Haifaa Younis – Prophet Muhammad’s Family & The Importance of Gratitude Islamic Teachings

Haifaa Younis
AI: Summary © The challenges faced by women in California, including lack of alcoholism and social interaction, are discussed as challenges for all women. They emphasize the importance of following guidance and being flexible in their approach, avoiding hot and humidityate temperatures, and privacy in workplace. The speakers also emphasize the need for diversity in healthcare careers and a better healthcare system for all people, as well as the importance of women in the healthcare industry and a shift in the healthcare system. The current crisis has impacted the healthcare sector and the future is in a cyclical downturn, but there is a need for a better healthcare system for all people and a better healthcare system for women.
AI: Transcript ©
00:00:00 --> 00:00:36

Serbian. Salam Alikum Smilla Al hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah while early he also be the woman who Allah La Molina, Mayan fauna. One foreigner be ma Lim tena Anika Simeon would you dua la manera will you be coming Emily Amphawa Calbee Lakeisha when I've seen latestbuy Wadhwa in LA yusmeiro Bonilla to Sao Paulo banaba is Herdade tena well Hublin AMOLED Ankara Marina kantele Wahab, Robbie Shockley Sodre us Sully, Emery WashU loc the Tamil Lissoni of PAHO Kohli Salam Alikum. So number one, before I forget, which I just did to myself, everyone's phone,

00:00:37 --> 00:00:59

at least on silence, and it is live streamed. So if we cannot record here also, it's already live streamed. That's why I requested everyone. Remove everything you're drinking, what is going to happen in 45 minutes if you did drink anything, nothing that Telone eating so everyone, please, I really mean it.

00:01:00 --> 00:01:12

It's, it's not only for me, but also for you. You're not going to learn. Anyhow, I'm going to coat it up a verse from the Quran, and you're eating and drinking Zama here, and it's a hospitality, but

00:01:13 --> 00:01:44

it's just something I learned from my teachers, especially teachers of Ischia. It's amazing. What it does to the heart. It's a beautiful mosque. I remember I was here, when were we here? For definitely before to COVID was I was I enjoyed studying. Yeah, many years ago. And I remember and this is the reason I said Yes, right away because it was beautiful and still beautiful. The only reason I said yes, when they reached out to me, I was like, Oh, this beautiful masjid, I'm going And FYI, you know what I did?

00:01:45 --> 00:01:52

But to humbler I kept saying Allah subhanaw taala will reward me out of BME. So again, everyone has settled phones are off

00:01:53 --> 00:02:05

no phone no drink no whatever colorblind. I mean, and I like if people are bringing their notes. So I was asked to talk about profit family nonprofit household

00:02:07 --> 00:02:11

is that what he wanted me to talk about? Since we are all woman this is beautiful.

00:02:12 --> 00:02:15

So let's let's pick up how many youth we have here.

00:02:16 --> 00:02:21

What is rally kusina? What is the how many of you have tick tock?

00:02:23 --> 00:02:24

Of course.

00:02:25 --> 00:02:28

Bri bride. That's okay. It's not a bad

00:02:29 --> 00:02:36

thing. It depends what you see in it. Play what is the most challenging thing for a youth growing up in LA

00:02:40 --> 00:02:43

in decency, I love that.

00:02:45 --> 00:03:17

Yeah, what I what I am seeing in your right it's very different from other places of the country. Let's put it this way. And we're talking about back home on Maccha talking about the states one of the challenges you probably don't feel it because you live here. Some of you probably were born and raised here or been here for 2030 years. One of the issues here is plenty of blessings in this in this state you don't feel it you know what is the biggest blessing?

00:03:18 --> 00:03:19


00:03:20 --> 00:03:20

The weather

00:03:22 --> 00:03:27

that's why it's very expensive. Well what does the weather has to do with this everything?

00:03:29 --> 00:03:29

Say that again?

00:03:31 --> 00:03:36

Less clothing. Well everybody else if you come to St. Louis in August it's 100 degree

00:03:37 --> 00:03:43

What does what the weather doesn't this does to the Muslims before anybody else. Don't you think we are immune by the way?

00:03:44 --> 00:03:45

Don't you think you are immune?

00:03:47 --> 00:03:54

or not you? But don't you think because we are Muslim just because we are Muslim? When Allah subhanaw taala give us comfort?

00:03:56 --> 00:03:57

It's a test.

00:03:58 --> 00:04:10

So when you have everything you want, for example, this beautiful Masjid beautiful Subhanallah right. And then you have a place number one is not the Masjid. You have a masjid but they allow you to come

00:04:11 --> 00:04:31

as woman. Let alone they gave you them this I'm assuming this is the main Musala Am I right? Okay. So they gave you the main Masana and it's all for us. And it's beautiful. Comfortable. Temperature wise. The Where do you are sitting? This cheers you can all these are NEMA.

00:04:33 --> 00:04:35

So when I have this 24/7

00:04:36 --> 00:04:48

The weather is 24/7 is beautiful. I mean it's two weeks got hot. Everybody's complaining on about LA but we were almost like it came to 91

00:04:51 --> 00:04:57

what's happens is the more near me you have the more blessing you have, the more spoiled you get.

00:04:58 --> 00:04:59

And the more entitled

00:05:00 --> 00:05:00

You become

00:05:03 --> 00:05:07

an NEC that doesn't go your way. You start complaining.

00:05:08 --> 00:05:11

And the more you complain now connect with Allah subhanaw taala.

00:05:12 --> 00:05:20

The more you complain, actually complain and this is for the USA and for everybody else complain equal what?

00:05:23 --> 00:05:26

Absolutely. Lack of gratefulness

00:05:28 --> 00:05:31

when I complain, literally equal,

00:05:32 --> 00:05:40

lack of gratefulness let alone what I don't really have any substance to complain about.

00:05:41 --> 00:05:44

Somebody may Allah protect you all someone has cancer.

00:05:45 --> 00:05:46

And they complain.

00:05:48 --> 00:05:55

You can look at it and says they have cancer, it's a death penalty. They are in pain. They're taking chemo

00:05:57 --> 00:06:03

but when I complain because the temperature is 90 instead of 75

00:06:05 --> 00:06:11

or the temperature became 48 instead of 75. I have a huge problem.

00:06:13 --> 00:06:15

And I'm talking again, us Muslims.

00:06:16 --> 00:06:22

So one of the issues or the challenges I am seeing here in California is because of the comfort zone.

00:06:23 --> 00:06:48

It's very comfortable, everything is available. Huge is big. You have the beauty around you you want to go to the beach. I don't know about here but there you drive 20 minutes, you want to go for hiking another 20 minutes. I always liked since I was like why does people want to go out for a vacation, what's vacation going to give you other than you probably go and see a family. But what vacation other places will give you this is all in Yemma

00:06:49 --> 00:07:33

plus, you probably also don't know this or you know it but you don't know the value because again you live here is the number of massages here. One close to the other. All are amazing, amazing, ORAC. Literally this morning, I was like do I go to this one or two? That one? Because all of them reads amazing. Again, you don't know the value of that? Because you're used to it. Like one of my friends I just recorded one of them. One of the moms and I sent it to her and she said what is that? People are in these massages have PhD they Imams as pH I was like no this is the norm. This is the norm

00:07:34 --> 00:07:39

so the more I get all this the more spoiled rotten I am

00:07:40 --> 00:07:46

the less grateful I am and what will happen this is what I'm coming

00:07:48 --> 00:07:54

it's now connected with the words of Allah subhanaw taala any Have you bought in this room? Anybody have memorized Quran in this room?

00:07:56 --> 00:08:09

No, I'm talking about how I feel like somebody who knows Quran very well. May Allah make. I mean nothing impossible for Allah He can give me a temperature 75 The whole year he can make me memorize Quran

00:08:10 --> 00:08:11

memorize this one.

00:08:13 --> 00:08:18

Just order to Brahim de Shakur to lazy then

00:08:19 --> 00:08:32

this one you all know it. If you are grateful I'll give you more and I'm not worried about this. And I worry about part two because it's the same worse. Let me show cartoon if you're grateful I'll give you more what happens if I'm not

00:08:34 --> 00:08:48

and no one thinks of that will incur for two Nevada be Leisha deed and if you are ungrateful, my punishment and he said severe. Now who's talking

00:08:49 --> 00:09:08

Allah it's not you and me and asked like Be careful you don't you haven't seen me when I'm upset. You know we say this. This is you and me. Whatever I can do is you can do it too. But when my and your creator the cover utilizes the wall strong the wall might have order and mocked

00:09:09 --> 00:09:26

and he says My punishment is severe. What should this do to your heart? Talk about the hearts now. What should this when you read this verse? Do to your heart first thing. There's so many things, but number 1am I that person?

00:09:28 --> 00:09:29

Am I that person?

00:09:30 --> 00:09:32

That I'm ungrateful.

00:09:33 --> 00:09:40

Who can in this room and the camera is not new. The camera is on me. So it's okay. Tell me

00:09:41 --> 00:09:47

or say it and Allah knows. You know what? I am ungrateful. Show me hands.

00:09:51 --> 00:09:54

Everybody should raise your hand if you have not complained.

00:09:56 --> 00:09:59

I'm sure everybody complained for something today.

00:10:00 --> 00:10:01

And we have a roof

00:10:03 --> 00:10:12

and we have food. And we are healthy. And we can come and we have massages. We can practice our deen. Right. And we are safe

00:10:14 --> 00:10:28

as a Roswaal you saw to sinner, when also Maha Amin and he said a bit Wi Fi but any M lewco to me can nama who use a cloud dunya also about to wake up in the morning you will listen to this

00:10:29 --> 00:10:38

and let's not worry you will listen to this whomsoever woke up in the morning. And we all did because we're here

00:10:39 --> 00:10:40

three things he said.

00:10:41 --> 00:10:46

What often are actually first he said our minimum fee service safe

00:10:47 --> 00:10:51

no bombs on my head. No, I'm putting a gun on me from doula.

00:10:53 --> 00:11:01

I mean, an fucile be more Alpha fee Peabody healthy. In his body. I can walk I can talk I can come.

00:11:02 --> 00:11:07

You can pour to me has enough food for one day.

00:11:09 --> 00:11:24

Let's open our fridges in our freezers. What did he see? So all of us in this room? Have this? Anybody who doesn't have this? I doubt it. I just saw a homeless and I was like, Okay, welcome to LA.

00:11:25 --> 00:11:31

Right. We're not. He said, If you have these three, cat No, Ma, he's a cloud.

00:11:32 --> 00:11:36

As if all dunya all this life was given to him.

00:11:38 --> 00:11:45

And every woman in this room. Myself is number one. We are under this category. I have all done you.

00:11:47 --> 00:11:48

I have all dunya

00:11:50 --> 00:11:51

what are we complaining about?

00:11:53 --> 00:12:13

What does the youth complain about? And I'm going to take every age don't you think I'm coming for you only it's every What do you complain about? What does my nieces and nephews complain about? Big deal. disaster and of the world? What is it? Honestly, we need to talk to them. They're very serious about what is it?

00:12:14 --> 00:12:20

She's 1311 12 or 13 and the parents are a

00:12:21 --> 00:12:23

little bit strict.

00:12:24 --> 00:12:26

They have not given her a phone yet.

00:12:29 --> 00:12:30


00:12:32 --> 00:12:40

am I right? Am I right? One of the disasters one of the things wherever I go is like can you please talk to them? I was like what is it?

00:12:41 --> 00:12:59

And why don't I have a phone I was like why do you need a phone right teach me I mean when I was your age there was nothing called Phone period so I didn't even have to struggle. But why do you need to have a phone I still yet waiting for a reason

00:13:02 --> 00:13:09

let's use second complaint she has 400 Now you have the form what is the complaint?

00:13:13 --> 00:13:14

What is the complaint?

00:13:15 --> 00:13:16

I want to hear it from the youth

00:13:18 --> 00:13:19

on have internet

00:13:21 --> 00:13:24

or don't have data exactly your data as we call it

00:13:25 --> 00:13:27

will be v d

00:13:28 --> 00:13:31

v now why do you need the data

00:13:36 --> 00:13:48

all my friends has so move this come to the dose in college. In college humbler healthy parents are paying for that college most of

00:13:49 --> 00:13:51

what are they complaining about?

00:13:54 --> 00:13:55

Say that again.

00:13:56 --> 00:14:04

No, no, no they pass because everybody in college has to have enough to know we're done with them. We're done with intimate we have whatever the ages are.

00:14:07 --> 00:14:09

Called now they have a car but something new.

00:14:11 --> 00:14:14

The car is 2000 then 14 What a huge problem.

00:14:16 --> 00:14:18

And it's not electric car.

00:14:21 --> 00:14:24

On how my room I have to share it with our roommate

00:14:27 --> 00:14:29

and add

00:14:30 --> 00:14:32

Okay, let's come to the marriage woman.

00:14:35 --> 00:14:36

Now, now that almost silent.

00:14:39 --> 00:14:42

If you are married, you're complaining about marriage.

00:14:43 --> 00:14:51

If you have children, you complain about the children. If you have no children, you're complaining about the husband. If you are not married, you're complaining Why I'm not married.

00:14:53 --> 00:14:59

If you're in college, you're complaining about college. If you didn't get accepted in college you're complaining about I didn't get college

00:15:00 --> 00:15:04

If you don't have a post graduate grade or a degree you're

00:15:06 --> 00:15:15

you know what sometimes I say like when I'm an alone I want you all to feel this. I was like Chapin I'm not Allah and none of us but I'm just thinking

00:15:16 --> 00:15:22

any fun lines looking good to me? You know what he will say to me? What else I do too.

00:15:23 --> 00:15:25

So I don't hear a complaint in a second

00:15:27 --> 00:15:28

what else

00:15:30 --> 00:15:34

and now we're in our general interview I'm Rajiv This is a

00:15:37 --> 00:15:52

Hadith on quotes May Allah make me remember the exact words if not if this is what what it means. Allah says me, me Allah and the jinn and the ins so the human engine in a so strange relationship

00:15:54 --> 00:15:55


00:15:56 --> 00:15:58

are while you're about to Irie

00:16:00 --> 00:16:04

I give and they are thankful to someone else

00:16:06 --> 00:16:08

is it true? That's not my word.

00:16:12 --> 00:16:19

Actually no, oh no. Oh you're adorable hamdulillah made me remember I create and they worship someone else.

00:16:20 --> 00:16:23

Also Oh, where you from? Adore URI

00:16:25 --> 00:16:40

I give and they are thankful to someone else. I did it. It's me. My planning my study. I erased them. I work so hard for them don't we say all this

00:16:43 --> 00:16:51

shot will when we lay aside we'll hire a woman well Haley ed him NASM I send all the good things for them.

00:16:52 --> 00:16:57

Send it down and they send back all the evil

00:17:00 --> 00:17:03

so long Hadith, but I just want you to feel this little bit

00:17:05 --> 00:17:06

this little bit

00:17:08 --> 00:17:17

and this is why a lawsuit is sold at Saba Walker lead on when a bad yesha code very few of my servants are grateful

00:17:19 --> 00:17:28

That's why I told you humbler Yanni you I did see a good number of hands kalido mnay bardiya shekou Very few of us are grateful.

00:17:29 --> 00:17:33

How many of you when everyone asked me how do you say handler

00:17:34 --> 00:17:35

they use for say good?

00:17:37 --> 00:17:43

And I was like always joke was I was like what does good mean? And they look at me. I said I know what good means.

00:17:44 --> 00:17:46

But what does good mean with Allah?

00:17:47 --> 00:17:48

How are you?

00:17:50 --> 00:17:54

What is big deal of saying 100 What is the big T

00:17:55 --> 00:18:01

It's 101 Second say normally used to walk

00:18:03 --> 00:18:11

and look at people and you say Kay fosse How are you this morning? And people say whatever and then finally somebody says a smack to

00:18:12 --> 00:18:21

me don't lie like I am this morning telling you I am so grateful to Allah He said that's why I was asking. I wanted to hear it

00:18:23 --> 00:18:26

and same thing adults right how are you?

00:18:28 --> 00:18:29

I'm good.

00:18:30 --> 00:18:32

The same thing but in Arabic

00:18:33 --> 00:18:35

all don't tell me don't ask me

00:18:37 --> 00:18:39

why one of my worst days

00:18:42 --> 00:18:43

What is the worst thing?

00:18:44 --> 00:18:49

You almost Pam did you feel the earthquake here? You didn't feel it? It wasn't the North

00:18:50 --> 00:18:55

Zika or boozy Zara is Allah send you a message says in five minutes you are coming to me

00:18:58 --> 00:18:59

Can he do that?

00:19:00 --> 00:19:02

So let's let's be

00:19:03 --> 00:19:04

number one.

00:19:06 --> 00:19:07

honest with ourselves.

00:19:09 --> 00:19:13

Allah knows truthful with Allah. That we are not

00:19:14 --> 00:19:16

but that doesn't mean I can change.

00:19:17 --> 00:19:18

Can I change?

00:19:19 --> 00:19:25

Can I change? I want to hear it. Yes. Now inshallah the witch in sha Allah

00:19:28 --> 00:19:32

you know, they're still in shambles. So sad, so painful.

00:19:33 --> 00:19:40

One of my nieces literally send it to us in the group. And she said when you invite Muslim to a function

00:19:42 --> 00:19:50

actually, no, it was when you are inviting Muslims to to our function and she sent the invitation code the RSVP.

00:19:52 --> 00:19:57

The RSVP says what it's either yes or no right? Yes or no? And third

00:19:58 --> 00:19:59

in sha Allah

00:20:02 --> 00:20:04

So painful you know why?

00:20:06 --> 00:20:14

It is funny of course but I was like Subhan Allah, a biller who it also the heater stands you

00:20:15 --> 00:20:22

spy Allah and His Verses and that was what they saw to send your marking. Allah said this was what doba because why?

00:20:23 --> 00:20:44

Why this is walking? But where did it come from reality because Allah says that when the Nishi in a fat and when Daddy cavada Illa Allah sha Allah Friday cough, don't you say to anything you're doing tomorrow? Unless you say in sha Allah, what does it mean?

00:20:46 --> 00:21:15

I made every preparation, I am coming, I am going but I know for sure that it is not in my hand unless ALLAH Williams. Now If Allah doesn't win, even if I planned it, the best plan is not going to happen. That's what he shot me. What do we say? I don't want to come. I'm not coming in sha Allah. And everybody tempted so she's not coming.

00:21:19 --> 00:21:56

Change, which again, I don't know if it's only woman but again, this is our when I deal with most. Let's change, change. Let's be the Muslim Allah subhanaw taala wants to see you and me grateful, truthful. And I'm talking about truthful with him. We're not going to talk about truthful with each other, but truthful with him. When I say I'm doing it, I'm not gonna say Inshallah, I'm gonna say I'm doing it if Allah wills, meaning, the end, the moving moment is through him. Subhanallah

00:21:57 --> 00:22:07

so gratefulness be grateful ladies. How many of you again, show me hands younger, and not very young, changed after COVID?

00:22:09 --> 00:22:11

hamdulillah in our choice.

00:22:14 --> 00:22:16

A more positive way in which way?

00:22:18 --> 00:22:20

Getting more closer to Allah in which way?

00:22:21 --> 00:22:26

You know why I keep asking this. Because unless I pinpointed

00:22:28 --> 00:22:28

I'm not going to learn

00:22:31 --> 00:22:33

Tawakkol everybody uses rasa cornerstone.

00:22:34 --> 00:22:43

What is this called? Taqwa? All these big names, big words. So what is closer to Allah mean? Give me one example. Real?

00:22:44 --> 00:22:46

Yeah, I mean it Lee

00:22:50 --> 00:22:51

Say that again?

00:22:54 --> 00:22:57

Can't hear you because of the street is very loud.

00:23:00 --> 00:23:03

People got discipline, really?

00:23:07 --> 00:23:10

So people changed after COVID.

00:23:12 --> 00:23:12

Say that again?

00:23:17 --> 00:23:27

So COVID was a test. It's the same story. So COVID was a test absolute. Absolute. What did we learn from the COVID?

00:23:28 --> 00:23:44

What did we change? Give you an example. How many of you attended Dumont? Right? And probably for whatever the reason you couldn't do with most of you, I'm assuming I think everybody normally you tend to think of drama before COVID What does the woman do after Juma?

00:23:45 --> 00:23:49

The Imams had said Alikum salah. What does the woman do?

00:23:50 --> 00:23:51

It becomes a party.

00:23:53 --> 00:23:59

Right? That's before COVID Then unlucky when testis two years

00:24:00 --> 00:24:01

you are not coming to my house.

00:24:04 --> 00:24:05

You're not coming to my house.

00:24:07 --> 00:24:14

It's his house. He made this decision by cue. You don't want to invite me Don't get upset. It's your home.

00:24:15 --> 00:24:18

And then he said I'm gonna give them another chance.

00:24:19 --> 00:24:20

So come

00:24:21 --> 00:24:22

did we come different?

00:24:24 --> 00:24:31

Did we come different? Dress different? Speak different. More focus.

00:24:33 --> 00:24:36

I see a lot of you are doing this because it's through

00:24:37 --> 00:24:38


00:24:39 --> 00:24:39


00:24:41 --> 00:24:46

I'm not saying everybody I'm sure some changed, but the majority of the Ummah

00:24:47 --> 00:24:54

let alone the majority of humanity because this COVID did not affect the Muslims only affected humanity.

00:24:56 --> 00:24:59

Did we sat and took a breath and said why?

00:25:00 --> 00:25:01

Did this happen to us?

00:25:02 --> 00:25:06

Why did Allah allow this something that nobody yet know what it is?

00:25:07 --> 00:25:11

To, to destroy to shut off the world?

00:25:12 --> 00:25:14

You will never forget the first three months

00:25:16 --> 00:25:19

empty roads

00:25:20 --> 00:25:21

right wash your hand

00:25:23 --> 00:25:31

and everything is delivered to your home and you don't even open the door. Right and everything washed and clean. Why

00:25:34 --> 00:25:40

is what I'm trying I'm trying to connect everything together. I'm reaching to the same point. I started why?

00:25:42 --> 00:25:43

What did he want to tell me?

00:25:44 --> 00:25:46

So many give me one.

00:25:47 --> 00:25:47


00:25:49 --> 00:25:49

I'm sorry.

00:25:51 --> 00:25:56

So everything in Allah has. Absolutely did I learned

00:25:58 --> 00:26:01

No, I'm just talking about this one. Did I learn everything is from Allah?

00:26:02 --> 00:26:05

No. So why do you get upset when you lose your phone?

00:26:07 --> 00:26:26

And you get so upset. It's an Allah's hand. It's his phone called Darren long muszaphar. Allah has given Allah take No. Did I change? No. Let's take another example. Why did Allah subhana wa Tada brought COVID and took it

00:26:29 --> 00:26:45

to be thankful to the water to going out to go and visit my friend to come to the masjid go for ombre go for Hajj. To be thankful am I thankful back to the same where I started

00:26:47 --> 00:26:48

Am I Are we

00:26:49 --> 00:26:51

No we didn't change

00:26:52 --> 00:26:59

Why did Allah bring or brought COVID Give me another reason? Yes.

00:27:00 --> 00:27:13

To turn to him to turn turn right it's a test people were dying right and left. I don't know if you've seen it come in my shoes in the hospital of what did we see? Your Allah

00:27:14 --> 00:27:15

did we turn to him?

00:27:18 --> 00:27:24

Did we turn to him after not a jury? Of course during we had no other option

00:27:25 --> 00:27:29

but after is my salah better after COVID

00:27:31 --> 00:27:45

is my dresscode better after COVID? Am I more focus on my after that my dunya after COVID I'm not talking about one or two person talking about communities, Muslim Ummah let alone the whole humanity.

00:27:47 --> 00:27:56

Yes, oh no, no, no. Well look at the Santa Maria public for a hug now who

00:27:57 --> 00:28:04

was bought raw land? Yet Allah rasool Allah said this will soar to enhance I call it the COVID If

00:28:05 --> 00:28:11

this is me, and he's selling gold or Swati Saath or Santana I have to make him to to

00:28:13 --> 00:28:17

like to make her Assad Assad Assad feel better. Like don't worry about them.

00:28:18 --> 00:28:22

Let them do whatever they want to do. Because he said we have sent to people before you.

00:28:24 --> 00:28:36

Prophets. I have now hungry but sent you a bottle and we tested them. But somebody that SAT is usually diseases, famine and law, right things they don't like.

00:28:37 --> 00:28:43

Why y'all law? Why? He said it la Lomita law round so they turn back to Allah

00:28:44 --> 00:29:06

and they beg him and they submit to Him. Baraka has a lot of meaning, but you ask him, you obey Him, you submit to Him, please look at the next one. Falola is Jha homebirths una palabra if it was the only one the test came in, when the disease came in, they submit

00:29:08 --> 00:29:14

Well, I can pass it Hello. Boom. Nay, their hearts were so hard.

00:29:16 --> 00:29:46

Now look what happened. This is why we need to be so scared when I can because it was a year that I was che Voluma count on yamu and Shavonne make them feel made them feel that they are doing perfect. I change I'm closer to Allah. Now I know all these big words we say play. Now Allah says this. This is the third ear ear three verses for the minor Summa dokie Ruby when they forget what we tested them with.

00:29:48 --> 00:29:51

What do you think will happen? You will be so surprised

00:29:53 --> 00:29:53


00:29:57 --> 00:29:59

For Tada, Ali Baba Cooley

00:30:00 --> 00:30:02

She, we gave them everything they want.

00:30:03 --> 00:30:07

So don't you think when Allah gives me everything

00:30:08 --> 00:30:33

and I am not obedient to Allah, I am not doing what he wants me to do. This is a sign hamdulillah No, this is so scary, because he says for the Manas who they forgot, we forgot COVID nothing back to where we were if not, may Allah forgive me worse for Tana Allah him of WABA coalition, we give them everything they want.

00:30:34 --> 00:30:43

Everything of WABA coalition, the door of everything now when Allah says the door of everything, the doors of everything, what is this everything?

00:30:44 --> 00:30:49

What is it everything can think of you you can your mind can think and beyond

00:30:51 --> 00:31:07

for Tana Allah him Oba coalition Hatter either fairy holy moto now they are so happy and enjoying the phone iPhone 14 and the Internet and the car and everything we were talking about what will happen

00:31:09 --> 00:31:15

a hug now in Bogota the home will be soon you took them suddenly

00:31:17 --> 00:31:24

and they became Mobley soon be they became out they lost hope and being saved

00:31:26 --> 00:31:29

Do you know why I call it the verse of COVID now

00:31:31 --> 00:31:33

because we are now in the third verse

00:31:34 --> 00:31:36

He opened everything back

00:31:37 --> 00:31:43

even now masks you don't have its option many hospitals its option

00:31:44 --> 00:31:56

he brought it and he took it out yes there is vaccine everything these are all he did it I mean he could have easily made the vaccine doesn't work. You could have easily made no vaccine

00:31:57 --> 00:31:59

and he gave us almost two years

00:32:01 --> 00:32:04

and then he said you know what? Okay, I'll bring it all back to you.

00:32:06 --> 00:32:09

The only part of the eye is left is the last one.

00:32:10 --> 00:32:16

I don't want to be that I don't want this come when this come I am from the first group

00:32:17 --> 00:32:26

I want to be from the people who are have changed I learned learned from the lesson. What is the sign your mature

00:32:28 --> 00:32:35

what is the sign your mature you know what is the famous word we see we say those of you who were born raised in this country what do you say Been there done that

00:32:37 --> 00:32:41

it's very common to say right Been there done that I was like okay, not again.

00:32:42 --> 00:32:44

So are we been there done that

00:32:45 --> 00:32:52

for COVID for the blessings that Allah subhanaw taala took and gave back and gave more

00:32:54 --> 00:32:54

and gave more

00:32:56 --> 00:32:57

and where are we with him?

00:32:59 --> 00:33:12

Where is our relationship with him again? YongAn don't tell me I'm not talking about the five solder only any I needed COVID And all these people died and I'm still struggling with my five solder

00:33:13 --> 00:33:19

my relationship with Allah stronger what does that my salah is better what does that mean? That's it

00:33:20 --> 00:33:21

that's it

00:33:23 --> 00:33:32

and fasting Ramadan from Ramadan toto Allah and I go for vacation Allah knows what happens let me get invited to weddings in LA know what I'm going to see

00:33:35 --> 00:33:44

back to where we started late in Chicago to the as Eden will incur 14 Nada Vida Shetty you're grateful I'll give you a mood.

00:33:45 --> 00:33:55

And if you are not needed a say What is the punishment is so scary. Because when Allah doesn't say what it is, it's like when somebody says you know

00:33:58 --> 00:34:02

just wait to see when I get upset, like Oh God, what is going to happen?

00:34:04 --> 00:34:11

And this is human beings. So when he Subhana say this, you really need to be very careful.

00:34:13 --> 00:34:22

We need to change ladies, this is what I literally I have two messages whenever I'm traveling these days, since COVID, since Allah brought us back.

00:34:23 --> 00:34:52

I was like ladies learn from the experience the smart people who what you hear this all over, if you are of these people who follow a mind or soul, right, and you taught you follow these people who teaches you how to grow, how to do how to change, they tell you learn from your mistakes, and you will never be successful unless you fail. This you hear it again and again.

00:34:53 --> 00:34:54

So what did we learn?

00:34:56 --> 00:34:59

Each one of you what did you learn? What changed

00:35:00 --> 00:35:03

in your in your relationship with Allah is an individual

00:35:04 --> 00:35:15

and don't tell me I used to pray three times now and five times and all these people on a million people died in the United States so instead of three became five

00:35:17 --> 00:35:19

How can I guarantee isn't going to happen again?

00:35:21 --> 00:35:38

Can you guarantee how can I guarantee I'm not going to be with those people who died when it comes back again. The only way for you and me be is Nila to prevent disasters from happening is you know by what? By obeying Him and be grateful.

00:35:39 --> 00:35:40

There's no other way.

00:35:42 --> 00:35:48

No other way. Obey Him and be grateful. Obey Him and be grateful.

00:35:49 --> 00:35:57

But I am the same person. Square One like square 120 21 in March already met who forgot that the

00:35:58 --> 00:36:06

24th of March when everything was shut off. I remember this because everything in the hospital was canceled. Or surgeries everything.

00:36:07 --> 00:36:09

Yeah, Allah what days we lived.

00:36:12 --> 00:36:15

And this is Ma Saba mostly but

00:36:18 --> 00:36:21

there's more than one but the one I'm referring to

00:36:22 --> 00:36:35

mA Saba, mostly within Isla de Marchesa, but ad, we have one Cathy, every calamity that happens on this earth is as a result, what people did, and he forgive a lot.

00:36:36 --> 00:36:42

This isn't so much sure. Meaning, I'm sorry, novel, meaning

00:36:44 --> 00:36:50

every problem you see, you see is could be of my sin.

00:36:52 --> 00:37:05

My missing a soldier, and this is for everybody. Could not affect me yet, or my family yet, but could it affect the person who is homeless? This could be because of my

00:37:06 --> 00:37:11

it's a chain in Allah's eyes. And here's what he said.

00:37:13 --> 00:37:17

Ma Saba any calamity that happens on this earth

00:37:18 --> 00:37:20

is a result of the people's sins.

00:37:21 --> 00:37:26

And the biggest sin, or one of the biggest sins is being ungrateful.

00:37:27 --> 00:37:28


00:37:30 --> 00:37:36

When you travel abroad, I know how many of you travel abroad, you know, they know that we live in the West.

00:37:37 --> 00:37:38

Because we complain

00:37:41 --> 00:37:51

if you travel a lot, and you talk with people not to travel for a week, or you go only for vacation, you live and you see, they know because we complain

00:37:53 --> 00:38:08

that doesn't mean everything is going to be the same way but at least Europe we make it easy. Allah please forgive me. That's the personal relationship with Allah. So let's change ladies. Let's be grateful to the massage that Allah gave us.

00:38:09 --> 00:38:17

That's respected. Let's come dressed properly. What I'm seeing here I haven't seen it somewhere else. Honestly.

00:38:19 --> 00:38:23

What woman I'm not talking about anybody else. I'm talking about woman, young and old.

00:38:24 --> 00:38:27

People who were born raised here are people who came from back home.

00:38:29 --> 00:38:55

This is the house of Allah. This dress code is not my house. You come to my house and you go to people's house and they you see sometimes signs on the door what the sign says Please take off your shoes. Right? Is that their right? Absolutely is their house. That's their house. And some are very courteous they put you a shoe cover or some people put even like slippers but that's their house.

00:38:56 --> 00:39:04

And what they are asking is not haram and me as a guest my duty and their right is I do what they asked me.

00:39:06 --> 00:39:10

What about the Razzies are hacking the almighty or why is it says house

00:39:12 --> 00:39:15

every Masjid is his house

00:39:16 --> 00:39:23

and why did the Lockwood massage it? So we eat and drink and meet everybody who talk who no

00:39:24 --> 00:39:25


00:39:26 --> 00:39:35

it's number one. What? What and then massage de Ville de prata dorama Allah He had Ahad it's basically to worship Allah. Only

00:39:36 --> 00:39:46

dress code, dress code I can't believe people come and pray and they please forgive me but I'm seeing it everywhere. Tight jeans.

00:39:47 --> 00:39:59

And it's so hard for me because this woman came to the rescue was like your site is unacceptable. Because your Hara is not covered. This is the basics. This basics for you.

00:40:01 --> 00:40:04

or the hair is half of it is shown half

00:40:05 --> 00:40:11

half and then the if it's a long hair or coming from the bar the Salah is unacceptable

00:40:13 --> 00:40:30

let alone notice spoke to though Imam I've seen things is young he would overwinter the images in Joomla Why did you come for Joomla? If you want to look at your phone, literally doing this next to me doing this, what is this? On the social media of Friday?

00:40:32 --> 00:40:35

Why did you come? It's not an obligation for the woman

00:40:36 --> 00:40:38

have to stay home and do this?

00:40:39 --> 00:40:43

What a distraction. How about if somebody looked at you or learn from you?

00:40:44 --> 00:41:03

And that person somebody else learned from it. Be grateful. Respect the Masjid. Well, may you have them sha Allah He for he now. Mean taco Well, hello. Sign of taqwa, that you glorify the symbols of Allah at dawn, Dawn overstorey. At dawn is going and woman doing what?

00:41:05 --> 00:41:06

Doing what?

00:41:07 --> 00:41:09

talking now?

00:41:10 --> 00:41:19

And what did he teach me how to use law to a center? Who I'm sure everybody in this room knows what I'm gonna say. What what is what it's supposed to be?

00:41:20 --> 00:41:21

Number one listen.

00:41:23 --> 00:41:28

And then when he gives you the break is to repeat yawn hamdulillah everybody knows it. Why don't we do it?

00:41:29 --> 00:41:32

Because we're ungrateful back again.

00:41:33 --> 00:41:49

Because I'm ungrateful. I was I don't see the Adan as an Yemma he took it away from us for a year and a half. We didn't hear it. Live in a masjid. You know when I first went to Amara last year, exactly this time, first time after COVID

00:41:50 --> 00:41:56

You know what I said when I first looked at the huddle before I entered. I was like, what did we do y'all

00:41:58 --> 00:42:02

that you didn't invite us? What did we do? It's your house.

00:42:05 --> 00:42:14

And how do I guarantee you will invite me again? What should I do? Teach me show me so you don't see this as it lets her go back.

00:42:15 --> 00:42:22

This is what we need to establish ladies the I call it the private personal relationship with Allah.

00:42:23 --> 00:42:40

It's not only when I need you Allah gave me I want to husband for my daughter and I know my dua is nothing like before I want to go to this college never mean literally I use text to text me okay, never text me ask me a question. Tomorrow she has an interview. What is the dua?

00:42:42 --> 00:42:47

I of course I give it but I was like, if I was a lot and I am not.

00:42:49 --> 00:42:58

But if it was me, and you only remember me when you need me? Or I only remember you when I need you. What are you going to say about me?

00:42:59 --> 00:43:00

What are you going to say about?

00:43:02 --> 00:43:03


00:43:04 --> 00:43:09

She only remember me what she needs me. Guess what? I'm not going to even answer.

00:43:12 --> 00:43:13

But Allah was cutting

00:43:14 --> 00:43:15


00:43:16 --> 00:43:18

and he kept giving us

00:43:19 --> 00:43:21

that let us not abuse it.

00:43:23 --> 00:43:49

Be grateful. Count your blessings, as we all say and glorify House of Allah, the symbols of Allah. And I'm talking about people who practice and people who are still struggling to practice people are waiting for a job board. And people who are still struggling May Allah make it easy for everybody because I see what I shared with you from everybody by the way. Literally today next to me in Jamar what I told you

00:43:51 --> 00:43:52

in hotwire

00:43:54 --> 00:44:01

and I left I did very quick Sunday because I couldn't focus. I couldn't I wanted to enjoy the masjid you know, forget it.

00:44:03 --> 00:44:04

Forget it. It's a party behind me.

00:44:06 --> 00:44:07

And sometimes I say

00:44:08 --> 00:44:10

May allottee word the man

00:44:11 --> 00:44:32

and I don't blame them when they complain about the woman. I'm a big fan of woman coming to the masjid, by the way don't know because this is the only place where we're gonna learn our deen and we see Muslims. But I'm just saying is in Nakia hamdullah you're up and you close the windows with some massage like where I was this, this Joomla it's the mezzanine is open. You hear the man and the heat.

00:44:34 --> 00:44:53

So be grateful ladies, go back to Allah, count your blessings. Start changing real not changing words change real. I don't know how much left I'll have another COVID is going to come and He tests us three times with during COVID Every few months a new one comes up. I was like what is this?

00:44:54 --> 00:44:57

And finally said I'm gonna give them another good chance.

00:44:58 --> 00:45:00

And he did and we

00:45:00 --> 00:45:16

are living in that's why we're here to the masjid. So may Allah Subhana Allah make us without collied a say normally used to make his dua because Allah Azza wa kalido Mineva dia Shaco very few of my servants are grateful he used to make dua for himself secure Allah making me of those few

00:45:17 --> 00:45:20

and make May Allah make us all of those few

00:45:21 --> 00:45:34

know the value of what you have be grateful back to the source of the of the blessings and he will hamdulillah you're dealing with a general the generous one thing from you 10 And more

00:45:35 --> 00:45:55

and may Allah subhanaw taala forgive all our shortcomings Geez Aquila halen it's already nine o'clock Spanner Colombo behind the shadow leg stuff we look forward to next Alana see now Muhammad Allah Allah He was hyped esteem and cathedra your great people you listened very well. So I'm gonna do 10 more minutes any question

00:45:57 --> 00:46:00

any question relevant? Yes please.

00:46:24 --> 00:46:26

Your your patients who lack of patient

00:46:30 --> 00:47:12

Okay, so lack of patient Saba in because we live in a very comfortable life. Comfortable soon. So the more we are comfortable, you know, what's the you don't think of it this way. But it gets into the car these days. What do you do? Nothing. You press one button, everything is working. Right? You move your leg, everything is working. And it's too hot one button and becomes better is to cool. Another button and becomes beautiful. The phone rings one button. And he talked to people. Am I right? So what happens I got used to everything goes please forgive me my way.

00:47:13 --> 00:47:15

So if

00:47:16 --> 00:47:18

if the phone doesn't work

00:47:19 --> 00:47:51

and of the world, I'll give you an example to tap into with me. This is when I was studying in Georgia there is a extremely hot, it's very hot, hot and humid. Literally you choke. So I used to go at two o'clock to my Quran teacher. So there at that time, we were not able to drive so I had a driver. So he drops me and it's one hour class and then I go and I used to say you know what, keep the car going, keep the car running, and turn on the air conditioner gets very hot.

00:47:53 --> 00:48:04

Okay, so I go up, I come back. And I remember very well, and he's sleeping, sleeping, as if you are literally in the Ritz Carlton.

00:48:06 --> 00:48:10

And he just had the window lover. I get into the car.

00:48:11 --> 00:48:12

I'm going to talk

00:48:14 --> 00:48:18

and then I was like, please turn the air conditioner he looked at to me

00:48:20 --> 00:48:23

because this man had never seen an air conditioner in his life.

00:48:27 --> 00:48:30

And I was like, what a test what a lesson you gave me.

00:48:32 --> 00:48:34

I just came from learning his book.

00:48:35 --> 00:48:48

And he gave it to me. This is why we are knack of patient. Because it is everything. I call it the Burger King life, you know was the Burger King meal life.

00:48:49 --> 00:49:33

You drive, you don't get out of the car, it's too difficult. You come in, you don't even say anything. You don't do anything. You say number one, you don't explain if I explained to heart, and then you come in. And he tells you and you don't do anything. You just give the card and then another window and he gives you everything you don't do anything you just pull your hand. Everything comes in. And then within five minutes, everything is done. And you are free. And you are fully and you enjoy it whether a burger came with dole any of the fast food. I'm not making a certain but what is that? So if the person at the window is not there, what happens?

00:49:34 --> 00:49:38

I get so frustrated. Where is he? Or where is she?

00:49:39 --> 00:49:46

The reason of lack of support because we are again spoiled rotten.

00:49:47 --> 00:49:58

And those of you who live back home, South Africa you know what is my favorite place in South Africa? You're gonna take Safari Cape Town? No, no

00:50:00 --> 00:50:02

There is a place which is

00:50:04 --> 00:50:14

the I've never seen poverty like I have seen there in every Titan Pretoria and every time I go, I was like you have to take museum

00:50:17 --> 00:50:17

I can't.

00:50:18 --> 00:50:19

I can't.

00:50:20 --> 00:50:30

This is what you need. You need to always remind yourself might be coming yet my team feminine law, whatever blessings you have, it's from Allah

00:50:32 --> 00:50:41

and I need to be more grateful. And I need to make one two out for myself. I do it all the time. Your sub Warsaw Bernie, your Allah you're the patient, give me patient

00:50:43 --> 00:50:44

give me patient

00:50:45 --> 00:50:56

and learn not to give this the third thing not to give yourself everything at once. This is the Ischia not to everything your cell phones, you give it to it.

00:50:57 --> 00:50:59

I want to go and drink coffee. Why?

00:51:01 --> 00:51:17

Literally, I was speaking to a youth recently. I have to go and study in the in the library why? The house is beautiful. They have all of it No. Okay, fine, go to bar whatever bars and normals. But I'm going to stop and take coffee. I was like, why is cynical? I can't study without coffee.

00:51:19 --> 00:51:38

What is it? Everything my nefs once I'm giving it so when he doesn't come for whatever the reason I get very frustrated. And by the way, this is all of us, not the Eurozone. So all of us, Olympus was what we need. That's why you fasting is an amazing tool to get make you more

00:51:39 --> 00:52:05

patient and everybody else in the room. Make sure especially now with the hamdulillah Winter is coming and next week, time will change. At least if you told me and I'm not just saying to you pure Tony. You really changed after COVID Show me your Monday and Thursday, fasting. And if you usually fast Monday and Thursday, show me Sam deload show me every other day.

00:52:07 --> 00:52:12

If you're already from the lobby for COVID You pray five times a day show me your permalink

00:52:13 --> 00:52:17

your night 200 Show me your forgiveness to people.

00:52:20 --> 00:52:30

So ask Allah fast more and don't give your neffs everything at once. And then and a lot of DUA and Allah will make you absent Bismillah

00:52:31 --> 00:52:32


00:52:34 --> 00:52:40

How do I know it's a blessing or it's a punishment? How do you react to it? That's very common question.

00:52:45 --> 00:52:57

And this is actually mountain on Clemson. If unless Pantai let's see. Again, we live in the 2022. So this I wake up and there is no food. Right? If I'm gonna say put down Allah Masha,

00:52:58 --> 00:53:15

Allah subhanho wa Taala decree whatever Allah decree, what happened, then this is a blessing. Now Allah has either make giving me more rewards or elevate. If I'm going to start from A to Z complaining and blaming everybody, that's a punishment.

00:53:16 --> 00:53:59

And this includes every test, and I'm just giving this is a simple but every test, you go through, you're grateful to Allah, that doesn't mean I am happy with it, or who if you're happy with it, that's a law. Don't talk about it. That's way higher. But if I am patient, and asking Allah subhanaw taala give me patient I know you it's your decree. I love it. I want whatever it is, but you're not complaining, then that's not a punishment. If you say why me? Let alone it's unfair. Are the golden word that everybody say it you with with parents? Wives with a Husband, husband with wives? unfair? Then that's a punishment

00:54:01 --> 00:54:05

already so please advise about nail polish and come for Salah.

00:54:07 --> 00:54:08

Where did this come from?

00:54:11 --> 00:54:12

The Halal Nearpod

00:54:14 --> 00:54:21

you know, the unless you really dig into the reasons of things, you're not going to understand it.

00:54:22 --> 00:54:25

So how many Muslims are in the world? Just give me a number.

00:54:28 --> 00:54:30

1.7 billion

00:54:31 --> 00:54:33

60% of them are woman.

00:54:35 --> 00:54:41

That's how it is like how many? How many now? 60% of 1.6 billion.

00:54:43 --> 00:54:45

Say 50% are young.

00:54:46 --> 00:54:49

You're talking about at least 100 million if not more.

00:54:50 --> 00:54:55

So if I'm going to come and sell you a halal nail polish how much money I made.

00:54:59 --> 00:55:00

Do I care about you?

00:55:00 --> 00:55:00

Are Salah

00:55:02 --> 00:55:05

do I care about your relationship with Allah?

00:55:06 --> 00:55:09

Why do I fall in this trap? One

00:55:10 --> 00:55:10


00:55:12 --> 00:55:23

Why do you put a nail polish anyone and some and that includes when you are during the monthly period because when I see this I was like you didn't understand what Allah said

00:55:26 --> 00:55:30

what is why do we put a nail polish? Come on we are all woman.

00:55:31 --> 00:55:31


00:55:33 --> 00:55:38

Exactly to look beautiful it's very nice. And why do you put makeup on coming to it?

00:55:39 --> 00:55:40

Why do I put makeup?

00:55:41 --> 00:55:44

Why do I put makeup young and old? Why?

00:55:45 --> 00:55:56

Why why I want to hear it. Exactly. I want to look beautiful right and makeup makes me look beautiful show my beauty or increase my beauty. Is that haram Orfila

00:55:58 --> 00:55:58

just a second

00:56:03 --> 00:56:06

Allah says not he didn't say cover he said don't show your beauty

00:56:08 --> 00:56:11

don't lie you Gina Xena Tang Allah says and sorta No

00:56:13 --> 00:56:26

Don't show your beauty so whether it is my cycle and I don't Allah gave me the permission not to pray and I'm putting the nail polish whether it is the quote unquote Halal nail polish

00:56:27 --> 00:56:28

I am disobeying Allah

00:56:30 --> 00:56:31


00:56:32 --> 00:56:33


00:56:34 --> 00:56:40

or or putting makeup or wedding tight and let alone coming to the masjid

00:56:43 --> 00:56:48

will lie the I know I keep saying this and I've said this many times in this talk. I know Allah Allah is Rahim.

00:56:49 --> 00:56:54

If Allah was not Rahim, I have no idea what will happen to us.

00:56:55 --> 00:57:10

Although you get along on NASA be Marcus, Marta Carla Buhari ham dub. If Allah will take people accountable to what they are doing, he will not have left anything moving on this earth. He said that twice. And

00:57:13 --> 00:57:18

I unless we know them the real meaning of the dean

00:57:19 --> 00:57:33

is our problem. Men and woman but I'm talking to woman. We don't know that why he said that. What is the hikma? What is the wisdom? It's not just don't do or do is why?

00:57:34 --> 00:57:45

So when I say he said don't show your beauty fine. Before you leave the house, stand in front of that mirror, which we all do. And ask yourself one question.

00:57:46 --> 00:57:51

He's looking at me. He is looking at me. Is that how he wants me to live?

00:57:53 --> 00:57:54

Is that what he said?

00:57:55 --> 00:57:57

And you answer and you do

00:57:58 --> 00:57:59


00:58:00 --> 00:58:09

includes makeup. Include tight clothes include nail polish, include perfume in the mustard.

00:58:11 --> 00:58:13

All this goes under beauty.

00:58:14 --> 00:58:17

And we are why do we cover on why the hair

00:58:18 --> 00:58:20

kissed the most beautiful thing in the woman

00:58:21 --> 00:58:41

why you don't show the detail of the body because the most beautiful thing in the woman period. You want to twist it you want to go around and do whatever you want. You know what I say to people just make sure you have a good excuse when you're standing in front of him and he's going to ask you Is he going to ask me Of course he would

00:58:42 --> 00:58:52

write how submit his urban yesI your or your law please make it easy on he's going to ask me why did you do that? Why didn't you cover your hair?

00:58:54 --> 00:59:06

Why pleasing people one more important than me You better have a good reason. Period. If you think this way you think it is about you and him everything becomes easy.

00:59:07 --> 00:59:23

I don't care what people do that there. I don't care what people does in college where people doesn't the school what people does in even in the masjid I don't because I am going to be alone in this private one to one interview in each one of us will have that

00:59:24 --> 00:59:26

and I have to be ready

00:59:32 --> 00:59:37

May Allah subhanaw taala make him a righteous child. Now don't be me and make him

00:59:40 --> 00:59:43

Kunis to your eyes all the time your ebme

00:59:46 --> 00:59:59

Bismillah let's see that's an ROV. While liquid was set up as remote we'll see but the man that up that Allah call humbler by the mod need kibarim in the house. reshoring May Allah Hunter she said is a

01:00:00 --> 01:00:02

And death is a calamity.

01:00:03 --> 01:00:22

And why I cannot say hamdulillah after my son died two months ago, may Allah subhanaw taala give him Jonathan for DOS and may Allah subhanaw taala give you generally for DOS llamada Rafi mostly witty, hollow fluffy Roman, near Las Pantanal reward you for your calamity and replace your calamity with something better.

01:00:23 --> 01:00:24

Because we are human.

01:00:26 --> 01:00:30

We are all have to agree on this. We are human being. Death is the biggest one.

01:00:31 --> 01:00:39

Losing a beloved one is very difficult. Daniel Suarez salatu salam when he lost his son, what did he do? was crying

01:00:41 --> 01:00:44

Sahaba looked at him and para Salah you

01:00:46 --> 01:00:47

and he was a baby.

01:00:48 --> 01:00:51

Right? Sadness mine and he was crying.

01:00:53 --> 01:01:06

And he said Daddy Rama is loving mercy Allah operates in the heart of a human being. However, Lau zero burner, I'm not going to say but what pleases Allah

01:01:08 --> 01:01:09

aligned with the demand or

01:01:12 --> 01:01:58

the heart is in pain. The eyes is shutting fuse, we don't say but what pleases Allah. I want to please Allah is what do we say? And Levine ADA Saba Tomasi baton orlu in lillahi, wa inna de Roger, that's what he said. When a calamity befalls them. They will say nothing but to Allah we belong and to Allah, we will return and 100 lakh Allah Callaghan. This is very difficult. This is so easy to say. But when May Allah protect all of you, but this is not easy. However, I always say this to myself, whatever the test, I think is bigger than me. I said locally for Allahu nevsun It allows for Allah didn't know you can take it. He will not have tested you with this.

01:01:59 --> 01:02:03

Because we don't, not all of us are tested the same way.

01:02:04 --> 01:02:10

Why somebody get cancer? Why a child with casts seven or eight year old?

01:02:12 --> 01:02:39

I have always to say Allah was I did Allah is just an alias Hakeem. Allah is wise. And I don't see as like I don't see the back. I have no idea. Same thing with you. I kept asking Allah subhanaw taala your sub or sub Boonie that's what I will say this. Your Allahu Allah subhanaw You are the patient. Give me patient. Make me not say anything what pleases you? You should you should say Alhamdulillah Allah Aquila, Han.

01:02:40 --> 01:02:57

All Praise to Allah for every situation I am and the more you begged him and asked him especially when you're in pain, that means your DUA is granted. Do is granted if you're crying before you say the DUA he already gave it to you and say no, I'm gonna use to say and then I will have my

01:02:58 --> 01:03:18

job and I can do I don't worry about Allah as setting my dua. I know he will. But I'm worried about me being in the right status, or right state of asking, and may Allah make it easy, may Allah make it easy. This is really not too easy. Subhanallah I know a friend of mine, she lost her son at 19 years of age.

01:03:19 --> 01:03:24

Yang up till now she recovered from the lower bound because Allah pulled her back to him.

01:03:26 --> 01:03:39

And he's literally she that's what she's I met her two months out six months after the son died for the first time. This is what she said to me. She said I had to be banged on the head to go back.

01:03:43 --> 01:03:55

She was what she says. If you've seen me before, you never believe this. The woman in front of you is this is the woman he had to bang him. But this is when you turn the calamity into a blessing.

01:03:56 --> 01:04:00

Because if you turn back to Allah you make dua out for him. Right?

01:04:02 --> 01:04:08

What else he needs? What else and I have to say he's in a much better place than this dunya

01:04:10 --> 01:04:23

especially if he died as a Shaheed he died as a martyr. Subhan Allah and Allah subhanaw taala is giving you an opportunity to get close to and think of Akela don't think of dunya he keeps thinking about him and the dunya is going to be very difficult. Think about the

01:04:25 --> 01:04:36

the people who were tested in dunya this is what you read it in all the books talks about somebody, one day see what Allah is giving them and after you know what they say.

01:04:37 --> 01:04:44

They say I wish Allah subhanaw taala have bitten our skin with the nail clippers

01:04:45 --> 01:04:50

from the reward of the calamity when you will respond to the calamity the right word.

01:04:51 --> 01:04:59

And may Allah make it easy and make dua for that sister you're allotted with Allah cobia Kumar. Obatala kalbi say, only Musa Allah hold her heart

01:05:00 --> 01:05:22

tight like you did with the mother of Musa when Allah took the Musa from her and Allah's Pantera and he said it was Maha Musa 30. And the heart of the mother of Musa became empty. That tells you what the mother feel when the child is taken away from her. But Allah subhanaw taala made her patient be in Nila. Does that come along here? Any last?

01:05:24 --> 01:05:25

One questions are okay.

01:05:26 --> 01:05:31

Your where is the organizer is because the somebody's going to take me home. So I hope they are fine.

01:05:33 --> 01:05:34

We'll just come along.

01:05:37 --> 01:05:37


01:05:40 --> 01:05:42

Let's let's listen to the question, please.

01:05:44 --> 01:05:46

Now, nowadays, our youth

01:05:50 --> 01:05:51

they don't want to get married.

01:05:55 --> 01:05:56

They are getting married with non Muslims.

01:05:58 --> 01:06:01

A law that needs another lecture.

01:06:04 --> 01:06:16

And this is not a joke. This is real. This was about six months. This is absolutely three things these days. And there's bigger than this one. They're losing faith leaving Islam.

01:06:18 --> 01:06:28

And they are saying it and you hear it. And if you don't hear it, then you don't live in this world. And this is number two on the third one, which is the other big problem, especially living in California.

01:06:29 --> 01:06:47

So this was about six, seven months ago, and I wasn't we weren't in a wedding big huge wedding. So I saw a woman who I haven't seen for ages, like at least 10 years. I was thank God I was the children, you know, and she said they had grown up and my my older son got married in LA and I said okay, then the girl said, please make dua.

01:06:49 --> 01:06:57

And I can of course to get my butt What did she say please make dua that she marries a Muslim. And he

01:07:01 --> 01:07:03

a Muslim? And uh, he

01:07:04 --> 01:07:05

you didn't even get it?

01:07:07 --> 01:07:12

And I said, You know what? Absolutely. Yeah. Yes.

01:07:13 --> 01:07:14


01:07:15 --> 01:07:18

there's many reasons why especially professional woman don't want to get married.

01:07:20 --> 01:07:22

Because what they see in the home

01:07:24 --> 01:07:25

the MIS

01:07:27 --> 01:07:35

understanding the misrepresentation of Muslim married woman.

01:07:37 --> 01:07:50

The, the influence of the culture around them is even worse than that. They want to do the other marriage. And again, because of the ages here, I'm not going to talk about it. But this is a huge another huge problem.

01:07:53 --> 01:07:58

What do we do? And this is all the signs of the end of the of the ACA. Exactly.

01:08:00 --> 01:08:06

It's when when the family unit is being broken, and you look around you

01:08:07 --> 01:08:11

in my office, if I tell the patient, are you married, she looks at me.

01:08:12 --> 01:08:15

And I had a patient and she's absolutely not.

01:08:16 --> 01:08:17

I was like Subhan, Allah

01:08:19 --> 01:08:19


01:08:21 --> 01:08:24

Did you see how things are changing? Well, we have to do,

01:08:25 --> 01:08:31

especially for those of you who are now pregnant in Ghana, deliver a baby your children are still young,

01:08:32 --> 01:08:33

raise them

01:08:34 --> 01:08:44

in their golden year, which is up till about 12 and even 211 Teach them writers now. Not that it's done. You grew up back home.

01:08:46 --> 01:08:48

The right on the relationship with Allah.

01:08:49 --> 01:08:51

Don't ask them did you pray?

01:08:53 --> 01:08:54

Ask them what did you say to him?

01:08:57 --> 01:08:59

To huge difference.

01:09:00 --> 01:09:03

Did you enjoy it? How was the private moments?

01:09:04 --> 01:09:12

Teach them the lightest now. Otherwise, we are losing them right and left, right and left.

01:09:14 --> 01:09:18

And they are marrying non Muslims. You know, because what I asked this, I get this all the time.

01:09:20 --> 01:09:21

non Muslims are better.

01:09:22 --> 01:09:39

They treat me better. I've seen what my dad did to my mom. Or I've seen what my did to my friend. And of course we don't see the whole picture. We have no idea who's involved. Unless you talk to the wall, both sides. Fight and then

01:09:40 --> 01:09:42

don't want to be different.

01:09:43 --> 01:09:51

This is a huge problem. You don't want to be different. How many of you work in the real life here? Real life?

01:09:52 --> 01:09:58

You work real life now I'm not talking about your work and Mustang school or you. I'm talking about your work outside

01:10:00 --> 01:10:07

In a non Muslim in these companies and how easy is this to be a practicing Muslim woman

01:10:09 --> 01:10:10

told me about it,

01:10:11 --> 01:10:12

telling me about

01:10:13 --> 01:10:28

right and left. So unless it is engraved in your heart and you see Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, you see him in front of you all the time, and he talked to him. And when you're so weak and we get weak, that Allah make me stronger.

01:10:29 --> 01:10:44

It is not easy. And when they get to the 20s, the only thing left when you when you put them in that college, the only thing left is the dua. Nothing else, don't even waste your breath. Don't waste your breath.

01:10:45 --> 01:10:55

Just make dua and and I will say and you will be righteous, you will be righteous, you will be righteous, because you will be righteous your DUA will be granted.

01:10:56 --> 01:10:57

As Allah said,

01:10:58 --> 01:11:07

we are going through a lot of problems as a Muslim. Huge. I went to study 2008 came back 2017

01:11:08 --> 01:11:31

I had my office I had an office when I came literally I felt when I came back as it was I was the people of the cave. Like 300 years. That difference in the culture between Muslims. I'm not talking about non Muslims, Muslims, Muslims things I've never ever even dare to ask. Dare to ask.

01:11:32 --> 01:11:46

You name it. They're doing it 45% This is a real study from Illinois 45% of Muslim college students they have done everything that in your mind

01:11:48 --> 01:12:05

45% Muslim students boys and girls Yes, why? Please forgive me because we raised them on culture we don't practice what we preach and if we preach we preach it the wrong way

01:12:07 --> 01:12:07

everything is haram

01:12:11 --> 01:12:14

and and then what the easy way I don't want it

01:12:16 --> 01:12:24

so we as again the the younger generation here raise your children differently but you can give them something you don't have

01:12:26 --> 01:12:28

if you don't have this connection with Allah I can give it to your children

01:12:29 --> 01:12:33

especially when they become a little bit older and you need to talk with them

01:12:35 --> 01:12:50

and a lot of Diwan I'm Allah protect us. Yeah. And Istanbul or even will say I will do it buffet all by the water. But as last thing I'm gonna say the stock came as a stranger and will return as a stranger. And that's what we are seeing Balboni

01:12:52 --> 01:13:07

place in gender for the strangers. Don't you want to be a stranger? European design Kamala Harris is panic along will be handy. A shadow like that. of stuff you can work toward it so long as you know Muhammad were there early he was hoping to steamin because he

Share Page

Related Episodes