The Obstacles to My Journey to Allah – Arrogance

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Bismillah your man you're walking

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Shut up see that Leticia, what do I have been added to the burden is headache tilam have been anchored in the hub will be shortly so tell us and we will be watching all the time in descending of polio.

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As I was thinking, driving coming, I want everybody, whenever you go to any ministry, whether it is the Rockman center for this Ico while they are in Moscow, whether you are in any masjid, keep reminding yourself.

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Don't take it for granted because he will take it away again. Can he?

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And I Felician. So always remind yourself, see how many of you when you enter your house? And you say oh, like the hot tomato?

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Why didn't you when you entered your garden said Mashallah. Number Every Friday we needed, right? The two people to manage the garden? What was he telling him? Why you're not grateful? Why do you take things for granted? You take it, as of course, it's my house. Well, may Allah protect us all. But is it possible that sometimes we go home and there is no house is a lot of people there. So always remember, don't take things for granted. Because once you take things for granted is going to be an issue. So always a handler, so when I was coming out was like,

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two years your wife is away from us from like, 100 while back but in a beautiful place. Look at the beauty around Subhan Allah and we ask for these, they try to wait because a lot of ladies want these because he's got more convenient, you can see the speaker better don't block each other. And you can write easier. So that may align more to all the people who works in the Writing Center.

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So what did we talk about in the last two weeks? Don't you think I was gonna ask if it doesn't work?

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What do you think you're just gonna come in and listen on the go? What did we talk about? They're not going to be any exams may be better. But

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you have to remind yourself always a was added to us a decade when as a crop farmer, we need to remind them because reminding benefits those who are very poor suffer, I don't remember for I don't benefit from being reminded, then I don't reflect to be, I believe. So what did we talk about? This is the third year, there's five more weeks what did we talk about? What is the topic? What are we talking about?

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So obstacles to my path to Allah subhanaw taala meaning there is a path for most pantalla and that path should be smooth and easy, but there is obstacles and I need to know these obstacles. Number one, I need to admit that there is a path. I am on that path and I'm asking almost pantalla every day, at least 17 times guide me through the right path. But this path is not always straight.

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Or sometimes it is straight, but it's not soon.

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So this is what we are talking about and what are the obstacles so far we cover tooth number one just simple one was this slide. The material things of this slide the beauty of this slide, you know the wealth. The children talked about this more detail last week but in general in life is the beauty of this one. The weather is a distraction. You know, I always say this because I come from the Midwest, where the weather is hard is harsh. Like in the winter when you open the door sometimes you say you're alive you always remember the verses.

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Later on if you have some someone has a year or one of the beauty of June you will not see the extreme weather. You're not gonna see extreme cold I'm not gonna say see

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For sure extreme heat. So here you go. When you open the door in the winter, January, February, sometimes you say, so panel and the same opposite August with the heat index could be 120 and 130. You open any feel like if you're wearing glasses last week before you sort of Hmong. So one of the distractions of brilliant living in California is the beautiful word, the eyebrows coming into the Oh, you're gonna go to that beautiful boring weather. I was like, Wait, why is boring? Is it because it doesn't change? Like 70 becomes 73. So that's a distraction, because it's the comfort when I am when I get comfortable, and everything I want is easy and available. I get distracted. I don't call

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him I'll ask him.

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So during the last week, we talked about

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attachments to people. And how many of you felt or said this is me?

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All of us all of the above right attachment to people and people are in general recovered mainly on to this war or are my spouses and my children spouse whether it's the husband or spouse, it's then the wife and the children? They absolutely and you all have to think that doesn't mean you need to not love love or like your children or your spouse's but you need to be absolutely careful about how do I reach that balance and we talked about it a lot last time. So from today till the end we have five more weeks will end in short but just before they need to talk about me

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I am the biggest obstacle to me

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through

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that you're looking at me

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right I am an obstacle to my pathogen

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yes or no? five of the eight week series is me. So I should not blame

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anybody else

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because we are so good in Blaine area so it is actually me and in me there's characters this is what I'm going to be talking about in me something in me could be all five there are way more than five but I just chose the most common five and this could be all me could be one at one time when at one time so I change it could be in the morning I'm one when the evening I want in the masjid I am one I'm outside the Masjid. So the first one I opted to choose which one was pantalla chosen that one which is endless. puberty.

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What is that? Who knows?

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Yes.

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Thinking you you are better and then others. Very simple is why it's an obstacle to almost.

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What I'm better, I'm pretty. I'm more educated. I know. I speak

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why it's an obstacle to almost Panther. Have you ever thought when you read the flyer? You just say why this is an obstacle?

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I'm sorry.

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We forget about almost Chantal.

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Because Allah subhanaw taala doesn't like it, it's definitely too there's two more reasons Yes.

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So you don't gain more knowledge? Yes, there is a reason I don't need anyone because I know everything so we don't need a must.

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But once an obstacle in my path.

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Allah says not totally. Okay. Allah says in the Quran. So obviously for unreality and the meaning into Kabbalah, mindful of the abundant

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I am and I am going to move away.

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Those he specifically said the elegant one,

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move them away from what? And I let my science Give me your heart and think with this, how do I know all

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go to the basics? How do you know? I don't see a what do we know? He did not want us to see, at least in June? How do I know he exists?

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How do I know he exists? And this is actually when you study academic teachers. Let me give it to you. So you are your husband she keeps asking us almost print out if I see you I can see anything, because a lot more. So I want to know what is the light of the earth of the heavens and the earth. So he had to have an offset. That's how they tell you when you study obviously Allah shielded himself Subhana by his signs to hover over your identity. And he introduced himself to you and we think two things

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is a creation and through his actions

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so when our was said, I am gonna move away those who are arrogant sorcery fanatic, I'm going to move them away, they will not see my sons what happened?

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I can see him anymore.

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The audio with me. So for example, you don't see me imagine you don't see me right? But you hear me there's a shield here. You say she is here because we hear if I have an accident, and I'm applying this ayah Allah who makes me nuts or will make you not hear me. And then you don't learn. You don't see me. And he said, this is also a full hour off and there is many verses Hisoka off about Kingery. And I'll give you the connection. He said, those who are arrogant, I'm going to make them not see my son's one. So the same verse. So ask me for an IRT and push them away. It's there. And I'll give you an example. And we will, again, you are in this beautiful place of the earth. We were hiking through

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a group of white and there was an hiking in like a beautiful, a lot of trees. And there was a fog. Right. So our teacher said, What do you see? Everybody said we see flock? And he said, What do you see? Everyone says,

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Fine. Finally I was like It's a frog. It's a green animal called Frog.

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And he said we didn't see it.

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Said you didn't see the creation of

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it, you get it done. So as to find it. We will not regret it. But we were hideous we didn't think of so Allah says those who are elegant, are going to make them not see reality as reality.

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I don't see his signs. What happens? My path to Allah will be obstacles I don't see. I don't see this is the creation of Allah. What do I see?

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microfil I don't see this is a book. I see. This is a book. I don't see this is a knowledge Allah gave me. Are you with me? I don't see children as near or [???]tier I don't see the children as a blessing from Allah or a test. I see them my children.

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I see them I worked hard on them. That's what I was pantalla move you away from see those who are programmed and what else happens in the same verse. What a Euro cooler at night. And if they see a big sign they don't believe third applies to us, where you'll also be arrested if

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I when they see the street path. They don't take it. They argue look at us human beings are human and when they see the path of misguidance they take it

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one why because the only description he said they

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are human me what is the most common description? In the Quran? I didn't come to the Sunnah of the dwellers of Jana.

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repeatedly in the Quran, it's not the kuffar not the people who don't believe or else

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no more commonly wrote a Cadbury Febi semeth. Well, Mater Cadbury, Allah has repeatedly said, what an abode he's talking about Johanna to those who are out okay. Allah says in surah to Zuma, you'd also have to Zuma the two groups were lawmakers of this group that we are all being guided and escorted to Jana before he said that he said about the people of Jana see, and Adina CAFO or one of them as well. Those who are those who didn't believe they were guided

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escorted but not going

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to join them put your hat on and the doors are open. This is so scary.

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And then the gatekeeper says why are you here?

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Didn't he send you waters messengers? Isn't this is in the Quran? That's not my words follow better. Yep.

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Then go and taste the punishment. Then Allah said could be Sabbath what?

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What a what a bad place for those who are elegant. And there is so many I mean, I could talk with at least 20 or 30

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question for everybody. Don't answer the answer yourself.

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Am I good? Are you

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question was

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my test my path going off my qualification point.

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But the answer is yes.

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Absolutely.

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All of us certain times are not going to say 24/7 How it will be done you will not be here actually.

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This has happened it during the day, maybe one time

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what is the sun's and then I'll give you the Hadith of the soldiers. What is the signs in my daily life? Don't think of Quran and Sunnah. What is the sun in my daily life? That I am

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in your daily life? Give me an example from daily life.

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When you say why should I

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when I say why should I

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okay

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that could be weakness which to choose between Allah wish and my I could be weak, you know, I need to be to be stronger. But what is the sign? We all say it you're saying I gave you a younger mood, especially the younger more than the old one. This is I'm hearing it.

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Now I got it this fine. When someone tells you something you say,

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I know I knew.

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Immediately you pushed away

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a possibility, a possibility of truth. A possibility that you were wrong. I didn't say you're wrong. But is it possible? Luckily Imam Shafi I want to optimize this when he disagreed and Imam shine we don't often see

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beyond you and me not when he disagreed with people. And he was right. Most of the time he was you know what he said? You never sit down, right? Or are you have you know, one study who said, my opinion is right, it could be wrong. And your opinion is wrong. What could be right? No more, I guess. So the moment I say I know, I know.

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Hold back, take a breath. And think what else? I need you from daily life. Because if I keep giving you the verses and the Hadith, you will know it what you forget a goal you're gonna leave and

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what is the other side? I'm arrogant. So one of you said it on the side.

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I'm sorry, I

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I can

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write saying saying it's our tongue immediately telling me what is here.

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I don't need your help. I don't need your help. Or I don't need your advice. Device.

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Advice. When you say to somebody I know. I don't need your advice. What are you seeing literally entirely just that there's this chairs here? What are you seeing inside?

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Or as they say hierarchy, your state saying what?

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I am more knowledgeable. Once you say I know I know. You're telling the other person I'm more knowledgeable than

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I don't need your help. Could you be but that's the other one is? Who are you to tell me?

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We say that all the time. Yes or no? Am I saying the truth? Am I exaggerating? This is how we learn reality. The problem is is not we don't know most of you probably have heard this before. The problem is I don't know it is me. And I do not I'm doing it in my daily life. Because I don't know this how I will change I don't want to end up in Jannah laboratorial Jana memorize this hadith with engraved in your heart.

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Let

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me kind of your only is it

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the person who has she or he

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has an atomic weight what is the what is the governor can shoot at avoid of Oguns they will not entertain

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it's a huge problem. It's a huge problem. And we human being exactly sometimes please forgive me I don't mean you I mean we act exactly luxury upon True or False.

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True or False? Tell me tell me how

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bodyguard get have

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What did he say? As

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a trainer? He said there is many ways in the Quran. I'm just gonna give you one of our one bring to mind my memory and this should be much cleaner.

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This is shaitan speaking to Allah sorta Israel, I guess

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In a prostrate to who you created from

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Martin

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how do we say same way? What we didn't say this

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think in your life? Me

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You all are so scared to say but that's

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right when you say me doing this that's especially if what you are supposed to do or someone asking you to do is pleasing for

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because that's what he said

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on a man in Africa letters today

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because I was

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just talking to Shane fine. He wanted to know the reason he didn't judge him right away. I look at him. He said why didn't you prostrate when I asked him when I ordered Allah the Creator seem to shake upon and he said I know how ironic and better conduct any when

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you create a new from fire You created me from fire created him from clay.

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What did Allah says immediately sorted out off again. That's why I told you what immediately Allah says

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Fabrice caminho down. He didn't get him out yet. He said fabric go down because he was with Allah status. And then I'm going to come to our life. He's with a law highest. So Fabian caminho go down. Why you're not familiar with a couple of here. You cannot be arrogant in Jannah.

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And then, then we set foothold in the Karina Saudi leaf.

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Leave anytime, each one of us don't think please, when in these five, next five weeks, don't think of anybody you know.

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Be like say number one, he used to say calling us a bombing of cognitive everybody is better than me. Everybody knows more than that's obviously nonsense. And at the end, remind me to give you some examples of the opposite of chemo from people with anyone has what they have will be completely different steps. So when you think on these five weeks, don't think of people you know, oh, I know. I know. Oh, this is exactly. Or she answers me. When you didn't mind.

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I want you to think of yourself. If time alone and see when was the last time I said to somebody I know. Don't tell me for sure. Oh, I've done this before.

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And no sign of killer so common between

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you praise yourself.

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And how do we praise ourselves? We don't say I'm very smart. Some says but how do you see?

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How do you say you're the best cook and you see when you invite people to

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have you seen it? Right? So you put the food right? And then you cooked that dish? You have no focus other than waiting to see what people will say.

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And nobody said not even if you have guests in your home on the table dinner table right and children's sat and your husband said what are you waiting for?

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Nothing they didn't say a word What are you going to say? So I was

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right and then the children will kill you by saying good

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why no other good use your

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end you are boiling because you have been cooking for three and four hours you're waiting for the

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price

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you're looking for praise

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literally alone getting upset when you are not praise absolutely assign fucking

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so look at yourself

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in the grocery store to some describe it

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a man came to him right and it no he started by saying data Little John that mechanical can't be he is fun ability linkable. You will not enter join if you have the atom. So the man says

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I want to make sure I'm saying it right because I don't want to see.

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Okay, so he says we all love because that's the answer we all give to ourselves. We love to dress well.

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And look beautiful.

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Is that cute?

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and he said no. As you keep up two things he defined it

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as somewhat of openness rejecting the truth and looking down to people

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rejecting the truth and allowing and looking down at give me an example unless we have examples we will never learn an example from reality

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How could help you reject the truth give me an example. Anything in dunya or an alpha any the fact you are not giving me an example makes me worry

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exists example you took the

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woman come on. Yes, please young I love the hunger please

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so give me an example. So you keep doing something is not working. Keep saying I'll do it. I'll do it

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Okay, very good example. That's all of us here. So I love to play sport, whatever sport you love what sport you love

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are pretty much all basketball, pink, tennis, swimming anyone white. And you are want to be your competitive person. Because that's usually companies you're not doing it for just joy. And you see people when they use in a match took explain what happens.

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They get so upset. Let's kick

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that's kidney meat. You don't want any? Don't treat them harsh. Identify this in your child.

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Or listen to be me. Right? So here you go. You keep trying. And then Allah is telling you is not gonna work? No, I'll do it. No, I can't. I had what else? But

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what have happened reject the truth. Obvious things. That's obvious.

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If you see someone better than you, you try to make excuse, right? That's the second part.

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That's the second column to help truth. What is truth? Don't be there's no truth in this one. Yeah, Megan, any

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you hear it?

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Beautiful. Let's take example from our DE LYS example from our tool. So Allah says do it. Also, I saw to Sam says do it. You don't want to do it. You don't want to do it. You don't say I am weak. You don't say Allah make it easy for me. You don't say please help me. You're not arrogant. You're on the contrary. You're very humble, you know reality. Right. So for example, I speak about Hijab I always say whoever say hijab is easy. I've never done it.

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Honest right? So when a woman comes in says I really want to do with but it is difficult on me don't jump on her hamdulillah pray for her help her make it easy is not easy with all this beauty. But when someone comes let's not talk about Java personas is so audience. And then you say no, no, no, no, it doesn't make sense.

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I am not convinced.

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On what it saw,

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and it was slightly softer, Sam said so and I am not convinced. Absolutely. Expression of Kibler what agrees said Thomas.

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But what I would have

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bought I will have

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to always when someone talks to you, this is why don't say I know. Wait.

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Listen, they could be right. And if they tried to be alone, what did you lose?

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Versus if right away, you pushed it away.

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Then you missed the truth.

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Well, what our oneness, you look down.

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Give me an example in reality.

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Reality. Yes, you feel like you're a good cook, and somebody comes and tries to teach you how to cook the same thing that you think you're already good at. And you say no, no, no, no, no, no, no, I don't need that recipe. You have never tasted one.

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That's always live with this first and I have to say

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don't praise use now to support unfishable Who are you who

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are most of this insults. Imagine? Don't place yourself in anything Allah knows what to do.

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And on the contrary, when someone praise you

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And we are absolutely guilty in this because what the more we place people we inject in them what? Inject kibble, our guests, no one, even patients when they tell me if it wasn't for you also don't say that medicine by itself is a career that inject Kibber in. Don't make it even harder.

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You always say if it was not for the last panel who brought you in my way? I would have never been back. You know what I'm saying? Pushing always connected with a loss pantalla now you know why it is an obstacle in my path one must

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learn to surf. Don't trace yourself.

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What is the commonest way we women praise ourselves? Call ministry

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what an InnoCentive will increase this?

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Because we it's not the US it's

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like the communist dudes or us.

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In a speech, I'll come to the address, but in speech

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I'm sorry.

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I can't, I'm prettier than her. That's praising yourself, we praise our children.

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Indirectly, you're praising us.

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Oh, you didn't know where she got accepted. I have to make sure everybody in the city knows.

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You're laughing because it's true. And you put it on social media. And I graduated from

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and I and my son or my daughter, and emojis and all these pictures, and how to cool them.

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And

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I get jealous because jealousy which we're going to talk about later on jealousy stemmed from this

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jealousy. It's the fruit of killer

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because I think I'm better than him.

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And Allah didn't tell me this, that he sent me a message saying your blood glucose ladder, what other material all of you originated from

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and where it was either originated from

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dust.

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But I have to make sure I make it a point. I am better than I

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had the toughest week call this competition.

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Why do you have to get into this competition? Just tell me one thing. And you said that dress? The look the purse the shoes? Do you know this? Right? Why? Status and not only status, I am better.

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Especially things which has like you know the brand. Because the brand what is carry with it?

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money. And money means status. So I have to make sure I'm doing this to show everybody. I'm better. That's what oneness. They are all less than me.

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It's serious, but we never look at it this way. We take as simple as that. What does that mean? You know, I'm just gonna go on by. I worked hard for all these. So kibble, what do you say?

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The way you look at people give you an example.

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When you want to invite people who are the first people you invite you

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you have to have 50 friends, we know that

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the people who when you are associated with regardless of their status will the last panel.

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They will give you more sadness, oh, they're my friends.

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And people will act as well.

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That's all injected in me.

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So pay attention to what you say.

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Number two, pay attention how often you look for praise. We get asked from people. So what do you think?

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Anytime you ask people for in an indirect way or different way for praise, but they don't say don't praise yourself, but it makes me feel good because I find something else to make you feel good. Because that will make you out to compete. And then you look down at people. I'll give you one example. This was one of the first lessons I learned in from my teacher and

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Under the law, she said, if you got in Ramadan to Makkah, it's very comfortable, extremely crowded.

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And she said, as I think it was even normal, she said, watch your heart, when you are sitting in the home in the house of Allah.

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And the next thing the two places are empty. And there is a space if the person who came in up in the home he invites not when.

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So the next few come and set a woman looks like no service.

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Poor

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How do you feel?

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And if on the left side, another word kingdom who you obviously can tell she's a woman of service. She examine your heart

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and see Do you feel the same toward you both?

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Know exactly how he's loving you.

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So sweet. And says that through flatter? Absolutely not. Sometimes what do we do? We pull our chin to get closer.

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That's

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that's Uncas

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and who's better?

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In Chroma commander Ye, I talk the best among you those who are couple? Could you be the woman who Allah gave her on to? What could be the window Allah? Didn't get rid of to me.

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So how do we look at people which category we put people?

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I always say this, who are your friends? Each one of you younger mode. Who are the people that you spend time with?

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Is the people who will give you benefit in dunya? Or is the people who are going to get the benefits

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are the people who are going to bring you closer to Allah usually these people who's going to bring you closer to Allah, they will kill your pride.

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Look at the word that I use, they kill your pride.

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Absolute will never crazy. And if they did, the first thing they will say now

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I'm not going to praise you move on. Don't.

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So look at your friends, who you choose to spend time with your precious time to walk to ask us that tells you who you are. And where does the old continue or in me

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or sorry, assaulted us, again with another law firm about Sahabi as

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in the presence of housewives auto Sara got upset with another but we don't know the name of the other one. He got upset.

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That tells you they are human like human being. And he said you you who your mother is.

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And I saw this ultrasound sitting. He said to me

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in a COBOL he could hear

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you're a man is to have a communion since it

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should have a character of humans Ignace meaning what they did before.

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In you.

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We there's four things there's more but I'm just going to cover these four. That's makes me not sure how to think I'm better than people. Four things. One is knowledge,

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knowledge, any kind of knowledge, let alone knowledge of lead.

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Or do you memorize the Quran? What do you know? How do you teach people? And and this gets into because everybody asks you, everybody praise you why they want to test you in something, someone sends you an email and they you may make a note

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how do you feel?

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If you got a high get upset, and probably I need to work on my cable, actually I need to stop teaching.

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Because it shouldn't be the same way. If someone please me, and if someone did not,

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then you are sincere. You're doing it.

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So number one is knowledge. That's when we say I know I know. You did today I've said from someone called like

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how many of you get upset when someone could let alone your husband

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or your children

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remember the day you were in line?

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Any in his way? Or she is

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so an homage to

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what

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Have

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whilst I wish

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I had more

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especially when I show it off

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his wealth is an EMR is a network for loss. Fantastic. Because it's another opportunity for me and you to do what? To get closer to Allah. I'll use it the right way. Right? You know the famous Hadith,

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that when for you, you know this hadith things happen the most one is the poor people, the meaning of the poor people of Medina, came from a slice of themselves, not what they used to complete. So Joshua, the rich people are ahead of us why he said, they said because they are spending money for your sake, and don't have the money. He said, Okay, young to teach you something much better than he taught them.

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The DICOM format without going into details a long time they came after we said you also have all the rich people are doing the same.

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And he said how the horrible one teenager, this is the grace of Allah.

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So money don't look at money as bad.

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It is bad. It's a new covenant. It's a punishment, and I don't use it for the sake of Allah. When I wasted when I use it to boost then this is not what Allah intended for. Two, three, woman beauty beauty. And that's why this competition

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competition somehow like I don't know about here, but I've seen it. When people get invited. Especially weddings, they're so scared that somebody is going to come in wearing the same dress. You have this idea that one time

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that guy

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and I looked and I said Subhanak

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How do you can use a woman came there to the vicious tube were invited. Everybody was waiting for them. Honestly,

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one of them came in, I can't tell you that dress coming you can see the

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the makeup of the other lady came in wearing exactly the same dress.

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Exactly the same color. I was like Subhanak

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don't do that.

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Don't compete in beauty.

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Whatever we will be going to get home

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and it's going to go away whatever you do. What government Mahara, LogMeIn

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or what does not create a disease, but created with its treatment except hitting.

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It's not going to change soon as soon as a boy fillerina huddle up portion of the wifey and Maddie, this is the fact the way of Allah will untouchability sooner or later, will never change. Nobody 70 or become 50 It's not gonna happen. Whatever they do. So don't come Don't disobey Allah. And no doubt people because you're more beautiful.

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He gave it to you.

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There is things in me and you I had nothing to do with it. One of them is the way I think. So if somebody is not beautiful, don't look at them, they have nothing to do with it. So their choice. So knowledge, wealth, money and status. And coming to that status who I am, was my father was my mother, you don't see too much in this country. What do you got? Can you see it in a different way? A color of the skin?

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But in certain places of the world is what's the name of your family?

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And what's the last name?

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If the name was not something

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don't because again I have no choice and the fifth one which is a form that tanto followers,

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followers and these days the followers on social media, whereas the influencers are who are what they call them influencers.

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Because they influence people by

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what they post and if you have 200 to 300,000 or you have 1,000,000,002 billion some people have seven 810 50 million a lot for two positions.

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There is no third either through these hours, he is going to exhaust you even more because you change people to them better or the other way around, which one you wanted

00:44:45--> 00:44:46

which one you want to be

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so this font of knowledge wealth, look beauty, my status my you have to it also my career and follows so

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Would you like, now we're all depressed. Now, we all found that

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the issue that we thought we did not have

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when I asked you the question the first time, and I told you don't answer

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how many don't show me is the majority of you said yes. Or the majority of you said, No, we're not. I'm not elegant.

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majority said yes. Handling. So now we find out so what do we do?

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Go and cry and stay in the house cry. Also, I'm done. While I'm going to put your agenda, don't do that. Don't do that. That's not what he wants me to do. What do I do?

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Number one, number one, we have to have solutions. Just Can I go again? I said to the patients, okay, you gave me the complaint what I'm going to do about right, so number one, number one who can tell me what is number one first step to treatment number one.

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I'm sorry, before that

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before that

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acknowledge

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acknowledge that you are I am I have this problem. Because if I don't acknowledge it, I'm gonna change.

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If somebody says, Are you arrogant? No, I'm not. Oh, there's nobody more or you should see me.

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The moment you say this is like okay, because that's crazy. That's crazy. I got a question the other day young woman made a lot of words and she says, I am start by two lines of praising

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everybody in the house trust me, they all take my opinion. I was like great. This is really a good start. I actually told her I was like that is

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so here you go. Number one acknowledge

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So number one, I have it number two. How this is a mic okay. I have it because everybody has when one when I act as arrogant. When do I feel as an arrogant person when

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I just shared it with you. When I do damage people in me internally. And this needs to be brushed like to be made these issues better than

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when I feel angry about someone has something I don't have it. Because I think I deserve it more than that means I've done

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that's two, three, when I fish for crease. And unfortunately we live in a time that everybody you know when they tell you when you apply for jobs, heed the word. Those of you who are in the work what do they tell you sell yourself

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when you call for interview, that's what they teach you self selling yourself. What do you know what they asked you? Why?

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Why should I pick you? Or what do they say? Tell me your strength.

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Now how did that go with it?

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Now I have to praise myself

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it's very common. Tell me three of your weaknesses and three of your strength.

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So when I feel I am so eager to praise myself and humbly ask I'm ready.

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I'm very patient read

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so when when you want to praise yourself or you're happy when someone is praising you, you are

00:48:48--> 00:48:54

yes, let me give you examples now. Examples of the people

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don't feel shallow shallow mouth when they I will when I eat this off like I'm done. But I was like you can even look at them maybe you will get to so that everybody knows each other as is yes or no. Who was he?

00:49:10--> 00:49:11

He said yes.

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You said yes

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like what does that teach the younger group probably they have not taught them how to write and you have exactly right. So who's

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the fifth Khalifa that was really helpful.

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He's the grandson of say nominee from the mother side, I think great grandson, great grandson. Number two, he was not the fifth Khalifa and sequence was actually way after at the Amobi time. But what's so special about him?

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He was absolutely the richest man. He was the most knowledgeable he was very well looking. And he was the leader in our

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I changed his heart. And he only ruled for four years, only four years. In his time, there was no one deserves a car. There was no pool in that city.

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So what is

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I guess guests change results? So I'm sure you all are gonna feel it. Right at Apple, do you? In the night guests came? And he was actually studying or writing. So he had a lanten? No, these days are those days they didn't have electricity. So they had Lamington. And how do you turn on the lantern? What do you need oil. And at one point, the oil will run and you have to go and fill it. So as he was wisdom, scratch will read and it becomes fainter and fainter. So naturally, naturally, the guest says ongoing friends.

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And he's an look how we responded. He said, they sent in common module, and he's definitely more playful. It is not a sign of nobility of a man that he asked his guests to do something for him.

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Then he said, Okay, let's let's call that Solomon, he has old and younger, when he said he just went to live.

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And then he picked up the lanten or not, as is the Khalifa and walked and filled it. But that's not

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the beauty of the story. So he brought it back. And the man says, content they are near a movie.

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You can

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and your movie, the leader of the believers, you did it.

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Can I ask you if somebody said this to you do this witness?

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Like why not? Okay, what else? Don't humble answer.

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It's not a big deal. My pleasure. Look what he said. It's in the same line. He says they have to enter or not

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will reject you on our walk man, aka summon nation. I went to fill the oil, and my name was ALLAH and came back. And my name is Omar. And nothing was changed. I was Nautilus.

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So if someone tells you what and get the garbage out

00:52:32--> 00:52:32

why your

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why

00:52:39--> 00:52:39

you didn't learn?

00:52:42--> 00:52:44

What did I say? What did I say?

00:52:45--> 00:52:53

Don't think of anyone remember? Because this is the natural what was think of someone else? Don't think of your son yet. Yet?

00:52:54--> 00:52:57

You know why? Because I have to be the example.

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I have to be the example what's

00:53:02--> 00:53:06

something or a task that you think you shouldn't do? Me?

00:53:09--> 00:53:10

After all this use

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what give me an example.

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That thing you need to go into.

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When looking inside you, not someone tells you inside you, I going to stand up and wash dishes. Me. I used to do this when I was in college now. That's

00:53:36--> 00:53:52

so anytime you think that you are overqualified, we use this term in the professional world. overqualified to do something than I am adequate. Okay, let me give you my medical journal.

00:53:54--> 00:53:58

There's some people want to hear the names of their sayings, literally pay attention, he said,

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You will not reach the highest level of faith, nothing to do.

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Nothing to do with failure. They need to pray that nothing nothing. Let's see. How can I get the highest level of faith Hector?

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Being humble is way more loving than

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that status.

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Being humble,

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way more beloved, than having a status.

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When you come in in a room

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and there is no empty space. Do you expect people some to get up and give you their place?

00:54:42--> 00:54:53

If yes, then you want. I am one of the only places that is next to the door. And I look and I say I'm not going to be sitting here

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and I am.

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I am.

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It's very common. I don't know here.

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It's very common

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and normal on top.

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The woman wants to be the front row, because they want to see the mom.

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And they

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keep the spaces. You're not this year, maybe, I don't know. But we had a setting in the hall. So when I come on coming, and my friend

00:55:25--> 00:55:32

booked the place for me to reserve the place for me, and I come and I see someone sitting in it, how do I feel?

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Nothing. Nothing? Who are you?

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You shouldn't make a library.

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You shouldn't. It's not your space. But if I feel this is the word I want you all to remember, if I feel I am entitled.

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And I have covered

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in title, of course, I should

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have blogged in a while was also very st. zygomaticus. He said, the essence that you are humble. Now the other way around, let's see, are we humble? He said Ron suto. The real indicator that you are humble is when you put yourself lower than the people who have dunya.

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And, and you tell that person that you are not interested in the dunya

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you don't compete, you don't look at the house, you don't look at the car, you don't look at the children, and you elevate yourself above those above those who are so indulged into neon,

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then you know, you're not interested, you don't want to say I'm not interested, because you don't like it. Whether it's a food, whether it's a sport, there's something you are humble, when you do get into this competition of people.

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Not because you can't and specifically if you can, especially if you can as hard as if you can't, you can't, but if you can, for sure, Lincoln, for sure, you can go and do this and why this and you have to say you know what, I'm not going to be part of this competition, then you are on top of all that Adele, who's

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the wife, okay, thank you. Oh, is that right?

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Now,

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so, she leaves.

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Buddha is yes.

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Right. So she is not only

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can Sahabi but she and her husband what they did for us.

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And they were wealthy, they had money. And they this is I read this many books out they used to see that sitting with the poor woman only.

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And this is all my data and other data

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and say that was a very famous comment tell you of the empathy is also a man of the heart. He said, Now look at this applies to you and me. You're like Yo, you don't make us on the street. He said also about vlogging

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number one money, what

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to beauty,

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beautiful dress and or knowledge,

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beauty, wealth, knowledge status, because it shows in your dress, and he did not act with humbleness. It wouldn't be without legal judgment, it will be severe condition that they have

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severe punishment on the Day of Judgment.

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Enough to me all the time. I remember the Sahaba came to the soirees office, right? You know this say the

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OSI soft was speaking in the masjid is no this beautiful five H carpet

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right he was pleased to speak like that.

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We wait and then the shoulder was exposed. So you're sleeping see now this is in Medina. So later Indonesia was over. And he saw the marks says yeah, so can you allow me Will you will you allow me just to get you a mat? What it is? Who knows the US

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Mollywood

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why what I have nothing to do with doing

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I'm not interested.

01:00:02--> 01:00:16

My relationship with dunya with this slide is like a stranger, traveling, travel, reached, strapped under a tree for a while and then left. He defined dunya having your mind

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May Allah forgive us on what kind of

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mattress we buy.

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So whosoever, were given these because sometimes you are born in a rich family, or what gave you the knowledge of what created you beautiful, have nothing to do with this issue did not use it with humbleness, and to bring people closer to Allah. And on the contrary, then this is a severe punishment on the Day of Judgment. May Allah Strattera protect us all, wrongly. I mean, you're very ask a lot now comes into how to things. I always make this job for myself. But suddenly we are going to say, show me my shortcomings.

01:01:05--> 01:01:08

Show me my shortcomings. Meaning when you come and tell me I listened.

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Or something happens and I see it I can deny it. I have a temper I have a temper, or I am the rise of Elijah, he shows me or I am Elgin, he shows you I don't deny it. And number two, and this is a Dropseed novel, Rahim Allah.

01:01:29--> 01:01:35

May Allah bless that person who gifted me my shortcomings. I don't want you to praise me.

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This is what you all have to do. And ask people Don't praise me enough as me Well, yes. Don't praise me. But be also

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gentle,

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gentle.

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In the wake you give to me, my shortcomings, and I need to be here is my Kubrick's destiny. Someone come and tell me you are this you are that? I don't say no, I'm not

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asking.

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And I said exactly that.

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And then I go back and tell you why this is true.

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Show me and then the third has helped me to change

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helped me to change because we rarely, rarely human beings helping each other in this what do you normally say? She's not gonna accept it. But that's about Scott, you're upset. I don't want to upset anybody

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that at least maybe

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you don't want to say at least me. You'll have May Allah's pantalla pave this path for us in our journey to have us pumped up.

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And making shows us all these is truth. We see it not only here, but we see we don't see it in people, we see it in ourselves. And then he helps us your journey to change is that and a lot of famous Parklawn will be having a shadow gallery as critical to the day so long as it looks fantastic. Any cost you do forget the salary. You own you should

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really not complete production. Yeah, there is I'm gonna do something special for the woman everyone's before you're the first one. I mean that for silly. I do it. There's a lot of discussions about especially these days are old versus waiting. Abortion

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IVF. What is this and Islam. So all the reproductive, contemporary reproductive issues that is related to the Muslim woman we're going to cover to completing It's this Saturday shot not from here, it's going to be actually I was told in the Masada in the menu. Because it's bigger, they say so to accommodate everyone, it's from 11. And we'll finish the evening up to 45. When he wants our 15 minutes, I would have slides and we will discuss the individual constants. Bring the youth also, this is extremely important for them. Because that's the discussion is being if you work in this world, outside your home, this is the communist discussion. Because this is all over the news. Just

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a week, you know this, you know the heat of the Supreme Court? How many of you know show me hands?

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Reading

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that's a problem. That's a huge problem. You know what? I'll give you an example. So I shouldn't steal your Sony. When I was studying and exams see them. And the teacher is a teacher for Medina. Tough are so scared, right? And that she puts them. This is 14 years ago. So we're still doing exams in paper. So she put the papers says don't open it. And then she looked at all of us and says what is the use today?

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Use of an exam. She said you want to be down to a hospitality and you don't know what's going on in life was going to listen to you.

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You want to affect your children.

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You want to have a conversation with your children and you don't know what is

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Roe versus Wade, you're in big trouble.

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Because that's a common thing in this country whose needs and the first question I can't tell you how many times I've been asked, What does Islam say about abortion?

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So this is what we're going to be covering Inshallah, not only abortion, abortion IVF IUI. All these issues, which one is allowed, which one is farms are not allowed? And also, we're going to cover a little bit on the creation in the Quran, how we were created to start. So inshallah who is coming Saturday, it's 11 o'clock, ALLAH SubhanA. Allah give us life slide in here

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to talk. And yes, I'm sorry.

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What a question. I leave it to the center.

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Yes, I actually had a question. Yes.

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So from the perspective of discussing the idea of seeking praise as a sign of arrogance, I was curious, how do we balance that with, you know, maybe having worked with a lot of women like self esteem, self esteem? Especially like we mentioned the dinner all laughter? Yes, you want your spouse to be pleased with your

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son? So let me repeat the question for the audience online. How do you balance the self esteem

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versus the killer? Because sometimes when people presume you feel good, right, you don't feel down at yourself, and you don't want to feel down at yourself, because that's can be destroyed, destroying destructive, versus killing?

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Don't ask for it. He will continue.

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Don't ask for it. Allah, who's

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number one, number two, and this is very important question one that one day, can I do about self esteem? Because this is a huge issue.

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Enough, I say this to myself before? Enough. I'm even big

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enough. Allah created me. And he said it. Come on nobody Adam, he said, I will walk of honor the human beat. Why I don't believe in me.

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Why do I want why me my status? The way I look at myself is based on what people think of me and not what I think. So don't what I was trying to explain. Don't seek, don't seek it. Because once you seek the praise, and you get upset when someone doesn't faze you, you have it, you're building your abilities. But if it comes at 100 level, if it comes down to it, I'm gonna do this for this. But don't say I'm the best possible bake cake.

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Or underparts person to do this. Yes, you have to question how can we still have time? Yes.

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Oh, so this is like building your own confidence. Like, Oh, yeah.

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I'm proud of my

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character. So you took in? I don't think it's

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exactly the exam. Yeah. I'm proud of my

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kin, in terms of building.

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Not necessarily.

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Yeah, this is a very good point. You cooked? You tasted it? It tastes good. Why don't you believe in us?

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Why do I have to hear from you? And I'm testing this? Yes, you can. So you, I'm sure you This is one of the ways you treat young you talk to the woman. But my point is don't live. This will apply to everything as we

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don't live based on what people think of

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you based on

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what I like to think of

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every time I read it, this is more than one sentence. And I must say that I say, you know, you said that I say this reminds me and allowed me when I know

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what sovereignty is was located for sending data to a man in the alphabet, whatever was served and he always returned. And then what he said about saying that to you, in knowledge of the outside world, we found him patient cause looking like you are looking at me and I'm looking at you of what has to be between and looking at you why you what you think of me is more important than what

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why would you know, but this is how we act.

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This is how we are going to be something pleasing to Allah, but people didn't like it. Why do I get upset and sad? It's pleasing to my create. So always

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Notice what I said the self esteem is to look at, don't focus on what people think of you, because you're not going to be wrong. Well, they have their own agenda. They want to put you down. Look at what Omar said about me and build on it. And they couldn't be right. But also they could be

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to live in the country, the second don't live

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in the circle of people live in the circle of

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him, and people really everybody. And doesn't mean you're not going to take care of people. But you're taking care of them close and fall, because that's what he wants you to do. You see my point? Everything you should please him. Not to please people. Yes.

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For me, I always ask,

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because

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I mean,

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that's a different story. But I've always expected

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this is a different aspect. Because what is the NIA? So she says, when she cooks and put the food on the table, she wants to teach the children to be grateful.

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And the first one to be grateful to

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have you been invited to a number of symbols.

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You need to you live in this country.

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Every time I am with non Muslims, you know, the first thing they told me what prayer you're saying?

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Basically, I will say this.

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And let's see what else uh, when we finish, we say 100 or 100. There on an Amazon.

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folder we were

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making eat February without me having any ability or power. So when I want to teach my children, I'm not gonna say how did that Thank you, mom. Now I missed.

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Number 100. I love to put food on the table. You gave me a mother. You can be someone with the retrieval of mother but they don't care about them. Give me your mother you gave your mother cares and gave me a mother who cares even more to cook what I like. And you need to be grateful to him that he sent you this and absolutely relinquishment. NASA also is not grateful, or doesn't show thankfulness gratefulness to people is not grateful to all of us. I'm talking about please. What do you think? So how was it?

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And they said, Good. That's it.

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Right? I read training, because we all loved it. I want to hear what people are saying. So you keep saying you know, what? Don't you ask them? Talk to yourself? Don't you ask them? And everything crazy? You always see. They don't know, what's my shortcomings?

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Yes. How do you advise to when you are in a situation where they ask you? The first thing, they ask me what

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I want you to? What is my biggest accomplishment? If you don't answer?

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At work, or people?

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You know, when I said

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nobody asked me if they asked me. I see he made me a segment of your life. If you're going to

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ask my colleagues

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the way you say, You know what they always say in this country is not what you see. Somebody said, if I say I don't like to praise myself, that's I'm a very confident person.

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Right? I'm very confident. I don't like these demons. You told me what do you see me? And so she started praising was like, great. Now, you should ask my husband. Or you should ask my children. You don't want to say it's, it's very important to be confident. I can't tell you, especially women, especially woman in practice. So important. Another day, I was in a store here.

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I mean, who was the lady I have? So the woman was wearing hijab yelling at ya allah how confident this woman was at the cashier? Because the woman before me was a white woman asked the usual question. What was the question? Where are you from? Right, as some people get really annoyed by this question. You look at the way she answered.

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And literally I started I was watching

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because this is how we should be as Muslim woman. She's a Kashi where the cookie jar is smiling. The first thing she said

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Good morning, how's your day? How many of us don't?

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I looked at her after she said, You made me so happy. She said, why I said, this is how we shouldn't be. Because this woman who had this interaction with you, it's gonna be the only time she will ever say oh, by the way, and I want to save your time's right? If you're warming on it in this five minutes as we were

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doing.

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So it is not how it's not what I say it's how I say it. enough that I am a lost parent, and I'm not being elegant and even grateful. So to be

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made me almost every Mullah on 100. He facilitated for me to awaken it's very hard this day and age is very difficult. He facilitated, let alone he made me love it, let alone he opened the opportunity for me. That's why I start by saying Be grateful for this. Don't take this as granted, or go home or listen online. Don't do that. Because he can take it so yes, people know you're confident.

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And you know, when you're competent, it was someone come in, they want to be on your nerves, or they wanted to say the things children teach. And the best way when someone irritates you do

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not

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as if you didn't hear it, why bother rationality the name Chanel only Hohner. The Hopalong genuine affirms

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the real servants of the Most Merciful Walk on Earth with humbleness and when the EPR and talk to them they say please don't get engaged in this. This is a training by the way. And this is a quality we can give it to our children if we hadn't.

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If I if I haven't if I don't have it. I'm not gonna be able to give it to you if I am. Oh, good lesson. Rest assured.

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The children will be held because they learned from they will see now being handled father the shaking, the one who doesn't have something to complete.

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Any question? Yes, please.

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I can't tell you.

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What was

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she told her she told her from Pakistan. And she was so confident she has an accent. I'm glad I didn't number young people. And this is specifically for the young or not very young people. But they grew up in this country looking down at people because they have an accent. That's

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and this is very common.

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Between us she has very heavy she this looking down at people the way they speak is an elegance

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don't do that. And if someone pointed out that you said Peace yes

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so she was working in a hospital I'm just repeating because the people can hear

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front desk in the hospital

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so the patient comes into her wedding

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she says what

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she thought she covered it because she escaped on the show people.

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How many people have asked you or your

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or your sister or your sister? I will just when I was coming here. The lady next to me is Can I ask you a question? I know it's coming because like

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and she said Are you a holy sister or an asset

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and then we started beautiful composition. So

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this is the last island up so we can get ready for when people say things to always think the donor

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to think of people. Right? They really don't know but just so people don't. And they don't have another intention of you know, take them but always take it as we say please rather you know they will not explain it they didn't like it.

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But don't be upset you know we sometimes get upset and we get agitated. Don't do that. Don't do that kind of development. Just to kind of Colombo behind the

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Acetyl Co A little ominous even public light and it was hard because we would have been cut off