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Tazkiyah Retreat 2019 – #05
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Bismillah R. Rahman you're walking. So let's talk about what will make my heart sick. I think a lot of us in, in practice, let's go into the detail on what makes my heart sick. So we agreed before we started, that our hearts are sick. We agreed on that nobody would disagree. What is the problem? I was born like a baby, or I was born as a baby with a pure crystal clear trophy windows with no spice. Why did I change?
Well, it's the surroundings. But what it why some people does not change. Why do you see people as we say, you see them, that they are focused on life, they living for a while. So these people are not different than you would be?
Where is the issue? And there is four or five poisons. They call it
poisons of the heart
poisons of the heart.
So what is the poison of the body? What's the poison on the body?
What poisoned my body drugs, alcohol, medication, use it in the wrong way. Right? externally, I'm talking too much. For example, if somebody has diabetes, and then they take, and they eat too much sugar, someone is overweight. And they tell me this somebody has,
for example, gout, and they tell them don't eat too much meat, these are all poisons.
What is the poison of the heart poisons of the heart number one, and that's why it's very difficult. It's not something you see.
It's not something you ingest a tablet or food.
But it's something we do in our daily life that I need to do with to survive.
Remember this, I need to do it to survive and to live, and no one gave it to me to keep me going and living. But what happens?
abused, as we abuse a lot of things, like you look at somebody, especially youth, they don't sleep they study up on might and then they don't eat junk food. And so you're abusing your body.
1020 years from now, your body will not be forgiving. So what are these poisons the natural things we have that we abuse it and becomes poises to the heart. And I'm going to start with the first one, which I think it's the most important one. Especially a lot shoulders very recently. Too much talk.
They call it in the Arabic language for Lulu column for no root canal too much talk
or excessive talk. What is excessive talk? So I don't say to you Salaam Alaikum. How are you doing?
So I don't ask about your family.
So I don't when I sit down with people so I don't talk
before I answer these questions, let's come and see what did your assumed and mine at a Software Center tomatoes on what have you thought about this subject?
And this is what I'm sharing with you is not everything on one object and one of the
toughest word or ashwani Satoshi said it
regarding to excessive talking Hanawon.
Too heavy and one of them one of them? I'm sure you all know it. Very tough language. Not in my in your standard in his standard is
the gen two way he speaks? In these he used a little bit less gentle if I want to use the word.
What is he one of one of them?
When can I be Yeah, he all mean
for younger Highline office.
so clear. womb ever believe in Allah, and the Day of Judgment. You and me.
So Young, high on, say, Good.
or stay quiet
span of law. If you read the commentary of this race. It's an actual commentary of the moment No way. I can tell you how many scholars and how much scholars discuss this hadith.
And I'm going to just share a little bit with you because of the time and the most important thing that you need to take with you home. So you remember
They said look what he said.
It analyze the words first. Mike, can I help me? Oh, well, yeah, he will sign off my we've
signed up I believe in Allah and the Day of Judgment.
So if I say Do you believe in what you say? Of course, do you do even a day of judgment? Yes, of course. Then Then show me as we see, failure, cool feeling, lets him speak. But he didn't let him speak.
He defined it. What is good.
So either I speak something good or no other option. Stay quiet, and you're smooth in the Arabic language is a tough word. Stay quiet. That's basically how you translate.
So anything I see, that is not higher.
My Ian in a line, the day of judgment is being questioned. You see what I'm talking about? You see how significant this hadith is in my life?
What is good?
What is good? I'm not talking about how long number one know how long speech there's no good than harm. So see how many of what we speak is out already.
standard foul language.
Talk about people even in front of them
laughing too much.
Making fun of people in front of them.
And more and more. All of these is not under
this actually under how they call it diseases of the tongue.
All these so what is hiring? So I from morning to evening, I'm going to be leaving on or what about if I don't memorize. So from morning to evening, I'm gonna say out a lot.
But I live I work I family I postponed I children of coworkers. So what I'm going to speak
what I'm going to say anything that to bring benefit to this world and the hereafter selling
anything brings higher good to this life to the people around you. Or to yourself, bring higher. Good set, because that's what he said. other option is there's no third option this honey,
Give me examples of
advice. That's a general word. That's not all.
That's not all thing. It depends where when is my heart? My heart is always my advice will be full of Urban's putting people down. And could be my advice is
something that will bring something will bring benefit. Someone is sick, I call and asked about them. That's
Yes. to certain excellent.
Which hospital you are in, you're not planning to visit?
So what disease you have, you're not a physician. It's not your specialty. Why you're asking?
Why? To put people on the spot. So you want her to tell you I have a total of cancer. And once you get out of this, so your dog will be better. If she wants you to make a better job. She'll tell you.
I'm really sick. Please make dua for me. Isn't that enough?
Why do I have to know what kind of a sickness is it?
You are calling somebody to invite them to your house. That's a talk. And by the way, talk is not only talk talk is texting
or leaving a voicemail, this is all speech.
So you're inviting someone to come to your house for you to rely on or to come to the city. This day. This time we'll pray together or you pray in your house and you will come beautiful
right? I want you to come to my house because this person is coming in this person is coming in this person is why
What this will bring this is remember that morning, two things you ask yourself before you do anything. And by the way speech is an act salmon.
It's going to be taken accountable for what I say it's like I do, an opponent will hammer both our actions in front of a lot you look at me and said, Why did you say that?
Why do things? Why is it in here? You're so used to pleasing to Allah? Is this is the best way I can see it.
After you filtered, do I have to save?
Most of the time? If you filter it? The answer is no.
I really don't need to save this.
I'm in a toolkit and this is the other opposites so they're one of the recipes of the sphere. Actually, scholars have the skill of teaching one of the essential essential steps to get close to one don't talk.
you need to close the doors of where I will feel if I feel when I talk to people on the phone? Don't talk
send the messages better because you read it
or do a voice note and then listen to it yourself.
Because this is a serious heavy
crude mechanic I'm gonna
Here you are, together know what is good. If you are reviewing it's good. But where do you live? How many children you have?
what it's going to benefit it's going to get
it's not like there's nothing else I can talk about. What did you think? You know, I didn't understand this. Can you explain this to me a camera look at the beauty. All this is fine. But the personal things when we get to the personal. That's where my next starts coming.
mechanic will be lagging when he only for the time and often years. And I put our own cubbies for you in your handout.
We know probably the last part of
the whole heavy one. So even more I asked Rosemary Santos enough about this. Dean, I want one of you to read it for me.
It's it's the long Hades in the accessory talk. Yes. Can you read this for us?
My friend Devin, yes,
I accompany the profits of the
one Bay Area while we were moving. So I said, Oh messenger will inform me about an action by which I will be admitted into paradise, and which will keep me far from the buyer. He says, Don't ask me about something great. When it is easy, for whomever alone makes it easy. Worship alone. And do not associate any partners with him. Establish the solo, give this again, past Ramadan and perform hugs to the house. Then he said, shall I not guided through the doors of good fasting as a shield and charity is extinguishes since like water extinguishes fire in a man's brain in the depths of the night. He said, then he was lighted their sides forsake their beds to call upon their Lord until he
agreed what they used to do 13 to 16 versus 1617. Then he said, shall I not inform you about that head of the entire matter? And it's filler. And it's? I said, Of course on messenger alone. He said, the head of the matter is this is pillar is below a tongue issue. That he said, shall I not inform you about what governs all of that? I said, of course.
He's on the line.
Somebody grabbed his phone, he said, restrain this. I said our proper level law will we take into account for what we said. He said, may your mother grieve your loss on one or the people cost into the fire upon their faces or upon their noses except because of what their tongues have
Very clear this
is a question of so you know and so you've never had one of the most beloved so habit or Swati Santos and the question is so relevant to me and you these days Tell me what we're getting into gym which we all say this what is it look at the answer what did he answer
what did he answer
worship Allah no partners number two
then he added
to the snaps then he added Why do you want me to tell you he okay this is how he's teaching you want me to tell you want me to tell you You want me to tell you what was the next step
that's why monday and thursday it is now part of your disk you can to me it's not you can't be it's not going to work. If you do not do regular fasting outside from
his fasting is one of the beautiful sisters long time ago used to see the killer of the nerves.
Which is very true skill of the nerves because you're dying to have this wherever you like to eat or drink. You're fasting and it's not the one which
some Junior what's done as a shield shield from
shield trauma. From the anger of Allah shield from sins. Is your when you are hungry, you disobeyed. Yes, is less easy.
Or disobeying the law become more difficult, you have the energy plus segment is restrained,
less active, or so much
and charity. extinguish since anytime you disobeyed a law, which we all do, give a charity $1.50 doesn't matter. Allah knows how much we have, and how much we can afford. He didn't say the amount.
When you read, how do you like to leave the I pay attention? Because also obviously
he doesn't speak out of his own inclination, who
he is being revealed. So I said I saw the chat. I have money slowing up. I don't have money I can smile are surrounded by men. It's not very comfortable for me help people charity with a Nia with the intention of not expecting anything back. But really how they come are not really no not like the water, extinguish fire anytime. Especially no Winter is coming. Those of you who likes to have fire at the house.
When you finish and you want to extinguish the fire, what do you do, I'm not talking about the gas logs, that material fire, you usually pour water on it. We want remember this
extinguish your sins. So this is the second thing third, which I shared with you yesterday and today it is our steps of rescue.
So naturally, as he already said specific prayer in the night. Now in the night, this something really short lived like a loss grace, easy for everybody doesn't have to be a chore I
shudder to lay, after I show
joyfully is in the middle of the night. That's usually after midnight, like one or two o'clock when everybody's asleep. But to start with as a baby steps getting to almost pantalla no one knows we have so many other things to take care of after ocean. If you know you don't get up for 5g, you're not used to it yet. You don't wake up at five, even without an arm or four. After vision. You do your to do to move
and do your thing. Do your wounds.
And gradually you will graduate gradually you'll increase but the nightside these are the two I will say these are the three main elements of this.
As if it was pantalla he decided, you know Think of it this way.
Someone wants to get close to you. What do they do?
They usually ask people who knows you what she likes.
Right? They want to get you a gift. Usually you want to give a gift to someone Don't you say? What does she like what would make her happy?
Right. And even sometimes you say, Please tell me, it really will make me even happier when I give you something you like, right? And what's wrong with the Exalted is telling you and me through his era, Swati salatu salam, three steps, three steps. This is what I like. Imagine this, this is what I like, doing.
Extra, extra fasting Winter is coming in two weeks, the time of change, it becomes a piece of cake. Why?
Because Mogra will become some places will be comfortable for us will become fourth turning right? What's 430 if I have in my office, you know this how many times on this lunch, we don't have time
for learning. And for six.
Take a breakfast at 530. Many of us leave home by 530 do it when you do it in the winter. And it becomes a habit. When someone comes in, it will become easier evening. But think of it this way. This is something he loves.
I want to give to him something he loves not to idle. He loves it. And it protects me as Sam said our charity. Again, 50 cents $1 or $1,000. Whatever it is, I don't have money. I don't work. I don't have the authority to spend the money. Smile in the face. Help people call them Can I come and pick you up during the ride? Somebody don't speak English. Do you want me to translate anything look for sort of a charity, meaning you're giving something weird and you're not getting anything out of it. And you think it may decrease from poetry
would remember the second part, because that's what makes you to extinguish a hobby and had another idea.
And hopefully it is the same number of marriage. It's extinguished the anger from one
panel just by giving be a giver don't say they don't deserve it. You're not giving it to them. Because that's what she's not constantly they don't need to ever give them all the time. They don't do it. It's you're not doing it to them. Remember what we said yesterday, remove people remove people do it on why he loves it, do it. And nights
2468 whatever unlock opens for you. But to make it a habit.
It has to be a habit has to be a habit. Everyone in this room can do it.
I know most of you if not all you can do it.
There is no reason young and old who stay up to two to two or three and 4am studying or two or three four you're waiting for your son to come on door to come. Or if you have a flight at 6am and my three you are and some people say this to me I can't sleep the night I'm traveling. That's why I don't like having an early flights.
You can do it. Ask them what to help you. I need your help me. And I think Rico shakalaka has a valid device showed this with you last night as part of you want to say exactly as it is your walk have been
mayfly long standing in the night for you singing in your words in order to in our be in whatever language you speak. It doesn't matter he also other languages. Do it. Do it because look what he's telling you we didn't get to the tongue guilt. But this is because he asked him about gentlemen. Now he is not entering him gender he's not elevating him.
the mahogany table is not gonna go to gender. I wrote agenda.
So now he's there and then he summarized it very easy. Three things are
right. And the first one was in Islam on my wife Elena, I just don't want to say first one is in Islam Islam here meaning
submission to Allah.
And number two
a surah and he didn't say obligation or not. And the third which I and you'll need most the Jihad and he didn't say a geography Sabina now.
This means a struggle against minors including geography city.
This is an akuna of Volodya the best Jihad Angelina Sophie data, the best. This is another happy to follow Swati song. The best act of jihad if you use this word, the rest. He didn't say you go to a fight and you get killed. No job.
have enough Sophie that you're struggling against your nerves to do what pleases
struggle against your nerves to watch, please watch.
Then he tells him all this, this is why it's ending and you will get the basic monopoly on the control of orders. And he said he held us.
If you want to see Zipit shuttered any other words
don't speak, unless I have to.
This evening, I'd like you and me. And the beautiful question that taught you were the account they can accountable for what we say. Because they always start seeing is like the
it's not a deep, it's not like I am doing something.
And then the answer and the answer in a way. Like in this kind of language, your knee will have Say what?
You don't know this. What's wrong with you? This is how he was telling him to tell him to connetquot Okay, en la mejor model more new meaning you die. And your mother sits in your in her house or wherever she is living, and people come and give her condolences. It's a figure of speech in the Arabic language, meaning Whoa, are you out of God? How come you don't know that?
What else? Look at this. What else will put people there's two navigation here. Their faces or their noses in the Hellfire? What else will put people faces or noses in the Hellfire other than the harvest of their tongue? He didn't say the tongue. He didn't say the speech. Pay attention to this honey. The harvest what is harvest?
What is the word harvest time? What is the word harvest? And the result? What's your talk will bring
what it will bring? What's the result of the words you said hurt people create problems.
Put people very much down. One very recently, I had someone in my office young girl
and you name it of Lytle owners and the reason is bullying and
bullying and so
what is what are you
that's what we're talking about. What is what do
you see things that people don't make fun of joke about either publicly to them in the face or behind their back? Or you don't say a word but your face.
hammers they call it out again in the Quranic language, your eyes roll, your face changes
and you think the person in front of you does not understand
what else we're filming and you can you can you I want you really to think of this honey that's why I put it in an even bigger fonts.
After he told you all the important things of this Diem slam and so on.
He didn't say what will put me in the Hellfire is not praying is not fasting he didn't specify the specifiable speech.
Because the result of if I don't pray, the result of it could be only me could be only me or could be affecting the other but the result of my talk for sure 100% affect others.
There is no doubt because once it comes up you cannot take it back.
And especially when people hear it and
transfer it and add to it. So the mechanics will be
heavy. Second let's go okay and
when you are not rewarding what else which would mean that if you remind yourself of this, there will be you know this stopcock the things that you put it to stop. This heavy to me is what stops me from seeing what I usually want to see stops you because it holds you back. Wait. I don't want to go to hell for you.
I can hold it. I can see
see something better? If you cannot see something better than seat? Don't speak? Yes.
It depends. It depends. If you are following his advice on his auto sensor, the question was when this compliment falls in speech, he followed his advice. And he saw two, seven not happy, what he felt when he learned where he saw a man complimenting praising another man, what did he say to?
You broke his back.
Because it's engraved in, in my heart,
in your heart advocates.
So I have to be very careful. This is how I've seen it with teachers. How a teacher I'm not talking about a teacher, I'm talking about scholars, real ones, how squalor rays are the response.
They do. Started and by Lanza kick out a lot in public. I don't praise you, nobody is worth praising septum Ah,
this is how we should.
So yes, phrases deal. But limited. Limited. And I have to say an end goes through the filter of why I'm saying
and how I'm saying it, this is the filter. This is the filter. You know, for those of you who love coffee, you put the filter, if you still use the old thing, this is the filter? Why?
I'm doing it? Why and how
am I doing it to please Allah?
Can I pay someone to please a lot?
Yes, yes. someone looks at you and tells you, you know what? I will feed you.
I don't think a lot will forgive me. You don't know what I did.
And she goes on and on and tells you what you do. Every one is because of the other majors. Here you come.
And you say, You know what?
You're talking about? You're feeling bad about it. That's good.
You're pleasing. Why?
Because if you don't praise what will happen?
What will happen? They will completely dump everything that we keep doing. So while you are doing it. Are you expecting anything?
And how? Don't overdo it? Just, you know? Maybe Why weren't you It was beautiful. We allow make for a sick or these are phrases. I don't want to say you know what? I have never seen someone does as good as you.
It's too much. Too much.
Why don't see us what why not see me? Why are you weren't you? How am I sold you this?
Use the words on ones on an acid. Second, Halle. Second, honey.
Now you stopped. You might not have had a stocking of I think I have it in your hand.
What are you struggling with?
This is related to the heart. That's why I chose this, although this is not very strong. And so
the meaning of
the email the faith of the servant of the abdomen, this the man the faith will not be rectified or straight progressed, unless his heart or her heart is rectified straight pure. What we are talking about is
what is this has to do with talk. Look at this. What are you struggling with one
and the heart, her heart or his heart will not be straight? Unless the tongue is a street.
Unless the tongue is straight, remember what you shared with us the linear between the softer drive and the hard drive. Look at it this way.
the heart and the tongue.
Imagine the heart and the tongue. If this is not correct, this is not correct. This is not correct. And the opposite is true.
My faith is not correct or weak. My heart is diseased. My tongue absolutely is diseased.
My faith is strong. My mood My heart is clearly
struggling to keep it clean my tongue
stockings deparment heaviness,
straight, beneficial. Let it to be a promise and adapt
fast law that
You're making every time I speak will bring what you bring back to the Muslims or non Muslims. Most of us live with non Muslims or we are interacting with non Muslims most of us that's the same thing
that's same thing take the opportunity especially when you if you have people on your coworkers you have a relationship with them take the opportunity as much as you can to bring higher in your speech don't go with the flow
if whatever they say you go with them on the contrary let them go with your
let them go with your view Why not?
Why not? Me
a wise teaching me
and he wants this from me. And I follow your week just because everybody
gets my phone. Why?
On the contrary, we do every morning if you are a morning person every morning wherever you work, if you work with us It doesn't matter.
When you enter your module
everything everything I say with a student with a teacher with a co worker with a person I am shopping when you open a shopping spree
he can people happy not because you're praising them the way you speak
like the title of my talk should be name yours don't
give a name to your tongue and say it
I had a very spell I learned from it a lot and that's why I'm sharing it with you a group of young boys
who I teach them how to comprehend
I was asking them this question name your own for me
give a name to a
common answer was Michael
you know what he called his room
The room was that
literally I was speechless. I was like I'm gonna name that I got to name it. It Why did he say this?
Didn't make it make it up? I'm this child is in a hip? It's probably he does his hips in the room.
Your Name your tongue?
Am I? I'm seeing this. Do you know what because we really need to change and the change we have to make it easy for ourselves simple basics that need to change so that you're studying those people you might know
that phrase is not going to be correct unless the heart is correct. And the heart will not be perfect. Unless the tongue is correct.
And I'm sharing with you some of the righteous people what they said about their tongue.
what they said about the
same enter with visiting St. Don't you mean that company can imagine? You're
literally what did they say? How do they speak? What did they eat how they ate
so he entered and say no, I'm also saying that overcook only morning is
so obviously visit without giving him I notice. I say no more says man. It's the Arabic figure of speech about what?
What What is this? Why you're holding your tongue. Say now awesome.
as severe the truth, what comes out of his mouth? I look what he said, how the lady already know how to do. This is the thing that favored me. This is the thing that will take me down if you want to translate it in our current language. I'll read an email and say no.
You will meet our tongue.
So have a blog episode. After Episode One of the Sahaba as they call them, is for
meaningful Sahaba Her name is Abdullah and they were what are whatsoever. One of them. And he said Why? While there is nothing more in need of jail than white.
Why? Nothing? Why are these giant government research eating
me saying there isn't
something needs to be deemed more than my job. And then he talks this. He says the answer or failing governor, what's potential? Islam probably in tandem, you're
talking to a son. He
thinks it's fun. Imagine this, don't say good, you will be successful. Stay away from evil wasco don't speak evil, you will be safe. Before you won't regret it.
When we will use one, we will regret it.
The critical care one.
So watch what she was talk while which was you speak. It's very hard these days on us. One knows about the youth. Because it is a culture of talk.
It's a culture of talk.
And talk again, by the time I talk about social media, when you post you're talking.
When you post you just set a statement.
And to me, it's more dangerous than speaking to a group of people. Why is that? Because when I speak to, let's say, 50 a woman versus I post and I have that 1000 followers.
I gotta be careful what I'm putting.
I better be careful what I am putting.
That's why I have to be very careful. Very careful about it.
About the tongue.
One of the Hadith that psalms scholars regarded as one of the most heavy in this Deen, this hadith is actually totally
And first need staminal Taku melayani which most of you probably know,
one of the signs that your Islam screwed. House is excellent actually.
Stay away from things that is not related to
house nice. Now Meanwhile, one of the signs of your excellent Islam. Perfect Islam wholesome, use the watch for some beauty,
perfection excellence. You stay away from things that is not related to you. Why I'm saying this? Because number one disease of the tongue.
What do you think it is?
talking about things not related to me.
Number one disease, there is a whole chapter in the books of test here it's called diseases of the tongue is about one disease I've shared with you one by one. But this is usually number one I've ever seen, because I think at least like to die. And if I must have data will make us meet again, then maybe we'll go to the same number one at canonical melayani. Speaking about things not related to me,
not related to me.
comment about somebody Why was she stalled for short, she gained weight, she lost weight, why?
It's not my business.
So I can get beaten academically. But
if you've just put I always say this was pumped out and make me number one before you practice this further, if I record myself, the whole day the
whole day, leave it there for recording. And then you listen to what you have said. What percentage is is not related to me what I said what percentage from what we speak natural, normal in our gatherings. And on the phone. When we talk with people, family, friends, how many of it what's the percentage of it is not related to us. It's not gonna it's not a it's not an important for me.
70 to 80%
unless you are in a class of Quran, you don't want to speak most of it. Think of this think when you go in a gathering and a gathering and then you sit next to someone. Where's the speeches going to be about?
That's your number one. I'll give you the 12 the 41 number two, and this especially for the youth
follow language and fashion as
they call it. And why did I say that? It was not because they always is not good. It's the culture they are living in.
It's becoming a normal one.
You know, like when I was growing up these words, we don't number one, we don't hear it. I'm talking about in school. And number two for here. That's what we do. So no lectures. Are you with me? Or have you go to schools now?
So we have
some words to talk about home.
That's a third disease talk about from
you one week, and you saw something in TV. The night before that something was full of how long I was weak. Why do I want to go the morning and talk about
oh, I watch this movie. And then you go on. Oh, I saw the episode number whatever. Why?
Talk about how
aluminum trays. How things.
Again, this may look like old fashioned. This may look like from the previous century. This is not flash and this is my Nene and yours. This is with a wasp pantalla talk to you. I'm most of regardless of the age, regardless of the century,
right? This is what I always tell people identify yourself as a Muslim. As no matter where you come from, doesn't matter where you were born. Doesn't matter. America boxtop Studio doesn't matter.
We all are Muslims. Number one, we are Muslims. I identify myself as Muslim. And I need to be up to what I identify myself.
So number one, speak in matters not related to assemble. And we're to talk about how number three, founder number four, you're too much joking.
Too much joking. And pay attention. I said too much joking. I didn't say joking. Because I was swatting saddam. saddam did joke. He did.
He did. There's two things.
Two things always number one, it was not excessive.
And number two, it was
first true. And actually so they said he actually joked with children and older ladies.
Honestly, and there's I mean, if we had more time I would have given you the stories. I'm one of them. You probably you know, if you don't know you will love this is when a young lady Kingston.
And he said, you're not going to get a job.
She was actually a slave of Serbia. She went back to the Sahaba crying she said, imagine somebody said I'm not going to go through gender crying. And I think it was really similar is what he says you
should this is crying. The slave is crying why she's gonna go to Jamaica, he said call her.
So she called he called she called. And he said, Yeah, because you will not enter judgment this age you will enter.
And then he recited the I
see you are smiling. Right? That's a joke. That's true. And what a joke.
I wish he said this to me.
Right? Even at that time, you're entering Gemini and not as an old lady, but she didn't get it.
So he did.
Too much joking. Too much joking. Why too much joking, is a disease of the tongue. Because it's really a sequence of it. Lying to lead to line because now people are laughing and I feel good. So now I'm going to be more
doing things more doing the same thing. So I need to start
thinking of where is the joke coming from? So I start lying, exaggerating, putting people down, backbiting, sort of when people stand on stages, right and make fun of some
as one understand your concern, even if that person is foreign Islamic concept, period.
to watch joking next. mocking people making fun of people.
It's a disease of the tongue mocking people
seven, not keeping secrets.
Absolutely six, not keeping secret.
So when someone come and tell you don't say
How many of us No, see,
I always know people if someone tells you don't say this, if I tell somebody don't say this, that means God said
someone comes and tells you, you know what, I'm confining this to you, you know, I need you to help me. Give me an advice. Do this. You think this is something good? What do you think I should do?
You're going to talk about
disease of the tongue.
Number seven, the big one. backlight.
This by itself would be the old retreat. No, it needed. I really mean it. It's,
you know why it's painful? That's because it is home. Of course it is. But because we don't see it as how long
and I always say this to people, if I ask someone. If I asked someone do you fast in my mind, they get so offended
and you want to die faster? No, of course I fast. I wouldn't do you think I am? Right?
But that same person backbite and if you tell him your lack of lighting, Oh, yes. Okay.
It's a major, it's in the
And the story that comes usually with their backbiting just to quote
or sorry is not for sale was futile.
So after they betted the disease and then the season he was walking back into Sahaba said something negative about him is true. It's true.
But it's it's was backbiting he stopped
he looked and there was an ended noon
looked at them and says go and eat for him.
They said the artist
And he said you just did it.
Tom was he how he taught them? You just did? Because I was the one
Do you want to eat the flesh of your brother? A dead brother that because then is really absolutely unacceptable to the laughs rejected.
I mean living is one one thing with a dead person back biting
back by number eight comes usually with its end Malema
awesome. And he transferred. Did you hear a deal? No.
They tell you Did you see what you would always want to hide? What she posted on her Instagram? Mima
Nima and Nancy, Michelle been a massive this
amazing, amazing meaning his face, make signs in his face to walk people rushing in when he walks away.
Why it was at this panel? Because Marina to transfer
labor backbiting I say this to something negative about someone that's backbiting right but you go you heard it from me and you go and say to someone and you're saying to someone and you say to someone the same person, and I go and I say to you and I say to you and I say you must share him with me. I walk and I speak about people
number nine. The column can only be surname, the person who has two faces,
two tongues in front of you, they praise you
and behind you
a lot on us.
Live that you don't know
this as a reminder to everybody. Whenever you do this, meaning you pray someone in the face and then you back like them behind your face one day or one will expose.
I can't tell you how many times I've seen this
and that person who you praised in their faces and you talk negative backbiting and behind their face so I'm not talking about once this is becomes a habit on your wall to show that person what you said.
These are major diseases of the tongue
Number 10, which to me is
epidemic these days
epidemic and endemic, if you want to use the
talking, folks are giving wrong information about the dean.
This is specifically what the same book I am sharing this information for me was written about 900 years ago
or 800 years ago.
Talking, not true, giving false information about the D.
Do this don't do that it's wrong, it's okay. What's wrong don't do cannot do.
And you have no information.
So you talk or you use wrong way of explaining the thing, or talking about the gene.
That's why you have to be very careful. When you say this is
what do you say this is the safest way is stay away from that, like, I don't have the information, I have the knowledge.
And that's why you see a lot of the scholars when they speak.
No one knows this. Last one, sometimes you see it, when people specifically, intentionally use difficult words, to show that they are sophisticated.
recording the audio.
They specifically when they sit in public, or they speak in public use words. So people say wow,
to basically show off,
as a disease, because that comes from arrogance
comes from elements. Sometimes you don't find the right word. So you say you know what, I think I need some training. Let me read more. Let me look at the dictionary. That's a different story. versus some people, that's what they want. So people can listen to the sophisticated word, word you've never heard. There's much easier, simpler words to use. Maybe you don't see too much between the woman.
One, sometimes even you see them. It's not a sign that you know.
Why? Because if people don't understand what you're saying, What's the point of what is the point as as see the same sort of associating it, how to
speak to people in the way they understand.
Like if you want to talk to your child,
you talk to a 10 year old like you're talking to 20 year old, you're, you're delivering the same message.
You speak I have two patients, one is a physician and the other one is not a physician, do I speak to them the same way?
So why do I want to do this? I can remember anything comes out from the tongue, put it in this filter. Why
is this is the best way? Why is this is the best way is not easy? Easy, very easy.
Very easy. So
that almost panned out
to Palawan. Let me just share with you this a statement from saying that Oh, man, look, man, he said he was asked what made you wise person,
man or woman hypnotic, rather not? rather not? What made you wise first?
he called it the wise. He said to these
two things, you know, the answer is short to the point. He said, that is
I don't ask about something I have enough of
and I do not talk about something that's related to me.
I don't ask about things. I have enough. I have a house. Why do I ask my friend? Where are you work? How big is your house? I have enough.
And I do not talk about something not related to me. And this is a story you read it in many of the books of test here. They say he lived at the same time of Satan.
So he was with him in the same thing with that what did he do? What was his job? He made onwards. Right? So he was saying that I was with him in a shop in center of Madrid he loved what he was doing.
And he was doing basically a shield. signal on inhale remember this because this is your enemy was dying to know
Why is he doing this?
He said that.
He said, my wisdom held me back. I didn't ask. Immediately once I finished, he stood up and looked at him and says nearby
the world beautiful shield is this for the wall, the answer key
and then he sets a little one. That's what we need to know. He said a sort of awkward, what are your value? He said, staying quiet and silent is wisdom. Very few people do it.
staying quiet, silent is wisdom. Very few people do more practice.
poison on the heart probably will be very surprised
because it is
vanishing the lighting
and it is on the restrained unrestrained glance seeing on the wrist string.
It's a disease of the
heart. I it will lead them to it will lead to disease which will make the heart sick. It will make the heart sick, unrestrained, yes. are restrained looking. What does that mean?
What does that mean?
What did the last time taught me and you in a clear?
Very clear. No, it does not. It does not.
does not have two meanings.
And he specifies the man and a woman.
Love or your kids?
All warming up sorry. Say to the believing men It started with them and lower. Your days you didn't say don't do it for the blind. Men look up sorry, scholars conversate. Why must Professor demeanor bloody
manly? He said from meaning. You need to look
but not always. And not repeatedly. It's from some. And then the next if
saying you want equality, right?
Why feminism? Here you
your case. There is three things you No worries.
No worries, again is the what we all know, when I am talking to the opposite gender.
there's another level of the gaze
or access of look, looking at home,
I can't tell you what it does to
looking at home, meaning looking at her. Unfortunately, again, the time and the day we live in wherever you are.
Looking at the picture, looking at your movie, looking at a magazine, looking at an ad. You're studying, you're checking your email, the pictures comes up.
I have no control anymore. I haven't I still have one control.
And what is it that
I can do that. I can control my email, pop ups. ads comes in front of me I can't whatever I do one or two blocks still comes. I can lower my keys, lower your days for another day. And why
and why it is a disease. It will make my heart sick. This is what I want to all of us to learn and think and comprehend. The look is related to the heart. That's the first statement. first principle you need to learn and practice and that's what makes it easy. That when I look at home, when I look with an intention, not pleasing to Allah, my heart is getting sick.
It's like look at it this way. And we all do this at home but when someone has a flu, you're gone.
One actually the person has a fruit says you know what? I'm sick. I don't want to give a T that one word.
And you say you know what? I get the flu. When I get
The flu I get a very bad flu is it okay if I don't help you?
Why not on my heart
What do you put the mask?
People who go to hygiene or they put the mask where is the mask of the heart
number one why looking at how will make my heart sick number one
are sweating santosa and I'm sending this heavy
small miss having obese
biggies The look is a poison arrow option for a
look in here they look is looking at how long is a poison and a poison with arrow an arrow with poisons a poison
from the base sending it my way. Imagine what does it do if it goes to the heart?
So what do I do? He gave me
he teaches me what to do. He said
who's who ever lower the gigs? What will happen lower than this for Allah this
number of days for
your near your house. Remember? For next what we are learning in everything.
Number the geese for Allah? This is what's going to happen. Oh, let's head out and as you do
he will he or she will find sweetness in their hearts to living
just by lowering your gaze. So can we
just like no worries?
This is not my words. You're micrometers wise. So number one sound was young you please poison arrow off obese when I look at how wrong number two.
As I am looking at
the door of the heart of this to say one yet we'll
show you one interview with its shape on enter with it to the heart.
Three, which is very true. Usually, when you keep looking at something, it will keep your heart busy with it.
Now I'll give you an example. And you're hearing about this is not pornography.
Right? Everyone is talking about
because it is becoming a huge issue
May Allah protect all of us, especially the youth. This is one of the problems of the internet.
Right? Why it is why it is addictive?
Have you ever read the psychology of it? Because the pictures engraved in the heart.
And these pictures keep in the mind of that person.
And he or she keeps wanting more. So addiction is an addiction.
That's that's addiction by the look.
Because it will distract the heart.
Anything I look at how long goes so quickly to my heart. Another example maybe more or less dramatic. You went to a wedding the night before.
Okay. And some people I'm not saying they are waiting for I believe, but winning beautiful. And you looked at one lady, she's really dressed Beautiful. Beautiful.
Isn't this really in your heart?
And you will remember tomorrow on a single term. Let's say she's amazing. And the contrary, she was really beautiful hijabi way to say Allah, what is the problem? Everything is pleasing from what
sticks in my heart. If I keep looking you know the first time but if I keep looking and then when my heart remember my heart is a container that is limited to what I can put in the heart. Every time I put something in the heart. Allah is being moved away.
There's no space.
So number three.
Well, hon, I'm gonna read this because it's very nice.
Doctors of the heart, not cardiologist, doctors of the spiritual heart center
back in the late 90s
A couple months ago,
he said between the eye and the heart, there's a connection, there's a way to
look at this at the heart
of that horrible officer,
if the eye becomes corrupted,
if the oil become corrupted how that I get corrupted by looking at how and when the eye gets corrupted, the heart gets corrupted.
Now, the next one, what I want to share with you even more was all I can was Villa, the hardware becomes like a trash can.
which is filled with impurities and fiddled with
you can this
when the heart becomes trashcan filled with filth, it does not will not be appropriate to be with a level of insight.
For the secondary, a secondary value for the
if the heart is full of harm, is not going to be appropriate for a watch a video, look at this, you when
someone invites you to their own, you want choice, then you will find a lot of things that you are not comfortable. Doesn't matter what it is, you're not comfortable. What do you do next?
You're not gonna,
you're not gonna see anything. I'm not comfortable in this house.
Why? Because the house has things, especially if your heart is pure, there's things that will affect you. And then I don't want to be any more in this house. This is what this means. The heart we agreed on this in the morning, the heart is a place Allah created to know Him. And He resides here. If I'm going to put a shelf, how long it's not appropriate for law to be viewed
as the fourth reason, look at the next one.
Under stringed grace, grants, looking at things without restrictions, because sometimes there's things in front of my eyes. Like I am in the checking line to check out my groceries, and I just looked at I see this magazine, and you know what's on the pictures of magazine? I couldn't do it intentionally. That's not what I'm talking. What I'm talking about is when I keep looking.
unrestrained looking or grants.
When in golf will engulf the heart with darkness
will engulf the heart with darkness. And the opposite what I want you to learn, well, how do we
lower your gaze? Lower your gaze for Allah will engulf your heart with light moving.
In one thing when my heart is in golf with no you know what will happen? Are seafoam sued as far as
I'm not gonna argue about what I see how long. I know, this is how when I see this is not pleasing to Allah. I know it's not pleasing to Allah. I'm not saying you will not do it. But I'm not gonna argue what's wrong with it. I will say, I know I was not pleased with it make me stronger.
As a result of what lupus
It is not hard. It's just strange, especially with a Muslim, specially with Muslim men. I mean, maybe when you're dealing with non Muslim men, that's going to be a little bit challenging because they don't know because they think you're depressed.
Yeah, because there's no eye contact. Unfortunately, this is this is this.
day and age were linear. And one of the one of the signs of depression is that you don't look eye to eye with the person. I'm talking about what Muslim man? Now what are your keys? Why do you have to look into
And this is I said this many times, Panama. Somebody sent it to me.
It was an interview between and the presenter was a woman. And this was a plyusnin You can find she was not wearing hijab, but she was wearing
and he was a man. All they sent me only the last I don't know what they were talking about. This is the question. She said.
She said I have to say this. I'm on the internet in public, but I'm going to say he said say she said
The last 45 minutes you did not look at me.
And I keep looking at you. Why is that?
She doesn't think of
look what he answered. I love the answer.
He said, Listen, I want watch me to know more of my gains. And he asked you to lower your gaze. I didn't want me to do. I cannot judge you.
I don't know.
I don't because I'm sure she is. She would not have asked this question. It was a novelty. What's an Arabic t? As an English? But look at his answer of
45 minutes you're in public on T.
Lamar your case, and I saw the part where he was answering absolutely over the skis. knocking it
now lowering the games doesn't mean your mind will know why. And I will never forget this one of my friends. First time I see her father.
And we went over in Islam Chicago.
She was introducing me to her father
was an old man. That's my I thought he was playing.
Why I thought it was
and I knew no way you can be blind because I know that position Ian's
fairly successful men.
This was the first time I paid attention to what lowered the gaze me.
So now more of the game is so you are in a discussion with Muslim men? Nobody argues they don't know what they know. It doesn't matter. Same thing when a Muslim man wants to shake your hand.
Don't be shy. The Muslim man knows it. If you get offended, I'm sorry. It's the problem with a non Muslims is you have to explain I have to explain it to the man. The Muslim man
should know it right away.
This is very common. Tell me if this is what also the Pakistani culture, the Arabic culture. Everyone knows when the woman does that. Or the man does. That means they do not shake hands. It's like a weak Mikey, they don't like it. It's not that you should but this is how you're saying you have to say a word. Just say this. I don't know the other cultures when they
lower their gaze, lower lowering the gaze.
And I'm going to end up with this because I want us to have 10 minutes or they could be for a righteous man once said
have a solid
manakamana law hero which is similar. Whoever, in riches, his outward behavior in riches is outward behavior by following the
outward behavior, not only the dress, he said behavior
and in his inward with the watchfulness of
one little movie.
You are watching through your heart watching not people,
not people what they are doing what they are saying, your watch for the top one is looking at you. So two things externally. You are as much as you can follow me this
internally as much as you can. reminding yourself not others if you want to do yourself a wise watching. Third, we'll hop over
and lower or avert his gaze away from
what will happen.
And fourth, actually there's a fourth
one. So one is what?
And he avoided anything that is doubtful. Anything.
That's a doubt. I'm not talking about food. You
haven't done that throughout well over 100 food handling.
Everything dumped. Everything dealt what I'm reading is adult. What I'm hearing is adult
so forcings externalizing behavior.
Internally, the hardest.
Keep rewinding your heart was watching it. 30 lower the gaze force stay away from the doubtful what would happen?
his inner sight they call Chiasson. his inner sight. We never be
you know what's in our sight.
When you look at someone and say, no way she will be my friend. People look at you and say, What did you see from her? You just met.
You don't say anything.
And then they later weeks later years later I want
to show you
when it this is how they seemed because you're lowering your leads
to you're not seeing fully what we put inside in your heart. So you will start seeing with your heart.
It will protect you. Why not?
Practice it individually. Don't worry about what other people do. Or call it your multi Amati find
each one will have I say this to myself for appointment with Allah.
Each one private,
one to one interview with a lot. That's what he said his word
for everyone. We've come everyone
already actually come to him. Your material.
Doesn't matter what they do. When they say what they think of me.
Now or your kidneys, protect your heart. It's an L goes in low in the heart lowering your gaze, practice it will lie It is not difficult. It is not difficult whatsoever becomes a habit actually becomes a habit natural.
peoples have course will make fun of you. Someone will say what is this? This this usual? I think people make fun of you, even if you're disobeying doesn't matter.
Isn't isn't that true? Right? So let them make fun of me at least I'm obeying the law. So at least I guarantee my opinion. So please do that. Two things, two things. Watch your tongue and watch your eyes,
your eyes for in the 50s in the filter because these are the filters of your heart.
These are the channels to your tongue and the eye. The more these are restrained This is much easier. The more these unrestrained This is very difficult. When it gets to the heart is much harder.
Does that mean one way
or the other again, stuffing cover to think so long as
it was an interesting feel for the foam.