Islamic Manners #17
Channel: Hussain Kamani
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Today we read the closing chapter of shareholder Fatah mobile Daramola hotel, his book on Islamic manners, the manner of attending weddings.
But before we read I was just thinking earlier today how quickly this series passed by.
It seems like this is a class that we just started.
But today after 100 I'm not sure of the exact number of classes we've held. We are
preparing to complete the book. So inshallah we pray that Allah subhana wa Tada gives us better kind of feel to
to offer the correct edit to these gatherings of knowledge and allows us to continue to benefit from the writings and teachings of the shift. Yes, go ahead.
The honor of attending weddings. When you're invited, attend with the intention that you are attending they bless it and good invitation, one which is delightful and approved in the Shediac. A civil law some Allamani has also commanded us to attend such occasions, dress appropriately within the confines of *ty for such pleasant gatherings. The Sahaba will be the one who used to dress properly when they visited each other. When initiating or sharing in a discussion, make sure your conversation fits the happy occasion. Don't discuss such things which will depress those present or any other distasteful subject matters. A believer should be wise and considerable. So the first
thing that he mentions that when you are invited, attend with the intention that you are attending a blessing and good invitation.
This applies to all gatherings that when you are going to a gathering take on or take joy. Someone has made some sacrifice in preparing this dinner this event for your attendance, the bare minimum that we can do is be happy, be excited. I know it's common for people to say like oh, I got to go to a wedding again. And they're almost dragging their feet. And trust me, I get it. Because it gets a little overwhelming going from one social gathering to the next social gathering. But understand that the person who is inviting you, they're doing their best to host you, the bare minimum you can do is be excited, right? Make dua for them dressed for the occasion. Therefore, he says that dress
appropriately within the confines of Shadia. Everyone wants to dress nice when they're in a public gathering. But it's easy to dress in a way that is no longer appropriate initially in a way that you are exposing your body or in a way that your body and your clothes are one where it's clinging and it's as if you're exposing your body. So dress appropriately, modestly.
You can dress modestly and elegantly at the same time.
Weddings are the same as any gathering. That just as you would be mindful of gender interaction. Just as you would be mindful of not wasting time not backbiting just as you will be mindful of
not wasting money. Not serving alcohol, not dancing and goofing around. The same applies to weddings. The issue is that the world that we live in and people think of weddings as your one free pass
you guys understand? So they think all the Haram you want to do economic or
all the Haram you have built up in your body one night knock yourself up. No Shediac no Fudan no Islam, no Quran.
Enjoy our wedding like that. What a beautiful way to start a relationship. Violet Allah full blow. And then at the end ask Allah for Baraka.
Oh, the hypocrisy and then son
1000 Inaho and bow in the hands of his demonic neighbor Do you disobey your LORD with courage yet you try to show your love for law. This is some
Unique we haven't seen this before in physical money Leba de la G. This is something that we haven't seen before. One of my teachers used to say
that after reading the dy of Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, them and Nikka Baraka, an eSATA homeowner, the nigga with the most Baraka is the one with the least expenses. It has become clear to me or teacher said that there is every temptation at the time of Annika to push the boundaries and do something that would displease Allah. And in a moment like that it takes true taqwa and resolve to say no to all those temptations, and treat this gathering like any other gathering and learn to find joy and happiness within the commands of Allah.
That is a symbol of truth. Dakhla. And it's that way that ALLAH SubhanA morth, Allah will bless your marriage because of for as long as you're together.
We believe as Muslims, that marriages
are difficult. They're beautiful. They're amazing, but they have challenges. Earlier today, I was speaking to an individual little senior, who was married and got married again. Then again, and then again, again, again, again, again.
So this person was going back to their one of their marriages. And I said to the person that look happy. Marriages are difficult. You can't walk out every time you have a tough day.
You can't just walk away, you're going back to your spouse, you need to think yourself that this marriage is going to be tough, and we're going to have a hard time and it's not going to be easy. And I'm going to have to sub it and there are going to be all sorts of issues that are going to come up you can't bail every time there's a problem.
But ultimately, from a spiritual perspective,
the glue that is required for a
successful marriage is what we recognize in slum as Baraka therefore sort of lost along audio said a midwife or Baraka when he would initiate an ICA when he would conduct an ICA that was written the head Barak along with that Kobata colleague, well, Gemma being in a coma.
It says do have sort of lost a lot of sleep. There's a lot that we should read.
I get a lot of weddings and people go around saying well, Luke
Yeah, Millbrook. I know it's a common greeting and not to be in on me so 100
in firsthand Mabrouk means a seated candle.
Baraka in order to be means for a camel to sit down. So you say Barack Obama.
Barack Obama means a camel sat down, Millbrook means what? A camel that feed.
Barack Allahu Allah about a colleague, whichever Avena Kuma few height, right that the wild talked to us about a sudden loss and loss in such a beautiful blonde such an amazing talk virus total loss.
So as you go through these celebrations, and as you go through maybe your day, in Hong Kong, you should be thoughtful and mindful that there is a trade off occurring in this moment.
That for every
every step that you take, that displeases Allah subhanahu wa Tada. You're trading off a level of Baraka. It's your choice. It's your marriage. But you have to ask yourself, is it worth it? Yes, it's true that your friends may say that it wasn't as exciting as a wedding as the others had and maybe it locked in some pizzazz and maybe, you know, it didn't have the same vibe that other weddings have. But the reality is that the people who talk today tomorrow they'll forget anyway.
What remains? What remains right now in the Kenyan federal AMA and the law Heba what you have with you today Yeah, in fact, it'll cease to exist. Well, my Angola hipath and everything that is with Allah and all of your good deeds and your moments of fatwa, they will be with Allah forever. As Allah azza wa jal and says, we're about to Solly how to hire in the rhombic
father, Mohammed m&r, or Lhasa Jen says that about the other side hat and good deeds, those that remain about the those that will remain a solid heart, good deeds that you did.
It's easy to crumble into social pressure.
It's hard for people to stand up and say I won't do this. Knowing that all the challenges that will lie ahead of you, from society from family, maybe even disappointment with yourself.
it's something that we should definitely be mindful of and be considerate. So here he says, dress appropriately within the confines of *tier
for such pleasant gatherings
Sahaba used to dress properly when they visited each other. So this is a general statement that one does. Haba would visit each other, they would dress something special, put on something unique. Nice.
He's connecting us back to a point that he started off with.
In the earlier part of the book, check out the fact that google.com Allah Tala said that a part of the elegance of the believer is that they dress appropriately for each gathering.
You don't wear your Masjid gear when you're playing basketball and you don't wear your basketball gear when you're in the masjid.
Both are inappropriate. There's a time for the fold. There's a time for the shorts, right?
Each each Each place has its own attire. When you go to a wedding, there's a different attire there. When you go to work. There's a different attire there. So dress appropriately for your gatherings. So he says that when you the next point that he mentions, which is also quite eloquent.
He says that when you attend a gathering, and you are asked to speak, whether it's with a few people on your table, or in the situation that you're actually talking from the podium. It's a moment of happiness and joy. Don't talk about sad things. Does that make sense? You have to be mindful.
You get up on the on the on the mic and you talk about your diseases. Everyone's thinking, oh my god, what a great moment. We came here to celebrate this nigga. You hear people get up and they're talking about they're giving advice to the soon to be bride and groom or the newly wedded wedded bride and groom. And they're talking about divorce in their premarital talk.
I've seen it. We've all seen it. Okay, so let's, let's keep it real. And you're thinking, yeah, there's no wisdom, that you're talking about these things in front of everyone. Today, everyone has gathered for a day of celebration. They're excited to see each other. They're here to give their greetings to the bride and the groom. They've brought along gifts with them. And here you're talking about divorce in front of everyone. Here you're talking about disease and illness and everything has a place and time. Everything has a place in time.
Don't take your passion and dump it on people. In their moments of happiness and joy. There was a hobby to sort of last a long while he was sitting by the name of a Buddha crucified in the long run.
He would go around to the gatherings and Madina Munawwara where people were having late night dinners and enjoying themselves and he would say to them, that this is all set off. It's all a waste of money. And Allah will punish you on the Day of Judgment. So people would freak out punishment of Allah parties off everyone to go home. So don't freak out. Someone complained to mind and I find it a long one. That this guy he comes to every one of our parties and right when we're getting ready to enjoy it he comes in and says talk a lot.
have fear of Allah be conscious of Allah and everyone runs off. So it's mine are the Allah one he called a Baba foto de La Jolla and he said to him, you need to stop doing this. It's not appropriate.
So I will fit the model on set I heard from a sort of lost and alone audience that I'm that if a person has in their possession food more than their basic needs, that it is slough
it off means excessive. And he said Allah's have adjusted in the Quran in the law. Hello, Hello Mr. Levine. Allah does not like those who are excessive.
And another place a lot of it just says in the mobile did in
Ghana Islamize shout out to those who spend excessively THEY ARE THE BROTHERS OF shaytaan The Friends of shaytaan the people have shaytaan what kind of shape on when the rugby? Capoeira and shaytaan was very ungrateful to miss Lord.
Although there was a fighter the Allahu on set with one of the alarm that I heard of you sort of long on he was sort of saying that excessive wealth was
was set off. And it's haram. So I will tell people, if you want to be a long one said, Well, that's a personal policy that gives a cop in there well, what they're doing is hell and you can go and stop gatherings like this.
So I wouldn't have recorded the long one said if I will stay in Medina, then I will continue doing what I'm doing and what I'm doing otherwise I will leave and it's gonna be a long one set. That is your choice.
And it will probably be a long one then left in the middle. You couldn't see Madina Munawwara any longer.
And this is a sad yet interesting story because they were personalities and this person was very strong in his position. You really believe that it passionately but if Mum the loved one, on the other hand was looking, looking out for
that one person's passion shouldn't take away the joy of the people. These people are doing hot out there. They're they're not disobeying Allah subhanho wa Taala you can't push. Therefore there is this difference between the technology difference between
We call tequila and fatwah fatwa is the legal ruling. Taqwa is the personal position that you adopt one of our teachers
his name was shift Tawhid Wadi. We used to call him Sufism,
which means very noble pious man.
He was French from the Reunion Islands. Very humble man. Very humble man.
I had the honor of studying fifth with him, I did with him many subjects.
When he was a student and Mother Teresa, when he was a student, he studied in the same way that I studied. He was a senior man and I study with a big white beard, but he studied there as a child as well himself.
The reason why he got the title Sufi Saab was because once when he was a student in the mother, there was a drought. So there was no rain, and the mother decided on all of their water from a local nearby well, even till now they had a well that all the water used to come from. So when the dry rain dried up, the well dried up and there was no water. So the students, they went to shake his hand and a lot of data, our teacher who was the principal of the mother,
and they said the world has dried up. We wanted to do a lot to this discussion. We're going to gather together and make dua for Cisco, for Cisco is a supplication that a person makes specifically to seek water from Allah.
So chef used for him Allah, Allah said, that among you, there is a student thought he thought had Awadhi
asked him to leave the congregation.
So they went to just Sofitel Hassan and they said to him, at that time, he was a young man, maybe a teenager, they said, Chef Yusuf has said that you should be the one that leaves the congregation.
So he was a very humble person, he went forward and he let it and by the blessing and mercy of Allah subhanho wa taala, rain and oil filled up. So after that his name stuck. They would call them Sufism, Sufi tightwad
he would come to madrasa. He was a man of great devotion. Always follow the Sunnah very firmly, but everything. Just the way he talked the way he walked. He His clothes were all personally tailored. You couldn't buy the clothes that he wore in store, because he would read the wire and try to recreate what he read. He would go to the tailor and said, Let's try this. And so he had very unique garments that you wouldn't find in stores otherwise, even when he would teach Hadith, he would always sit in the shackled position. And even though he was very old, it was very well known that when he would finish teaching this period, he would stand up and fall down every time.
When we were students we knew it but because he would sit there like that for an hour and then when he would stand up, his feet would be numb. So he would stumble and he would quickly grabbed the wall. So as soon as his period would finish the students because it was a big the class was a big U, big U shape. So the students from both sides before the shape would stand up and rush to the front of the gathering and put their arm around.
So he would stand up, you would be holding this audio book and then he would lean against them. Stand there, lift one leg, move it around, put that down, pick that up, move it around. And it sounds like a Hokey Pokey, but it's not. This is a hug did have some respect.
I remember asking him once I said sure. Why don't you just sit cross legged like the other teachers? He said that it is said regarding because he used to teach us Multimatic he said it is said regarding him Amalek that when He taught his own Hadith collection or any Hadith gathering, he always said that the child position. Allah has given me the honor to teach his text. I wish to follow the footsteps of the author.
One time I asked him again, I said, Why don't you just sit cross legged?
He said My heart doesn't agree to sit cross legged. While hadith is being shared. I kept thinking how would you be even sat in the child position in front of prophet for his Hadith.
He came to one Hadith gathering of Rasul Allah and he shot he sat on the shelf position, Hadith integrated for those of you know, first network with a lot of methane, although I Kofi
Allah for the day that he put his needs to the needs of a lot of Solomon his hands on his thighs. So he was one of those people very calm, very easygoing,
very solution oriented.
I remember when I graduated and came back to America, there was a very deep divorce case that I received.
Not sure if I should share?
No, right. Santa's saying don't I think that's the Senate. It might be a sign. I don't know. One of them is saying no. So listen to them. There was a very big
divorce case that I received. And the fifth of it was very clear. But the problem was the answer as clear as it was, if I gave that thought to what the outcome would have been devastating.
Do you guys understand? It was a situation? The answer was extreme.
be clear. But if I gave that answer the outcome would have been devastating.
I was very positive.
And I didn't want to ask anyone for advice that I didn't really trust. So I called shift five,
shift. I loved the I called. And I said suicide. Because he didn't remember his students. He was so old and he had so many of them. I said, I'm one of your students from America, same commodity.
And so I said to him, that there's a situation I mean, this is a situation what do I do?
I was expecting him to say follow the fifth and let outcome be what it is. But his wisdom was such he said no compromise on your fifth Pick, pick it up another muda and save that person's mind.
And as a junior student, that wisdom of his read the it rang in my ears that Subhanallah look at this person's breath and knowledge and Lika yz is that, you know, priorities in the Dean when we give our legal rulings.
I mean, since we're sharing sure is one of my minds will continue right, one or two more.
Every year I've had I usually bump into him.
An amazing thing about him is that he has no entourage. He doesn't walk with a group of students or anything. He just walks alone. One time we were in Madina Munawwara have two fighters. And they were a group of people that were sitting with me they had we had gone to Phantomhive so they were like 4050 guys brought praying budget together.
So I pointed up one person and I said to them that this man in my opinion is a well he have a muscle.
He said who is he? He was praying Salah alone. I said that's the teacher that I studied more time on molecule.
He's always alone. There he is just in the corner of the magic praying a salon merged in every
but in my opinion, I'm not sure if I met someone who understands system I need like that, like that man does.
He was a very soft and humble person. He used to drive this very old rusty car in England they call it a banger.
Is that right? Sir? Bonga.
I'm gonna say English pronunciation. The American pronunciation
used to drive one of those cars. It make noise in order to go to pick
Pick particles that drives the
noise. He used to drive one of those cars.
One day he didn't come to the car. Someone gave him a ride.
One of the people living he was in pasted live in Blackburn which is nearby. So suddenly one of the students that was coming from there, give him a ride. On the way back he didn't have a rider. So when he was leaving the mothers, their car pulled up to pick him up and it was his fancy schmancy BMW
SUV I didn't even laugh much he's when he's he's a man of great hire, even when he would laugh. You'd cover his mouth and kind of like secretly laugh. So he had this car has had his book in his hand. He was walking to the car. So one of the students whispered to him, she saw a button or a
look at you. You're driving this BMW, we're looking at you getting picked up in a fancy car. So He giggled a little. But he turned around quickly. And he said the statement which I think is why I shared the whole last 10 minutes of whatever we talked about. For this one statement of his he said they could
be taking a look at that. Wow. Okay.
He's he said this car belongs to my son. It's not mine. He said my XO hood. And my Taqwa is for myself. I don't impose it on my kids. They can do as they wish. As long as it's legal. And it's not haram. It can do whatever they want. But as far as this standard that I live by the simplicity that I live by, you know, the few words that I live by, this is for cooking. It's for myself or okay for other people. So
then he looked at us and then because we made a joke at him, right? And he made a point that even though you guys can make jokes because you're younger, I'm not that old and he made a joke back at us. He said awesome. hemosol
footcare fatwa, Oroklini taqwa and you people you go with the easiest route yourself and for other people. What's the really
most hard situation you throw it on them the hardest ruling for other people for yourself? You give ECE
today's one of those days guys stories are comfortable line.
I was we had performed Hajj and I was in Nakamura.
It was before mother Uppsala
And that was the year that my mother had to form Ramallah.
So we were on top of the roof was most of the time was approaching.
And I said to my mother then I just finished high mockups here, I believe was a Friday to
it said Mama, I want to sit down. And I was planning to write a makalah a book, better book, but a smaller brief research paper for myself, not for anyone. So I made Nia before I came to hire that I would write the opening lines in the huddle.
So before Margaret, I'm going to sit down and write and make dua to Allah that He gives me time to finish. So I sat down and I started writing it
was just writing my thoughts and just kind of compiling some,
And then this person came in sat next to me.
With him were three or 4456. I don't know 10 Other people, they're all sitting with him.
So he picked over what I was doing.
He said you're writing? What's the subject? So then I said it's so brief, McCollough that I'm putting together regarding some Hadith issues that have been on my mind.
He then started giving to AWS and he gave them AWS and they give to us and give to us. I was really humbled. And then he asked me who I was, and we went back and forth. And this was shipped to me by his brother
who was also a scholar, and an a scholar of Hadith as well. And I thought to myself, the father of Allah subhanaw taala I'd never seen this man before my life. But God his daughters and his Baraka in the hot
sun handler here he says that when you are in these gatherings don't cause inconvenience to other people by being insensitive. Okay, don't cause inconvenience to other people. I was sharing the story of Well, that was a party that your loved one was one of the loved one didn't accept it because he understood what he was doing was a higher standard. But for the people there had to be ease. Okay. When you're in a gathering when you're with people, don't flex your takla
loosen up a little bit. Take it a little easy accommodate people. But here the point that he says as we move forward, a believer should be wise and considerable. Yes, God
is recommended that you congratulate the bride and groom.
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May Allah subhanaw taala bless you, and bless your counterpart and may Allah Subhana Allah tie your union with virtue do not use the commonly used phrase with comfort and children. Because this was the phrase used by the people of ignorance Januvia Rasulullah sallallahu has prohibited it and a loss of Hannah Montana has replaced it with the prayer of muscle loss model, as we mentioned, say that he shall not be alone wine has said when Rasulullah sallallahu LearnEnglish and married me my mother led me into the house where the women of the unsolved were seated. They congratulated me by saying I don't play the one Baraka one thing for me, you have all the good, all the blessings and
the best of luck.
Islam permits women to celebrate a wedding by singing tasteful songs accompanied by the beating of the earth. Such poems and songs should not promote the lust, lewd desires and sin. Instead, they should sing delightful and decent songs to express their happiness and joy with the married. So yudansha will be a lot more said a bride was led to her and sorry has been a symbol of loss, or they will sell themselves.
Do you not have any items of entertainment? The unsolved love to be entertained? Rasulullah sallallahu. I mean, he was saying was referring to the singing and the beating of the dead. So there is
a haram way to do things and then there was a Halloween to do things. The props that alone while he was still in ketosis, the halal way to do things. Yes. haven't even had over him in the water either in his books, that's fun. Daddy has stated that in one narration of tomorrow, so you shouldn't be alone on how we call that the profits.
And the mass. Why did you not send with her the bride he grew up saying when I inquired what should cease she's saying he answered. We are visiting you we are
famous lines of portrait. Yes. If you read us we will greet you for your gold, bright and Red Rock the bride to your value and it is your brand
Empty handed me that made your vergence charming. songs sung at weddings should have a delightful and decent meaning as this songs of lust, passion and immorality are strictly prohibited. So this is he is his last point, though when it comes to engagements or entertainment that happened on that night, be mindful, be mature, be wise, keep it halal. That's it. A little creativity and you can have a good night. People can really enjoy themselves.
Avoid the haram. social gatherings are tricky, because it's where people get together and then when people get together, in particular, if the vibe isn't right, and if the tone isn't correct, they become quick to disobey Allah Subhanallah Dada,
yes, that's the end of
the merge the chapters. Here shareholder for double decker low dollar
offers a brief conclusion as he closes off. Conclusion. This is a collection of Islamic manners that were part of the etiquette of your pious Muslim predecessors, and presented them to you in a clear and understandable way so that you incubate them and practice upon them. The best place to follow these manners is at home, and the homes of your brothers. Do not overlook these etiquettes when dealing with your family, and your Muslim brother and assuming that there is no need for your immediate family and friends are the most deserving of your good conduct and manners. In this regard, remember, hardly any non Muslim Rahima women
have reported that a man asked for a single lump sum Allahu Allah, He was a prophet of Allah, who deserves my best behavior. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam answered your mother, your mother, your mother, then your father, then the closer and then the closer among your relatives. beloved leader, Do not overlook these manners when interacting with the appropriate people and act properly and amicably with others. If you do not behave properly, you degrade yourself. abused the duty that you are entrusted with an abandon that guidance of muscle loss.
Ask Allah subhanaw taala to assist you in attaining his pleasure and the manners of his religion. And it is He Who protects the pious May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect you, your relatives and your loved ones. May Ignacio Panatela help you obey his orders, remain obedient to Him, and follow the example of his prophets Allah Allah.
May Allah Subhana Allah grant you His love, grace and his generosity,
make peace and Salutations be upon our profits on how to use
his family and his companions about the loved one. All praise is for Allah subhana wa Tada The Lord of the Universe.
This was written in hopes of receiving your prayers shift up to heaven.
The loss of Hana elevate the shift matam and reward him
immensely. Without any boundaries, the joy go to his grave may nude enter his grave. Allah subhanho wa Taala sent a special reward to him in this moment on behalf of the attendees that are in this gathering that have gathered and benefited from his words. Great Sign of sincerity. Today we are continuing to benefit from his teachings even though after even though he's left his dunya only Allah knows if anyone will even know of our existence when we leave the dunya. Here we are benefiting from them. He was a person who was very particular utilize his time very carefully, dressed appropriately, never hurt anyone with his words or his his body physically. His son, chef
said man says it's about him that my father never hurt anyone. My father was very careful and meticulous not to waste any time. So many of his books were written in suffer
while traveling, because he did not want the time spent traveling in transit to be wasted. So when he would travel, he would immediately pull this pen out and start compiling his words and start compiling his notes. He wrote not in one subject but in many subjects. And his words are a source of inspiration, guidance and knowledge for students of knowledge across the world. And hamdulillah today we finished off his book, mean edible Islam. There's some sorrow that we
I just finished off one class, but there's some joy as well. But now we have a chance to enter into our next class. And the next class that we'll be studying and handler is another book by Chicago photographer Daramola.
And it's an amazing subject. One thing I'm really excited about reading and shallow.
Its benefit is not only to a particular type of person or someone in a particular field that number five is on the benefit is on and this is why we chose this book.
The the book is titled Rasul Allah maalim.
The messenger and Allah said a lot of money was sent and the teacher
shuffled. A photographer that I'm a Latina compiles north of 130 narrations that examine what kind of educator and teacher sort of Lhasa Robinson was, when many of you in your mind are probably thinking this is oats, I'm not a teacher. Everyone is in some position of mentorship and offer some guidance to another. So this will be an opportunity for us to learn Inshallah, and to benefit from this. If Allah wills next week, we'll start this class was sent along on Sunday.