How to Be the Best Women – Womanhood Reimagined
Channel: Haifaa Younis
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Salam Alaikum wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah while it was a heavy woman who Allah, La luna young pharaoh now on vana Bhima and lantana in the Kissimmee on would you would allow me now to become an emerald I am helping die of SHA one of sila touchbar Why do I use my bobbin Allah to Saku whenever there is a Hadith Anna or habla now Malankara in accountable hub for be strictly Sodre us Lee Emery 100 of the time listen, you have probably your OB Amin does akmola here for coming. Yet. Yohannes inna halacha now come in the Korean War,
which I now can show on Wakaba either the Tower of nakoma command or lahi. at Parc I have no doubt that every woman in this room and probably everybody listening to us know this verse.
There is any of us who hear that one of these one of the most common one, all people in the last pantalla saying this, it's a sort of majority at the end. And he's addressing humanity. It's not Muslim. It's not Yeah, you already know me. It is not yet you and me know. Yeah. Yohannes you and me.
In Allah, we have now created you, the Korean woman,
male and a female, which are now control balaclava. And we have made you nations and tribes look around you look to your right, and look to your left, and how different we are. And if you still don't know we are different than you didn't listen to the most beautiful talk I just heard.
We need to listen a lot to these to live reality.
And Why did Allah do that?
Every time I read this verse, I was like them Allah, what is Allah not able of creating all of us? Same Same color, same shape, same length, same height, same eye color.
Two reasons. It's in the verse itself one is obvious. And one is hidden.
The obvious to know each other.
First thing you all have to ask and then I'll come to the best because that's part of the best.
How many people you know as a friend that does not fit your own description
that does not speak the same language that does not eat the same food that does not look like you that does not share the same background.
To very little Am I right?
Wow, you have a non Muslim friend.
You have a white friend.
I'm an Arab. You have a non Arab friend
Lita are awful.
This is why He created your own meat in different ways. And he is able of creating us anyway he wants Subhana then the hidden which comes to the best.
The best among you you all know is this is how you translate actual or the most honorable one. It depends how you want to translate at Parc
the most honorable the best among you are not woman or men. Nothing to do with gender.
Why am I wasting my time about I am a woman or I am a man
did you get my point?
It's not gonna make any difference in front of Allah subhanaw taala zero
if I am in front of him Subhana he's not gonna look at me I am a fat
or I am Muhammad
is going to look at me as what
Regardless he or she?
So why am I wasting my time when you
this is the trap you all have to get out of.
You've probably did not expect me to say this.
But we need to get out of this trap.
Don't fall into the gender.
Look at the bigger picture.
Right with color. Bulkeley Mullah Katie What did he say?
In Niger? I don't floridly Khalifa did he define who's the Khalifa? Did he say a man? Did he say a woman? Did he say an Arab? Did he say a non Arab? Why do we fall in this strap?
It's me. It's you.
This is the first thing you all have to start rethinking
Change the way you think and look individually.
individually. Are you falling into this trap? The answer is?
I want to hear it.
Yes, yes. Whether I'm in the trap of being the victim, or I am in the trap of being the one who's gonna carry the Justice Against the victim, both of them I am missing the point.
Because what is should be my point, I want all of you to think with me.
Why I am in this world? The question was raised in more than one speaker, why I am here
to have fun
to prove I am the best to prove we are equal. Is that why He created me?
I need to hear the answer. Why did he created
and what does worshipped me?
To know him?
To know him? Well, my Haluk to Regina will insert Illa Dr. Boone, and he will go and read the commentary la vida de Hoonah is not worship, because if you translate worship, you absolutely have narrow this verse. Oh, I need to pray. Oh, I need to fast. Oh, I need to wear my hijab. You missed it. 80% of this verse. You missed it. No, Allah.
I had this discussion recently. With someone a lot of people have dreams which the dreams are beautiful.
And they said we need to bring Medina back
in our masajid
it's beautiful dream.
And they looked at me and they sensed I am I have something different.
And I'm going to ask you the question I asked, When did Medina start?
After how many years?
Right. Why didn't Medina start first? Isn't Allah capab?
And what was the difference between Medina and Makkah?
Not the city's the Muslim ummah.
As you heard alongside the helper, the lover, everybody loves each other.
We don't need Medina. This is what I said. We don't need Medina. What do we need? Why?
Because we don't have him inside us.
This is what Allah Swati saw. It was Sara did in all his time in Makkah, even salah didn't come first. It's your NASA abode, Allah or Buddha or Baku. worship your Lord, know who was your Lord.
And this is our problem. And I'm not gonna say it's a woman problem. I'm going to be very honest. It's a humanity problem. We don't know whose Allah
right? I asked us are like going to tell me he's the one who created me. But does you really believe he's the one who created
Do you really believe in this? And I say Okay, give me another thing and you're gonna give me all the 99 names if even more and you say he's authorizer and I said really?
She looked at me. I was like, What is What did I say? I said, Is he really a Rosa? Is he really Rosa? I want to hear the answer. Really? The Why do you call somebody else when you need something?
It's sad. It's painful.
You just said his or Rosa.
Why do you call someone else?
You just said he's away. You give me any of the names you know?
And then immediately he tests me and he tests you immediately.
And I without me knowing showing him and he knows but to show me how hypocrite I am in my tongue.
He's a Shafi is the one who cured and when I get sick, what do I do? Do I call him first? Do I turn to him? Yeah to be please cure me. Y'all wanna make this tablet that I'm putting in my mouth works? No, who is the best physician and you start texting and on the group's this is what we are missing.
We woman and I again I'm speaking because I'm speaking to a woman
what we are missing these days to be the best and I'll going to give you some examples of the best some of them you don't even know the name and I don't know the name
is the woman who her focus
in life? Is not her children?
is not her husband? is not her career is not her beauty. It's not her house. It's only one answer.
The One? The One? How many of you and don't show me hands. This is between you and Allah. And he knows how many of you can say it confidently, as if she is in front of Allah and says your OB I lived for you.
I did everything for you.
I got married for you.
I had children for you.
I studied, worked hard to make my career for you.
I wanted to be educated for you
memorize the Quran for you. Islamic Studies started establishing institutions, you name it for you, how many can claim this now?
And in front of Allah who are saying it?
The answer is if I want to be very honest with everybody. If I say this, am I right?
Am I honest with myself?
That's what's missing ladies. My beautiful sisters. Young and old. Don't blame the young. I stopped long time ago blaming the young you know one because what they are seeing in me what are they seek?
And I'm not defending them, but it's again reality.
So here you are. You are in Pleasanton, let's say in St. Louis, let's say in Southern California. And you are this pious woman three or pious woman everybody knows Mashallah.
And then they accused you
of the most painful, degrading accusation a woman can have.
And what is that as a Muslim woman?
Exactly. Oh, she has an affair.
What will happen to you
what will happen to you everybody is talking is the talk of the town.
Everyone, but no one could say this to you.
But you can see it you can feel it.
You know, you come in and they stop talking.
And then your husband come to you.
And they say to he says to you in your face
in front of your father father and mother.
if you did it
ask Allah to forgive you
feel what I'm saying?
And if you didn't do it, say it
what will you answer I want to hear it
What would you say honestly
has to be alone mmm If you know this in the Arabic language when you say has to be alone and working meaning you have given up and I'm not going to even answer and make a what punish you?
Because even that you Brahim said that when he was thrown in the fire.
What else you will do?
Anxiety. Panic attack. You're gonna cry? Am I right? Angry? How dare What do you think of me? Look at yourself and on and on and on and on? Right? How many will turn and says
you allow that to happen your law
What are you teaching me?
What do you want me to say?
What should I do?
Whose story was this?
What did she answer? That's what I need to hear.
You want to knew the answer? Alhamdulillah. That's the best.
To me. This is the best in all the stories of say nation. Everything you know about Saida Asia. This is story
telling me what a strong woman should be.
What a woman of Allah should be. And one what a woman of opinion should be. What did she say?
And who said that to her was a rasool Allah de Sala to Sarah.
I will be done.
Every time I read this, I just can't imagine.
I'm a woman, you are a woman, you know, how painful is this? Let alone you're innocent. Let alone it's coming from your husband, let alone your husband is the best of the creation. It his salatu said,
What did she say?
You need to memorize that statement. You want to be strong.
You want to be you have your opinion. You want to be a woman of Allah. You want to be the best. What did she say?
like I do a coffee Kulu because she said this to her father, mother and husband. are also risotto. Sarah Syedna Abubakar Omar woman. She said it's already in your heart.
And if I said, I am innocent, and Allah knows I am innocent. See what came out of the mouth.
You will not believe me.
And if I say I did it, and I didn't do it, you will believe me.
And I'm not gonna say a word.
Other than what the father of your home she couldn't even father of Yakou that's exactly. She couldn't even remember his name. Said
she turned her back. Tura Swati Sato, Sarah, and to say Ubercart Father, and to Omarama and said to sovereign jimmied
one law who was Stein Lila moto seafoam
what a woman is this
beautiful patient, and Allah will help me
about what you are saying about me. And she turned her back.
This is she go and read this is in the Quran. In every commentary of Hadith, if
you will hear this story it's, it's narrated by her.
And then she said well, why I never thought, Look at this. I never thought I am she worthy in the sight of Allah, that he will send the Quran to be recited till the end of the time
to tell me I am innocent.
And then immediately, that cage of slaughter nor in Alladhina jar or the left key or spa two min con la Tassadar, who shot one La Belle who were higher
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will lead you to Allah Kibera whom in LA who had been Ali
and she said I could see also Ali salatu salam Quran is being revealed, because he changed. And you know, what's happens to him? When Quran was revealed?
And then he starts smiling.
And he looked at her and he said, know that the meaning of your innocence came from the, from Allah from the heavens. Everybody is happy, right? Wait,
the impact is not done yet.
The best is to the last. So her father and her mother
call me get up. Go to Russia risotto Sarah.
She said no.
I am only gonna thank the one who send my innocence. So Allah
Where are you from that example.
Woman 2020 to live in the United States. Live in California. Educated. You have everything. Where are you from this.
What is the difference between me you all of us and say die.
Don't tell me she's the wife of Roswaal he saw to a sinner. She was tested. Because she was the wife of our Swati Sato so
what is the difference?
I need to hear it and I want you to think
how can I be
like the finger of Sita?
You know what
It's not because they don't let women go to the masjid. And I have my own opinion about that. And I'm one of the people who says, Let them now massage the law in that time now email Allah He misses you don't don't prevent the servant of Allah the she servant of Allah from the houses of Allah. But that's not the issue. The issue is not the masjid believe me.
The Masjid is not because of lack of education, believe me.
You know, what's the issue?
It's my neffs it's mean.
Everything is way more. I say this to me. I'm talking to me not to you. Everything in this life is more important than him.
I think of everyone else first. And then him.
I only think of him when
I need him
to her raffia life or a hot daddy for coffee she
know a lot of time of adversity. He will know you a time off. No, I'm sorry. Learn about Allah and turn to Allah at time of prosperity. He will know you a time of adversity. That's a Seder.
Do you know about Todd Are you better?
Better actor for sure
how long? A man came? Of course he was a *y her she was knowledgeable. You all know that? So a man came to ask a question what her time during the day.
And then she found her?
Praying. What? To recap.
He was waiting
Because you're still playing another 19 to him and says, Oh, you're waiting for her to finish. Go and do whatever you need to do. And come back. She may be finished.
How long is your solder?
If you pray
five times a day. How long is your DUA?
How long is your reading the Quran?
And how long you spend time on the WhatsApp.
Social media in the kitchen. It's painful. It's so painful, young and old and I'm not speaking to the young. I'm speaking to everybody.
The best. The best. Is that woman who I heard that from a young girl 20 years ago, we were in a stomach conference. We were in line asking the chef.
She looked at him and says yeah, she I heard this.
I have decided to go to Jana.
Chapin a law I was like what?
You know, what do we normally decide? I am going to go to medical school. I am going to move. I'm going to buy a house. I am going to have another baby. I am going to you know this is how we decide this is major decisions and and I looked announced like
what made her
put this goal. I haven't seen I actually saw only her back. I don't even know how she looks like but I can tell she is young, young, young, maybe 17 1819.
How many of us your goal. Your goal is Jana.
I should have asked you before I said this
Minami la sala
min daiquiri now on winter wahome mean for hola como una Jana. Your own if you have your ad said
whomsoever does a good deed, man and a woman. Why do you worry about it?
Why do you worry about it and you waste your energy and think about it. He said it. Read your aura, the current our own
man and a woman but you need to do the first part.
Miami Dasani. wahome what me and you you're a believer, not a believer.
I believe in Allah and the first test Allah gives you good or bad by the way, good or bad. You are praying for your son to get married. You're praying for your daughter to get married. And Allah spawn Tada send exactly your dua you did on the night of other Allah send it. The first thing you do is what?
You throw this wedding
With every disobedience of
every disobedience of him
and you want to be the best
and our inner Siddartha Llahi are the
adaptiveness that author Llahi Jana
what Allah has very expensive to very expensive to very hard.
That's the best. That's the best. You want to be the best darts the best. You want to talk about equality. I don't like this word. It annoys me. Honestly, I always was like, Why do you think why do I need to care about this? He said it in an Muslimeen well Muslim and one more meaning while not me, not right. Well, Harsha. Aina one Harsha was saw the cleaner was saw the Earth. Wasabi Rena, wasabi rot. While Mutasa, Thien one Mutasa, the path was saw a mean or saw him out what happened you know food your home will die. What have you enough all your home? What have you bought with that? Karina LA, Kathy Iran. Was that accurate? What will happen? At the La Hudong? Mafia rotten? What I've done
Alima every description and I'm going to go through it, because that's the best.
This is the bust.
Muslim true Muslim men and woman.
Believer, man and woman.
surrender to Allah men and woman.
Patient men and woman,
truthful men and woman.
slightly, slightly mean fasting. Ramadan is coming men and woman, charity, men and women.
Guard your private part and not necessarily on your private part. Everything else gets to that direction. God that men and women.
Yes, he does need to lower her gaze. But you need to lower your gaze first.
I have a long time ago. I get very irritated from blaming others.
This is not Islam.
It's always me number one.
He's looking at me you lower your gaze
Don't look at him says you lower your gaze. You lower your case.
And show him by action. You're the Muslim woman.
Was that Corinne? Allah Kathira they remember ALLAH, ALLAH a lot. Where is your clicker? Two minutes after Salah we couldn't sit two minutes.
And you told me you want to be the best. And I need to go to the masjid while here do you want
hamdulillah Masjid is very welcoming, beautiful, beautiful woman education all
where are you?
Don't blame anyone as a shapefile said that this is one of the powerful verses in the Quran. So to Brahim
llama the llama. Allah Shea upon
the meaning of Atlanta. No more emphasis. That's Hello, morning. We will move on to soccer. Don't blame me. Shaitan is going to talk on Day of Judgment. He's going to look at you and mean says Don't blame me. Blame yourself.
Mack and idiotic comments Hold on. I had no power over you.
Except the How to come I called you twisted up to marry. You answered.
Don't pray this whole time. You said yes.
Let's keep looking at the social media of all the harm. You said yes.
Right. Don't put your head up. You said yes.
Let's do this. You said yes.
Molly at Eco muscle pond. I've no no control over you Illa and TAO to confess that Yep, totally. I called you your answer for lots of money Don't blame me. Blame yourself. Man I'll be more significant. I will not come to your muskie warmer and to be more scruffy and you will not help me.
You want to be that person?
Can I afford it?
Do I have an answer?
Let me give you an I will end up with this some examples. And you and you just look at yourself. And there's a book called swift
To software, a special of the special and there is a whole volume about men and a volume about woman.
And the volume of our two men half of it have no names. And some of them men side has no names they call to albida arboreta you know what? She or she? So let's look at some of them. Some of them has names and some are not. And this is a woman
said the following. And she were all she said.
I am so surprised. This is a woman.
I'm so surprised that and I can sleep and knows there is a long sleep waiting for her.
What make you say this? What make you say this? This is not something comes you read. This is not something you think of? This is something you feel
and you ponder and you live that you cannot
but think this way. This is a woman Her focus is
Her focus is
I'm going to meet Allah spawn dad. I'm going to be there on a camera with TOEFL all the other this evening. Allah said this assaulted me know how long you lived in this life.
We're going to be asked
and we're going to say Coronavirus, Nyoman obado. Facility la de and we will say y'all we live the day or two. Ask those who are counting
color in libitum Illa Karina, and they'll come to Talia moon, you stayed a little with a time but you didn't know.
Focus. You want to be the best.
You want to worship Allah. You want success in this dunya you want success in the hara, don't waste your energy about everything else. Focus on him. And him only those of you who were studying with us and the year of knowledge, they had heard this statement from me probably I think now we are 1,000th time. And I always say this, and I say this to myself before anyone, everything. Everything you do you say? You don't do? You don't say has to go through the circle.
And this circle is ALLAH
Is he okay with it? Is he happy with it? Then go? If he is not, the answer is no. Even if this whole world will say yes, then you are the best. Then you are Seda Asia.
Then when Allah test two, you will respond a lot and Mustang, Moto moto C four, and a lot will help me.
And when you talk about Sainte Marie, when I was listening to it beautifully said, You know what came to my mind?
Why did Allah choose?
The verse that was shared with you was an idea Imran but if you read the page before,
if you read the page before before Allah says yeah, Maria Morin. Allah has to follow what the hurricane was to focus on. And he said to me, before Allah told Marian, you've chosen
What did he see the PG before?
Cool Nima the holiday has a Korean marhaba Would you die in the horoscope? Every time Satan as a courier, enter enter where were watching TV on her WhatsApp talking with her friends shopping. It's not it's not funny, it's painful. You know why? Because I want to be like C de Maria. But I want the end.
I don't want to go through the path.
I want to be like C Dasha.
And I think it's the other people.
Problem is the other people putting me this. No, I don't want to go through that path. I want a quick result.
I don't want to get up at three o'clock in the morning stand on my feet and do two hours of pm. So Allah looks at me and says stuff I took. I choose to love but I can do three hours on the internet chatting going through.
So the best is the examples you heard all day to day. But the question has to be what do I need to do in this day and age to be them to get that resolved. And I will end up with this and I
remind myself of this verse almost daily, if not more. Well, Adina. jarhead Rufina, and that the unknown sabudana or in Allah, Allah Mahan, Mycenae.
Those who struggled, look at the word, jihad, Allah He was jihad. It's not about fighting. There's no word here Jahad struggled Sheena for more than that the unknown sabudana he will take you guide you don't worry. Allah Allah the regular hate No. And I said that by his name. If I was a senior Marine, and you were say to hi insha Allah he'll masajid will be open to us. It would we will have a lot of beautiful places. You know why? Because he will make it happen.
But he wants to see to me first. I wanted and I'm ready to work for it. And I'm ready to give up things for him. You do that? As she is a wonders Allah will show you but you want to be in your comfort zone. And you don't want to be different as beautifully you heard what difference is mean I lived it also. When you are the only woman the only the only and I'm sure you lived up to the only the only woman in that room looks this way the only woman in that room doesn't speak this way the only woman in that room and I kept on saying all bipedal robot.
You know what that what I just said? Jalisco Mareeba will say I will do it. astound came as a stranger and will come back as a stranger. Look around you. Aren't we strangers? And what did he say to you and me and every stranger? Oh, by the way Raba it's a place in Jannah Don't you want to be that person?
Why do you worry?
Why do you waste your energy?
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