Envy Series – Episode 02 – Diagnosing Feelings of Hasad and Their Ill Effects on Yourself

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Do not be envious of one another, do not cut ties with one another, do not hate one another, and do not turn away from one another, oh, worshipers of Allah be brothers. Now, there is another type of emotion that human beings feel that is, in some ways related to hazard, but it's actually completely different. And it's not a blame worthy

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feeling, it's not a blame worthy emotion. And that is krypter krypter. Now, if that actually is a positive thing, because what it really means is that you look at somebody a blessing that somebody has, or you look at the state of somebody, and

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you regard him with an envious emulation. In other words, you you wish that you had that blessing.

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Okay, you wish that Allah subhanaw taala gave you that blessing, a blessing similar to that.

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But you don't wish for that blessing to be removed from the person who has that blessing. So you see, you don't have you don't have any ill will towards the person who you see has got that blessing. However, you do have the desire in your heart to have a blessing similar to that or the same as that. Okay? And that's not a blame worthy emotion. And that's not a that's not a disease of the heart, that's called ellipta has said on the other hand, the essence of it is to desire to desire that the possessor loses the blessing that

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the person is envying. Okay, so what are some of the dangers

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of hazard? What are some of the dangers of hazard? hazard is almost like a cancer.

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Okay?

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It leads to hatred, it leads to a lack of sisterhood. It leads to animosity leads to ill feelings, and it actually causes a person to commit lots and lots of sins. Lots of sense.

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About hooray rah, rah, the Allahu anhu reported that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that he said, envy, eats away good deeds, like fire eats away wood.

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And he also sat alongside and said, The thing I fear most for my own is that they come to be an abundance of wealth among them. And this leads to them being

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envious of one another, and fighting one another. So this is what the prophet sallallahu wasallam feared for us, that we would become so engrossed in this world, that we would start competing with one another, and being jealous of one another, and envious of one another. The whole set of beliefs towards Adam, look at the huge

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sin that it caused, it leads to fall into the sin of arrogance and pride.

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And disobeying Allah, and then enmity towards human beings until the end of time. All of this was caused by hassard. Look at the way of kaabil, he couldn't hold himself back and he killed for the first time on Earth, due to hasip. Look at the way the brothers of use of any salon became so heartless, because of hasip. And put him down the well, all of these really illustrate to us the dangers of hazard. The real problem with hazard, the essence of the problem with this emotion, and this disease of the heart, is that when we are envious of somebody, what we're actually doing is we are doubting the wisdom of Allah, and we're questioning his decision, because who's the one who gave

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that person that blessing? So whether it's the blessing of beauty, you know, if somebody is more beautiful than you are, or if somebody has more money than you have, or it could be anything, if somebody has more knowledge than you have, somebody seems to be happier than you. Somebody seems to somebody has seems to have a better family than you.

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Whatever it is,

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by having a hazard and by indulging in that envy. What a person is ultimately doing is questioning the decision of a lot because all of those things and everything that that person has, is ultimately from Allah subhanaw taala.

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Okay, he's the one who chooses, you know who to favor. A lot of

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pelota Allah created the whole world and he chose Mecca as a special place on Earth. A lot of Allah created the months of the year, and he chose Ramadan as a special month. And in Ramadan, he chose loads of other as a special day. And amongst human beings, he chose certain men to be the prophets.

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And he chose certain people to be the companions of the prophets. So Allah subhanaw taala, the in at the end of the day is the one who decides these things, right? And so when a person indulges in envy, what they're really doing is questioning a lot.

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So, as a poet once said, Yeah, how's it an allen MIT and 30 alarm and set aside a lie, he hooked me, like a neck lm turbo Li ma hub? That,

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oh, you who envies the blessing that I have?

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Do you know whom you have wronged. You have wronged Allah for his decision by not being pleased with the gift he has given? So let's look at some of the causes of envy. Okay, what are some of the things that cause envy.

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And this is I don't want you to think you know, that.

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Envy is not something natural, it is something natural, it can happen to anyone at any time we see it right from childhood, right? You see your children.

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I mean, sibling rivalry is like, one of the most common

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traits that children have, you know, there are whole books written on the subject of sibling rivalry. And, you know, children who don't resolve their feelings of envy towards their siblings

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grow up often to have those enmities in into their adulthood. So, you know, it's really something that comes easily to human beings.

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So, what what are some of the causes of hazard? One of the causes of hazard is, when a person dislikes somebody else, or has enmity towards somebody, then, you know, they, if they indulge in those feelings, and those thoughts, what happens is that person might start thinking about the blessings that that person has, right. So, you know, a person doesn't get on with somebody, or they just feel a certain level of animosity towards someone. And then because they think about that person so much, they start having

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negative thoughts, they start thinking about the blessings that that person has, and wishing that that person did not have those blessings. Right. So one of the causes is enmity and hatred. Another cause is pride and arrogance. Okay, when a person sees themselves as being better than other people, right, and they see that that person has a blessing that they don't have.

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And they think to themselves, well, How come he's got that blessing, or she's got that blessing, and I haven't, I deserve that blessing more than that person does. Obviously, nobody actually says that. However, that's, that's basically the meaning of, of the feeling that they're feeling, right. And this is similar to the way in which which the Quraysh the tribe of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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at the time of the Prophet.

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They,

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they were arrogant. And they said, to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, why wasn't this Quran? Oh, if only this Quran was sent down to a man from one of the two great cities, right? So they were questioning, you know, who is

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how could this orphan boy, this this man, we used to know as an orphan, okay, grow up to become our leader. We can't accept that. We want some of the chiefs of Quraysh from Makkah, and by the two cities to be our leader. So because of the pride and arrogance that they had, it led them to reject the message of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And ultimately, it would have led to them to the fire of help.

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So in other words, they harm themselves. However, the cause of that hazard was pride and arrogance.

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Also, low self esteem can be a cause of hazard. You know, when you have a poverty mindset, when you feel that there's not enough blessings to go around.

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Then

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what you start thinking is, well, that person has that blessing. And it's as if you think

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There are not enough blessings to go around. Right?

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Or it makes you feel inferior to see somebody else have a blessing that you don't have, it makes you feel inferior in some way.

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Right. And this is probably due to some kind of, you know, underlying low self esteem.

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You feel that your significance is lessened or compromised when somebody else has something that you don't have. Okay? And so this inferiority, the sense of inferiority leads a person to desire the blessing that the other person has and wish for it to be removed from that person.

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Another cause of hazard could be

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that a person is kind of astonished, astonished and amazed that others have something that they don't have. So they didn't expect somebody to have a certain blessing. And when they see it, they're like, really, really shocked and surprised.

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Okay.

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And this is similar to the feeling that the people of Pharaoh or Pharaoh had towards Musashi Salaam and Harun when they were sent to them. So they said for palu, I don't mean holy Bashar, any michelina, Baku, Mallanna, Hobbit, one should we believe in two human beings who are just like us? And their tribal, their people are our slaves? So you know, they're like, surprised how could? In other words, what they're really saying is, why did God, why did Allah choose them to be our leaders? Why did you choose them to be our Prophet, you know, he should have chosen somebody else's stuff for love, you know, that's the, that's the essence of what they're saying. Another cause of

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envy is fear of losing one's own

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goal goals, you know, the things that one wants to have themselves. Okay. So This usually happens when a number of people are seeking a common goal. So for example, you know, siblings compete competing with one another for their parents attention and love, right, or co wives competing with one another to win the heart and attention of the husband, right? Or students even, you know, vying with each other to have a higher status in the eyes of the teacher, right. So this kind of rivalry can cause a person to have a sense of envy towards their fellow rivals, who they see see as their rivals.

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Also, a love of leadership and status can cause

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hazard, right? A person, for example, is very talented in their field. And they're used to being praised a lot, and complimented. Now that person would then maybe find it very difficult. If somebody else who's younger than them, or somebody else who's new on the, you know, the new kid on the block, is now coming and, you know, is discovering new things or contributing to that field in a way that that person hasn't. So they might feel sad, and not like it that other people are praising that person. Right. And again, this This also comes from a from a poverty mentality, right? When you have an when you have an abundance mentality, when you realize that there's enough praise to go

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around, there's enough goodness to go around is that there are enough blessings to go around right, then a person would not feel these emotions or they would control and keep in check these emotions. Another cause of hazard is

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just generally having, having low Eman and having, you know, an impure soul. Okay, when a person is unthankful, when a person doesn't, doesn't recognize the blessings that Allah Subhana Allah has given them, right? Well, like each and every one of us, there's somebody on this earth who has looked at us at some point, and wish they had something that we have, right? But if we're blind to the blessings that we have, and all we see is that people around us have always got better than us. Then we can fall into this hazard, forgetting that Allah Subhana Allah has blessed you with so many things that other people don't have. This is one of the causes of

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