40 Ahadith of Imam An-Nawawi 16 – Don’t Be Angry

Hussain Kamani


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On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (r):
A man said to the Prophet (s), Counsel me, so he (s) said, Do not become angry. The man repeated [his request for counsel] several times, and [each time] he (s) said, Do not become angry. [Al-Bukhari]

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Alhamdulillah wa salam ala

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kusadasi delusory wakatime ambia Alina Ischia, wa sahbihi let the ameba

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inshallah Today we are starting from Hadeeth number 16

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Have you heard of your loved one and the Rajaram car and in the beast that Allahu alayhi wa sallam outsunny

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This Hadith is narrated by Abu huraira or the a loved one, and then said to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, give me advice. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Do not become angry. The man repeated his request several times, and each time the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Do not become angry. The Hadith is narrated by uncle party and

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this is one of the four ahaadeeth that the famous Maliki scholar Abu Mohammed Abdullah bin Abizaid from the Muslim mentioned is from the principles of good character I've been repeating the scape the statement of his multiple times, because here we've studied this hadith once again.

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We discussed how the beginning of a man no matter what the law is 40 Hadith collection, discuss the foundations of the deen and now this middle part that we are covering right now relates to character personal development. And Abizaid mentions even Abizaid mentions that there are four ahaadeeth that are the foundations of good character, these four ahaadeeth if a person implements them, they will have the foundations they will have the awesome of good character the the all of the good character can be found within these four What are they men can be learned William will after the failure qualified earlier Smith whoever believes in a lot in the last day should speak good or remain

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silent. We've covered this hadith already, when Hosni Islam and Margarita kumala yani for the beauty of a person's faith is that he leaves that which does not concern him. We've covered this already in this class as well. The next How do you La

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La Mirada come see him if you boil enough see, one of you cannot be a complete believer until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself. We've covered this already in this class already as well. And today inshallah we are covering the fourth howdy that amount of Abizaid mentioned, which is the Hadith where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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Do not become angry.

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This Hadith is actually one word laughter that if you can memorize that you've memorized the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. It's one word, but in actuality, it's a it's a sentence. And it's actually a life full lesson. It's a lesson that's so beautiful that you can learn so many unique gems and it'll come to you again and again. The words will remain the same, but the benefits that you'll derive from this one word, will keep benefiting youth again and again through your life.

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Now, this hadith comes in variations, meaning it's possible that this incident occurred multiple times.

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That's very possible, or the Sahaba narrating this how do you differ in opinion on which words were used during this incident, according to the narration of divinity.

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He says that the words of the Hadith are original in in the recent aloha day was that a person came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and he said, O Messenger of Allah, I live in New Jersey, and when I took fidelium teach me something, but don't teach me too much. Don't make it too hard on keep it something simple.

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lolly urry so that I can memorize it. And this request of this hobbies is so real. He's not keeping it superficial. He's not saying a messenger of Allah teach me a hell Luma Deen Teach me Sahil Bukhari Teach me that the seed of even Cathedral for Toby. He's not asking for a long shot course because that's not his cup of tea. What is he asking for? He said, O Messenger of Allah. I'm an average person. I want to practice the deen. But I want it to be simple for myself. So teach me something, keep it simple, so that I can memorize it. And this is how majority of the people are, believe it or not. You know, most people just want simple advice that they can implement in their

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lives. They don't want long blown philosophical discussions on the existence of God. It's very difficult for them, neither are they interested, and their minds can't comprehend them. This is not to demean anyone but this is the state of majority of the people. their interest in religion is give me some advice that will make me a better person and ultimately gain the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala if I can gain that then what more do I want? So he says a messenger of Allah give me advice and keep it simple. Now one of the reasons why he says keep it simple is because loudly he so that I can memorize it. I want to memorize this advice. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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Do not become angry. For other the valley can be rotten, he kept repeating his question should be something else, teach me something else. And each time the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Do not become angry.

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In another narration.

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The companion he said Yasuda, la dulany Allah I'm telling you the feeling you feel you the feelunique agenda, a messenger of Allah guide me towards such an action that will guide that will take me into paradise. What I took for Alia and do not give me too much burden, meaning Don't tell me too much. I can't memorize too much keep it simple. On a lot of the prophets of Allah hada he was said him said, Do not become angry.

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So the first discussion that we have in this hadith is Who is this?

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Who is this man that's asking this question, do we have any hint in the Hadith? who this person is? So the scholar has different opinion on who this person is? Who asked the question. One thing they agree upon is that there is no authentic narration that tells us the exact name of this person. But there are some narrations that don't leave that don't reach high level of authenticity. But you have mentioned of a name of a companion. So some scholars hold the opinion that this was a hobby of the purpose that a lot of it was sudden whose name was your loved one.

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Your mom tarantola he brings a hadith

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that Abu Dhabi, Guardiola Juan says, I said, O Messenger of Allah, guide me towards an action that will lead me to gender and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said do not become angry and for you is gender. Yasuda la de la Niala Amara neutropenia agenda, Karla thought of one contender.

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Some scholars they say it is a person by the name of jatiya been put on.

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Other scholars they say it couldn't have been JD Ave Kodama because they argue whether JD Ivan Kodama was actually even a companion of the Prophet that along while he was sitting, and they hold up position that he wasn't a companion rather, God had been Kodama was a very

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as narrated by Ed Lee and others.

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Imam, Mullah Ali Akbar Allahu Allah in his shadow on this hadith he says that it's possible that this questioner was a beloved Amato the loved one. He says it's possible that this questioner was Sophia and bin Abdullah the last one. So there are other companions other names mentioned.

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Now why did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam give this advice? When he was asked give me an advice that's simple and to the point and don't make it too much for me so I can memorize it. Why did the Prophet sit alone while he was that I mentioned this.

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Now scholars will different opinion some scholars say the reason why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave this advice is because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was aware of the situation of the questioner and his personal life was such that he was plagued with anger. And people were always complaining about his anger. So when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had this beautiful opportunity to advise him, he gave advice according to the questioner. It says if a person who comes who has a bad habit of drinking alcohol, he comes and asks you, what's the one thing I should focus on? What's your advice? Focus on on your drinking habits.

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One person always comes late to class, give me one advice. come early to class. One person has a habit of not doing well do when they come to class, make little before you come to class. So you give advice according to the questioner. So that's one possibility. However, some scholars they counter that and they say no. The reason why that's not suitable is because the prophets that Allahu la was cinemas advice in general, he doesn't say his name and say this advice specifically for you. Rather, the prophet keeps it on, he keeps it general. And this advice is for people till the Day of Judgment. So if this advice wasn't based off of the background of a questioner, and the other

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possibility, he kept it General, knowing that this advice would reach mankind till the end till the end of times, then the reason why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us a lot of that is because anger is the root of all evil.

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Anger is the root of all evil.

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Nevada, Nevada. It brings all of the evil together well under the horror that are under the hot Rosa, men who gym outside and to avoid anger will bring you all of the good. And if you avoid anger, and you're doing good things and you will get genda but if your anger keeps coming in your way, and it keeps preventing you from doing good, then the doors agenda are closed for you.

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Some scholars, they say it's as if the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is emphasizing the importance of good character as a prerequisite to enter into general

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the you need to have good character. Notice here the purpose of aloha name seven doesn't mention an act of a bother he brings character in some scholars, they say that after your fundamentals in your deen after your solarstone zakaat Hodge, developing your character is very important. Otherwise, there is a hole in your in your pot of good deeds. If I may say, every time you put a good deed in there, if you have anger, your your anger burns away the good deeds that you gather together.

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So what does it mean to not be angry? Let's talk about this advice for the purpose of the law.

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So in order to understand anger, as the Arabs always do what we did the heritability of a Shia, that by discussing the opposite, you understand the actual definition. So if I'm going to define black, the best way of doing it is explaining what White is once you know what White is, Black is very easy to understand. So we'll be the heart of Russia. What is it? What is anger? What's the opposite of anger? So I love the wounded healer revolt, the opposite of anger is driven to be pleased.

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Pleasure, that's the opposite of anger.

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What is the what is the linguistic or the definition of a lot of anger? Let's talk about the root words used in this Hadeeth a mama Robin said who a thought Otto demographical erotica in Japan, be eroded in Japan, that it is the burst of fury in the heart with the conviction or with the intention of seeking revenge.

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It's a burst of fury in the heart with the intention of seeking revenge

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allama Tonga hood Allahu Allah says, love other people who are hardcore tonal enough see Mcdo Harland to calm that anger is a stirring within the heart and the beginning of it is to seek revenge.

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Imam Al ghazali ontologically says love is the boiling of blood in the heart with the intention of seeking revenge. So you see this again and again how they keep bringing up seeking revenge seeking revenge. Because when you get angry, what do you want to do?

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If someone divorces you, and you're angry, what do you want to do?

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Get back on them loud and clear. Get back right out to make sure you take them down to someone fires you from your job. What do you want to do?

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You want to get back at them. You get kicked out of a school What do you want to do? You want to get back at them. Your mom and dad shout at you when they ground you for a week what do you want to do? Next thing you know the toilets not working anymore. Getting back at them. There's random holes in the wall getting back at them. Toilet papers missing getting back into small petty things but you're getting back that's what that's what love entails. It's a it's this rage for revenge.

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Allahu Allah says they are different degrees of anger. So the Hadith mentions do not become angry. And generally when we discuss anger, it comes in a negative connotation. And that's because most people don't know how to control their anger. Anger usually results in not being controlled. So violating someone's rights, saying something that's not suitable doing something that's

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oppressive or hurting another person that's what usually follows anger. But is all anger bad? Or no?

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No not all anger is bad. You have to remember Allah subhanahu wa tada created it in you. So there must be some benefit in it if you use it appropriately if you use it properly.

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So remember those are the underlying it says that anger is a three degrees. The first is what he calls a well and a three

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that's read that far. Ah, yeah. For the read.

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The second is if

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the fleet and if not, the third is it Dad?

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What do these mean?

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The friends means too little.

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Meaning a person doesn't have enough anger in them. This isn't a praiseworthy thing. This could be a bad thing. There are some times in your life where you need to have anger. Emma Shafilea who the law he says, Minister, follow me for who I am or whoever was provoked to become angry and he didn't become angry. That person is a donkey.

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If someone for example, pushes your child and oppresses your child, should you be angry? Or should you just be quiet and soft? Someone comes and violates your family, you should be angry, it's natural. You know, someone comes in and takes away.

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You should get angry. If someone for example, mock something

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that people curse at their religion. It's because we love our religion. It's because we love the Prophet of Allah. It's because we have love for the Quran. And if a person doesn't get angry, and you can just curse them away. I'm not sure if that's actually a good thing. I'm not sure if it's a praiseworthy thing to have a friend that they curse or your mom and your cousin or their mom and neither of you get angry. For whom out money stuff from your loved one who has made angry and does not become angry, that person is a donkey. You should become an angry it's actually a very healthy thing. So there's one degree of anger, which is called the free stool. The second degree of anger.

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The food is it warm enough? All the shoes are not on the shoe wrap.

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You didn't put the keys after driving my car in the right place. There's still a crease on my shirt. That's my spot. I was standing in line first. You guys know what I'm talking about? Every small thing, every small, small thing? I told you to cut the pizza in squares. Not in not not in triangles. Right?

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I don't know if people do that. I'm sure some weird person does that.

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You guys what I'm saying? Okay.

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Every small thing makes people upset. This type of person is poisonous.

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This type of person you don't want in your life. And you should make the water a lot of the people around you and you'll never become this person. Because Because person beans, a lot of evil with them.

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every interaction that becomes bitter. Every party becomes bitter. Every time you go on a holiday that holiday becomes bitter. They complain about everything. They can never be happy. They're always negative because they're angry and frustrated. And most of the times their frustration is misplaced. Even they don't know why they're frustrated. They come home when they're angry. Family members ask Why are you angry, I don't know why I'm angry. Just be quiet.

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Everyone takes a piece of their basically they take misery with them wherever they go. And the third level of anger is the idea that you know it that means the middle ground, it's balanced.

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Learning to create balance, in your love and in your anger is one of the greatest deeds and most beloved deeds to Allah subhanho wa Taala. People don't know how to balance love. they place their love in the wrong place. And they overdo it. The story of every teenager

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the story of every college going guy and girl, they overly commit to people and they don't understand the boundaries of it. And then they come back and say chef, we were engaged. Why did it break because you didn't commit the right way. You should create balance in your life in your life light Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, the Most Beloved of deeds to Allah is loving for the sake of a lot and also being angry for the sake of Allah. Similarly, when it comes to anger, people can't place their anger in the right place. They don't know why they're angry, someone who goes through a divorce and he keeps, you know, saying bad things about a spouse when he knows that he was the one

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who destroyed the marriage. But what gives him content? He keeps stroking himself and saying No, you didn't do anything. It was all her. You know, her family members said this. he's quoting them out of context.

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His sister her sister said this or her brother said this or so and so person her classmates said this. he's quoting them out of context. But why is he doing this? Just to keep himself happy so he can sleep at night. This is what you call placing your anger at a place to learn how to balance your anger. Learn how to balance your love. There's a beautiful hobby. It's a narration from Lila de la one. One of my favorite narrations. One of my favorite narrations. Remember how to de la de la narrative is another good Muslim alida your loved one said to his companions, Habiba Kahuna. Assa, acuna, Basilica Yo Mama, what about his Basilica, Hola, Assa. akuna Habiba Yama, Allah powerful

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words. He says, Love Your love so much. Don't overdo it, balance it, balance your love with your friends, knowing that it's possible one day they may become your enemy.

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And he said, balance your hatred with your enemy, knowing the possibility that tomorrow you might be besties. So learn how to balance your love and learn how to balance your anger.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is a phenomenal example of anger in the it that you're probably wondering what the prophet said along what he was sent him that angry too. Of course, not once, but many times, not excessively. But if there was a need to become angry, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was angry.

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An example of this, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was informed that a hobby leading Salah was making Salah so long, that the other Sahaba in that locality stopped attending the prayer. And it became difficult for them to attend, because it's a hobby was making the Salah so long. So the Hadith actually mentions how the Buddha sort of lost Rasulullah sallallahu it was set up watch that the Hadith, the Prophet salallahu it was set up not only became angry but became severely angry, intensely angry Well, with the thief and he told the companions to shorten the prayers. In another narration the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saw someone spitting in the machine. In the Arabs,

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if they needed to spit, they would spit on the ground. They didn't have tissues or fancy schmancy Kleenex boxes or you know, they didn't have garbage cans of where someone they needed to spit they would spit on the side. Now the prophets of Allah Hammadi was sending became upset because the machine wasn't suitable for that. Even though the machine didn't have a carpet. In our massages of carpets, there's a no brainer here. You don't do that on the carpet. But on the soil, the profit of a lot even didn't like people spitting there. And finally, when he said if someone must, you're in the middle of prayer, your

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your nose is getting Fuller, your throat is getting difficult, and you can hardly breathe or you're having a tough time and you need to spit out the Prophet of Allah says spit to the left side and put soil over it so it's buried and no one else steps on it or no one else puts their head on it or no one else puts their hand on it. But when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saw llama on hamata feed givealittle message when he saw someone spinning towards the Qibla where people decided that the Qibla that direction of the masjid the progress that Allahu Allah will send them to Hell yeah, but he became very angry.

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So there are examples like this. However, when the prophets that allow honey was sent him would become angry. He would also make to offer the people that he became angry with and I'll come to that in a few moments.

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I shadow the Allahu Allah, the Prophet sallallahu it was said on one day said to I shall have your loved one How are you? Sure. I know when you are angry with me and I know when you are happy with me.

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He was very observant, sort of long while he was sitting, understood. Personality people had a had a hand on their pulse and knew their temperaments. The process that aloha name was sent him was emotionally involved with people and he says to Ayesha, the alarm. I know when you're happy with me, and I know when you're angry with me. So she said woman at 30 sudanic or messenger of Allah. How do you know that? GBT? Now listen, I'm coming and telling you is the angel coming and telling you where do you know, where did you get this information from? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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am I either going to unmute your audio for when you are happy with me? For in Nikita hulin you c'est la hora be Mohammed. I swear by the Lord of Muhammad when there's a need to take an oath you say and by the Lord of Mohammed when you're happy with me?

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Well, you couldn't be and when you are angry, then you say law will be brought him by the Lord of Ibrahim. So I shouted the Allahu Allah she says, a messenger of Allah I tell you, right. When I become angry, I say by the Lord of Ibrahim, and when I'm happy I say by the Lord of Muhammad, Allah He Otto suta, La Jolla. However, I swear by Allah, or messenger of Allah, I only skip your name on my tongue, your name always remains in its place in my heart. I might say Muhammad instead of Ibrahim, but your name remains in its place in my heart. It's just me showing my way.

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Like in our culture, if the sun does good in an exam, the father takes pride and says men are better at my son, my daughter, but if they flunk an exam, what did they say? They might have etsuko. Look at your child. They flunk the exam. They didn't do good, didn't get into med school. All of my dreams have come crashing down. Then they start after reading the misma. And what's beautiful is that Allah subhanahu wa tada Look at his love for his creation. He never distances himself from his creation, no matter how much the creation, this obeys Allah. Allah says, Yeah, Eva De La Nina sort of Allah and foresee him all my servants who have wronged themselves. You're still my service. A

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lot. Isn't this neat? How a father would naturally distance himself or a person would say they would distance themselves right away. If they're wearing a nice shirt and someone says, Oh, that's a nice shirt. I bought it. You're wearing a shirt. That doesn't look good. My wife got it. Immediately they distance himself. You know, my mom left his shoes. Yeah, it looks like it. In reality he got the shoes himself.

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One time the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came to visit the site he visited Bukhari and Muslim. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came to visit Fatima Viola Juana and the Hadith is narrated by Sal had been sad. He came to visit 41 of the olana and when he came into their home, he noticed it was afternoon time in the afternoon time, the adults will generally stay at home, get some rest, spend time with their family. When the Prophet of Allah came to the house and talked them out of the alarm on her lambda allien earlier the alarm one wasn't there. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Where is your husband? Where's Adi? So she says, a messenger of Allah kind of

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a NEO Bina who she

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father bunny for her Raja Olam, Jaco Lindy. She says a messenger of Allah him and I had a little up and down. We got a little heated at one another. So he walked out.

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The Prophet sallallahu wasallam said, ooh, aina Hua, where is he? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says to Salomon South who's narrating it that he The Prophet said to me, no, who I go and look for where he is. So he says, I went and I searched everywhere. I asked the people, where is he? Where is he went to the market, nobody saw him. However, one person said, Oh, I saw him in the message.

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Now, the problem is that a lot of it was immediately came there. Now what's interesting is how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is taking interest in the affairs of his child's household. That's not a blame worthy thing. If you see Someone's in trouble, and you know, they would appreciate your help, you should offer it. He knew that thought about your long run, and I would appreciate help or appreciate this out. And he knew that he had influence over his beloved cousin either their loved one and son in law, either their loved one so the Prophet of Allah doesn't remain silent. He steps forward. Sometimes some husbands, they get offended every time their father in law

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says something your father or your father is controlling. Or the wife gets offended, your mother is controlling. Every time their father in law says something, they get angry, they get upset. Sometimes the father in law says, I suggest you live here instead of there. That guy says, huh, my father in law shouldn't have a right to say where I'm going to pay my rent check to some people don't want their in laws involved at all. But here look at the situation. The Prophet comes to fakuma house, Allah the loved one is missing. He takes initiative. He says Fatima. Whereas we had a little quarrel. He's gone. The Prophet said aloud. Islam immediately puts together a search team so

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have been sacked. You go here, I'm going there. And they asked her on everyone. Where is it? Where's it? Where's it? One person says he's in the machine. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam comes to the masjid. And what is it? Are they alone doing?

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taking a nap?

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam because he was lying on the ground taking a nap. There was oil on his head because the muscles of the Prophet of Allah as I just mentioned a little while ago, didn't have a carpet. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said poem Yeah, about Rob, or father of soil wake up because he had soil all over his head. I believe that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said this to him after he had an argument with the prophets daughter. If there's one name generally you wouldn't like being called again is a name. Your father in law called you while you were an argument with his daughter? Would you agree? Let's say for example, you had an

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argument with your wife, and your father in law calls you to reconcile and he says, oh, silly head.

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What would you say to your father in law?

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I'll never call me that again.

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Tom ever say that again? And anyone that ever calls you silly ahead in the future? What are you going to do? Give them a slap on the head? How dare you call me silly head, but for the

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love he had for the Messenger of Allah. Moving forward when someone would call him Abu Torah, he will get happy. He would say this is the name that the Messenger of Allah used to call me by Yeah, about Colombia, Bogota, Colombia, about Iran.

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So many lessons can be learned from this. How earlier the last one when he noticed that the things were getting heated. What did he do? He left the conversation because being in a heated environment is not going to help. If two people are angry at each other. That's not the time for reconciling. What you need to do is go get some ice cream. Go get some Ben and Jerry's.

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Get some you know, pull yourself down, have a good meal together, go get some sleep. And then tomorrow you can talk about it. Don't you know there are people who say I want to reconcile it right now. Sometimes the wife will come and say let's talk about it. Now he says I'm angry. She says no one talks about it right now. He says, I've had talked about it. Every time I talk about it, I see Shannon's face on your face. So I can't do it right now. When you're angry, you can see in love and mercy, can you the wife or husband, both of them, when you're angry? You can't see that person that love you're going to see them with anger? And how are you going to have a conversation that'll have

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a proper resolution at the end of it? If you can't look at each other with love? So what does God allow him to do? he steps out. He's already he doesn't want to cause any harm to the one that he loves. When he leaves, where does he go?

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Straight to the masjid where the mercy of Allah descendents, where this piece where the vicar is being done? And what does he do, he puts his head down and takes a little nap, he sleeps on a little bit. When a person goes to sleep, what happens to their mind, it clears up a little bit, you know, when you're studying very hard for an exam and you can't do it anymore. Your mind is throbbing and it's painting and you can't think of anything, what do you do? Take a little quick power nap, you're not working, you're working very hard to exaustive take a quick power nap, your mind will clear up. And that's what I do the a lot one does. And because he follows all of these footsteps properly,

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along with maybe reading all the laws that the Prophet said a lot while it was said and told him to do, and most of them will do as the Prophet sallallahu. It was until the Sahaba. And he told them if you're standing, sit down and for sitting down, lie down, he lies down, he actually goes to sleep after fallen all of that when the Prophet said a long while he was sitting does wake him up, he's not upset anymore. This also teaches you when you're angry, don't become angry with the person learn to be angry at issues. He's not angry at him out of your mind. He never lets his anger go in that direction. He focuses his anger. And what's the anger on the issue that was between the two? And

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I'll talk more about this.

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I know the last one was known for controlling his anger. There's a famous narration regarding him that once Alia the last one was in the battlefield, and he was fighting against a person, he took this guy he knocked him down. He was sitting on his chest he pulled out his dagger right about to put this person down. And right when he was about to kill this person, this person spat on the alarm on his face.

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When he spied on earlier the alarm on his face earlier the alarm one put the dagger away he got up and started walking away.

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This person was puzzled. Are you going you were just about to kill me and I spat on your face rather than stabbing me three times you should have stabbed me 30 times. So I needed your loved one said originally I was fighting because you were the enemy. And you came in opposition to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So I was fighting for the sake of Allah. And the messenger said alone, isn't it but when you spat on my face, I wasn't doing it for them anymore. I was not doing it for myself. And I don't want to be held accountable for hurting someone for my own personal gain. I'm not interested in that. This was earlier the other one controlling his anger. This is what you

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call it done when needed to be angry in the battlefield. He's there. But at the same time when it's time to calm down for personal reasons, I did it a lot one immediately he controls himself and he calms down the process that alone while he was sitting used to make the offer himself and this is why we should all make regularly Allahumma inni Luca Cali metal hottie Phil Harvey river, or LA I asked you to give me the ability to speak the truth. When I'm angry. And when I'm also in revolt when I'm in when I'm when I'm pleased both times. Let me be let me speak the truth all the time. I shouldn't be wishy washy or oppressing someone. When I'm angry or while I'm in rhythm.

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It's important to know when you become angry, the effects of anger are not restricted to you or the person you're getting angry at. It's like a big bubble it increases the more people that are around you, the more people that care you will affect all of them. Okay? The people that care for you, the people that care for that person. So for example, when you get angry at your spouse, you are stressing your own family out. You are stressing your kids out you are stressing her family out so many people get caught into the in the crossfire So know that it's not one person you're violating there are many people if a marriage isn't working out for example, and the two are aggressive with

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one another Do you think the parents from both sides can sleep at night with peace? They can't because they're making law for their child. Now conflict in this place. I'm talking about anger rage abuse That's what I'm talking about here.

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There's a famous narration from the even the friends you might get angry at one person but the person who you got angry at while getting angry at them you may have offended someone else in the in the process. Okay, this famous narration for that with your loved one

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that once a book has to do with your loved one and oh my god a lot one got into an argument. And the argument got a little out of hand of electricity. Guardiola one said certain things that he regretted. So after the discussion was over, he went to Oman and asked him for forgiveness or not forgive me for what I said. I'm only allowed one was offended by what abubaker said. So he

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said to him I won't forgive you.

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of working with your loved one got shut down. He went to the office that alone while he was sitting this gathering, he came to the machine. He was sitting with the prophets of Allah who it was that of the prophets of Allahu Allah He was sending notice that something was wrong.

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So he asked, What's wrong? abubaker said O Messenger of Allah. I got into an argument with Omar. I said certain things I shouldn't have. I asked him for forgiveness. He didn't forgive me.

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So the Prophet that allowed him said, Go and call Omar.

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Omar the last one came. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to American photography a lot one hell contemporary Cooley sahibi Are you going to abandon my companion abubaker and become angry at him and displease him? He made a mistake. He's apologized forgive him. And the purpose of Allahu Allah He will set him said, Yeah, you and us in equal to yohannes Indira surah la la caja Jamia fukutoshin corrupt Abu Bakr sadhaka I was reading the ayah the Quran to the people in Nero sudo la de la comme Jamia, I am the messenger to all of mankind. And it was you people he was pointing out on one of the last one cut after you people said You are a liar. I mean, you called me a liar in the

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days of Islam before he became Muslim. And Abu Bakar was the one that from the early days of Islam. He was the one that always stood by my side and he's sort of the you're right shavon throws anger at those people who are on their way to gender, who are actually doing good. People who are trying to get somewhere with their life. You know a lot it's someone who is not married, doesn't have anger, he gets married. anger comes in. Someone doesn't have a job, they're calm. They get a job, they get angry. It's as if when you're making progress to your life. What does she do? He fires an arrow at you. And what's that anger called? anger? that arrow was called anger. It's to slow you down Is to

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deter you from Jenna.

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What's the difference between anger and grief?

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of love and poison?

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allama What are the Rahmatullah Holly says

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anger is a stirring or the fury that comes in the heart when someone lower than you violate your right

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and Hilson is you grieve over someone who's done wrong to you, but they are above you and you can't do anything about it. So you're sad over it. You're sorry over it when the cop gives you a ticket. Okay, because you can't do anything about it. You can be as angry as you want, but it's not going to work. So this is an interpretation that Alabama already referred to La La gives or differentiating between the two.

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When a person is spiritually growing shaytaan stops their spiritual growth by putting anger in their heart. There's one honey puffs that allamani was set up said in Nevada, you've seen him on camera, you've seen the sulfuric acid that indeed anger corrupts good faith, just as aloe you know, the aloe plant very bitter. It corrupts, honey. Honey is so sweet. But if you put aloe in there, what happens to honey? Even it becomes bitter, it loses its taste. So email is something very sweet. But when you add anger in there, the flavor, the taste, the sweetness, the potency of retirement is gone.

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What does it mean when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in the Hadith lots of love, do not become angry.

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So the scholars they say, I'm a hobbit Allahu Allah says lacava Ah, as Babel, how

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to not become angry means stay away from the pathway that will lead you to anger.

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Stay away from anything that will pull you towards anger. Clear yourself from that pathway.

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There's a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. This is a very beautiful narration. It teaches us the different types of people when it comes to anger when it comes to email. It's a lot of honey. It's narrated by a mom telling me that I went to LA honey from I will say they'll hook you up with your loved one. I'll share a part of it with you. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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okay, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Indeed the children of Adam were created on different levels out of a pot and shut down.

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From the children of Adam, are those familiar him from the children of Adam are those who are born as believers who lived as believers and died as believers? And then for the children of Adam, are those who are born, you let calculon Who are you little caffeine on that person? He is born youlet Capital he is born as a disbeliever. He lives as a disbeliever and dies as a disbeliever. And then there are those who are born as a believer lived as a believer but died as a disbeliever. And then there are those who are born as disbelievers live the disbelievers and ultimately died as believers. So there are four types of people perhaps that allow it instead of missing. You let your born live

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and die as a believer.

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You were born live and die as a disbeliever. You were born and lived as a believer, but ultimately you died as a disbeliever. You were born as a disbeliever lived as a disbeliever, meaning the early stage of your life in the middle stage of your life. But when it comes to death, that person died outside of stone, every person is born on Islam because of the fitrah, meaning the early phase of that person's life, the middle phase of that life, and the last part of it, they die outside of STEM, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa said after listening these four, he said the best of them are those who were born as believers lived as believers and died as believers. And then the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says,

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and from them are those who are slow at getting angry, and quick, a calming down. Again, for different types of people. There are those who are slower getting angry, quick at calming down.

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And then in front of them are sweaty or upsetting. There are those who are quick at getting angry and quick at calming down.

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Then the third person is there's a person study or the other, but it will fade. He becomes angry very quickly, but calming down takes a long time. And then there's someone who gets angry very slowly. And he calms down very slowly as well.

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He says the best of them are those who become angry slowly and they calm down quickly. And the worst of them are those who become angry quickly and calm down slowly. Because their anger period is very long. That's the worst of people. Have you guys, which one? Are you ask yourself that question? Are you someone who gets anger rarely and calms down quickly? Or are you someone who gets angry all the time and it takes you? It takes your spouse to three hours to sit down and say it's okay, it's okay. It's okay. Let's go. Let's go. Let's go. And you keep being that snob that says Get away?

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Are you that person? Or are you a person who gets angry very slowly. Meaning doesn't get angry, regularly, irregularly that person gets angry. But when they do get angry, it takes a long time. You know, you see the different scenarios, ask yourself which one are you? I probably said allamani. He was set up teaches us. And then there are those who are very good at giving back the debt. And there are those who are very good at collecting the debt, collecting the debt being good at collecting it. That means you forgive them. You're not too harsh in your language when you go to collect the debt. You don't threaten them when you go to collect the debt. And what does it mean to give back in a

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good manner, meaning we give it back the money on time. You don't delay the payment. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Well, you know whom say you hustling. And there are those people who are very bad when it comes when it comes to paying back a debt. But when it comes to demanding a debt, they're very good at it, meaning they have good character when it comes to demanding and debt. But when it comes to collecting the debt, they're horrible people.

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woman whom hasakah will say you will follow up and there are those people who are very good at paying back a debt. But when it comes to seeking the debt, collecting it, they are very mean at that. And the opposite of awesome says a man whom say you will call out say you thought of and there are those who are horrible or giving back a debt. And they're also very bad at collecting debts too. So again, as you can see, this heavy keeps breaking down the different types of people from different perspectives when it comes to their email and when it comes to their anger when it comes to debts. And then the professor of law he was sent him says anger is like a coal in the heart coil

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burning coil in the heart of the son of Adam. Do you not see the redness in his eyes and the bloating of his veins.

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So when one of you experiences anything from anger, connect himself to the earth meaning Calm down, lie down

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the Sahaba they said the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam started this lecture after Oscar Suleiman has a very it was a very long lecture. So we kept looking at the sun and we noticed that there was nothing left for the sun, meaning what time is it?

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It was a moment of time he gave a lecture from between us and and lovely. Yes, the problem is that a lot of them did give long lectures to

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and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam ended off by saying that in the whole amiot permanent dunya female mala minha laka mabati I mean Yomi kumada female Muslim in any way he says that we discussed a lot today and a lot of the most important principles have been discussed. What are the harms of anger

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Malala karela de la de la says that the scholars say

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anger is from the

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effects of shaytaan.

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And when shaytaan inflicts anger on a person, he takes the person out of balance in their character and also in their physical features. When a person becomes angry, they don't look as beautiful as they were when they weren't angry. When a person is calm, they look handsome, they look beautiful. You sit there and adore them. But when they become angry, you look at them and you're terrified. You're gonna sit on

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their face turns red, their hair stands on its point, their veins begin to bulge out

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Their ears turn very red. You look at this person and said What happened? Someone throw like some food on your face. They look like they're stunned. They can't smile anymore. Their face could be cringed to.

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I'm hardly accidentally subrata it takes away your suit or takes away your beauty. And this is exactly actually what I love until haggada salonica huhtala era says, lower Hata Laura alpha banu noxa houfy Holly of other v Lacan, Avada, boo hyah and Mitsubishi Shura T, therefore angry person were to take a picture of himself and later on when he's not angry, look at the angry picture, he would feel shameful of looking at his own face. Because of how bad he looks at how aggressive this person looks when they're angry.

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And then even athenahealth, Allahu Allah says

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that do not become angry. Because the best things that you can accomplish in this world and the alpha are dependent on you not becoming accepted, excessively angry. The best of this dunya and alpha can only be achieved if you control your anger. For those of you who are not married, and you wonder whether your marriages will last or not, I'll tell you one thing, ask yourself, do you get angry? What what kind of personality do you have with your own parents? If your mom tells you something? Are you someone that listens? If your mom tells you to do something, do you obey? Do you fulfill their requests? Are you kind if you see something your mom and dad are doing or saying that

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you disagree with? How do you respond to that? Do you become aggressive? Do you say it's my right to wear bla bla bla bla bla? Do you start randomly quoting out of the Quran in front of your mom when you're in an argument, right? I say randomly quoting because sometimes quoting is is not a service to the phenomena to disservice you're throwing an eye on someone's face when they're angry, are they going to accept that I or not, there's a big chance they won't accept it, you're doing a disservice for that person, you can push that person out of Islam by quoting a hottie than when someone's angry in their face. And, in particular, if they're senior to you, your parents are in front of you. You

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want to know what kind of spouse you'd be asked what kind of roommate you make today. Are you stingy? Are you generous? Do you clean after yourself? Do your roommates get frustrated if your roommates get frustrated, if you have a sibling and you share rooms and your roommates constantly frustrated? Guess who might be frustrated with you and a little bit your own spouse might be frustrated with you. You want to know whether you make a good spouse, go and ask your siblings. Right? And I'm not talking about first three, four months honeymoon phase. I'm talking about real long pole, the long the long haul going to people around you who you interact with today, and they

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will tell you what kind of person you actually are. Even the team says exactly that.

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Or the elevator lobby he says that it's very possible that if a person understands anger properly, you will realize that all of them are facet and the Jimmy Alma facet, and Nikita doodle in sunny in Mr. Heyman Shehata he or many of other B he write that a few words to look at all the corrupted things, all the things that destroy your person, you will notice that they come back to two things, that person's anger and that person's, their desires. If they can control their desires, and they can control their anger, this will give them control of their affairs and make them in and give them success in this world. And give them success into your attitude.

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If they're hustlers, Kalani continues to talk about the harms of anger and says that when a person becomes angry, the anger is then manifested through their words.

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But I thought, oh, who fully sang

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for him? tilaka who was shut them then he speaks with swears will flourish with vulgar language. A person that's very common, they get angry, they start using foul language, they start cursing, they start offending other people start saying racial statements. They start you know, throwing men they get angry. They'll say whatever is on their heart, they'll just keep keep talking. Keep talking. You might hear your parents say things that you can never imagine them saying, You're not my child. You've never loved me. If your father were to die, were you would you even look after me? Like mom, that's a little harsh. Of course, I look after you. You love your wife so much. You give her so much

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preference. I'm worried that if your father wasn't by my side, would anyone even feed me a morsel of food? Like oh gosh, every child heard their mom saying that right? Every married child is or their mom or father say that. So you know, when a person gets angry they see things in reality that mom knows and the father knows that you're theirs and they're yours. Their relationship is eternal. It's not going to break inshallah but at the moment the heat they say these things

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you never loved me.

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Whenever other other be Avon feel fairly with Barbie I will cuttle and sometimes the act the the harms of anger can be seen can be manifested through actions. You might go and punch someone. You might go and kill someone. Okay, you might go and harm someone, someone might go to somebody's house and tip their house or put a firecracker through their through their through their mailbox, you know, throw eggs in their car, take a key and scratch their car. You know, these are things that people

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Do when they get angry, they do these things because they don't know how to control themselves. So learning how to control yourself again, how's that adversity says something very beautiful. He says out about one man couldn't if he he awesome oh hola homina shaytaan will have Rama, who will have Rama, who Allah for things, whoever can control, Allah has protected him from shaytaan and the fire of hell will not touch that person. This is very beautiful, actually, how suddenly busted he says, There are four things, whoever can protect themselves from these four things control themselves and these four things. Allah has protected them from shaytaan. And the fire of hell has become

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prohibited on them. What are they?

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Men, not men, Melaka nafsa who in the rubber Bertie war Robert, he was chahatein

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whoever can control himself in the reservoir, what's number one? At the time of reservoir, I'll explain each one of these shortly. And that rubber was Aha, rasa.

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Number two, a rah, rah,

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rah, rah rah, but he was chahatein.

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whoever can control themselves in these four things, has been protected from the fire of hell. So what are these four things?

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raha is an inclination?

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It's a desire for something.

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When a person has a strong inclination or a strong desire for something, it's very possible they may adopt ha means to accomplish that.

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You are in love with someone. Your parents said, No, you're only 16 years old, you're not doing it. But what do you say mom?

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Love is blinding. I'm in love with that person. So in order to accomplish the thing that they have an awful lot towards, it's very possible, they may take a hit on pathway to be overly attached to be overly inclined. Even when you're going to buy a car or you're going to buy a house. Don't be too attached to that house or car. Because if you're too attached to it before you should be attached to it. You should only get that attached after you've closed the deal. You want to get attached to someone after you're married, get attached to them. And to learn learn about them. But be careful of being attached. Because if the marriage doesn't work out, if you are introduced to someone, you're

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you you've met, you've discussed just the same old Islamic way. You've met people you've been the prophets of aloha do something solid Sahabi he was interested in getting married, married, the Prophet asked, Did you go and meet the girl? He said, Allah? No, I heard about her. Everyone says she's good. I'm going to get married to her. What are the prophets say? Nope, go and stay with her. Go and look at her be content. So after you've done that, but that's that's an element of getting to know that person, not an element of actually committing commandment comes after marriage. Because now you know, the commitment will be mutual. And it comes from both sides. If you're committing to

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someone emotionally, and that person doesn't commit to you what's going to happen to you at the end of it, you're going to be broken. That's why in Islam, we create a balance of when to come in how much to commit now bring it out of the context of marriage and buy into that bring it to the context of homes or cars. Same thing. Don't overly commit to a home Don't over the love the home just because the realtor shows you're like this is exactly what I need to live in. Because once you say that what's gonna happen,

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you might do certain things that you shouldn't be doing. In order to get that house in order to get that car.

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A rubber, a rubber means fear, he'll hold me in a shape. When a person fears something, he may do whatever it takes to stay away from it, even if it's hot on. Even what he has to do is even if what he has to do is hot on when a person fears something, they'll do whatever it takes to stay away from it. Even if what they what they have to do is hot on

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a shower. A shower means inclination of the heart more passionately now.

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When a person is passionately engaged, it's very possible again, they might do something hot on for example, stealing or gambling or drinking alcohol because that's something they're passionate towards.

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And the other controlling yourself when you're angry because when you become angry,

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as we've been saying you can say or do certain things that will cause you a lot of harm.

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I just want to share a few Ayat of the Quran and a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on the discussion of anger. Allah subhanho wa Taala says in Surah shuda verses 37 to 43 very beautiful. What is the DNA of skinnygirl Kava you know, if one Salah heisha dama de Bohemia freuen when Latina such Abu Dhabi Hema Thomas Allah

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already know how many miles

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what is said to me through her family, we'll also have our law in the law. I mean, while I'm an enforcer, about

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Kamala human speed in the most severe allatheena remote and NASS, we have wonderful are the provider How will our economic model win I mean, while I'm on sobre la hora in Nevada Colombia has become these are

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versus a shootout sort of shootout that describes true believers. And in the verse number 37, Allah says, ye that Maha the boom, you're fearing that when they get angry, what do they do? They pardon. They forgive the virtue of forgiving and letting go of your anger in our bus with your loved one under the seat of the if suitable sudo Su, verse number 34. Here, the fabula t here awesome. He said a suburu indelicato. What does it mean? It's fabulous e acid, meaning retaliate in a better manner. If someone is harsh with you turn back to them in a better manner. So he says, what does that mean? It means three things a sub rule and the other meaning Be patient when you become angry, that's

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retaliating in a better way. Allah offer in the ISA, if someone has wronged you, you forgive them. Someone did something wrong to you. They said something to you that offended you forgive them. And the third thing

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in the fabulosity, he asked a Southern Nevada law firm that he said leave it at that. The third thing is, it's a longer issue. So these two things The first is a sub rule and the other The second is Allahu

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Allah subhanaw taala says in Surah Al Emraan vasarely rule and I'm a physiotherapy come in rush towards forgiveness from your Lord with Jonathan autoharp, a some artwork out of and run two gardens, the width of which are the the heavens and the earth, like that. In these gardens, these heavens have been prepared for those who are conscious of God and of the physical right You are the rock, who are conscious of God, those who spend in his cause in their days of good and also in their days of difficulty, while Kadeem innovate and while they are in control their anger they swallow their anger with a phenol in us and they are forgiving to people will love who you have seen and

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Allah loves those who are excellent. This is sort of earlier on verse number 133 amankora para la Holly under the seat of this ayah he says in this ayah Allah refers to anger as life. What does a lot refer to anger as well? catamenial Well, katha Mira life.

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He says, I lay the us through hot tub.

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He says viiv is the beginning stages of anger. It's the beginning of it.

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Right when it's picking up right when those emotions are stirring them, those thoughts are swarming your mind. block a theorem by itala Zamani, Allah kinah for Connie Nabina Houma la de la hora de vida de la

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malfi, the Buddha, he says, anger pada will always manifest itself through actions or statements. While the wave is the earlier feeling and the heart and the put on this thing, squash it right there. Don't let it grow because the more you let it grow, the more it's going to take control over you. There's an interesting story that I'm putting together with Allahu Allah narrates in his the seed from mamoon bin Moran that there was a servant of his that one day brought him some food in a bowl, moto cotton Hydra and inside there was very hot soup. And the servant

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accidentally slipped and dropped the the soup the hot soup on him. So moving my head on became very upset you can imagine. So the servant said

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why don't you the servant said to him, focus on the Quran.

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Focus on the Quran.

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And then she decided that I have put on this same ayah Surah Allium Ron verse 133. Don't you know Allah says in the Quran, while COVID Amina life Allah likes those who control and swallow their anger. So may Moonman Mohan. He said, I have swallowed my anger thoughts. I'm not angry anymore.

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And then she said, don't stop there act upon the next part of the ayah to

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be my brother who act upon what's next. When I feel not in us, and I'll also like those who forgive.

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So he said, our photo unki I have forgiven you too. She said don't stop there act upon what's after that too? Well, lo you hibel mahcine Allah loves those who are excellent and may move in Moran, he left this he freed this person from the responsibilities that go, you're free, you are no longer but awesome to LA give me hoorah to leverage Allahu taala I set you free and you are free of your responsibilities. In those days not only were the scholars well versed in the Koran, but the people in the home every child every adult everyone was somehow versed in the Koran.

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Jaffa sada Rahim Allahu taala says there is not an ayah in the Quran, that is more concise when it comes to character. Then the ayah Surah verse number 199 hold it laughs What motivated you out adonijah Helene, hold it Isla meaning forgive what motivated, click it off a little bit off. encourage people to do a good lot of energy healing and turn away.

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From the ignorant people, he says the reason is because, under a haka ferrata hospital, the hospital in Sania Allah achillea. To OSHA, OSHA, we are turnover for the better. He said there are three things that that that that the human being three strengths that a human that the human being has that manage and govern that human being what are they? The intellect, the shallot, the passion, and also of other anger.

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He says the intellect but karate is telling us to use it appropriately when the Koran says what motivated or tell people to do good because that's wisdom. And wisdom isn't it wasn't a fair isn't a fair of the intellect. As for holding a slot forgiving them that's controlling your passion, your passion wants you to exercise, but you're forgiving that person. Ask for love. Anger allows you to control your anger. When he says well out of the Ninja he did that. Turn away from those people who are, who are who are ignorant of the loved ones will love your loved one says if you wish to really know someone, then study them when they are angry. He says study the forbearance of a person when he

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is angry and study the trust of a person when you see greed in his eyes. If you see him being forbearance when he is angry, then no he is truly forbearance. And if you see a person being trustworthy, even though they're greedy, then no this person is truly trustworthy. But if you see a person considering the idea of pulling off an insurance scam because of a small fender bender, because they're greedy for money, and they're saying forget the amount, and let's just say it was his fault. So I can make a little money and I don't have to pay an extra premium by accepting it was my fault. They know that this person isn't trustworthy at the core at all. Run away from this

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person. I'd love them to smother the loved one.

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While the new devil narrates the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam who said whoever controls his anger, while he has the ability of enacting his anger, he has the ability to enact his anger he can you know, really do something. He's stronger. He's in a place of position or authority. He and he can do something about his anger. Right?

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Allah subhanho wa Taala the Allahu Allahu Allahu Allah on the Day of Judgment, Allah will call that person in front of all of the creation. And Allah subhanho wa Taala will say choose from whichever who would have the agenda you wish. Hassan adversity was asked, What is the greatest struggle he had which jihad is the greatest. He said, The greatest struggle is for you to fight against your own dissolve your own self, controlling yourself.

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It'll tell you what to do in love with Allah said, people will enter the fire of hell through three main doors. What are the three main doors? The first one is Babel shall Baba Shabaab is the door of doubt where you create doubt in your faith, which ultimately leads you to the fire of hell. The second he says is Baba chawan, the door of carnal passion, or the portal carnal passion increases, until it pushes you into the fire of hell. And he says the third is that the door of anger where you continuously become angry again and again and you violate the rights of people. And that pushes you into the fire of home.

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There are so many other narrations that I can share with you there's a whole list of them but because of lack of time, I think we should wrap up this one last part of this Howdy. Cuz someone can say we've we've studied anger. The Prophet said not to be angry, we can understand this heavy. But the biggest question is how do you control anger? Does Islam give guidance on how to control anger? So I'm going to share the guidelines of Islam on controlling anger in three tiers. The first a preventative measure, how to prevent anger from even setting in the second is how to control anger when the anger is in place when you're actually angry when you're actively angry. And the third is

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what to do after the anger has subsided.

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What are preventative measures of anger How does a person prevent themselves from getting angry The first is constantly make d'amato a law from saving you

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from getting angry yeah Allah help me with my anger. Yeah law assist me with my anger Yeah, last saved me from becoming angry.

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The second thing,

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remember that Allah subhanho wa Taala is forgiving so you should be forgiving to

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the highest Have you the narrative validator of your loved one that it is written on the throne of Allah in Marathi sebata Javi that indeed My Mercy surpasses my anger. So if Allah has mercy surpasses his anger, our mercy SIRs should surpass our anger too. If we don't show mercy today, and we continue to show anger to all the people around us, what if Allah refuses to show his mercy to us on the day of judgment? And Allah subhana wa tada presents his anger to us on the Day of Judgment.

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The third thing when you enter into your home make a habit of saying out loud Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim. Or out loud saying a Salaam alaykum. warahmatullahi wabarakatu because when you say this out loud shavon leaves the home as a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam teaches us and a shade on the devil.

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Not inside the home. Allah subhana wa tada will protect your home from arguments, fights and anger.

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Number four, control your tongue. Sometimes you may say something to someone that will cause them to say something that will make you angry.

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You guys understand that that the super Lavine the rudimentary lafaye Subala hard lambertian you curse someone else's god what are they going to do naturally

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they're going to curse your God. So don't initiate don't do something that causes you become a that causes you to become angry. There's a beautiful honey trouble here of your loved one and I find this narration in particular very beautiful. mumble Hydra narrated by Muslim narrated by Abu huraira the last one. He says that once there was a Jewish man in the markets of Medina that was in the middle of trade he was buying and selling while he was trading, he took an oath. What are the estafa Musa alayhis salam al Bashir, he took an oath. I take an oath by that one meaning Allah, who chose Musa Moses to be the prophet who chose Moses and gave him a rank over all of the other creation.

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When this Jewish man said this for some Yahoo Raja luminor and saw follow my watch

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what I'm sorry man heard him taking this oath. He slapped the man on the face. He said you're taking an oath by Mousavi Salaam with the Prophet of Allah is here. Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is here and you're taking an oath. He said,

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what a suit of love and of who you know the Messenger of Allah is amongst us near taking an oath by Musashi Sam, he was a Jewish man, by the way, keep that in mind. So the Jewish man is upset, obviously. So where does he go with this complaint?

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Where do you think he goes, he goes back to his buddies, he gets a group of people together, goes to his local scholar and says help me know. He knows that whether I'm Muslim or not, if a person commits a crime in Madina, munawwara you always go to the Prophet of Allah Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam because he will hold that person accountable no matter no matter who that person is. So he comes to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam this Jewish man for those who do you. Listen for Kalia

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in Le Dima.

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He said oh class, the meaning of Father of classes the profit of a license, oh Mohammed, awesome. I have them then that means I am under your responsibility. Why did we have a covenant we have an agreement.

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And he said folarin local knowledge he is so and so person he slapped me on the face. The purpose of the long run he was sent him called me he said Lima, Natasha, why did you start mother face? So this inside is harvested on messenger of Allah. He said by the Lord by the Lord who selected Musa over the creation, while you are amongst

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disrespecting you. For the purpose of the law. It was said and what happened for the loss that Allahu alayhi wa sallam? The Prophet said a lot, he said and became very angry until the anger can be seen in his face. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Don't make don't put profits over one over one another not to follow the rule. Baden ambia don't say this prophet is better than that profit, that profit is better than this profit, because ultimately there are profit. Yes, it is true

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that some profits do have ranks. But that rank is in its own place. Ultimately, all of them are prophets of Allah. So the purpose of a lot of money will sit on hold this person accountable. This is a hobby that he puts himself in this position by doing something that he shouldn't be doing which is abusing or being aggressive towards a person who believed that who Saudi saddam and understood the rank of Masada, Solomon stated that rank, but in return, he he physically hurt him. Another thing that he

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says regarding weak people is you should meditate this idea that weak people are the ones who get angry, strong people don't get angry, pre emptive measure, keep reminding yourself weak people are the ones who get angry. Remember, because Allah Allah says, under Merida as Robin you will see that a sick person gets angry quicker than a healthy person. He says well, so be you are surrounded by mineralogical COVID and a child becomes angry and much more quicker than an adult. Well, shareholder Eve Ostrava, middle Karl, he says, an old man who's at the last phase of his life, he becomes angry quicker than an older man who was younger than him.

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He says, a person with bad character, and a person who doesn't have a good holding in society will become a Serato. Rather than when saw he will, he will become angry quicker in comparison to someone who has a good holding in society and someone who is an upright person.

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And the last thing as a pre emptive, pre emptive measure how to avoid anger how to stop anger from coming in the first place is to make Vicar of a law abundantly, to remember a lot abundantly. I love the decree law he talks about, you know how when we were talking about the different definitions of love, the scholars kept saying it's a it's an affair of the heart. It's a it's a God out of them. It's a flowing of a burst of blood in the heart where it makes you really angry about

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a burst of fury so calm the heart down by doing the secret of a lot and that'll bring peace to your heart. What do you do if you're already angry? If you're angry right now you're in the middle of it. Someone has said something to you your your ears are ready. What do you do? The first thing immediately say, oh the Billahi min ash shaytaan energy.

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A Muslim Rahmatullahi la brings a hadith the prophet of Islam saw two people arguing he said to them, I know something if you read this your anger will calm down. And he said to them read the law him in a shadow Rajiv, one of those two people unfortunately, he kept arguing he didn't read the law. So once the hobby said, Why don't you read the law? The Prophet has said it. So he responded back by saying hello Ravi Min Joon Do you think I'm some insane person?

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He didn't act upon that advice for the Prophet of Allah. That's why you know, we don't have to lie. Allah says,

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a human can know who can have electricity and omega fatty law, that it's possible that he may have been a hypocrite that he didn't follow the command of the Messenger of Allah, or maybe your harsh nature better one because the better ones they have their unique personality. The second thing to do when you're angry, remain silent. Don't say anything. Stop talking. The Prophet said aloud is some says as narrated by Muhammad, either Habiba Hakuna foul, yes, good color, Hathor often when one of you was angry, let him stay silent. And the purpose of a lot of them said this three time movement mamoon bin Moran. He says a person came to some modern fancy and he said to some modifiers to give

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me advice. And some modifiers he said Don't get angry. He said give me more advice and modifiers he said Don't get angry. He said what if I can't control myself and I do become angry then what should I do? So some manufacturers are in some legally sonica way other than control your hand and control your tongue if you become very angry.

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Don't make decisions while you're angry to make important life decisions while you're angry. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said

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that a coffee should not give a judge should not give a ruling between two people while he is hungry or while he is angry. Because when he's angry, he might give a wrong ruling or if he's hungry, he might in hasty again, give a wrong ruling.

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A person came to even our boss at the last one.

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And he said to him in need to lock the Emirati Thera band. I divorced my wife three times while I was angry for calling us

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livestock to your Hillel aka Mahara mala Malika, I say to Rebecca Well, hello Metallica, Emma took that he said that you have done something that Allah subhana wa tada is not happy with. And now you cannot reverse that. So you have disobeyed your Lord and your wife has become hot on upon you. It's interesting when you look at this particular narration, because this is the common scenario people will come and say chef, I got into an argument with my wife and things got very heated and I said divorced her.

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Now, is there a difference of opinion amongst the scholars on the ruling of a divorce given while anger while a person is angry? Yes, there is. A large group of scholars majority of the scholars, they say that the divorce will count because nobody gives a divorce. When they're happy. Nobody gives his wife like a flower and says Lydia talaq Here you go. Diversity. People get divorced when they're angry, you know, when they can't control themselves. Unfortunately, that's the first thing. The second thing as for the scholars who do say that the divorce won't count, most of them say that's in a scenario where this person becomes so angry that he no longer has control over even his

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own thoughts or his statements. He kind of enters into a pseudo state of insanity. You know, a person becomes hyper, and they're really angry and they can control their statements or their words. That's what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam is talking about, and many Tokoha they actually asked they asked for proof, they say, has there been a time before in your life where you became so angry that you didn't know what you were saying? Is there anyone to attest to this? And if that person says yes, there is an example then they will accept this and not give the divorce otherwise, if he can prove this, that he's reached a level of insanity before through his anger, many football

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are of the opinion that even then you will tell that person, your divorce will count and the anger is meaningless. So learn to control your anger stay silent. The third thing is control yourself with water. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that anger and other gloominess shavon anger is from shaytaan and shaytaan was created from the fire so called extinguishes fire with water What does that mean? Some scholars they say that means to drink water. And some scholars say that means as one Hadees actually clearly states what that means is go and perform your will physically change your posture normally brings us to the man of God brings this hadith from a Buddha or the Allah one

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that when one of you is angry, if he is standing, sit down, if he's sitting, lie down. What should you do when the anger is gone?

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First thing first, repair any wrongs that you've done. If while you were angry, you said something

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To someone to your wife, to your kids, to your family members to a friend, go and say sorry to them, repair it right away. Don't expect them to understand that it's your problem and you don't need to apologize. You need to apologize. Go to them. Tell them you're sorry. The second thing, make dua for that person. If someone violate if you violate someone's right if you're angry at someone make dua for them. The Hadith is narrated by a mama and also a widowed from a book I'm sorry.

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This is another narration.

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Where's the con? Yes, from Java Viola. One, this is the Hadees narrated by Jabba Viola one. He says that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam one day said to the companions,

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that I am a human being like you are a human being in an abortion ottobock Omar al Bashir

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I am a Muslim in sabtu, Allah to Allah Allah who cafaro the person loves him said I'm a human being I become happy, I become angry. So if there's any human being who's right, I have violated our law, my anger towards that person, make it an expiation of their sins, make it an easement for them to enter into gender.

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give some thought on their behalf. And the last thing, if you are angry and you're regularly angry, and your anger keeps returning again and again, don't be shy to get professional help. There's nothing wrong with reaching out to a counselor and asking and seeking assistance for your anger issues. If you go through a proper course of anger management, it's very possible Allah will give you the feet and give you the tools to how to to give you the tools to control your anger. And in the long run, not only will you be a beneficiary, but those that are around you from the family members will also benefit immensely from your controlling and your and your calming down. We pray

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that Allah subhanho wa Taala gives us the faith to act upon what we've learned that it has so many gems. As you know, a lot of times I'm cutting it short now, but there are so many gems in this hobby. The hobby teaches us the excitement of this hobby to ask and seek and learn pathways to Agenda from the Prophet of Allah asking him for good advice. The hobby teaches us the importance of staying away from anger. The hobby teaches us the importance of repeating the message the Prophet repeated the message. He kept saying the same thing keeping it simple, keeping it to the point and the importance of performing good character prayer that Allah azza wa jal purifies our hearts gives

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us control over our anger, a loss of power that it gives our hearts to cool and contentment and peace gives us the ability to please those who are around us and not betray those who love us by being angry at them in destroying and ripping away the pleasure from their lives for so long. While I see them have a ceremony tonight.