Aisha (RA) – Mother of the Believers #13

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The speaker discusses the importance of living a joyful and simple life, including pursuing Islam and finding a male partner who can use wealth to achieve the status of life that the Prophet wanted. They also mention the possibility of a male partner using wealth to achieve the

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I shall. I shall.

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I shall I shall

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she was

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peace be upon him. We

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are amazing father.

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him in a Shivani regime Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem Allah hamdu Lillah wa salatu wa salam ala rasulillah.

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Sisters Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatu.

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Be sure to us silly somebody watched a lot that I'm really Sani Kohli.

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Can you first? Please tell me if you can all hear me?

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Yes. hamdulillah it's gonna make sure the microphone is close.

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The recording is good in Sharla. Okay, so

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we're right in the middle of ahaadeeth last time, which was about

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the people giving gifts to the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam on the day when he would be visiting Arusha or the olana.

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Before we carry on that today, I'm going to answer a question that was left over from last week, inshallah. Sister asks Salaam Alaikum, what would you recommend when we are teaching our daughters, my daughter is seven years old, and I'm teaching her about modesty.

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We've always bought clothing for her that is modest. I know short pants and dresses, etc. She likes to dress up much more than myself when I was that age. So that's a bit of a struggle for me to relate to her wanting to dress up and her interest in clothing, jewelry, makeup, etc. We are always keen on monitoring what she watches and who are her friends. Except she likes dressing up. But what would be your recommendation for guiding her towards modesty and her dress?

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Well, does that go hand for that question? Um, I mean, I think,

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look, when it comes to things that are Helen, we don't want to put too many

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restrictions and make it too difficult for people, right.

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But when it comes to the boundaries of a lot, we should be fun with regards to those. And it seems like you're already doing that sister. So. So for example, things like, you know, covering the odor in front of the appropriate people

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not walking around skimpily dressed, you know,

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in front of morones she's only seven. So, you know, she's just going to be slowly developing her sense of what's appropriate. But I would say from the age of seven, you would want to in,

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start putting in place certain rules that if you haven't already, things like knocking on the door, you know, whenever you're going to go into a room, you would knock on the door, especially somebody's bedroom.

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And you asked for permission and only when they've given permission you would enter. And obviously, obviously, that's something that we should, we should train both our sons and daughters to do. Okay, with regards to changing clothes in front of people, you know, even with even in front of you, from about the age of,

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I would say seven you do start becoming making them aware that even in front of you, they should be modest. You know, so just because your mum, you might might still be bathing her, etc. Understand, it's not really strict, in that sense, but you want to give her a little bit of sense that, okay, you know, I'm going to turn around, you get changed, you know, just so that she develops that sense.

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That actually, you know, you should not be in a state of undress in front of anyone know, unnecessarily. Um, apart from that when it comes to things like beautification, and I think, you know, it's a good idea to allow them to enjoy that. Allow them to enjoy all of the halaal aspects of that and create the sorts of situations where they could enjoy it in a good way, right?

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So, for example, girls parties, ladies only parties, things like that, get them used to that from that age. But of course, when you're seven, even if there's boys there, it's okay. You know, it's not like a big deal, it's not something you should,

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you know, sometimes we become so harsh, early on, and then it becomes hard to maintain, is better. And, you know, to slowly introduce certain things, especially when they're at the age where it's actually allowed for them, to not wear hijab, for example, be easy regarding that, you know, but maybe just get them habituated to sometimes wearing hijab. So for example, when they're going to read for an, put a job on,

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get them used to seeing us, I think, this is another aspect that's important, if they see us having a healthy relationship between, you know, beautification and hijab. So we are able to beautify ourselves in the appropriate settings, and we are able to wear hijab in the appropriate Settings, then in Charlotte, the transition will be more natural for them. Right.

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And I think you're doing sounds like you're doing a good job, you know, keeping an eye on things, because we don't want our daughters to become obsessed with these things. And especially online, with regards to Instagram, and YouTubers and these types of things, I think that's really important to keep an eye on them. And to help them to,

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to avoid the sorts of personalities and sorts of influences on there, that are not going to be good for them. And also, to reduce their exposure to all the images, right, they are constantly telling them that they're not good enough images that show perfection, airbrushed images, or images that are not even real, a lot of the time that are giving our daughters the message that this is what beauty is, right? Let's I think it's just about getting our kids away from the online space, as much as possible altogether, and getting them to meet real human beings, you know,

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real examples of beautiful people. And they and as you mentioned, you know, who their friends are, is very important as well. So if you can't, if you're, if your daughter doesn't have friends that you know, you think are a good influence, you're going to have to help her find those friends. So sometimes, you know, you might want to invite the sorts of people you'd like her to start getting along with and things like that, you know, we do have to be inventive as mothers, I think, in coaxing and helping our children to find the right group of people to be with, you know, so that they'll have a good

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good environment. Another thing you could also do is have a HELOC or, you know, start to HELOC for girls.

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where, you know, they they're with a core group of girls that they're actually talking about the in and they're learning about them. But then they also maybe have parties sometimes as well, in a huddle way. So those are just some ideas, I think, I think there's not much to worry about. It's just to keep an eye on it and keep it within the boundaries of Hello, Sean Sharla.

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Okay, so we were right in the middle of that Hadith I'm going to carry on.

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I'm going to begin it again I think just for the sake of continuity. So the Hadith is that the wives of Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they were kind of drawn into two groups, they tended towards two groups. One group consisted of Ayesha, Sophia and soda and the other group consisted of Alma Salama

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and the other wives of Allah's Messenger

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. The Muslims knew that Allah's Messenger loved that issue. So if any of them had a gift and wish to give to Allah is messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he would delay it

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till Allah's Messenger had come to Ayesha's home. So, you know, he used to take turns going to each wives house a different night,

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to be equal to between them. So they would just wait till the night when they knew he was going to spend with Ayesha. And that's the day when they used to start sending him gifts.

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The group of oma selama discussed the matter together and decided that almost selama should request

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Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to tell the people to send their gifts to him in whatever wife's house he was in right whichever wife wife's house, he was in

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almost selama told ullas messenger Allah when he was alone of what they had said, but he did not reply. And

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then they are those waves asked on Selim about it. She said, He did not say anything to me. And we mentioned last week, you know, what is the Prophet Prophet sallallahu Sallam supposed to say, you know, at the end of the day is People's Choice when they want to give gifts, right.

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And I think we talked about last week, some of their tickets, or the lack of etiquette that people have nowadays, with regards to gifts.

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he did not say anything to me. They asked her to talk to him again.

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She talked to him again when she met him on her day, but he gave no reply. Then they asked her, she replied that he had given a reply, they said to her, talk to him till he gives you a reply.

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When it was her turn, she talked to him again, He then said to her, so the third time, He then said to her, do not accosted me or do not kind of

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do not hurt me or do not

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say anything to me, against me, with regards to Asia, as the divine inspiration does not come to me on any of the beds, except that of Arusha.

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On that on selama said, I repent to Allah, for hurting you.

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Then the group of them selama called Fatima, the daughter of Allah's Messenger. So let's just recap. So you can see that they kind of trying to petition the prophets a lot when he was alone. But, you know, it just feels so unfair that all the gifts Come on the day when you're with Ayesha, and people are obviously calculating the day and rather than just giving gifts,

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all week round, right?

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And I saw the last last time his reply is quite interesting, because, you know, he's indicating that these types of things they come from Allah, ultimately, right. And he's indicating that look, there is something special about Asia. There's something special about that, because the revelation doesn't come to me except in any of my wife's houses except hers. Those aren't there is something special about her. And so, you know, it could be that this is something from Allah Subhana Allah that He is blessing her to be the one who receives so many gifts, right? And so Subhana Allah, I think, with this hadith with this saying, where the prophets of Allah, Allah explicitly said, This,

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I think I showed the lion has status was concretely established, you know, with the wives of the Prophet sallallaahu it was on him, you can tell that he didn't want to say that he didn't want to kind of be explicit and spell it out. But when the request kept coming again and again and again, that's when he mentioned this to them. And I think you know, when Solomon certainly got the message, right, um,

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but the wives they didn't give up. They thought, okay, let's let's go to Fatima delana. She's somebody who the Prophet sallallahu Sallam has a soft swap for somebody who knows, you know, who has access to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is hot. So they,

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the group of them selama called Fatima.

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De Landa,

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the daughter of Allah's Messenger and sent her to Allah messenger to say to him, your wives request to treat them and the daughter of abubaker on equal terms, and Fatima conveyed the message to him. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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Oh, my daughter, don't you love whom I love. And she replied in the affirmative, and returned and told them of the situation. They requested her to go to him again, but she refused.

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They then sent then a bit judge who went to him and use some harsh words, saying,

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your wives request you to treat them and the daughter of even about even a bit tougher on equal terms on that.

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She raised her voice and castigated it showed to her face so much. That allows messengers to love what he said.

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looked at our issue to see whether she would retort

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our issue of the law and her started replying to Zainab until she silenced her, the profits are low, and it was so long they looked at our T shirt and said, she really is the daughter of a walker.

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so that's the narration of the, of the whole kind of incident. You can see, you know, once again, you know, these ups and downs of marital life, especially when, you know, a husband has multiple wives, that natural sense of rivalry between them did exist, right. And obviously, a Lost Planet, Allah gave the Prophet sallallahu Sallam this situation

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as a test, and also for us to be able to learn from him right from their behavior. Because one of the things, the assisters, that you will notice is that even though there was this heightened sense of rivalry between the wives, right, and even though the Prophet sallallahu Sallam did his best to treat them equally,

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you know, the nature of that kind of marital setup is that you start becoming so sensitive, you start noticing little things that the other person has, above you, right? has over you. It's upon Allah. And,

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and this is something that, you know, Shelton can use to, to cause seeds of division,

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the Soviet panel otherwise of the Prophet sallallahu, wasallam, and Martin, what meaning they were human beings, and they also had feelings, you know, they,

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what they perceive to be unfair, they went and they had the courage to say to the profits are low and sell them, they felt that something was not right. That also shows you the accessibility that they had women had to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, right, of course, as the wives that there was a certain level of, I would say directness, that they could get away with that the average Muslim, it wouldn't be right for the average Muslim to speak, you know, to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam in this way. But it's obvious that some leeway was given to them as wives, you know, because of the sensitive nature of that relationship.

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They could be a little bit more, I would say, direct, right? It also shows you that Fatima Blanca, although she got talked into

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that first approaching the Prophet sallallahu, wasallam, about this great that the wives had. And when she saw that, actually, and I sort of lost on that, what he said, um, you know, he, he's doing his best. And, you know, you know, she, she was she loved Ayesha of the land, and she loved all of the wives, right. And when he settled the matter with her, she didn't go back and insist on it, you know, and that kind of shows you also that, one thing I learned from that is that, you know, sometimes people might try to draw you into a situation,

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and maybe, you know, with good intentions, thinking that you're the right person to speak, or you're the right person to do something on their behalf. But, you know, if it becomes clear to you that actually, they're not necessarily in the right, or that actually, you know, it's not really the right thing for you to get involved in, then it's better to stay out. And you can see that faulty maatregelen hurt soon as she realized that she stayed out and she refused, right, you refuse to then get further involved again, right?

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also shows you the personality of selama that, you know, as soon as the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said to her that, no, don't, don't keep talking to me about it. In this way. She sought refuge from Allah. Right.

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And it shows you that there was actually a heightened level of, I would say, rivalry between the Lana and Xena.

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And, you know, some hot words were said between them.

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Some, you know,

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words that might have been harsh. But the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he didn't like, you can see he didn't try to escalate things. He didn't try and make things worse. He allowed them to have their own little, you know, discussions and arguments if they needed to, without necessarily, you know, getting too involved.

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One of the things I want I like to use sisters and because we're going to mention some other stuff

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Is that, you know, it can start to look as though Subhan Allah, like the wives of the prophets of Allah sort of they had quite a lot of little incidents that happened like this.

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But actually, I want us to bear in mind that, you know, most of the time, things were good. Most of the time things were peaceful, right? It's only because you might notice, you know, when it comes to incidents that are a little bit negative, or a little bit, kind of noticeable. They're the ones that become, they're the ones that end up being written about, right? When things are going well, nobody writes about those things, just like the news even right.

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When there's good news, most of the time, there's good things going on, all over the world. Those things don't really get mentioned, do they? It's when there's something of note something usually negative, that ends up being reported or written about. So I don't want us to think that the majority of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam marital life was this type of turmoil. No, but at the same time, it wasn't all plain sailing, right. And I think that's, you know, something for us to learn from, you know, that he was human, they were human. And they set an example for us that

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in life, we are going to have ups and downs, we are going to experience all sorts of emotions, all sorts of feelings and

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hurts, right? But how should we deal with that? And sometimes we might even make mistakes, how do we make amends? Right? How do we make amends and I want to also point out that the Sahaba, especially at the Chateau de la Unhand, the wives later on, you know, when this when one of them would pass away,

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I shall, I would praise her a lot, you know, and really list all of her good characteristics. And likewise, later on when we took a look at the incidence of the slander valuation of the Lana, Xena bit, Josh, even though she was, you know, in, in the, in the personal relationship, they had rivalry.

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But Subhanallah Xena was one of the people who defended OSHA, right? And he was like a character witness for the uprightness and the goodness of HR or the law. So, it shows you that you know, these these types of little backs and fourths and stuff like that these that these things happen, but when it comes to when it really matters, you know, when we need to have somebody witness when something important is happening such that

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you know, the truth must be told, then upon the lovers have yet the wives of the Prophet mothers of the believers, they,

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you know, the they did the right thing.

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so, next, I'm just going to check the

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chart to make sure everyone's okay.

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Lesson 13 Yes, this is lesson 13, I believe.

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Now, I'm going to go on to

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another incident that took place which

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in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam actually abstained from his wives for one month, 29 days, right.

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One month can be 30 days or 29 days. So he abstained from his wives for 29 days. And these scholars differ as to when this incident happened.

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They say that it may have been

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about the Knights of hedger could have been slightly before that, okay. But anyway, it was after the hijra, and

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I'm going to narrate the story to you.

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The Abdullah bin abass

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he actually you know, he was the young Sahabi after the death of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he became a great scholar

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of Islam. He became a great scholar and he, he said, I had been eager to ask Omar about the two ladies from Mung, the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam regarding whom Allah said in the Quran.

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If you

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You too, namely, okay, if you to turn in repentance to a lot, your hearts are indeed so inclined.

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So in this I have the Quran, lots of Allah said to two of the wives of the prophets of Allah when he was sent him, if you see repentance from Allah, then you know,

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then that then Allah, Allah will forgive them, right? And he asked, you know, who are these two, and this was in sort of the Hurry, and it was part of that whole story that we mentioned last time. where, you know,

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I should have said they had

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kind of implied to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam that there was a bad smell coming right when he had a special drink at one of the wise houses.

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And, you know, the profits and allowing for so long that said, I'm never going to drink that drink again. And it was a drink of honey.

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And then a Lost Planet. Allah said, revealed in sort of the name of that, why are you forbidding something that Allah has made Halla for you? Right? And Allah Subhana, Allah told these wives that they should seek repentance, right, and he forgave them.

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even our bus, he wasn't sure who were the two wives, because in the ayah, it says, tadoba that, you know, that if you too?

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Repent, he wasn't sure who were these two? So he said, I've been eager to ask Omar about the two ladies

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from among the wives of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam in this ayah, right. And he said, until I perform the Hajj along with Omar,

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and on our way back from how he went aside,

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and I also went aside along with him carrying a tumble out of water.

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When he had answered the call of nature and returned, I poured water on his hands from the tumbler. And he performed will do and I said, Oh, chief of the believers. Yeah, I mean, what many? Who were the two ladies from among the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. To whom Allah said if you to return in repentance,

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he said, I am astonished at your question or even worse, they were actually shocked and

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then I went on relating the narration and said,

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so now he

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started telling him about another incident. So let me tell you about another incident. And he said

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I ended an Ansari neighbor of mine from bunny omega and omega

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bin Zayed who used to live in a wily, el Medina used to visit the prophets a lot while he was 11 tonnes. Okay, he used to go one day and I another day.

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So in other words, Omar, you know, he had his you may have had fields he may have had agriculture also, they were tradesmen, etc.

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So he couldn't spend all his time with the profits on a lot of what he was selling when he was alive. So instead, what they used to do is him and another companion of his, they would take turns, one of them would spend the day with the profits. I love what he said, and while the other took care of the work that was needed to be done, and then vice versa, right. And then the next day, Omar would spend the day with the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, and the other would work. And this was so that they wouldn't miss anything, right. So one of them would then relate to the other, any Hadith, any information, any knowledge, and for worried that he could write from spending the day

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with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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So, Omar says this, he had this unsightly neighbor.

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And he said when, when I went, I would bring him the news of what had happened that day regarding the instructions and orders. And when he went, he used to do the same for me. We the People of Quraysh, used to dominate over our women.

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But when we came to live with the answer, we noticed that the unsavory women have the upper hand over their men.

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So our women started acquiring the habits of the Ansari women. Okay, so he's saying that, you know, in the good old days when we were in Makkah, the culture in Makkah, was that men were in charge, right. They were really like the head of the house and they're in charge of any

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Everything and they are what they said goes right. But when they came to Medina, they noticed that

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the women in Medina had the culture or the people or the families in Medina, the culture was that the women were quite domineering over the men, okay, from a woman's perspective. So he said, you know, our women, the women of Makkah, they started learning this way of being, okay. And he said,

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once I told my wife or I shouted at my wife, and she replied back to me in a way that I disliked. Okay.

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She said, Why do you what? So then he obviously told her off, you know why you aren't paying me back, okay? wasn't used to this. This wasn't the way that women in Morocco used to be right. And she said, Oh, you take it badly that I reply back to you, by Allah, the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam reply back to you, as well.

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And some of them don't speak to him for the whole day,

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until the night.

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So Omar says what she said, scared me. And I said to her, whoever amongst them does, this is a great loser.

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Right? And obviously, he's becoming very sensitive, because he's thinking his daughter is one of the wives of the Prophet son alone to them right? After. So he's thinking as it hasn't gotten to that level that even the wives of the prophets, and lots of them have adopted this,

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this culture, right.

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And so what happened, he dressed himself and he said, I dressed myself and went to hafsa. And I asked her,

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Does any of you keep Allah's Messenger angry? sallallahu taala all the day, all day long until the night?

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She replied in the affirmative. I said, she is ruined. She is a ruined loser. Doesn't she fear that a lot of may get angry for the anger of Allah's Messenger. sallallahu wasallam. And thus, she will be ruined.

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And then he said to her, don't ask Allah messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for too many things. And don't answer him back. And don't stay away from him. Meaning don't, you know, stop talking to him because you have an argument or something.

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And look at this, this is beautiful. He said demand from me whatever you like. He said to his daughter, anything you want. Just ask me. Okay, I will fulfill your need, don't need to bother, or overburden or sort of loss, although I knew he was selling.

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And then he said, and don't be tempted to imitate your neighbor. And he indicated towards the house of Arusha of Ilana. Right. So don't be tempted. He's and he's been quite hard on his daughter, you know, he's saying, don't be tempted to act like her because she can get away with things that you can't get away with. Okay.

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Don't be tempted to imitate your neighbor in her behavior towards the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And then armour said something that might seem quite harsh. He said, I shall. She is more beautiful than you, and more beloved to Allah messenger.

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So he's basically trying to really, I would say,

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give his daughter some real talk, right? And he's saying, look, yeah, look, I shot a deal on her. She, she can get away with what you can't get away with. Because she has a special place in his heart. So don't you be thinking that you can get away with the same things that she can, right? You might you can't push the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the way he might be able to and still have his fever. Right? And

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so, you know, he here is really like making sure that his daughter is not one of those people who's causing any, any harm. And actually, there's another story where abubaker does something similar, and it's not, not necessarily in the same time period. But once he heard I sure raising her voice in the house of the messenger, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and Booker entered. And he said, Do you raise your voice in the house in the presence of rasulillah and he started telling me

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off right? And started really having a go out I shot okay. And sort of lots of Allah Salaam defended her. And then I shed the light on her became really sad or quiet, she realized that, you know, her dad is right for these right you know that.

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So pantalon and that's the thing about Obamacare and Omar, they their thing was, so Pamela, how can if you if you are rude to Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, aren't you afraid that Allah will be upset with you if he's upset? Right. But, you know, there was a certain level of leniency given to the wives. That would definitely not, and was definitely not given to the rest of us, right, the rest of the believers at All right, any other person could not speak to the sort of loss or loss, I'm in that way, or could not stop talking to him and things like that, right.

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there was a certain amount of leniency or certain amount that was

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accepted, you know, when it came to the waves of the profits are low, and it was because of the nature of that intimate relationship, right. Let's still abubaker and Omar, you know, they told their daughters off when they felt it was needed. And in that incident when abubaker told it shut off,

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and I sort of defended her. And then when a worker left, he said, Do you see how I stuck up for you? It was a little less awesome said to Ayesha, did you see how I defended you against that man? Right. So he made a joke out of it. And then boubakeur when he came back, he saw that they were laughing. And he said, Oh, can I join in with your laughter as I was involved in your, you know, dispute?

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And so panela just supposedly just shows you you know, that

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these types of things happen in families, right.

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And what's a little less Hello. So, um, was a human being who had to deal with these types of things as well. And then, you know, he showed us the best way to

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to deal with this thing. So carrying on with my observation.

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So he told me I have so often quite harsh terms, as you can tell. And

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again, it shows you Everyone knew the status of Arusha, Ludhiana with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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so then one day, or more relates that

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this, this friend of his, okay, who his companion, who used us to take turns with, to go to the prophets, Allah when he was he loves

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to spend time with the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam one day

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he came back

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and he knocked on the door of oma Delano violently at night, in the day at night.

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And almost says in those days, it was rumored that the sun tribe, okay, was preparing to invade us. Okay, so already the Muslims were in a little bit of a state of fear and anxiety, you know, that anytime this Lausanne tribe is going to come and attack

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so when he knocked violently, our thought must be the son tribe must be some war or something that's taking place right about to about to erupt, a battle about to erupt. And

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he said I was asleep. He asked whether I was sleeping. He said I was scared by the heart knocking on the door and I came out to him. He said that a great terrible thing had happened. Okay. And I asked him, What does it have the croissant tribe Come have a son come? He replied that it was worse and more serious than that.

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And added that Allah, Allah His Messenger, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had divorced all of his wives.

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I said hafsa is ruined.

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I expected that would happen someday. Some

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response you know, he's like, and some handily, the cow his companion described it as being worse than somebody attacking right? In other words, it's such a shocking thing and it was such a like a terrible rumor or a terrible kind of idea for them that the sort of muscle allowed him so long should divorce their daughters right. So because obviously

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Have cells the daughter of Omar that's why his companion is saying it's worse news, you know, because this is a personal bad news for Omar. Right?

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So what did he do? He said he dressed himself.

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He got dressed and offered the federal prayer with the profits are low and he was selling. Okay, so he went to the masjid he prayed the prayer with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And so then the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam entered an upper room and stayed there alone. So there was this small upper room, some kind of small room, which didn't really have much in it except, like a map type thing to lie on. Maybe some water. And this was it seems like it was like a extra room that was somewhere within the masjid of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in which the Prophet sallallahu wasallam could retire to sometimes, okay. It wasn't his house, it was just like an extra

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room. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was was actually staying there. He was not staying with any of his wives. He was staying in that little room.

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Okay, and it seems like there was some kind of a ladder or something that led to that room. Okay.

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So the Prophet sallallahu wasallam entered an upper room and stayed there alone.

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I went to have some and found her weeping.

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I asked her, why are you weeping? Didn't I warn you?

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Has Allah messenger sallallahu alayhi. Salaam divorce you all? And

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she replied, I don't know.

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He is there in the upper room.

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Okay, so nobody's really sure what their status is right?

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She went out, she said, so sorry. Omar says I then went out and came to the pulpit and found a group of people around it and some of them will weeping.

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Then I sat with them for some time, but could not bear the situation. They can just imagine I'm wearing

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the logic of his personality. He's probably thinking, like, he just has to go and speak to us. We'll have lots of lots of them, right.

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And also, you can see that the Muslims were very badly affected. They were very sad because they thought that he had divorced his wives.

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So Omar said to a slave, that was that.

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He said, will you get permission from Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. For Omar to enter.

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The slave went in. He talked to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and came out and saying, I mentioned you to him, but he did not reply.

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So Omar says, I went and sat with the people who are sitting by the pulpit, but I could not bear the situation. So I went to the slave again and said, will you get permission for armor? He went in and brought the same reply as before.

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When I was leaving, behold, the slave called me saying, Allah messenger has granted you permission. So I entered upon the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam. So now you can see Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam has given me permission to enter that little room.

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So Omar enters.

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I entered upon the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and saw him lying on a mat.

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And the mat had left its mark on the body of the Prophet salallahu alaihe.

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And he was leaning on a leather pillow stuffed with palm fibers.

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I greeted him. And while still standing, I said,

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Have you divorced your wives?

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He raised his eyes to me and replied in the negative. And then while still standing, I said chatting.

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Will you heed what I say, you know, sort of la sala La Jolla center. So Omar is now saying, you know, so now that he found out that actually colossal awesome has not divorced his wives, okay.

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It probably gave him a sense of relief, right? And now he's thinking, How can I help? decelerate, de escalate sorry, de escalate the situation, right. So he starts talking to us about a loss of a loved one instead of as a friend. He's not talking to him as a father in law. You

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like trying to defend his daughter or anything like that. He is truly

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talking to Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam as a friend? And he says,

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He said yes,

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we the people of Quraysh

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used to have the upper hand over our women. We used to have the upper hand over our wives. And when we came to a people whose women and then we came to a people whose women had the upper hand over them.

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And then Omar told suta last lesson and the whole story about his wife, you know, his wife answering him back and then him saying this to his wife, and then his wife telling him that even you're even the wives of the Prophet so that's answer him back.

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On that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam smiled, right, you can see that

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Omar has made, like, made the profits SLM field. You know, it's upon Allah. Yeah. You know, the good old days when our wives didn't answer us back, right?

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He's made him kind of see the funny side of it, right? See the funny side of the situation?

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Omar told the whole story and the prophet SAW said and smiled. Omar further said, I then said, I went to have some. And I said to her, do not be tempted to imitate your companion. And the Ayesha Well, she is more beautiful than you are and more beloved to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. The Prophet sallallahu wasallam smiled again. So he's telling the Prophet, you know, I said this to hafsa. And so when the Prophet heard this, it made him he found it funny, right? Well, it made him smile.

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When I saw him smiling, I sat down, you know, almost feeling relaxed. Okay, so he's in a good mood isn't Moody, I can sit with him and talk to him.

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He said, I sat down and I looked around the room. And by a lot I couldn't see anything of importance. anything significant in the room, except three hides, three like leather, you know, hides I like the animal skins. All right.

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I said to Allah's Messenger, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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make dua, to make your followers prosperous, make dua to make us wealthy, you know,

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for the Persians, and in the end, the Byzantines, they have.

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They have been made prosperous and been given worldly luxuries. Though they do not worship Allah.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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who was who he was kind of reclining at the time he sat up, when he heard Omar say this, it made him kind of

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serious and he sat up, right

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Subhana Allah, and he said, Oh, I bet I'll hop up.

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Do you have any doubt that the Hereafter is better in this world,

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that these people have been given the reward of their good deeds in this world only?

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I asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he is asked ask us forgiveness for me.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not go to his wives.

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Okay, so.

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Okay, so basically, it seems that the reason for this incident to happen, the reason why this incident happened and the profits or loss on it stayed away from his wives was that the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. As we mentioned previously, you know,

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had decided to live a very simple life, okay, even though he could have lived a more luxurious life. He lived a very simple life. And we mentioned that last kind of Allah had given him the choice to be a king who is a nebby Prophet,

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or a slave, a servant of Allah.

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And a messenger and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had chosen to be Servant and Messenger.

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Messenger is a higher status than never right, as you know.

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So when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had been given that choice

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When an angel had come down and asked him this and gibreel Ali Salam had

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encouraged him to choose to be a messenger and to be a slave.

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After this, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam became even more careful with regards to worldly things. And they say that he never even used to recline and eat, you know, he was very careful not to be not to act in a way that was opulent, not to act in a way that somebody who's a king or leader, you know, kind of a rich person would behave, okay. And this obviously seemed to have some effect on the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, who found this way of life hard, you know, they found it difficult.

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And it could be because the level of standard of living had increased for other people all over

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all over Medina.

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It could be because of that. And so naturally, when you see that the normal standard of living has increased, you start noticing and you start feeling, you know,

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but the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi, salaam had complained to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam about this. And because the complaints have become too much, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam had withdrawn from them in this way.

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Just going to see the

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I'm just going to carry on now in Sharla. Hopefully we can finish this, at least.

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So Omar says, When 29 days had passed, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went to Arusha first of all.

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And he's and she said to him, You took an oath that you would not come to us for one month.

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Okay. And today is only 29 days, I have been counting them day by day, so panela. So

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Otherwise, the profits are low when he was selling, one of the characteristics you notice about them is that even if they made a mistake, or they stepped over the, you know, the line with regards to upsetting or sort of loss on a level that he was selling, as soon as he would show his displeasure, and they realized it, you can see that they had a huge amount of regret, right? Have sighs crying, right? I should have been unhappy. She's been counting the days. Right. And so she was saying to the solar last morning, 730 days have not passed. That's what basically she was trying to say.

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Only 29 days have passed.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said to her, then a month can also be 29 days, okay?

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Because that month was a month of 29 days, I should have said,

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when the divine revelation of choice was revealed. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam started with me saying to me, I'm telling you something, but you need not hurry to give the reply until you consult your parents. Okay? So, basically, you know, I have the Quran in surah 33.

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And number 28,

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less, Allah says, I'm going to read the translation, oh Prophet, say to your wives, if you desire the life of this world and its glitter, then come

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I will make a provision for you and set you free in a handsome manner. Okay.

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But if you seek Allah and His messenger and the home of the Hereafter, then Verily Allah has prepared for the good doers amongst you have great reward. Okay, so Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam recited this verse, this verse came down regarding the wives, and told the prophet to tell the waves this, but you know, actually what they're asking for is not harm, you know, wanting a higher standard of living is not Haram. But because it's the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he has decided to live a certain way. He cannot be married to people who want to live in luxury or live, not even luxury. Live in a different way right to what he wants. So he recited this

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to them.

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And he told Artesia and look at the generosity of Rasulullah. Because he doesn't want them to make a rash decision. He says to his wife I shot, you can go and ask your parents advice, no, don't make any rash decision.

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And if she says,

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I almost says that she knew that her parents would not advise her to part with the profits a lot when he was in it.

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And she said, am I to consult my parents about this. And, of course, I indeed prefer Allah, His Messenger and the home of the hereafter.

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After that, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave the choice choice, meaning the choice to end the marriage, you know, and he would give them a lot of wealth, and they could go and live happily,

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or to stay with him.

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As wives of the messenger, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, mothers of the believers and, you know, be given the great status and reward of that, but live a very, very simple life in this world, right agenda in the Hereafter, of course.

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After that, the prophet gave the choice to the other wives. And they also gave the same reply as I did.

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So Pamela, so I'm going to wrap up now. Because I know that there's another class coming for Omar next. But so Pamela, one of the things you notice from that is,

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you know, first of all the status of Arusha, that's the Prophet salallahu alaihe. Salam asked her first, right. And it's actually from this generation, that the scholars of Islam say that it's actually allowed for a husband for a husband to give his wives or his wife

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the decision to divorce or not, right?

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he's allowed to defer that.

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And he that right there, he has to divorce he's allowed to give that will delegate it sorry, to his wife and say, it's your choice. Okay.

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And usually, it's something that's time limited, you know, it's not like just like an open thing. It's a time limited choice that is given

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the husband can give to his wife.

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I'm going to go to the questions in the last minute.

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Where to find the Hadith.

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Unfortunately, I don't have it in front of me the source, because I just wrote my own notes. And I didn't note down the, in this set of notes, I didn't look down the source. Shallow, bring that next time.

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supine a lot amazing to know about the lives. They went

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on with life.

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Without so many things.

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How did the wives and the prophets, Allah Salam fund, their basic lifestyle that they had?

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Well, different stages, it was in different ways. Okay. So

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definitely after a number of the battles, you know, when it came to the booty, a certain percentage of it is, is for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam right in his name.

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And so, when some of it was land, right, and then that whatever grows on that land, the yield from that, you know, would have been

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for the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and his wives. So over time, their standard of living did increase in that sense, or the potential increased. But you see, I sort of lost a lot. What if Selim didn't use that wealth to enrich himself, you know, he did not use that wealth to enrich himself and to live a luxurious life. He used it for the sake of Allah use it for the sake of a lot. So

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the exact details of his income, I would have to go and research properly, you know, by just giving you a very vague kind of answer. But there were specific land specific things that are known that belong to the profits on the land, wanting to sell them, and there's a specific percentage of every war every battle, the booty, the spoils, that are set aside for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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panel I'm going to have to wrap up now. Just talking about hair and sisters. do send me any comments you have any questions by email if you want. My email address is contact at Fatima Baraka to contact at Fatima And that's without any ages. Okay? It's like the order the spelling, right? No ages. So Fatima contact at Fatima And if you've got any questions, comments, anything else you'd like me to cover? Or which? Obviously I've got it all planned out. But you know, there might be something specific that you're curious about, you can ask me in Charlotte. So inshallah with that I'm going to leave you just couldn't allow hair. Thank you

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so much for joining me every week. At this time. I know that you know you're taking time out especially for this male and reward you and bless you. May Allah unites us with our mother Ayesha, in general. I mean, from I mean, just Camilla szczepanik aloha mo Van Dijk eyeshadow Allah Illa illa Anta esta feel to be like Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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third grade

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