Aisha (RA) – Mother of the Believers #12

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I shall I shall

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I shall I shall

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she was

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peace be upon him. We

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are amazing father

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was Salam ala rasulillah salam

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but surely somebody was certainly hungry what you looked at Emily Cerny, only.

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inshallah, we're just going to wait a few minutes to allow people to,

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to come in.

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While we're waiting,

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just ask everyone How you doing?

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How is everyone?

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Salam Alaikum, salaam and hamdulillah hanging in there, I'm fine.

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I wonder if any of you are students at university, or

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any of these students at university?

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Well, if you are students in university, or if you know any students, please do encourage them to check out an article that I recently wrote.

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Let me get the link.

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And it's called.

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It's called Muslim students

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be a force to be reckoned with.

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And it's kind of like advice for students, I'd say I'm

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about to post it.

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It's like advice for students, especially those who are starting uni for the first time but even you know, generally for students about life at university, how to survive it, and

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how we as Muslims should be thinking about that space, you know.

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So, hopefully, it will be useful for students especially to get in the right mindset as Muslims, so please do forward it and

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send it to anyone you know, who is a student or any student groups that you know, inshallah, inshallah, today we're going to,

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we're going to look a little bit closer at,

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you know, the revelation of hijab, right, especially with regards to Martin what minion and then we're going to look at charlo delanda. And some of the incidents that happened with her and to the other wives of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. And one in particular, which was, which culminated in the profits on the line, when was lm giving his wives the choice as to whether they wanted to stay being his wives or not? So it's quite a serious situation, obviously, right. Um, so just to make clear, before we start, so last time, I think, we did touch on some aspects of it, that one has attitude towards the hijab, etc. And of course, you know, as we would expect from one of the

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mothers of believers, she was very careful with regards to who would enter her house. She wasn't even to the point where she was, you know, worried when her foster uncle was going to enter right. And she would ask the prophets on permission, etc.

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One of the questions that came up last week and somebody mentioned a narration right, also called narration that apparently that are his shirt or the line her that they asked Is it true that I should have been on I used to put

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finger in her mouth to change the sound of her voice when answering questions

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to men, you know, like men came and asked questions, you put a finger in your mouth to distort her voice or something like this. And actually, you know, this narration is not not authentic.

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So some of the things that scholars have said about this topic about the woman's voice being our, the woman's voice is not older in principle, okay? Because women, so when we say, Oh, we mean, you know, something that should be covered, right? So the old eyes, literally, it's your nakedness, right? It's literally, you know, so when we say you should cover your aura, for those, you know, some people who might be new Muslims or people who don't know the lingo, our is basically, you know, your nakedness, right? Or something that should be covered. So

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some people they raise this question, you know, is the voice of a woman older? So it's the voice of a woman something that could obviously be attractive? And hence, Should she hide her voice right, in public? Or should she distort it?

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And the fact is that you can see very clearly that women used to come to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam asked him questions directly. You know, in the narration, there are integrations where, you know, Omar will be giving a speech when he was halifa. And a woman would stand up and

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say something, right, like, challenge something that he said, right? So all of that kind of shows you that,

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you know, the voice was, is not older, the voice, the voice is louder.

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And,

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you know, they would greet non Muharram men with salons, and the men would return the greeting. And nobody denounced them for that. Now, there's no evidence that Oh, you shouldn't have spoken shouldn't have said this, nothing like that.

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The only thing is in solid, when a woman is to correct a mistake that has been made, or she needs to alert people, you know, that your mom was with something, then she would she would not speak. Right, she should not say anything like she would, they would clap, okay, that's in the solar.

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And otherwise, also, as a general rule, we're encouraged as women or we're commanded in the Quran, not to soften our voices, but to soften our voices and make them alluring. So we all know, you know, in every society, there's like a convention as to what is considered to be making our voice a voice alluring, or attractive, or, you know,

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especially to the opposite sex, right.

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And so, we should avoid doing that.

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And Allah Subhana, Allah talks about this in the Quran.

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And he said, in sort of zap, which is Surah, number 33. I am number 32. And because of time, you know, I'm very conscious that we've, this is like the 12th session, and we're gonna have like, there are a certain number of sessions I need to finish this class in. So I'm not going to be reading every single ayah you know, in Arabic, I'm just going to read the translation so that the the meaning can be conveyed, right? So that that's kind of as that is the purpose of this class. And

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so in sort of a hazard 33

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is number 32, which I encourage you to look up, right? At some point.

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Allah Subhana, Allah says to the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was to the wives of the Prophet o wives of the Prophet, the only certain Nabhi you are not like any other women.

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If you keep your duty to Allah, then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease should be moved with the desire, but speak in an honorable manner. Okay. So that is the general kind of advice that was given. And as you can see, it's addressing the wives. But it goes for everyone, you know, that you don't make your voice alluring, when you're talking to men speak in a formal manner, right? In a direct formal way. Because women's voices are attractive to men, right. And men's voices can be attractive to women as well. So, you know, when we're interacting with one another, be formal, not soft, not giggly, not you know, all of that kind of stuff, is stuff that we

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should avoid in public. And sometimes it's hard

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To keep to that standard, you know, May Allah forgive us. And I myself, like when I'm giving this class, I'm aware that it's going to probably end up on YouTube. And so, you know, sometimes I might forget to keep myself as formal as possible.

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But, you know, that is how we should be right? May Allah forgive us for our shortcomings.

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So when we're talking to men, if you speak to them in a formal manner, don't giggle and laugh, and, you know, all those kind of things that make make the conversation informal and

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potentially lead to

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desire and attraction developing. Right.

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So that's basically the general rule regarding that. Okay, what about hijab? So there's a difference of opinion, when the verses of regarding hijab were revealed? You know, some scholars say,

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so there's difference of opinion. But I would say, generally, it's pretty much accepted that it was somewhere between the third of each route to the fifth of each row, right?

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Because by the time of the if, which is the cylinder of ai shadowclan, how that, you know, took place during the Battle of Burnham was studied.

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What we do know is that by that time, they were wearing hijab, because I shadowed Glenda in the Hadith. of that incident says that, you know,

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the man who had stayed behind, and

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stuff one, he had seen her previously before, she used to wear hijab, right? So that shows you that she was wearing a job, right? We know that she was wearing Hijab at that incident. So by that time, and that battle is probably took place in the fifth. Okay, yeah.

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Women were wearing Hijab and the waves of the profits or loss on them, were observing a special type of hijab.

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So

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there are, there are differences of opinion regarding the order in which certain verses were revealed, etc. For us, it's not very important to be honest to know that, okay, but from my research, what it seems is okay, and you know,

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I could be wrong about this. So I need to probably do even more research. But from the research that I've done so far, I believe that

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there were verses of the Quran that were revealed that were general that told the believing women, including the wives of the Prophet, sallAllahu, wasallam, to cover right to wear

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femurs and extend their femurs over their bodies, and to cover their whole bodies, basically, right.

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And it's disputed whether that included the face or not, right. And then it seems that later on, slightly later on, an extra level of hijab was

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revealed for the wives of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and that was that they should be actually behind the curtain. Right? So it's not enough that they're just wearing hijab, but they should actually be also behind the physical curtain as well. Right.

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You know, that's what I've concluded, after all, the research that I was able to do. And as I said, there's difference of opinion about, you know, the order in which certain verses were revealed. So, that's why it's a little bit unclear. Exactly. Like, was he job revealed all in one go? Or was it you know, revealed in some kind of stages, just like other, you know, other things

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that were prohibited, they were prohibited in stages?

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It's not very clear, but it seems to me that at first there was a general

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aspect of hijab that was revealed and then, you know,

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so, the, the main verses that were revealed regarding this, so the main two sources are suited to nor and sort of as of right, in certain note we have, which is Surah. Number 24. We have verse 31, in which Allah kind of Allah says, right, he says, unsaved when tell the believing women will call him Amina T,

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to lower their gaze from looking at forbidden things. So before this, unless Allah had told the men to lower their gaze is right,

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and to protect their private parts, and not to show off their Xena, right which is that adornment or beauty

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Except only that which is a parent, okay? And to draw their veils all over their Jube Jube, and that usually is translated as their next, you know, their ears, all of this kind of this front part of the body, right?

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The chest

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and to draw their veils all over their job, and not to reveal that adornment, the beauty except to their husbands or their fathers or their husbands, fathers or their sons, or their husbands sons, or their brothers or their brothers sons, or their sisters, sons or their women,

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or the female slaves who in their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack of vigor, or small children who have no sense

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of feminine sex, and let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment.

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And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, or believers that you may be successful. So in this, if you can see clearly allows for the Allies commanding the believing woman, the Muslim woman,

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to lower their gaze, and, you know, stay away from Xena and not to show their bodies right parts of their body except that which is apparent. So scholars said, you know, that means the eyes are weak, or you know, in the other interpretation can mean the face and the hands.

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etc, right.

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So, this is a general verse and this part that says, you know, let them not stamp their feet, that's an, that's kind of alluding to the fact that, you know, women if they're wearing jewelry, if you're wearing anklets, you know, sometimes anklets, they have the sound kind of jangling sound that they make when you walk in. So not to kind of,

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you know, and this is something that's very sad, but even in our, in our times, today, we see this, that sometimes sisters might be wearing hijab.

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But it's almost like they're so desperate for people to know what they're wearing underneath, right?

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And so it kind of defeats the purpose, right? I mean, actually, nowadays, you even have see through jilbab, see, through clouds, you have

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sometimes the Zener the adornment Allah is telling us to hide, have that on the outside of our clothes. So the jilbab, or the outer garment that Allah tells us to wear,

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you know, on top of that people have beautification and jewelry, and, you know, all sorts of things, right? So you can see that this is not something that Islam is telling us to do at all. And unfortunately, women, you know, we have it in our nature, we like, we want to be attractive, we want our attention, want especially male attention, okay. And so we have to control that, you know, that's something that has to be tempered, it has to be harnessed in the right way, in the Hello way, right? It's nothing wrong with wanting to be attractive and nothing wrong with being beautiful, and liking jewelry and makeup and all of these things, nothing wrong with that. But it has to be done in

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the right place, in that in the right time. Because Allah Subhana Allah is the one who gave us our beauty right? My sister's is the one who made us attractive or he gave us whatever it is that we that is attractive about us, right? So then what does that mean? It means that we should use that in the way that he has made it legal right in the way that he has made Hello, not in a harem way. And so in this ayah Allah is saying, you know, don't stomp your feet so that people can know, oh, she's wearing a lot of jewelry, you know, and that in itself makes a person attractive, right? So we should also not do anything that kind of excites people's attention as to what we might be wearing

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or we might be you know, hiding underneath our garments, etc.

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So there's a hadith here in which

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I shouted the lone hat said

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when these words were revealed, right and draw their veils over their jewel, while the other hypnotic humare analogy you begin, right.

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They took their garments and tore them from the edges and covered their faces with them. Okay. So this is one direction that especially scholars used to say, you know, that the faces

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cluded in

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the covering here, right?

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In the meaning of jujube.

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And this is from, say hello Buhari.

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And in another narration, she says may Allah have mercy on the Mahajan, women. So Mahajan, women are the immigrants right though who came from Africa. When Allah revealed the words and to draw their veils over their job.

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They tore the thickest part of their garment

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and covered their faces with them. It seems to be some special kind of government that they had an extra government. And they use that to cover themselves with

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and they've been hedger says, in fact, one body when he's described when he is reporting this and talking about this,

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he says,

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there's an aeration of

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a lady called Sophia.

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And in this report, she says, We mentioned the women of Quraysh, and their virtues in the presence of Asia and she said, the women of Croatia good, but by Allah, I've never seen any better than the women of unserved or any who believed the book of Allah more strongly or had more faith in the revelation, when Sora to more was revealed and to draw their veils over their job. Their menfolk came to them and recited to them what had been revealed. And there was not one woman amongst them, who did not go to her apron is translated as apron, seems like some kind of government that they used to have a home. Right. And the following morning, they prayed wrapped up as if there were

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clothes on their heads.

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And

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yeah, so, you know, as I said, some of the scholars use this to say that, you know, the women used to cover their faces.

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And in certain

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Allah Subhana dialer, in number 59, he says, Yeah, you have to be a prophet and tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their

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jollibee What is gela beep

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over their bodies, right?

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That will be better, so that they will be known, recognized, and not molested or annoyed. And Allah is Ever offered, forgiving, Most Merciful. So this is the ayah in which a lot of Allah tells the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam and the wives tell his wives, and then his daughters and the women of the believers, in other words, all the Muslim women

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to cover themselves with some kind of out of government, and they go out. Okay, so probably in that time, it would have been something similar to what you know, women in Iran were like, some kind of childhood type thing, right? You wrap yourself up

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when you go out, right.

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But obviously, like the scholars of Islam talk about that. And they say it's, there are certain conditions that need to be met for that outer garment should be loose, it shouldn't be see through it should be, should cover everything. And according to some except the face and hands, according to others, including the face enhance

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and that it should be, shouldn't be see through I think I mentioned that and it shouldn't be a beautification in and of itself, right? So it's something that covers your normal clothes. And that's what Allah Allah tells the believing women to do.

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So if those conditions are met, and then inshallah that is considered to be jilbab, right, would you like to Labib is the plural of jilbab. And so this became a general rule for all the Muslims so you can imagine before this, you know,

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the woman would have had various levels of dress, you know,

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usually head dress was part of the clothing of the women of that time, it seems right. But they would usually leave this whole area open right? So the front their necks and etc, opens and had something on their head, right? Some kind of KMR some kind of covering, but they would keep this whole area open. So what the Quran did was say no

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This all this needs to be covered as well right the neck, etc. The years and all of that.

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So, I have a narration here.

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It was narrated for my shot of the Lana that the wives of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. You used to go out at night to luminesce place, to

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Manasa to relieve themselves. And Omar

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used to say to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, let your wives be veiled,

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but the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not do that. And then one night so that Benzema, the wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went out at a short time and she was a tall woman. Omar called out to her we have recognized you also that I'm hoping that hijab would be revealed. And then Allah revealed the verse of hijab and this is in Bukhari and Muslim in another generation.

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That said, I am the most knowledgeable of people about her job.

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Well, babe in cab used to ask me about it on the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married Zainab bint jahsh, whom he married in Medina. He invited the people to a meal after the sun had risen. The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sat down, and some men sat around him, after the people had left, until the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam stood up and walked a while and I walked with Him

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until he reached the door of his apartment, and then he thought that they had left so he went back and I went back with him and they were still sitting there. He went back again, I went with him until he reached the door about issues apartment, and then he came back and I came back with him and they had left then he drew a curtain between me and him.

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And

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the verse of hijab was revealed, okay, so, this isn't Bukhari and Muslim. So at some point,

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women began to cover run, they went out and then at another point, it seems that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam also and it was revealed in the Quran that there should also be an extra level of hijab for the wives of the profits and loss and and such that there should be a curtain between them and anyone who wants to visit anyone who wants to speak to them etc.

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Again, inserted a HAZOP I am number 53. Allah Subhana dialer says, Oh you believe and to not the prophets houses, unless permission is given to you for a meal.

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And then not so early as to wait for its preparation, but when you are invited into and when you have taken your meal disperse without sitting for a talk, very early such behavior annoys or you know, is

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kind of just discomfort, discomfort is brings discomfort to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam and he is shy of asking you to leave. But Allah is not shy of telling you the truth. And when you ask his wives for anything, you want ask them from behind their Hey job, this is this is where the word hijab comes in. Right? I mean, what IE hijab in and then Allah says, and it is

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not right for you that you should annoy Allah's Messenger law that you should ever marry his wives after him.

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Verily with a life that shall be an enormity. So in this ayah you can see Allah Subhana Allah is telling people and you can just imagine like, so many people used to visit Rasul Allah, Allah, whatever seller needs to stay behind the stuff. And sometimes people you know, they weren't very, they didn't really think much that you know, it can become overwhelming that people want to sit and talk and ask questions. And so, last panatela, on behalf of the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam was teaching the believers you know, that this is not something this is not the right Adam, for you to have. And so here we see a lot of Allah is saying, when you ask his wives for anything asked from

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behind the hijab behind a screen,

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and also that after the death of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it would not be lawful for anyone to marry any of his wives. Okay, so obviously before that,

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The profits and losses from some of his wives work had been married before, right. But it's after his death that they were

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nobody was allowed to marry them.

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So, Pamela

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So,

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and there are some other, you know, special rulings for the wives of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam that we should be aware of like.

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So in again in certain

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i is number 30, I would say 28 to 34.

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Allah Subhana dialer says, Oh Prophet, say to your wives, if you should desire the worldly life, and its adornment, then come, I will provide for you and give you a gracious release. But if you should desire Allah and His messenger and the home of the Hereafter, then Indeed Allah has prepared for the doers of good among you a great reward. A wives of the Prophet, whoever Have you should commit an immorality. For her the punishment would be doubled to fold and ever is that for Allah easy, and whoever Have you devoutly obeys Allah and His messenger and does righteousness, we will give her reward twice. And we have prepared for her noble provision, a wives of the Prophet you are not like

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anyone among women. If you fear Allah, then do not be soft in speech to men, lest he in whose heart is a disease should cover it. But speak with appropriate speech and abide in your houses and do not display yourselves as was the display of the time of Jamia of ignorance

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and established prayer and gives oka and obey Allah and His messenger. Allah intends only to remove from you the impurity of sin, people of the prophets household

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and to purify you with extensive purification. And remember what is recited in your houses of the verses of a lot and wisdom. And this is hikma right and the scholars of Assam said the hikma mentioned is the Sunnah.

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Indeed, Allah is Ever subtle and acquainted with all things. So in these verses, you know, we don't have time to really go into a lot of detail, but you can see that Allah, Allah is holding the wives up to a higher standard, right? And this is because, you know, one of the reasons is that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam chose to live a very frugal life. Right? And they had to live that kind of tough life, a life where, first of all, they were at the service of the people, right, you know, with their constant demands, questions, etc. But also, you know, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he was given the choice, he was given a choice. Last Canada, Allah sent an angel to give the

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the choice between being a king, and a prophet,

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a king and a prophet, or a servant,

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and the messenger, so he could be he had been given the choice of being a king, wealthy person, a very wealthy person, with

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only the status of prophethood. And we know that the status of Prophet with is lower than the status of being a soul, right? A messenger or he had, he could choose being a messenger

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and be a slave of Allah, meaning that he would live a simple life. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had chosen to be a little soul and the

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right, not the king who was going to be a prophet.

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And because of that, and ever since the Prophet sallallahu, wasallam was given that choice, he became very, very

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careful with regards to worldly things and material things, right. And he purposefully lived very simply. And you can imagine that around them around the, you know, the Muslim community and as time went by, people had started to become wealthier, right, especially as certain battles took place later on. You know, there was war booty that would come in to Medina and you know, the general

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level of living the standard of living had improved for most people. And it seems that, you know, the prophets, Allah, Allah when it was said and had still tried to keep his, his standard of living very, very simple. And so this was quite hard for the wives, right. And we'll see that they some of them even, you know, they they were requesting that the Prophet sallallahu seller,

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live a bit more of a nanny, not luxurious, but the highest standard of living, right. And we will look at that in a moment. But you can see here that lots of panel data is telling the wives clearly that you will not like other women, you know,

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you have a higher status, but with that comes a you know, a higher sense of responsibility, if you send you will get more punishment for that sin or more accountability for that sin. And but conversely, if you do good, you will get even more, you know, than the average person would for that.

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So, some handle, you can see that it was a huge responsibility, right? Must have been very difficult to be in that position.

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And the last time that Allah is speaking directly to them in these verses,

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so we just look at the time. Yep.

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So the profits are a lot what do you send them had, you know, many wives,

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as we know, Khadija or Dylan how when he was with her, she was his only wife. Then when she passed away, he married so that and Ayesha, right. So Don Ayesha,

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and then hafsa, who is the daughter of Momo, in a hot tub.

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And then and she was a widow, right? And Xena bento zema. He married San Jose Emma, but, you know, she passed away within a few months. He married on the selama

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he married Julia Vinton Harris. Okay, who basically after the Battle of Mr. Alec was a prisoner of war and then you know, the profits are low and send them off or to free her and marry her. But she did. Okay. So that same battle, you know, we mentioned

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some of the things that I mean, we are going to mention, you know, the,

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the solando by Usha Atlanta, it was it happened after this same battle.

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And so and straight after this battle, the profits are loving son, I'm also married.

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You add up into hurt if, and we can't really go into the stories of each of these ladies because of time. Yeah. But we were just mentioning them so that we have an idea of who the other wives were right.

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And he married her around the fifth or sixth year. So in other words, the time of the battle have been when was the lip.

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Zainab bint jash she was his cousin. The profits are low, and he was sometimes cousin. Right. And the wife, the ex wife of his

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adopted son, right. And then obviously, Allah made it clear that doctored signs are not real sons. So, you know, it's not the same as you know, his wife is still held for the believers, right. And

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also he married or Habiba, who is the daughter of Abu Sophia.

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Right?

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The famous novel Sophia,

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and me more enough mental hurt if Sophia didn't create enough dub.

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And

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some of the scholars say Rihanna

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as well I think I've covered everyone and Maria,

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Maria Katya. But that Maria and Rihanna were slaves, not wives. That's what some of the scholars say. So, over, you know, the course of So initially, the profits or loss on ammonia had sold out in Asia and then over the course of the next years until his death, from about the

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second year, he God onwards, or second, two and a half years after, he began to marry other wives as well. And each of these wives You know, when you look into their stories, you can see that

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you know, apart from

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fact that the profits or loss on wanted to marry them, you know,

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there were also other benefits or other

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reasons, you know, you could say. So, for example, you know, also fiancee, daughter, obviously that would soften Josephine's heart towards the profits and allow whatever was on him, right?

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God I've been to her if she, his marriage to her caused a whole tribe to embrace Islam, including her father, right. So there were, there were lots of kind of benefits to the different various marriages.

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And so, obviously, in a situation like that, where the Prophet sallallahu, Alayhi, wasallam has a number of wives, and there is going to be some, there are going to be ups and downs, right, there are going to be ups and downs that come from that situation.

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And so there were some incidents that took place, I'm just going to mention a few of them.

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So I want to highlight first, that, obviously, you know what, there's so many integrations that I could go into, but because of time we won't, about all of the wonderful experiences that I should have the law, or the law one had with the profits of the law when he was alone, you know, and they're just each of them, you could spend the whole session kind of talking about like, how, you know, what they kind of show about the specialness of their relationship, etc, etc. So I don't want these incidents, I'm going to mention now to kind of overshadow the overall positive marriage and relationship that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam had with his wives. Yeah, I want that to be

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kind of clear.

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But we're gonna highlight these, because they are ones that were mentioned, where they have some significance in the Sierra, or they're at least even, you know, it's referenced in the Quran in some way, some of them. So

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it's good for us to kind of acknowledge them. And to understand, I think that,

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you know, all of these great women and all of the Sahaba, right, they were human beings who had a human experience, and they were doing their best, right. But they were not, like, immune, right? They were not immune to having human emotions, right, like jealousy is

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like that sense of competition that you have, you know, with others, vying for attention of your spouse, right? Things like that, you know, they were not people who are immune to those human, very human emotions, and them having those human emotions doesn't take away from their status.

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Because so Pamela, wouldn't you agree that if there is something that you find easy, and there's no kind of struggle there, right, there's no struggle. So if, for example, if I find it easy to pray, I find it easy to fast, it doesn't have any impact on me at all. That's not the same as somebody who is struggling, right? Somebody who has to put a lot of effort into

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praying and fasting right there, obviously, they've, they've got more of a struggle, and hence, lots of Allah will reward them for that.

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So what we all have to, I think, acknowledge and realize as Muslims is,

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throughout life, we're going to have difficult times we're going to have difficult emotions that we have to deal with difficult situations, difficult people

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might have crises, we might have times when your mind is not at its peak. Right. And though, there'll be times we'll make mistakes, and we'll really regret those mistakes.

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But one of the things that I really admire and learn from Ayesha, or the law is that she didn't allow any mistake of hers, right? To prevent her from carrying on, you know, she would adjust her behavior and she would carry on in another like doing other things right.

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And sometimes, you know, what can happen with us is if we make a mistake, we beat ourselves up so bad so much you know, we're like, I that's it. I'm not going to do anything now. You know, I'm not going to I don't deserve to do anything. I just don't have any status. There's no point in me doing anything because I you know, you start doubting your own judgment, etc. But you can see from I shut up, Dylan has

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That she, instead of that, when she was given the truth in black and white, or she was ever given a choice to just take the right choice and move on with a life, I

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think we can learn a lot from that. Right.

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So one of the incidents that took place

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and you know, this is natural is anyone who has more than one wife, anyone who has more than one child, right? is going to notice a certain level of rivalry between them, right?

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Um, it has been authentic neither rated on the authority of Ayesha Atlanta, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam prohibited himself from drinking honey to please his wives.

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Okay, so this is the incident that is mentioned in terms of the hareem.

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And

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so basically,

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one of the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam zeyneb

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she used to serve the Prophet sallallahu wasallam a special drink, right, that she knew how to make. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam obviously enjoyed that drink. And it says here that I shut and have so upset that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would spend more time with Xena on account of this drink. Right? So, you know, they secretly agreed to pretend to be offended by the smell of the drink. Okay.

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So the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam when, when he came to each of them, they kind of expressed that what is that smell, you know, kind of thing. And he realized that this smell, the only thing that was connecting it connecting the smell to any, you know, them smelling it was the fact that he had just recently taken that drink, right? So he thought that, okay, it must be this drink that is causing me not to have a pleasant smell. And we know that the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam was very sensitive about smells, it shows you that you know, as a wife, as a husband, you know, you should take care of things like that you should care about the fact that your breath and you smell

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good, right, and your cleaning, etc. And the Prophet sallallahu wasallam always took great care with regards to smell, right, smelling good, etc. So

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he didn't want to offend his wives. And so he swore an oath that I'm never going to drink that drink again. Okay.

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And Allah subhanaw taala revealed versus telling the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam not to make her arm something that Allah has made halaal for him, right.

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So,

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in another iteration, I shouted it on her

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narrates the Prophet sallallahu Sallam would spend time with his wife saying that

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he would drink a concoction of honey, have son I agreed that whomever the Prophet visited First, we would say, I noticed a strong odor of Mimosa gum on you. The Prophet visited one of them and she said to him, she said this to him. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, I had some honey drink and say, let's house and I will never do it again.

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And that's when the verse was revealed. Why do you forbid yourself from what Allah has made lawful to you in Surah? Number 66, right? I a number one.

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And this hadith in Sahih Muslim

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so you know, you can reflect on this.

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It's kind of funny that I should have done her herself tells us some of these stories, right. And it shows you her honesty, you know, she she was trying to convey everything she's trying to convey the reality of how Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam reacted to things, how they, and you can imagine, you know, she was really young, right at the time. So all of us, I think, when we look back, and our teen years, etc, and she was literally a teenager, probably at the time. And, you know, we look back and we we remember things that we did.

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And in the same way, I should have given her is mentioning something that he you know, took place between her and the other words, and the, I would say the manners, the right manners with which to talk about these matters, you know, especially with regards to the mothers of the believers and the Sahaba, etc.

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It's okay that we're conveying it because these things are in the Hadith. And you know, they help us understand why Allah said certain things in the Quran, right? The context.

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But you know, it's not for us to kind of make judgments and criticize

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the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam about these things, we should just listen, understand, and understand that, you know, they were human beings who made

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sometimes made mistakes, but that they were still the best of human beings. And they did their best to correct those mistakes. Or, you know, Allah subhanaw taala corrected them, etc, etc, right? So, we can see here that I should have been on how she's just conveying. And we can see how the prophet SAW Selim reacted and why this verse was then revealed. Another

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incident that took place was when, once when, you know, analysts reports that when the Prophet sallallaahu, Selim was in the house of one of his wives,

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one of the mothers of the believers sent a meal in a dish.

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And I believe that the wife whose house he was in was Ayesha, right. And the wife who sent the meal was on sanema.

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And so in other words, it was it was day, right. But when Salah sent some food, right to the house, so I should have been unhappy, she felt some jealousy that and she struck the hand of the servant who had brought the dish of food. And so it felt and the dish broke, right? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gathered the broken pieces of the dish, and then started collecting on them, the food which had been in the dish must have been something dry, you know, it's not something like wet or anything like that.

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And he said, you know, your mother has

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felt jealousy. That's all he said. is just to explain it, you know.

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He said a lot more come your mother has felt really, you know, that sense of protective jealousy that a person has.

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And he told us the seven to stay until another

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any dish new dish dish from Ayesha's kitchen if you like or her her belongings was brought and given to that wife in return for the dish that was broken. Right.

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And that's it. That's how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi Salaam dealt with that matter right. So you can see assume Allah sallallahu Sallam also gave some leeway for there to be feelings between his wives, right? And he quickly explained it to the you know, the ns who was there, and he just tried to make amends for that situation right.

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And the next example I'm going to give you is

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interesting, okay.

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And I should have Dylan had tells us about this. She says that the waves of Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Were in two groups. Okay. She says one group consisted of herself right hafsa Sophia and soda, right? And the other group consisted of on the selama and the other wives of Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. The Muslims knew that allowes messenger loved Arusha. So if any of them had a gift and wish to give to Allah as messenger, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he would delay it until I was messenger came to his house. Right. So let me just explain that. So So basically, what I showed her that I was telling us is that there were like two

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could say, two groups that had developed or two kind of cliques and friendships between the wives of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, right. On the one hand, was Ayesha and in her group was have said Sophia, and so that and the other was on selama, and the other wives and the

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Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, he would visit each of his wives to be equal with them, you know,

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he would keep alternating

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and people knew

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Because I was the most beloved to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they just wait until it was his day to be with her. And that's the day when they would send all the gifts. Right? And it could be food, it could be whatever gifts right? They wanted to send, because they just wanted to kind of add to his happiness that he was in a fascist house, right.

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But so what happened?

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The group of onsala discussed the matter together and decided that Anselmo would should request ullas messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to tell the people to send their gifts to him. In whatever wife's house he was in high need that they shouldn't just wait for ashes day, they should give whenever right so that all of the ways get to have the gifts coming to their houses, right.

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Selma told Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam of what they had said, but he did not reply.

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Then they those waves, asked on Salah about it.

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asked on Selma about it. Sorry, I've lost my lost my place. Let me just find it.

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Yeah. Then those wise asked him, send him about it. And she said he did not say anything to me, right?

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So in other words they were using has the representative, right, and to go and petition the Prophet sallallahu Sallam on their behalf, right.

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And he didn't say anything.

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So

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they asked her to talk to him again. She talked to him again, when she met him on her day, but he gave no reply

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to her.

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Okay, don't know what's going on.

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Okay, hope you can all hear me still.

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So they told you to go again, basically, and ask and say to the profits or sell them again, but you know, tell people that not to just wait for each day, but give gifts whatever you want, right?

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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When it was her turn, she talked to him. And this time he said to her,

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do not hurt me regarding Ayesha, in other words, do not,

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you know, kind of prod me with regards to Arusha

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as the divine inspirations do not come to me on any of the beds, any any other bed except that of ashes.

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On that on selama said, I repent to Allah for hurting you. And

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then the group of onsala called fighting. So I'll just explain the second bit. So basically, they're telling on salamina petition, the profits loss alone. And you know, you can see that over time when things like this happen. You can understand, it's just like children, for example.

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And I don't mean little children, I mean, even adult children, right? If they, if they perceive that there's favoritism, right.

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If one child is getting lots and lots of things, and another child isn't, and they do feel something right. Now, in this case, it wasn't the profits or loss, and I'm being unfair with them at all. It was people, people had just cottoned on to the fact that, you know, he was special. And, you know, obviously, she was daughter of abubaker, etc. You know, so maybe they wanted to send things to her house. And, you know, so that

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the prophets are selling would get it while he was there. And she would also benefit from it. And so the other way started noticing this, you know, that no gifts seem to be coming on nowadays, but lots of gifts seem to be coming on Asia's day. And so her their natural sense that, you know, this didn't feel fair. But obviously, this isn't something that is in the profits on a lot of salons hands, is it?

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If people want to give gifts, where it's not really for us to say to people give me a gift on this day or that day, right?

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We shouldn't even be assuming or presuming that people will give us gifts.

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On a side note, you know, this is why it is quite, I would say it's not really good add up. You know, when people when they're having a wedding, for example, when they write on their wedding cards, no box gifts. It's actually technically speaking, it's not very good. Because, first of all, you're assuming people are going to give you gifts and you're kind of saying yeah, we know you're gonna bring a gift.

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But, you know, just don't give me a box to gift.

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And secondly, who are you to tell people to give your money? You're basically saying, Give me money, right?

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And I know that people do it with good intentions, you know, they don't want to have lots of things to store or they don't want things to get wasted, whatever. But actually the correct other is that if people are giving you gifts, first of all, don't assume that people owe you anything. They don't owe you anything. If they want to bring a gift they can. If they don't, then they don't. And secondly, you don't get to specify what kind of gift they should give you, right? What if there's somebody who doesn't have much money, and all they have is something a beautiful thing in their house that they want to give you. You know, if they want, they can give that to you, as a gift. And

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you don't have to accept it in the sense that, of course, you should accept it. What I mean is you don't have to keep it, you can move it, you can give it on to somebody else. There's no compulsion on you to keep it. But this kind of kind of notion of specifying to people the type of gift, you know, it's not permissible, or it's not, it is permissible, but it's not good. It's not good. Right? And we should not do it. I'm very close. Now, I've just seen that that time has run out. And I know that menar has another another class, this comes straight after this class. So I'm going to pause it there. And I'm going to ask you to all hold your thoughts. And I'm also going to try and copy all of

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your comments so that I have them for next time, so that I can answer your questions next time. And

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with that, I'm afraid we're going to end this session, just so that we can end on time. And Joseph Campbell O'Hara and next time we'll carry on with that narration. And we'll talk about the

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the choice that the prophet SAW Selim gave to his wives. And then we may start the

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incident of the if slander of Ayesha, and the benefits and the lessons that we can learn from that. And we'll also talk about jealousy. Now, how do we overcome jealousy? How do we overcome that feeling of envy as well of other people, etc. Right. And, Charlie with that, I will leave you

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