40 Ahadith of Imam An-Nawawi 20 – Modesty

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On the authority of Abu Masood Uqbah bin Amr al-Ansari al-Badri (r) who said:
The Messenger of Allah (s) said, Verily, from what was learnt by the people from the speech of the earliest prophecy is: If you feel no shame, then do as you wish. (Bukhari)


AI: Summary © The history and importance of faith in one's belief have been discussed, with a focus on the use of modesty and being modest in relation to money. The speakers emphasize the importance of finding one's naturality through clothing, avoiding discomfort, and being aware of one's bodies to seek out options to make them stronger. The speakers also touch on the need for men to find their naturality and avoid drinking alcohol and other drugs.
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Alhamdulillah wa kafa radicality Mustafa

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Susana Sagittarius river Hartman ambia wahala early Hill Ischia was happy Let's be back.

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Today we are starting with Hadeeth number 20.

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Of You must rudan of whatever the amarin alonside it is better either the Allahu

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Allah Kala Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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in Lima adelakun Natsumi. Callum who was the Buddha? He didn't test it first now mash it all.

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The Hadith is narrated by Abu Musab Ababa, Amara al Ansari alberty for the Allahu anhu said

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the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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verily from what was learned by the people from the speech of the earliest prophets, is that if you feel no shame, then do as you wish, the hatchet is never to bite remember how to how to lie inside.

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This particular Hadid is narrated by a companion, whose name is Ababa nama unslotted.

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Alongside he tells us right off the bat that he was a Medina and companion and a resident of Madina munawwara

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he was commonly known as a Loomis route.

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Now, you'll notice that when you mom, no, we don't have the law. Holly introduces him. He introduces him as almost rude about Alan Sorry, I'll bother. And I'll come to that ability in a few moments.

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So his name is Aqua. Rama been Saliba with Sierra been a crusader. unsavoury.

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He was amongst the companions, who took place at the hands of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam prior to the migration, which is known as the buyout of DACA. And he was there in the second bailout in October.

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He was a young man from the generation of Java the last one from that age group, Java the last one and others.

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smile when Muhammad Allah honey, he writes that Shahada aka pathania Academy, US buddy, man, shahida, he was the youngest companion to participate in the pledge at the Apollo.

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He himself says that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam met us on the day of Ha. And there were 70 of us well as a lot of whom and I was the youngest of them.

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he narrates many ahaadeeth from the prophets of Allah, Allah who was sort of around 100 Plus, out of which some are inherited by Mahatma Gandhi, some inherited by Muslim Rahmatullahi Ali, and there are narrations that are narrated by both emember hottie and Mr. Mr. Rahmatullah. Yani from amongst his students was his son, but she has

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a BA in baseball, he has him of the ramen bunnies eat, Amara bin, mamoon, a shabby, and many others.

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There's a big discussion regarding this companion that did he participate in the Battle of butter. Generally when introducing as a hobby if at the end of their name, it says buddy,

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that tends to mean that that's the hobby was someone who participated in the Battle of butter. However, regarding this companion, there is a difference of opinion whether he was amongst the people or not. And the reason is because you may have noticed a little while ago I just mentioned he was the youngest hobby to participate in the battle.

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He was a young companion. So majority of the historians argue that he wasn't old enough to participate in the Battle of butter. And for those of you who've studied the prophetic biography before, you will know that the purpose of Allahu alayhi wa sallam was very particular when it came to age restriction, and participating in the battles. If the participant was too young, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would not allow it. That's why the companions themselves they say, when the prophets of Allah hemani was set on what when we would gather together to see if we could be enlisted, we would stand on our tippy toes. So we will look a little older so we will look a little

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taller the prophets have a long way it was set him would accept us into the battle.

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And a lot of the who was a famous historian, he says, LEM Yeshe, had butter on that both wagon Amma did not participate in the Battle of other. Similarly, urbanists half, who was also one of the great historians, if not one of the greatest historians.

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He says that lemmya shad Bergeron he did not participate in the Battle of but why should I bother homicide. However, he was old enough to participate in the battle that what and then he joined the remaining expeditions that followed after a while, however, he did not participate in the Battle of bother.

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On the other hand, you have another group of scholars who are of the opinion that he did participate in the Battle of buget. Amongst them is him Hakeem Rahmatullahi Ali, where he says kinda but the reason that he was from the companions who protect the battle, similarly, remember Holla Holla Holla. They also lists his name amongst the people who participated in the Battle of others.

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But majority of the historians and biographers, even though men like him on the Hydra have to lie how they haven't have listed him amongst those who participated in the battle above it. They say that, remember, his expertise was in narrations, and verifying them. History was not his expertise per se. For that we have other experts like you're going to talk and for that we have people like him and wasabi, and many other historians, whether you check listia, whether you check the hubbies CLM, in Nevada, or Abu ohanaeze Mati for the Sahaba. These are all works of biography, each of them after a lengthy discussion on whether he participated in the battle above it or not ended by saying

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that in the madness of the AMA and be bothered in for sure

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that he stayed in brother for a short period. That's why he was known as buttery. And to push this discussion even a little bit more further. He writes in his manifesto, Sahaba

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NASA who Kufa ILA and nobody, later on this hobby will move to Kufa and he will, he will reside there for a period. sublime says it was the people in Kufa who started calling him a battery. While I'm here, of course, Medina filled by the gene, the residents of Medina munawwara did not consider him to be from those who participated in the battle. But anyway, there is a difference of opinion amongst the scholars on whether he did or didn't participate in the Battle of others. It seems that the large number of scholars are of the opinion that he was not a participant, participant of the Battle of but that he was called, but that he because he spent some time near the waters of others.

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That's why he was given this name. he narrates many a hadith from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam

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just to share a few with you. In one narration, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said as narrated by almost rude Ababa nama abandoning either un* or rajwada, Holly nataka

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for healer who sadhaka that when a person spends money on his family, feeding his wife feeding his kids, his parents taking them out shopping somewhere, taking them for a holiday, when a person spends wealth on his family, and while spending that wealth, this person has a hope and Allah subhana wa tada that he will be rewarded for spending on his family for Hilo. Huzzah, then that money he spent will be shuttled off of that person, that person will be rewarded for this. Then another narration the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said

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that one of you should not be prevented from reading a yakata akula Layton furusato Quran that every night he read one third of the Quran, you should make an attempt to read one third of the Quran every night. How many Jews is that?

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10 just gonna * I don't know who thought when I lay him. He said when I looked at the companions around me, it's as if everyone was overwhelmed. Because the Prophet is told them you have to read 10 pages of Khurana reading so they were overwhelmed. So then the Prophet said a lot while he was sort of relieved them of their worries when he said, quote, who Allahu

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Allahu Samad. Lamia lit one amulet. Well, me Aquila, who Khufu and I had, who sort of felt that reading sort of class will be for you as if you're reading one third of the Quran. The actual words of the Hadith. The Prophet didn't read the exact sutra. He said, Allahu Samad Allahu Allahu sommet. And let me

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In one minute whenever you want to hide, so if a person wants to match the exact words, instead of saying Punahou Allah had the Hadith says Allahu Allah hit a summit and then the rest of the same Allah Villamil it will amulet. William Yoku and

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the scholars they see the reason why it's beautiful Quran is because when you study the Quran, you will find major themes. And one of them three major themes that the Quran can be divided into, is a man.

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A man is one of the three major themes being faith. And the most important component of your faith is to believe in one Allah subhanho wa Taala and have that belief proper without being diluted at all. So if you establish that one belief properly by reading sort of class, it's as if you've accomplished one third of the requirements of the Quran.

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Then another narration he narrates in the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Mankato I attain in our field is Surah Al Baqarah fie laylat in katha who, whoever will read the last two verses of Surah Al Baqarah. Where does that start from?

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And until the end, whoever besides the last two suit last two Ayat of Surah Baqarah they will suffice him What that means is Allah will take care of that person that night Allah will take care of that person's need. Allah subhanaw taala will grant that person protection

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but she'd been Allah

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says that we said to a woman salute Ababa Ramadan Saudi elsina give us some advice.

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So he said to them Aleykum will Gemma

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stick to the group of Muslims don't stray. Don't go to don't break off into fragments stick with the majority of the Muslims. Think Allah halaya mata Allah Allah. He says because Allah subhanho wa Taala will never gather this ummah, upon something the majority of the Ummah will not gather on something that is misguidance

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stick to the group of people, because one of two things will happen. If you stick with the majority of scholars, either you will die first or the opposition will diverse. If you die first allies relieving you while you're with good people. If the opposition dies first, then you've been relieved of their nonsense and you can live in peace and continue to follow. Good, good the good pathway Hata is study who Barun Are you start a home in one of the two will occur.

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As far as his politics go about Ramadan Sati was a companion who stood by the side of alida de la one during the fitna.

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He was very close to Allah the last one he actually lived in Kufa to as I mentioned earlier. And when I you know the loved one marched with his army for the Battle of Safina against mabi out of the long run. It was up in Saudi and buddy who either the loved one appointed as the governor over Kufa in his absence. He was the one who was kept in position. But then later on after the long one returned he was removed and soon after he passed away, not too long after some years later, he passed away.

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When did he pass away?

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most scholars agree that he passed away close to the 40 year marker after hinted on it we'll find out says son at this room with that I think that he passed away in 39 years after his era.

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And Medina says senator Otterbein he passed away in the 14th year after digital.

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Yeah, Tom says matter of almost a year Mr. Padilla allegan Bill Cooper, that was rude on Saturday. The last one was he passed away very soon after the last one passed away after audio the last one was murdered. Not too long after that, during that period, he also passed away. However, luckily, who is a famous historian says Matthew bill Medina Felicity Huffman, mafia sorry celebrity mafia that he passed away in Madina munawwara, not in Kufa, after he resigned after he was let go from his position in Kufa, he returned to Medina Managua, according to unlock it, and it was in Medina MANOVA, where he passed away.

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Now the Hadith that he narrates

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the Hadith starts off by saying in America NASS min Callum in Guatemala.

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Min Callum in Guatemala what people have learned, but people have gained from the message of the previous prophets or from the earliest prophets is so before we move forward and talk about the actual months or the subject of the hudy addressing the statement, there are some messages that were revealed to the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu it was some certain commandments that were consistent with the previous prophets to just as Allah subhana wa tada revealed certain commands to the public that allowed us to them in some issues, our outcome and our rulings are different from other religions. However, in some things, we are similar. So for each

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Example regarding fasting, Allah says quotevalet colloseum gamma katiba Latina Min publikum that fasting is obligated upon you just as it was obligated upon the people before you. So a form of fasting, whether it was for them not to speak, or in another form, there was a form of fasting even before Islam. Now when it comes to the idea of modesty, this is also something that predates the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam every prophet that came to this road came with a very same message, a message of modesty.

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In one narration

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narrated by Emma Malika de la Holly, a very similar Hadith However, with a little bit more addition, Minh kalamunda boo watty is Adam testa he file matches that when it is learned or it's adopted from the speech or the message of the previous prophets that when you have no shame than do as you will, that's where this hadith ends. However, the narration of Mr. Malik continues on, although Alia Dania de Houma, Sala, Yamuna Nusra and another thing that we learned from the message of the previous prophets is that when you stand in prayer, you tie your hands, and the right hand will be on top of the

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on top of the left hand. And then he says, what will fit? Well, Steena will be sued, and you hurry and rush your thumb. When you break your fast, don't delay it unnecessarily do your job right away. This is something we learn from the previous prophets too. And Christina, this means that ideally, I'm sorry for that delay or suffered a little bit. If for example, Sadie time ends at 5:05am. Don't have your salute at 3am delayed a little bit, have it close to maybe 430. Keep eating until 10 minutes before when a person continues to eat right until fast is about to start. They're showing their best receipt to Allah subhana wa Tada, Allah. I'm not some stupid, super strong macho man or

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mature woman, I need the food. And I'm going to eat right until you have given me permission. And then I'm going to stop. And as soon as the motherboard goes off, don't delay it. Or Livestrong. I don't need the moment about that. I'm going to continue fasting you humble yourself again and say Allah you've given me permission to Zakat appreciation is in do I come and I I eat right away to show my weakness in front of Allah subhana wa Tada.

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So what does

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when we talk about actually before we move forward? So it's important to note that when we're talking about something that's adopted from the previous religions or the from the previous prophets, this tells us that this is a hokum that is vitamin souf. It was not abrogated by Allah subhana wa tada

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and the ruling of water See, just as it existed there it exists today in our tradition to

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now what does modesty mean? What does he mean?

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scholars have taken the definition of hire in different directions. But it seems that they're indicating towards the same core meaning but the language they use differs. And the different the different language they use actually has pie that has some benefit in their dilemma. Johnny Rama hula writes in his Atari fat, who are in the neffs ministry in Watada who have run on a lonely fee, it is to hold back yourself from something and to leave it

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out of concern that you will be reprimanded overdoing it. So for example, a person covered themselves before they leave their home. Why do they cover themselves even if their heart says go out of the home uncovered, their heart is telling them let's say for example, leave the home uncovered. Don't dress appropriately, but modesty will make them hold back to that desire and dress appropriately, because they will be reprimanded by others for not doing so that's modesty right there. So there's an element of modesty that's kept intact by society. And then the higher level of modesty is kept intact because of your concern of a loss of Hannibal without observing you. So for

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people to be there in front of one another, and to reprimand one another is actually a very healthy thing. If we're there to tell each other that hey, you're late for Salah you need to be a little earlier. If we had that relationship, we would be more punctual and so on. But unfortunately in America, in our community, people are too worried to give another person feedback, because they don't know if the person who they give the feedback to is sincere enough to accept that feedback. When you go to someone and you give them feedback their brother or sister you know you should be considered of X, Y and Z. People get offended right away. If you tell someone your child was using

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bad language you should maybe teach them to be more soft in their language. parents get offended. How dare you say

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or speak about my child, they take offense right away. So if people give each other feedback, then the society creates a standard of modesty. Go back to the countries that our parents migrated from. And what you'll see there is that society had a standard of modesty, regardless of which religion you followed, if you're a Christian, Hindu, Muslim, whether you are Jewish, regardless of what religion you follow, there was a standard of modesty. People knew based off their culture, this is the time you came back home by this is the way you dressed. This is how you spoke, right? This is the way you would eat whatever it was, there was a level of modesty that was attached to everything,

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everything had an element of height attached to it. In our time. In our culture, and our culture and country, there is a constant sledgehammer that's being smashed against modesty, whatever remains taken out of the hearts of people yank it out of their veins. So a point comes that people have no modest lift anymore. People take pride in this these days. They take pride in a modesty. They take pride in saying, you know, you go to college and the summer break parties that occurred, people take pride in you know, summer break parties that you know, dress inappropriately, expose yourself do hot on, if a person doesn't do harm, or if a person doesn't maintain modesty, everyone laughs at that

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person. If you go to college, and you tell people that you know what, I've never had an intimate relationship with someone from the opposite gender, and I'm now finishing off my college people will think you're weird. You're awkward? Which halabi You know, this person is not right. Something's wrong with this person. Because modesty has now become abnormal. There was a time where if someone said that I've committed Zina by the age of 20. Everyone would say what you did what by the age before you were married, you committed sin outside of marriage? Is that a thing? You know, that was an abnormal thing. People would in the community talk about it that you know, this person committed

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But in our time, we've reached a place where it's become common now. What was never expected has now become the norm. And the prophets of Allah who it was sent him actually alluded to this in one narration where he said, one of the signs before the day of judgment is that Xena will become very common until the point where two people will be fornicating. And a person will come and tell them if you're going to commit Zina, at least don't do it on the main street, go behind the bush and do your thing there. And this person will have very strong Iman because he will have the courage to go and tell people don't smash on the train in front of people. This private room please, some privacy,

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some decency, please.

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And even in our religious families, people have lost modesty, even in our culture community, in our bearded brothers and hijabi. Sisters, you know, are the community where people think, you know, by the way people assume a job is modesty and beard is modesty. That's like the definition of it. And I'll address that later. I'll address this in a moment, it's possible for a person to be wearing for a person to be wearing a hijab and remaining modest. A garment does not equal to modesty, modesty and more is more than a garment. This is what the scholars say modesty is in your dress. It's in your speech. And it's also in your actions. Just because you're dressed modestly, doesn't make you

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modest. Some people they're modest in their dress, but in their speech, they're modest in their actions. They're modest. Another person may not have a modest garment on, but at least modest in their speech. At least they're modest in their actions. If a person can get all of them together, what hamdulillah from Alhamdulillah, what a beautiful thing, a person has complete modesty.

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So we live in a time where modesty is gone. It's been taken out of the hearts of people, even if you went to the religious community, and you told him that you know, the language you're using isn't appropriate. It's against modesty. There was once

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I was invited to a dinner.

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And there was a young couple who were married. Newly married means do four years back. They were married recently, three or four years back. And they kept calling each other babe in front of their parents.

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He was calling her babe, she's calling him babe. And I said to them, guys, this isn't with us. If this is not good language. Your parents are they're using the same language. They said, you know, leave us alone, we'll do what we want don't shove your definition of modesty down our throat. Well, it is true that there is an element of modesty that is cultural. But there is language that we use, you know, that we should use it in the presence of your parents out of out of out of honor of your parents. So the bar of modesty is constantly beaten down like that sledgehammer I was talking about just being beaten again, and beaten again, what was considered to be a no brainer in modesty, what

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was considered to be a no brainer, that was like thing, it was a no brainer, this would never happen, has now become the norm because of a constant intake of immodesty on TV. There was a time where if people saw, you know,

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two people from the same gender holding hands on public TV, this is the United States of America. I'm not talking about Muslims. I'm talking about the United States of America. There was a time where people

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saw two people from the same gender holding hands. People will feel awkward about it. Right? Because of the time because the culture and today it's another normal day, you know. And as a Muslim, I have no issue in saying this. That what Islam deems to be haram will always be haram it'll always be prohibited. And just because mass exposure on TV make may be an effort to normalize what is hot on, we should never consider it normal. We should never take pride in watching commercials where alcohol is being served, because that was hot, um, that was made a hot on by the media and it will remain hot until the end of times

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that he writes in his Habibullah while defining what what a flood is. He says a lot is for a person to once again to hold themselves back. However, in his in his definition, he adds one more thing. He says what in Kiba, who added column to hold back from certain speeches? Well, this is an element of modesty too.

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He then says

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modesty is only praiseworthy, if a person is modest at the right time, Madam takuna Yin wala, Arjun However, if a person is modest at the wrong time in the wrong way with the wrong intent, then there's no benefit in that. So for example, a person's in the battlefield where he's supposed to be a little tough, but he humbles himself that so there's no there's no good in that when you're in the ring. When you're fighting with someone. You're not supposed to be humble. What are you supposed to be tough? So there's a time to be tough. When you're in the mysteries you're supposed to be. Don't say tough, humble. But what happens when people come to the machine they become?

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They become tough in the machine. So it's in the macom, it's in the wrong place. So you humble yourself or you become modest, out of the right intent for the right reason that it's Mahmoud, it's praiseworthy, otherwise it becomes mug moon, and it's not a good thing.

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A person says that because of modesty. You know, for example, there's a person who says, my wife, I want her to be modest, and that modesty means that she cannot go to school to educate herself. That's not praiseworthy, that's not praiseworthy. That's not in any way that's not praiseworthy. If your definition of modesty takes away someone's right to attend the mustard if your definition of modesty prevents someone from an education, if your definition of modesty stops someone from just basic in basically enjoying their life, then that's not praiseworthy, whether it's for boys or girls, and I'll come to that later on. Because unfortunately, when it comes to modesty, there's a

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double standards and applying it. When we think of modesty, what are all the guys thinking right now, the mom is talking to

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Because modesty is something that's usually thrown on sisters, you guys need to be modest. You guys need to be modest. When the truth is modesty, it needs to apply to both. And if we want our children to understand proper modesty, look at the double standards. If a guy says that he's going out with a girl, the parents are okay with it. If a girl says she's going out with a guy, what happens? The whole community freaks out. Now, I'm not saying you should be happy with either I'm saying you should freak out with both because islamically both are hot on. But look at the double standards. A man is okay, because he's a guy at the end of the day. But at the same thing a girl does.

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unacceptable that can never be accepted. A guy can go around on social media, go on Instagram and stare in a very hot arm way at all these pictures that are on there that people are posting. And what do people say? He's just a boy?

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jacket they What do they say?

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It's just a boy. It's not a big deal boys. It's a boy thing. Guys do that. guys talk inappropriately, guys dressing appropriately. You know, that's okay. It's a guy thing. But if a girl does the exact same thing, what happens then all hell breaks down loose. Create consistency. Create consistency in implementing modesty. If you can create consistency in implementing modesty or in any form of anything you're implementing, if you can create consistency, those who you're trying to ask to adopt that characteristic, they will be more welcoming and adopting it. But if you close the doors on them from the beginning, then they're not going to be interested. So if we were talking

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about how to create modesty, which I'll talk about later on towards the end of the class, I just want to highlight this here. Create proper standards Don't be double standard when you're implementing modesty or when you're encouraging

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It will Muslim and humbling.

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He says that higher is a characteristic which encourages a person to do good and stops them from doing what could be and encourages them to stay away from that which is inappropriate. Mmm no they don't move to LA Holly. In is the other side of him. He quotes

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Along with the definition of modesty, which is very interesting.

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fired a while at Vayner Houma, Halton to some higher. He says higher modesty is for a person to know to focus over Allah, Allah, Allah favors the favors of Allah upon you. And to reflect over your weaknesses. When you reflect over your bounties and your weaknesses, when you continuously reflect over these two, it will create a balance in you, that will keep you away from doing harm, and encourage you to do harder,

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because you're reflecting over those boundaries. So when you're thinking of a loss bounties that encourages you that I should do what Allah has told me to do, so that I can utilize these boundaries. You think of your weaknesses, and you remind yourself that if I do what I love told me not to do, I will be punished for a lie and I'm already a weak person. So how will I handle that punishment? So these two constant reflections will lead you to a middle ground. And that middle ground will be where you will find your modesty because ultimately when scholars define modesty, if you notice, in the leafless previous definition I gave, he said it's a characteristic that

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encourages you to do good and keeps you away from doing evil. It keeps you away from doing evil. That's what modesty actually is.

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In one Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, in the inner bakoma Hi, your Lord

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has higher

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khadim yes that even Abdi, your Lord has higher and your role in your Lord is Allah Karim. And so what does this mean? That Allah subhanho wa Taala is modest or Allah has high up fiddles about it?

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on this issue, he writes

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Faina who karimun? Yes, the human AB de la la jolla de Massey, for your Lord, having higher What that means is that your Lord feels shameful or your Lord is shameful, that he turned back the hands of a servant once he raises them in front of a lot asking Allah subhana wa Tada. That's why we raised our hands when we make the law. Because when you raise your hands in front of a law and you make the law, you are showing your humbleness, you're putting yourself on the ground like a beggar. You're asking to lay out a law. Without you there is no hope. And Allah subhanho wa Taala will not allow your hands to go down without giving you what you're asking for.

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Now, the Hadith says it lm testa he first nama *, when you have no modesty than do as you will do as you wish. What is this hadith mean? If you study the Hadith, literally, what it's telling us is, when you lose your modesty, do whatever you want to do whatever you want to what does that mean?

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Literally, if you take this Hadith, that means do whatever you want. Forget about how long How long will knock yourself out code drink up, go drug up, go party up. That's what this Hadeeth literally can be translated to. However, that's why we don't translate the text of the Quran and Hadith and derive our lessons from there, we view them in a greater context, we understand the language being used by the Arabs and how they use it. So

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think of this statement, kind of in a sarcastic tone.

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Think of it as think of it more in a sarcastic tone. So for example, a parent says to their child, that you need to start listening to me otherwise do as you wish. Do as you wish doesn't mean that parent is saying hang yourself and kill yourself. That's not what they're saying. What are they saying actually, they're being sarcastic, with Do as you wish, meaning that anything you do, aside from obeying me, will lead you to failure. what I'm telling you is your success. You need to do this to be successful. If you don't, then you will find failure at your doorstep. This is what I'm telling you from my experience. Now we find examples of this in Book Club, for example, and also in

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the Hadith. Allah says McLaren mansha, a fellow human woman shout out for that for whoever wishes, let him believe whoever wishes let him disbelieve. So someone can deduce from the literal translation that you can just believe in Allah if you want to because Allah says whoever wishes he can just believe. But that's not what's happening here. This is for the lead the lead Daddy, this is to wake you up, come like a shaker. Like do you really want to do that?

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Do you really want to go and disbelieve in Allah somehow don't without it. And then right after that Allah says in the artisanal cafe Dena, not all that we've created for those who disbelieve a punishment.

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In one narration, the puffs of alojado some cinnamon bow hammer, fell, you shocked this alpha z, that whoever purchases alcohol, let him go and consume a swine. That doesn't mean that you go and consumes

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wine. What that means is Don't, don't listen. don't consume alcohol. Oh my God Allah Juan said, Minister Tyrell Haji Sevilla wollemi, Fujifilm gamma insha yahudi. And what insha Allah serrania that whoever has the ability to perform hajj and doesn't perform it, I'm going to do long one set. Whoever has the ability to perform hides and does not perform it doesn't let him die if he wishes as a yahoodi or an assignee. So he's not saying convert, what is he saying? He's emphasizing the importance of performing hajj. Similarly, Abu huraira, the Allahu unset, Oman wadjet, Assad and William UVA he for shadow salada, that whoever has the ability to sacrifice an animal for eternity,

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and does not do so I will radiola one set, then tell him not to join us in eternal prayer that that doesn't mean don't join them in either law still have to pay you the love is still necessary for you. But he's emphasizing the importance of slaughtering the animal if you have the ability.

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There's a beautiful, beautiful poem regarding

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HIA in modesty and it uses the words of this Hadith,

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either Tushar, Kiba Layali wollam to study. First not matter show, that when you no longer feel the outcome of your actions, and you have no modesty, then do as you will.

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Either lm Tasha RT battle Layali wollam test. First not matter shall follow will la Haemophilia he hiren wala dounia EDA either.

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Because by a law there is no beauty in this world anymore, and there is no beauty in life anymore. If modesty is gone,

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if modesty is gone, the world is no longer beautiful. If modesty is gone, life is no longer beautiful. Hire is a very good thing. I tell young couples that are getting married, they come to me and they say to me perform the nikka I tell them I'm willing to perform your nikka. But the bride and groom must come to my house and take a one hour introduction to marriage class with me. And they come to my house and I advise them on marriage. And one of the things I always tell them, that it's very important for you that you do not lose modesty even amongst one another.

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Even when you're in the house dress to a standard. Technically, it may be permissible for you to see each other. But that doesn't mean you need to expose your own 24 seven, dress with modesty. In your speech be modest when you're speaking when you speak with your spouse. Because as long as you maintain modesty in your address in your speech in your actions, people lose modesty and forgive me for sharing some of these examples. But it is what it is, you know, people women are coming in saying that my husband, he's not modest anymore. I'm sitting there in the living room and he's passing gas in front of me. No modesty, you're probably thinking What a weird thing to do. It's

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happening. People have lost modesty in their actions. They've lost modesty in their speech. They've lost modesty in their dress. And if these things don't exist, then that you know that that beauty of marriage, that class that should exist, that standard of eloquence that should exist, that every human being should have is gone. Then at that point, as the Koran says, will are equal. And then you become like cattle Balham even worse.

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There are many a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam regarding the virtue of modesty. ifield Rahim Allah Allahu taala after quoting the Hadith in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that

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I'll hire a woman or a man that modesty is from faith after quoting that Hadith in a theater himolla says modesty is from faith because our faith our Deen tells us to do two things. Some things were told to do. Some things were told to stay away from and it's complete modesty that should encourage you to do those things and complete modesty should refrain should stop you from doing the things Allah subhana wa tada told you to stay away from modesty holds a very big place in our Deen abou when unsalted Guardiola Juan said that the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said about the sooner and mursaleen for things are from the Sunnah, from the way from the habits from the

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practice of the prophets, and higher what the upload was seawalk one nikka modesty

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smelling good applying fragrance was seawalk and using the miswak the toothbrush to clean your teeth, when nica and marriage.

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And so the allowable unsaid that the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said

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in modesty does not enter into anything but it makes it distasteful anytime a person or an action has been modesty in it, it loses its taste It's no longer classy it no longer in last Shana who Shana who Eva who What are kind of higher officiate in fact Illa Zana who

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To the opposite, whenever you add modesty to something that thing becomes very beautiful

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It's like your nail polish it's like your your makeup when you add modesty when a person becomes modest in their dress, modest in their speech they lower their voice when they talk right when they walk they walk modestly as well. boxy the fee mushfiqur was the min Celtic Allah says what modesty and appropriately and lower your voice in the uncommon aswat the salted hamir because the most disliked mouth noise to a lie the noise of a donkey this it makes a loud noise it's too loud Be humble lower yourself be modest

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there's one narration from I would love and then also the alarm on him and then he said a lot more it was centimeter above other love wow but then NASA amin will hire what Allah is angry with a servant he takes away modesty from that person.

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And when a person loses their modesty then you will not be happy with that person and everyone will dislike that person when as Amina Amana and then Allah will also will take away trust from that person for you. That doesn't mean Amana Meza, amin huruma when he loses his trust, that Allah will take away his mercy from that person. way that doesn't mean what Rama when a lot takes away the mercy from that person. naza I mean who rebetol Islam, Allah subhanaw taala will then take away from that person. The difficulty is like a chain like Ottawa, like a link holds a person what keeps a person shackled, you know what's holding in holding you in Islam, you will lose that to why the

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another I'm in horrible katell Islam lampo illa shaytaan Merida, and when you when the person loses Islam, then you will see him to be nothing less than a transgressing devil. That's what will happen to you. It's like a it's like a domino effect. You lose one, you lose your loss angry, you lose modesty. You lose Amana, you lose Rama, you lose your Islam. What I'm trying to illustrate by medela and then a person becomes like a transgressing devil.

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In one narration, the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saw a companion and he was well Who are you article who fell higher. There was one man he was he was kind of scolding or reprimanding his brother because his brother was too modest. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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Thou who for in a higher Amina Li man, leave him alone. Because hyah and modesty is a part of faith. HIA is a very good thing. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in another narration, an HIA will it Allah behave? The higher and modesty will only bring good to a person's life. And there's a narration from a la city. He says that the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to me in the FECA, Lucha lucchini you Hebrew whom Allah that you have two characteristics in you that Allah loves very dearly, both to a madman, I said a messenger of Allah What are they bought a hilmar will hire you are forbearing and you are modest. He said, I've got the manuka honey scented I've

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always had these characteristics are there recently adopt them, tolerable for them, and you've always had them. So he said Alhamdulillah, Hilary Jelani Allah holophane Allah, all praises for Allah, Who imbedded in my life characteristics that please Allah subhana wa Tada. That's what modesty does.

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Now, the scholars have a lengthy discussion on the different types of modesty. So depending on what angle you're looking at it from, you will have a different perspective. I love a Medallia Rahmatullah era, the famous Muhammad, he says at a higher window on that higher is of two types. The first is what he called an obscenity. And the second is what he calls Imani. And if Sonny is a natural

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level of modesty that should exist in every person.

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For example, you dress yourself appropriately, you don't cover yourself, you don't leave your private area uncovered. You don't have to be a Muslim to know that. You don't have to follow any religion. Even an atheist and agnostic, someone who is in doubt of their faith, they know that it's natural that you cover your body. You guys understand that? That's higher.

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and higher. Imani? Higher Imani is a modesty that saves you from disobeying Allah subhanho wa Taala Min philia Hara Hofer Mineola, and this higher Imani, as you can see the language it's with those people who have in mind those people who believe in Allah subhanho wa Taala they will have this level of emotion and what's stopping them isn't the thought that people What will they think? But stopping them is a thought that what about Allah subhana wa tada How can I displease Allah subhanho wa Taala it will tell you about him a whole lot of data.

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He says that HIA is of 10 types

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how many types

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10 times

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hyah Sharpie larysa

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and hire FC. These are the 10 different levels of hire that he's listed

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out quickly walk you through each one what he means by higher will jenaya this is shamefulness out of committing a crime.

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And he then says family who hire Adam alayhis salam lama farhadi bonfils agenda Corolla for Armenia Adam. Paula yeah Rob Bell hieromonk when Adam Ali Salam made his mistake, he ran as if he was trying to exit agenda and Allah said are you trying to run away from me and other money Salaam said no Allah I'm not running from you. I'm not running from Jenna but I'm running because I have shame of my sin and I don't have the ability to face you to stand in front of you. Hi, Algeria. So shamefulness out of due to committing a crime.

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The second is higher autopsies.

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High autopsy succeed is for a person to be modest and shameful of Allah

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because they have shortcomings. So for example, the angels they only worship Allah but they are still shameful in from Allah subhanho wa Taala. What are they shameful of?

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They feel that we could have been better in worshipping Allah subhana wa Tada. Higher,

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higher knowledge Allah.

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This is the higher that a person has out of greatness. Out of means out of magnificence. A person is

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in the constant thought that I need to have higher of Allah azza wa jal because of how great Allah subhana wa tada isn't a how nothing I am sick a person, a poor person who may go to the palace of a king. He has modesty. He's shameful. Why is that he thinks to himself, I'm nothing and the king has everything. That's a level of another level of higher, then he says higher will come. This is higher in being hospitable. And the example of this is when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam through the walima for zenobia La Mancha when they invited everyone some Sahaba overstayed and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam did not stop them from staying even though he wanted them to leave out of

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HIA out of shamefulness because he was being hospitable.

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Number five,

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hi al hushmat. This is to be shy and modest due to your personal matters. The example of this is Alia the alarm on

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being reluctant to ask the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam regarding

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discharge from his private area that's caused due to being aroused. He was afraid to ask the Prophet this question, not afraid, but he was shy. And the reason is because he was married to the prophets daughter. How was he going to ask a question like this to the prophets of Allah how it was set him regarding money, when he is the son in law of the prophets of Allah while he was

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then higher.

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bar high allistic bar means modesty out of humbling oneself.

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So this is different from high ology La Jolla, La Jolla is where you think of how great the other person is. High allistic thought is that you're modest because you reflect more on how little you are, Hi, I'm nothing. I'm nothing. So I should be modest in front of Allah subhanho wa Tada. I should remain maintain my position. The great example of this is of Eos. For those of you who have read history, the subcontinent history, the One prominent example they always give is of the loyalty that he has had to his master sofa.

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So that, you know, he, he had a servant whose name was he has and he was very modest and very humble. People were very jealous of him because in a very short period of time, he went from being a farmer, to becoming a close advisor of the salon. You can imagine naturally, people became jealous. A group of people came to salon, and they started stirring stuff about him. Someone said to Sultan Mahmud, that you shouldn't trust that guy. He's a farmer. He hasn't gone through the protocol doesn't understand proper etiquette. He's a no name. Don't trust him, so no need to trust him a lot. He saw something in him.

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It was a very intelligent man. One day some farmer who doesn't know he said to him

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We'll give you a ring engraved something on there, engraved something on there that if I look at it, when I'm sad, it'll make me happy. And if I look at it when I'm happy, it'll make me sad. That's such a thing on my grave on my engraving on my ring.

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So he has took the ring and he engraved on there, this moment will pass.

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When a person's happy, it makes them sad when they think about that this moment is gonna pass. And when a person is sad, and they reflect over this moments gonna pass what happens? It makes them happy.

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So, someone once accused a, as someone said to the king, that there's a diamond missing. And it was eoz who stole it.

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So the king said, What's your proof, they said every day. In the afternoon, he secretly slips out of the palace and goes to a hut in the corner of the village. And I appointed someone to follow him. When he reaches his cupboard. When he reaches his home, in the corner of the village, that hut, he enters inside. He opens up a cupboard opens in just a little bit, so no one can see. He stands there and smiles and closes it. So he's hiding something in there, and it's definitely your pearl.

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So Tom wasn't ready, enraged. He told his men go and arrest him and go and bury that cover. They brought the suit, they brought the as in front of Sultan Mahmud and Salaam and said open your cupboard. He said, I won't do it. So he said, open it. He said no. So So thought ordered his men, they smashed the cupboard when they opened it, there were some old ripped torn pieces of garments in there. So someone said, What's this? He said, also thought I spent all day in this in this palace, wearing nice robes, eating nice food being fanned. And I think of how lucky I am to be your servant. And in order to remind myself of how lucky I am, I come to this heart of mine, I open up this

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cupboard, and I look at the garments I was wearing the day you recruited me. I used to work in our farm. And these are the garments I used to wear. And it reminds me of how lucky I am to have you as my leader and my master.

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his loyalty was very unique. You know, there's a poem regarding them. And many of you may have heard of it and not knowing that it's regarding these two, a key stuff MC carta, who am i is Nikita have been dynaco Vandana was that Mahmoud is are now standing in one soft for Salah, and they're both equal. Nobody knows who's the king and nobody knows who's the Who's that who's a servant. So there's one incident regarding them that one day that people came to

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so far, and they said to someone that eoz isn't worthy of being in your group. He's not worthy of being in this gathering of ours.

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So the king said, I will prove to you that He is worthy of it. And what he did was he invited everyone to a room where they were discussing some important affairs, and the salon give every person a fruit and give them a knife. Each person started cutting their food and eating it. And as they started eating it, they started spitting the fruit out and vomiting. It was some very bitter fruit, maybe grapefruit or something like that, you know, some very bitter fruit.

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Only those people who have who have diabetes or you're very sick, you eat that kind of fruit. Otherwise, the person who's in good health doesn't touch it. So everyone started spitting it out. Oh, he's bad. It tastes bad.

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Now while they were all spitting it out. So Tom Mahmood, he said to have one should look.

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And he pointed towards the corner of the room. And he was sitting there eating it licking his fingers. He was enjoying it like he's eating fried chicken.

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So they said, Well, what do you expect from him from him? He doesn't have a fine palate. He doesn't understand. You know what food is? He hasn't lived in a palace. He eats anything. That guy probably it's done too. So then the salon asks the US have you? Do you have a joy in eating? Do you enjoy eating this fruit? He said, No, I don't enjoy eating this fruit. He said, Well, it looks like you're having a blast if you're eating some kind of cake or something. Carrot Cake. So he said, Well,

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the truth is, I don't enjoy it. But I tell myself all of this time all these years that I've been with you, you've only given me sweet fruits. And if today you gave me one bitter food, I will tell myself It's sweet. And I'll eat it with the same joy that you've always fed me with

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the loyalty of eoz. And he was able to deliver that loyalty because what he remembered his origins. He remembered where he started from. And there are so many examples. Another group of people came to salon one day and they said to him that get rid of as they were constantly after him, get rid of him, get rid of them, get rid of them. So the Sultan said he's very intelligent. Not only is he loyal, he's intelligent. One day this whole time, took all of his courtiers to into into a vault. And he said, You have five minutes, take whatever you want. Everyone started grabbing everything. Grabbing whatever gold they can. Whatever you take is yours. Yours was just sitting there by the

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listening to him talking to him while the whole world was running around. When they finally everyone sat down there were like maybe 30 seconds left, someone said. Look at

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Idiot. Everyone took something he didn't take anything. They asked me, Why don't you take anything. He said, I'm not the foolish one you guys are. And there were 10 seconds left, he got up. He said, The King said, whatever you take is yours. He put his hat on the king's head.

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He said, If I have him, I have everything. You only have something, I have everything. They use the example of yas for his loyalty. They say be loyal, like the loyalty of yours, then there's higher of muhabba higher of bashfulness. This is where you love someone so much that even in their absence, you think of them, and it's their thought that keeps you straight from doing things that you shouldn't be doing. Hyah Buddha, this is where a person combines love and fear and he worships Allah subhanahu wa taala in a manner that is deserving that Allah subhanahu wa tada worships that is worship, and then higher up shutoff. And this is where a person does good deeds. But even after

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doing good deeds, he feels that it was beneath his caliber, many he could have done even more. So he is shy over those deeds. And the last is at higher Min nuptse he were a person a model where a person is modest from himself, meaning that he isn't modest due to a factor or someone else or some a Baba or someone's love. He's modest from himself that I should create a level of formality with my own self, that even when I'm alone, I shouldn't uncover myself completely. You know, of mine of your loved one when he would bathe. Even though he was alone, he would cover himself. He would wrap a sheet wrap a cloth around his waist because he had higher with himself. And the purpose of a long

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while he was sent him said how can I How can I not be modest in front of a person that the angels are modest in front of you guys know that narration? The Prophet is sitting one day with his legs exposed with his legs extended and his sheet was a little higher than normal. His leg part of his leg was exposed and welcome to came in the profits sat there on when it came in the profit sat there will automatically allow one knock on the door and sought permission what are the profit do he fixed his garment and set properly? The Sahaba they sent a messenger of Allah we came you didn't sit for us like this why for him? So the Prophet that a lot of money was sent him says this is of mine. Even

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the angels are shy of this person, because of a level of modesty and shyness he had with himself.

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How do we create modesty?

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The $1,000 million dollar question How does a person create modesty

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two simple things. create positive influence, remove negative influence,

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create positive influence, sit with people who are modest sit in their company. When you see them, the way they dress, the way they talk, the way they interact. You will learn modesty from them. That this is how you dress. This is how you don't dress this is how you speak. This is how you don't speak. The second thing is be in their company. Second thing read about the scholars of the past. Read about the Sahaba read about the MBR Allahu Salah when you read about them, you will be inspired by their story to imitate them. And as we discussed, the lesson of modesty is not new to our religion. lesson of modesty is one of the oldest lessons every prophet came with this lesson as this

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hadith itself taught us

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refrain negative influences, exit WhatsApp groups that are negative influence to you. If you have friends in your whatsapp group will make rude jokes and think it's normal, or post inappropriate pictures and say it's normal leave it you know, if you have friends who who can't call while they're walking, leave them in this is a big problem even with Muslims. I was once on a university campus. And it was a 10th of Harlem. I remember we just finished fasting we did a thought and I was walking with them towards a lecture hall. And while we were walking together, there were two brothers next to me. One of them said three the other one said seven. I had no idea what was going on. I charged

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them and I said what's this three and seven? So they said shares is better? You don't know. I said to them now that you've said I can't know I need to know. So I have to know. So then those two they they didn't have the heart to tell me so I asked the guy next to me. I said what is this three and seven? They're saying? He said well, when we were walking some girl must have walked fast and that one must have greeted her three out of 10 the other one a seven out of 10

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what are

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some of you guys know exactly what I'm talking about? Others are probably thinking that's impossible. Trust me. Everything is possible. In the times that we live in every there's no such thing as impossible anymore. wives are coming in complaining that my husband is forcing me to watch inappropriate videos with him before we're intimate.

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When I say inappropriate, don't think of lightly inappropriate I'm thinking of like inappropriate

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to the nth limit. I don't want to even say the word inappropriate, right? That's where our marriages are now that's where our youth are now. And they're saying I want out of this marriage, I can't deal with a monster like this. Who who is so inappropriate, who's lost all levels of modesty.

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Be careful of how much you consume on the internet.

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In particular, even places you might be innocent. Your usage of Facebook, Twitter, YouTube might be an innocent usage. But you have to remember even when you go on YouTube, right, before they used to market on the sidebar, remember that on the sidebar, they used to have marketing ads there. Now along with that, what else have they done?

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Your video stops, and YouTube did it. And now Who else is doing it? Facebook's doing it too. There isn't a place that you want to watch. You know, we've come to a time where adults feel comfortable sitting there watching the Superbowl while the shampoo commercial goes on. And nobody says anything. That shampoo commercial is right out. straight out of the way that person is inappropriately dressed or not dressed at all, man I see. Right? But it's become normal. Consider careful, be careful, the more you can avoid the internet, the better it is. I'll tell you that. And what I'm about to tell you right now may sound really extreme. And you guys are probably going to say this is the worst

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lecture, I should have never listened to this lecture. But I'm gonna say it anyway, because of my sincerity to you because of my love for you all. Even when you're browsing the internet, if you can just disable the images, you don't know which ad which image is going to come up that's going to create or stir inappropriate thought in your mind, avoid it altogether, try to cut down. You know, there was a time where you remember when we would browse the internet, there would be like,

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there weren't images. It was all text based. Do you guys remember that? No.

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There was a time

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in like the early 2000s. When the internet phones first came out, it was all wack these to call the WAP connection, right? So during that time, it was all text based. You can browse the internet, at least with some sort of security. But in no time of images everywhere you go. wives are complaining that my husband, he sits and he just goes through

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Instagram and is looking at everybody's wedding pictures and he's like, you know, busting his eyes out on them just looking at them. And husbands are saying the same thing about their wives and it's all this a big mess. Stay away from inappropriateness. If you're trying to do therapy of your kids, and you're accepting Well, we may consider soft or moderate inappropriateness. Even today's pG 13 is not really pG 13. You guys know that? Right? Do you guys? Do you guys accept that? Even today's pG 13 is not really pG 13 rated mature is not made rated mature. Rated R is like, don't even go there. So we accept levels of inappropriateness and modest in modesty when watching TV in front of our

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kids. What lesson Do you think we're giving them?

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What lesson are we giving them or giving them a lesson that in modesty is okay? If you see your parents doing it, that opens the door for you. If you can sit with their kids, and watch a Bollywood movie, there was a time where even the Bollywood industry was somewhat modest. Now like you know, they're even worse than Hollywood movies. From what I hear. This is where the this is where the community has gone.

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When I went I went off with it in Lebanon. So be very careful of what you're watching in the presence of your kids. This will help you develop modesty in yourself and also with your kids. It's also very important that we maintain proper standards when it comes to modesty. In the eye of the Quran, where Allah tells women to lower their gaze, Allah also tells men to lower their gaze. Whenever we talk about lowering the gaze who has that focus usually in our community cater to the men. Everyone tells them and lower your gaze lower your gaze lower your gaze. Yes, the put on tos the manager lowered their gaze. But in that very same verse, that very same passage of sort of nude

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what's the next I

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mean, I'm sorry, him then. Oculus luminati Yeah, I mean, I'm sorry, him. Tell the women to lower their gaze to us. The hobby came to the office of a lobby Saddam's house, he was blind. the wives of the Prophet were speaking and they were looking at him. The Prophet said to them lowering your gaze. They said our messenger of Allah, he's blind. So the Prophet said, I'm Yolanda, Angela, Angela, are you too blind to

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just as he's told to lower his gaze, he has his bargain and modesty, you have your responsibility to there. And just as when we talk about modesty, everyone thinks of women right away, that they have a particular dress code that they wear this and then on top of that they were this and on top of that, they were that on top of that they were this, that's great. We're all in favor of that. But if we give women a standard for modesty, our men needs to be also given a standard of modesty. It's not acceptable for women to come to the budget. You know, this is how people they speak. They say it's it's not acceptable for women to come to the motions without the hijab.

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Which I'm in which I also encourage women that when you come to the masjid, you should wear the hijab. I'm not against that, but it's completely okay if a guy comes to Salah with his behind exposed while the springs are masala right in front of the women's section. That's how come that's somehow completely okay. The standard needs to be constant. We need to be consistent in our arguments that men need to be told you need to dress properly to, you can wear skintight clothes, you can have every layer in every inch of your body exposed through some spandex, spandex material you're wearing and say that somehow Okay, and just keep telling women that you can't dress you need

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to dress you need to dress you need to dress the

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the lesson of hijab, the lesson of modesty, the lesson of lowering the gaze applies to both genders.

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And the last thing I want to say, most people, they feel that modesty is difficult because it's restricting.

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It holds them back. So find a way for you to be modest and still enjoy your life.

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If for example, modesty means that you can't go to a beach where everyone is crowded, that may be considered driving a few miles more and finding an empty vacant part of that peach, final Hello way of enjoying yourself.

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Otherwise, you'll always feel the you'll always feel a void in your life. If you're not going to watch a particular show, or TV altogether, because you think that's not good for you. Then find an alternative way to entertain yourself and your family. But always make sure there's something you're doing. Because if you're constantly just ignoring and not doing and not doing not doing there'll be an emptiness in you. And what we fear is that emptiness may overcome you and take you back to your old life again, take you back to that immodest life if that's where you've come from.

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I just want to close off with one or two statements on modesty from the scholars of the past. Even Masuda de la Juan said whoever is not shameful of people will have no shame in front of Allah subhanho wa Taala for they've been IOD says, There are five signs of wretchedness.

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Plus what don't feel called for your heart to be for your heart to become hard jumeau the line for you to stop crying for your eyes to become dry. A little higher, to lose your modesty, about fit dunia, to have great desire for worldly possessions. Well, Toodle ml and having long dreams that I'm going to accomplish this in the dunya accomplish that under dunya. This is all sign that you've gotten very far from Allah subhana wa tada

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Amato, the Allahu unset mon Cala hyah, who Kala Kala was

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that the one who loses modesty will lose his ability to refrain restrain, and the one who stops restraining from harm. Who can't do what we talked about what before and one of the classes he will, his heart will die. And I will back at the last one.

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He told his companions be shameful in front of Allah subhana wa tada

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because even when I go to the washroom of workers to defer the allowances

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even when I go to the washroom, I cover myself with my two garments in a way where even I can't see myself out of higher. Mayra Maya Allah subhana wa tada v. When you think of Hi, I think of yourself in the area immediately around you. What can you change to create a level of security and safety and encouragement of doing good safety and security for yourself and for others, right? You don't want to step on someone else's in someone else's domain, someone else's area where you make them feel uncomfortable. And also, my modesty shouldn't just tell me she didn't just encouraged me to live up to social standards. My modesty should ultimately take me to remember that a man were 11 when I when

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I hit the law, he said, he said there is a natural modesty which which which is which is taught through society. Society has has its lesson in that you dress appropriately you do this, you don't do that. But then there's also a level of modesty that should be between you and Allah subhanho wa Taala that's where we should all be aiming towards, level of always being in the Presence of Allah, not wanting to displease Allah subhana wa Tada. Thinking of the greatness of Allah, thinking of how little you are thinking of Your Beloved and even in his absence, thinking of him and being modest of Him in His love. These are all things that needed to reflect over and think we'll pray that Allah

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subhana wa blesses us all with a beautiful characteristic of hyah and Allah subhanahu wa tada makes us amongst those who are modest in a way that allow us to be modest. And Allah subhana wa tada saves our children and our progeny from being immodest. And Allah subhanaw taala blesses us and our progeny in our community in our youth and our adults in our men and our women, our Muslim and non Muslim community with the modesty of the MBR Allah Himself said a lot while I say that

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Hamad Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.