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Purification Of The Soul 04

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04 – Purification of the Soul (Tazkiatu Al-Nafs) – Sh. Daood

Dec 16, 2016 @ Al Falah Islamic Centre

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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Nabi Karim Ali of Allah, Allah to attempt tasleem rubbish. rocklea Sati way acidity MD, Dr. Tammy lissoni efco Kohli, my brothers and sisters in Islam Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

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We're gonna start today in sha Allah to Allah before we continue to ask the sisters, if any of the sisters want to come out, they can come out, the partition is up for you, they're on your side.

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So you can come out the white door if you like. Or you can remain in the back, the lights are on and hamdulillah. So you shouldn't fall asleep. For any of the youth that are sitting outside, I encourage you to come in today we're going to do a little bit of a different topic.

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We're going to talk about social media. We're going to talk about social media and its usages. But also, in fact, we're going to be focusing on its harms, some of the harms of social media, and the effects that it has upon us and how we can learn from some of what has been written related to social media and you know, the problems regarding social media, but also tying it in with Islamic concepts. So things that we learn within the deen that we're supposed to protect ourselves from, that we actually fall into the trap of maybe committing when we engage in the use of social media. So the first thing that we're going to look at in sha Allah to Hannah is social media being

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addictive. But before I do that, I want to ask a general question when everyone gets in the door in sha Allah, so it seems like the last few are coming in good. So I want everyone's attention and you I'm going to put a leash on you so that you can stay near me inshallah. Okay.

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handed in that good. No moving around. Okay, you I want you to stay sitting now handle our goods. Zach. Hello, Hayden. You want one? I'm thinking of trying to sell them now. Every time I buy something and someone says they like it, I'll sell it to you.

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I love for my brother. I love for myself. Right? So I want to make some money off of it too. You should love for me what I love for you. Not just joking. No, no, I'm joking. I'm not selling it.

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Okay, so I have a question. And this is gonna be a really interesting question.

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Because we're gonna do it practically. Okay.

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I want everyone to stand up.

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Oh, you just sat down. Oh, it's too hard to get up. What's wrong with you guys? Everyone, adults, children, parents, not parents, University. brothers sisters. Everyone stand up right everyone.

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Okay, so this is what we're gonna do. Everyone is standing up 100 a lot. You're not standing stand up. Right You need to stand up because you have an iPod and a phone in front of you in Nadella here in LA Rajon.

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Okay, so I'm going to ask four questions. The first question is, who here has or uses Facebook? If you have sit down? Or if you do sit down? If you use Facebook, or you have a Facebook account, sit down.

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He's like Baba, sit down. You have the account, but I use it right? Now. Shut up. Okay, good. Everyone else stay standing up.

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The second question is, whoever has or uses Twitter. Sit down.

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All right.

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Everyone who has Facebook has Twitter very good. We're gonna we're doing this for a reason. So you can see what's happening in society. Okay. Whoever uses or whoever has a Twitter account? Sit down.

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Good. Not many people use Twitter anymore. Okay. Third question. Whoever has or uses. Instagram, sit down.

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Okay, whoever has or uses Instagram Sit down. So now anyone who either uses or has used or is using Facebook, Twitter or Instagram should be sitting down. Okay. Last question. Whoever has or uses Snapchat. Sit down.

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Snapchat. Anyone use Snapchat? No.

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Good. hamdulillah. So whoever's standing.

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Do you use social media? Yes or no? Yes. What do you use? YouTube Sit down.

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What do you use? Right. What do you use? Do you use social media?

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Google. That's okay. Google's fine. Right? You could stay standing. What about you?

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Nothing you don't have any accounts no social media account.

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What about you? YouTube? Alright, sit down. Because you spend a lot of time on YouTube, right? No, not that much. All right, you can stand up. What about you?

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online games sit down anyone online gaming Sit down. online gaming. What's that?

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That's online gaming. Sit down. online gaming. Sit down.

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Okay.

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You do online gaming, all of you sat down. Good. So we have 123.

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sitting or standing social media. Nope.

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WhatsApp. Oh, I forgot about what's a Subhana. Allah LinkedIn is okay, that's more of you, you know, for business and so on. Right? Okay, what's up very good.

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But before we go to WhatsApp, those that are still standing, that's actually really interesting. How there's only from amongst us 123455 people that are standing, which means these are five people that are pretty much disconnected from the typical, well used very recognized drugs, as in social media, right. So how to love now, if we were to say, whoever uses or has a WhatsApp account Sit down.

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Yo, what's up? You don't have a phone? hamdulillah You're the only one that passes the test. hamdulillah actually,

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what about me? Oh, you don't want to know about me?

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I use Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, you name it, WhatsApp, telegram, everything somehow that is part of my job, right? I'm trying to pull people away from using the bad things on there to encourage them to do the good things inshallah. Okay, I actually wanted to do that as an experiment to go into my accounts and see how many people are there for a reason at the end. So remind me at the end, we're going to do that. So you can sit down and Sharla and you You're still standing? Do you do online gaming? No, YouTube? Sometimes not all the time, right? Sometimes good. So we have one brother and one sister only who are standing 100 How old are you?

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Seven and how old? Are you? Seven, see sevens good age to be? Right. hamdulillah. Okay, you can sit down inshallah, Camilla Haven, right?

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Actually, I really want these two to win something. So, I have a 20. If anyone has 210s, we could split the 20 and they could each get 210s inshallah, so I'm going to put that here, whoever has that can do that for us and shall split the 20. Okay, so let's move on. inshallah, let's look at some of the harms of social media and then we'll look at my social media accounts. Okay. Since you guys want to do that, the first thing that we're gonna focus on and it's in front of us is that social media is addictive. We'll take questions later. Social media is addictive. Now let's look at it from an Islamic perspective. Are we supposed to be addicted to things

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even when it comes to matters of very bad, we're not supposed to be addicted to it. Because an addiction is something that controls you. And it takes you away from the ability to think for yourself. And the lesson Hanwha Tana,

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stay on this side. See, the sister side is always better.

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So social media, some how to love. It's something that makes us addicted and even if we're addicted to for example, a bada a type of worship.

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Right, we noticed that people who are addicted to prayer,

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they sometimes are taken away from the ability to think for themselves. So like, Oh, you know, we have to do this. We have to always be praying, praying, pray, pray, pray. But what about when it comes time to reciting the Quran or time to do anything else? Time to give help in terms of our time or our wealth to other people that are in need? We see that sometimes they focus on Oh, just me myself. No, no, just myself just myself. And so they take they're taken away from other aspects of the deen that are sometimes encouraged. But because they're addicted to something, even though it might be something that's good. It takes them away from doing more goodness, right and take them

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away from other things that they can be doing. So social media is addictive. Now we know that it becomes addictive with regards to certain things we can look at Facebook for example. brethern Abele mentioned something really interesting today. After drama, Facebook about six months ago when you would scroll up on Facebook and you saw a video. Would that video start playing? No. Now when you scroll over a video, does it start playing automatically? Yes. And it draws you in and captures your attention.

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It makes you watch something that you may not have wanted to watch. Aside from it using all your data, right? And so now you're watching more videos and you realize, Hey, wait a second, why is it that my data is going up higher and higher? And I'm paying more on my internet bill, or on my, you know, my my cell phone bill? Why am I paying more? And it's because we're watching more videos panela. And so there's certain tricks and certain things. Sorry.

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Exactly, yeah.

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I don't know on the browser, but most people will use the app, right? Most people will use the app instead of just going to the browser because it's just a little more user friendly, and automatically logs in, and so on and so forth. That's a very good observation, I didn't know that I didn't actually try to see if through the browser, it doesn't load versus Canada, there's little things that they do on social media platforms that will draw us in and want us to watch certain things that we may not want to watch. Now, what's addictive in that is that sometimes you watch a small video, and it might be something good, you might see someone who is, you know, reciting the

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Quran and you say, oh, Mashallah, this is beautiful recitation. And as soon as the video is over what happens underneath it, there's another video and you start to watch another video. And then you click on the next video, and you start to watch another video. And this is the problem with YouTube is that some people will sit down and say, I'm only going to watch this five minute video on YouTube. And at the end of watching the five minute video, they realize I've watched five, five minute videos, right? Or 10 five minute videos, and I spent so much time sitting there watching these videos. So social media is addictive. Yes.

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There is you can go into your settings and change that. But most people will not do that.

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On the app

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on the app, see your your browser user to Mashallah hamdulillah. The next point in sha Allah that we're going to cover is social media makes us compare our lives with others. And so we tend to live through the eyes of other people. Because you understand that we tend to live through the eyes of other people, other people are watching me, right? So social media, it makes us compare our own lives with other people, this person is doing something. So I want to do what they're doing, which is another point we're going to get to, right? I want to do what they're doing, or I want to be known for doing what other people did. So someone, for example, does the Ice Bucket Challenge, you

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remember that? That's old. I know it's old. But remember when it came around? The reason why I use that as an example is because everyone knows about it. Right? The ice bucket challenge was something where you take a bucket of ice, and you dump it on someone's head, right? Or your own head. And so everyone started to do this ice bucket challenge. And somehow some people really got hurt, right trying to do this challenge. And people just want to do what everyone else is doing. Now what do we learn in our Deen our Deen teaches us to do with to do what Allah subhana wa tada wants from us. So we don't live through the eyes of others. We live through the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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What does Allah want from me? What does Allah expect from me? What am I going to do that could be beneficial to myself and pleasing to Allah? subhanho wa Taala. Okay, so that's another aspect of social media that we need to look at. Thirdly, social media makes us restless. How does it make us read restless? Look at that it says, out of the same sample, as the above example, two thirds admitted to having difficulty relaxing when unable to use their social media accounts. What does that mean? How many of us lay in bed and have our phone in our hand still? Raise your hand Be honest. I'm one of them. Right? We lay in bed and we have our phone in our hands. We wake up for

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fudger we hear the other end for fudger or our phone, the alarm goes off, we turn off the alarm. And we see Oh, you know what, I still have 15 minutes before the iqama Let me check this message because you now start to see on the top and that's another problem on the top of your phone. All of your, you know notifications are there. So you see Oh, I got I got responses on Twitter. I have responses on Facebook. I have responses on, you know, Snapchat, so you immediately want to go and check it. Another thing, some handles that we might sit down for dinner, right? You sit down to eat dinner as a family. And you notice that people have to reach into their pocket and check their phone, or the

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phone is on the table and I've gone to places where some kind of law in restaurants I've seen the entire family sitting on phones and tablets while they're eating dinner, and no one is talking to each other. But they're talking to other people on different sides of the world. Right on social media.

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So it makes us restless, we constantly feel like I need to go to it, I need to go to it, I need to go to it. Another problem that social media does with regards to this topic

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is you'll notice back in the day when we as adults used to study, we would sit down with a book and study, right, we'd sit down, we'd have a book in front of us, we'd read it, we'd study, we'd make notes, we'd write down, and so on and so forth. And there was no distraction in front of us. Now, our youth are studying on their tablets, or on their Chromebooks or on their laptops or on their computers at home. They're studying. But while they're studying, they're seeing notifications pop up in front of them, Oh, you got this message from doubt, or you got this message from Abdullah, you got this message from prompting, all right, all these things are happening, oh, this person posted a

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new video by numana li Han. Alright, and then somehow you click on it, and you watch it. And that takes you away from your studying. It takes you away from what you're actually doing. And so these are some of the things that we need to focus on with regards to social media. If we're going to sit down and do something we need to disconnect from the rest of the world. And one of the ways that I like to do that, personally, I start with sleep. Why should my sleep be disturbed with other people messaging me or other messages from all over the world? Turn it off at night, turn off social media, disconnect the Wi Fi in the house, or disconnected your connection from your phone, right? So that

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you don't get those notifications every five minutes. Now we'll move on in sha Allah to Allah because the next point is really interesting. Social media gives rise to cyber bullying.

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Has anyone here been bullied before not cyber bullied, but bullied at school at work walking somewhere? You've been bullied, right? You've been bullied, you've been bullied, you've been bullied, you've been bullied. I've been cyber bullied, right? But we're asking about bullying, right? So you've been bullied? So panela I've been bullied as well. I think every one of us as a Muslim. Living in Canada, we've probably faced a little bit of bullying, right? Maybe because of our skin tone. Because our color, maybe because of our language. We might speak multi languages like other than English. Maybe some of you speak Urdu or Punjabi or Arabic or, you know, whatever other

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language Bosnian. I don't know if that's the actual language, right? Is it finalized Turkish? And so somehow there's many other languages that we might speak and people may bully us because of that? Has anyone here experienced cyber bullying?

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Do you know what cyber bullying is?

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What cyber bullying?

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bullying on the internet? Like what? Give me an example.

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Okay, so for example, you might post something and in the comments, people start to make fun of you. Very good.

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They take a picture of you that you did not want them to take and then they post it online making fun of you. Very good, like an embarrassing moment. Good. And they tag you in it, which is even worse. Right?

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Okay, I heard that. Yeah. They make fun of you by calling you names right or calling you a terrorist when you know you're not right. So behind the law, you haven't done anything wrong. Very good. What else? Any cyber bullying happening on this side? No, no cyber bullying. Sisters don't get cyber bullied. Or they don't talk about the cyber bullying.

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Anyone else been cyber bullied? I've been cyber bullied many times. Right? At my age, still getting cyber bullied. But that's because I have a lot of, you know, nonsense going on in social media SubhanAllah. Okay, so cyber bullying is a reality. And what cyber bullying does is it actually harms our youth. And this is an important message for the parents. You know, last year I was teaching at the high school. And quite a few I don't want to say numbers, but quite a few of the students that I was teaching would come to me and tell me they're taking antidepressants. And when I would ask them why very few of these students were actually suffering problems at home, as in their parents were

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going through hardships, a lot of them what they would tell me in terms of, you know, generally and not getting into into any specifics, a lot of these students, high school students and anywhere wherever you go, like I run a youth program in Milton and they were telling me the exact same thing cyberbullying happens is that some kind of law, they're taking these pills, antidepressants, because of what they face online. Because of the way people make them feel online, and they feel insignificant, they feel useless. But another part of the internet, which is one of the points that we'll come to inshallah, I will just jump to it right now is that a lot of our youth as they're

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using the internet, they see a lot of depressing things on there. So they see a lot of depressing videos like nowadays, we see a lot of things

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like things that are happening in Syria, for example, things that are happening in Burma, in Iraq, in Afghanistan, in Philistine in various different countries around the world, there's a lot of things happening. And it could be right here as well. Like, for example, what's happening in the United States, right pre election. A lot of the Muslims were feeling like, Oh my god, what's gonna happen? Like the United States is just 30 or 45 minutes away from us? Or an hour away, right? If we drive over to Buffalo? buffalo is closer, right? Yeah. I'm just thinking of Montreal, Montreal is Plattsburgh, right. So some had a lot, we're really close to the border. And we see that a lot of

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nonsense was happening in the country. And we now notice that a lot of our children may have read or watched certain things, but are not expressing their frustrations. They're not telling us what they feel inside, and they hold it in. And then what happens is that they start to become sad with the world, they start to feel as though they don't belong, as though there's a problem with them. And they don't know how to deal with it. They feel as though we don't belong here.

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And Subhanallah, what happens is that they start to go through depression, as well as anxiety. Okay, we'll come to another point in sha Allah, there's 10 points that we're going to cover, point number five, social media glamorizes drug and alcohol use. So social media makes us feel as though if you're cool, you're going to be taking drugs, and you're going to be taking alcohol. If you're not doing these things, you're not cool. Now, that's completely against our Deen. Our Dean does not encourage us when I say Dean, for those that don't understand. It's an Arabic word for religion, right your faith your way. And so Islam does not teach us to take alcohol, and it does not teach us

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to take drugs. What it encourages us to do is to stay away from the things that are bad for us, things that are harmful for us. And anytime that someone makes you feel as though you're cool for taking drugs, or alcohol, or smoking or doing things that are hot, um, those are people that are far from Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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As in, they're not happy with what Allah wants from us. And we need to be careful of those people. And we need to limit the people that we interact with in our lives. But one of the biggest problems that social media encourages is that we interact with more people. So everyone wants to have more friends on social media. Let me ask you a question. How many of you have more than 100? friends on social media combined? Look at your Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat accounts, how many of you have more than 100? People?

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Okay, as friends or followers? Good? How many of you have more than 200? More than 300?

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More than 500?

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More than 600?

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Do you have more than 600?

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Everything combined? Yeah, more than 700. And this includes YouTube. So if you have subscribers on your YouTube channel include this as well. Okay, more than 700,

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maybe 800 1000,

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you have more than 1000. No, anyone else more than 1000? I have more than 30,000.

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Right? But the example I'm trying to give you is

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the example I'm trying to give you is that these are not your real friends.

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They're not your real friends. And I'll give you an example of why.

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Recently, something happened to me. Right? Pay attention, guys. Recently, something happened to me. And it was crazy, because I started to see so many people say things about me on the internet.

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But only five people actually called me or came to me and asked me about it and asked me if I need any help or assistance, five,

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five.

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And what's really surprising is that two of these people are from one organization to or from another organization. And one was just another brother friend from another organization. So that's technically three organizations that have all the different places on earth, and all the different people. Now use that example to show you that the friends that you have on social media are not your real friends. When you're in the hospital, if you have 700 or 1000 people following you on social media, you're not going to get 1000 people coming to your hospital room to visit you. Okay, when someone in your family passes away, you're not going to get 1000 of your friends coming to see you.

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That's not going to happen. So there's a false reality on social media that people think you know, it's kinda like these are my friends. And I need to show my friends my life I need to show them the food that I eat. I need to show them the clothing that I wear. I need to show them where I go to all the places I travel. They're not really your friends. You don't need to show them everything. Okay, that's it.

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important for us to understand, because our youth so kinda we think that these are real friends. And sometimes we love our friends on the internet more than we love our own parents and our uncles and aunties. And that's not true. They have more love for us than the people on the internet. Sometimes we feel like they're too strict with us, right? Does anyone feel like their parents are too strict? Raise your hand if you feel like your parents are too strict or your parents are strict. You do. He's like raising, he's trying to touch the ceiling like me, right? That's because your parents really love you and care for you. That's why they're like that some kind of law. And so it's

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important for us to understand that with regards to our family and friends and social media. Number six social media can make us unhappy. What makes us happy as believers.

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What makes us happy?

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Salah What else? What makes you happy? What else? Doral makes you happy? What makes you happy?

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Allah subhanho wa Taala makes you happy. Good. What makes you happy?

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prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam good?

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Your mom makes you happy? Alhamdulillah what makes you happy? milk and cookies shala It's freezing out hot chocolate and cookies. Come on, man. It's so cold. I just came back from Whistler the other day is freezing some kind of law. Right? What makes you happy? Your computer makes you happy.

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If you think of your computer as a blessing from Allah Alhamdulillah that's good. Good. Yeah. What makes you happy? Beans. is very very good for you humble. I actually really like big beans especially when I travel and go to different hotels. I like eating big beans for breakfast. Yes. Right? Soccer soccer makes you happy What else? You What happens when soccer isn't making you happy and your computer is not making you happy and your big beans is not making you happy? What What else makes you happy?

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Basketball what happens when basketball doesn't make you happy? Where do you go? Where do you turn to

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your phone and when your phone lets you down? Where do you go? the masjid Mashallah we go to the masjid and that goes to show us that ultimate happiness is with Allah subhanho wa Taala we get happy when we think of Allah. For example.

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I don't know give me an example. You go for Hajj, you're really happy. You go to Cuba on vacation, you're really happy, right? But when something happens to hedge, you think Oh, you know what, I'm getting rewarded for this. It's blessings. But when something happens to you in Cuba, when you're on vacation, you're like, Man, I'm never coming back to this place. Right? So somehow there's things within the deen that make us happy. No, that's not the greatest example. Right? But other things that make us happy. Yes.

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Who?

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Your dad makes you happy? Alhamdulillah very good. And your mom too, right? Yeah, Alhamdulillah very good. Mashallah. Yes, yeah.

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twirling your hair makes you happy? I saw that you just seemed like a very happy person in general. You're always smiling. I'm delight. Yes. What makes you happy?

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When you go to

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Macau Makkah. hamdulillah that makes you happy. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam teaches us he says Should I tell you something that if you do, it is going to bring love between you when people are you know, they have love amongst themselves. They feel happy, right? What does he tell us to do? What does he say? I've just sent them abena come give send them to each other. So when we meet our Muslim brothers and sisters, we get happy. We should at least right we should get happy that we're we're happy we're together. We're a family. We don't really know each other. But we're still together. We pray to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah together. That's a beautiful thing. We get

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happy with regards to that. So social media, it doesn't really make us happy. It makes us unhappy. Why? Let's look at what it says it says a study from the University of Michigan collected data from Facebook users

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and how it co related with their moods. Simply put, they found that the more avid users were overall more unhappy than those who use the site less over more time. avid users also reported lower satisfaction in their lives overall. Why? Why Facebook?

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You might look at your Facebook account and you realize I didn't get a new friend today.

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Oh, too bad for you. You have 700 others right? Apparently they're good friends for you. So people look at social media and they think Well, you know what, I need to do something. And when they see other people doing things, oh, we get unhappy. Why is it the download went to Whistler and I didn't get to go Why is it that dode went to Sydney the week before and I didn't go Why is it the dode went to Melbourne that weekend as well and I didn't get to go that's not fair. So we don't get happy. We actually feel sad. It makes us feel bad. Sometimes some handle

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When we use social media Now, I'm not saying that that happens to everyone, but some people let it get to them more than others. Okay? The next point social media can lead to fear of missing out, also known as FOMO. Right fear of missing out fo Mo, which is a phenomenon that occurs when you feel pressure to be doing what everyone else is doing, attend every event and share every life experience. So I need to do what everyone else is doing. Someone went to

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what's your favorite restaurant?

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That's a restaurant. Someone went to Paramount, let's say, Lizzie's someone went to your favorite restaurant, and they post it on the internet. What do you want to do when you see that?

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You want to go to that restaurant as well, right? You want to go there and you want to have what they had? someone tells you you know what, two weeks ago, I had a camel burger. Whoo. I want to go have a camel burger too. And when you go have the camel burger, you take a picture of it, and you put it on the internet. So everyone can see that you had a camel burger. And then when you post it on the internet, you notice Hey, wait a second, windowed posted that he ate a camel burger. He got 700 people clicking like to that post when I posted it. I only got 100. Why? And then you go and check those posts and realize at the same time that he put that I posted right at the same time you

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posted that you had Kindleberger download posted that he had a kangaroo burger. And he got 1500 likes on his post. That's not fair. Right? That's not fair. So some kind of law that's that's what social media does is that we always want to do what everyone else is doing. And we noticed that when we do what someone else did, everyone is already looking at something that someone else did even better than us are more important or more fun than us. And so some kind of luck that I didn't post about camera workers last week. And I did not post about kangaroo burgers either, which we have had, by the way, but some had a lot. It's just the way that we feel when we use the internet that I need

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to do what everyone else is doing. But what's even worse is that sometimes we feel left out. Like someone got invited to another person's wedding or someone was invited to one of our friend's houses. But we didn't get to go. We feel left out. We shouldn't feel left out. We should feel that a loss of hanaway to Hannah wanted something better for me. Allah subhanho wa Taala put me in a better place, I had the opportunity to do something that they didn't get to do. I had the ability to be with people that they were not capable of being around. So don't look at the negativity in your life. Look at the positivity in your life. What did I get to do? That's what's important. Okay.

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Number eight, social media often leads to multitasking. This co relates or ties in with what we took earlier. Right, you're studying. And while you're studying, you're busy, you're distracted. Now, a big problem that some of the parents have with regards to social media is multitasking while driving.

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Which handler recently there was a study that I looked into, that shows that driving drunk is less dangerous than driving while using your phone. Yes, yes. driving drunk in the study that they did was less dangerous than driving while sending messages. because your mind is distracted. Your body is distracted because you're doing something else. Right? Your vision is distracted. You're not even looking at the street, at least someone who's drunk. It's blurry, right? must have had a lot. There's so many different distractions that we get from social media while driving. It's absolutely dangerous for us to do that. So we should be really careful with regards to multitasking while doing

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things that are important. Yes.

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Sorry.

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I didn't get that.

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Okay, so what's your point?

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Oh, you're saying you're talking about someone who's meanwhile drunk or happy while drunk?

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I don't know. totally irrelevant. The point is, we should not be doing something that distracts us. Let's look at the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was talking to someone, would he multitask while he's talking? Would he be talking to you and looking at you and doing something over here playing with his phone? Nowadays, someone comes and talks to us and what do we do while they're talking to us? I'm checking my Facebook because this guy's too boring for me. You know, I need to just let me check my messages right or let me message someone else be like, yo, bro, come and save me man. This guy's really boring. I'm tired

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of talking to this uncle. He doesn't make any sense. Can you come and bail me out? You know, somehow we're busy messaging other people while we're having conversations. And that's not part of our Deen what the profits in the long run.

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Who SLM teaches us is that when we do something, or when we speak to someone, we give them our full attention, that we don't distract ourselves or we don't divert and do something else. So that's really, really important. And it's something that takes away from us as Muslims, when we use social media. Number nine.

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Social media enhances our connectivity. Now, this is a good thing.

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It's a good thing, if we use it in the right way. Number nine and 10 are actually good things, right? It enhances our connectivity. So for example, right now, as we're doing this class,

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it's being recorded. I don't know if they can see us in the recording, because the camera is facing there. But some kind of luck. We came to this side today. But we're also doing an audio recording. I'm doing an audio recording on my phone. And we're streaming live on Facebook.

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So we're increasing in our connectivity, right? We're enhancing our connectivity. We're doing something this a panelist social media can be used in a good way. And it can be used in harmful ways. So we need to learn from this aspect of using social media for beneficial things. Okay, use it for beneficial things. Yes, you've had your hand up for a while, sorry.

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Very good. If you're texting while you're driving, you only have one hand on your steering wheel, which is why I like to use voice command, or my watch.

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Okay, Google, and then it just opens up, see. So some kind of that starts to do things for you. So while I'm driving, what I do is sometimes I turn my watch this way, right? And it just go Okay, Google, and it opens up, call home. And it calls all

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right, I put on Do Not Disturb. But I can actually just do that voice command. And so yeah, increasing connectivity, very good Pamela, we can use it to distract us or it can be used in ways that are distracting, or we can use it in ways that are going to help us and be beneficial to us. Another example of increasing or enhancing our connectivity, Google Maps, while we're driving, sometimes we just put our phone up there and use the map, right. And so that's something that's good and beneficial. The last point, inshallah that we're going to take for tonight, is that social media

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can help with socialization. Now, I want to look at this from two different angles. It helps us to socialize in ways that are permissible. So for example, you're reaching out to people delivering the message, teaching them something, sending them a hadith or an idea or just encouraging them with some words.

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But it can also enhance in our socializing with the wrong people. Sometimes we speak to or we interact, or we send pictures or messages to people that are actually harmful to us. Right. And this happens a lot nowadays, especially with youth going through high school and the opposite gender, okay? That's really, really dangerous. And it's something that happens, especially with adults, where sometimes you interact with the wrong people. And so socializing is good, it gives us that, you know, that confidence, that level of confidence, but we don't only socialize over the over social media, like through typing, we should be people that can conduct a conversation with someone

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so I can come up to you and say send mRNA comm How are you? FCB What is that? Your shirt says FCB Football Club of Barcelona Mashallah Latika LA, see, that's socializing, you pick out something and you start to talk to someone. But on the internet, people start to socialize about the wrong things. And that's really, really dangerous. We need to be careful of that. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam teaches us if you have nothing good to say.

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Don't say anything, right just remain silent. We also learn the importance of interacting with people that are highlighted for us. And this is where social media can become a problem when we interact with people that are not highlighted for us, okay, or that are encouraging us to do the wrong things. So we're going to conclude there In short, a lot of data, we ask Allah Subhana Allah to make it easy for us to use social media in the right ways and the correct ways. And we ask Allah Subhana which Allah to protect us through using social media and to use it to our benefit as an oma and not to our destruction. I mean, good hamdulillah I was gonna come to that I wanted to end with

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the session. Now we're gonna look at my accounts, but why are we going to do that?

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Okay, so we said, we're going to do that, in order to see how many people we can reach in order to try and help and benefit, but we have to remember these are not our real friends. Okay, so which account Do you want to look at first

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let's just go to Facebook.

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No, no, no, that's that's my personal one. We're not going there.

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I have I have one for me and I have one for you.

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I don't know if I'm connected to the internet here. Yes.

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All right.

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Where did it go?

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There it is.

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Right here.

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What's it say?

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26,000?

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No, imagine if you can send out a message that's positive to 26,000 people. And that's just, I actually don't sponsor any of it. Like you can pay into your your posts. And they go further. So you'll end up increasing the amount of people that follow you, right? I don't do that. I just do generic. I just post something. If someone likes it good. If they don't, I don't care. Alright. So, in fact, I don't not that I don't care. You try and learn from what people tell you. But 26,000 Now, that's an example of how when you're in need, though, there's not going to be 26,000 people that come to you, okay, they're not going to come to your house and say, Hey, listen, you're moving. Do

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you want some help? When I moved the night before I was moving about a year and a half ago, I didn't know if anyone was going to come the next day. I had invited a bunch of people, but no one really said they were actually going to come. And I ended up getting 11 brothers who showed up for 12 in total, because one came late, right? So So kind of like that's interesting. 12 people showed up, but I have 26,000 friends apparently. Alright, so not everyone that follows you or likes what you do on social media is actually someone that will come to your assistance and help you Yes.

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They're multitasking. Okay, we shouldn't point out other people's multitasking abilities right? So we're not going to look at any of the other social media platforms inshallah I think that's enough for now.

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Yeah, cuz I actually don't access social media from my laptop ever. I just do it from my phone. And we're using our phone for for the broadcast. So what we normally do some candles end with a Kahoot and we're not going to do a Kahoot today. Yeah, we're not going to do a Kahoot today because I thought we're gonna be anti social media, right? We're not gonna it's not really social media. This is kinda

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Oh, everyone can access it. And we're streaming live. anyone in the world can access it right. And no addiction. Yeah, very good. Yeah, we're teaching you teaching you not to be addicted to Kahoot.

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No, inshallah, listen, we're not going to be doing Kahoot every single week. We'll try to do it every single week, but not every single week. Okay.