Channel: Hesham Al-Awadi
Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim
wa Salatu was Salam ala ashrafi mursaleen Sayidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam,
sisters and brothers.
Not all great women were born great.
Greek was is not genetic.
You are not born great.
being unique, being great, being successful, being worthy of registering your name in history for us today to come and talk about your story is a difficult process.
And I'm saying this because sometimes students, girls, boys, men, women feel frustrated when they read history of great people, such as Omar are such as Ali or such as Hamza, and say to themselves,
I cannot be like them.
Yes, they were companions. Of course, you will not be like them in terms of seeing them in terms of
living the same conditions that they have lived.
But sometimes you think of yourself as having more qualities than them.
With some companions, you know, more than them.
Some companions have been Muslims only for 10 years. You have been a Muslim for over 20 years, or 30 years you you were born a Muslim?
Have you ever been drunk? You never. Maybe they were drunk. They committed adultery. They know what it means
to vomit the end of the night. When you're drunk, they know it. Okay, what's what's then the uniqueness? What's then the greatness one word. In a moment of honesty, they decided to change. Hence, our title, you turn
this title serves to give you hope, that if he or she can change. And if she comes from perhaps more difficult background than you, that means that you can change as well.
And that you can also have a U turn in your life, I have divided this theme into three categories.
three categories of change. One is radical change, from this belief, to believe from coupon to email. This is by the way, very radical. It's not about dating and about being in love with I don't know who through the chatting and through the internet. No, no, it's being Kapha. Being an unbeliever being someone who if he died as a Catholic, he was not to have fun. It's very serious. So this is the first category. And this is a very radical category, and inshallah no one is in that category. But I'm going to narrate to you a story of a woman that was in that category for you to appreciate where you are, number one, number two, this is the category that maybe a lot of us are in
it. And that is doing a U turn from doing something that is wrong, that is sinful, to actually repenting. But the repentance most of the time is permanent. It's not Moody, it's not that when you do so I feel sorry about myself and you shed a little bit of tear here and there. And then you return the following this is not a U turn, or U turn is in most cases, permanent change permanent.
This is the second category. The third category
is a category of doing something that is Holland.
But shifting to are you turning into an area that is I don't want to say more halaal halaal and less holla no Holla Holla. But a lifestyle that is of a higher caliber,
Rather than hoping to have a car you are hoping to learn Arabic have a car as Helen and learn Arabic is not well Helen.
But this is higher. This is a high aspiration.
Because if we say this is more Hello, that means this is less holla that means it's harder, you know, I don't want to go into more unless it's halal or haram and you know the categories or the men do.
So before the men do or the preferred or the recommended, okay, so
you turn I am looking through these stories and again selecting you see I think about the title, I think about paradigms, and I select the stories the stories come later Later later.
And that's what
I say to you, I'm not interested in narrating your stories, I can write your emails telling you the story. But it's the reflection. It's the comment, it's what we get out of that story. And incidentally, this is something that I should have said at the beginning, what I extract from the story might be totally different from what you extract. In fact, I believe that as women, your extraction is even more genuine, more legitimate if you want than mine, because you think about it from a woman's point of view, oh, he would never say this, but I know it. But suffice it to say that, okay, I'm helping, I am giving you insinuating ideas, if you don't like them, go and do
something else and think along other lines, or develop these lines further. So I'm looking through this Uturn title, looking to it through four main points.
And these are very simple statements that I will justify through these stories. a U turn, or a change is the result of deep desire and high ambition for self improvement. You don't have to write this down. It's common sense, you know, I want to change because I'm fed up with the way of life that I'm living. I've been a smoker for 20 years, I've been, you know, listening to music for I don't know how many, it's time to change now. Okay. So it's a desire to be a better person. Very simple.
When it happens, when it happens, it happens because you and I've written the word you in italics, it happens because you decided that the time for it was right, ie for the change was right. And not because that what was someone else fault.
You know why I've put this point, because that will then decide whether the change is serious or not, if it's imposed is not serious. As soon as that who imposed it on you passes away, you will return again. And therefore, it defies the logic of a U turn or U turn is that moment of change that is based on persuasion and self conviction. Yes, of course, it could be inspired by tools and advises but not imposed, not imposed. Okay.
So when it happens, it's because you decided that it was the time and the time was right and ripe, and not because that was what someone else had thought. Number three, this self enthusiasm and desire and keenness for change is what guarantees its genuineness and durability, a point that I've already mentioned.
the mere ability to change is to my mind, a source of power
the fact that you are able to change and the fact that it was you who decided to change that is emancipation that is power.
And that gives hope, that you are able to change and that you have enough commitment, enough will to change. Okay, these are the lenses. These are the ideas these are the paradigms now let's talk and service these paradigms in terms of the stories that I have three simple stories.
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And there is loads of stories about companions who turned into Islam. Most of them were all of them are kuffaar.
I don't think To my knowledge, I have came across a radical, this believing woman, like Hindi been talked about.
If I was someone who was a contemporary of hint, and so what she did,
I would say to myself, this woman would never become a Muslim.
You would be amazed sisters and brothers You would be amazed
when you know that there was someone who said and thought that Erma Abner hapa will not become a Muslim until a donkey becomes a Muslim. This is literal. I'm quoting you literally.
What someone loves you slim Omar Hata use Lima hemara Omar. Omar will never become a Muslim until his donkey becomes a Muslim. That's how people thought about drinking he drunk beating he was beating killing he wanted to kill the Prophet
sallahu Salah hin
That I would never
imagine a woman would do what she did.
Hint was a cannibal hint was able to chew, liver and liver of a human being. I don't want to disgust you. But you just imagine that you are watching her doing that. You don't have to know that it was the liver of Hamza, it's, it's enough to say that this was a liver of a human being. And arowana uncooked. If it was a liver of I don't know, a chicken, you would, you would become disgusting. No, this is a human being.
And it happens that it is the liver of Hamza, this woman changed
this woman, and she changed at an old age.
Okay, so I want to dramatize to You see, I need to dramatize the original position for you to appreciate the change from that position. It's like telling you someone was a drug addict, for example. Now he's a scholar, that raises awareness about drugs, you have to appreciate his life before he became a scholar.
It's like watching Malcolm X film, you have to watch the three quarters of the film, Malcolm X, doing all sorts of things for you to appreciate this Malcolm X with a goatee beard that talks about racism and the segregation between white and black. And then in the last 10 minutes when he goes to McCann becomes a proper muscle.
This has changed.
So you have to appreciate him.
And to appreciate him when she was a cafard. Let me tell you a few things about her. First of all,
hynd was one of the greatest enemy of Islam.
When the Battle of better ended, she realized that her father was killed
her brother was killed, her uncle was killed. And Hamza on the line was the one that killed these members in the family.
Look at the procedures that she took to articulate and to express her hate and anger. I want you to appreciate. I want you to appreciate
how terrible she was. I need to do that very well, for you to appreciate the change. First of all, she never cried.
I want you to appreciate how solidified her heart was. You know why she didn't cry, not because she didn't love them. But because she said I would not want the news to reach Hamza
that he has broke my heart, and that I am weeping and crying for the death of my father, brother and Uncle
even have the level of pleasing the enemy. She's not willing to do it.
She's not willing to register this moment of tear so that it's not reported that attend as cried.
So as not to please.
This is radical heat, that I don't want you to enjoy a moment in your life. What is this? This is hate or what? Of course it's hate.
Number two, she said to her husband, Abou soufiane great companion later great companion, but at that time and a Muslim. She said to him,
I will never wash myself to you. I will never wash my hair to you. I will never wear any perfume to you until you wage another war against Mohammed and until you defeat.
I am aware of someone like disease. The Yasser Arafat, for example, that he said, I will never shave my beard until Palestine is liberated. And there are people who say I'll never get married, until whatever. But for a woman to ignore her femininity and to ignore her body, and to sorry to say the word to bear to be disgusting in such a hot desert weather just because
making this public statement that I am so angry.
And I will not return to my normal life until we kill Mohammed. This is something extremely amazing. This is something extreme.
And she would never
have intimate relation with Sofia and Abu Sufyan. Whenever he comes closer to us, she said until we defeat Mohammed. You want to enjoy this moment. Defeat Mohammed. What's the relationship between the bed and Mohammed she made it an issue
She made it a case.
No, it's amazing. Forget about the fact that she is a disbeliever. Imagine we have a believer that thinks in these terms.
You know what I'm trying to tell you, I'm trying to tell you that those people were great, even before they believed. This is a great woman. If I was not a Muslim, or even if I'm honest, this is a great woman.
She has a case she has a cause. She believes in that cause she's willing to sacrifice everything for that cause. And she's lobbying and orchestrating campaigns.
on the Battle of oil, this was good news for her. She was among the few women that decided to go on the battlefield. There were only 15 women that decided to go, she was the first to register her name in this battlefield, to make sure that she will clap that she will sing that she will mobilize the forces and that men will not retreat that was her fourth, cause.
She was lobbying before the war. She was taking procedures, even in her intimate life,
lobbying for that war. And now she is in the process of the war itself. Look, look at this, look at this, look at this. Look at this aspiration.
The fifth procedure is that she asked why she who was emotionally servant to kill Hamza, and he succeeded in that. And that's, that's okay. In the sense that we know that.
But she, after the battlefield, decided that she has to go and mutilate Hamza, as if this is not enough. And what she said to her, look, this is Hamza. I've killed him, I will show me a news you show you. He's dead. Okay. Alhamdulillah, good. Whatever. No, no, I want to actually go and take revenge from this man. This is a woman by the way, this is not a man, I sometimes think a man would not even be able to do that. And it's fascinating. I said this to my mother again. I said, Mother, can a woman do that? She says yes. When a woman gets angry, she will do that.
I am aware, I am aware
in many Arab countries of women,
chopping their husbands. And they brought an interview with this woman that they said, you know, you killed your husband.
Why did you chop him? And put him in this dustbin back? You know what she said? This was on air. She said, Well, the, the body was just lying there. I pulled the smell, you know, would ruin the house. So I had to chop him, put him in the battle for him.
A woman? And I said to her, my mother, would she do that? She said,
If you You might be surprised. But you never know what the husband used to do to her.
And if he was here, she would tell me Are you making fun of me? saying that I'm a cannibal. You don't understand what my father meant to me what my uncle was to me what my husband I have childhood memories with my father. I'm not rationalizing cannibalism. Now. I'm not promoting it. What I'm saying is that you have to appreciate
that when a woman is angry, and she wants to engage in revenge, I don't think that gender becomes an issue here. It becomes about an angry human being. Okay, so please don't become angry at me.
And please, husbands do not provoke your because dustbin bags are a lot these days in the kitchen.
So when did the sushi one to mutilate hanza.
And she wanted to do it by herself. So I don't want to again discuss you but it's in the books of Sierra. She went and opened the stomach. I don't want to, again to you know, I did A Level Biology and one of the things that we used to do is to, shall I say it, you know it dissect rats. So you open the rat, and this is the liver and we have to draw it and we have to label it part of our assessment.
And I was aware of some people who fainted in the lab when they were dissecting or not know she is actually dissecting a human being and not in a lab. Not for a level not for GCSE. No, it's for revenge. And to make a point that oh Mohammed, come and see what has happened to your uncle. She took his ears out and throw that away. Some historian said she took his ears and made it into a necklace.
This is when a woman wants to beautify herself.
His nose and throw it away.
And she took the liver and ate the liver. And, you know, for obvious reasons it was, so she threw the towel. Now, we don't want to fantasize about stuff like this. But the point I'm trying to make is that I stopped for a while. And then I said, Imagine, now, visualize.
How will the face of Hamza look, think about that. Think about the face of Hamza without ears. Without they say, they say also historians that she put appears in his mouth and started to play with it, play with it play until the mouth. I mean, I don't think that any CNN or whatever would would show this is disgusting. So much so that soufiane when he became a Muslim, he had to apologize for what she did. He said, Well, like she did it behind my back. I wasn't aware of what my wife was up to. And I didn't expect that. I'm trying to dramatize the amount of anger that she had. So much so that one of the companions called them and
tell him looked at the face
and said who did this they said the other solar lights him.
He said Whoever sees him
should be killed.
So Wanted Dead or Alive hint.
Hint was a danger for Islamic national security.
And when the sister of Hamza Sophia bint Abdulmutallab, she is also the aunt of also Salah wanted to see the body also Salim said to as zuba your arm or Abdullah Abu Zubaydah said to him, Sophia is coming. Try to block her try to prevent her it's a very bad scene. And Abdullah Abu Zubaydah went and said aunty please go
she said I want to see Hamza he said, I have all this for Manasa Salah Please go.
She said get out of the way. I want to see my brother
and have the loudness will be straight away. Got out of the way.
And went also said Jada Salalah. She's insisting also Salim said okay. It's okay. Just let her have a look. And, and that's it. So she went. And she looked at the face and this is a sister, by the way.
But hamdulillah she didn't become like him. Seeing her brother. I mean, she could have been like him. Well, I I will kill him. I will eat her liver. No, no. And this is where Islam comes into it. Yes, I hate her guts. But Salaam Alaikum sister, you know that there is manners. So she said in Allah en la Rajon, and she came and she said daughter, so Salah era Salalah, I saw Hamza, and I saw the situation. And in sha Allah, May Allah give me the edge of for my patients, and then she left.
Okay, let's zoom the camera now into that person who is dead or alive needed him, let's go, where is he and went went back to to Mecca.
And she remained there as a non Muslim until these years passed, and are seldom conquered and opened.
Now Hindi is watching from the window.
And this is the turning point.
I sometimes say to myself, if Hindi was killed somehow by someone who said, who you know, wanted to obey orders or sell them she's needed, they're alive, she would have not turned she would have been killed. But it is as if Allah made her witness and incentive and an incitement that will create this turning point.
She looked from her window and she saw the companions
going around the Kaaba
and making power off and praying the Salah.
We sometimes pray in the Hyde Park.
And you find tourists and you know, people in Britain who would come and take a photograph, but that's it. That's it. Hindu wasn't taking a photograph Hindu was watching and watching and watching. And then she looked at Abu Sufyan and she said to him
in the early two and ottavia Mohammed, I want to follow up.
Are you aware that Mohammed was the one that said that you should be dead? Yes. I want to believe in it. Are you aware that Mohammed Salim was the one that actually orchestrated the death of your father? Uncle Anna? Yes, yes, yes, I am aware.
But I want to follow Muhammad. Why? No lectures, no talks, no pamphlets, no leaflets. nothing except seeing someone who prays.
She says, when she says to Abu Sofia and I want to, I want to follow Mohammed, he said to her, right up to
her, he said to her, come on, you are the most person with inositol to Islam. What has happened to you? She said, One law he I have been living in Mecca for years and years and years and years. This is the first time that I am seeing a law being worshipped properly. That's what she said, of course, worship properly because all what she have seen for the last 3040 years, or naked people going around Kaaba and doing nothing except worshipping idols, who, who who will these people change and create you turns, you need companions of high quality, you don't need me, you don't need us, Allahu Akbar.
You don't need that. You need someone who prays properly, and reads Quran in a melodious voice to be able to change the heart of him of a cannibalistic woman.
Can you see what prayers does to a human being? This is what prayers do. And then she went, and she
accompanied either armor or earthmen. Historians disagree. And she covered her face. So that also sell them would not know her immediately. And she went and said jasola I would like to become a Muslim. And he said, and who are you?
And she took the niqab. And she said, I am him.
Of course, there was a moment of shock. Of course, there was a moment of anger.
But this is our school, this is not me and you. He said to her marhaba and the hint, welcome and welcome.
And hint said what say the fascinating statement. She said with this Welcome, welcome him. She said by Allah, messenger of Allah, there was no person dwelling on the face of the earth, whose family I wished to see. Dead or a based more than your family. Now, today, you turn now today, there is no person willing on the face of the earth whose family I wished to see exalted more than your family. It's a fascinating change, isn't it? So radical change?
Okay, this is hand.
disbelieving cannibalism. This is him transforming. Now let's see him in action as a Muslim.
Let's see the third now change many incidents of our tent but just to see what she did in one battle, the Battle of Yarmouk, the Muslims were fighting against their enemies, believe it or not Hindu was doing the same thing that she was doing in the Battle of the Battle of water. She was clapping in the battle. She was doing poetry. You know, what was the poetry that she was singing in the Battle of her heart. She's talking to the men now, she said, this is the poetry. If you advance, we hug you.
Spread soft drugs beneath you.
If you retreat, we leave you leave, and no more love you. This was the poetry of hint. Well, I have got news for you. This was the same poetry that Ted was saying to the Muslims in Iraq.
Which, if anything, shows that a fascinating person is always fascinating. A great person is always great. All what happens is that he or she takes his talents, her talents and transforms them into a new channel in service of Islam.
And when the army was retreating, she was shouting. And she was saying, you know, Nathan, has the moon in Iran mean Allah Subhana Allah. She said, saying no to the Muslim. Well, what are you running? Where are you going? Are you running away from the enemy? Or are you running away from online he's agenda.
I think if he was living with us today, she would have been labeled as a terrorist. But the point was that she was lobbying and she was campaigning, who am a polygon Allah, Allah sees you. So do not retreat and do not run away who is doing this men, no women. And Abu Sufyan and the men that was retreating after they heard this, they came back and they began to fight and they won the war.
So this is a story from Coco to Emma. Okay, tell tell us a story that is more relevant to us now. Come on. I'm not emotionally cut, never eaten live or whatever. But tell me something.
That is more realistic.
You know the story of aloha media.
And this is a story of a woman that no one knows her name, except that she is her media because she comes from the tribe of Carmen. Hence, she is called mohammedia. And of course, she had an embarrassing story, and no one wanted to reveal her name. So she was known, her name is known, but you don't know it. And the people who know her name have passed away now. So she is in disguise. She if she she came here, you won't notice her. If you spoke to her, you won't notice her, you won't know her. But if she said to you, I am mohammedia then you will know.
I cannot cease to think about day and night and dramatize her action.
She committed adultery. Number one, she was married.
Number two, you don't commit adultery with anyone. You have to know that person.
A woman would not commit adultery with anyone.
A woman would know the man.
A woman might fall in love with a man or a woman would kiss or be kissed. And then she will fall into adultery. So that means that she was
going through a process that have been maybe taking years until she decided or until she was tempted to fall into adultery.
Is this right? Or I'm exaggerating? Have you ever seen a woman unless of course she was a bad woman.
But it's a process. And I say to myself? Why would a married woman do that? I don't know.
Okay, forget all that. Forget all that.
That means that the one she committed adultery with was a man is of course a non Muslim. was probably
in Medina. Yes, of course. Because she was living in Medina. At the time of the Prophet, yes. And the time of the Prophet.
She saw the Prophet Yes, he's a companion. Yet she committed adultery. Yes. She saw Abu Bakar Omar. Yes, she attended Friday ceremonies. Yes. She prayed in Yama. Maybe once or twice? Yes, yes. Yes. How on earth? Did she commit adultery? Well, she did you know what this tells us that these people were real people. These people were not Harry Potter or Lord of the Rings, those people were human beings walking on Earth.
Okay, what's the difference? The difference is that they recognize that the moment that they have done something wrong, they need to change. That's the only difference. We recognize that we are doing something wrong, but we don't want to change. That's the difference.
And therefore it is beside the the point whether you are living in London, whether we are in a corrupt society, whether the Prophet is here that this is beside the point. Because even if you now were living in Medina, and you want to to access the internet, you will do it. Because it's you
not because it's the time or not because it's the country.
And similarly, if mohammedia was living in London, she would also change because she is alchemy. Do you understand? Are you with me? Please, please think and wake up and think about this woman called alchemy dia that knows that when she goes and confesses to also asylum.
You know, the punishment for a married woman.
And so asylum actually gave her the opportunity to escape and to run away, but she didn't.
And this is what I mean, when I say you turn
It wasn't that she committed adultery. And then she felt sorry for a couple of days. And the third day
she began to think and about an you know, and she smiled and you know, he was a handsome guy. No, no. She is
hating the moment.
And the passage of time then becomes irrelevant.
What about when she's pregnant? What about when she has a beautiful baby? What about when she breastfeeds the baby? What about when the baby looks at his mother's eyes and smile? What about when she gives him a piece of bread? What about a woman's desire? A woman a mother's desire to see this baby grow up and go to school. Isn't this a legitimate desire? It is legitimate.
But she doesn't want to see all that she doesn't want to spare herself another day to witness
Development. She's so angry with herself that she wants to change and to purify us. And after three years of a period of providing her for escape, imagine I put you in prison, and I leave the door open. I have locked the door. And but I want you to know that it's open. And I'm saying to myself, escape, escape escape. It's open, it's open, it's open. And I come after three years and you're still in prison.
This was a mohammedia. She came with a baby. And she said, Jada Salalah. Now he's about two years, and something I am aware of, some of you have a baby for one year, this relationship, this intimate relationship, this, this social emotional attachment with your baby that lasted for one year is nothing compared to three years that mohammedia had with her baby. Yet ultimately, asset to the baby, bye, bye. I'm leaving. I'm leaving you for a decent society and leaving you for aerosol Selim and his companion, they will take care of you. But I have business to do. I have perfect purification to do. I need to change I need to purify myself. And I'm willing not to give the garden
back to my husband as a dowry given that I'm, I'm willing to give my life and I'm willing to give my baby in order to please Allah. Now if this is not changed, what is changed? What is change? This is to me.
a third category of change, change that is less extreme, but also fascinating.
You need to change when you're doing something bad. You need to change when you are dis believing in something and suddenly, but if you are good, if you pray, if you don't know what I haven't revealed, or I don't know how you identify religiosity, if you are okay and safe.
Why do you need to change?
Fatima Fatima didn't have the medic.
Fatima didn't have the medic, was a daughter.
Forget about daughter. She was a girl
of the highest class in Muslim society.
I don't know what are the manifestations of high classes here.
If she was living in London, she would be living in a mansion. She wouldn't be coming
and praying in central mosque until unless she has bodyguards everywhere. She will come with her black Mercedes wearing her sunglasses so that no one sees her. I don't know wearing what and and we'll pray and then go.
She shops at certain places. She buys certain clothes. Designer designers Taylor's made
13 members of her family. Our rules. Either a husband is a ruler, a halifa. A father is a halifa an uncle is a halifa her brother is a halifa She is surrounded by 13 men who became qualified.
She's the Duke of I don't know what she is a member of a respected royal family I cannot know
dramatize it more than that.
She married Omar Abdulaziz
and she got married to him.
Her father loved her so much. She was his spoiled daughter. When she married or monopolizes The wedding was the greatest wedding on earth. He or weddings? I don't know tandoori chicken and it's always spicy so I cannot eat it I have to drink loads of water and they say brother sorry. You know hamdulillah water is nice there so you don't have to eat the chicken anyway. So these are weddings here
fatmus wedding. People will not given tandoori
people who are giving gold
if you wanted gold, you don't have to go to Samuels. You go to fatmus wedding.
And you will come out
everywhere. So everyone I think wanted to go to fatmus wedding.
Historians took about millions and millions and millions. I mean, I'm not sure about the currency now. But means
because Fatma is getting married and I say to myself it's a one night it's a one night. Why does the halifa have to spend all this amount of money while people are begging the street etc.
It's politically incorrect. It's not right. But this is what rich people do. Rich people will spend for half an hour of enjoyment.
Now when fakuma got married to Omar Abdul Aziz and Omar Abdullah as he also went through a period of transformation, he was handsome. He was rich, rich, rich, very rich, because his father is Abdul Aziz, not as rich as Fatima, incidentally, but from the same royal family, the model and a family.
So they went on their honeymoon, in a place in Syria, beautiful weather, without fans.
Without sweat, beautiful area in Damascus. And they had a tremendous honeymoon there 1000s of them on a daily basis.
But the moment that our Marina Del Aziz was made halifa
he took all the clothes, all the designers, would you you have designers, would you be prepared one day to give them to the issue or the charity shop? Not after you wear them? No, by a designer, brand new and give them to the child? Would you be able to do that? I don't know.
He would wear a shirt once. That's before he changed a shirt, a shirt. You know, what are you doing? I'm throwing my shirt. Why? Well, I've used it How many times? Oh, yeah, I guess just once. That's how rich these people were.
So he's when he became a holiday. He took all the clothes and gave them to the for color. And he kept to clothes for him.
And he said to Fatima Fatima if you want to remain with me
everything that you were,
you might say it's an extremist statement. You know, I?
If I was on what was his friend, I say, I needed more meaning let at least keep this necklace that you gave her honor on her. You know, anniversary. Good memories. No, no, no, no, no. Let her take everything.
So she took everything. And he said to her if you are prepared to spend your life with me the rest of your life with me take everything
she said and this is to me. genuine love. This is a you know,
really it's love.
She said yah, yah yah ameerul momineen or Omar y la he if you asked me to give even double what I have.
Now, it's amazing because like this is a spoiled girl now. Spoiled girl. Anything she wanted to do. Imagine now Rama says only you will be Janice. Only your abaya only your hijab That's it? What about what about my other woman? You know, what about my friends? What will they say? If I sold my Mercedes or my holes? Or did not wear designer? No, I can't do that. No, no. Please divorce me. I cannot I'm going to return to my father. And when she goes to the Father, oh, how dare I you know, this is my daughter. Okay, divorce. I will get Hamada to the best men. No, no, no, no. It's a choice. She made the decision. And she changed. And she used to eat nothing but onions, onions,
and bread. She would eat less than you.
But then in mind, she was living in mansions. And she spent millions and animals. And you remember that this woman that was eating onions? You remember you attended her wedding? What did you get? I got a Rolex watch. I got lots of gold. Yes, she's eating onions.
You might say What a sad person. No, she's not sad. You know why? Because now we are mentioning her today. She registered herself with the islands with her with her bread with her commitment without discipline. If Fatima lived the same lifestyle, what you know, she's she's the daughter of the halifa what's what's new?
Okay, I'm going to end it here with a few lessons very short. One. The three stories of him
of Armenia or Fatima
that when a woman is convinced, and when a woman is persuaded, she will change breasts or your wife will wear hijab only when she is convinced and when she is convinced she will be the same test saint or the holiest verse person on earth. We hope that but the point I'm trying to say is that when a woman, unlike men, perhaps
dedicate herself to something. She becomes loyal and faithful.
Number two, neither of the three women returned to their previous life.
After three years, or during one and a half years, never committed adultery.
A hint did not believe and then this believed or believed and then sat at home raising children. Good Muslim handler My name is hint, Ilana? No, it's it's changed and it's progress and it's excelling.
Number three, they changed on their own accord. Abu sufian did not pressurize him to change. Omar Abdulaziz gave her the freedom but not did not impose it on her and her media. The one the man, the man that committed adultery with her. He's not in the narrative he's upset.
He didn't say to go and confess to her so he might have escaped. No one knows knows anything about him.
It's the women in the narrative. She's everywhere.
on her own accord, not being like in a remote control, moving according to the man's wish.
Number three, we do not see a man in the entire narrative. I have not introduced you a man to tell you that change has to be from the self and not imposed on man. Now I'm using man here as a symbol of authority. man could be society, man could be father, man could be custom man could be tradition, man could be your uncle, man could be your culture. Man is on any source of authority. All the change that we see here is insinuated from within
number four, and this is the final point that if they can do it, you can do it.
If they can do it, you can do it.
If Fatima can eat onions, I'm not asking you to eat onions. But look at the change. Now. Look at the change. If she can live in a mansion and then live in a small house.
You can do it.
It's not the house. It's the symbol symbol of adapting to something new. If you smoke, and you quit smoking, and you are able to adapt with non smoking, you can do it.
If you have a relationship on the internet, for example, well with someone I don't know who might turn out to be a pedophile. You can quit that you can do it. I understand it's not as simple as logging off. But if hen can do it, you can do it. If Commedia can do it.
You can do it. This is Utah. Boulder, Colorado, Stafford alone. You're looking for stuff you know