Islamic Manners #04

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100 Allah from the lucky worker files,

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also suitable for Tamil MDR Lila skia was happy luck the mother. Today we start with page 12. The introduction written by chef at the

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origin and this man has

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any moral code regarding every aspect of light. These apply to the whole community, the old the young men and women,

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online who sell themselves, women are the counterparts of Sudan and the devil. Hence, what is required of men. In a hearing that Sonic men is required to put together they formed a Muslim society. And it is through them that Islam is portrayed and identified. So here the author, he starts off by pointing out that the religion of Islam has rules of etiquette and a moral code regarding every aspect of life.

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That Islam has guidelines and it has teachings.

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These apply to the whole community. It's not just for a specific group of people. Yes, it's true that depending on what part of the community you are, there may be more or less advocates directed towards

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someone who is a hospital doctor and has memorized the Quran, it's possible that they may be held to a higher standard when it comes to their job and how they conduct themselves in the community.

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But in general, they apply to everyone the old the young men and women. The reason why the statement of his I believe is so profound and important is because Islamic manners are learned through observation. They happen through seeing someone else, these things are not necessarily found within books. Rather, when you see someone acting a particular way, and you benefit from their manners, then you think yourself that I will do it this way as well. Therefore, offering this courtesies kindness to another individual.

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That's why they they say lacell 42 men

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in ml 42, men father a lot our other, that the poor is not the one who doesn't have gold, they sell for three room and further than that, the poor is not the one who has no gold in the middle of the room and [???]a alotta when the poor is the one who doesn't have proper manner and etiquette. If the elder in the community interacted with the young ones, with proper manner, the young women imitate them. But if the elders in the community berate the younger ones, and are disrespectful to them, they speak down to them. They use bad language when talking to them. You can only expect that in return, when these books have the ability to speak freely, and to live their lives as they wish they

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will imitate. Because as human beings we imitate what we see. One of the most beautiful and profound things about the suit of Lhasa while he said him was that he didn't just give us a book and walk away, like many orientalist claim that Islam is just the Quran. And there is no other teaching beyond that. That's not true. Not from the Muslim perspective, for sort of loss of the law, while he was sitting delivered a message to us and then he taught us how to live it. As one of my good friends, he converted them from another faith. And he said to me, once I asked him, I said, share your experience of how things were before you became Muslim while in your other faith and in this

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system, that you're not Muslim. He said to me that in my previous faith, the the ultimate supreme leader of our fate, who we gave our, they also gives a cut who we gave her as a cut to this was a man who lived on yachts. He was always partying and celebrating and gambling and he was doing all sorts of weird stuff. So as people who are followers of that faith, there was sort of mixed signals. We didn't know what we were supposed to do. Do we follow the teachings or do we follow this great Supreme Leader of ours? But when I came to Islam, and I studied the life of a sort of Lhasa llamada cinnamon I understood what importance Sunni Islam gave to Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam what I

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realized was, the practice that allamani was sending wasn't someone who sat on a chair and told people what to do. If the action involved climbing a mountain, he climbed the mountain himself.

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came back and told people this is how you climb that mountain.

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If you wanted people to create the hedges he didn't sit on a must not on some nice cookie chair from a lecture and and telling people that you know, this is how you

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pray the hedges, rather a sort of lasted a long it was still in the hundreds Allah himself and the Sahaba sila, his wildstyle. So that's why when you look at the flowers and manners of the suta lasted a lot of money he was sending, regardless of who he interacted with, whether it was the elderly, in the community, the young ones, whether it was the women in the community, or the men in the community, Muslim or non Muslim, there was never a person that can ever raise a question to the impeccable character of a suit of law said a long line he was sitting, as I showed the loved one has said, gonna hold up

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that his character was the it was an embodiment of every teaching of the foot on the legal and those that related to etiquette everything that you could see in the Quran, whether it was etiquettes, whether it was legality, whether it was for matters of theology and belief, all of it was found within the character, the person up Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And this is how it was then passed on to those who followed and then generation after generation people, they talked about how empowering and how great it was just to set eyes on the sort of loss of a loved one he was. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught us that Islam and its characters are universal. And

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if you spent a lot of money was spent on saw someone acting out of line, out of character, out of adopt proper manner, maybe sort of long it will set him up and recommend that person. That is just the way that you do things. Once the Prophet said along it was said him saw Satan look at these are the Allah one reprimanding one of his servants. And a worker cynic or their loved one was kind of really giving that person that your load, he was unloading on that person. And we'll go through some movies, a lot of them hurt. And he said, a significant one,

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that you are severe on one hand, and you use language like this to how do these two things gather together in one great person, Satan overlook has to do with your loved one, set that service free, and it towba to Allah subhanho wa Taala that I will not return back to language like this. This is just one example many examples, or a sort of loss of a loved one to use and I'm keen to refine and the character of people and help them reach completion, as upset about money or set them set in them, to live with them even muckety muck, I was sent to complete perfect character within people to teach them this is how you interact with one another. As the author the poet says,

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plus Nikita Doris and Newton which are somehow john k beliefs ptj Kato Mr. Manoj is that embody and yourself the light of good character, the beacon of kindness of love, that wherever you go, people are inspired by your beliefs because they can manage it even if the devil himself were to see you. He want a piece of that Islam as well. That led me into your slam. So I can, you know, be like you because people benefit from good manners and they benefit from the character. Thereafter, shift of the Fatah

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brings a phenomenal point. And this point that he brings is a statement of the sort of loss of a long while he was sitting down mm a Buddha, Allah had rough money or rates and as soon as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in Germany, South Korea, in Nyssa, Osaka,

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which means women are counterparts of men. Now, in order to understand this,

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you have to understand that Shackleton Fatah, Allah tala is making a very powerful fully principle point, which is that all the etiquettes and manners in Islam that may be directed at men are also directed at the women. Because we need both halves of our society acting appropriately, kindly, respectfully. If we say that Islamic manners are only directed at men and not at women, or vice versa, they're only directed at women and not at men. We're only fixing half of the problem. But in order for us to have a true solution, a true revolution. We need both parts of society to contribute equally. Now this how do you get them a nice job? It's actually narrated by him when we need it.

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Chateau de la Juana puts an interesting narration. She says sweetie little sue the loss of a lamotta he was selling Anil Rajamouli yejide Balala

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while I have guru

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the man came to me sort of long while he was set up instead of messing with a lot. I woke up from my sleep last night and I found moisture in my undergarment, how

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I don't recall seeing any such inappropriate dream. So is there anything that I must do? It's a very fishy legal question. He's asking the props that allowed his father. Yeah, that's it, maybe sort of long it was sort of said, Well, if that is the scenario, that person will take a bath, they will wash themselves because they have impurity on them. So you need to wash the impurity away. And regardless of whether you recall seeing anything or not, you will you will be required to do also to take a ritual back.

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While I'm

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on the hook, I tell him what he told me. And then the opposite scenario was presented. What if a person saw a dream and they recall seeing an inappropriate dream, but they didn't find any impurity on their garment when they woke up. So to that maybe sit alone while he was still on set levels Valley, that person does not need to bath. There's no need for any bathing for that individual because there was no impurity. So regardless of what you saw, if there's no impurity, there's no bathing required for that person. for listening, Mr. Damon Viola. At this point, she interjects and she says I love to Tara Delica Ali Houseman. Tell me about a woman.

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both scenarios Tell me about a woman what happens in scenario one and scenario two. So in response to miscellania, the alarm sort of lost in the long run he was sent him said, Now I'm in a Nisa was shot, you've got to judge. Yes, women are counterparts of men. Therefore whatever ruling was given there will apply here as well.

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This heavy heavy sort of long while he was so teaches us something extra. And what it teaches us is the concept of BS how to establish a proper solid analogy how to take one ruling from a particular issue. I'm considering the circumstances are the same, the multi Sally is similar. You can then export the ruling from one scenario to another scenario. Maybe set a lot of money will set him says that when it comes to impurity exiting the body, or the absence of impurity exiting the body, men and women are the same, the gender doesn't matter. So just as in one scenario, they would be required to wash themselves in this scenario, billing is the same.

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I love my katabi Allah had Rama while commenting on this beautiful narration of Rasulullah sallallahu it was sent him he says

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Wolfie, he may not look as bad as he will have really been really

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well under either one of the beloved in the quarry canopy top and in the sky. Illa de la cama Adela toxicity

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is a second point which is that in Sharia in Islam, wherever there is a command directed towards men, it is equally directed towards women either one of that'd be loved if the booty kind of sit up and listen. Whenever the Quran speaks to the male part of the Muslim community the Sahaba that same thought that same message is directed at the women as well. Unless a llama while the horses unless it is a specific situation, and let the comet Adela tocc Allah fear in which Sharia or levy for a long while he was sitting openly says that this ruling applies to women and not to men or it applies to men and not women. Allah subhana wa tada says in Surah Al imraan first the job Allah whom Rob

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Rama Rama min come mean Docker in our own bah bah come into member of that Allah subhanho wa Taala promises that he will not waste the good deed of one who does good Be it male or female by becoming bad because you are one another similarly allows a virgin says Minami la sala Hammond Decker in our own movement. Further, no higher hate on T but whoever does good deeds, male or female, as long as they are believers, felon in Ohio, we will give them a wholesome pure and beautiful life. So here, the author he points out then hence what is required of men in adhering to Islam manners is required of women. For together they formed the Muslim society, and it is through them that Islam is

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portrayed and identified. Yes.

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No, these manners encompass even the slightest of acts such as entering or leaving between the posture of sitting and cleaning oneself.

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At the time of no sooner most of the time, at least. One of the poem is mockingly said to say goodness and many of you know your prophet has taught you everything, even the manners of bleeps between them. So you listen man but the answer yes, our profits on the lung I'm using them for betas from facing when you are needing for the screening.

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save this and

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continue the profits on how to use them for betas from using the right hand when cleaning ones ourselves, and commanded us to use at least three stones.

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So this narration that he shares of some other pharmacy that your loved one, once again, a very fascinating narration because submodel fazzino, the loved one was speaking of some of the manners and etiquettes that were taught by the sort of loss of a loved one he was selling, specifically in regards to cleaning oneself after using the bathroom. Now, generally, speaking of something like this is frowned upon. It isn't a good thing that someone's talking about, you know, things that are to do with filth and dirt and cleaning yourself, you say that some people should know innately what's right, and what's wrong, there really isn't a need for a lecture or a talk dedicated to this.

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So some of you wish you could have maca, when they heard this, they came to some monophosphate of your loved one. And they said it in a very daring, belittling way. That what kind of profit Do you have the talks about these things, he talks about how to use the bathroom.

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Now these people have tried to bully some model father, son of your loved one, in this moment, by pointing out how in their language, if you could maybe say what they were thinking how Penny your profit is that he talks about these petty things. So modified instead of the loved one immediately owned it. He didn't shy away. And this shows us what kind of people they were their loyalty to the sort of laws that allow them it was sent him wasn't out of self interest. They weren't trying to preserve their own image, that anytime anything collided with the norms of society, and what was being portrayed about Rasulullah sallallahu, it was said and they retracted, what maybe sort of

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level it was to them did and repainted the image in a light that allowed them to maintain self respect in society. That's not what happened. Rather, some other quantity of your loved one owns the narrative. He takes it on

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that yes, this is what was sort of lost at a lot of you will sort of says to us. And he actually begins to share some of the details with the province that along with it was sort of said that when you relieve yourself do not have your front or your back facing the fibula. This is specifically more important. If you're not in a closed off structure. If you're in an open area, someone might be praying towards the Qibla and you're using the bathroom there that's offensive to the person who's trying to break either way, whether a person's pacing, or has their behind towards a similar you know, sort of loss of a law while he was seven points out that when you do clean yourself, do not

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use your right hand because in this time we use the right hand for more pure things. People use it for eating for shaking hands and no one wants to shake the hand of someone who used that very same hand to to clean themselves after they use the bathroom. And then he also said that maybe so long it was said homestead that understand God thalassa the Prophet Allahu alayhi wa sallam told us to use three stones when cleaning ourselves, they would use these type of stones that were soft, and they would help remove impurity, like we will use tissue paper or toilet paper in our day and age. And using three of them was maybe sort of lawful, it was some message to them that be thorough when you

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clean yourself. Don't be haphazard, don't be quick, don't rush yourself. federally, take your time and clean yourself. So right away, so monophosphate with your loved one, he owns the teachings of Minnesota law it was set up. And I think this is once again something very beautiful. The lesson for us that don't shy away from what Islam is, and the teachings of a sort of less than a lot of

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at the end of the day. Our honor lies in believing in Allah and His Messenger son allamani.

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And shying away from something that he said a long while he was said and did

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doesn't necessarily bring a stain on the legacy of Musa lohani was sent him as much as it speaks volumes of how cowardly we are to stand for a legacy that people care to their lives to preserving every min I'm lucky to like every letter they dedicated their lives to preserving it. And incomes. The Western American Muslim who's willing to sell any part of the tradition, as long as in return, they get to maintain their seat at the table where people will respect them. People who make you sell your tradition to respect you in reality has no respect for you. This is a lesson that we teach kids, that you don't let someone dictate life to you. You choose your rights and wrongs. And as a

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Muslim, you believe in a sort of loss of a lot it's that you believe in Revelation and that's your right and no one gets to guilt you into turning that right into a wrong and if that's what they make you do. That's a bad on your part. And that's also a tell for the person who's doing this to now but I sort of lost that a lot while he was sitting here.

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He said in one narration

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and this narration, it has some weakness to it, the words themselves but the message of it is very clear and it's well established in the deen. It's going to be sort of long it was sort of set at the bunny rugby for us and add that my Lord taught me manners,

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dV and it was done very well. Every aspect of the logical sort of loss of Aloha, my name is Sam. Earlier on I was talking about the prophets character. The reality is Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam his character and all abiotic he said, I'm all prophets of Allah, their mannerisms were taught to them by a last 100 without all I'm Brd he was Salaam were praised for their manners, even before they received one letter of Revelation, because that comes before him. That's why

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the Buddha is me.

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The Edit of knowledge, experimental is superior to the knowledge itself. But you must learn to respect knowledge you must restrict me You must learn to have proper mannerisms before you even go click go near. A book of knowledge in latke says

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that a person should not go anywhere near knowledge until First they beautify themselves with a knowledge of mannerisms, that you know what's right and what's wrong. And you understand that this is how you you engage with the teacher or with knowledge or with the dean overall, the famous How do you the dooby dooby Dally set up? Not only did he ask some questions for us that day, but he also left for us a legacy of how to interact with the teacher. Right.

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It thought Alena Rajat Shadi declare that the city should need to sell out a shop now euro

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patella cylinder be sort of long run, he was selling us with a with a or like a fee either. First of all of it, if you read this opening section of this narration, it just shows the immense other marhaba and love jubilees that I'm had when he sat in front of his teacher.

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Similarly, in the vlog says, up to the four sub two fi hashy, and whatnot to the other fader, Automat, that's sat on a journey to seek knowledge and I found some of it. But then I went on a journey to find proper manners and learn that other. And what I had learned was the carriers had left this dunya they were no longer there. It was too hard to find. The prophets of Allah were referred to as a visa lottery or something specifically, as an aside that URL, I mean, aside, I mean, the one that was truthful, and there was the one that was trustworthy.

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Similarly, it is attributed to a loved one that he said to

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the first learn proper advocates, and then go and seek knowledge.

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Yes,

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the importance of appearance, distinct Muslim personality. Islam advocates this added camp and stresses it so as to protect the Muslim personality and bring about harmony among people. There is no doubt that adapting such manners and virtues as beauty to a Muslim style, makes us personality attractive, and brings him closer to the hearts and minds of others. The following manners and etiquette for part of the essence of the snap is from amongst his objectives and

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calling it etiquette by no means implies that it is marginal to life and social behavior. It does not mean the person has the option of ignoring these practices for that day of nearly preferable to adapt. So here the author he talks about he starts off this book by saying the importance of appearance, distinct Muslim personality,

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that when a Muslim enters into a gathering, when the Muslim leaves their home, when they interact with someone, when you present yourself in front of friends, family, a congregation, your own students, your teacher, you know, anywhere that you go, you should make sure that you are presentable. And here, we're not only talking about manners, and we'll come to that shortly, but we're also talking about the way you look. Wear clean clothes, wear clothes that are appropriate for the occasion. Make sure you groom yourself simple things like applying fragrance to yourself. And these are the things that he points out because you know, whatever.

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A person beautifies themselves as they interact with others,

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they will be respected in return. Now there's a difference between flaunting yourself and just being weird. And being appropriate, respectful and having a distinguished presentation. That when you stand in front of someone, they say this, this person has care for themselves. So therefore, I can see this person will also have care for me. This person cares for the finer things. Maybe it's not a lot of money was sent him. There were moments in his life where he wore garments that were very fancy, right?

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They the Sahaba they say that we saw on a visceral level it was someone wearing a cloak that had red lines running down it like that was their moment that wow, this was a very beautiful, elegant gown. And this hobby for narrates it says that I had never seen something so beautiful on someone before. It looks so beautiful. Right? When I lost it, Allahu Allah, he was sent him just when he sat in front of people, his hair wasn't disheveled. His hair was very well kept some Sahaba described his hair as the hair of a person who had just come out of the shower. You know that hair that's perfect for a selfie, where it's under control. Right? Maybe some of them have been all the time I sell a

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lot of things. And it's been medically a lot one says the purpose of the law while he was set up his beard hair was very well kept and he took care of himself. And if a person

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tried to count the number of gray hairs in his beard, you can easily count them because they were so few. Maybe somebody would send him when he entered into a gathering or when he interacted with someone. The way he carried himself. It left an impact on people. While the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was on the journey of him.

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There was a point where he said to

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Rebecca said this with your loved one that I'm really hungry.

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Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and generally it wasn't someone to complain about his hunger. But when he said that he was hungry, that meant that he said along when he was hungry, several buckets I think of your loved one try to look around for some thing to eat and drink and you couldn't find anything. They found some animals. They found the owner of the animal and they asked the owner of the animal that would you mind if we drink the milk from these animals? So the lady that was there, she said, Look, these animals are dry. There's a drought here. There's no food to give them they have no milk to offer but if you get any milk from it, it's yours.

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Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam.

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He sat next to this

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goat sheep

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live with this goat know that it was about to make physical contact with a suit of last

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resort. Allahu alayhi wa sallam sat next to this animal and he rubbed his hand, his robotic hand by the side of it. And he said Bismillah Ar Rahman Rahim.

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And milk began to gush out.

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He ordered for a bowl, they milk the animal until the bowl was full.

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He then said to this lady, that

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would you like some milk

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she was hungry and thirsty, she one time that, you know, then the results of one another will give some toggle back to the lat long

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email to another one.

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And he drank it.

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Thereafter, the props that a lot of money was sent a milk one mobile. Then he said to her that when your husband comes home, give this to him. He'll be thirsty and hungry too. And they left on their head.

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Later on in the evening, her husband came and she had this big bowl of milk.

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So

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she he said to her, where did this come from? She said, Well, this guy came. Let's hope it's been nothing happened. And here's the milk.

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So the husband said,

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describe him to me.

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And lucky are we as human beings, that she was a poet.

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And her painting was her words. And her Canvas was the poetry she composed.

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And she was very detailed. And this is one of the earlier descriptions we have. We're going to sort of Lhasa Bonnie

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and then you have the description of him Bennett behala who was the son of Khadija Viola Juana from another marriage, you had the description of valued at the along one, and you put them all together? Will you notice this? All of these people are describing the prophets that Allahu Allah He was like she is describing the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the middle of his era at the age of 53.

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Imagine she saw the visit Allahu alayhi wa sallam, when he was 25 years old about to get married. He knows what she saw. He said a lot of a sudden when he presented himself or he saw or when he went to Anika

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When he presented himself at a gym or football or whenever you sit alone while he was sort of interacted with the delegations that were food that came to Medina munawwara, where he would properly present himself talking to them. And they described him as a man who had everything to be proud of yet was extremely

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young. She's the one he walked on a complete foot. He didn't walk on just the edges or the top or back of his foot, maybe sort of lamotta he was selling, when he would walk, it was as if he was descending from an elevation. He took long strides when he walked the companion sometimes with struggle, just to keep up with him.

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The promise that Allahu alayhi wa sallam had hands that were very soft, just in their physical touch. And the interesting thing is that he wasn't someone that got pedicures and manicures every other week or every week. Rather, he was a person according to mumble hottie who participated in possibly 2527 23 battles depending on how you counting? Right? You know, you don't find UFC fighters who fight that much. But this was a tribe that was at risk. So they had to defend themselves and we're our last command came they went. And when they described Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam hair they did say that his hair was beautiful and well kept and usually it went and tell his ear lobes

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and sometimes it hung beneath his ear lobes. And when he stood alone, while he was sitting would go on a journey or he was performing his pilgrimage. His hair would sit on his shoulders, while still being a very wide forehead, which was a sign of being intelligent. When did you sit alone while he was sitting with sweat, the sweat would gather on his forehead and the Sahaba describe it like pearls sitting on his forehead like a crown. You know, on the basis of the law while he was sitting didn't have a unibrow each eye brought his was separate. And each eyebrow was shaped like a bow and it was very dark hair. And his eyelashes were long strands of white hair and the white part of his

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eye was extremely wide in the dark part was extremely dark. And the Sahaba they say that when you locked eyes with maybe said a long while he was sent him, you would lose track of where you were and who you were, the beauty was immense. Maybe this is how the Sahabi who took those arrows in the battle or had was able to do so because he was looking into the eyes of loss of a loved one. He was on the aligners and they say that there was a lift Maybe someone's nose was straight and there was a little lift towards the end. Who knew Rania Lou when there was a light that emitted from it? Have you said a long holiday we'll send and didn't have cheeks that bolts out neither were they sucked in

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they were very straight. The prophets of Allah Hammadi he will sit him his teeth were very pure and white like you know pearls sitting next to one another. And his saliva was a cure for the poison in the foot of a bucket and a sweetener for the bitter water of Medina Know what? And the cure for the aching I have I even have you thought about the last one. Oh, what would I do to have a surgery with a saliva maybe so

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no follow up no insurance. Just one application and Alia the loved one says I never had pain with that I ever again. And that he said a long while he was set on jilla t he always smiled at people. And he had a very beautiful beard that covered the upper part of his chest and neck like that of a gazelle. A shoulder that was shoulders that were blade about pain and monkey pain. Wow, all of a sudden, his shoulders were well spaced out. And he had a lifted chest solo button. He was Southern his chest and stomach were in line his stomach didn't bulge out. Right? One day job, it'll be a long one try to

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compare the beauty of a suit of less than a lot while he was selling his presentation, this amazing human being that he was looking at with the moon because the oldest line of poetry regardless of what culture you're from, is where the lover compares that we love it to the moon. And he said, Let me take a stab at this. And he's comparing the moon in the in the in the in the face of the sort of lust.

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And the reality of the matter is that he says that there was no comparison. I was looking at the source of the beauty that was just a reflection. As the other poet says, john has said that he had in a unique way in South Bay.

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That is there any justice and even trying to compare the moon with the beauty of a suit of law.

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You know, the moon is badly disadvantaged here. Java says that should be hidden. In South Bay. It's like putting a six year old kid in the room with a professional UFC fighter. JOHN said that should be then ubiquitin Safi will sketch is mostly a mobage high armor the Nika Hara software. That when I look at the moon, all I can see is a reflection of the beauty of a suitable satellite, isn't it? The now has seen omega b donya McCoy Ayanna, he Akiko some que nada who can Marquis Sienna Janani that someone as beautiful and as dashing and looks has never stepped in the volt. It nah See, no matter the dynamic

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have Akiko some kuna, kahuku makisi Nityananda he that why should I not go ahead and just take an oath that her mother has ever given beauty to the beauty of the suit of loss of a loved one, he was saying,

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we're in a tricky place. Because when I start quoting poetry on this subject, I can go on forever. So I'm going to stop right here. And we're going to summarize this discussion. And I will say that the beauty of Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the way he carried himself the way he presented himself, the Sahaba, they say that we can locate where the abuse of Allahu alayhi wa sallam was just by walking in the streets and following his scent.

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When we sought to be so long, while he will sit him away, he would be wearing white garments, because that was his favorite. No, it wasn't white reflects maybe something when we're white for many reasons, right? One is that it's some external reflection of his internal reality, white. And then there's also

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I don't say this with any disrespect, by the way, it's also a statement, because not everyone is courageous enough to wear white publicly.

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It's a statement of how how hygienic and how clean someone is, you know, most of corporate america wore white when they went to work, it would be polka dot white by lunch, polka dot yellow by lunch, you guys understand, they wouldn't be able to hack it. You know, there's this dropping here that dropping there. But the piece a lot of sudden, he had a very distinct way that he carried himself. So here the author, I lay it off my saying that your personality, you must understand he makes he says here, there's no doubt that adopting such manners and virtue adds beauty to a Muslim style makes his personality attractive and brings and close to the hearts and minds of people. I see or

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hear us talking about personality, because it's not just all physical. But as you continue on, you will also see that he does talk about how the

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your physical appearance should be on point, you know, it's the Texas coming ahead where he quotes maybe said a long while he will send them one day saying that you are on the way to meet your brothers, Don a good dress, amend your conveyance so that you're that you appear distinct among people, as the beauty spot on the body, that people should be able to see, there was a time in, you know, in, in, in the history of emphasis that the non Muslims were so impressed by the style of the Muslims that they would dress like the Muslims, that wow, like this is amazing. And not just not normal India. You know, you look at the the Ottoman rule that these people were known for their

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fossa that the way they carry themselves, it was very proper, it was very clean. It had a very good look.

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Mr. Mohammed, ali ali had Rama in the yard on the dean, when talking about external etiquettes and how it impacts the internal mannerisms, he says, thing, double bow here on the line, Bill, Bill Walton, that the manners that a person conducts themselves with externally is speaks volumes. It speaks so much of what kind of person they are internally.

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Well, how takato, gelato, tomato tomahto because the doings of the limbs, the movements of the limbs, from an autohotkey are the fruits of what's cooking inside a person's heart. A person that is generous, you'll see it through their actions person that is forgiving. You'll see it through their actions. What am I doing the teacher

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because deeds of a person are in reality, a result of their character. There's an incident

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that a great scholar by the name of pebble Huff's and they saw foodie, and nature booty. He visited a rock.

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So Junaid Rahim Allahu Allah came to visit him.

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So perhaps when he saw the students of Geneva for us hubba hubba cufon Allah rasa he, yeah, tell me Don't be me. He, he saw that the students of Geneva were all sitting around him I don't see meaning they were standing right around him very respectfully. And they will do what he would tell them to do.

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Fada adeptus hubback double MOOC in a condescending way he said that you have trained your your students to be like the people who stand in the courts have kings, not in a praiseworthy way like this is what's what's wrong with these people. They all look you know, like, this is how people stand in the courts of Kings like they're some kind of roadblocks. This is not how humans interact. It's not the teaching of Islam.

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So to that Janae that I'm allowed Allah said, Well, I can personally advocate by hitting on one or personal edit the fifth button. He said no, in reality, their proper etiquette externally is a testimony to what kind of students I

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I'm working to develop in their hearts. Right, the external character speaks volumes of who they are deep down in their hearts. Now, when it comes to etiquettes, and manners, one thing that I think is very important to highlight that matters when taught at a young age are so much easier to internalize, and make a part of yourself.

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If you learn them at a young age, when we were in Mother Teresa, I remember our teachers would tell us that every time you step into the machine, step in with the right foot and say, Hello, I think and every time you leave, exit with your left foot and say Allahumma and yes, Luke, I'm in public. So we will do this all the time, because we walked in and out of the most madness all the time. And that was just burned into us. You know, that every time you enter, because it's a part of you, you made this a part of who you are, you know, it's like a person perfecting their form for their shot. You just keep working on it again and again and again. And if you're young and you start young, it

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becomes a part of you as you grow older.

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That's why even I'm a chef. I'm home long with Allah He points out something very beautiful. He says, My lemmya Murata, Louie satin, whoever has not tasted the bitterness of saying knowledge even for a moment.

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Because seeking knowledge requires sacrifice and there's a bitterness attached to it. Well, my Lamia morata, Allah Musa atom tajoura agulla gently to the higher he will have to live with the disgrace of it with it with the stain of ignorance for the rest of his life. Woman fatherhood Darlene Walker shabby for Kabir Ali unlimited. And whoever did not seek knowledge and learn these things at a young age, then go ahead and do it the cortex V is which is vinaya under janaza that go and lead gen Asana this person because it's as if they're dead. Right if they didn't seek knowledge, when they were young, when the time was right.

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Hey out to the Fatah allow him to call the life of a young person is seeing through their knowledge and their consciousness of Allah subhanaw taala data, either let me akuna la divani that if l knowledge and consciousness of Allah do not exist, then what regard really is there for that individual, what's left in that person. These are very heavy words. And I know that this doesn't mean that when someone's you know, at a more advanced part of their life, that they can't learn these things. It just requires a lot more work. And there will be more slip ups, like we see in the Sahaba a lot a lot Yachty which mean that sometimes they will do things that were outside of proper

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manner. And outside of etiquette in the VSAN Allahu Allah will set him up point out to them that this happened right here because we are so close to the days of jandia. Like sad that of your loved one saying an inappropriate statement regarding bill Allah, the Allah one. And then you saw something said to him that this is a Japanese statement. We as listeners don't use language like this when we talk.

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Yes, go ahead.

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Can you guys hear through the mic? Is it working? Is it

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just to make sure? Can you tap it to make sure it's It is okay. Maybe you can remove that that little sleeve and

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bring it as close as appropriate? Yes specifically

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says in his book and while discussing the point that manners weighing higher than deeds, no, well, that a small amount of etiquette is better than a whole lot of good action. Remember, qaddafi is a famous Maliki scholar who wrote books or so in his work, he writes that know well, that a small amount of etiquette is better than a whole lot of good actions. So he's teaching us something here, and I'll point out what it is that he's saying, Let's continue reading. Wait.

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A righteous scholar told his son, obey son, make your deeds like salt, and your manners like flour, referring to the fact that dope consists of more flour and salt, ie one should have more manners and

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an abundance of good manners with a few good is better than a multitude of goodies, with a few good moments. So what they're talking about is that if a person has to choose where they will invest more time, whether it's in seeking more knowledge, or perfecting their character, their advocates and becoming better human beings, which one should you prioritize? And he's saying here, focus on your manners first. And I think the answer and the reason behind this is

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very obvious, because if you have someone who's focused a lot on good deeds, and very little focus on matters, it's a bunch of its bad priorities. Why is that? Because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us that sometimes the wrongdoings of a person end up consuming your good deeds, like fire burns away wood. So those good deeds that you were trying to do no longer remain because of your wrong interactions. Number one, number two, from $1 perspective, it's disastrous, you know how many times someone has said to me that, you know, shift, I was really excited about coming to the MSA and being a part of the Muslim community, Muslim Student Association for college in university,

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I wanted to be a part of it. But then, you know, when I came there, I saw I found the hijabi sisters to be so judgmental, that I didn't want to be a part of it anymore. Or I found the, the Muslim students, the guys at this at the at the MSA being so exclusive, and their manners were so harsh, and they were so condescending that I didn't want to be a part of it all. And it's sad, because most of us have had experiences like that. I was actually thinking of an experience I had like that recently. And I'm speaking as an Imam, where I walk into a gathering full of in a block. And it was really weird. And I thought to myself in that moment that I don't know how it feels for people who

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actually haven't studied Islam thoroughly. Because, from my perspective, I can easily just chalk it up to a person needs to focus a little bit more on their manners. They don't represent Islam in this moment. I'm cool with that. But for someone else, they may not see it that way. Now, I'm not saying that that assumption is correct. And that's the right way to deal with people. Right? Because if there is a sister who's where's the job, or there's a guy who outwardly seems to be practicing of Islam, and they don't have good manners, that's not enough to chop off religion. And to be very honest, if I'm going to keep it real, I almost believe it's childish. Right? You know, you don't

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judge a whole religion and Deen by the people who practice it, specifically if those people are in are on a journey themselves, because we're all on a journey, right? Like, no one's claiming here that they're perfect. So because if you were to say that you can't wear hijab, or you can't grow a beard, or you can't do xy and z, external act until you perfect your character and manner, then that's too daunting. How is that? How is anyone going to get close to the dean, so you take what you have, and you improve on what you don't have. And it's kind of like a give and take. But nonetheless, the observation still stands, which is that from our perspective, it really pushes

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people away from the dean, I say this to my students all the time, that if you are going to outwardly represent the student, and if you sit alone, while he was sitting, be extra cautious and careful to make sure you also represent represent the inward character of a sort of loss of the Madison. Otherwise, if it's only one of the two, if I'm just like this and I'm driving a car and I cut someone off they're not gonna think that it's her saying that cut them off. They don't care about her saying they're gonna think it's a mama the follow up mama said along while it was said and done, did this. And if I have to stand in front of a supermarket along it was said I'm in the

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process of a lot of them said to me, that why did you misrepresent me like that?

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I would not be shame.

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I would, I would just hope that I could cease to exist in that moment, standing in front of the resort along with sentiment having to answer to a question like this. So the balance now, ideally, as we know, it shouldn't be an either or it should be an end situation, like have good manners and have the deeds it should be both of them together. But if we are prioritizing here, then work on good manners work on having good etiquette. Yes.

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Even though some of these rules appear to be simple for common sense, it is still important to highlight their significance. Many of us air in simple deeds which then language arts loving personality, whereas Islam ought to be its perfection in treats on one occasion or master so the Lord wanting

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to have

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you are on your way to meet your brother, Don a good dress and then your convenience, so that you appear distinct among people, as the beauty spot on demand. Allah subhanho wa Taala does not like in decency and manner and so

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therefore, it is important that the Muslim be recognized by his excellent that's why there is befitting manner and an appearance that is appealing. Yes. So it is appropriate that a miss it's important that a Muslim be recognized by as excellent

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attire is befitting manner, and appearance that is appealing.

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There are two points that I want to mention. And then we will end today's discussion.

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The first thing I want to highlight is this. We're all this talk about making sure you have proper presentation when you're in front of people. Remember, beautifying yourself and adorning yourself is a part of a snap. However, it comes with guidelines, you have to be considerate of who it is that you're going to be interacting with.

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In Islam,

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the ethics and morality behind an action, the implication of your action are as important all of this as important as action itself. See, one of the major differences between sort of Western mindset and Islamic mindset is this. In the Western world, what they do is to innovate, innovate, innovate, innovate, innovate, and then begin the question on what are the ethics of all this innovation?

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Do you guys understand? What are the ethics of modern day medicine? What are the ethics of modern day technology? What's the ethical, you know, sort of guideline to? Or is there even any ethical guideline or our guideline on morality when it comes to Western fashion? You know, and I'm talking about everything I'm talking about from anorexia, I'm talking about, you know, when it comes to I don't even want to go down that dark hole. So you innovate, innovate, innovate, create, create, create, create, create, and then retrospectively, you begin to ask yourself, okay, guys, we need to figure out what the ethics behind this is, in installments other way around, we start off with a

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conversation on what are the guidelines? What are the boundaries of morality and ethics of what's coming next? Islam is a religion based on principle. So for example, someone's trying to figure out what's an appropriate garment to wear, when I'm going to be in the presence of someone from the opposite gender, you have to take into consideration what Islamic guidelines are regarding covering in gender separation, gender interaction, all that, and then find your answer accordingly, it all needs to fit within the frame. Okay. So that's one thing that I wanted to point out. The second thing, and I think this is a very important discussion.

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What are the reasons why people turn away from religion? One thing that I hear all the time is that I'm for religion, I'm just not for organized religion.

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Because they feel that religion can be excessive, it could be abundant, it could be overwhelming, because there are so many guidelines and rules and do's and don'ts. And so it becomes overbearing for them. And therefore they say that I believe in God, I just don't want anything to do with the legal element. Right? Now, obviously, that's a very flawed statement for this a plethora of reasons, right? Just try to run an analogy of that very same statement with something on the lines of I want the passport, but I'm not willing to abide to the law. And think how that would play out just for a moment. Okay. And whether that is any sort of whether that's the true patriotic, patriotic attitude,

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right to being a national, of a particular region? Put that aside, there is a discussion to have had here, which is this, what do we cuz we're gonna be talking, we're going to be emphasizing a lot. Islamic matters. This is what this book is about. But I have to have one principal facility discussion, which is,

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when we

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approach Islam, we have to ensure we prioritize things based off of their legal rules.

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Does that make sense? Let's say there's someone who is interested in Islam, I shouldn't be enforcing five times saw on this person, I first need to figure out what helped his individual needs to understand proper Islamic belief. Once you've got that down, then let's talk about the five fundamentals, the basics. Now, if someone doesn't have the basics down, and you're telling them there are 15, other two will do and 20 add up for this and 13 out there, it's gonna crush that person.

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You guys follow me here. So you slowly cure it out. And that's one of the amazing, amazing and beautiful things about Islamic law, that it kind of tells you these things are, you know, man epidemic, you have to have this. And this is tier number two, and tier number three to number four. And for many people, when they don't understand why they're doing what they're doing, it causes a lot of confusion. It really does. Like I know, kids from the folks from the subcontinent culture, and they're just really confused, because mom and dad are okay with lying, swearing, you know, watching inappropriate movies and all that stuff. But they're really confused because on the other

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hand, they see that they're very particular about these 10 out

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of these 10 matters. So there's a priority on certain matters at the cost of

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The violation of fundamentals. So clearly the priorities are off here. So we have to ensure that we take a tiered approach to our personal development as a sort of loss of a lot of money and set him set, that there is nothing that a person can do that draws them closer to Allah than the fulfillment of obligations. If

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and then

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a person then continues to draw closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala been allotted, then come the voluntary acts. So when we're talking about that, and matters here, we have to separate the two, right? from a legal perspective, from a priorities perspective, from the perspective of developing yourself, it's important that you learn to get comfortable and bring the five obligations into your life alongside the other, but if there is some sort of a compromise that must be made,

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there is so much space to work with the job, while the thrive need to stay firm. Okay.

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Just because we placed we prioritize things this way. By no means is it a justification for the dismissal of all manners and etiquettes and slapped in reality, and I and I believe in this if Muslims started practicing Islam, like through and through, but without any manners at all, any manners and etiquette at all.

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People who saw Islam would run away from it.

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Very few people become Muslim because they saw someone doing such that it's usually an interaction that happens. So, in reality we need to work on both at once. So with that, we conclude today's gathering, we pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala accept from us and grants Sophia to hammerlock on what we learned last time along with that I say that I'm from Santa Monica.

Islamic Manners #04
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