FUNNY Darling let us go for dinner

Haitham al-Haddad

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The speaker describes a situation where a woman died and the speaker describes how they missed her and how they become angry and regretted. They discuss the common mistake that leads to problems and how it is important to understand the mentality of the couple. The speaker suggests that women should have a better understanding of their own mentality and that they should take their own advice.

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She passed away just before her. They wanted to take her with me to help us. She passed away. And really, yeah, Annie, I missed her and so on. He said she was a very righteous woman. He said, I lived with her more than I around 50 years. And she never told me no.

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I don't think that it is that but when you miss someone

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whom you used to love, you will remember all the good things, which is good, which is good, at least he will make dua for her. Anyway,

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imagine that you have the wisdom behind this. This is how I see it. Imagine you have an argument with your wife, and she became angry and she thinks that you did something wrong or bad to her cetera. And you left the house. And then you said, okay, really. Yanni you regretted and read, I need to maybe rectify the matter and reconcile and so you texted her and she's you said, or you know, darling, let us go for a dinner together.

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What will be her answer?

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Anyone?

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Anyone?

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You?

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Know, but he gave the correct answer. Maybe he because he's

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so what is the answer?

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No, she will never say yes. She will say what? No.

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Yeah.

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So he knows the answer.

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He said he knew the answer, because he said she will tell him get lost. So he must have received this text message.

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So she will say no, no, please listen to this, especially brothers. Yeah, she will say no.

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What is the common mistake many brothers do? And this is small mistake leads to big mistakes. And that's why we need to know the psychology of each other. Yeah. Many brothers will say she said no or get lost. He will reply by saying, Well, you don't deserve it.

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It's my fault. Yeah. Or if he's not practicing, you will say I go for another woman.

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What will this lead to?

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To bigger problem or bigger problems? And sometimes it will be the start of the end of the marriage.

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Yeah.

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If this scenario happens, yeah, you need we as men need to understand that. Women like to be chased.

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Yeah. Don't expect when she thinks that you have Yanni dealt with her badly or something like this, or you made a mistake. And then you regret it. And you said to her, darling, let us go for dinner. When she says no, it means what?

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Yes, but please beg me again to come with you.

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No, seriously, this what it means. Yes.

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We have this common problem and there isn't any Sharia Council. And when I asked brothers, yeah. And sometimes Yanni this very common, the brother is sitting next to him next to his wife and they say so your wife told you no. Yeah, what do we do here Sophia? I will say no, no. Or I will just say Okay, forget it or a girl nap come back home or, okay. Today I'm not going on spend my night with with my family or with my parents or I'm going with my friends. And this will increase the problem. I say that no, here. No. What does it mean? Most I think all the husbands that I met, they did not understand the meaning of No.

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Seriously, it is a serious issue. And when I say no, it means yes, but send another text for me. Please begged me I want to see that you are really chasing me. When I say this, all women start laughing.

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All of them start to laugh. And I asked them is this true or not? And they say yes, this is true.

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It doesn't mean no doesn't mean real.

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No, I don't want to do it. It means what?

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Send me another text. I'm enjoying this request.

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Chasing me.

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Yes.

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So we have to understand this mentality this. I understood it from the legislation of what?

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Of Rujuta Yeah, Allah Allah, as I told you, maybe this is the hikma because if you go to your wife and listen with I'm regretting letters with a console, she will say no.

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Most men will feel offended. She said, you know, and that's why it is a common question that we receive that the man said to his wife, I want to her to have reduced. Yes. And she said, No. So I said, she doesn't want I left her. No, it was a mistake from you, just to leave her like this. You should have persuaded her more. So Sherry, closed the door and said Take her back. She has no consent to refuse, or her consent to refuse is not condition a condition for it to be valid. Is it clear? Yeah. Moreover,

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part of the wisdom of this read up normally, as it happened