Funerals – Regulations And Exhortation 13

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Sheikh Hussain Yee speaks about the regulations and exhortations when it comes to funerals – Episode 13

Presented on April 18, 2017.

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Ciao, louder on the brother and sister let us begin our class with morning as the morning do smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen Allahumma salli ala Muhammad wa ala Ali Muhammad kamasan later on a bro him wanna and Ibrahim inaka Hamid Majeed Allahumma because Bana what because I'm saying

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what a German Mina Nara and together we make a dua for one of our Juma our son who passed away just last Sunday in accident, their son's name is afic been IO.

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and hamdullah to all the sisters and brother. Firstly, we like to think a lot Blanda mean, for all his bounties for all his blessing, His mercy. A lot of other men have been very kind to all of us, provide us peace in this country. Give us all the provision that we have not been asking from Allah. He still give it to us. Especially held is something very, very valuable in our life. And also a lot of Balala mean

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Make all of us become the student of knowledge, seeking a loss pleasure. Asking a lot will Allah mean to help us to understand his Deen in the way allow us to understand brother and sister before we continue Firstly, we like to send a warm Salam from our fellow family brothers and sisters in Islam from Novi Oslo to all our jamaah here and some that we met in

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Copenhagen, this NGO on Salaam to our sisters and brother here at Hampton Inn.

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We also like to thank all the sisters brother who were making the arm for our journey, when we were there for the peace conference. And humbler Allah make it easy for all of us. And we are lovely what any one of us who have been very helpful to us and been praying for us and we also pray for all our sisters and brother, especially when we are traveling and having dinner.

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Now, when there is more Seba, what the prophet sallahu wa salam always remind his oma Don't forget his job. Yeah, don't forget a steady job is still a job. Meaning to say in Allah He was in LA he Rajan saying this role in Nadella he was in La Jolla Raja own islamically The term is strategic and

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we were informed only on Sunday when we are on the way back the one of the brother is one of our our son

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was involved in an accident and then he passed away almost immediately here on the spot away the accident took place

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me a lot of bladder mean strengthen

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the man and the sabar of the family who miss him a lot.

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Been a young son

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and just got married again No. And the wife is still very critical. May Allah make it easy for

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the wife inshallah.

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We have been asking a lot of blood and Ameen to forgive all our sins, because we do admit that we are all sinners in a way, whether it's minor or major, and among no beds. So we never fail to answer not to forgive our sins, and the sin of all the Muslim that we know and those that we do not know. Because the best prayer is a prayer for everybody. Not just for yourself. We should not be selfish in our da

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that's why one of the best prayer that the Prophet always asked is Ramallah Idina dunya Hassan of Akira de hacer la Okinawa banagher This is a general prayer and a prayer nbfe na, na, na, men's all of us.

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Mi ne ne means for you. So it's always better to use na and the ni

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because we should be representing everybody. So that if anything happened to us, people will not forget us inshallah. Maybe we are very selfish in our prayer

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being may happen, the same to us if something goes wrong with us, who control the hearts of everyone is Allah. So when we are always kind to others, we believe that a lot of black men will be very kind to all of us and then allow and make everybody remember us inshallah, in a good way. No. There are many ways to remember people, but we always ask me Allah give us people who remember us in a good way, the way that please Allah Rabbil alameen

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know according to what I still remember in shall now be confirm and reconfirm again by the sisters that we should be talking on patient number 40. Today, about morning,

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the Chinese call

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and then just few weeks ago is a day for the Chinese

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To visit the grave in called chambering.

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Now, let us look into the this topic and this topic is a very important topic. Now, as a Muslim, we know that we have our own values, our own lifestyle, and Alhamdulillah. We have been guided by Allah and His Prophet Mohammed Salah salam, the last messenger

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of how to live and die as a Muslim. And how should we respond when something bad happened to all of us, for the male and the females, Islam is so beautiful, because Islam is here to guide all of us what to do and what not to do when something happened to us. Yeah. That's why I always say we have been blessed. Because Islam is a very comprehensive religion, it cover every aspect of our life, and from the day we are born, until we die.

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Now, we know that it is part of

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our right to mourn, to feel sad. But in Islam, money is called hidden

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in Arabic, which carried the meaning of abstinence, but that we are supposed to stay away, abstain ourselves from something, because it usually apply to a widowed woman whose husband's death forced her to abstain from many things that they were previously possible for her to do, or permissible for her. In the Islamic rule of Hadith is a widow woman.

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statements from own thing that would invite others to desire her and sick marrying her, such as wearing perfume, using an incense, putting eyeline in code, or other form of makeup, wearing jewelry, and attractive cloth and leaving her house without needs. Without the important thing to do, just for fun, and joy, man, you're not supposed to do that. And

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then therefore, money or hate that is a woman physical display of sadness, and grief for the death of a loved one.

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Whether you like your husband or not, you still have to do that. Even the book said, the death of a beloved one. Sometime we live

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our men who have been very bad to us to die, you know what that means? We are happy even you are happy inside. You can show your happiness outside. And you got to have a lot of patience. Alan knows best and yeah, I don't think that any woman who has been dishonored, humiliated, beaten by the husband will feel bad if that men die. And it's you know, it may be we may choose to sugarcoat or sometimes Yeah, yeah. But it do not happen to all of us and hamdulillah.

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Now, let us look into what the Prophet is saying about this method. According to the Islamic rule, morning, up to three this other than the wife, nobody has the right to mourn more than three days, according to the Shara.

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Except for her husband, that means the wife. It is not permissible for a woman to mourn more than three days over the death of a beloved one, such as her father, mother, brother, son, and so on.

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Except for her husband.

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It's very strange in the way Allah and Islam

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teach us about this ruling this feeling him

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because there is a lot of difference between father son, brothers sister than husband,

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Zane that Binti Abby Salama reported that she heard on Habiba. rhodiola who said that she heard a lot messengers say because this has to do with woman. So normally the prophet will address the woman about the do's and don'ts if something happened

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to the family.

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The Prophet said Leia Hello in Morocco in two minute Villa or yo mille

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To hidden and to head the LM meet in focus Salah thin in other had a focus LS in Li Alin

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Illa Allah Zola Jin arrabbiata ash, holy noir Shara,

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the prophet is reminding the woman is not permissible for a woman who believe in Allah and the Last Day

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for the believer, woman to mourn over a dead person more than three days, except for her husband, where she won for four months and 10 days.

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when your husband passed away, we must mourn for four months, 10 days, what

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we should do that maybe we should not be define ourselves, make up, entertain ourselves, attending walima and so on we anything that have to do with happiness. We abstain ourselves from that.

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Because of course, we The reason that Allah and the Prophet one is to do this, to make sure that now we are totally clean inside it when we say that it's an old men, even old men where we do not know

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what happened. We don't really know. If Allah Kadar suddenly became pregnant,

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anything can happen. So if you're pregnant, the mourning period is after birth.

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It's not just four months, 10 days, four months, 10 days is only to make sure that there is nothing inside us. That means we are clean. Then after that, we can start back to normal lifestyle. We can dress ourselves nicely, and we can attend all the walima and we can travel like normal is to make sure that now we are a free woman again.

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Now this only applying to the believing woman

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and not the wife of the Prophet,

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the wife of the Prophet is forbidden for any men, to marry with them.

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So they don't have that.

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Because they are a Muharram to all the believing men. That's why you called the wife of the Prophet, mother of the believers, they are like mother figure to us.

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But when the Prophet pass away, of God, their wife have to do that. But they're mourning

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later on

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explained that they don't have to do that, because they cannot remember it with anyone. For us, the role will continue is because we have the right to remarry.

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But for the wife of the Prophet they can even the one they can remarry anymore. Once any woman get married with a prophet and the Prophet pass away before them.

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They are not allowed to remarry anymore.

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There is rule of thumb for them yeah, they have a very strict rule compared with us. We still have a choice one to grammatik or not, but they can

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as I end up added that she visited zine that vintage ash, one the wife of the Prophet rhodiola who and her when her brother died, the latter request perfume or some of it and say I have no desire for perfume. But I had a loss of messengers it so much that she quoted the above had this Abdullah bin Jafar reported that the Prophet allowed the family of Jaffa traders for morning then came to them and said ladapo Allah please do

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when somebody pass away other than your husband. So the prophets Muslim said, Do not weep over my brother after this day after three days. And of course we feel sad, but you cannot

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just carry on that kind of feeling.

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without a break, you must break up.

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Why by doing that is assigned to show that we are labor. We accept the other of Allah

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Normally, when something happened,

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we thought that if the person survived is better to us,

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but we forgot, if they survive, and they are like veggie is a torture for that. And it'll be a burden for the living. So some time and Allah cada, this one Something happened and Allah picked their life

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is a mercy from Allah to them. But it's not easy for the living to understand the leading has it Why Why? Why you have that kind of feeling that mean, you are

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denying the other, you are having doubts about the car that allows right to pick the life back. Only the way a person die may differ from one to another

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example, example is if somebody died and then now, you know, if the doctor said if He was survived,

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he will like a veggie what do we think? Do we think is better for him?

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That he go back to Allah.

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Now, if you are a positive person, then you are ready to accept the cadabra

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of God we feel sad, but other than a husband, you only mourn for three days, then life goes on what Islam is trying to tell us live have to move on.

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the reason that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam talked about for the woman and also in the Quran talk about that is because to make sure that the wife is totally clean, no complication. Yeah, against I remind all the sisters the reason of this

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that is only to make sure that there is nothing example if a person just have their menses Yeah, then the law may move may change. When you confirm that you are clean, then the law change. But if a person is just a person, you just got married example, while you are traveling after the nikka

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while you are going back suddenly an accident took place. You don't have any relationship yet. There's no

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there's no depth of a god. They don't consume it the marriage yet. So when you have but sometimes we do not know. You know, so to play safe, stay away so that people don't create fitna and for four months and 10 days in

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the above had this of own Habiba indicate that a leader should mourn over her husband the full term of it the wishes for months and 10 days. This is also confirmed in the Quran in surah baqarah chapter two verses 234 and is therefore

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unanimous opinion of the allama morning how not to be associated with continually grieving over the disease. There is an adapter of money you're not supposed to hate yourself, and then torture yourself

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some of the wisdom behind that is allowing the woman some time to express her sadness over the loss of her mate and companion husband in showing regard towards the disease patterns and relative and ascertaining the absence of pregnancy and to make sure that you are clear in

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wanting more of or less than three days and this is the other rule it is recommended for a married woman to refrain from money if there is required for placing has been

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a great good may result from this is in the case of almost lame rodeado who are unhappy with her husband about palha Ansari

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and as reported that his father Molly been another complained to his wife own salon, Anna's mother. This man the Prophet is forbidding kamado so he departed to Sham Sham is serious seeking freedom. And then this man the Prophet is forbidding camera camera is liquor. Anything that intoxicated in

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a motel ha then a prostitute

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mousseline for marriage. She was a small woman with beautiful eyes. She responded, oh, Abu talha A men like you should not be refused because Abu Taha is one of the best companions of the Prophet from inside of him.

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So this woman said, a man like you should not be refuse.

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However, you are a disbeliever and I am a Muslim. When the thing happened, I was not yet a Muslim. Yeah.

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Later on, and hamdulillah he became a very close Companion of the Prophet

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that I may not marry you.

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He said, This is not what previously used to attract y'all. That means she that the woman she asked, and what used to Is it the yellow and what used to attract me, he replied, The yellow and the white gold and silver. Yeah. She said, I do not want any gold or silver. I don't care about gold and silver. All I want from you is Islam. If you still want to love me, you want to marry me. The only thing I need from you is to become a Muslim.

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If you embrace Islam, this will be my dowry

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and I will ask you for nothing else.

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He asked, Who will help me with debt? He asked about Baja. She replied, a loss messenger. Someone also will help you

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out on how when to the profit and loss alarm while he was sitting among his companions. When the prophet SAW him he said, Here come a bottle hottie

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with a sign of Islam between his eyes, the prophet, have the vision that about Taha is coming to embrace Islam.

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Then he told the Prophet sooner about what Omar Suleiman said and he married them for that specified

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tarbet radi Allahu Rahim Allah said, we never heard of any greater Maha dowry than the one she requested, which is Islam.

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Allahu Akbar.

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In my life, time being a Muslim, the only weird Mahara I heard is from a river

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in Copenhagen, and a river in Copenhagen or in Norway, I forgot by in this country, when we visit them one day, and this reward sister went to marry with a bond Muslim. Of course, she's not a Muslim. She's not a Muslim.

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But the bond Muslim wants to marry her.

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She must become a Muslim. And she had the right for the dowry. Then he asked her, What do you want from me? He just said she said to him, I want you to bring me to Makkah for Amara. And I want one set of Sahih al Bukhari

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Yeah. Wait, it's not cheap to go to Makkah Chile.

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But you see the value sometime you don't underestimate reverse now, they have a different value. No, they long to go to this holy land. They know when you are not a Muslim, you can go there. When you are Muslim that meal you can enter the Holy Land. So they just asked for ombre and one set of say Bukhari

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normally marrying reverts is more easier because they they don't involve in this tradition so much.

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But when among Muslim there's a lot of tradition and any tradition that does not contradict Islam is okay but when it contradicts we should not make it

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hot, don't make it difficult, because there are more blessing when there are lesser

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burden. inshallah.

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So this is one of the thing that happened among the Sahaba and this is why the Prophet caught the Hadith in Amman enamel, up near

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in the column Rima, Noah, then hirato illawarra soon

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tahu illallah wa rasuluh Mancha, Haider Ali dunya you see whoo ha, Avi Murat, Ian.

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For hegira to Illa Mahara LA, in the first hadith of Sahih Bukhari, the prophet

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remain his oma, whatever you do, is based on your intention. If you migrate for the sake of Allah, and follow the prophets, Sunnah, you will get a large blessing, and you'll get the prophets shafa. But if you migrate because of dunya, you get the woolly things. But if you migrate for a woman, you get the woman

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because you're coming to Islam is because of that woman. Then you get that woman and hamdulillah you see how fast the prophets

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are settled the problem. He became a Muslim and him from the Prophet on Salam said to me, that will be my Mahara. So the Prophet, send somebody to look for a salon, and then ask, Do you promise this man that his conversion would be a Mahal to marry you? Is it she said? Yes, it means the Prophet marry them.

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So the Prophet now want to delay anything that is good.

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We may have problem or wait for the end of the years, and now you're so new to Islam and no, and this and then and then

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we have a lot of issues about that. And to show us that we don't question the intention, so much, is a suburb is just a reasoning. When people come to Islam for a reason is okay, there's nothing wrong.

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But if you try not to accept that reason, then they have to lie to you.

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Why do you want to be a Muslim? I dream I saw the Prophet. I dream. No, he doesn't. And of course, now, you are going to tell them how to lie. That is very, very bad. And so if a person come to Islam because they want to marry another Muslim, encourage them, guide them properly. inshallah, there's nothing wrong in Islam, because the intention can be developed.

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Even the main intention is for other things, but that intention can change. Like all of us, our children, you call them to pray? Do you think they pray for the sake of Allah? Your children when you wake them up every morning for projects? Do you think they pray for the sake of Allah? Or because if I don't pray, my father, my mother is gonna knock on me, I bet this way, come and pick odo while I'm praying and baby sleeping, no problem. And no, because they don't mind. Even I'm sleeping. When I'm praying. That's why the children sometimes they pray, not because of Allah, but no problem. Just remind them, educate them, encourage them, motivate them. But as they grow, we hope

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that it become a habit, then they can pray by themselves now. Now they pray for the sake of Allah. In the beginning, I don't think they will pray for the sake of Allah. Now, sometimes our husbands who don't pray for the sake of Allah, they know that because they love her so much. They don't pray with them, they they pray,

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and then after some time, they learn to become a better Muslim and hamdulillah. Now, what is very important is after their marriage, so about talhah, married

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and the Prophet become the kadhi. And she bought him a son, to whom he becomes strongly Tesh, Botha, ha, was very close to this son, the child then become severely ill, and Amata was strongly overwhelmed by that obatala habit was to get up for the morning prayer before perform would go pray with the Prophet, stay with him close to midday. This is what the prophet companions sometime will do. They spend a lot of time the Prophet then come home to eat and rest. He would then praise or prepare himself and live again until the night prayer, one evening about our house in the mustard with the Prophet sallallahu Sallam when the child passed away.

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Almost a landscape to those with her. Let no one announced to a bottle her the death of his son. Don't tell the father

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until I be the first to announce it to him. She didn't prepare the body for burial put it in the far side of the

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Half an hour it will piece of cloth

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is a very unique case in.

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In that happened on one Sunday in the history of Islam

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amatola came back from the Prophet samosa, Masjid Mr. Medina, with a group of his companions. He asked her how is my son doing? But he was very attached to this child. She read by Oh Taha Shin he fell sick, he was never more quiet than he is now. In no annual policy.

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You will cry children, especially children will keep on crying. They just cry because they are asking for help. And we do not know how to help them. So maybe today, there's a lot of cure, fastest way, giving jab and so on.

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But now, see how she respond.

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That she's hit, paralyse, he was never more quiet than he is now.

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And I hope that he is now resting.

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And she then brought the demon, put it in front of them, the app, and the men depart the friend all went home, about our home, went to bed home slam beautified herself, or perfume and follow him to bed. As soon as he smelled the perfume he did what a man would do what his wife

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toward the end of the night. After that, when the husband is resting very happily.

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Now she started to talk, oh,

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if someone lands something to another, and then request it back, would he have any right to refuse returning it? This is a very unique dialogue. And

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of course about our reply.

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here if I know you cannot refuse. How can you refuse because these things don't belong to you. The owner won it back even back. Nobody has the right to say no to them. Say Allah has then lend you your son for an appointed agile Muslim man. And then took him back.

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So stick his reward and be patient.

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How do a man react?

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This How about Allah been a man

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been human? He became angry and said, You waited until I disgrace myself with what I have done.

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That mean I was enjoying my night we've you

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know, he felt that

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he had no right to be happy if the father son passed away.

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And then you announced to me my son's death.

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He then said in Manila, he was in LA, Rajon.

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Now what is important is of course, this thing.

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None of us will do it. The minute our loved one passed away, we ourselves feel so bad.

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There we are going to inform the family members. And I'm not saying that we should follow him. No, I'm just sharing with all of you some time what happened in a time the Prophet certain a woman you know when she wants to convey a message, a newsletter that to the family, especially the father, she knows how attached the son is to the Father.

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So she do not want just to

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cause him

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some time this bad news is the person is not ready. It can cause him another attack.

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The same thing with that I told you about the accident of this woman. So until today, some of the family member was asking

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whether they should tell the wife what happened to the husband as it no not at this point of time.

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Because she was not really conscious yet. Now, maybe she was hoping to see the husband and

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now this guy

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of exit, then the mind knowledge happened twice already among people that I knew.

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Yeah, same with our motto is a motorbike accident.

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I wouldn't say that you're doing don't allow your children to use motorbikes, you know, and just

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allow it to happen, it happened.

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So when somebody passed away, and we know that the person is very close to the person will die.

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It's not wise to just tell them directly.

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It's good to find a better time. And this is part of the wisdom of Omen Sullenberger almost land know, the relation between a bottle hot and the sun.

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So she must find the best time

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to express this, to share this news to the husband.

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But the beautiful part is, is it?

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And then, if someone lend something to another, and then request it back, would he have any right to refuse returning it? Of course, he replied, No.

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That is actually to prepare

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state of mind that we know that all the children that we have is from Allah, it doesn't belong to us. It is a land from Allah. Allah lend it to us for a while for us to take care as an Amana and that's why when you have children with you, you must make sure that you try your level best to guide them, educate them, discipline them, and make them righteous children because children is a manner.

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Now when you have done your best

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outside your site, you leave it to Allah horrible enemy. But if you don't do your level best, something happened to them outside, you will be responsible. If that's why one of the surah is very important to look into how to guide our children, how to help them is to make sure that we remind them about prayer. That what look man said to his son, he Abuja akima Salah.

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Look, man, always, when he see his son, he would ask him, Have you perform your prayer? When the sun travel anyway, he remind his son, don't forget your prayer. When the children come home, he will ask them, have you performed your prayer? The prayer always come first.

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That's why oh my god, Allahu anhu when he was the Khalifa, he always remained on his officials, that check your people about their prayer. Make sure that they perform their prayer. One there are a lot of Allah. They when they are aware of Allah, we hope that they will feel that Allah is all seeing, all hearing, all knowing, they cannot escape from a loss, monetary. They can escape from you, but not from Allah. You must put the consciousness in the mind of the children.

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Wherever you are, Allah is watching you. Because I have connection with Allah. Allah will inform me Your mother or your father, what you are doing behind our back.

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Make them feel that

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the next time they keep on searching left and right, man father is the other How can my father know how can my mother know? But of course, you also have to do your homework. And you have to check your children sometimes whether they are lying to you or not, because children sometimes

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because everything is so corrupted outside, they can easily be influenced by the bad environment.

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So if you are two or three steps ahead of them, you can help them pass the Yeah. So it's good to remind them

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and that's why I'm otol Hi Ray realize he was angry for a while. But then he realized Yeah, that

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Allah gave him the sun and Allah have the right to take back his son.

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And you know when you the children die at that age, they have no sins. They can be a shield for the parent.

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from entering hell, they can be a protection that

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Even the parent have lesser reward from their deeds, but with the children's prayer, Allah mercy will allow the children to bring the parent to paradise.

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Now in the morning he performed also of course as

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person who have consumed the with the wide when to Allah messenger prayed with him and told him what happened and allows messengers sit barakallahu la cama para la la te Kuma May Allah bless for you and what you have done last night.

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The Prophet Nelson how that your wife is

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why she do this to you? No, no see the way how the Prophet respond Mashallah.

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Because Muslim is a person with a lot give her other wisdom, she know the feeling of the husband towards the sun, it's not easy for her to hide that news.

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Later on onselen became pregnant from that night.

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And what what happened? Firstly, I would like to remind all the good brothers and sister according to the Sunnah of the Prophet samosa, lamb, if anybody consuming

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have any ration the wife last night, because we do not know who is going to die, and then suddenly, somebody passed away that night or tomorrow morning.

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So normally when somebody reached the graveyard who ever want to go in the graveyard to carry the body down, the prophet will ask them Anyone have you have relationship with your wife last night?

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If they say I the prophecy stand up, you cannot go down.

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You must come up, let replace with another person. Meaning the Prophet do not allow any men who have a relation with a wife last night to go down into the grave.

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This kind of warning is not being practiced anymore. A lot of people don't bother to us

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but is a Sunnah of the Prophet because the Prophet do not want anybody who has a wife last night to enter the graveyard in the graveyard you can go to the graveyard Yeah, but you cannot enter the grave yet yeah. Inside that to carry the body down. No.

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You replaced with someone else.

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But alas, blessing on Suleiman became pregnant from that night. And he was informed of it. The Prophet said, is a wallet that Tony be Sabine. When she delivered Bring me the baby

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is another blessing from Allah, Allah, Allah mean.

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Muslim men used to travel with the Prophet, some of my son living when he left.

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And returning when he written, the prophets and I was preparing for treatment on insulin was in advanced pregnancy and was feeling some pain of labor. obatala found himself restrained by that. And he said, Oh Allah, you know that I like to go with your messenger, when he goes and return with him, when he returns, companions and the companion wife, some of them, they just love the company of the Prophet, some lasala they have the proper goal, they like to travel together and written together.

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Man, I have been restrained as you see, because almost lemon told him about the labor pain. Then almost women told him our Buddha I do not feel the pain anymore that pain stop. So let us go. There's the went on that trip with a loss messenger, Allahu Akbar.

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as they approach and Medina on their way back that mean on their way back from the journey, she went into a full labor and delivered a boy.

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She told her son, a nurse or a nurse, take the states and do not let the baby eat anything and they would give him first to allow some messenger in the morning.

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The profit salon practice was was not to enter suddenly into Almudena but to come on it outskirt before entering it and as took care of this

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baby brother all night, leaning over him trying to soothe him. In the morning he took him to a loss messenger. Some of our salon, he found him wearing a thrips cloth and mocking some cattle. Then he had, that he had received. When he saw the baby he asked an hour later before been two men hand did male hand deliver. That means

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my mother father his hand, he replied, Yes. He said, rude of rapala wait until I finish what I'm doing because the Prophet was attending to something. He then put away what he had in his hand, help the baby and as a mark shade. Did you bring anything with him? He replied, Yes, some dates. Now, this is something very important for us to understand. But I will just continue with this. But the profit center took some days shoot on them, mixing them with his saliva. Open the baby's mouth, rub the two days into inside his mouth, the babies that hungry sucking the sweetness of the ditch, as well as a lost messengers and Muslims that a man has the first thing to enter the baby's stomach or

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the slaver of a mouse messenger. Then He then said on zero illa hublin, sir, a tomato. Wash, how the unsolved live dates in because this child among the ancyra now

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and mass density or a loss messenger give him a name.

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Normally, people will ask the property profit if they made the profit on scholars to give a good name to the children in

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the messenger, some of them are up the baby face and name him a

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servant of Allah named that the Prophet live here is Abdullah Abdul Rahman Rahim. Other than that, you can, as long as there is a name of Allah. After that, before the name of Allah put Abdul for Neil. That mean the slave of Allah. Abdul salam, because Salam is one the name of Allah, Abdullah

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you just have memorized the 99 names, then you put Abdullah in front.

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Now this practice of the Prophet is known as the Nick.

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And this is what the hunting is.

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Now, we have a lot of discussion lately about Should we do the same to the newborn child today?

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I have been practicing a different thing. Every time when people bring their baby to me on the seventh day of the birth of the child, I will use honey something sweet

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is something natural and sweet.

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I don't use dates.

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Because the slavery of the Prophet have his own blessing. I was like well, I don't know.

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You know,

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me I have some say

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affection to the child. That's why

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some sanada profit we don't apply fully because the Prophet have special blessing that Allah has given him. So we can put some sweet thing honey will be the best because outside is a form of remedy.

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but not a lot. Just put maybe seven time you just put a bit in the fingertip and then rub into the mouth. I will say the gum of the child and set the tone. You can see inshallah, but also it's very important make sure that the person who wants to do this, don't have long fingernails.

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Because it's not it's not clean, it's not hygienic. And also the person must be very careful. They must wash their hands properly before doing this here. Something entering the mouth the baby the baby is still very young. And then the immunity of the baby we do not know how. So it's good to make sure that we do it properly. So I know that a profit is tomorrow sometime people will use tamarama printed out to me by me

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So, how to use honey? No, I think that is the best for us.

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So this is important. Danny is a Sunnah of the Prophet samosa lamb. The best for us to do is this on the seventh day of the birth of the child. And don't delay unnecessary, don't delay unnecessary, you do the tonic and you do the HELOC, you shift the baby's head and you do a tikka, you slaughter a ship or a baby girl to ship out goods for a baby boy. And then the head that you have shaved your weight with gold or silver. It's up to us if you want to go maximum gold, minimum silver, you value. Yeah, how many grams from the weight of the hair, and then with the value of the gold or silver, then you give sadaqa.

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Now the Akita, the animal can be divided into three parts. One is for you, one that you can give to anybody you like whether they're Muslim, or not yet Muslim, your neighbor, rich or poor, no problem. But one third must be given to the poor. So it's divided into three categories. But if you don't want then you can give everything to the poor. That is your choice.

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That is your choice. And now when it comes to choices, brothers and sister is very important

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to know

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what rights we have.

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And what can we decide. Before I add other thing, so announced, then said Oh Allah messenger, give him a name, the messenger some of them are up the baby face and name him. Abdullah said that no use among unser was better than Abdullah. Many men descended from him. And he was Shaheed in Persia and he died in a battle where the Muslim was fighting the Persian disbelievers.

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Now many men descended from him means from him, there was a lot of good righteous

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men that mean his offspring.

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Spring have a lot of good people.

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Because of the blessing of our prophets symbol mahalo Salaam, him now, brothers and sisters, everything we must have,

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we must try our best to choose the best

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name, the best name, and if I choose a partner, a best partner, and so on, because this is your life partner. And of course, even we try to look for the best, but sometimes a lower test all of us. So we must have patient wisdom to handle our life and don't

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use your anger to solve your problem. Yeah, you use your patient and always hope and pray May Allah protect us and save us from a bigger trial LBD will be tested in a way now come to death. We are talking about funeral today we are talking about other things a bit mix.

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When the person passed away, there are five things that I want to remind all the good sisters and brother that we must pay attention.

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five major thing that we have to look into it before we talk about other things. Number one, we must know whether the dishes have any depths with anybody. We have to clear his step as soon as possible. Number two, we must make sure that whether we remember he have any worse yet. Yeah, that he has an interest to anybody. We must fulfill the worse yet.

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if he has any naza number three, we must try our best to fulfill the naza

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number four, if we know that he has missed his past in the month of Ramadan how many days we have to redeem the past by paying video or somebody must pass on his behalf.

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Lastly, if you know that he had the means to perform hajj,

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He had the money he was healthy, but maybe for whatever reason he was not planning to go to Hajj

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so you can do Hajj battle for him

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these are few thing that we should always look into it then thinking of other things before especially if he has money use his money to do all these things

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because it's his so use that money for himself. Yeah

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I know everybody will be very upset but the family must look into what he all the people create what he owes a lot clearly.

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And myka as mostly when you reach the age of balloch when you are healthy and then when you had the mean to go to Makkah, you should go already.

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But we always delay No, not ready not ready.

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But we are ready to travel so many countries, but not maka. So there is not a good reason at all. And

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the Prophet even forbid anybody to just thinking of traveling to visit this place that place except the tree moss, maka, Medina and AXA if you have the means.

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So this is very important for us. We're still living to know what we should do for the disease and LBD will be busy for other thing. After the burial, the family must sit down. And that is look into anybody remember about the worse yet? No worse yet? Alhamdulillah clear one path nazar no nazar clear. Second. How about that? There is okay. How can we help him? If the family don't have the mean? Then the family must send somebody to look for the person that he owe and then ask the person with his mercy and with a loss help to forgive him. And if the person said no problem, I halala Alhamdulillah

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that is important before you talk about about how to divide the property on this property should not be touched until this five thing is been cleared. Then you talk about foreign aid.

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This is very important for the person that we love, who have left us and he still have some of this thing. uncleared we should create for him as soon as possible for him. Now lastly, men's moaning. The report in the Sunnah, pointed that the morning is not a man's practice. This is clear from the prophets words in the above Hadees of ohm Habiba that we have discussed earlier. During the prophets similasan life, his wife Khadija, his son, Ibrahim, his three daughters rokeya on kulsoom and zaner. His uncle, Hamza, his cousin, Jafar, and many of his companions died or were killed in the battle, yet we have no report of him performing headed for any of them. Similarly, when he passed away, his

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companion did not perform he that for him, meaning you cannot know more than three days. Therefore, morning except for a woman as explained above is a simple innovation that should be avoided. Now, let us look at what happened. It become worse it is associated with other sins or acts of imitation of the disbeliever such as playing sad music,

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lowering the flags, declaring silent for a few minutes, very indirect ties or quotes and so on. This become a national practice sometime in some countries. Yeah.

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But normally the Islamic way would be the best for Muslim. We have all away Allah have said to us lakum Dino come who are leading. But what happened to the Muslim today because of the weakness of the Eman they're starting to imitate at this where we had the best. We have morning but we are imitating now.

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So we hope that a lot of bloodletting save us from this fitna.

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When something happens, we have our own value we should be proud of it. Then slowly other people will learn from us. But now it seems that we are following other people more than they following us. This is a sign of the weakness of our Eman here. So May Allah protect us brothers and sisters and today we have a brother inshallah, who is going to join us in faith and in Islam, but before we invite him in, if there's two question i entertained today inshallah, just two questions from the sisters first. Any question from the sisters?

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No question from the sisters

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at hamdulillah any question from the brothers?

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No question from the Masha. Allah is a happy day for me. One question, but the

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Casa La Mata Mata Mahabharata?

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Yeah, after three days

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if he wants not fair, because yes, fairness to us is different. You say wow, the men, but normally I don't think a good man will do that. No. Because they do know that will hurt the family members. Even the children. Yeah.

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I don't think a good manual will make that move, he'll use his wisdom inshallah. Or a good woman who wants to marry that men also would advise him yet take a break for the day is important that I'm just saying what Islam said first.

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But if a man decides to do that, you cannot say Haram.

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You cannot

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is just no, it's not wise for him to do that. No.

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That is the difference between men and women. But there are some men Mashallah, yeah.

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They understand they don't even think of that anymore.

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As long as they know how to take care of themselves. Alhamdulillah Yeah.

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Very interesting question from the sisters.

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No, yeah, for us for my 10 day for them three days.

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But Allah know best we as Muslim, when our Lord do not forbid we cannot forbid.

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And we just can remind them, can you delay a bit that when we can remind them

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going against our last command? Actually, all this is a test from Allah.

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Like I would like to add

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when just example an accident

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if the accident is true, that is confirmed that the driver of the car make the mistake he make an illegal

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cause the death of a person

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if the finding after the finding the intoxicated, no intoxicated, no drug involved, everything is clear from the person who was killed.

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Then Allah give a choice. islamically and talking about what Islam offer to the family of the disease.

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They have three choices. P sauce,

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enough's enough knifes

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alive for a life.

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They can have that choice islamically. All compensation.

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You can sue the guy and ask for compensation.

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Oh, you just forgive you.

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Do you have three choices?

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which one is the best one?

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To forgive is the highest ranking.

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But it's very painful.

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But if that driver had been doing these kind of things,

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I would say that is very irresponsible. Not only ones you shall not just for the he will kill another person again.

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There must be a reason.

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But if he's just not his mistake, actually

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And then it's good that the families Sit down. You don't know. Sometimes your mercy,

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you talk to them properly the family,

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they may have the hidayah, they may become homeless,

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you save another life.

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You don't kill, but you save another soul. So something kindness is very, very important.

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But kindness always come from people who have a strong faith.

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So May Allah give us the spirit, the right spirit, by when the country don't implement, the Islamic ruling across the hood cannot be applied. The only thing that the law may say if you're a man slaughtering

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consider you if you do this purposely, then it's up to the law of the land to decide what kind of punishment

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but Islamic law is so beautiful is not the country who have the right the law of the land is the next of kin have the right

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the human rights is being given back to everyone to the next of Kin's.

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Only the law of the country will judge the matter and give a verdict then pass it to the family members the family next of kin will have to decide a life alive compensation or forgiveness.

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So all this also is your right and allow so we're testers see which one we choose?

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None so there's no other question. We will hook all the system brother can wait for one for the conversion of the brother. You can bring the brother in.

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We end the session first. Hi Nicola Hamada dica shadow Allah Illa illa Anta stuck felucca to buoy Lake

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Salaam rahmatullah wa barakato. Come ready Dennis.

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Yeah, you adjusted No, no, you can put here

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