is just close by to the house of Aisha

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there's anybody who go to Medina the most of the Prophet after you visit the prophets grave

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where if there's the house of Aisha, you go out from that door you will see the graffia

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until today, this graveyard

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you can still buried all the dead people

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anybody who pass away goes home Raha gee we Malaysian or anyone from the

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Muslim from anywhere they will be buried in bucket

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because the graveyard of bucket is very unique. It's not very big, but can cater for millions of people

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because the Muslim graveyard is very basic simple. Not a garden a grave yet

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not like our graveyard.

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Our graveyard is been commercialized

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with all the cement

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thing and all this building flowers green, the prophets and a companion graffia is very basic grave yet. That's why the miracle Tana Pearl Kubo run

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means Tana Tana,

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no see men

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no but to buy to

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panna

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very basic, until today, if you go they bury after a while. They can pick up the same place.

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Laugh the tailbone and put it inside and a decree and the body will go down.

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They don't wish space like

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at the graveyards.

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The Prophet walk

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to Albuquerque stood for a long time and raise his hand three time. Then he turned around and I shot

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he trotted and she dropped that he ran and she ran until they both reached the house. She heard a hit over him and enter her house as soon as soon as she lied down the Prophet enter N exclaim What is wrong with you Asian

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and being a and your don't abdomen rising and falling she read because the profit in the home

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that I shall try to

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run away and try to

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Saturdaya or she did not follow the profit.

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Then she replied nothing or

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Allah semester. He said, you either tell me or the most simple and well aware will tell me You tell me.

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I want to hear from you.

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Allah will tell let me know.

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So she say me my father and my Debbie aren simple. Ayesha always use this. When he or she feel guilty. They use father and mother.

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I'm delete

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all my messages.

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She told him what has happened. He has so you weren't the black thing that I saw before me man. You know the bad pale the colors. But the prophet know.

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What kind of who is that? She replied, Yes.

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He pushed

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her playfully in the chairs and said prophet like to also joke around and then play with the wife.

01:14:52--> 01:14:58

Do you think that Allah and His messenger would be unfair to you?

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Gotta she always had that insecurity

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by giving your right full time to another Why

01:15:13--> 01:15:20

not the profit is very straightforward. Do you think that Allah and the Masha Allah will be unfair to you?

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The prophet is a very famous,

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and Eve he have agreed upon all this, why? This night, your night, Max nine, then the prophet will honor He's not like us

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we may not fulfill this but the prophet is a prophet Allahu Akbar

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says he's hit, whatever people hide, Allah knows.

01:15:54--> 01:15:55

So the Prophet continue

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Yes. Now he had to admit Allah knows of course

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jiba Allah came to me when you saw that

01:16:08--> 01:16:15

he called me without letting you here and I responded to him without letting you know

01:16:16--> 01:16:22

he was not to enter into your house after you have laid down your clothes

01:16:24--> 01:16:35

I thought that you had slept and hid it to the queue up feeling that you will feel lonely if you know that I was leaving yeah if you know

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if you don't know is easy then I'll come back I just visit the grave make prayer

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the Prophet lied to visit crave on and all because by visiting the graveyard remind you about your death

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see this is a good people your friend is no more with you. Sooner or later. You will also die a good reminder

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jebur l told me your LORD commanded you to go to the dead people of bucket and ask forgiveness

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that is what the Prophet SAW Salem

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he will have to do when there is and command

01:17:24--> 01:17:31

Gabriel is coming to visit go normally he will not go they can go at any other time

01:17:32--> 01:17:34

by to pay a visit at night

01:17:35--> 01:17:37

yeah it's not normal

01:17:38--> 01:17:41

it's like us do up a visit to the graveyard at night

01:17:43--> 01:17:45

not what you going to go yeah and I

01:17:46--> 01:17:47

even know the date

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you can even go to the zoo at night

01:17:53--> 01:17:58

you know the animals behind the cage? Yes Do you feel secure

01:17:59--> 01:18:01

but you don't go to the Caribbean like

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in my life then

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I went to the grave at night

01:18:11--> 01:18:12

when I was looking

01:18:13--> 01:18:17

for the unseen they say there's a lot of ghosts

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so I want to experience ghosts.

01:18:22--> 01:18:24

They say ghosts always come from the grave

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and not a Muslim graveyard. I was not yet a Muslim

01:18:30--> 01:18:33

Yeah, I see I want to experience this period

01:18:36--> 01:18:43

and I decided to sleep down Chinese graveyard you know you have big space you know cemented

01:18:44--> 01:18:55

you can take something then small in maybe mattress and so on a small one that the not the real mattress.

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So you sleep very peaceful nobody is there to disturb you

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very peaceful and 100 ala

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but we don't experience any ghosts there.

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Yeah, goes is just a movie.

01:19:17--> 01:19:20

The real thing is yeah, the genome cause

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so when Gabriel came and said that Allah commanded you to go to Baca

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dope Have I ever go

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I chat asked What should I save for them?

01:19:41--> 01:19:45

Oh, Allah's Messenger. He instructed

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so I asked what should I save for them? If I will go to the graveyard? What should I say?

01:19:53--> 01:19:59

And that is where the ADEPT of visiting the graveyard Salomon Allah Allah Dr. Minami minion

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One muslimin

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your hammer Allah almost demean me now almost pyrene we're in insha Allah become law Hey Khun

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anyone who visit the grave,

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Muslim grave, only you give this prayer, a nominalist engrave, you cannot sit you can visit but no prayer. Only Muslim graveyard.

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When you visit any Muslim greasier you see peace be on the DWELLER of these places, those who are in the graveyard

01:20:36--> 01:20:46

among the believers, and mostly may Allah have mercy upon the earlier and the later among us that mean all of you who are there.

01:20:47--> 01:20:57

Don't just pass away those who have passed on me 1015 years ago, every one of you. Certainly we will follow you when the time come.

01:20:59--> 01:21:02

We also work panda displays. So knowledge

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is a reminder for all of us what to do what to say.

01:21:10--> 01:21:14

So this is important for all of us to learn. First thing when you

01:21:16--> 01:21:26

as a relationship as husband, why suddenly your husband come back late, something suddenly he just wake up and disappeared from

01:21:27--> 01:21:32

the room. Don't create entertain suspicious feeling now.

01:21:34--> 01:21:43

Maybe he have something to think that he has to track on something he remember sometimes people have sleepless night, because something is

01:21:45--> 01:21:51

disturbing them. They have something that they have to find an answer. People have been asking that

01:21:52--> 01:22:10

then he just cannot sleep. Three and suddenly he recalled tomorrow, I must give an answer. But I don't remember the right answer yet. I've read about this, but I'm not sure now.

01:22:11--> 01:22:14

That person majors go down. Great Again.

01:22:15--> 01:22:17

Do some research.

01:22:19--> 01:22:26

You don't have to entertain any suspicion until you have strong evidence.

01:22:27--> 01:22:32

Then you know, Islam don't don't want you to have all this. You sit down and talk.

01:22:33--> 01:22:39

If you think you're ready, you sit down and talk if you think you're not ready, what should should you do?

01:22:44--> 01:22:47

Something talking about something

01:22:49--> 01:22:59

he wouldn't bring any benefit. Don't talk is also pray. Control the heart of every one of us. Allah.

01:23:00--> 01:23:04

He is the control of the hearts not you.

01:23:08--> 01:23:14

You have to communicate engage with Allah protect my husband, protect my children

01:23:17--> 01:23:18

guide them

01:23:19--> 01:23:24

save us from all the trial and challenges

01:23:25--> 01:23:26

as Allah

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after asking Allah Brothers is everybody work with being yourselfers?

01:23:35--> 01:23:37

How can I become better?

01:23:39--> 01:23:46

How can I make somebody happier? Everybody must look into start from yourself.

01:23:48--> 01:23:50

Then you see your work pattern

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I always believe in that. Everything cool? And Allah says save yourself. Save your soul. Don't keep on pointing at others judging others why? Ask yourself

01:24:12--> 01:24:16

Have I done the best? Am I the best

01:24:19--> 01:24:22

person to my friend to my

01:24:23--> 01:24:24

partner.

01:24:26--> 01:24:31

Am I best Papa mama too much. If you have done everything the best

01:24:32--> 01:24:35

and Hamdulillah you just pray oh Allah.

01:24:37--> 01:24:40

Make them see what I have done.

01:24:42--> 01:24:48

Make them understand. Some of them even will give the best they don't seem to appreciate

01:24:51--> 01:24:53

because they take things for granted.

01:24:55--> 01:25:00

They do know how to value water and put the right feeling into the

01:25:00--> 01:25:01

Have an M Allah

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and evil ma one miracle to happen. Allah just give them the awareness. Pass

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everything solved.

01:25:14--> 01:25:17

But when we have problem pregnancy we had Lee

01:25:18--> 01:25:22

look into ourselves and then connect to Allah office.

01:25:23--> 01:25:29

We starting to judge other people. Why why why why don't you look into yourself?

01:25:31--> 01:25:35

What is my weaknesses? I want to know first, look into your mirror.

01:25:37--> 01:25:38

Look at your

01:25:39--> 01:25:40

top fears.

01:25:43--> 01:25:45

That's why self reflection is very important.

01:25:48--> 01:25:52

May Allah give us understanding brothers and sisters?

01:25:53--> 01:25:57

Do we have the right to feel jealous? Yes.

01:25:58--> 01:26:01

For the right cause for the right thing.

01:26:03--> 01:26:08

You are jealous when you see somebody can recite the Quran beautifully good. So you can learn

01:26:09--> 01:26:12

I want to be like her. I want to be like good.

01:26:14--> 01:26:16

This is healthy jealousy.

01:26:17--> 01:26:29

Constructive jealousy when you see somebody is so kind to help the poor and the needy very good. So that you also can be like them.

01:26:31--> 01:26:40

You or anything extra key. There is a good kind of jealousy. You're jealous with something doing somebody doing something good. And you want to

01:26:42--> 01:26:45

imitate them good. Because it's something good.

01:26:48--> 01:26:51

So may Allah protect all of us brothers and sisters.

01:26:53--> 01:26:54

And please,

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those who have this book I would encourage you to on all go back.

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Even we have reached page 1090108 today but there's a lot

01:27:13--> 01:27:15

here to re visit again

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and think that you don't understand noted down in the next coming classes. Then you can ask us then we will revisit to strengthen

01:27:27--> 01:27:31

ourselves. How can I become the best

01:27:32--> 01:27:33

or we start from that

01:27:34--> 01:27:37

Allah love those who always

01:27:38--> 01:27:39

reflect

01:27:40--> 01:27:41

in themselves.

01:27:43--> 01:27:47

Java if there's any question that will open for q&a For

01:27:51--> 01:27:51

any question

01:28:05--> 01:28:11

Santa Santa Monica Omar Abdullah Heuberger Salam wa rahmatullah wa barakato

01:28:13--> 01:28:14

I have a question.

01:28:16--> 01:28:21

Do we have a specific dua for us to recite when we start to feel the

01:28:22--> 01:28:27

all these negative feelings jealousy anxiety

01:28:29--> 01:28:44

to control or minimize at least the those feelings now specifity don't have for us to remember recite everything we start every time you start to feel that good. Do you already do have the small booklet fortress in Islam?

01:28:45--> 01:29:02

Do you have that? Good. You go into that? Look at the Internet you'll find there are some do under the Prophet do recommend us one of the don't ask that I the Prophet have taught us to recite actually in our prayer

01:29:03--> 01:29:11

every time when you perform the Parador or the Sunnah prayer, before you give salam Do you remember the end of the day here

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Allahumma inni are also becoming iserbyt Johanna Amin as number three on fitness, ma while MAMARAZZI warming fit Natalie, merci hit that char

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is a very powerful dua that the Prophet commands us to resign but we were not exposed to.

01:29:34--> 01:29:36

In all our book before

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Boko proponent for the local

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the tissue to end your prayer to recite until Finn al Amin in the Hamid Majeed palace and give salam

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in the last lecture how to hear

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but they forgot that the Prophet a man is not to end