Haifaa Younis – Tips for Turning Back to Allah and Memorizing the Qur’an

Haifaa Younis
AI: Summary © The speakers stress the importance of education and practicing religion in modern times, as well as the "vanity of Islam" and the "vanity of Islam" that lead to feelings of the "vanity of Islam." They stress the need for hard work, dedication, and memorizing the Quran to achieve success in life. The "hasith" that reminds one of their actions and how their life shaping and change is also discussed. The importance of finding opportunities for growth and growth in one's own life is emphasized, along with the importance of staying humble and gratitude.
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah. The brothers and sisters are Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. And welcome to infeed podcast. I just want to take a moment to thank you all for helping me feed go from strength to strength. I know we have listeners and viewers from all across the world. We have brothers and sisters in Malaysia, in Australia and Canada, in India, Pakistan, all also the United States. And I just want to acknowledge all of you and say thank you very much for helping us go from strength for strength. Today, I've got a wonderful guest all the way from the United States, Dr. heifer units. She is an American Board

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Certified Obstetrician and Gynecologist of Iraqi heritage. She studied with scholars in the United States and graduated from the Mecca Institute of Islamic studies in Judah and also memorize the Quran Masha Allah at alHuda Quran memorization school in Judah as well. She is the founder and chairman of Jana Institute and currently teaches seminars and runs retreats, including seminars on the commentary of the Quran, and the practical relevance of the Quran in our everyday lives. So, Dr. Haifa salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Sit down or lie over a kettle. Thank you so much for having me. It's a pleasure to be here. hamdulillah How does it feel to be in London? It's always

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good. Is this your first time? No. Oh, no.

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I actually lived in London, really? In the 90s. Okay, and I did part of my OBGYN gynecology training in London itself did a year at guys hospital. Wow. And then did my degree and then six months moved to Kent Maidstone beautiful place all green. And then the time came in to move to the states for family reasons. And then I moved. Then I kept coming back for visits and the last two years I think this is my fourth visit

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to London. So eautiful to be British, basically. You're you know, you're an honorary British person and people always ask me where do you see yourself you see yourself as Iraqi since this your heritage? Do you see yourself as American Where do you live? You see yourself as British you live there? Do you see yourself as Arab Saudi lived in Jeddah? My always answer is I'm the servant of Allah, whatever part of the earth he put me on there hamdulillah an international citizen. Mashallah, so Dr. Haifa tell us like,

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tell us a bit about your background. I'm so excited, really. Because when I read about, you know, some of the things that you've mashallah been able to go on and achieve. I just thought Subhanallah, it will be so inspiring for people to hear, you know, where did this all start? Where did what is your background in terms of your childhood and

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grew up, as you said, I grew up in Baghdad, actually, Savannah, and I grew up in a family, which education was the prime importance, and it didn't matter. You're a girl or a boy, it was, this is the main thing. And I remember very well, my mom, God bless her soul, used to say, even if you don't want to work, even if you're not planning to work, just take it. And it's capita in us. And then I was second from the last in my families, then all my older siblings, that's what they want. And

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other than education also grew up in a family, I wouldn't say very religious, but it was very moral.

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Which is really important these days, because it is what we are seeing these days is lack of morality, plus lack of practicing religion. So morality was extremely important. Focus on education. And then

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I didn't feel because I'm a woman, I'm a different in that time. And my mom was very educated. And she worked. And she was also an amazing mother. So I grew up with that example, of a woman can be a mother educated, you can work but she always made her home house and children in number one priority. And I remember she was very social, very well known a lot of friends. But when the time for exams comes in that month, you know, it's when you're young. I always tell my friends these days, it's things you do way more than the things you say, that affects your children. And I remember this very well, since I was very young is that month of the year before the finals, mom

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does not leave the house at all. And all her friends says nope, the children has their exams they need me. And she did not teach us. I mean, we studied but it just her presence.

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This. So it's really this was really important that I went to medical school.

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Simply she wanted me to be a physician and then I fall in love with it after the first year. Then things changed many things. Number one, she passed away and I was young. And then the all the wars that happened. And then Allah subhanaw taala decided that we will leave the country so I left that's where I came to the to England lives this the 90 that's in the 90s. Yes. So came to England stayed for about a year and a half, as I told you in the beginning, trained OBGYN here. It was very interesting, actually, it really helped me in many ways, not only as a physician, but also as

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a person who discovered that I love this Deen. And this is this is like a turning point. It was just before I moved to the to England during the war. And every time I say this now when I speak to people, and I say, How do you feel? If you have a friend who calls you only when she needs you?

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How do you feel?

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You feel taken advantage? Exactly. Right. She She only remembers me when she wants me. So this is how I felt because before the war, we were living in a very good life. I'm talking about good life, not very luxurious, but it's a good life. And we had everything, right as children Hamdulillah. But I don't think we felt it. And we were not very connected with him. You know, so when the war comes in, you know how it is when you are in need, you turn to Him, you start looking at your Salah and became perfect. And he starts reading the Quran, he starts thinking of doing this and this. So this was a time for me to reflect. It was like, so you only remember him when you need him. And then when

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I moved to England also was a tough change. Because I came alone, left the family because of the all the issues. And then I that was another time was like see you're alone, now you need him. And from there. And then when I went to the States, things changed, because now back with my family, but then you start feeling that he's there for you. Whether you you turn to him or not, he's there. Absolutely. And then what he wants from me more than anything else, and he with a capital H is there when I don't need him. Because that's what I call the love relationship. When you love Allah subhanaw taala is you remember him not because you need him, because you love him. So this was I

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will say this is the turning point. And the same time just before the war when my mom was got sick, and then she passed away. That's another turning point. But the bigger one was the was the war and everything we lived, when you don't know if you're gonna wake up in the morning alive, we all know we will die. But when it becomes very close reality, and you wake up and you see oh, this bomb is could come My house is next. So it's it's amazing. I am so grateful.

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At the moment, it was very tough. But I'm so grateful because it's one of the things that shapes human being is when he or she goes through testing difficulty. And then you discover yourself also, you know that you are you have a lot of other potentials. You really love Allah, you really want to get close to him. So hamdulillah I'm so grateful to everything Allah He gave me. So these tests like, you know, the one that you mentioned, they often are things that awaken us, don't they? I was just thinking that unlike a friend who might be less forgiving. Allah Subhana Allah, he's happy when we turn to right. So if you're out there feeling that you know, I've been neglectful, I haven't

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really been fulfilling my role towards Allah, my my, you know, giving Allah His right or in worship, etc. Although we can never give Allah he's right in worship.

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That should never be a cause for you to not turn to him, right?

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Absolutely. I mean, the most hopeful Allah in the Quran that's what the scholar teaches us. It's sort of Zoomer polyalthia Lilina. Astra for other unforeseen Latok Natoma Rahmatullah? And it's amazing. I mean, we can talk about desire for hours. But the beauty of it is the way he Subhana

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talked, or or acknowledged those who are sinners, is the word Yeah, a baddie. My servant. It's a personal, right. He didn't say yeah, you have NASA you're living at Amazon or people are you who attain faith or you sinner. He says, Yeah, buddy. I was like my prop, my personal, my private, you know, and then he described them. I love the nostril for Allah unfussy him they have transgressed.

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What does transgression mean? You did what you did, right, and then immediately says Latok, not Wilma Rahmatullah don't disappear. So absolutely anyone and this

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So I always tell everyone who asked me is like, it doesn't matter what you did. Yeah, doesn't matter what you did, as long as you're alive. As long as there's a breath in you, as long as you turn to Him sincere, don't worry, even shook on people who didn't believe in him. Once they say La ilaha illa What did the Roswaal is sought to Assam taught us al Islam we are the mama cobbler, Islam, remove everything, everything, everything. So 100 rely on this is a beautiful I always say this is a beautiful religion. I think we as Muslims, number one, and I will say even humanity, slug, you have a really expensive piece of diamond. You know, it's like really worthy, but you don't know the value

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of it. You look at it, and you think it's a crystal Subhanallah

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Yeah, and this is how we need to look at it in with the beauty in depth and discover way more than the shell. We all know. There's way more insight.

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Definitely. So anyone who you know, who's who's feeling down who's feeling like they've done too many sins. Never ever, ever feel that ALLAH SubhanA Donna's door is closed. He's just waiting for you to turn back. And it's a beautiful, seeing that it's if human beings being asked more than once or twice or thrice, they get upset. Yeah, right. Somebody calls you come and pick me up and you say okay, sure. Second time was like, okay, third time any of you will say it was like there's nobody else. Right? We all do that. Even when the children do this. Allah subhanaw taala is the other way around. Subhana if you don't or I don't if we don't ask him he gets upset. So panda so absolutely

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anyone far away never prayed, did whatever apps or just turn to Him? Pure full. And he will be as again the Hadith teaches us if I come one step it will be walking if I am walking he will be running he just will just want the me and you to initiate it. Just don't emphasize your Allah. I really want to go back to

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So Dr. For which which which area of America are you from? I live in St. Louis, Missouri. We call it the Midwest. Okay, so there's east west and there is Midwest, Chicago, which many people are very familiar with. We are about four hours drive south of Chicago, Midwest in the middle.

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I'm not very familiar with America, except I used to live with some American students in Egypt. So they filled me in on all the right nuances. But inshallah I do hope to visit one time one day and a half to ensure insha. Allah Yeah, the house already there. Yeah.

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That's the beauty, isn't it? Exactly. Like sometimes when, when I'm giving a talk about sisterhood, or I always say to sisters, you know what, we are the only people I believe this, I can definitely say this, I could go anywhere on Earth. And if I can find the Muslim there, I have a home somewhere to stay, I have food.

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I have somebody who would treat me like family. And I've actually experienced that, you know, wherever I've, I've traveled and

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SubhanAllah. You know, it's like you said there's things that we take for granted. Yes, that we think are normal is sometimes when somebody embraces Islam, they say to you, do you know how amazing that is? You know, you don't realize that something that you're you think is normal. But for us, it's amazing, you know? So I've often heard sisters say, you know, when they embrace Islam, that sisterhood was something that they never experienced until they became Muslim. Because they felt that they were always competing with other women. There was always this, you know, comparison and competition and

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and when all of that is stripped away, and as women were allowed to just love each other for the sake of Allah to do things without needing anything in return. Exactly. I think that there's something so beautiful in that that we have put it beautifully isn't to conditions. You do it for Allah and with no expectation from anyone. You will love it. You will feel peace and then everybody will benefit from it. It's beautiful. I agree with and brotherhood dogs, of course. I mean, it's both genders. Yeah. Brothers with brothers sisters with sisters.

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So tell us a little bit especially about your Quran memorization journey. Because

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Dr. I'll tell you that.

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I used to memorize the grant while I began. I used to it's not a good style. It's not like I'm sorry, I'm being very open here. I was memorizing the Quran. And I would say until I had my first child.

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Yeah. And then probably when I had my second child

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You know, I kind of lost the momentum of. So I managed to memorize quite a lot. But

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then I started focusing on them memorizing grant. So alhamdulillah, my two sons, half of grant Tabata and two others who are learning

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but at the back of my mind that have this thing. Come on, you gotta get back on it. So come on. Yeah.

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I think you're gonna be the one I think this is gonna get me back on. So there must be people out there listening and thinking, Well, I'm an adult now. You know, I think you memorize when as an adult? Absolutely.

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They might be thinking, Well, I'm past it, you know, there's no, there's no way I'm gonna memorize now, you know, I should have done it when I was younger. And what would you say to that such a person? Number one, what you shared with me? It's almost almost daily. I hear hear that. And I heard the same story yesterday, here in London. And absolutely wherever I go, this is what I will say. What memorization of the Quran is not related to age, or gender.

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It's it needs one thing to start with. Number one, which is accurate is an ayah. In the Quran, I quoted a lot to my soul. And to the sisters. It's unsorted is surah. Allah Subhana Allah said, Men are rodelle Ashura, or Salah HRSA. What will it mean for all Attica? kanessa you mash Cora whomsoever want the hereafter? Was sha Allah HERSA the word Sal worked hard, say working hard law. You worked for it for the ACA. What will not mean? In the eye of course you're a believer. For all I could kind of say you homeschool. Those who fulfill these three criteria they want worked hard, they are believer, this their effort will be rewarded, or Allah will be grateful for the reward. So what

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will they get? Allah knows. Now bring this in here. And I say this for dunya matters. And for Africa matras that alone Quran Quran journey need number one you wanted?

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You wanted? You wanted your children to memorize the Quran? What did you do? Salah HERSA. And how much the Saudi was putting a seven and eight year old son let him sit down memorize one page, I seen it. Right? Well, who will not mean believe in here, metaphorically, you know Allah, who will not let your effort goes vain. You're not Allah will help you, you know, you will see the fruit of it. All I can tell you how much Cora Allah who will make it easy. So bring it back to every woman or every Muslim in general. Number one I wanted. If I don't want something, it's not going to happen unless Allah subhanaw taala of course, has exceptions. I want to be I want it to be a physician. You want

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it to memorize the Quran. So that's number one. Number two, is you have to work hard for it.

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I don't know what you say in England, but we have a statement in the state says there is no free lunch.

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In this country. That's what I always say, right? What's a free lunch meaning meaning to get something you work for it? The Quran needs, needs you. And one of the teachers said this to me, the more you give the Quran, the more the Quran will give you

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and you believe Allah will not let you down. Unfortunately, this journey who's going to be stopping number one, and that journey? Right? What's your traffic light? Number one that I do want? straightline Yeah, that's true. does not want you to memorize the Quran. So we'll bring all what you shared with us. obstacles. I will call it the imaginary obstacles. Yeah, I'm old. Yeah. I'm a mother. I'm very busy. You know what? I forget? The moment I memorize one page next day I didn't. And this keeps building up and you stop.

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This is my answer. Age is not an issue. In our institute, Jenner Institute, the oldest student memorizing the Quran is 67 Allahu Akbar, this is her third Jews. This is mashallah really. And this is a non Arab. A woman grandmother takes care of her husband and child and grandchild grandchildren, very active in the community. Teachers and study, study Tajweed you name it any class we start she's there.

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So age is not an issue time. Which we all blame everything on time. No, this is how I will say we have time for everything. We have we spent woman we easily spend three, four hours in the kitchen if you want really to prepare a meal that you like and you

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I wanted to come out beautiful, right? children spend three, four hours playing and doing all these things. We spend hours with our friends. When it comes to the Quran is not there is no time. I don't look at the time that I'm spending in the Quran in a way that it will give me back. See now this man has a beautiful statement. You see it in every Quran memorization school. It says la hora, Kuru buena, Masha be admin Columbia Rabina. If our hearts were purified, we'll never have enough of the words of Allah. So time, it needs time management. This is what I said to the sister yesterday SubhanAllah. And I say this to everyone who's listening to me look at yourself, you're a morning

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person or evening person, where is your strength, you focus better in the morning or you focus better in the night. And number two, look at the time when you're free.

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Is the morning very hard for you. Because every one is up and running around. Or it's the evening the other way around. You need to dedicate 30 to 45 minutes a day. Focus.

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Start three ayat and a review. And keep going. You will not memorize it in a day. Not in a year. Adults average with other things in life. You're talking about five to seven years. People says five to seven years. I said people study eight years in the states eight years to become a physician. You didn't even did anything yet. They just give you the degree. Yeah. So you did not do your training yet. You didn't do your specialty. But people do it. When I'm on something, you will do it and you're willing to give it the effort? Yes. Now before all this Yeah. before, during and after talking to him and says your Allah I know I am not worthy of your book. Because it's his words. But

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you are generous. Give it to me like you give it to everybody else. What do you think Allah will do will let you down? I have to say now your Allah. So no, I am not worthy. And you are generous and I I know you can help me. Give me the Quran in my heart, Dr. Amin and actually the trigger that made me start to do it. And again, I was doing my residency in the States. Doing my OBGYN gynecology is a friend of mine who passed away May Allah bless her soul very young.

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And I saw her two days before I was with her 48 hours before she passed away. And I was just coming back from Umrah. She looked at me and says she was terminal.

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She said the whole lifespan data will give me life. There's two things I want to do. Just young kids

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didn't say anything about the children.

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Honestly, all her parents were still like nothing about the dunya says two things I want. I want a lot to give me life. Because I want to do two things still I didn't do and I said What is it? She says I want to go to his house. And I want to memorize the Quran. Two days later she died.

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What do you think Allah will reward her? Because the Nina in Tanzania awesome. Subhan and I left after we I was there when she literally passed away. And I said

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what is my executes? I'm still breathing.

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And then you come in you and you said it's going to be too maybe I will not finish maybe I'll die and then I the iron swords and Lisa comes to me you had your visa vie de la vie. You just fill up the moron and Kathy Rosa. So ever migrate for the sake of Allah, He will see a lot of hair on the earth is wide enough for him. But the second part is related to here on my regimen BT hemo had urine Allahu wa rasuluh when you leave your home, for the sake of Allah migrating for the sake of Allah and His Messenger, and then what happens to my recall mode, and then he or she dies Dakka Dakka addre who Allah Allah, Allah will reward him as if he completed his journey. Here you go, start have

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their resolve, turn to Allah, you're lucky make me strong. Give it to me. I'm not worthy. Practically I will say the best is you if you join a school, join a group with a teacher alone is possible. But you're more a good target for shaitan Yeah, but when you're a group like clockwork, look at your children because you were there. Right? You were there. You're their teacher or you are their mentor. They did it but by Allah grace, so this is what I told her sisters get a group hamdulillah these days with all the technology we have. You have it everywhere. You have online classes online teachers online, I'm sure to in London. I'm not very familiar. Yeah, but I'm sure you

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have classes for memory. Yeah, we have an institute called the shot TV Institute in West London, I believe

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We have in East London, I'm sure there are lots of places. It's an even online having a an online tutor once one of my children, you know, had a tutor online as well. And that really just having that accountability. And you know, that kind of thing. You know what? Sometimes? I'm sure you see this here, but we see it a lot in the States. You see people at 4am and 5am in the morning doing what? non Muslims exercising? Yeah, right. They go to the gym at 5am. Right? Why? Because they want it. Yeah. And they love it. And they love the result. And this is for dunya nothing when we go to the grave, it's not going to give us anything back. Subhanallah Can't we Muslims wake up at five or

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four or in the evening, some of them goes in the evening, and just give this one hour. Yeah, not to my body, but to my soul. It's the words of him. And I can tell you what will happen once you start memorizing the Quran, the baraka, the blessings you see in your life, and I'm not saying you're going to be rich, necessarily, but the peace, the serenity, the strong connection, you will feel it's beyond. But we will be rich, we'll have like a richness in our heart. Exactly. I know that because I've tasted it.

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And, you know, like my son when when I'm studying or when I'm preparing a talk. I'm like, What's that I, you know, and he'll, he'll just tell me straight up. And I'm like, I wish you know, I had that. Well, he's got background. So

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that's, that's a true story was one of my patients. And she was 78 great grandmother. So she came to me and she needed the surgery. First question, she asked me, When will I be able to leave the house? And in me, I was like, 78 Where do you want to go? Right? And, and she said, and I said where do you want to go? She said I go to the Quran school.

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I had mashallah about a cola. So where are you? And she said, we are in albacore. I said Mashallah. Because what I thought she starts from the back. Yeah, so now we're almost done. Okay. And she says, No, Dr. Yunus it's, we I mean, we started from Al Baqarah. And I was like, mush. I'd love to buy a cup. So I did the surgery. Because was about two months later, that the surgery and then in the hospital. And then she said, so when I can go to the school. I said, after two weeks, someone can take you and you can go, she come back six weeks for her visit, checkup visit? And I said, and I call her auntie. And I said, auntie, she said, Did you go I said, she said, Yeah, I went ahead.

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Where are you now? So it's an earlier Imran.

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78 Wow. Yeah. So I will absolutely say you know, the Hadith. It's an imam in terms of the authentic hums of lumps. Take advantage of five before five. You know the Hadith near one of them. Actually, most of them applies to the memorization of the Quran. That's true Shabaab aka Kabbalah you've used before you get old, for all, like accomplish all your free time before you get busy. Right.

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So I took a cobbler,

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healthy before he gets illness, and well, before he gets poverty and the most important one, your life before you die. So random. May Allah give it to your ebme. Today's drummer, just before Mahara turned to him sincerely, as a Saturday job at the time, that Allah subhanaw taala respond to Anton says, Yo, Allah give it to me. Give him the resolve. Give me the humor. Yeah, I think all of us, you know, brothers and sisters who are listening, absolutely need to get back on it. So Pamela, and it's true. It's actually never been easier in a way because, you know, sometimes when sisters say how can I seek knowledge? So I will say to them, well, there's so many means now, you know, like, even if,

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even if you have very small children, and you can't get out of the house or whatever, exactly. We have online courses, there are different means. And sometimes you have to adjust yourself, depending on your circumstances. But I think the most important thing is to keep moving forward. You know, so I remember at certain times, my son, we would go online, sometimes we would, he started the class in the mosque, and that was the best to be honest, you know, to go every day.

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But depending on what was happening, we had to change the strategy, but keep moving forward. And this applies not only to the memorization of the Quran, yeah, faulting, definitely it applies to the knowledge. Yeah, because these days and I'm specifically addressing the woman here and the Muslims at large. The main problem we have as Muslims now

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Honestly, is lack of knowledge. We don't know our deen. We don't know how to practice it the right way. If you ask a person in general Why do you pray this way? The answer usually usually is that's how my mom taught me. May Allah bless all the mothers or my father taught me right now. And sometimes the parents have been taught right but sometimes could be, they're not. But seeking the knowledge itself, the basics basics basics, so we know and I'm talking about the basic not only the external, the basics knowing a loss pantalla have this personal relationship. You know what so you can give it to your family you can give it to the people around you. We don't because we don't spend

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time allocate time to learn this deen and um, this is one of the main reasons that's made me and Allah Santana used me to start Jana institute is to have a place where the woman not only learn but they need to know how beautiful is to learn, and what it will do to your life and to your family and your relationship with Allah. and devotion is that we all look for these days to live in peace, which is missing Subhan Allah, Allah how you now set up your Allah make us live in peace is when you are connected with him. Part of the knowledge is his book, and also learning his Deen his religion, Islam, how do I practice it? How do I feel it? This is extremely important. I mean, if I, if anyone

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is hearing listening to me, I will say I would. If I go back, if Allah will give me another lie, I will have started this much younger than I started on it when I really started. And another thing which a lot of people these days, especially,

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it should not be either, or, is that I'm going to go and study Islamic studies or I'm going to be studying, we call this dunya secular. Why? Why not? Both? Yeah, why not? To both? Definitely. One is on a faster pace. One is on a

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slower pace, or the same pace, but both and if you look at our history, they were all both they were successful people in dunya in life yeah. And they were successful in their relationship with Allah I think this is one of the other main things we have to change is both this idea that you become a scholar, and then you basically don't have a job, your other jobs, you know, you don't go into any other study, or you study other things and you become a professional. And you feel like the in studies is not for me. That has to change. Well, it has to change but we have to say that we still need people who their specialty is this. We need to be because it takes time doesn't it? It not only

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takes somebody to be a specialist exactly like you need. For example gynecologist, but also you need a family practice. But these those people who chose to have the path of learning the deen of Allah as a career, may Allah reward them, we all need them. But I My message is to the general pupil who they think is once they took the secular study, they don't have to study thing else. No. Because what brings what the Islamic Studies learned? I don't call it Islamic studies only. What will what learning about Allah subhanaw taala and about the deen will bring to you as a person and brings to your family. What ever career you have, what ever it will not bring it down at all and doable,

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possible journey and then you don't want to take a PhD in Islamic studies. You doesn't have to be you wanted to hamdulillah but at least you know the basics, what we call it for blueline things that's obligation, external and internal. And then we as on mobile be absolutely different to Pamela definitely. And even if sisters, especially who are not, you know, in a particular profession, and they're at home, sometimes I meet moms, and they're struggling so much with everyday life. And sometimes they're not spending any time either studying the dean, or attending any kind of halacha any kind of, you know, like one of our teachers he always used to say, so the salah hen, now you

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need some of the Salah him and sometimes when I meet young moms especially and they're actually like overwhelmed and you know, you can see that the Imam is being affected by maybe lack of sleep and you know, all the overwhelm. I think to myself Subhanallah you know, all of us we all need that big why inside us, you know, we need to know the big one

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Why, why am I doing this and without that, without that continuous connection and the Quran, the message of the Quran continuously telling us, you are going to be tested, this is how you're going to overcome the test, keep talking to Allah keep connecting with Allah, without that message, somebody giving you that message, you know, either in the Halacha or in the class or in with good company.

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I think it's so easy for Shavon to come and you know, like really affect people's in mind, and I'll tell you how I will address this and this is goes specifically for the sisters or for the brothers who are overwhelmed

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unfortune unfortunately, the more Allah gives us, life should be easier, but it is not. Power Law. I mean, on the other technology we have, everything is under our hand and our feet we can do, but we are we're still have no time. And majority of people we call it the rat race. Everybody is running. Yeah. And now what everyone is talking about specially for the woman you need time for yourself, time for yourself, which is absolutely necessary. The best time for ourselves is one

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son salah.

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It's as as one of my teachers used to teach us it's a compulsory halwa with Allah. It's an obligation, obligated, free, private time with Allah. So for the sisters who are very overwhelmed, and I can see this, I mean, if you're a working woman, eight to five, and this is eight to five or nine to five plus the time go back and forth. And then you have to come home then you have three, two or three children, then your husband responsibility, then the house and living in the West, we don't have a lot of the help that maybe in other countries are there. I will say the following couple of things is when you will learn and the Learn. Example, five minutes or clip at 10 minutes,

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short podcast

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10 minutes listening to the eye or your favorite reciter it will bring you gradually will gives you this calmness and you don't feel overwhelmed because Allah is helping you. You're trying to do this, and it will the spirituality inside you, calms you down. Like we say, well, you in secular advices we say you know, make sure you exercise, it really makes you feel good, which through Medically speaking, but also this 510 2030 minutes, connection with Allah subhanaw taala, studying, listening, learning for him. This will give you amazing results on a daily personal level. And as we always say if you kept keep putting a drop on a drop on a drop on a drop or what happened, consistency, and

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Doha. I think this is one of the weapons that we Muslims don't use it very frequently turn to him and says you're locked into Santa Monica Santa Haney, we sit down, you are the peace, source of peace. Make me live in peace. Everything that's I feel so overwhelmed, it will become much easier. But definitely learning this concepts. Practice them on a small scale. And when I have time, I'll do more When the time gets tight, I'll get less but constant. It's not gonna hire and

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I wanted to ask you also. So how long did it take you to memorize the Quran? I did it alone. Okay, after the incidents I shared with you Yeah, so by nature, I'm a poet, I am a morning person. Okay, so I used to deal with daily at federal, before I go to work. And we in the States, we start too early, like, seven 715. In the morning, you're out of your house. So I do it before that. In the beginning, of course it took like the one hour or the 45 minutes you have, you may be able to do maximum half a page. So you read and repeat and recite and repeat and recite and repeat in this. Then as we drive to work, I have my my favorite reciter in the car. Then as I am praying my

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obligately and optional prayers I reviewed. So this took about seven years, exactly seven years I was able to finish it, but it was not tear down. Meaning I cannot say I'm happy about I carry the book of Allah yet. Meaning like what you said, Where does this idea I'll give it to you right away? Yeah, not yet. It takes time. So then when I moved to Saudi where he lived, and Allah subhanaw taala This is His grace because he knew I wanted it. Right. And I really didn't know how to do this. And Allah subhanaw taala sent me some of the teachers and most almost everyone who taught to me, they will have a lot of the Quran taught me Islamic Studies. And they quoted the ayat like what you just

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said, Yeah, any thing you ask them, the idea comes in. So then one of my friends, teacher and then my

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And and she says, you know, just enroll yourself in the school. It's much better. And she used to say it Allah He manager Ma, the Hand of Allah is with the group. So when you're sitting in that class, you will see you're not the only one, you will see much older people than you are much busier people. And you'll see much younger people who can be doing everything else the youth does, which is in the class, and it will work. So when I went there, I enrolled in the school.

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First year, full time, four days a week, three hours a day. And then as we moved on, by the fourth year, it was once a week, for two hours where we review in the week almost all the Quran.

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But it is just a person it's so did you say it's a daily in the first year was a daily, daily, four days a week. And then the second year, it says it was three days a week, and then two days a week and the last year you finished. And then when you finish you get to test in the whole Quran. Once you once you pass it, then you can say to yourself, yes, I am happier. I haven't. But that journey doesn't stop. Because if you don't review it, again, you will forget. But it becomes much easier, much much easier. And Allah will make it easy. Subhanallah it's beautiful. If you speak to the non Muslims about it. Yeah, they because I have a couple of friends who are non Muslims in the States.

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And one that I see that they said freely? How can you guys do that? And I was like, how many songs you memorize?

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It's true. Our heads are full of the songs. So can you tell us a little bit I know that you've been giving classes about the surah Maria in particular and some other topics as well. But I wondered like in your mind, like could you share with us some of the key lessons or key points that you'd like to highlight for sisters especially

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from Surah Maryam Yeah, Subhan Allah I loved preparing for Surratt Maria number one, the only chapter in the Quran or Surah that is named after a woman

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is a source Maria. Yeah, and for any non Muslim viewers. Maria is Mary You know the mother of Jesus Christ. pcsp and so number one is the whole chapter name is after a woman right? Number two, the only one mentioned by name No. So the there's other woman mentioned in the Quran but there's no name emeralds for around embroidered cloth and right no on mimosa, Eid all these mother of Moses peace be upon him, the wife of Noah, the wife of loot, but she was binding. Now, interesting. And I said this to the we had a beautiful turnout at Hamdallah last weekend. And I said to the woman, I'll ask to everybody, how do you want to be remembered after you pass away? We all will pass away one day,

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right? How do you want to be remembered? The mother of the famous whatever? How did Allah remembered her? Or I will say wanted her to be remembered. That's better word of saying, right? How did he describe her in the aura, whether in Maryam itself in detail in action, and Mary chapter, or when he mentioned her name and other chapters in net to Hareem. In Ambia.

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Asana Troja,

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she was chased to or cannot win alkalinity. She was a woman who was on it, someone who is in a state always in a state of foreshores and submission to Allah. And these are the two things in in Mary, the chapter Mary third, or the fourth point is she was a woman who went through a lot of difficulty, a lot of stress. None of us, none of us whatever you're going through, went through what she did. What Allah put her through. A woman known to be chaste woman, non to be from that family. always praying and always worshipping using in the masjid living in the masjid. Exactly, exactly. I suddenly have pregnant

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who will believe you?

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Right? And at that point, you see the human nature of her and when the labor pain came, and this is in chapter me, what did she say? The Elite any metal cobbler hada will come to an SEM and see Yeah, I wish I was dead. Before this, and no one will remember me. You know when you are under a lot of stress major.

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You know when you see there is no way out. It's coming. This is how she feel her. This is how she is

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However, because of what she did before, in the good times, turning to Allah subhanaw taala attached to him in the time of difficulty, extreme difficulty, a lot of course this is Mary but this applies to you and me. made something happens that will give her peace and even happiness fair immediately next I affair right away. Nadia Hammond Tatia called her from under her scholar says this could be Angel Jibreel this could be probably Sade, Nisa, Lata haffi. Don't be afraid. What at Aczone? Don't be sad. Can you imagine what are what was she going through? labor pain, by itself is enough asked me, right. And ask any mother who delivered the stress and the fear and the anxiety you go through,

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let alone the sequence of what comes out. Almost every woman should be very happy having a baby being a mother, not her. Because this is going to be

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she knows it's going to be the the source of stress and difficulty. She was a human being a woman tested. But how did she react to the test? They the usual reactions, this fear, fear and sadness, but because of what she did before, and this reminds me of another Hadith of Roswaal risotto Sinha is what you do in your good time will come to you in your difficult time. That's why I have to have a relationship with Allah. Stable, not when I need him. Remember when we started the stable relationship with Allah subhanaw taala it will pay back not only that moment, but when I am in a moment of need. It's true. And then the fifth thing, which this is something we all ask a lot to

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give us. And I always say this as you gave it to me it gave Give it to me her certainty and your theme and the Promise of Allah Adjara bouquet Attiki Surya, under you, Allah put under you as a baby, newborn baby with no father. But Allah described him as Surya which is either a small river or an honorable thing. She had this yachting she carried him don't speak, he will speak carrying a baby. Now these days for us, one plus one does not if it doesn't work is like why I prepared I did. That's what you learn from her. I mean, there's so many but you learned from her is her certainty as a woman. And it's amazing also that for us, as a non as Muslims living in a non Muslim, I think we

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all have to spread this message that part of the core of our belief is believing in Mary B's peace be upon her and how we look up to her. It was beautiful. Subhanallah amazing to Pamela Subhanallah I think that's one of the things that we have to bear in mind isn't it that when we're in times of ease, prepare ourselves by developing our character you know making yourself stronger and making yourself and then when those difficult times come it's almost as if the true you is revealed. And the true you can never be it's a bit like you know, they say when you don't have much money if you don't give charity then when you do become rich, you probably won't run off right it's not going to

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happen because you never develop that habit of and also because charity is kind of proportional Isn't it like when you have a little bit of money and you give a pound

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that seems like a lot to you if you if you're not well off but then when you're wealthy will you be willing to give you know 1000 pounds

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if you never got used to it and you know you want so I will add to this falter May Allah reward you is the hadith of Rasul Allah so to start off it Allah hit Dara you in a life of a hot Jarocho coefficient.

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And if I translate literally is no Allah at time of ease, he will know you. He was capital H and the time of difficulty. That's basically how it is. So when everything is going smooth, everything going in what I like I'm not under stress, I'm not under anxiety, nothing, then if my relationship with Allah is very strong, and I give him his due right Subhana when I come under stress under need, under anxiety under any of the life difficulty, what will make it easy, this is the meaning he will know you meaning is or he will make me feel good. Although everything around me is not. Yeah. And you say how can you take it so easy? How come you're not stressed out? She has I don't know

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Hamdulillah? Who made her feel this? Yeah. Or he will make things easy. He will fold it down and becomes much easier. So this is one of the things that say the Meriam in her

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Moments of the tests her time spent with Allah before because if you look at Ali Imran when Seder Maria was mentioned she saved as a career always find her praying, praying. Yeah. So that relationship when things was easy with things was good. She had the relationship with Allah, it paid her back. So this is one of the things I'll share it with everybody who's listening to us, may Allah reward you all, and sisters and brother is take the advantage. When things are good, you have time of health, everything is easy. Don't waste the time use it for Allah, then when things change, and you want Him He will make it much easier for you. It's an amazing lesson also from source Maria

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definitely doesn't want isn't one of the meanings of pollinating or Canada that you pray in the night as well. One of the guests stuff our serum is inside their bodies to pray. Not I say no Brahim was also one of the ones in the Quran. As a as a man was also this described in Abraham akana on button on eternally ly. So anything in prayer standing in prayer, everyone is asleep. Yeah. So in other words, you're remembering Allah, you will remember time of ease. And definitely so Pamela, you know, I've seen this example in my own father. Since he was a teenager, he has been doing it tick off every Ramadan. Sometimes people will fall in our house and complain, where's your dad? Why?

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Why is he gone for 10 days, you know, because my dad is a Mufti and, you know, a lot of work in the community. And sometimes, you know, they would get angry. Yeah, what kind of work is there? So you live for 10 days, you know, obviously, an ignorant person would say that, but because what why witnessed is, throughout his youth, doesn't matter what's happening at home, he had devoted that this is to Allah for Allah.

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And now that he's a lot older, he still does it. But some, some years, he may not be able to, because of health or whatever. And I just, you know, with thinking about that, and I was thinking, Subhan Allah, there's a hadith in which the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam expressed to us that if you do something and it becomes your habit, right, then when the time comes, when you can't do it, and absolutely right, you still get the reward for it, because the only thing stopping you is that thing that you know, that illness or something that came from Allah. So it made me think Subhanallah what are the things that I'm doing regularly, you know, that later on in life, can continue to give

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me a shot. So I think all of us need to examine examine our lives and think, you know, what are those regular things? Because when we really want to do something we do do it isn't? Isn't that the case of Anil?

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That another topic that I've seen that you really like to focus on is the topic of test skier? Yes, please, can you introduce our listeners and viewers to the concept of test skier? And

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what do you feel? People in our times, especially in the West, I would say, or Muslims in general, need to hear most about the topic of Tesco. Tesco if you're a translator, because maybe some people are not familiar with the term itself is purification. Yeah. And some scholars will call the purification of the heart some scholars will say purification of the soul. The whole idea and if I want to put it in a very simple terms, every human being Look at the baby. When the mother delivered the baby, that baby, Allah created him adult Futura. fitrah is the natural instinct. The natural instinct not only we know Allah, we know there is a Creator. But we know right from wrong. We know

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this is not right. We don't know why it is right. It we don't know why it is not right. But we know it doesn't feel good. Doesn't sound good. Then we start living in life. And what happens, which is also the hadith of philosophy Salatu was Salam Polamalu, new Rodolphe Torah, every newborn will be born on the natural instinct meaning knows only one Creator, then his parents makes him Christian Jews,

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then for us, born as Muslims, so we know this, but then life impact where do we live? And that includes external you know, some people like this food that other food, but internally, life will start shaping and changing us. And the crystal I call the heart the crystal vase, that crystal vase shining beauty, Allah created Aloha Nora, somehow it will not what happens as we live, it becomes foggy, Elva dirty, more dirty, more dirty, and sometimes becomes black. What is this dirt, anger, jealousy, lying, loving this life, attachment, compassion

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session, I want to be the best. I'm going to crush them, the business, all these backbiting. And since exactly all this is since comes in, yeah, what does purification does? It's a process, basically simple, that crystal that became, with time

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dirty, if you want to use this word foggy, you're cleaning it, polishing polishing it, and then it comes back to the original crystal, that the focus is I am here, as a Khalifa of Allah subhanaw taala. I am here as stewards on this earth. We all are talking about it these days. How?

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And here also medicine comes in SubhanAllah. When you have a wound, and the wound is infected, any kind of a wound, what is the first thing you do? You clean the wound, and then you remove anything in your surroundings that will make the wound infected again, and then you bring things that will help heal the wound. That's Saskia. That's purification. You bring back the heart is wounded. Jealousy, backbiting, hate, no belief in Allah, all these things right? And then I'm going to gradually remove it, remove it, remove the harm, remove the horse and clean it and basically literally, I tell the sisters all the time, like you're bringing, you're cleaning a dish, you're

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washing a dish, the dish is your heart and you're washing it. And if the dish is dirty, you're gonna keep washing. Right? So here you go. And by the way, purification of the heart task here is one of the three messages that Allah subhanaw taala sent the Prophet alayhi salatu salam Mohammed for us.

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The first thing is what did Bukhara Robina or Buffy him? Rasulillah? I mean, who actually him i attic, where your Alamo? Will Kitab will hikma or you

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know, some that was the dua of

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him exactly sorted. Oh Allah sent to them the people in Makkah or his progeny. Yes. A Rasul FROM AMONGST THEM messenger from amongst them exactly. will teach them

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recite the verses of your verses to them. Uh huh. Yeah, absolutely him. Chicken Tikka, and then we're your ally Mohammed. Al Kitab. You they teach teach them a book, where they come up with a command wisdom.

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Exactly why shot law plays a key and purifying pure this isn't the first drought Abraham. If you flip this, this is four times in the Quran. If you look at the second part second time in Surah Al Baqarah. The sequence changed Robin Alba theme Rasulullah Mignon fusi him yeah clue Allah him i Attica and then I use a key him where I live when will Kitab al hikma? Once you are almost once you know, then test Kia becomes and some scholars tells you it's for blind. It's an individual obligation and every person. So in a nutshell, how do I do number one is like memorizing the Quran. It's a process. It's not going to happen in a day. Allah I always tell this to ISIL Allah escapable

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of everything. But it's a process I wanted. I'll take the measures will remove the viruses. Right? And keep the cleaning. Number one in the process. You need to know what is my problem? My problem is anger. And when I get angry, I disobey your law. I say things I hurt people. What is my problem? Jealousy? Why does she have it? I don't have it. She doesn't deserve it. My, my problem is, I speak and when I speak, I hurt people, backbiting lying, putting people down bullying, all these number one, identify by identifying yourself. Then take one by one

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simple company. As you said,

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if the softball around me if my friends. I know when I go out with them. It's going to end up in backbiting I need to remove that's a virus. Definitely. If I know if I am going to be doing certain things, and if it doesn't work perfectly, I'm gonna get upset. I need to move away from these things. I know if I for example,

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if I'll be with this, if I go to her house, I'm going to feel ill inside me. She has a bigger house than mine. She has four bedrooms, three that I need to cut down from this social interaction

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So number one is identify what is your problem and what's causing it. So, aim knowledge, learn, learn and the more I learn about Allah subhanaw taala the more I learn about my shortcomings, then

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number two is mudra that we follow it and this is the biggest struggle say say and the process is very easy for things less and one thing is more

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very easy and this is I am put it beautifully. The formulas which we absolutely don't do

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what do you think?

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Less doc? Yeah. Less sleep.

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Less food. Yeah. And less interaction with people

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and more

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the liquor exactly mashallah to Article more dhikr of Allah. The cornerstone is this one. And there is a saying, attributed to Roswell resort was at the close of auto club, remembering remembrance of Allah is the cleaning agent of the heart. Remember the crystal? Yeah, I could put soap

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dish to pray. It's thicker and thicker. Any form of remembering Allah reading Quran, memorizing, asking Allah for forgiveness.

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I'm doing morning and evening as car saying Subhanallah reflecting on the nature, and you say, your Allah Hamama what is beauty is this, who are you? You know, that's a vicar. And this process continues, it's not one day or two. And you will see yourself gradually changing, much more calmer, much more appreciative of what Allah gave you less complaining. Which is the problem of these days. Yeah, less less and less complaining, less attached to the material things, if you have it Alhamdulillah if you don't have it, and hamdulillah and then the more you get there, then you start getting so close to Allah subhanaw taala. The Quran makes you cry, standing inside the night, all

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these so it's a process Hamdu lillahi rabbil aalameen What is really beautiful, is anytime and every time I teach this wherever and I teach it all over, I'm not only in the States, in people really, these days, that's what they are missing.

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It's like, wow,

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this is what I need to do. I need to figure out that me continuously living in these viruses around me and feeding the viruses, it is making me sicker and sicker spiritually.

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Yeah. Because isn't, wouldn't you say? That there's this narrative that, you know, just accept yourself the way you are, you know, there's this, there's this idea nowadays, that people are not encouraged to kind of be self reflective, self critical, you do have to be a certain to a certain level, you have to, you know, analyze yourself. And before you could improve, you have to find out what's wrong, right. And sometimes in the culture around us, we're encouraged to just embrace our flaws, you know, just, that's just the way you are, that's just your personality. And, and also, I think there's an undue emphasis, or there's a lack of recognition that the people around you and how

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they think

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affects you. Like, of course, like for example, I go to university and you know, you do mix with different types of people, it's not that you should completely cut off from them. But you need that place where you can go where you can recharge, you know, absolutely, if you don't have that court of friends, or Allama, or, you know, scholars or pious people, people who when you're in their presence, your mind goes up, they remind you about the hereafter. Yeah, yes, you will become so immersed in this dunya and the concerns that the people around you have become your concerns. So that for example, competing to have an extension on the house and you know, invest in this and that

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and then that becomes your obsession. Absolutely. They're obsessed with status, with belongings and things and holidays that you'll become obsessed with that I will if you allow me to. Islam tells me to accept who I am. Yeah, but we'll take that up. If I want to use the wrong way, meaning Yeah, Allah subhanaw taala teaches me to accept the way He created me. Yeah, right. Studies he teaches us or actually saw to us when we look at ourselves in the mirror Allama Kumar has sent a heartbeat for has some follow up. Yeah, Allah the way you perfected and beautified me, beautify my inner image or manners. That means it doesn't matter how I look. It doesn't matter what people think of me. This is

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who I am. Yeah, right. For the things that

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You can't change, right? So the four things you can change you accepted. Yeah, right. Now, originally, I was not born.

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Angry to the point. I'm throwing everything around me. Yeah, right. I was born with anger. Each one of us, by the way, have anger. And anger is when it is tamed and used in the right way. It's a good thing. Right, exactly. But where do I need to? I wouldn't say change, but I need to tame and put control in when it goes channel it the right way. Channel. I love this word channels in the right way. Yeah. And team it? Yes. Get don't give it too much. Right. So you you get upset. You have the feeling? Yes. But then how I respond is when Allah subhanaw taala wants me to respond in his way. And that's what for example, Teskey teaches me because I'm going to learn about him and a Salah to a

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sinner. Has he ever been angry? Yes. But two questions. What made him angry? And how he and how did he respond? What made him angry? You became angry for the sake of Allah. Exactly. When the boundaries of Allah was

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override overridden? Yeah. And how did he respond?

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Kwinana Rafi Waje we use? We know what from the change in his face. hamdulillah so that's what Teskey teaches you is not completely you will you completely destroy.

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regenerated or reborn? Yeah, no, it's what you have. Allah gave you.

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And by the way, this include the good characters we have. Sometimes we don't know. Like, you're very patient. And you never thought you were very patient. Alhamdulillah use it for Allah. So it is basically self, you know, the self development courses. Everyone talks about these days, right? It's a spiritual development. I will call it spiritual identification of who you are. And then the good ones keep it cultivate make more, and the not very good one, tame it and channel it towards pleases Allah's punk dad. And would you say that, I mean, I feel like lowering the gaze. I feel like that's one of the very key

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key tools that we all need to adopt in order to have this gear because, you know, sometimes you meet people and nowadays, a lot of parents are very worried about the young people, you know, on Instagram and these things and constantly seeing other people's belongings lives, beauty, you know, this kind of thing. And even us, so when watching the news or watching television, or I mean, like, for example, when my sons are watching television, I will say to them, remind them to lower the gates, you know, it doesn't stop just because it's not a real person in front of you, right? Because all of these things have an effect, don't they? So and sometimes we don't realize they've had an

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effect until it's too late. We've become desensitized to looking at haram or looking at things that even if it's not haram, you know, I read this concept of lowering the gaze from material things generally not necessarily from haram, you know? Yes, true. Yeah, true. Now, lower the gaze with with a lot of people may find this new information. It's actually an obligation. Absolutely. It is not an extras. Yeah. Call me media, tell the believing men, men and the believing woman. Lower your gaze. Lower your gaze. And this is a long discussion. What do we do when you are in the workforce and when we are with the non Muslims, but let's start with the Muslim community. Both by the way, men and

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woman lowering the gaze actually, it's an eye in the Quran will give you the inner clearness of the heart, pure rasa, the instinct that when you look at people you will know them. The more you lower your gaze, you're not seeing the opposite Allah will give you the basura the inner sight in a sight that you see things as they are, you'll see that running after this life at one point I'm leaving, there's no point. I this person looks very nice. But reality they are not you'll see it. So absolutely. I mean, one of them is lower the gaze but I think the key interest here is remembering Allah subhanaw taala constantly. Constantly, this Dicker stuff will last panela that you don't Allah

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Subhanallah very recently, last pantalla blessed me to visit his his sacred house and a friend of mine. We were in the journey from Jeddah to Makkah, and her driver

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for the journey is about an hour.

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One hour simple driver never stopped sending solid on the Roswaal

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These last one out.

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And then in between you don't want we all get tired. And you just say stuff a little louder. Hold on. And I asked like y'all law. This is a simple man who Allah knows, maybe doesn't have, I don't know, but I'm assuming not much education, for sure not much Dunia. But and there is no reason for him to do that other than this is where he is. You know, some of the taxi drivers I've met, they're some of the most intelligent people.

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Amazing discussions with them. Yeah, but

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this one is a spiritual. I was like, I even know, I used to every time I see my friend, I said, Okay, what is the driver? Adakah.

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But, you know, it's so easy for all of us. We're sitting on a train every day, we're sitting in the car in the traffic jam.

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One of my teachers he always used to say, how can you just stand there silently, like on a train? Hello? How can you just stand there silently? When you've got something, you've got something that you can do to be increasing your deeds constantly, right? You're sitting on the train, you're standing, you're waiting in a line? Just say Allah subhana wa Handys Han Allah La vie. There's so many things you can keep your tongue moist with the zikr of Allah with laser reason. Okay, I think it's a habit, doesn't it? You just have to become mindful and develop. Yes. Yeah. Does that kilkerran for that reminder?

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Are there any books that you would recommend either in English or even in Arabic, because, you know, some of our viewers and listeners may also be studying etc, that you'd recommend for Ischia?

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In Arabic, there's plenty. Yeah. It depends on where are you in your reading? Level? Meaning you mentioned Ben, okay.

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Sally came my daughter just had a kid maybe not the beginning. Yeah, I love that. I love the book. Yes, beautiful. But it's deeper. As I said, a beginner. In the middle are your advanced, okay, let's say beginner, beginner. There's a beautiful book, which actually now I use it. Mostly in our courses that we offer. A Jana Institute is called a skier to new foods. Come on Carrara howl mo surf, and it's translated, translated as purification of the soul. It's a small area, right? It's a small book like this, this walk, test here purification, you don't read it as a bedtime story. Read it with your heart. You read it that you want to change, and you may need to read it more and more and more.

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Preferably you study purification of the heart with a teacher. It isn't all Islamic Studies. Actually. It's you don't become spiritual by reading books. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. You don't become a doctor by reading books, medical books, you need training the teacher in the process to go through it. But I will say the first thing any Muslim man or a woman wants in the journey to get close to Allah because that's what the purification will get you close to Allah start with his book. Start with his book is not only word toward not word to word only. But what does this mean for me in this time and age and this is what I mainly do these days when we have our courses about the Quran,

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because I do now two courses. We do it on site online in St. Louis and it's online open to everyone

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to and we do it on weekend and since it is gay, any directed mainly toward the woman so we pick up a time where all the family are still sleeping, it's a weekend. That's good. So we do Saturday, central USA time eight tonight, and this course we call it learn love a live the Quran. And the purification or tusky is on Sunday, seven to eight the test skier course has been running since 2003.

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People come and go people come and go sometimes the book we do it again, and sometimes new things. The whole idea is once you start with the book of Allah, and you learn what the word what the sword, I mean, Hulu Allahu Ahad cloud available for like the simple ones. Once you learned the meanings of the word, the next question needs to come to you and me, what does it mean to me as a person, a Muslim living in this day and age I live in London, I live in the States, whatever Allah puts me on this earth, how will I live it? Because the Quran came to every one of us in every time Koolau to be ready for lack of the time of Roswaal is salatu salam had a meaning for them. They live for me, if

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Allah and this is another journey. So if I spend 1015 minutes every day learning few words from the Quran thinking thinking about them, and again, taking it gradually

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Leave step by step, Allah will open the doors, but for knowledge, two things and for purification of the heart, start with the book of Allah. Always, that's the beginning. And then I will definitely recommend the easiest book in Arabic to read is actually it's called Mater Solomon hudgell Cassadine is to have been Kodama and Makdessi. It which is the summary of the summary of a hair alone within a mammal has it. But it's, it's absolutely beautifully written. The hadith are all with all the trees with all the sources of it so easily. But again, it's not an easy book to read without a teacher, I highly recommend the process of Teskey, especially for the beginner, take it to the teacher and ask

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Allah to make it easy, as we all said. I mean, yeah, I mean, I just remember even just being in a, in the presence of certain teachers, you learn from their adab you learn from the mindset just, you absorb so much

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apart from what they're saying with their words. So definitely, actually, one thing you said about the teachers is what I learned when I studied overseas, I studied with a woman only. Okay, which was my first time. Really, absolutely. Because in the West, you study with men. Yeah, right.

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But when you study with woman, as a woman, yeah. And you will have this ability to spend time with them, sometimes on a private Yes, space. And I can tell you this is actually one of the reasons that I asked Allah subhanaw taala in Hamdulillah He responded to we started Jana Institute because we wanted women to be able to teach woman teacher and woman who have studied and give this to the to the woman,

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regular woman or the woman who are wanting to take it as their, their career in order to specialize in this because everyone who taught me was their career, Thursdays in Islamic Studies, PhD in Quran and Sunnah. Subhan Allah. So take that part, especially here, I've seen it in London, mashallah to bottle Cola, and we need to cultivate this more and more. Definitely. And I think I had many female teachers in Egypt.

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And they were just so amazing just learning from them. I learned about modesty from them, I learned about how to conduct yourself how to

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just so many things, you know, Mashallah. And also change the mindset? Yeah.

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For the younger generation, you know, that woman, like now, it's very norm that you go and see a female physician, you don't even think some actually prefer this is what we need to do for teachers is to bring back if you want to use the word scholarship, yeah, that woman.

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When you look at careers you want to take or knowledge you want to learn. One of them it needs to be Islamic Studies, because you will teach simple small circle is your house, definitely, which means that the beginning or you can extend and then change the mindset that the woman can be. Definitely, if you like, you can be a physician, a lawyer, a teacher, any other career. This also and this will give you not only dunya reward, but also will give you a killer reward. Definitely just like a Ferran. So.

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Dr. Haifa, I just wanted to ask you for some last advice that you'd like to give our viewers and listeners about staying steadfast in our times, what advice would you would you give us

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staying steadfast, number one possible. Number two is not easy.

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However, because you want to stay steadfast, for the sake of Allah, He will make it easy. Two or three. This order of steadfastness was given to us while he saw it was there at the end of solitude, first time come out when we

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stay on the right path steadfast as you were ordered. So this is how I always look at things number one general, meaning that's what he wants from me. If he wants something from me, that means it's possible. Yes.

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Number three, don't fool yourself. It's not easy, but it's possible in general. Now, how do I do that? It's with the same process of Ischia. I will say number one is company in these days, and not company only individual. What is the biggest company we have these days?

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Our phone, our phone Subhanallah what does that constant companion is feeding you your heart, your steadfastness, your relationship with Allah. Because when people asked me is the phone haram I was like, why? Huh?

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depends how you're using it. So, look at your surroundings, it choices, life is all about choices panela every step, when you are in front of a choice which we do with DD, one question only, you need to ask and then take the decision which one is more pleasing to Allah? Or which one is pleasing to Allah? And the answer should not even give you a blink of an eye. Do it a lot of the time, it will be externally on the expense of losing material things in the beginning only Yeah, but steadfast believe in it. Constant dua constant supplication turning to Allah Subhana Allah Allah mine yes requests about your Allah I ask you to stay steadfast not a lie in any language, right?

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Language so this is all about tick tock, talk to him. Your hola I'm weak, Ya Allah I can do with your lie. You are the strong, do it.

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When you fall, and we all do get up like a child, look at your child, when the child is 1516 months. What is the norm? They are learning how to walk, how many times they will fall? What do you tell them as a mother? Get up we all fall.

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Just Just get yourself together. You know what? We all did that and then we That's exactly how it is. And if you look at everyone around us, we're all sinners. Cool look no other help hotbar or Hyrule Hopper in a toa boon. All the children of Adam are sinners, the bones, the best among them, those who turn back to repent. So you look at it, you can ask Allah to keep you strong. Choose your company, your time, do extra as much as you can.

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Winter fast more, right? Summer fast, less. But for summer, long day, do more liquor, because you're not sleeping that much. You know what I'm saying? Choose the things and and gradually and gradually. And it is not difficult. I mean, I have seen in England examples of youth. It's really made me happy, somehow and a lot of us are Do you know what Allah subhanaw taala is, is beautifully merciful. Because he shows you these examples. You'll see sad examples. There's also good examples. Yeah, ends on what you focus. That's how it is I look at Saba, and he will pan Allah Who Will Answer me if he's not just like an icon, I think it's really important for us in our times, you know, often

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we can get very used to hearing about what's bad and what's negative about, you know, being a Muslim in our times. But actually, if we are to become really mindful, and really, like, pay attention to what's going on around us. We're very blessed. Subhanallah the other day, I went to the library to work and

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they have a prayer room in the library, you know, in my area, which would was never there before. They just developed a prayer room. They call it a multifaith room, but it's only Muslims who are using it. And it's, it's just beautiful, the facilities are there.

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You know, when you look around you people, especially in London, I think, you know, people are so used to seeing Muslims now.

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One thing that keeps coming up, people sometimes say, you know, when they hear about things, negative things that are happening in the media and maybe Islam phobia, that kind of thing. They say, you know, you Muslims in the West, you should

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go back, go back move would not even go back because we were born here. Yeah. Like go to a place where And subhanAllah sometimes, you know, think about that. And I think one of the things that we have to realize is if you live in a country where it's harder to do something, it's harder to worship Allah it's harder to lower your gaze because there's images being bombarded that you you know of people and things

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and you obey Allah in that difficult situation, you're going to be rewarded more. So I think you know, this idea that we should run away from a situation that is not feasible for everyone Yeah, right. To do and also maybe not desirable as well.

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I think you know, we need to get out of that mindset. The difficulty gives us more reward the this difficulty also contains within it so many opportunities for that were for connection that don't exist in some idyllic perfect place that we imagine exists. This is how our how I will look at it you know how I look at it

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is a statement I heard long time ago. If your heart was connected to Allah, doesn't matter which land of his you live from. If the heart is connected to Allah, it doesn't matter which lead

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and have his, his let his you live on number one number two you you you said that to beautifully. Not everyone can do that. Yeah, right? I cannot. It's just not feasible for many people. Number three, if I can, number one can I practice my Islam in the West these days and I live in the United States of America and you live in England? Can I? And I am a professional and I work and I studied and I did my residency. The hospital I work now is absolutely Christian hospital. Is it feasible? The answer is yes. Yes. Has my Deen being challenged? The answer is no.

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When will I seriously think of Hydra is when I can't practice it. Whenever So Ali saw to a sinner he moved not from a non Muslim to a Muslim he moved from a Muslim to from a from Makkah Mecca to Medina, why a blessed place? So my because a lot of what I need to do living in the Western world, and actually even in the world these days is me. Work on me on my connection with Allah stay away from haram. And a lot of people don't look or think what haram impact can have on my daily life. Stay away from things I don't have to. I don't have to watch haram. And I always say this to the sisters, did somebody put a gun on your head and say, watch this tvcu? By the way, if they did you

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watch it? Because that's what Islam teaches. But in general, a lot of what makes us weaker.

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Weaker is us likely to exactly self inflicted, we like it we enjoy it. Did they prevent our children from going to colleges and institutes and learn? The answer is no. Did they prevent us from us woman wearing our hijab? If the answer is yes, then yes, I am moving. You know what I am co creating other spaces where I can do exactly any. I as a woman who lived a good amount of years in the Western world. Sometimes I feel I'm even stronger in the in living in the non Muslim world, simply because I can isolate myself easier. And I can practice my name. I travel a lot. As you probably know, I don't recall any airport in the world, let alone in the States. And we our whole continent. There was no

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prayer. Exactly. And you call it interface meditation. I don't care what they call it is I go in and I see a blood direction. Yeah, I see.

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And people know. So I think this is how I will say I think this is number one is an individual individual decision. Yeah, some people living in the West is better for them. Some people living not in the West is better for them for their family, for their children. So you cannot there's no one size fits all, there isn't. Yeah, but the thing that I'm trying to highlight is that there are opportunities around us that we might not be able to get somewhere else, you know, opportunities for our people who are seeking the truth, the message of Islam has never come to them. And we have the opportunity to reach them in a way that you know, in certain places, like I lived in Egypt, I would

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say I could see myself having a very limited role in Egypt, you know, in terms of our because mashallah everyone is it's you that there are people who first of all people who are from that land, you know, native speakers of that language, etc.

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Already there, right? Whereas here, we are the native speakers, you know, Allah Subhana Allah, Allah says, that he for every nation, he sent them a messenger from amongst themselves with their language. So sometimes, you know, I think Why did Allah place us here, you know, I did not choose to be born here.

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Somehow the Allah made the situation conspire for us to be here. So instead of rejecting it, why don't we look for the opportunities that might be there for reward that might not be elsewhere?

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Absolutely, absolutely. was the best Dawa the best Dawa and I say this to everyone because some people will say, Well, I don't have knowledge. Yeah. How can I be a DI is you in your manners? you exude your enter example, in your interaction with people. You will have to talk to them about the skill purification I am Yeah, but you act in it. Yeah, we are role models or models, and then most pantalla will use you inshallah. Inshallah. So there's that kind of hearing that Yeah. I really appreciate you coming and I hope to keep in contact with you and I


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