The Big Day – Nikah

Hussain Yee

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Episode 6 – The Big Day, Nikah – Night Kalam

What are the rules of a nikah? What do you have to have, what can you do, what can’t you do? What are the common misconceptions and misguided rituals performed during Nikah? Listened to Sheikh Hussain answer these questions.

November 25, 2016

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smilla rahmanir rahim

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hamdulillah no matter who

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Dear brothers and sisters Alhamdulillah. Today we are going to discuss about important issues. Our topic is about Monica in Islam.

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When you talk about nikka, the prophet son Muslim remind us Anika mentioned knotty nica is one of the Prophet sadhana and highly recommend that Shana for those who have the means, and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam also remind us that

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nica also is an act of ibadah is an act of worship.

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So worshipping in Islam is not just praying five times a day fasting, performing hashomer even nica is one of an act of worship. Now, brothers and sisters, they are seven some people may say less than that, but I'm going to make it very clear seven, requirement or condition that we have to look into it carefully when you want to perform any car. Number one is the man to be a husband.

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Number two, you must have the woman to be a wife. Number three is the dowry. Of course, the men have to give some dowry or Mahalo to the lady, or to the girl. Number four is to witnesses, male witnesses, number five is D.

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person or the body or the man who is going to perform then you can.

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Number six is

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there is an Egypt, football,

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meaning there will be a mom, and who will sit to you. I'm marrying you to so and so with the dowry so much. And the husband or the men to be a husband just have to say I accept Alhamdulillah he don't have to reset a long Caboose, just say I accept.

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And one of the important thing also is the wallet. The wallet can be the person who conduct the Nita or the wallet will give the consent to a mom or a caddy. So there is an option over there. He has a wallet, that means the Father, the uncle, the brothers and so on can conduct and perform the nikka.

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But if they are not used to it, they can just appoint an Imam or a caddy to conduct Anika on their behalf. So these are the seven thing that everybody must be aware of. When a new class harmony is concerned, the profits and loss alarm encourage the man to put his right hand on the forehead of the wife and make it to

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the shutdown Allahumma inni. As I look at her work at my Jebel Ali are also becoming Shall we have a fairly manageable tally? A very short one, asking Allah to protect us, from our partner, the wife, the same good wife to the husband, whatever, there is good me Allah, give it to us, whatever that is not good. May Allah protect us from all the bad thing that may come from both party because being human, we are not perfect, everybody have their own weaknesses here and there and no one really know that characteristic of a person until they get into a marriage knife. But insha Allah with the right intention, Allah will protect all of us when we seek His protection. And also one thing that the

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Prophet recommend is before they have any kind of intimacy, then they should perform to Suna prayer, where the husband become the Imam and the y can be the moon. But one thing that I like to remind a lot of brothers and sisters is not necessary to do it in front of everybody after the age of Kabul ceremony. It's not necessary. It's just a reminder to them that don't forget to perform this before you have any relationship. But today sometime there are some tradition. They insist that

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husband would perform the prayer in front of everybody and this is not one of the Sunnah of the Prophet Samba Salah. Now to perform the prayer is a sin to do it in front of people immediately after Egypt Kabbalah is not the same.

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He you can you can meet embarrassed the guy No, maybe I will use looking at him how he performed his prayer, whether he performed the prayer correctly or not. And all this also is something that we should not do it openly anything sooner the Prophet encouraged us to do it privately. Even if you're performing sooner pray the normal sooner prayer the Prophet encouraged us to do at home more than in the masjid. The Prophet said in a Muslim Abdullah Salah Phil Beatty, Elana Toba, the best prayer for the Sunnah, is at home, so no one knows is between me and Allah, Allah me. Now the nicca in Islam is very simple, very straightforward. But of course, there are a lot of tradition and other things

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involved. Anything that does not contradict the Islamic value is okay, we can go along with inshallah, but it contradicts that we are not supposed to follow because we Muslim, have our own value, and have our own do's and don'ts. We should not confuse the ceremony is an Islamic event. Yeah, walima in Islam is watching. But we should not have all the other an Islamic activities to take some time, there are people called the bride and groom to sing, the dance, and so on, this is something that we should try our best and make sure that it won't happen in Islamic marriage. So brother and sister, we hope a lot of but let me make it easy for all of us who are seeking a loss

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rather, we are doing for the sake of Allah. And we try our best to follow the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. And not just to follow the tradition. One thing I like to add also is about after marrying. Now, if the brother is marrying the sister, and is the sisters first marriage,

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then she has about seven days right and to have full time or some privacy with the husband. But if the brother is marrying a divorcee, or widows, then she only has three this right?

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Now why there is a difference between seven and three, because we do have a diversity of experience. So you don't need a lot of time to get to know each other. But for the first marriage, sister, she's totally new, everything is very new to her. So it's important for them to have extra time to get to know each other better, so that their understanding and so that they will get closer to each other without the interference of any family members. That means both of them should have their own privacy alone. normally known as what the more that term, they use honeymoon.

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But it's important that they have their privacy. Now, the seven days especially, will also give enough time for each other to understand the do's and don'ts of each other in life ever, they have something that you like and something that you dislike, no. So we believe that the seven days is enough for them to get to know each other's like liking and disliking. So that we will not say something or do something that may hurt the feeling of both parties. And this is very important. Meaning is very important to have the art of communication, how to communicate with others

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how to understand each other's liking and disliking. So it's so we hope that a lot of blind men will make it easy for all of us to understand the rights and the responsibility from both party so that Allah Subhana blessing will be with us an Arab banana. May Allah protect us from further fitna so that our nikka ceremony will be accepted by Allah as an act of a bad Ameobi alameen wa billetto 50 will occur that one or hamdulillah Allah subhanho wa

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Taala stuck for one 2 billion Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.