Tafsir Surah Talaq #06

Haitham al-Haddad

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Hello, Rama rasulillah will start giving the tips here of the second verse.

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Allah Allah Allah says VEDA una una Vina roofing

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nabeshima roofing huashi do the way I didn't mean

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this

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is

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a continuation of the first

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or the verses

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the verses that are

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the rules that are or that were mentioned in the first hire

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have been complimented in this or by some of the rules in this

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collage Allah Allah says the translation of what he says and then when they are about to attain their terms, their term appointed, what does that mean?

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When we said that

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the man will divorce his wife

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and he should, and she should both of them should wait for the period.

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And we said that they're in the period

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differs based on the nature of the palette or the marriage and whether it ended by Palau whether it ended by that it ended by dissolution okay or even if we consider death,

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but we are talking about talaaq here

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or for dissolution.

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So, they should wait for the period and we said that the period generally speaking is three or

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three cycles.

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Yeah, three cycles. Elijah levada here says, if they were about to end the eight day period, then Be careful, either

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Okay, take them back, or

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part with them in a good manner?

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Either reconcile and take them back, or part with them in a good manner.

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What does that mean?

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It means that, when the idea is about to finish, the husband should make his decision.

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Do I want to continue in this marriage?

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Or do I want to finish it?

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Yes, a legend. Allah says after that, don't take them back in order to cause harm for them while at the Robin Lita do so by the end of the period, or just before the end of that period, the husband should think twice. What do I want to do now?

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Yes, either to take them back, or just to end it amicably.

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Now, take them back is known as what we do, take them back is known as overdue.

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There are certain rules

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that have to be mentioned here regarding what to do.

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Especially when I'm Latina, we need to mention them because Allah gelada mentioned one of the rulings here, which is what she do the way the men come and

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take as witnesses to just Muslim men. Yeah.

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To just or to adult.

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Muslim men.

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Okay, take them as witnesses, witnesses for what? witnesses for follow up or witnesses for what to do.

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Some scholars say that here, Allah, Allah is referring to what to call up. Some other scholars

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are saying that Allah Allah Allah is referring to what to do.

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Yeah.

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But even if we say that, it refers to Pollock, it doesn't mean that Pollock cannot be valid, except with what would shoot hood.

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Yes, none of this color said this. None of this could have said this. Once the product is given. It is given even

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There are no witnesses is a misconception that some people have that the pilot has to work to be witnessed by shoot. No, that is absolutely not correct. Yeah.

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My check it was

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an Egyptian Muslim scholar, a big Muslim, Muslim scholar.

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He died 30 or 40 years ago, 30 years ago, maybe he had his own he had that we have to have shoot for Pollock, we have to have to hood in order to make the product valid. And his opinion is definitely a wrong opinion not to use the head, it is a wrong opinion. Because we can say what about if a person divorce his wife once, twice, three times 10 times 1000 times? And there were no shoot?

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Yeah. Will that

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render this divorce as an invalid divorce? No, it is impossible. The other thing is, see, there are matters in Sharia whereby you cannot change them. Once it is done, it is done.

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So no news whatsoever, can you change them? such as by law, because they are connected to different rights? First of all, it is the right of Allah Allah Allah.

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And moreover, yes, it prohibits the most honorable thing which is what which is the private part. So you cannot retract this, which is something that is quite

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sensitive. You cannot just change or detract this by you are on HDR. So even if we say and I remember that some scholars, some contemporary scholars said that in order to minimize bollock rate, we need to maybe adopt this HTML whereby we say that the padlock is invalid except if it is in front of Jude and we say no, that token is a confirm token cannot be changed, okay.

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So this is if we say that take witnesses is referring to who is referring to tala, the other scholars said that take witnesses is referring to what to do. What does it mean when the husband takes his wife back? Yes. And Allah Allah Allah is talking about detail for Isabella Jeddah, Hana, forensic una Viva rufen

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una de la

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mia, it is talking about Trudeau and it is likely that we'll actually do the way I really mean is talking about what we do okay. We mentioned that rodeo, rodeo which is taking the wives back is valid within the period

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provided that the policy is irrevocable

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It is only valid within the period provided that the policy is what irrevocable which is what

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the source data and the second pillar Yes, the third pillar there is a doubt but there is what there is no rule. Yes. And moreover, we said that it is valid provided that it takes place when while that is still valid.

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Okay. So if a person

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if a person did not take his wife back, except after the end of the day, then that is not a valid thing to do. He lost his white house.

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Yes.

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Okay.

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How can a person take his wife back or make her do? Yeah, how can the husband

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takes his wife How can a husband take his wife?

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This color said some scholars said that they will do will not be valid except with Shahada.

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Yes, so the person or the husband who wants to take his wife back, he has to have witnesses that he has taken his wife back. However, this has to be understood carefully.

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Because those are scholars who said that

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there has to be a Shahada witnesses in order to establish the rule. They said that the purpose of Shahada here is not a good is not just an act of a data, rather, it is what it is for

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us to see it means what?

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To prove that this redo has happened. And therefore, if they will do, can be established by anything other than Shahada, other than the testimony of two Muslim

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male, then the rule is valid. Yes. And here, as we said, Before, we need to understand this point carefully. And we need to disseminate this knowledge to others. Because many people misunderstand these things. As we said before, that none of this color said that the redo needs, the consent of what of the wife that will do is conditional to the consent of the wife, none of the scholars said this, they will do is valid without her consent. And as we said before, I don't know whether we said it, I think I said that. Many, there are many sisters who misunderstand this and who think that when they refuse, they will do yes to their husbands, then they did not. They did not become the wives of

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their husbands. And once that

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is over, they get married to other men, which is completely wrong. And I mentioned to you I don't know that I mentioned, we had some cases where

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the wife thought that it is not a valid route. The husband also thought that it is not a valid to redo the money so that it is not a valid retort when the husband told his wife, I'm taking you back and she said, No, I don't want

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to go back. So her parents had had one he thought that it is not a valid to do. And he said that, well, she doesn't want to go back. And husband himself thought that this is not a rodeo, the wife thought that it is not a rodeo. Then a few months later, she got married to another man, this happened with any practicing people who claim that they understand the deal. And then later on,

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when they found that all that we do is valid without her consent. Then they started to think oh, what about the second marriage? Yes. Was it valid or invalid? What is happening? That's why we say we have to be careful, it doesn't need the consent of the wife and we have explained this okay. Before. Moreover, there is another point here, in order to establish this is the point in order to establish that the husband has taken his wife back. He can inform her that he took her back.

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Yes, he can inform her that he took her back. This is one way or he can inform her while he

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that he has taken her back or he can have two witnesses.

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Now, let us go to these three cases one by one, if he has told her that he has taken her back then it is done. There is a valid through do and she is his wife. Now if she said if she denied,

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yes, if she denied. So the husband Todd told his wife

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that he took her back. She was living with her parents,

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which is long as we said, Yeah. But he told her back Listen, he told her that Listen, I'm taking you back here. So she heard this.

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And then she continued living with her parents that is over.

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And then she wanted to marry another person. We say to her and please, we need to understand this point. That if she

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got married to another person while she knew that her husband took her back, then she is committing a major sin.

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And she is doing Xena not Xena adultery. Yes. She's coming

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committing adultery. So they have to be very, very careful.

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Is this point clear? So if she knew that her husband told her that he took her back, and she refused, but she knew that he took her back. She hit it. Yeah. And kept quiet. And then later on, she got married. Yes, then that marriage is invalid. And she has committed Zina, and every time she sleeps with her husband, she is committing Zina.

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It happened once it came to my knowledge that the sister

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have done this long time ago,

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long time ago. And then she went to one of the Imams and then the Imam contacted me.

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Then she contacted me, I said,

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the fact that this happened even 100 years ago, it doesn't make it held up.

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Is it to clear

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the fact that it happened 100 years ago, let us imagine. Yeah, doesn't make it Hello.

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So they were asking how to fix this situation. I said, first of all, whatever she has done before was held on for her every time she cohabited with her husband, that was like Xena, okay? Because she admitted that her husband took her back, but she hid it. And then she said yeah, by time I thought that it is helaas de la by how to solve this problem, how to solve this problem? Okay, we need to establish what was the position of the first husband?

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Yes. And then we can we need to look at it carefully. But it is a big issue. It is not a small issue. Okay, so this is the first case, the husband took her back. He told her, she denied it. Yes, it is haram for her type. Now, if the husband came, for example, to an Islamic court and he said that I took her back and she is denying it. The Islamic court or the judge is going to call her is going to call her he will ask her Do you admit that he has taken you back or not? If he admitted that, then the judge will what will issue the statement that they will do is valid

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if she denied it? Yes. If she denied that, and the husband?

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Yeah, if she denied that, then it is upon the husband to bring

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a proof that he has taken her back. Otherwise,

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the judge will say as far as judgment or jurisdiction, perspective or judgment perspective, that we do is invalid. Yeah, that is invalid. Now, we have to understand one point my dear brothers and sisters, as the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said

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that he makes judgments based on what he sees from people.

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If a person can conceal the truth, yes, the prophets Allah, Allah seldom said in the Lima Allah, if the person conceals the truth, and he took something that is not lawful for him, then the judgment of the prophet SAW Selim does not make what haram as halal and what is Hello, hello. So the person the person will be held on? Yeah. For example, if two people differ on method on this mobile phone, one person says that this is my mobile phone. And the other person says, No, this is my mobile phone. Yes. The mobile phone for example is with

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a brother.

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What's your name?

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Yeah, with brother had

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a it is with him. So the original proof is that the mobile is with him. Okay. Then brother Amar said, No, it is my mobile, we need to ask brother Amar to prove that this is his mobile. If brother Hydra knows that this is the mobile of Amar. But our mom could not prove it. And they came to me and I said, Mr. Do you have a proof that this is your mobile? He said no.

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This is your mobile and he said yes.

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Yeah. Okay. He said yes.

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And I don't need sometimes, because in this particular case, I don't need to ask him to make a Hadith, because he could not what present any proof to me. So his Dawa is just a claim.

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Yeah, if he could not prove it, it is a claim. So I don't need to ask him because he's monkey he's denying I don't need to ask him for a holiday. Yeah, unless he presented any kind of food. So he said, Oh,

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the judge said that the mobile is mine.

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It doesn't mean that the mobile is his

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career. Yeah, my judgment is based on what what I see. And this point, my dear respected brothers and sisters, we have to be especially for the level and they have to differentiate between two things, Bubba and Deanna, the differentiation is very important for the rejuva issue, if the wife knows that her husband took her back, then between her and Allah, she is what

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a wife, if they came to me, and the husband could not prove that he has taken her back, and she denied it. And I said to him, or to both of them, that there is no to do

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and I said to her, you can go and get married, this is what matter of judgment, it is not a matter of what the anathan between her and the law. Of course, me as a judge, I have to say to her that listen, be careful between you and the law. If you know that you had to do then it is haram for you to get married between you and the law. But as far as I know, here, the husband could not prove that we do then you can get married, if she cannot go and she cannot go and say that, oh, the car that he gave me

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gave me a judgment, not ephedra gave me a judgment that I can go and get married. Yes, we say no. This is based on the dead man's perspective following a certain procedure between you and the law. It is held on for you okay to get married, while you know that you have been taken back by your husband. is the point the clear. That's why many scholars said in order to avoid this, it is highly recommended for the husband to to have witnesses when he takes his wife back. Yes, but they did not say that the redo will be invalid unless there are two shoot Yes. Yeah, neither validity is not conditional to what the? Shoot

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Yes, yeah. Brothers, okay. So this is the first case the second case, which is what if the husband

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if the wife denied and the husband established to shoot?

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Yeah, to shoot that he took her back?

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Then what? It is a valid to do?

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Yes. However,

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however,

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Okay, first of all this case, if the husband,

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if the husband

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forced the Shahada got to shoot liars.

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And the wife between her and Allah

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is invalid, because the husband

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she knows that he is a liar, but in front of the judge, he brought to shoot then this matter is a very sensitive matter, very sensitive matter. The judge has to investigate more. Yes, if he doubted the,

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the validity of the Shahada of those witnesses, then he has to investigate more by will not get into that. Type. If the husband if the husband. Yeah, we said the third case that the husband will work will tell the family that he has taken his wife back. Okay. There is a case whereby the husband takes his wife back, but he does not inform her. Not he informed her husband heavily.

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So the wife doesn't know that he or she was taking

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back by her husband.

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And then she got married to a third person.

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Yeah. to another person, the wife, the husband, they knew that the wedding of his wife, though I, that has been the same the wedding of my wife is today. Oh, so he went, let us imagine that there is a Muslim country or there is a

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an Islamic judgment. So he went to the Muslim judge, and he said to him, I have to shoot that I have taken my wife back. And she got married now. Yes, some scholars said that, if the marriage is not consummated, then there is a particular judgment if the marriage was consummated.

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Yes, then the claim of the husband even if it is authentic, yes, provided that he did not inform her nor he informed her family, then he should be punished. Yes.

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He then he should be punished, because he did not inform her, not he informed her body. And we say to him that you lost your wife, you should have informed her or you should have informed her. What is it declare? Why? Because some husbands, they divorce their wives, they leave them during the day. And just before the end of the day, he says to two of his friends. By the way, I have taken my wife back and he leaves her.

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Yeah, he leaves her. Why didn't you inform her just like this? She's my wife. Know, if he got married, if he got married, then you lost touch.

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Is it clear? Is the point clear? So this is what we do.

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Okay.

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Allah gelada here says fayda Bella Anna agenda hoonah. Yeah, we forgot to mention about this point. Say that Bella Hana, Adela hoonah. When they reach the or when they are about sorry, when they are about to attain the time appointed when they are about to attain the term appointed.

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Many scholars said that Allah, Allah says, idea lohana Yes, Adela Honda. Their their term. This means that they are

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responsible for what? Yes, for informing others about the end of their term. And there is statement about the end of their term should be accepted. Is it clear? Because Allah gelada attributed the term to them? What does that mean?

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And their wife had heard three cycles. Yes. And her third cycle ended with her she had the muscle or she did not have also not get into this. Her husband. Her husband said to her that I took you back last night. And she said, What What time did you take me back? He said, I took you back at 11 o'clock. She said I ended my period by Maverick time. Yes. Seven o'clock a

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few hours difference. He said, No, no, no, you are a liar. They came to the Islamic court. And she said that, oh, judge. I ended my period at seven o'clock. He informed me until 11 o'clock that he took me back.

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Yes. Which a statement should be accepted?

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Yeah. If there's one says no, no, no, no, no. She is a liar. Normally her period continues more than that. Yes. If she said no. I testified that my period ended. Then the judge should should take head statement. Yes, I will. I will do Ha.

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Is it clear?

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Yeah. Had a statement when her period ends and we're head were had a debt and some scholars said that there is an exception if she claimed that had ended in a time that it is either impossible. Sharon, or fun? Yes. Sharon or orphan. So she said to the judge, that will law he might

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So without any even help, she said that her period ended in less than a month. What do you mean? She said that she saw three cycles in one month?

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Yeah. three cycles in one month. Some scholars accepted this to happen. That Apollo jambalaya. Yeah. By and worked. Oh, yes, it's natural a woman. So, yo Malaya once I can remember. Yes. We said this. Remember one cycle one day and purity 12 days, this is what 13 and then

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14? And they say and then 12 is what? 26? And then 127. Yeah. Or if we say Apollo moneda was Apple, over 13 days, the minimum tour is 13 days. One plus 13 plus one plus 13 plus one. It can't happen that had ended in one month. But if her husband says this never happened to her that had that comes like this for one day. Yeah. So the head period comes for one day and have purity comes for 13 days, this never happened with her, then the judge needs to investigate. Yeah. And her statement will not be taken for granted. Yeah. On the other side, if she said that

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her

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ended in one year. How how that ended in one year.

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She says that she sees the cycle every three months, every three months, she sees the cycle. Okay. And her it there was disturbed. And so for the whole year she was on her radar, then the judge should investigate that more, because this is not the norm. Yeah, this is not the norm. Is it clear? So if it is not the norm, sorry, if it is yes, the hill, Sharon, our rofan if it is impossible, either from a shadow perspective or from the custom perspective, then he should investigate if it is not the norm, he should also investigate Otherwise, the statement should be taken here the statement should be taken for granted. And this is one of the cases where Shahada to Moroccan wahida is

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enough. Yeah. They always say that. Islam does not accept the Shahada of one single lady. Yeah, we say no, it depends. Generally speaking, yes. But there are cases where the testimony of a female is given more weight than the testimony of what of the male Yeah, or the statement of a female is given more weight over the testimony of what of the male and this is one of them. Okay, so this is a de Bella Bella hoonah.

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Then as we said, Allah Allah Allah says fam Chico Nabina ruffian alpha. ohana DeNiro, yes. Then take them back or hold them, yes, be narrow, or let them go. Okay, in a good manner.

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Allah Allah, Allah says this, because it happened, that some men devote us to divorce their wives during the time of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and when there is there is about to finish. He will take her back.

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And some of them were asked, Why did you take her back? Do you want to reconcile? He said, No, I want to cause harm for her. Yes. And this is Helen holiday. Lo Allah revealed this. Yeah. Some scholar said that, based on this idea for mc COVID-19 are often our family who never have the husband who knows that he doesn't really want to live with his wife. Then it is hard for her for him to hold her without bollock.

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He knows that he doesn't want

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To live with his wife, yes, then he should leave her okay. The narrow part from her in a good manner or with a good manner. This is similar to the ayah in Surah Allah Yes, anyone knows the area where it up Alico, Nisa favela, Nigella Hanna Chico Nebula roofing out, sadly, who never know the I have Aleksandra?

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Yes, also a legend Oh ALLAH says for himself and in our in our city and be sad. Yeah, either let them remain with you or hold them tomorrow in a good manner or just leave them amicably, and you don't need to cause harm for them

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here

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This girl has also discussed one I was 31 issue a very important issue. They said, What about if the husband

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to cut back? Not Be my roof? Here her back not in a good manner, not for a good purpose.

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Yeah, so he divorce her. Then when the day is about to finish, then he took her back

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in order to harm her.

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Yes. And then she complained to the judge. What shall the judge say?

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Here? This is one of the ayat where the scholars discuss the issue of marriage dissolution. They say that, because I don't know Allah commanded men to hold their wives in a good manner, or to leave them in a good manner. Yes.

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If they don't do this, then it is upon the judge to interfere if the wife ought to do so. And he has the power to end the marriage.

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Yes. Some scholars mentioned this. Some other scholars said no, this doesn't lead to this conclusion. Yeah. doesn't lead to this conclusion that the judge can they can dissolve the marriage? Yes. Or as the Maliki scholars say, can divorce her against her husband's will? Yeah, this is what the Maliki

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scholars say. They don't believe that there is a marriage dissolution except in very few circumstances. And in other circumstances, they say you Polly Polly Hill Party, which means that the party will say that you are not standing as a husband anymore. And I am divorcing on your behalf. Yes, I'm divorcing your wife on your behalf by the power that Allah Allah give me as William okay. So, this is for mc kohan Nabina rufen.

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ohana dinero. Now, this means my dear respected brothers and sisters, as we said that, if the husband knows that he cannot live with his wife, my roof, yes, in good manners.

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They come up live together like this. Many scholars said that it is against the dignity and the good manners that the husband just keeps his wife. Okay, while he knows that he cannot live with her in good manners. Yeah, it is against his dignity it is against ethics it is against and many scholars said that it is even harder.

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And unfortunately we find this. Yes, we find this among many husbands. Yeah, fee. Today, for example, I was coming from this area Council. The

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I just came from the Islamic Sharia Council. And just the last case I saw man came with his

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daughters and his daughter had a baby. Anyway, the husband left her for more than two years.

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And the father said I want them to live together because I want to get along with my wife and I want them to get along with their wife. I'm not in favor of divorcing her but the husband for whatever reason. He doesn't want it

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He's living away by okay. No problem. Carlos, you hated her for whatever reason divorce.

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No.

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Yeah. This many husbands do this and it is haram upon them. Because I'm I don't know Allah says, Well

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kelmer Ella, she is worked hand. Okay, my locker hang for hanging. She's not alive, she's not divorces so she can walk, go and marry another. What? Another man.

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Here in the UK Alhamdulillah. We have the Islamic Sharia Council and other Sharia councils who interfere if the wives

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require a marriage dissolution, if they feel that they are just hanging in many European countries, there is no Sharia councils. In fact, in most of the European countries, there are no Sharia councils. And I am an I am a strong advocate of establishing Sharia councils in all European countries.

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And this created some problems for me, as you know, within media, etc. But that is not an issue. The issue is we need to solve the problems for the Muslim community.

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Because wherever I go in different European countries, many Muslim women are suffering. Their husband left them for a long time.

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Last week, we had a case whereby the wife, it was really very shocking.

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But she came and she said that her husband left her for more than five years now. And she said he lives a few months away from me.

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Yeah,

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I have to take her word for granted. And she said,

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Can you speak to him? Can we tried okay to send so many people to speak to him? And he's not interested? Okay, why don't you divorce her?

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I don't want to divorce her. In some countries, as you know, mainly in the Pakistani, any country it is against the insert of the man to divorce his wife and it is shame for him to divorce his wife. Yes, maybe because of this. Some other people they consider this specially if his wife is one of his relatives. He cannot divorce her because of the social pressure. Okay. This is how we had cases. One of the cases that I dealt with is a sister. Her husband left her 14 years ago

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with a divorce. And she lived with him for less than a month.

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Yes.

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And he left her 14 years ago. And what increased the volume upon her. I myself contacted her his brothers.

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Yeah, she said he disappeared. He went to another country. He was 101 from one of the Arab countries. I said you don't have any contact details. She said, Well, I don't have any contact details. I said it cannot be I cannot. Yeah, this is very difficult to believe. So she said I have the contact details of his brothers. Yeah, this is one contact detail. Another contact detail. Yeah, I contacted one of them. He answered the phone. I started in a in a very diplomatic way just to establish that he is the brother of so on. So and one of them he he's suspected that I'm trying to investigate. So he did not. He just tanked the font. And the other person admitted that this is his

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brother. So I told him Yeah, hey, we want to get hold of your brother. He said Why? I said just he had the wife and

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he hung up the phone immediately. I tried to ring him again. I think I managed to speak to him for a few minutes. I said yeah. Okay, listen, I am so on. So please listen to me. Now there is a wife who is suffering. And he said, Okay, yeah, we just do whatever you want to do. I cannot help it. I don't have any contact for my brother.

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Yeah, now this wife and I mentioned it to.

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I mentioned some of those cases, to some of the journalists who come and they they say you want to have a parallel system here in the UK and you want to establish it at cetera. So I said to them, You always claim that

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You are fighting for women's rights. Now, okay, you need to solve this problem.

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You need to solve this problem. And they just got stuck. I remember there was

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in the parliament maybe three years ago, a discussion about the position of Sharia and one of the two of the MPs In fact, I,

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I discussed it with them. And I told them about cases like this.

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Who is going to help those ladies? I said to them, in May, in many cases, their marriage is not registered in the register. Yeah. So,

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they want to get divorced. And then I didn't want to say to them the other point, which is even if the marriage is registered, yeah, even if the marriage is registered, it doesn't mean that you dissolution or your divorce is what is a valid Islamic divorce. So they need to have a valid Islamic divorce. What is the solution for this? No one is providing any solution, even some Muslims who are against having Sharia councils in the UK? Unfortunately, we asked them, can you find the solution for those women? And there is no answer. We have problems. I remember.

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Some sisters came from

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Holland. And they have been left yonni their husbands. They went to one of those countries. Yeah. And he did their original country. And they said, We lost any connection with them for the last seven years. And now we don't know what to do. We came to know that there is an Islamic Sharia Council in the UK. So they traveled from Holland, to the UK to find the solution for their problem in

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other countries without mentioning some sisters approached me when I was visiting some other countries

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trying to find the solution for their problems because there is no Islamic Sharia Council in their country. Yes. And

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they went to the amounts. And most of the Imam said we have nothing to do with you. Yes. And one of the countries without mentioning the country.

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The imams have been warned by the government not to interfere in any marriage or divorce issue. And unfortunately, all the Imams were afraid and they don't interfere in these things.

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Now it is when the people of knowledge become afraid. Yes. And they don't do their job, then this is a disaster. Yeah, some people of knowledge have to sacrifice

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for the long live you know to get up that way. You know no holiness erotic to moolah.

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Mmm kalila. The same is true.

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In La

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la

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la la la la la la Mola. Yes. When a la jolla took the covenant from the People of the Book. Yeah. The people of knowledge that they have to clarify it. They have to explain the book to the people but they hid it and they don't want they didn't want to clarify then Allah Allah Allah is condemning what they are doing. So let alone that when some Muslim sisters they need help.

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Yeah, they need help. And sometimes the situations become really complicated and there has to be a body to

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to establish the implication of this idea which is to insert the model if you notice from the sun or fancy kohana beam our roofing

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think we made a mistake in the

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fate of luck to Minnesota for 11. ohana farms. Now, demographers know that it is that that I have noticed it from BASF. Okay, yeah, we did not make him sick. Anyway. So

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this issue of establishing Sharia councils in the UK and in Europe is really very, very important. We receive in the Islamic Sharia Council. We receive cases from Holland from Ireland from of course Scotland is part of any the our jurisdiction we from France from Once we receive the case from

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from a medical

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Yeah.

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From Germany, many cases from Germany and so on, you name it. Why? Because there are no Islamic Sharia councils there. Here. I would like to say one thing.

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Yeah, something that is very important. I know it is late. But let me just mention it is very, very important. Many people think that

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the civil divorce is a valid Islamic divorce.

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And this is wrong.

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Some scholars in this country and in Europe, unfortunately they give their foot was that the civil padlock is a valid Islamic polyp and this is completely wrong.

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Yeah. Why it is completely wrong. Now, the civil marriage, we have to understand this, and please pass this to others. Because there are so many problems because of this issue. The civil marriage is a system

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that Islamic marriage is another system, they are both totally different.

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It happened that they are calling this marriage. Yes. And it happened that the translation of the word or Nika in Islam is called marriage. But they are totally different systems.

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Is it clear how I had this discussion with some do art and scholars here? I said to them, first of all, the marriage, according to the law, to the legal system, can happen between demand and demand.

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agree or not?

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They said no, no, don't discuss this. I said it is defined as what

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marriage?

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Do we accept that in Islam?

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So it is a different system? They said No, you cannot rely on this. I said, Okay. One more. Forget about gay marriage. Yeah. Forget about the

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marriage. According to the law. Yes. Does it need the consent of the family?

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It doesn't need the consent of gravity. Does it need to mail to Muslim male witnesses?

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It doesn't need male Muslim witnesses. I agree. Once it is registered, then according to the law, it is what is a valid marriage?

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Yes. Moreover, ending this marriage cannot happen except with what?

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accepted through the court. In this marriage, no man can go to his wife and says to her, I divorced you.

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It doesn't mean anything according to this system.

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According to the legal system.

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Yes.

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So they have to go to the court. According to this system. The wife can divorce her husband agree.

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Yes, but according to the Islamic system, the wife can ask for help, but not can divorce her husband.

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Yes. Moreover, according to this system, once the wife

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receives divorce from her husband, yeah. Then the financial

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the financial implications are different from the financial implications of the Islamic divorce. Is it clear? Yeah, in many cases, she takes half of his worth of his assets, which means that it is totally different, what different relationship different kind of contract. That's why many even the legislators here in this country, I mean, the only the lawmaker considers this as a civil

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one of the the civil partnership is not a religious contract, it is a civil contract, it is a civil relationship. Is it clear? Yeah. So it is totally it is a different relationship. And what is the main consequence of this marriage? Yeah, what is the main cause or consequence of this marriage

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of this relationship,

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the financial consequence only

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The purpose of the marriage indices registration is what

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the financial

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consequences. For example, if they divorce, if they got divorced, then she will have she will share half of the assets or whatever. Now,

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apart from this, there is nothing.

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For example,

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the husband, the man can live with another wife, and they can produce children without this contract, agree or not?

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Yes or No, they can have children and their children can be registered in their names can be registered, that this is the father and this is the mother. They don't need a marriage certificate to register the children. It is different from what, from the Islamic system?

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Yeah, they can. The main thing, which is the main purpose behind Islamic marriage is to what the main purpose of Islamic marriage is to what, as the scholar said in

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Yanni, the permissibility of the sexual activities between both.

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That is what the main purpose from the non Islamic from the non Islamic perspective, the main purpose is what?

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Money

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the financial settlement, yes.

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Okay, they they consider this as the top priority, but Hillary listing, it is not an issue to have any sexual relationship, it is not an issue for them. But for us as Muslims, you cannot have sex outside What? outside marriage. So marriage allows this? Yes. And there are some financial other financial consequences is the difference clear. So the essence of the two relationships is different. And hence, we say that this is a contract, and this is another contract,

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which means that the civil divorce is not considered to be a valid Islamic divorce. I hope that everyone gets this message and pass it to others, please. Civil divorce is not a valid Islamic divorce. Now, in civil divorce, sometimes the husband is the petitioner. The husband is the one who goes to the civil court and asks for what

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for divorcing his wife, unfortunately, many of our scholars here in this country, they say that if the husband is the petitioner, then he initiated a divorce so it becomes what valid Islamic divorce because he is the one who wanted the divorce. And we say even that it is not a valid Islamic divorce. Why? Because it has been proven that there are many husbands divorce their wives illegally, but they don't believe that they have divorced to them. islamically Yeah, moreover, many husbands, they divorce their wives in order to get married to another wife here or in order to get another wife from abroad or maybe to get some financial settlements, maybe two houses, whatever whatever it

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is wrong, but it doesn't mean that this marriage this divorce is what is a valid divorce many scholars because of inferiority complex, not because of a valid reason no because of inferiority complex and they don't want to be seen that they are opposing the law of the land. Yeah, they are giving the fact was that it is a valid Islamic divorce and as we said that this is not true. They are two different system. Okay, let us see stop here and inshallah we can continue.

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We can continue the ayah later inshallah.

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As you can see that this surah Yes, is very rich with many rulings. Yeah, just you only have sub rudess inshallah, shall I hope that it is benefiting for everyone. If you have questions if sisters have questions, please send them yeah, yeah. Go

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Please understand, if the husband

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then sleeps with Ha, ha ha. Oh yeah Subhanallah I did not mention this point.

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Okay, remind me next time to mention it because this is the main point. I forgot to mention. like, Okay, any other question?

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No other question.

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Yes, go ahead.

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Yes.

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Yeah, we will come to that inshallah. Yep.

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Regarding to Yes.

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If a person

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Kelvin, it took my wife back

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himself to the wife, what do they?

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Yeah, but then.

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Yeah, yeah. The question is, if a person divorced his wife, and then during the period, he took her back by informing the shoe, he did not inform the wife. He did not inform her family. He just informed the shoot. And the witnesses themselves informed the wife. Yeah, that is that is valid because it came to her knowledge. That's the key thing. Buy from the sisters. No questions from the sisters. If you can forward your questions, please. Yes, yes.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, the question is if the husband divorces his wife three times, yes. at once, is it a valid divorce or not? By? Definitely, it is a valid divorce. But the question is, is it considered to be three or one?

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Yeah, this is the question. Is it considered to be

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Yeah, okay. Is it considered to be three divorces or just one divorce and we say that if this happens, then they should come to the Islamic Sharia Council and see me each case is different. Yeah. We mentioned this before, but yes.

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Okay. Baraka Luffy from desert Willow para Santa Monica.