Waleed Basyouni – Bulugh Al Maram – Book of Etiquette & Manners #09 – Hadith No. 1238

Waleed Basyouni
AI: Summary © The phrase "vanquished" is used in actions of the Prophet and is important in building healthy relationships. Good manners, including good faith, are essential in driving toward faith and belief. The importance of good manners is also highlighted, including the need for respect and good behavior. The importance of good manners is also emphasized in driving toward success, avoiding embarrassment, and building relationships. The segment also touches on cultural differences between Arabic and English, and the benefits of being a believer to reduce risk and avoid getting into trouble.
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Hadith today Hadith and notice there's been some an olive oil before I'ma holla war and in the West been some anody Allahu taala and who call Saul to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Anil bidri well Islam for call albear horsnell holyoake Well, Islam Mahaffey so Derek are correct and yet 30 earliness apologia who Muslim narrated in a watchman some handle the Allahu anhu He said, I asked the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam about ambit and Islam piety.

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He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said and bear is good character while in Islam is what you hide in your chest and you dislike that it is known to people narrated by Muslim this hadith had Ethan Nawaz bin Salman or sim an okay. And sim an is the most famous way of pronouncing it and it will theater him or less.

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With kassala see man, but also some man is correct.

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Some an open hearted or some man even hired his father came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa he was setting them and in Abu Salah lo Allah who it was Sallam prayed for him. And Noah's father for that. Well, then in a nebia Salatu Salam nalani for Kabira Houma in Ibiza, Lolo audio Salaam was given a gift from a Noah, Noah's father some ad and it was a pair of shoes. And in Ibiza Salam accepted it from him.

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it's been said that he said to the prophet SAW some of them Yara Salalah that was a region NACA edge Melanie salado

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when he saw the problem, he said, I will marry you to the most beautiful woman among all the Arabs and the Arab peninsula.

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Then he give the profits all sudden his own sister for xojo nebia sobre la vida he said

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he said My sister is any the wife that I have for you. And NW Salalah Salah married her and she was brought to the prophets Allah Salam and he will enter into her room and he approach her to need to greet her. She said I will let him think

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or I will do Villa I seek refugee with Allah.

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For canon NaVi salsa lamb Nakata with the BLM fell Happy vionic

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he said that you have asked protection from the most protector from the greatest one. So go to your family

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go to your family and this is known as Animoto

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and matcha with the one who said oh the villa and there is a big debate between the scholars Who's that woman exactly is it the sister of

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some an or other woman there is many different opinions but what I just told you is what happened Abdullah bottom was a great scholar and Hadith said

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and there is

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something to be said here. Even though she is beautiful. She's attractive. She's this she's that but the manners this the tongue

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what make you or break you no matter how beautiful you are. No matter how handsome you are you no matter how good looking you are. If you don't know how to say things correct. If you're like, fall

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Yeah, and you rude, disrespectful.

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You say the wrong words. You can turn people off and turn people a white

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alien up in the cafe Nabi sallallahu sallam, Sahib kurama

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in the visa Salaam is a very dignified person. He didn't just, you know, let it go just because of her beauty or because of a lost or because of interest in marrying this woman. Now so

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Buddy, don't respect me, don't stay with me. Somebody do not understand the value of me don't deserve to be in my company.

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Somebody show no respect for me cannot be my partner in life.

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Man Latif MapInfo COVID in La Jolla. Anna, welcome to focus on olive oil calophyllum fragomen Holic, if you are mean and aggressive and rude, they will run away from you the companions clean and now the ayah he effortless Sahaba this verse, talk about the virtue of the companions, not talking about the process of salaams good manners, talk about the companions,

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how gift Hakuna, that I felt the Sahaba

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because Allah said, If you your Mohammed were to be mean, and rude, they will leave you

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because of the habit of the alarm and when people have dignity, they will not be around someone who who humiliated them. They will not be around someone who was rude to them was not respectful to them. They have so much dignity and honor for themselves that they will not agree to be in a position where they are humiliated no matter what the person is. Even if that person has the knowledge like Mohammed Salah light isn't and you see today some people panela like to be around those who humiliate them

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any there is people like that you humiliate them and you'd be mean to them and arrogance and you don't treat them nice.

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Okay, they will be all around you and like you know showing respect and all the all the time with the undie don't Yanni they will be very loyal to you. You are nice and down to earth and you treat them like you know, like the same way you treat yourself or your own brothers. They will be any not happy.

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And it's a sad

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in numerous events in Iran and killaby

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report 17 Hadith he lived in a sham and died in it. He said that

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I asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and it was very well if I asked him about Albert, some people are very

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good. I will tell you what Albert means.

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And if

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the evil deed the sins I asked about this too, so he told me and bear it is the good manners the good morals hustlin Hello.

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Where as sinful or sins or evil conduct is that which turns in your heart what turns in your heart which is not subtle? Which is in your heart you're not comfortable when you do it you feel in your heart This does not sound right doesn't feel correct make you very uncomfortable and you dislike that it would be disclosed to other people you hate that people will see you doing it your dislike people to be aware of what you have done he said that's what the sin is

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haven't had it reported by Muslim and also the term median

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and hack into mustard rock and others

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You know what to do like last week?

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How many you gotta get

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through for

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the word Albert. I will tell you more about what it means. But generally speaking here

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is when German liquidity high it means the best of goodness.

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The best of goodness.

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The best of the best, the best of the good things.

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Clip so odd question.

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What is the best good thing that you can ever have? Or can ever happen to you?

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Wealth is there is anything more value than wealth?

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Good Wife, anything better than good wife?

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Good not in this life.

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guidance, faith.

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Faith is the most important thing is the most blessed thing.

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That's right. Eman is the best good thing can happen to you. They will build the best of the goodness. Yeah I need the best of a man

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because faith and he man is not one level for either people. man.

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A man is the best level and the highest level of Eman the highest level of faith, which is we call a tough one a son commanded a man the perfect to perfect your Eman to perfect your religion. So, Albert, it is a very interesting word because it referred to goodness and to the best of the goodness

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undeniably sallallahu Sallam that Albert that is so high on the top of him at the highest level of human history including

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his good manners. Can you believe Yanni the highest level of a man is to possess good manners. Khalid Nabi sallallahu Sallam

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in Sahiba Houston Hola, la you Drake Dada Jetta saw MLK time

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that the one who possess good manners will be in the level of the one who constantly pray constantly fasting

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every night he makes prayer and every day is fasting. You see how far this will go and Jen How high is a man that's also the person of good manners

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of the equal No, because the one will have good manners no doubt you also fast he also prays sometimes so that means he will go higher than the other person because he's

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raise you very very high history full of good manners.

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feet and if jameela Maroon here hi atone Rossi Horton enough's. d'Estournel arugula Chino, yes, they say it is an attitude good manners is an attitude.

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It is something natural.

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It's something easy on you. So it's not hard to be a nice it's not hard to be gentle. To be courteous. is not hard to that personal photo. You perfect your manners when you read that love when you reach a level where things became smooth

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on hacker facade trick him the opposite of which is all bad things.

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What hacker in hacker man did

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hacker anytime.

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Anybody knows word hacker in Arabic language

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another word for

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Hey aka chiappa which is sewing we call this Hakka.

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Hakka Hakka

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type here

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it is something

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unsettled. ups and downs.

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Type why sewing we call it that way. Kylie and her

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mama stopper stutter because that when you so when he's suing is about this, you go like this and you go in and out. So it's not subtle. That's why they call it tiac because it is comes the root of the word comes from the a tower which is unstable. So it's something make you unstuck make your heart unstable, something doesn't settle doesn't make you feel comfortable. Okay.

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Either on your own it means something you don't do it easily and smoothly.

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So, this is the words of the Hadean. So, the Hanif talking about what is better. And what is if he mentioned it comes in good manners. And if evil it is what is not comfortable in your heart and which you also don't want people to see and see you doing it.

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This head is as a Managua Rahim Allah, calm enjoy me and Kevin great deal of meanings.

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few words because albear is a very general term as little as a very general term is a very general term and in Episode Seven define this general terms in a very easy way to be recognized.

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This headed shows you the important

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because in the visa ceremony was said what Albert Albert the highest level man he said good manners had that man I knew savvy man I knew a hammer on someone and also a man.

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It means that hairstyle hello good manners is the most clear manifestation of faith.

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It means it's the most important thing that represent a high level of Eman.

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Catalina and had to out of like when you say a hedge is standing an alpha they've had is more than standing out of are not

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more we do way more than standing. And it's important but because alpha is the most important pillars in had inhibitions on him said had his arm off because the most important pillar my personal hope is one of the most important pillars of Eman. One of the most important thing to do in order for you to reach Albert, you cannot reach Albert without which is the highest level of faith and Eman and taqwa without hospital Hello.

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Also known as a dean and naziha. A Dean is an advising

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and advising is a very important

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part of our religion.

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Carnaby salsa lamb in Namibia is to Litem Mira Makarem and Allah

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I was sent to complete and to perfect your good manners. So that means Jonas. So that means the person said, Mark, the purpose of me being sent to you.

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The process i'm saying is because I want to make sure that you perfect your manners.

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So the goal of Islam is to make sure that we have perfect manners.

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lemma, a Buddha or the Allah Anwar heard that Mohammed Hassan

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claimed that he's a prophet. And

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he said to his brother, good, check him out first.

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Right, you're right and go there

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to make a noise,

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right to him, and listen to him and come back to me and tell me what he's saying.

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It's very interesting. When he came back, he told her

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about the person what did he said

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try to move him Academy.

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When he came back, he said, What did you see? He said, I saw a man ordering people to possess the best of manners. He ordering people to treat people good. He ordering people to have good manners. He summarized the process of symptoms that were with this. And if you look at when Huracan asked about the process of them, what in the visa salon calling you for when he asked about Sofia and the joshy the king of obscene when he said to Jaffa what's Mohammed's or some is about what is his message about in both incident the king of the Romans and the king of abyssea. The answers was from the Muslim Jaffa and the non Muslim at that time I was Sophia both said and then there'll be some

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more on Abdi macadam and he ordered us good man and they give example to be good to the neighbor good to the parents, you know, good to those who are to the orphans. And all of the mentioned things shows you how the process was very and this message and this is religion is all about having good manners.

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And bear in America Roman law said it is the combination of Eman and Islam together.

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And he man always referred to the article of faith and Islam always refer to the actions

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in Islam, Bernier Islam

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Can you leave this alone please? booni al Islam or outcomes? Islam is based on five What are they?

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But out of the pillars of Islam.

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I said one night I Lola. Very good prayer.

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No, that's a man.

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So you said the right thing first prayer. And what?

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And what?

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No, no, Islam. were five pillars. We have lai lai Lama and you have Salah what else

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fasting very good. What else?

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Zakah very good. And the last one

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last one

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had excellent so head so you have five this out of the pillars of Islam are actions. But what about Eman? Faith

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hold on not you Eunice

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to believe in Allah

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and what else his brother can help him zoobi

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you believe in a lot and you believe in the

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books and messengers

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Dave judgment

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yeah that's Dave judgment

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what else

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and Joel's

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the predestiny

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Okay, that everything already pre ordained and written so the good and the bad of it. So all this believes listen to what Allah said about deliver

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on it Anakin Roman

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numeral one mana

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kita being one being

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Albert you believe in a law on the Day of Judgment the angels the books and the profits

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be awesome

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sauna does God

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or sobbing I feel bad back

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in and backs, una de la Sol de una

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de PUE. Allah said after that, and the one who give charity, the one who pray. The one who gives the cat, the one who fulfill the promises the one who have sub

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patience and the one who are truthful. There are the truth will undoubtedly McCain which is the highest level of Eman

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so shows you all this the combination of that believe of the heart, the action of the heart like a soul

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and the action of the money by giving the money making Salah. So I chose you that the man and Islam put them together that's what

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when Allah Subhana Allah said lentinan Bill tatung fukami, Moto G Boone, Yanni lantana Lu Obama Dada g man, you will not receive an achieve and reach to the highest level of human until you give from what you love the most.

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If you love the most gold give money

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and so forth

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if you love your parents you can give me away

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interviews a solemn said that's

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the highlight

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the thing that will enter people the most Paradise is good manners. I've conceived the heaviest in your skill on the Day of Judgment. His little hollow is a combination of the action of the hearts the limbs, has the hook has to do with Allah to have a good man. Have a good manners with the religion, good manners with people, good manners with the creation, good manners with even animals. And it's if you had a soda like your mama can't ma'am got it.

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kandil calvia avenal Cal elizabeta sub

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sylviane Rahim Allah Sir, you don't say to the dog Oh son of a dog.

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If you intend that this is a curse are a bad word.

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You see even with animals you treat them well.

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And kayfun Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam have made this beautiful exam he said, Albert is good manners

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and good manners goes all the way to be with Allah subhanho wa Taala there is no Islam without good manners.

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And there is no gender without good manners

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as an Islam while better, while Jenna levels, good manners also levels. The more you rise in your manners, the more you rise in gender, the more you rise in your Eman, it's all the same level, the same concept it's levels. So that's why the more you increase your Eman The more you go higher and gender The more you have you increase your system the more your Eman higher the more your level in general will be higher. And in Ibiza Salim said in Neville genetti in the vll gender in the top of the agenda there is a house for those who perfecter manners

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debate the man has hollowcore

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and it's interesting okay

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how in ob Salalah is made these two connected together faith and good manners is to make sure that we don't have that separation in our life that you might have duck what suddenly would soon without with the law you Mashallah very good solid, but you willing to cheat you willing to lie, you willing to hurt you will you are you know not

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you're not treating people well. Should metal just one example, calendar resource on them

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are in such a big bill well barrier near agenda.

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truthfulness, lead to righteousness and righteousness lead to gender. Well, Kevin, lying Be careful lying lead to a fool

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for sure it means this obedience and this obedience lead to hellfire.

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He are the best among you in their Eman in the face. The best among you are the best of the family.

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We are comfy

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men father Hades and then headed della

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Anam attain

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and amazon.com

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it shows you that

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evil deeds there is two signs you can recognize them. You can recognize the sin with them.

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One insight and one that outside

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the inside has to do with your heart. You don't feel comfortable with it. Hack of is you feel you know what this thought, right? You know, I'm not supposed to be doing this. That's wrong. I'm not supposed to be here. I'm not supposed to be watching this. I'm not supposed to be doing that. That's just not correct.

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And outwardly. One is that you don't want anybody seeing you're watching this. You don't want to be seeing you doing this. You don't want to be seen holding that. Drinking this smoking them making that money. Okay? You don't want people to see you in that place. You don't want why because you feel that this is wrong and people should not see you doing the wrong thing.

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These two signs, but trust me and like he led them initially. I mean, by the way, these two signs doesn't mean that both have to be exist to make things haram or wrong.

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You might, you know don't have anything inside but you don't want people to see you.

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Or you don't care about people there is a lot of people you know the American way of life who cares?

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They don't care of people see them, but inside their hearts, they don't feel comfortable about it.

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So it doesn't need both of them has to be exist most likely the well but one of them is enough.

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And this important point as well. Awesome.

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The default that we recognize haram by or aaronson not by your feeling

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any we don't recognize the Huron by, you know how I feel or what people think about it? No. And that's what if it hasn't didn't get in this handy if it hasn't thought that he said it hasn't a harm recognized by the Quran and Sunnah not by what people think or what you feel. So been hasn't denied this hadith by the way he rejected because of this. But what I mean hasn't been understand that didn't didn't mean that in the base of sunlight was referring to mark and if he hadn't started yet, and you don't have clear evidence

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you're confused, is not a clear cut. You have something telling you and have evidence, it's okay to do it. It's not a big, it's not how long, but you have other basically, thing telling you know, Tom is not allowed for heavy handed third, when you are confused, and you have, you know, conflict, one of the way to resolve this conflict

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is to look, do you feel comfortable inside your heart? about it? Do you are comfortable that people can see you doing it? If not, you should know that this is hot, because sometimes we try to justify things for ourselves. So that's when it comes to see to show you if this justification is adjust justification or not.

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Is that clear? Is that clear? Like

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and how?

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New? Whoo.

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This is the

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is born and light.

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Truth has to be clear.

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truth cannot behind. truth cannot be in the darkness.

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And that's very important. The nature of dark

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secrets of things. That's the nature of sins. It cannot be the nature of good deeds. That's why in Islam, marriage has to be born in light. Marriage had stalled in public. We don't have in Islam

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hadn't survived. Which means secrecy. I don't marry someone in secret, and nobody ever know about it.

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That's not that's not right.

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You know, you don't in Islam, you don't have a relationship, which is basically hidden in the dark. It has to be in the light.

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Also, the same thing, when it comes to any form of work or dour or religious activity. There is no secrecy there is no like, no,

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no hidden and tried to cover it and no be clear.

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That's why one of the things that unfortunately,

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upset me sometimes when you see some of these downward groups and Gemma at Islamia, the work for Islam,

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they have all these secrecies and they have all this hide and stuff and you don't know exactly what their goal is. They will not even tell you who are the leaders

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and they will hide the the identity of the leaders.

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That's not correct. That's not that that's, that shows you that there is something wrong with this kind of practice Islam.

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We don't have this kind of basically organized without a communist group, especially if you live in peace. Physically if you live in, in a freedom

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app, for instance, one of the thing I always say, if you're going to build a relationship with an advisor is to Imams and community leaders and people to hear me around the world, especially in our countries in our western world. If you want to have a relationship also with you know, a government, make sure that this relationship are done in the light, not in dark rooms and secrecy. You know, everybody know that I meet with the police department to talk about things for the best interest of the community. I am very clear I meet with

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senators or the president or the king or whatever, you know, I don't have anything to hide.

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I'm very clear. That's what I do. Whenever you find that person, not want anybody to see it, you know secrecies and all this kind of things. You

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Know that there is a question mark about this?

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Either Hades FIFA jemena one of the beautiful points of this hadith shows you the importance of having healthy heart filled with Eman.

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Can anybody tell me from where we got this?

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This head it shows you the importance of having a healthy heart that filled with the man

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hacker facade.

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You will not feel comfortable about it in your heart

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your heart will not feel right about it. You will not feel comfortable. If you have a corrupt heart. It will never hurt you. It will never bother me.

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If your heart is so corrupt. It will never actually bother you. But it's only the heart that has Eman will feel uncomfortable with the sense is the only the heart that fill of taqwa that will feel so uncomfortable with this leash.

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Have you ever had a wound?

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A wound? If you have an open wound and you touch it, what happened to you? So

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you have an open wound and you touch it

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hurts. You put alcohol on it?

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Stay. But if it's dead

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and it's already closed on this dead wound, when you touch it hurts. No, that's exactly your heart. If you have a dead heart, even if you do major sins, it will not hurt you.

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not feel anything.

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But if you have a heart that have lived, there is live in it. Also for a lot today I I should have not said that. I don't think is the right thing to say. I don't think I should have signed that contract. I should not borrow that money. I shouldn't have spent that money this way. I shouldn't treat him that way.

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Have a deal. This also shows you one more thing. One more benefit.

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And the hill more

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leg feeling

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navadmin taqwa

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knowledge is not enough by itself to protect you from falling into Haram. You also need taqwa you need the fear of Allah. That's why Nafisa Salam said, If you confuse and after can notice what I've told people give you footwear left and right and all contradicting. He said look at your heart, how comfortable you are.

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So one of the way that

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protect you is your tuck or your Eman is not only the L because l without taqwa do not help much with delicate aroma Rahim Allah Pato Phil fatwah just elmen atka Mobile Adam.

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In Morocco, Allah said when you want to have a fatwa look at for the most righteous one. Not the most knowledgeable we said actually

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the majority civil Attica, why? How do we

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narrow our requirement and our because the one of taqwa it will prevent him from following his desire.

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Well, lame hamadani Mashallah. You know, Doctor,

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you know,

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tell me, Hey, what's the rules? I said to myself? You know what? This guy gave me a lot of free stuff. You know, he gave me this he gave me that your taqwa was doesn't matter.

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I'll say what's the right thing?

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Because I care about your arsenal because

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because l is not the only way can prevent you from doing the wrong thing. A lot of us we do heroin things while we not heroin. So it's not the lack of L. It's the lack of determination, the lack of iraida the lack of taqwa that will prevent us.

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The Hadith is speaks about history. And the importance of

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the jargon.

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Allahu Akbar. Allahu Akbar. borrow

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a lot.

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Mohammed Rasulullah

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Hayato Sana

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good manners some of it are

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natural and some of it are something that you earn I mean a natural some people are born

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and you might notice people yeah and I saw them with a ledger

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they are so cool they never get mad they never get angry this soul kick by this aura locks you know no matter what happened

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no problem. So easy balance

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and there is other people know they are very Mashallah hot temper

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is struggle for them to control their anger

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some people they are Mashallah they don't need any effort to give

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by nature

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is how I sees my kids. So my kids they are like three years old two years

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senior your kids as well. Some of the kids they give they share

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on some yeah and you pull the teeth and you don't give take from something from them.

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it is it is part of the who they are.

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But the good news is all this can change within a shed In either case, is it Yasser Allah these two quality that I possess or I have jobelan illa Allah

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is it something Allah Yeah, and he created me with them out the hurlock to be how I earned them.

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He said well Jabba Allahu Allah have you born like this? With these two qualities, which is an Anna forbearing and patient

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and not to rush. You take your time

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and had an incident

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but also an abuse of some part. in ML l movie

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Hill movie hammered with the handloom woman, Nieto somebody sobre la el is earned by learning.

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Hill for parents forbearing and subtle patient comes also by practice.

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Question, are you born knowledgeable?

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No, you need to train yourself to acquire knowledge. Same thing, you're not going to be patient right away. You're not going to have forbearing you're not going to be able to control yourself, right? Oh, you need to practice.

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So that shows you that manners is something earn,

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earn and basically what help you to develop your character traits are number one home

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First school number two

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your school where do you study we'll spend friends. What else?

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society community okay what you watch all this basically will influence you we wonder why our kids use bad words why our kids like think the tough is a good thing because what the watch and TV

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that's what that's what it is.

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And also when it comes to the manners,

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manners good manners appear on the time of difficulty

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like what

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when you are angry

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when you are

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in high level yeah and Don't tell me you're so down to earth Mashallah. Yeah Nick solo gram Allah wa Jalla

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You're so down to earth and everybody because you nobody

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you know, you have no money you have no position you have no title, you have no wealth you have no status. That's why you're nice to everybody that you're always around.

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But you want to see really when Allah give you so much wealth

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when the last one that I give you great good title. When Allah subhana wa tada make you an important person in society. Now we want to see

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are we going to see in domestic Are we going to see you with us? Or are you going to act differently?

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Your Masha Allah generous

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now believe it or not, there is people generous when they don't have much money but when they have so much money,

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generosity disappear

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and I will never forget when I was young

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the man that my friend calculated has occurred in our neighborhood almost all and Mr. Dinner when I was in middle in high school.

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His account was 41 million rooms.

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There is a Catholic outbrain emiliania

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he said Are you crazy?

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Using I'm gonna just give like this 41 million rails

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Do you think I got this money in the street? Our card? No no, recalculate it

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it's hard it's not easy.

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Mel is gonna give us about if we put in such position you said now because you don't know what 40 million means.

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You never had it in your hand

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not everybody succeed. Some of us hamdulillah had nothing and now a lot and he gives thank Allah for this because not everybody like that i'm sure in your life have seen that. Some people have a good manners with the stranger but not with the family members. Some people so truthful and generous with family members but rude to strangers

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fair and just with their family but not with other than family

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how they will see us but yeah, and this Hadeeth became so famous

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and became something that was number one right in their books. Generation after generation.

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polyakova hora la cabeza still

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possess good manners. Carrier sola.

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What's the real meaning of having a good manners? Kinda tosylamide kata

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were to opium and heroin. What if

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he said to give those who

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refuse to give you before

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when you're in need and they didn't give you you give them

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what I for a moment gonna make the one who have done wrong to you. You forgive them.

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What doesn't make

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you reach out to those who cut you off?

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Yes, sir. Very happy.

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Good manners.

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It start from the heart.

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Then appear in your tongue and in your actions.

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It appear in your

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way of life

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forever that tickle betania well Molly, welcome

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in all your deeds, the good deeds that you do with your money with your body with your heart has the whole appearance. By the way, Mr. hora. Also meetings

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appear in the most simple format that all of us can have it.

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We've been out of the line was asked, What's the holdup? What's good manners? It's not a complicated thing and a big thing on the

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is what June polyakova San

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Puerto Rico kurama Lane.

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He said Albert here, he says is a smiley face and a soft words.

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Just soft talk.

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You talk softly and you have a nice smile.

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And a mobile hostile word. Smile bedroom I have to give like a full other you don't harm

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in his little hood up and good manners. We have to be sincere. We cannot do it for the sake of dunya Annie Masha Allah when he first met the lady, okay. He shows her the best.

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Just because you want to marry her. And after they get married, she see the rest? Yeah, no, that's not right. You should do this. You do what you do for the sake of Allah. Masha Allah, He wants money from you to borrow your money, he will do everything.

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Yeah, and even he will kiss your hand to give him the money. But when you want your money back, he even kisses Yani to get your money back. Okay, you don't get anything out of him. He became rude. He can, you know, don't see you.

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It's because no class.

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You know, if philosophy has no hope it means I'm good to you. And you get to me. No, I'm good to you. Because that's what Allah wants. I'm doing it for Allah not for you.

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I'm not doing it for you. So you can thank me or recognize me. I'm doing it because it's the right that's what class means. sincerity.

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Good manners, recognized by the Sharia.

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And Islamic Islam said that's a good manner. also recognized by culture.

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If culturally we consider this nice way of talking, it's a nice way of thought. And that can be different from one another, from one place to another. I always give this example. When I first sought speaking English, I started speaking our learning English, the way I think in Arabic. But the culture in English is different than the culture and Arab. Any for example, in Arabic, when I say give me something, I don't say Llosa Magnum, follow the altimeter. Ah, guys

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keep up.

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Yeah, and she asked me a

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lot shukran Lhasa. You know, when we speak in Arabic? We don't say please give me this very formal or No, thank you. We don't speak like that. We just say give me the it's not rude in Arabic language. It is the tone of your voice is very, or you say no, I don't want but in English is so rude to say no. I still remember I used to sit? No. Can you see Thank you. Okay. And I feel like because in Arabic, that's a very formal and when it became so formal, it means there is a distance between us.

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But in English, that's not a good manner.

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Because every language comes with its what culture

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Also, some of them will fit wrong. And the natural killer you know, even had either culture you know, the slide was wrong.

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So, this is also something to remember.

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One of the benefits of the Hadeeth and then macmedia, Karanja and NASA FM

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that the believer doesn't like his sins to be exposed.

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The true believer will be very

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worried that his sense to be seen by people as fertile fragile.

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The person will have no Eman or overlap. But Muslim. He doesn't care.

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You see it you don't see actually some of them are exposed the sense they put the sense on social media

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without even thinking twice about it.

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When you see spalla, Muslim Yanni and nightclub pause, posting his pictures

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or going to a gambling place and proudly

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posting it or drinking alcohol,

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There is another Hadith and it was

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he said, I came to the process Allah. So in the visa Salam said, You came to ask me about the birth, didn't you? He said yes. Even though he never told the person on

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Stef Nickelback. Phil Biermann, Annette la nefs What if Omaha calf is suffering? What are in after can That's what he said and

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it is the thing that you feel comfortable doing? And if when you feel very uncomfortable with it.

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This has established a concept in Islamic called Allah wa.

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Have you heard this word before?

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And what it means to leave to leave something that does not how long?

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Does not just because it bring you near to the holidays.

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Just because you worry that can open the door for later on down the road. You can fall into the hot

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Holiday Visa salemme Waheguru de newcomen what are the best of your religion is to have one taqwa to avoid to always try your best to be in the safe side.

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And that's important attitude to have as a Muslim.

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Yeah, but hora couldn't worry

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tekun Abba doneness.

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If you have water taqwa, you fierson and you avoid the thing that is controversial. You avoid the gray area. You will be the most righteous person

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will Khun Tanya

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Ashkelon nurse yava be content with what Allah giving you. You will be the most grateful and thankful.

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Well I have been in nassima to him bad enough sick. Take a minute.

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Love for people what you love for yourself you will be a believer will x in gr M and Zhao Arakan Muslim

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and be good to your neighbor you will be the best Muslim

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will attain love bye for in kathrada back to me to calm

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and reduce the amount of laughing

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because laughing too much led to a lead to a dead heart.

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Heavy when Amitabh it said

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liar Ajay bukem catarratto salatu wa CME omura NRI for incana Varian marmaras Upon logging in Alibaba for abdulah haka don't look only to the salon the CMO the person look at their water

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leigha and he and I have seen people Masha Allah, the milk came in late the fast very every Ramadan the whole Ramadan amok I know people have seen in my life

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but when it comes to money, one layer click work and the samudrika he will eat you and take your money and take your and give you Yeah, and he a very unfair deals and he will not have a problem at all.

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He is alone alone alone, Milan months Mexico and your money is wasted by him or he doesn't give you your money back. They have no one I know COVID Allah

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that doesn't work.

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You see how the people have Taqwa of Allah, Allah that's or the avoid the thing that's are controversial, just to make sure that the optimal safe site.

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And these are some of the benefits from this hadith that I could think of and if anybody has a question or add point before we pray or we can show us all the prayer

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