Women in Madina
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hamdulillah and I want to say you know,
we want to talk Hello Ali, when I will be learning me through the unforeseen
Medina my love for Allah who will make you
want to shadow Allah Allah Allah Allahu Allah Shari Cara, when a shadow Mohammed and Abdu are soon so our therapy was around who are they who are the early
woman Gabby that what he you know, some of our brothers and sisters in Islam
today I want to reflect upon
some of the women who live with in the time of Muhammad Salah Lara lived in Medina.
Class personnel is the head, how they behave themselves. What is the educated they observed while being ladies of Makkah, and Medina.
So we'll get a glimpse
of the rights of women have in Islam.
So these rights are not rights which came after the Prophet, these rights with the act, the beginning of Islam, when the promises are often made eternal, the ladies of Medina felt this is this is how they felt about themselves. So we'll talk about that.
And I'm going to illustrate it by giving a few examples. But the very important examples, the examples worthy to remember. Because today we have
they refer to themselves as feminists.
They say that Islam is a patriarchal religion.
It's dominated by men. Hamid, Salah was a man's
Welcome to men. And that is the argument and they feel that they've been left behind and it will sit at the back of the budget, or there was with the screen between them and everybody else, and so forth and so on. So let's look at the real situation. And
why they why they should not be feminists in Islam. We know of course, that the maca
women were the most oppressed part of the population.
Husbands in fact, people didn't one, girl babies, that's about
data diversion for girl bait. And what they did was they used to bury them alive, and they didn't pay him alive when they were born. They waited for the child to walk
then they would take the grave and they would put the child in a birthday suit. And the father would go and put the child in the grave cover to send just like
you believe it. So that was the kind of
culture that prevailed in
although in terms of marriage, we made a lot of say like
Obama could pick a partner.
Okay, so that is allowed under the old customer. But also under the new customers William
even imagine says that
a girl came to the Prophet SAW, the young lady came to the Navy for law selling research.
And she told the prophet that
her father had married her to a man in her absence and without her permission.
For the province, to what choice do you want to make?
The Prophet didn't ask Who is he is a Muslim, as he got this, as you got money?
What's his family surname?
What do you think the property to? She said to him? My father married me to a man without my permission.
So the Prophet says to us all what choice do you want to
do in between words, which is what right was
right was to say yes or no prophet want to know. So what do you want to do? You say yes to that arrangement? Or do you say no to leverage
Subhanallah today, somebody should come to me with a story legacy
that are brought about by the parents and you should use you know, probably better. They love the vote.
No, she has the right to say no. Even when the father performed Monica shares the right to say no.
So the answer was no, I I agree. I actually got I liked the bed and
a fine person, right you come to me, she says, I came to era surah Allah
so that the women must know that choice of her husband is the FA.
It's got nothing to do with the parents. Course, parents have a lot of say, in the 20 years when while she's with her with him spending with him, obviously, that is influenced in influences in the choice of her husband of her husband, and vice versa. So she said, I want parents to know and I want the people of Medina to know that this is the right up girl that she wants to get.
Of course today.
And the reason I think that that was the rights and still up to today of a woman is that there are some nations and some tribes within nations that feel that it is better for father to find a bride for his or being to find a bride for his son, or vice versa. And it's a better arrangement. It's a better rich
I don't agree with that
because anything goes wrong in the marriage, you the fourth and the sixth total responsibility absolutely responsible I don't think a father of the carrier can be responsible. Correct. So just like a woman chooses can choose a husband
and of course the men and time will be very shy.
We will hear later on about behavior of the males
so much so that one day a man would have been single for a very long time to have you been single for a very long time instead of in a business so Allah I found somebody and I'm going to get ready to proxy
the Prophet knee very shy man public safety did you look at
as as she's described by, by her friends, etc, etc.
You have to look at you have to either look at the offense you can look at the hands and you can look at the feet because both extremities in it must be a body in between was one week or one arm
obviously died nearly in Shediac province so you if you see her face and you feel you still want to be married to her.
So this is a woman can choose her own partner so a woman can end her marriage as well.
The classic example of course,
is the example of case
sabich Tabby being the case
she came to the Prophet sermon, I've narrated this to you before
and she said to the prophets of Allah, Allah I have a problem.
I don't love my husband.
CEVO wants you to come to me with that kind of opening gambit in our conversation. If you had said to me, I want to devote I don't love that,
however, had so many things going through my mind. So be
Why wouldn't you ask the question? Obviously, the first question I would ask would be, so
whatever the name is, so what is your reason? Why don't you love you?
Probably didn't ask this question.
classic question. The lady comes in you just tell the prophet but I know.
But also someone asked her
what do you want to do? She says, I want to be free from him.
So the Prophet SAW salad said to what was your gallery? She said he gave me a garden jasola Liza crazy. Now as I said, I think last week's lecture will be philosophy, to be to be to be in a position to give a garden to your bride. In Medina, you have to be very vigilant. Because it is if you were to grow garden, then you obviously will be a rich man.
So the prophets of salaam called
the husband and say 2008 Your wife she wants out of the public.
Give her back. I'll tell her to give the garden back to you.
And that will endure.
So that was done maybe in 10 minutes,
maybe 15 minutes, maybe half an hour, maybe an hour.
And this is why why do the prophets
Selam just like that, so called Hola, with a wife gives back the doll. So today, I mean, you know, people used to give to interior and Audi 25 and gallery five rent out, it's gonna be a burden on the wife to give that, but to give back a garden you have to consider.
So I have a question I asked myself was this, why did the Prophet you know, say, you know, when you sit down and find what the problem is, you know, maybe in his mind, you know, reconcile a couple as we say, you know,
snakes, you know, we would have called that a sort of dust, nastro and tactile kind of set up. within 24 hours, people do all these things, profitability, maybe two or three minutes.
Because if you look at what the woman said, she said, I do not love my husband.
And a woman prophet of Salem, using a laser, guided by law sanitary just didn't say it was the guidance of Allah. The Prophet knew that when is no more love this moment?
If she said, you know that it doesn't support me or it doesn't do the, but when a woman says, out and out. That's it. You can't Islam it is not an Islamic law or rule that a woman must stay in a marriage, a loveless marriage. And I suppose particularly, why because she doesn't have the right to divorce herself she has to go with a bank and expensive. So in the time of the interview Salam rsip, salaam we are now the rights of women with regard to marriage.
Prophets of salaam used to
talk in the masjid,
talk to the masjid
lectures in the masjid.
when the promise is in the magic, there was no screen between the women and the men separate the women was the bed in the middle, like we have it here. So this is this
And the ladies despite that, the ladies wanted a class of their own property. They know what to say to the man.
There is a shy they don't ask questions. But when they alert, who's the teacher, you know, they open up and ask questions to.
So as you said, the prompts on yours will unlock that are reserved
to men. They have a monopoly on what you say.
Because of the fact that they can the company can work with in the city can visit you. So many things happen in MIT. They have the freedom of the motive. And so we know now we know now that the women and the men
played in the same as you listen to the same lectures in the same budget, and so forth.
Until of course, Amara was the one who changed the arrangement of men and women in March.
So the promises have been made a special database on the Thursday night Sunday, Thursday, set aside some time every Thursday to teach the ladies maybe not the teacher but to interact with him.
And his interaction. His interaction with those ladies was not the kind of interaction I have with the ladies here.
Or the minion. It was they wanted to have conversation with an ERISA lawsuit.
They wanted to know who we really was. We had so much admiration for him because they didn't know nothing. So they wanted to get to know Him. And Omar came to hear this arrangement, murder photography.
One of the men that's destined for junk,
but he was like somebody I know.
Even if it was the prophets and so on, when do we knew where the place was in the worst part slowly, slowly we'll pass news in lesson. Women's laughing in them having a great time. I mean, you
speaking and laughing.
he went inside and he said to the women, this government is in the presence of amateurs on the Proxxon This is not a ticket
because it's not your space on please. What your space so that
This relationship Mohamed Salah Hajj
we know of course that in the time of the NABI saw Salah women attended magic five times a day
we will attend to the magic five times
then that includes a shy and further
Of course, like men everywhere all over the world they like to be in control and sometimes that control we use the dean for that control
and sometimes we threaten also with that kind of control using religion
so at the time was an evisa Sandy was no age and many other many of the women men and women were treated equally by the Nazis
even your Alma told us the story
you had married
a lady by the name of Attica. You heard his name before
she was either coming to Zaid
exjade was the brother of our Amara.
And almost married article who was is
brothers portrays in his
article was one of the labia Halima Medina in the time when
she was highly
recognized in the time that Muhammad Salah like Arusha
and she was by description. Also very beautiful.
So she was first married to the son of Satan Abu Bakr. Her
name was Abdullah
that was her first marriage. She married Abdullah the son of
a worker Sadiq
and when Abdullah Ahmed Attica, he started skipping Salah at the masjid
and he's in and while he was ready to identify he didn't go further.
Did you just to
stay away from the chat. So people started talking why because he was the daughter having he was the son of our Casa de
vaca came to Uranus in a cold cold
this is why you don't have too much heat anymore or not regularly anymore. And also you don't participate in Jihad
over Can you the reason and he said oh my father It's my wife. What about your son I can't stay away from my wife and she slowly if I go away from
but he basically what he was telling his father is no I can't take my eyes off my wife's panel. So one can see that there was a lot of love in Medina.
It wasn't a loveless place. It wasn't just you know, odd men lonely women No, no it is normal love was thought of the atmosphere part of the
lifestyle of the Sahaba
so the broker became very angry and could get very angry.
I wanted to divorce her within three days
now at that time that's a father three rocketed you know that you know that was the other man who did
daddy Brahim Allison.
When he came to knock on the door with some Sundays
right visit he wasn't there. And his wife was at home. And then we were then asked him to come inside or something like that. She was yeah, she was she was going towards this environment when when his wife came back before we say to him, divorce your wife
All right, so
so he divorced
and he was in his mind.
But he had to decide between his father and his wife and he chose of course to satisfies his father
and five and then
Abdullah to party
In all the battles after that, and the Battle of time he was wounded and he died.
And five years later she married Omar
so I said she wasn't she was a protest and she wasn't
and she always wanted to be in the magician in the in the magic every time
she wanted to come to the magic for almost a tour.
I'm sorry but
I do like to come to Logitech projector
he said to her, I dislike you
So life went on and she didn't listen to you.
Disregarded totally disregard what you what he said.
what would you say that Omar who did not put his foot down and said Look,
I don't like the idea of you going for Pfizer to the masjid then he may have visited bad reasons when it was dark, maybe, you know, whatever, whatever it was.
But here the logic was different. Yeah, it wasn't even just telling us you couldn't compromise
but it didn't take it any further.
He didn't take it any further
because Why did you not take it further? Because he knew within a visa Salam had said that can not only sell
and massage profits it to not prevent your women from going to
what do you do now?
That proposal said it's better for him to make slide home. So the woman has a choice. She can make salad bowl, Washington can go to the match. And she went to my seat
and so yeah, I'm not gonna
lie to just leave nothing you could do because of the Hadith of the Lisa.
you know, we would have said, you know, to our wives with our side in order to come further to the mercy we would have had a lot of excuses. You would have said that she said you can go with my mother and I said you can go my father said as soon as
somebody said you disobedient to your husband. You're gonna, probably the biggest excusable say, Ah, but you can't be disobedient your husband. You can't be disobedient to the Prophet in obedience to somebody else. You can't be disobedient to Allah was found in obedience to some of your obedience of Mohamed salah of Allah subhanaw taala. And then there is a solemn contrast.
So given how generous Kalani he adds this,
he says when Amara stared in the mirror, article was in university,
which means that she went for Fudger right after.
Right after the
coup she knew she knew Kadeem, like women who knows the deal when they get married. So just don't get married blindly.
They know that there's a contract to be drafted.
They know that their rights they're in a contract.
They know that it's the husband's duty to to, to, to NASA going to support them. Everything. This thing about so I'm getting married to somebody so she's going to have a job, I will have a job. She's going to pay the food and I'm going to this is this this is what the prophets prophesied is going to be a sign of Tianna
women will leave their homes to go to work to supplement
your hormones get married replaces work.
At home, why? Why do we have so much trouble today with our children? Why? Look at our lifestyle. Why is it that not all of us, but most of us and if you look at the reason for that, it's because mothers are not at home at crucial times. At crucial times.
We ever made
who looks out at the children
and she must pay somebody else to look after her children.
I know people say yeah but you know, a house
but there's a hadith called is
how do you go this is where the words is from the prophets of Salaam
and the inspiration for him to say that comes from Allah.
So it is like Allah speaking but in the words of Muhammad Allah
and Allah addresses us in Allah's vulnerabilities
in this hadith COTC
if you are not happy with the results that I've given you
if you're not happy with the result which you're getting from me
then I would open duniya for you
I will open the dunya fee
you will run around in this dunya from this deck to that to that investment to this job to their job at the end Allah says you will get exactly what I gave you
in the beginning for the same
Allah so I'm going to say do not make yourself tired
in running up the reserve which I've already set up for you you're not gonna get more
normal for you. That's it that's what you're gonna do
so if we look at our parents with regrow mothers single
mothers others work with
all this without it what they earn that is what they earn they just had to like do it five grand a week you're lucky 20 grand a month was a lot of money. A lot of and I knew people wouldn't find them you might say
the building to find I mean I started with 40 ran either degree I started 40 Then but 40 ran a martial arts almost Baraka
I could save after that kind of calm
remember what I said about Hadith codici
so when we read
we need to understand that whatever the Prophet said was real in his time and should be really outside.
And we should try and strive women can work from home maybe.
But what do we do as men? What do we do as fathers? What you do is
my child must be my girl my girl child has become an accountant or a lawyer. You already you sitting on the path of what have not been yet she's already putting in a short skirt.
deciding for what she what she has to wear. I mean, you know
I don't have a father daughter wants to have a scarf to work he says Just now you lose your job.
She wants to get a job No, no, no.
And that is that is exactly where we are at.
And at the end of the day, if you look at the lifestyle and lifestyle a woman is at home you'll find maybe it approximates much difference between the two
I showed a lot Rhonda says
actually used to attend funerals in the budget and this is one thing that I find
Very annoying. Is that when you see Janaza the women don't make salatu
Why is it
not as far as the name is on us?
Is it like Joomla?
Joomla domain isn't it
and Schelotto Janaza
and the more the more people like salah the greater your chances of escaping other Banagher and other vocable
property the more than 100 people make Salam you
you will be free of either Jahannam I'm not sure or the other. One of the two, I think is our album.
So I actually I used to
buy salon women used to make salon women when the profit died they used to come in groups because it makes Allah makes a lot of Genesis.
So I suggested
once or twice the tan family of mine died. Tell the children
tell the ladies
Come on to do the convex Allah. And it's not awkward. You see, we think of 10,000 things before we are going to say that what could you see, maybe there must be a carpet. No,
there is no place in the in the house, people, people come there to them to the way they stand, they stand there for quite long,
And then they turn around, they walk away.
this is the kind of culture that we've that we've cultivated here.
Now, you must say when you must tell your children, they when I die,
the woman wants to make must be announced once you make a salad to Janaza. But we are allowed to make a law to change how they stand in the heat of the main phases, the phases, the main phases stabilize.
So you stand at the back of the counter like this.
Lady says she doesn't have to make ruku also Sudan, she doesn't have to take her shoes off, he might just have to do that. So she stands up back and forth and peace.
I get rewarded to who goes to the bank.
please, take heed of that ratchet in your world. Women want to make salah. And also when you announce,
for the women to come to your house, they never say please come with.
Who do please come with, because you'll have the opportunity to make some. So what happens is women don't know how to perform for life, which I
Why not? Because
there's just no encouragement for them to make sure I don't do that. Can you imagine your father dies, and you're the daughter. And the last
dua that you can give to him and Salawat It is literally a dua that you can make from Isa
isn't a catalog.
So lateral janazah includes what includes what is the first What do you need after the first
what is the fact
and the second one
so the word on
the Prophet saw something
da make dua long motion.
And then in the last one, you don't really say anything.
So we have three things when we say firstly,
which is a dua then we'll put some of our communities didn't make dua
and that is why the Sahaba ra ma salatu salam did not make dua after the Salah
is in the Salah. They didn't put Salawat on a visa salam after the Salado Janessa why not? Because it inside the summer. You want to turn Allah subhanaw taala that your Prophet
didn't do the right thing he didn't put Salawat you know we say okay, so Lola and everybody makes to the imago day shift infinity shifter Imams.
So I've instructed my children that if I pass away then everybody who's in emerges he was telling each one makes his own doll
because sometimes I feel you know that the shapes and images make the art because it's this is all the time
they are the chosen ones.
Yeah, they've chosen sins of Ireland but you can be a chosen one and set aside the Sunnah of Hamas Asana to use a marquee Salawat official lava
brother, it's interesting. Allah this prophet put it in the summer, not out of the outsiders. Allah is gonna put the Dora inside the salah.
Eggs a lot of these things anyway.
So after the death of the Navi Salaam in Attica, the women the wives of the process are made Attica in the match. Can you imagine coming to the masjid and a woman comes in with a sleeping bag. Now tie me up row. We will slip earlier up row isn't it a bit.
With the highest women in the world. The flies of the Prophet Elisa
made Attica after he pasta to continue
new vaccine now Muhammad Sallallahu
so that is in a religious context, whereas Welcome to now in Islamic context, all I've said now is not cultural. It's not habit. It's not what the Malays do. It's not what the Indians do not the Brave is do
is not what the Cavalier is doing the salaries do this is what promises salon This is what the highest Ayesha Turon
I mean, she was she was the person the go to privacy go to anybody for Ireland after my day. Good.
But there is a social context. Of course,
there is the context of yes, even women come to the machine. Maybe the men will look at her while she looked at the men, that kind of thing.
But we have no qualms at all of sending our daughters to school and university with a looked at by everybody.
within the wife to go and work, and in the office and the everybody looks at her. And she looks at everybody.
But you say to the budget,
to sit in the same magic as with the main set. Because we are you know, that should be separation, national separation. We don't have separation in Islam. We all have separation if there is one man and one woman together in the sector.
So what is the social context? Let's say there is a social context that people say yeah, you know, these big women mixing the mixing, know that women mix and the province aren't the same. So we should also
suffer. You also get some not so lovely.
So at school, they look at each other. The wives who work in shops, they look at everybody who comes in the customers everything else. And in the time we're going to be social lab.
Lisa, salaam women used to participate in everything. I mean, we heard last week about our Ayesha
what's the dancing of the of the Sudanese and in the masjid, and how she enjoyed it, and so forth and so on. So unassumingly Malik.
at one day the NABI SallAllahu sallam was sitting outside where the companions
in a group of ladies came. They were all dressed up in the refinery, they come from a wedding celebration with a small children all dressed up.
And as they came past the prophets of salaam the Prophet stood up.
And he said to them, You are the most beloved to me.
you people once are, you are the most beloved 200.
He stood up and we look at the honor, because the Prophet recognize that these were the people who gave me sanctuary. In an insignia Malik says that the women of Medina used to stand on the
on the hilltops, waiting the prophet to come and welcoming him with songs of of welcome
and they will very happy of course, it can be Salam K.
if somebody should do that, say to a group of women, I love you because you live in Cambodia. So something like that, to help you can't use the word love. How could you use the word love
but love today has become
the word love has been hijacked. Everybody thinks about love.
Everybody will ask him something. Subala L G, PDQ, they all want to be loved, and they all capable of loving in their own way.
And of course the Christians have done the best they live on love Jesus, that's if you love Jesus, you'd go to Paradise, knowing what else you do. All you ever see you're exploiting there was love to the extent way
they use it for anything, everything and the Sufis today also if you ask him, so why do you do this? Why do you jump up and down in the mosque with music and whatever else and sing the praises of Parmesan. Whether they tell you
we love Allah or the love.
So what why do you kiss the grave
Yeah, that's a pious man. He's buried there. And he loves Allah Allah loves him and we show our love to
people don't kiss the parents but they kiss graves.
People don't kiss the parents.
I know not very the person just comes in and this is Rhonda, Cumbria was our American daddy.
Now when I come in, I say no, no, no, no, no, you kiss your mouth and you kiss meals. I don't care if my beard is gonna stick y'all everybody
was an Elisa Salama man came. A mentor, a province or salon play was one of his grandsons.
With Hassan. Samia is playing with them and was catching them and kissing them and the Prophets the man says, who looked at can we substitute?
Big Men don't kiss you know this is not on.
So you say to the Prophet, I have 10 children. I've never kissed anyone.
No break is better than the Prophet. I'm a man. I don't kiss my children. I'm a man. Prophet city, man Minh. Mala
Mala Johan Leia. Bandar, habla your
man liar Have
you doesn't show Rama mercy will not receive
that is part of giving this you want Allah to be merciful to you. Part of you getting that mercy is by kissing your wife and your children, your grandchildren and beg them used to it make them used to it.
Why? Because the sooner
you can reward for it soon anytime because he wants to sooner profit is because every time you teach your children the Sunnah, prophets as long
as you love his grandchildren all regeneration cillum and show the bogging them and kissing
did the women in Medina participate in politics?
The question is what politics? Okay, so let me give you an example.
Even your alma mater, Donald Trump was in Myanmar. He was the son of Amara. He was the son of
in fact the people wanted to make Abdullah the next Khalifa after
I said that
so normal says that
he said one day you went to visit his sister Hafsa. Hospital the assistant pastor was also who
also was also
what the wife of 100 Salalah Elisa,
very clever woman.
Very clever. I know all women are clever. No doubt about that. But she was exceptionally clever.
I'm sure you've already set your wife so many times, slim
Or right. So he says he ended with a visit
and have the say to him.
Do you know that
your dad, was it that
you know that your father hasn't yet appointed a successor to his office?
Or working was made our lap times if you will.
Abdullah said to his sister, no,
I didn't even it didn't appoint a successor, but I'm going to tell you and inform him you know, because he realized this was a series better maybe it wasn't well at the time or maybe it was getting old or whatever it may be. Anyway, anyway explain to his father, his father, please appoint
your successor officer.
Abdullah was one of the elite
or the companions of Amazon. He was obviously because he also creates a
lot of respect for him.
And he was supposed to have knowledge of the inner circles what what people talk about around Emeryville Hatha because he's Khalifa is dead. And he didn't even know that. That is for the implicit two
Please, Father, you can create a lot of chaos if you don't appoint a successor.
And look at him now, but look at this game.
He didn't say when people asked him so what motivated you to ask your father to appoint? He didn't say, Well, you know, somebody told me
the difference, man, you don't want to men don't want a woman to get the accolades. So men say, you know, well I just know that you know, I read it somewhere you know, somebody told me maybe his wife told him
so it isn't really strange to know that his wife knows more than what he does. But now they also speak for women and when we made the contribution very respected
so I'm out of the way so what you don't want to anybody
is the point of success
Walker posted on my resume so what are
I just had the patient zebra in the Euro he appointed a committee of 6.6 Harbor to amongst himself choose and
I feel for him that is more democratic
and when you when they said in the point you said Abdullah What did he say
when when did they want you when didn t want this to be
he didn't want to pay in front of Allah he didn't want his son to appear in front of all are also with the same responsibility which he had was to greater responsibility Thank you very much for that
totally talk about the last last one last one was
the last example in many examples I've only done a few days
the last one is about Abdullah
Abdullah in pretty much all the
great great man you know
he's known for his greatness
in fact, Abdullah Agnes hold was the teacher of the teacher of Khalifa
30 Abdullah was rolled
into to live in Alaska with goofy cities and eventually a man he taught a lot of people and one of those people told you man
I'm gonna I'm gonna solid had a wife by the name of Xena
wanted to give as a car to a husband to Abdullah. Abdullah was the wife. She was shared money. He was a very poor man. He was poor, not because he wanted to be poor. He was poor because he's been all this time with Diem in all his time in the company of the other Sahaba come through the process. And so So Shane, poor man, he was like one of the modern companies.
So he refused.
account contiguous. How can I take you?
So we said, so she said to him, I'm going to ask the prophets of salaam if I can give my secretary
we're going to arrive at the house of
at the dome. So Bilal used to take all the questions from the people come to ask questions, and he will pass it to anybody.
then, okay. And
he went inside, and we say to the province of Salem, Zina, the wife of Abdullah is outside.
what I want to say here, is that you know, we now have this thing about brother and sister
Your sister, or your brother, or your sister, or your brother, we don't tell people things.
We say system law
and this is dehumanizing
terms of the practice of the Prophet everybody was called on the name there was no Buddha, Abdullah even he was old
or whatever else we want to put everybody was
sediment bucket was the Khalifa he was called Abu Bakr
Al Amin, meaning Ahmad was referred to as Omar is our life. There was not Mr. O'Mara. This is Mr. Chef Amaro. No no no. Everybody was called by the name
and we dehumanize people by saying system this isn't just because we made for brother has no brother could kill people by the I like to be called by money. I say you know, I'd like to go fight for a change.
I I want to I want to hear my name.
I mean, when somebody calls you by another in real life, I mean, that's actually the adjective dehumanizing because you just share what imamo put down
so again, when he said that Xena
and he knew they belong knew everybody Medina. He knew the name, the husband's name if all those names and the children's names. So the provinces love Elisa salaam, say to tell her that it is allowed for a wife to give it has occurred to her husband it is.
Why can the wife give us a catwalk TV is poor we need
that one thing Yeah, it's gonna say we're gonna
He's got a good one
he spends on him?
They're not related yet.
why can't you give the car to your parents and your children? They to answer the question, why can't I give the car? Why can't you give? Why can't you can't use the car to your parents?
That's right, you must take care of them, meaning their nataka is formed upon you. And why can't you give your children
because they never can also found
their burden metal they die.
From the day they born till the day they die, because often we see when they get a job they think now you saw responsible for keeping him anyways. And we fathers and mothers take that responsibility very seriously. So they don't take our responsibility for
the guy just the way it is. So the reason that you can give the car to your wife is because I mean your wife gives a car to you is because she
with nataka isn't filed for her to her husband. It is not her duty to support us.
Even if he's no matter what.
It's not her duty to support
not funneled the money.
So she can give us to him.
In terms of the caches, he's a stranger
so you can't force it to give it to you obviously it comes in all shapes and you know you're trying to give it to me.
you can remind her that you know it's possible and you know you can
but only if the man needs it. Not needed to buy a TV. No no no needed for primary needs.
know, no URL for the algorithm why not? Yeah, that maintenance is for, he has to he has to supply her in the need. from his pocket, whatever he can afford.
But today's you know the women buy all the outside because they work outside they buy the home, so there's no love in the home.
To purchase the cheese is independent. The dependency
Can you ever go money in the bank that viewer could a better job they would you have
married to someone the last
or it may last with a lot of problems. Because you are investing the natural order is like climate change.
You can go on and on and on, you know, exuding
burning whatever fossil fuels you know eventually is going to catch up with you because it's not a natural thing to do. You're disturbing the natural balance of the atmosphere of the of the earth you disturbing and suddenly there's a natural balance in marriage the natural balance between
the one is to give us
no, no, it wasn't it wasn't his brother's daughter.
his father's brother
almost for photography. It was his uncle's daughter sugar and today I thought I made a mistake. I thought I made a mistake you can get married to a nice
I'm glad I'm glad yeah
they it was his uncle almost uncle
so that was his cousin
she's it's pretty
know, it was his it was his brother St Albans brother so she Tama married his daughter article. So we were discussing humanities is on Uncle daughter uncle's was his cousin he can't marry his brother's daughter can
you combine your niece your nephew
Judaism Christianity ah takes you out
state that it is not kings
knowledge that was
at the time and now still hadn't been able to change that culture, but was interesting was
the political and economic
traditions that were in place
and that is was the
that will say teachers will be
optimistic to say
the best that you can
the opportunity for human beings to exist beautiful opportunities available.
actually fulfill that promise
which is given to
beings and the Muslims.
So, yeah, that's just
it is obviously, the proper
position to continue his work, because managers
do not care about the economics of the situation
I think we should ask him
To Primeira COVID I think it's a
valid valid comment
any demand and we'll say the Felicia with the lottery
that she was businesswoman but she worked from home
she was a businesswoman, one of the richest women in America, but she worked from home
profit work for
many other people.
So what are you saying is true?
And we have to admit to that that we are a patriarchal society probably because about to see that as Christians in
and some other we adopted a lot of debt when we can see now by looking at the history of Medina, tech, a lot of things we do is not part of Islam. It has been invented after the demise of the prophets awesome.
They are still the balance between the last one the last season of Quran, Laguna Missoula, the Allah hinder the model, it is clear, clearly differentiate in the process for the Hoonah and to women,
Missoula, the other hidden
is their rights and responsibilities are the same as men, basically, that would be ISIS, ISIS
tell a little story to illustrate this.
You know the story, you know the story to illustrate the point that men and women have the same
responsibilities toward it towards each other.
I've told it many times I still may be somebody remember, there was a man who came
to ask a question to underline the Abbas Abdullah was he was the
cousin of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salatu salam
and he was a learned scholar. Underline the Abbas
wrote the first tafsir of the hole in one body
so this is going to search for the best bang so you travel to Medina long distance or camel traveled to Medina
and he asked when he came to Medina asked everybody waking up to save the lives.
Go Boom road and bustling, so you'll find it.
So he finds it. How does he find that time he also fences and walls around people that she was open. So I'm gonna know I'm not a city.
Backup is out in the sun on a chain or the mirror. And he was trimming it to me is geared to these eyebrows maybe shortly.
Looking in the mirror making use of pretty so this man was shocked
he thought himself
This is the greatest achievement This is because
he's doing good civic and making himself pretty
I will ask him why he's doing this. It's such a great color.
Say when we saw Oracle
or even salaam when he said you know I came to ask you a different question but I'd like you to answer this question we first because I know
that you will not do anything except you can prove it to me either by a verse of the Quran or Hadith
and I know that maybe there is no Hadith within a visa Salam I checked in front of a mirror and made himself
inactive you know why that is because he was the most handsome man in all of Arabia he didn't have to do anything to his face
so Abdullah in your body smiled and he said
I'm doing this because a lot smarter than us is
my wife has the same breath over me as I have told her
so if I want my wife to look pretty the whole day
if I feel like it is my right then her right is for me also look too pretty for her.
If he looks at me Amber's look at some, if I look at her she must be tricky. And then Allah says Allah Hoonah wisdom that the hidden
filmographies Allah says you
equal the responsibilities are equal been by roof in terms of being a woman and being
a man. But the standard standard is required same standard to both is required visibility Islam
any other questions here some time
so that was an excellent point we need to
the only way I think we can
we can mitigate
influence of Western and other cultures in our lives. And the only way we can do that will reduce our dependence on the way we see the world. We have their worldview, that's the way we see the world. We don't see the world in terms of our own worldview, we do things that we take a little bit from here, take a little bit from there, we look at other people who say they do it and we never go back to our roots in our souls and we tell children
at the time of the Prophet sallahu, alayhi salatu salam
there was no
hijab for women
they tend to have their products not that they didn't dress properly, but not in the way that we
have it today for example, and they move freely women at the medina women were traders. So they were in the marketplace in every way.
And they knew that the man of Medina a lot of respectful a lot of respect for him
he looked at this and he said
this is not how I like it to be so what did he do is he went to the prophets of Salaam
and he said is a concern of Dr. Salah.
women are not in her job as we know her job to be and I do we have a lot of graphics amongst us and a lot of Mafia code amongst the Jews of Medina and other people who would like to bring
on mobile habits Allah Allah says
they do today they do the same.
I would like you to you know, speak to the ladies
SPEAK TO DO NOT they didn't do anything wrong. I just say get in confer conform to almost high standards of how women should be it shouldn't be like he told his wife don't give the Magitek a fighter woman said no. That's my right contact. So you can imagine how you must have been in other aspects. So he came to Nabi Salaam. And he said
he explained to him, you know, you should stick make the law stick for the ladies.
So at the time, Dana was one of the wives of an IVR she was the she heard what he was saying, what he was telling the Prophet about the women this about the women
so she came out and he said
What's wrong with you?
You not started interfere in the domestic affairs of the Navy. Allison. Why you Come here? Why don't you come here?
And you you know, revelation comes down in this house. This is the house of Revelation we don't need suggestions from you.
Probably suggestions from you as to what he should do. Wow. You know, when I read this, I thought to myself Sure. We made a lot of commotion in those days. I mean, we chose it they said what was on your mind? They said what you call me mind anyway, she could have been stolen. Who you because he no longer has a very forceful armor of course being what we want. He said no, he lifted the and promises sunsetting armor and wait for revelation
and wait for revelation.
So when the revelation came three verses are minimal, but three verses came at this particular time. All of them are found in surah.
So the hijab which is the city,
city, city, which person
33/33 It's a pretty fair to
On the horizontal, here, it's verse 2830 and 32,
two verses of data, two verses, the first verse I'll just read English.
So the first verse, Allah says to the Prophet sallallahu Taala Prophet say to your wives is direct instruction to the enemy, Salah Salem for his wife, of course, which will be applicable to all other week.
So first it comes to the thing of indecency to be indecent. Allah says you even if you commit flagrant in decency,
Allah will double your country, this is for the wife of God. If she if they do anything wrong, they get double punishment.
And as for those who are obedient to Allah subhanaw taala, Allah, Allah give them the reward twice
for the wives of the visa, and Allah is fine finally says, and we have read gifts in store for them. This is for the Mothers of the Believers, of Muhammad Sallallahu.
That was the second verse. The third verse is
now that there is a second verse, the first verse is, Allah says to the wives of the Prophet, if you desire the present life, and it's beautiful things
come, I will send you away. But in a handsome man
gives the choice of the women of province Isola to say, you are all the beautiful things in life. Muhammad can't afford to give it to you. So if you want to not be married to him anymore, no problem. As for those who are obedient to Allah, Allah shall give you twice the reward and Allah shall give him the gifts.
Still making them to steal the birth, the loss of the first message. And if you desire Allah and His Prophet, Allah is great reward for those who are righteous. The second tool, the second verse is verse number 30, oh wives of the Prophet.
Whoever view commits a flagrant indecency, double punishment and those who are obedient to Allah and His Messenger, twice the reward and re gifts and the last one, are wives of the Prophet.
You are like no other women. Today Allah Allah makes it clear to the wives of the Prophet ah, especially if you fear Allah do not be soft.
If you fear Allah, do not be soft in your speech.
What did Allah say? Women mustn't speak softly. We must speak loud.
Because Allah Allah says, it creates temptation in the hearts of men.
As to who will speak softly to discipline has impressed me she's speaking softly.
Maybe she likes him. But if a woman speaks normal in a loud voice, then shaytaan can comfortably speak in a dignified tone, unless it's to the eyes of the messenger, plus our wives as well. Speak in a dignified
Stay in your homes number two.
do not do what the people of England said before you. Observe, pray, give charity and obey Allah.
So when these verses were revealed,
the Prophet informed Homer that he will reveal the type of city to Homer.
allies against spoken on your tongue?
Because many of the revelation came by a question, how much
so you can imagine the love that he had for them?
This is sincere love with Allah.
See love for metal Solomon.
We have we have about 10 minutes
we'll tell you a story of Mr. Otto to do
with with wives. This man he had a problem with his wife.
And he decided he was going to approach the Emir we need Ahmed Ahmed ricotta was our leader at the time.
And of course all the he was a social worker was a meeting with a counselor. He was everything so we the people had a problem they will go straight to the President.
No secretaries nobody in between. So this man came anyway.
And as he's knocking on the door of almost house, yes, through the door how honest wife is shouting, screaming and throwing stuff
you sit himself?
I thought I'd
come to complete this problem look at his Robin Yes.
know your sisters and your brothers and listen to spend console shine
So before before before somebody yells by knocking on the runway so we
walk down the road you walk fast, no matter what, open the door.
When outside sheltering the company, come here, come here, come here.
Come here. We're also knew that this guy that everything ultimately
that also. So what was it? What's the problem? Yeah. Okay Don't worry it's fine. You know,
I just I wasn't feeling good. I just wanted to talk to you. Was it
something troubling you?
So he said
I have the same problem that you have.
I'm afraid you can't.
You couldn't have to stop inciting you didn't. You couldn't even open your mind. I didn't use a single word.
So it is the same problem. My wife, you know, she shouts and screams and
I didn't know what to do you know.
So mostly Tim, come here. Let me tell you I
said, you know,
my wife or my children for nine months,
I had no shame that I didn't carry the number two, when she gave birth to them, she breastfeed them for free. For free. She could have charged me for every drop of box equals charging any amount of money. And probably I would have paid, Commerce's. She cooks for me. I don't pay.
She cleans out, I don't pay.
She looked after me. I don't pay. In fact, I'm crosswind. She didn't die in my shed.
They were in pain. So he says I look at all the things in my life. And he says the most important thing she does for me, she keeps me out of harm.
So he says if I think about all those things that consumer marketable. He says, he joins us shout the day they're not allowed to shout. If you want to throw me with a pen, I allowed to throw me with a packet. Because it's a big embedded as to what she contributed.
So when you go home, and you're wanting to start a little bit, then you sit and you relax, and you listen.
Don't get upset panel. Look at this big bang available. This big giant of a man does worry of Islam.
This man who when when a man came to him to complain about the Prophet A man came to complain that Allah because he went to Abu Bakr to complain the Prophet
he was there was a difference between a Muslim and a Jew.
the prophets Hassan gave the verdict in favor of the Jew
so this Muslim was very upset. So we'll double back and say how can the Prophet give a favor to I'm a Muslim. So because I think I can do better very good approach is to sit down and gospel Madame Roscommon moment so went to ALMA to go Yeah, you know what happened I had a big issue with a Jew you know? And the Prophet gave the verdict in favor of the Jew so when I said when we went inside when to get a sewer
some of the some of the direct say talked about it of I can't believe that it will be raised but maybe you just showed him this hold on I was so angry sitting by you questioning the judgment of the Prophet of Islam
not allow so that is where with his wife letter almost said you know husband must be inside his own like a
like a lamp
an outside like a lion. Not inside like a lion and outside like a lamp inside like a lion is you get an ominous dumb phone. Who people hide you children lock the doors. The wife just keeps quiet
is the man
That's the man
was beat up everybody shouted everybody. It must be the man. I'm gonna say no be in your house.
Like, no sorry. That's right. Penal circle and not like a lie outside to be like a lie amongst me. So what do you have today? Where people you know they went outside of the house and they greet you they say
mashallah, this man is such a lovely man, you know, suffering. It's such a lovely person
and this panel
and then you Yeah, you know, stories about him and his wife and you think Fukami the same. So that was
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