Channel: Faaik Gamieldien
165. Children and the Prophet (SAWS) 16 December 2016
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hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah in a meadow understanding who wanted me to behave on a telco la when I was a villa Himanshu and fujinami, sia Malina, Maria de la sala de La Hoya you do follow howdy Allah when a shadow La la la la la sharika wanna shadow under Mohammed Abu are a solo salvaterra he was Allahu alayhi wa he was heavy woman da da what he did a video about a beloved brothers and sisters in Islam. Assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
We thank Allah for this beautiful day, Mashallah.
And we ask Allah Spano, tala to
send us rain we need, we need to have more rain inshallah. So we must pray that Allah give us rain.
we should also pray for the people of Aleppo.
And for people of Mosul,
and for people of so many other strife torn places in the Muslim world,
that allows partners to bring relief to them. Of course, we do not know the master plan, which allows Han Allah has for this happening in the world. We also know that
historically, this is not the first time and probably won't be the last time that Muslims have been treated in this particular fashion. And there's been a complete route of Muslims
a genocide track of Muslims
in in the line of history, throughout history, and Muslims are humbled, I've always bounced back. And when they bounce back, they bounce back with a vengeance not when taking vengeance against others. But they bounce back in terms of the fact that they bounce back with a stronger faith and a greater commitment to serve humanity because they know what it is like to be abandoned by humanity, because humanity has abandoned the people that are suffering in that part of the world.
Today, I want to focus on
the fact that I'm sure there are many mothers here with their children, many fathers here with a children.
So I hope today inshallah to have a message or some kind of introduction to a message because we cannot give a message in 40 minutes. So we can only hope to give an introduction to the message. That should come of course from the era of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam from the history of the Nabi allyssa, to Salah that is our first port of call. And we are proud to say that we always take a cue from the Quran and Sunnah Muhammad Allah, Allah. We do not take it from Barney
with any other band
and we pray that Allah, Allah should guide those scholars, Allah Imam chefs who sing Barney in the house of Allah subhanaw taala
I'm still trying to figure out a reason not to condemn it, which I haven't found yet. But it's been for me such a shocking experience. To think that this is if somebody said this 10 years ago that an imam of Masjid one of the biggest measures in Cape Town would be singing Barney songs and clapping hands in the house of Allah subhanaw taala I would never have believed
but I've said this before, and I say it again that we've opened the doors to be there.
And I've said that this is going to get out of control, out of hand out of control. And this is exactly what is happening. Once you open the door to something which is not part of Islam allows berhanu to Allah curses you.
He curses you with
so much nt sunon Quranic behavior that you will never see gentlemen.
Because you have opened this talk about which Mohamed Salah has warned us over and over again we are warned about we are told to follow in the footsteps of Muhammad Rasul. We are told to take the Quran as our guide. We are told to establish the heat in this dunya we are told to be firm on the toe heat. We are told to defend it with our lives. We are told to pass the heritage of the heat and Eman to our children and they have to pass it to their children. And that is the greatest inheritance that we can leave our children. this dunya My dear brothers is valueless in the eyes of our love
and every salon la salon has
About this dunya for those of us who still think that it's okay to appease the leader of this dunya and say it's fine, it's okay. That the people be let him be a visa Salam said
that Locarno dunya is the law he tidy Luciana haba tin Lamas sakala huka financial batalla
levy Salam said, if in the eyes of Allah subhanaw taala, this dunya was more valuable than the wing of a mosquito, he would not have given the curfew one single drink of water.
In other words in the eyes of Allah subhanaw taala. this dunya is of less value than the wing of a mosquito, not the money that Trump bears or the money that fnb has, or the money that whoever has no the whole of the dunya including what is under the dunya and on top of the dunya including what do I own. The visa Salaam says in the eyes of Allah has no value, what is value follow them, what is very for all I studied,
the value, Allah subhanaw taala attaches value only to that will be which is eternal value.
We may think that we own our homes and our cars and this and that, but it's on this hold. There is no ownership.
We fool you fool yourself you think you own it, you don't own it. You only and that lease hold is not even it's not even got a timer is not it allows you can have it for 99 years, knew that lease would last only for as long as your life loss.
is looking at
at a clip on visa. I think he's the owner of pet stores. is now going to is not pesos nanocrystals. You're sleepy surprise.
You can see where you shop your shopping Ubers
shoprite is now going to enter into a partnership with Stein off at Stein off with the other company very massive company that's all over Africa wants to go out into the world. And they're looking at, they're looking at an income of 200 billion Rand per year.
And he shared this Mr. Visa he Shea
is going to be 15 billion Rand a year just for him. And there was a photograph of him next to this
thing that was in the newspaper.
And it looked like an old man.
And I was thinking to myself, look at this man. He's such an old man. What is he going to do with all that man?
So he has to leave it behind. There's probably very sad for people who have so much money to leave it behind. But that is exactly what it is. That this world we are here. There is why the NaVi Salam when he was 63 when he passed away at 63.
He wasn't a gray haired man.
He wasn't a man with a gray beard or gray hair.
He said he had about 20 gray hairs in his head. That's all he had.
And these grades didn't come because you were stressed out because he had to fight wars to defend the Dean of a law firm that no he was asked by us in Arizona law. What is his
beautiful black hair? What is the few strands of gray hair? He said shaiya Bethany oodua Howard,
who gave me this grace and said I got this grace from NaVi from Surah Hood and and the surah around surah route.
And he said the surah gave me the real Grace was allows for her telling me
faster Kim karma
said this was two words, giving grace. First Team come out on it. Oh Mohamed Salah stand firm on what you have been commanded.
It says the most difficult part of his life was not to preach. Goodness was not to preach to heal, but was to be full on it when others wanted to move away from it.
That is the struggle today. And that over the struggle and opium not to say I believe and I don't do that. And I condemn that No. is to be firm on it. Not to say well today I say it's wrong. Tomorrow. I see my brother didn't say
that's right man. You know, you can't change these people. You know, she said what made him cry? That is the challenge. And that is our challenge. And that will be the challenge. And then is that is the key to gentlemen.
First Kim, come on.
Stand firm on what you have and do not waver in that because if we wave in that we lose everything that allows panelists give a toss, we lose this dunya and we lose the asset.
So when we read
the Sierra of the resource Allah,
the history of the Navy salsa, love.
What is that sound like? We read that he was born in Makkah, he was an orphan. His father died when his mother was pregnant. And he grew up like that shame. And then he says in the cave, and he got revelation and they need to run for his life to Medina deny the Battle of mother and in the Battle of hardened in the Battle of hardened Ark and the Battle of facts for Makkah, he had to fight all these battles, it looks as if the Navy's asylums history was replete, and can and contained only life from one battle to the next battle.
But today, inshallah and of course, we know that that is not so yes, that is the history of the navies of Salaam in terms of his military career, that as a general, those were the battles that he fought
in order to maintain and contain what we have today. So that we can say that we are Muslim.
But there was also the life of the Navy Sasselov outside of that sphere of activity. There was a life of the Navy Salamis home,
with his family,
with deviance with alcoholics,
with people who display antisocial behavior,
there was Mohamed Salah as a child, as a teenager,
as a young married man who has not yet Muslim memory in America, he was a Muslim,
young married men.
And I think it's important for us to shed some light on that part of his life, and maybe particularly in his life
in relation to children.
And I picked this topic particularly because it's, it's our first real Friday off of holiday. And
I would have liked to bring some rapport some closest between parents and children. Maybe if we share some ideas from the life of the Navy Salaam we'd be able to, to gain some insight into how to deal with these things. Now today, the camera will focus
on children. And the camera will not only be focusing on children, the person who would hold the camera will also be a child.
And his name is Anna diplomatic about the law of the land as a hobby who join the household of the Nabi sallallahu Sallam in the age of 10.
He was the only Sahabi who loves to do the Navy so Salaam for a period continuous period of 10 years. in Medina.
He lived in the house of the Navy, so he slept in the house, he was inside the house. So he knew how the Navy Salah Salaam, dealt and interacted with young children.
in order to be able to focus on this kind of topic, it's important for us to read
and one of the reasons that I make this hood but today to shift the emphasis on the province of Salem's history, who shifted on a civilian life
as a member of civil society, not so much as a prophet, but as a man whom Allah describes as well. In Nikola Tesla, Hulu Nadeem, Allah says you verily Mohammed Salam is a man of great character.
Your character surpasses the character of any person who would live with who came before you and would come off to
work on Hulu
and say the IHS is is Hulu. This character was nothing but
he based his life on the forearm.
And so as ebony Malik
was this young boy
and as a mnemonic Walter sahaabah would live the longest.
He lives under the ripe old age of 103.
So Parnell and as a mnemonic says there wasn't one day that went past that he did not dream of the Navy SEAL a lot of solo
and it wasn't one day they went went past that he did not cry, missing looking into the face of the Navy SEALs
I just cry because I can't look into it mobarak face in so hello.
when an evisa Salam artemia Baba karma to headband with an Ibiza Salaam, Abu Bakar What do you like in life? You my closest friend, my confidant, my father in law, I'm married to a daughter I show my love very much. You will be the second person to enter Jannah after me. Allah sent to you Salaam through the seven heavens. What are the things that you like in life? And he said, Yasser Allah, or haibo, nada, LA.
Well infer comala Alec.
Segura. So Allah, I love to look at you, you mentioned and I love to spend my money on you, Morocco.
Subhan Allah. So as a mnemonic, then I
very close domestic relationship. And people used to ask him, what did he do when he came home? Did he wash the dishes?
And understand he sometimes would help me to wash the dishes. I used to watch the whatever this is they were well, there wasn't any porcelain dishes. They must have been things that the data. And he said many times and I used to come home and there was no food in the house.
And you charted Ayesha is a no no, no. He never shouted at us like me do. I show my wife
and you shout, and I say is when I became home where there was no food, you tell his wife Ayesha, I'm fasting today.
So it doesn't upset her. Any less mistakes. Don't worry more.
So the inspiration is there to read. And we can read the lockdown text, you can read books, you can read the internet, you can read so many things you can read.
But you must be careful about what you read.
I remember when I went to study, the first time I was
just got married. I was 22 years old.
And my wife was with me. And
this was in the early 70s. I'm quite old.
And my wife was fell pregnant. 920 year old boy, you know his wife suddenly falls pregnant.
And you know you're in a foreign country with not very much money. I used to get 100 grand from my mom every month.
So I was actually I didn't know what to do. I mean, my wife is pregnant now. Now what what do you what do you do now this birth is going to happen. So I as you know, I told what Amy could buy all the books I can get on pregnancy and birth.
Now that I'm in the early 70s,
Egypt was under the sway of the Soviet Union. They were very close. All the armaments came from the Soviet Union, they cut the links with the Americans. And that built up a massive army, you know, the 1973 War and across the Suez Canal, all that weaponry came from the Soviet Union. So all the books are in the market was written by Soviet writers. Because I not in Russian, I couldn't read Russian, written in English. None of this is thick books that I bought
on pregnancy and childbirth written by a Russian author.
And in this book, and I used to believe everything a book says because it's a book written by doctors with everything in there must be you know, authentic. So read this book and this is one of the things books told me was that
the birth of a child only takes place 18 hours after the water of the mother breaks.
So in the middle of the night now right waters break. So as it was
18 hours from now.
She's gonna give birth tonight.
So I say Don't worry.
We'll just clean up everyday you go back to sleep. I'll go back to sleep. I told her she said where'd you get I said it in the book.
So just off the budget No, no, no, but you know something's things that I said. She said Yeah, but you know,
I said 18 hours Medallia 18 hours, even if make it 10 hours.
Eventually she couldn't anymore. She said please do you should get a taxi now. Seven to get a taxi and in the taxi nearly I mean, she gave birth just as she entered the hospital. So that was a lesson for me that Don't believe everything that you read in books. So if I say to you read, also read your circumspection because there are lots and lots of books on the market and read with a purpose. For example, if you want to read about how the property Three, two
Children it's seek knowledge only about that don't give the sector as I do when you read something here.
What I'm going to try to do today is to what is called contemporize. To bring seventh century Arabia to 2016. Yeah, in, in the world today in the world that we live in today, to bring that here, and to stay to certain things.
Things like how, what was the teenage life like of the Navy system? What are the social problems of his time and I mentioned alcoholism, not alcoholism. There were no drugs at the time. And wine was never haram until the Quran came to make it Haram. So until that time, when maybe was the people to drink a lot. And obviously, if you drink too much, and too often you become what is called the alcoholic. And some of these became Sahaba. But couldn't drop the alcoholism, they still
they still took whatever they had to take. And
these were divorces amongst the Sahaba Museo de harissa. And Dana got divorce, both pious people's partner loved
one from the house of the Prophet and one, the cousin of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. There was a hobble a very, very poor,
who could only sleep in the masjid, they had nowhere else to go. That was the place where they slipped. They had no food,
they still knock on the house ordinary system every day and as a worker, and the other Sahaba for food.
so we see this very human personality. When we look at how we dealt with these problems.
And I want to look into things which will interest children.
How does children look at older people? Now we know the Navy says a lamb was 40 when received revelation in Makkah, and he lived for 13 years. So the first part of his prophethood was a man between the ages of 40 and 53. When he went to Medina, and they lived for 10 years, they he was a band between 53 and 63 having to interact with children of seven years old, eight years old. I mean, Anna was only 10 years old when he was living in the house of the navies of Salaam. And Anna's used to say, you know, I lived in his house for 10 years.
But never once did he say to me, why did you do that when I did something wrong?
Never Subhan Allah says probably never said why don't you do it like that? I could do it like this. Why do you do it like that? Like we say to our children, it's not the club Tolkien said my father to smack me if I do things wrong. So heinola with Anna's
children. No, that wasn't the character of Mohamed Salah low olusola. Let's look at children. The first thing children look at i think is children look at the faces of adults.
And it will say the Navy SEAL I made a very fascinating face. He had what is called a very comfortable face to look at. When children looked at him this to fall in love with him. Not because he was handsome because children don't understand the concept of handsomeness they may understand the concept of
of mercy of love, respect.
So the gentleman they look in his face What did they see?
At Bara even as a
hobby and somebody came to ask him one day a person will never saw that I asked him a kind of what you never saw solemn kept safe.
This man who never made the Prophet only heard about the Battle of battle and the Battle of boyhood and all these battles. He asked. He asked him, he asked al Bara what was the countenance the face of the Navy like was it like a swarm?
Because this was the image that was portrayed when people spoke about and even today. They say that Islam was spread by the sword. They say Muslims are non numerous people. They are uncivilized people. They are very violent people. And so this was that kind of image. And velocity Belconnen, Mr. Kumar. He said no, his face was like the full moon upon His face was like the full moon. And another evening, Malik
said, says Mara to Mohammed Salah wa salam illa metabo tema, he said, I never look at the face of the NaVi salatu salam except that he was smiling at me.
Remember, he was a servant. He was not a son. He was not family. He was a stranger was a servant to the navies. We serve the Navy is a lawless
but he said whenever he looked at the profit space, the Prophet smiled at him
There was a rabbi,
the Chief Rabbi of Medina. His name was Abdullah Abdullah
Abdullah Salam was the Chief Rabbi of Medina when the Navy Salam came to Medina. And he was very curious. He wasn't interested in his son was a chief revenue officer. The chief rabbis are not interested in Islam. But he just wanted to see this man who is this man? Who is Mohammed? Who is this man, I need to look at him to see who he is, I can know him. So he says he went
with a crowd.
And he looked into the face of the nervous system, and he said,
Follow him to a Nevada who
he says, When I looked into the face of an IV Salas and love, I saw that he was a truthful man.
He was a man who could only speak the truth, and it is meant to be and the moment I looked in his face, I believed.
He said the moment I looked into the face of Muhammad Salam
today, I believe the name and other other lottoland said,
If Abdullah ignas salam had been alive, while I was the halifa, I would have appointed him my salita after my day.
Imagine how it the Jews would have been today. If the third halifa had to be a Chief Rabbi of Medina.
And it would have been to have had a chief rabbi as the third most important person after Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam. And that was happened just because the men looked into the face of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi salatu salam,
there were only three times and Nabil never smiled.
The first is when he delivered hookah, hookah.
Whenever the nebuta salaam spoke, he was a very serious man.
And he spoke about very serious things.
And he sometimes got so serious that is to turn red in his face
in order to convince his audience, that what he was saying was very, very important for them.
And the second
Arena in which he never smiled was in the arena of battle. Stay calm. No, there's no time for smiling when you go into battle.
And thirdly, when he received revelation from Allah, because revelation was the hardest cast for the mythos of Isaiah to say when the property is to receive revelation in the heart of winter
to the sweat used to come out on is for it.
And this very same anemone Malik he says one day, he was sitting with an episode Salaam and that his leg was racing on his leg.
And revelation came and he said it was like a mountain normally, it's like a mountain provinces. Lake became so heavy like a mountain. So revelation wasn't easy to receive for the Nabi sallallahu, alayhi wasallam and Anna Sydney Malik says that if I were near the NaVi Salah
he sweat used to smell like the best mask ever.
We know that maybe some sweat, smart like like mask.
So that was a little a little insight into just the physical features of Muhammad, Allah is Allah
and a little insight into the behavior of the Nabis hustle.
I Shara della Taran once asked husband for profit was a husband and she knew that she knew him only from from from Medina. She knew him as a man of battle, a man of struggle, a man of little food, men who fostered most of his life, not because he wanted to someday, because he had to.
And she asked him and he said, Oh, my husband, what was the most difficult time in your life?
What was the most difficult time that you experienced in life?
And she said wasn't because it was probably
during the time that he spent in Medina, it was the most difficult battle in his own life because that battle he nearly lost his life. Lily nearly lost his life, lost a tooth. He was injured physically, yet cuts on his face. He was bleeding the Sahaba and made a U turn. The battle turned against the Muslims fact they nearly lost the battle and he said no
He said, Man, all difficult time that I ever had in my life was when I saw the refuge in life
when I had a choice between going to thrive and coming to Medina,
and I thought him at that time was closer and I'd much better connection with the people of thrive. Let me go to five.
And he said they he was stoned and we know what happened. He was stones of the blood ran down his legs. And he said he was thrown by the children of people put up their children, people are tied to pelted with stones.
And he said, when you were sitting on the roadside,
what was he doing? He put up his hands and What was he saying? He said, Yeah, Allah, you have deserted me. Han Allah said, Allah, why did you desert me? Why do you let people do this to me? I'm already in the dark in the depths of despair. I just lost my wife to sauce, my uncle. People want to kill me. And look at this now.
And then an angel appeared to him in front of
an angel say to him, Allah sent me with a mission.
Mission, I have a mission.
Allah has asked me to ask you whether I should take these two mountains and put it on top of the people of pi.
And this angel was more angry than than me so a lot of Salah as you can imagine, because they all love maybe salsa.
And then Amazon said no,
no. And the agent asked, why not? And he says because of the children. English, those are the children that cause you all this pain. He said, I hope that those children inshallah will become Muslim.
He loved children so much. He said, I cannot.
I cannot allow you to kill those children.
Because I love children.
And I want my dear eyes and Allah should guide us.
And I asked him your rasulillah
what is the most beloved act that you like to do? And he said, I like to pray. I like to pray say three times. I like to pray. I like to pray. I like to pray. I mean, he likes to make Salah, not just, you know, no, no. He likes to make Salah Lexa makes you do to allow.
So he made to Jude until his feet swelled up.
He makes you dude
in the middle of the night, every single night.
when in the salado Juma when the baby started crying,
and the Prophet was making salad doing the most beloved thing he wanted to do, making Salah he cut his Salah short in order to appease the mother, and all that not for the child to cry couldn't stand children to cry. That was Muhammad Ali salatu salam.
enter the Battle of battle. Now the Battle of bother was a was a turning point it was it was a watershed. It was either the continued existence
of the a bird of all on the dounia or the destruction of jute on the dunya. That was the choice.
And there's a harbor we're very, very anxious to win this battle.
And so one of the things they did was they wanted to know how many of the courage was in that army. They didn't know how many courage came. And they wanted that sent. And they sent a few of them a habit to spy on the Meccans. But they couldn't get near them. Only person they could get to was a shepherd, a young boy who was looking after the food of the of the Quraysh. Meaning the camels who was going to be the food they used to bring the food. They bring live food with Nando's, they brought life they didn't take the chicken is a big tech live chickens included live chickens to the battlefield. So this boy is looking after these live camels. So whether the hopper got ahold of this
little boy, because he was on the outskirts, we got all of him. They said, Tell us how many men are in the army have the courage. You said I don't know. I don't know. There's a lot of them. I don't know. And they started beating him. Tell us and the profits are absorbed, isn't it? No, no, no, no, no. Please. This boy, Toby levy. I will I will deal with the profit of subsidiary. So what do you think nobody asked him?
How many men they are in the army have the courage No.
was a wise man
was an extremely wise man.
Every act if you analyze it,
he was an amazing man. He could only have been an divinely inspired man. There is what the West is discovering today. It is a divinely inspired, divinely inspired man. He said to the boy,
how many camels are you looking after?
For the food of the army of courage. And the boy said,
And the enemy knew that every camel can feed 100 people.
So nobody says until this habit is between 900 and 1000 people in the army.
And then these other navies are celebrated. And this is our when we want to ask questions like that. When you want to ask children questions, we as adults must first think through the question before we ask the question.
see if my buddy Jamal.
What did you do? And did you smoke with an Attaboy around the corner?
Or did you play through and today and I told you not the Navy sasana always treat always waiting for the right moment to ask the right question or to give the right advice.
we know also that having salame as a child, his childhood seems if we just read it in the ordinary books that it was a shame, you know, his daddy died when he was in the womb of his mother. Then his mother died. And he was an orphan shame was very lonely often, but it wasn't like that. That being said, I met an extremely, extremely happy childhood.
Despite the fact that he wasn't yet a very normal childhood. He had a childhood I would say that equated with the kind of childhood that we had in the 60s and the 50s that can change where our parents would put us out in the street in the morning. And we Eve they would call us back just before Maharajah
and if you wanted to come home in between to eat or whatever the neighbors didn't give you food supplies. You never saw the house if you have children to eat every way.
So is to God in the morning I used to come back like little black merchants in the evening by the scrubbers. But that was that was how he grew up. There was no TV, there was no telephone even in we never had a telephone until I started working in where the telephone. So we never even used the neighbor's telephone at our neighborly lands on was at the time we lived. And many of I mean many of you can attest to that those who grew up in district six or whoever else. Know that that does and how do they never grow up? Because there's you know, 10 ankles and aunts. That is number one. His father had 10 brothers.
It was 11 of them. Member
We need only one son. And it was digging the well of Zamzam. And he only had one son to defend him and he said Allah, forgive me 10 times I will sacrifice one of them. Now Allah gave him 1011 and of course the story goes on. So he had 10 uncles who doted on him because he was a lovely boy, and yet six months, some of his uncle's one of Hari calabaza Batali, as we know, in this house enough Abu lahab was always one uncle they don't like it.
So the Navy was an exception Allah gave me was the one accolade
and there was Hamza who would look up all his ankles, Hamza looked the most like the Navy SEAL seller said, Yeah, and then they were Sufi eyes aren't otherwise aren't harmonized. And because he was an orphan, because everybody liked him. Anyway.
So he had, he had all this he had a big fan and all these uncles and aunts, they wanted children his age. So he probably also started off at five in the morning playing outside, and he loved to play outside. He was an outside boy, he loved to play was a very playful boy. One of the things that allowed Allah would would make him a very, very introspective little boy, because you know, preparing him at the age of 14 to become a prophet. Now he was left out there to graze for himself to play and to fall and to laugh and do whatever you do and we know that he was not an isolated orphan. And he didn't there was no he didn't need any love in his life got all the love that he
needed to grow up as an as a normal boy.
And we know that the Arabs in Makkah The time is to send all the little boys into the body. I do that it used to give it to families who lived in the desert, they would learn they would learn the hard way of living. They would learn the pure Arabic language
Like if you want to send your child to learn Africans don't take him to Cape Town.
Maybe you can send him to Port Elizabeth they speak a little bit of Africans. But the best place to send your child to Africa just send him to
Send to the karate send him to that part they speak beautiful they're gonna bring a bit for mom is very even a spirit. So they will do the same, they will send the kids out there to learn. And as we know, gibreel one day came to the Nagisa Salaam while he was playing with his friends. They were these were these farming friends, the little farm boys and farm girls out they end gibril came in jabril had a task to perform. to cleanse his heart. We know the story. And what was the NaVi Salaam doing when jabril came one would have so that allows one of the voices for him to be in bed nicely tucked in, or maybe at home racing. No.
boys easily Nafisa, Sarah was busy playing with the boys, he was out playing with a boys when jabril came and took him and did his job and put him back with the boys to play
Subhan Allah, and also we know that his mother was a middle aged woman, what his mother's name,
we should give that name more to your daughters. You know,
one of the things that makes me very sad today is the names we give to our children.
Very, very sad.
I think we are sowing the seeds of a future generation that's going to lose their identity as Muslims because of the names.
I think many times we are recognized only buy our name.
If your name and my name wasn't Mohammed, or use of profile, if we had some name sounding likes, it comes from New York
or from Paris or from wherever it comes from, then people would not know that you are a Muslim? Because they watch you they actually
are you Muslim.
And I'm afraid that is going to happen. And grandfathers and grandmothers have a very great responsibility to show anger when the children do not choose the correct name for their grandchildren.
but, but but my grandma, she has a kindness. Excuse me.
It's your children and your grandchildren. You have responsibility to at least leave behind a heritage where your children's names can not be confused
with names that are not Muslim.
And I'm not I know and you know that you the name, color rose by any other name,
stellar stones, okay, you can call anything. But in the context of a minority Muslim community like wherever you encounter, we have to give the correct names to our children.
So he was going to Medina, his mother was from Edina Amina, and he was going there and she was from the family banana jar.
And Anna says
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live amasian we used to go and visit Medina, his mother's family. What did he do? He used to play with the children. And there was a pond in the Benin benina George's tribe at a pond and Nevis. Assalam used to learn to swim in this pond. So he'd love to go to Medina to visit his his mother's family and he's assuming this pond. And that's why I love swimming, and of course horse riding and camel riding and archery. These were the three sports that never saw solemn love, and it became Of course it became Sona sports.
So that was just a glimpse. I could speak for five hours and just a glimpse into the life of the nebulous term as a child and how he treated other children.
And there was a lot of interaction between him and his
and his uncles and aunts.
And I think one of the things that we missed today and one of the things that we are negligent on is the fact that we do not talk to our children.
And I always say you know
when our children are small, they need us to talk to them.
And when we are old, we want our children
and as a father and a grandfather can tell you,
one of the things that hurt the most is when your child comes into your house and goes straight to his mother first.
Not there's anything wrong with that. But the point is he stays talking to his mother is always getting
it is because when they were small and they were young,
we live the speaking to the children to the mother.
The father will say, Brad milkiness superadmin mekanism Pramod Jonas
and the poor mother Okay, fine. I'll speak to the child.
what does an Abbe Salah Salam do with children when they were children we know that Abdullah naboth was 13 years old women and he died
and we know that had even generated I think two weeks ago where you were sitting on the camera behind the Navy serum and the prophet SAW Selim gave him nothing.
prophets of Salaam said to him be obedient to Allah Allah will give you whatever you want even the world comes together to arm you with or not be able to arm you. The world comes together to do you good, they will not be able to do you good. The pains are raising the ink is dry. He said that Oh boy.
And what is that inspire in him? What did that do to Abdullah boss? It made him a confident young man. So our job as parents and as elders is when we speak to children, we must make them confident
and we must make them we must have a loving relationship with them.
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Now, if you connect all these negative comments, and commentaries to what is going to be his most important action in the future life is not going to like But
no, but you know, it didn't work for us. I mean, my father took just a bucket of water. That is the end of the story in the mornings. And I suffered no harm. But today, we must be more sensitive to these things. Now. Don't do that. Now the good thing to do.
So the Navy has kind of always had this burning this loving relationship.
And you know, I'm reading all this I'm reading books and books and books on is trying to find out, you know, what was this day with children. And I never came across one incident with an evisa salaam said COVID Hanafi, Leo kabocha.
I mean, there's never once when the visa Salam said, I'm going to now teach you to do this, I'm going to teach you to do that. Obviously lead by example. They looked at him and they saw what he was doing more than anything else. But they weren't as him and talk to them addresses madressa animoji knobbies, lead by example and the Sahaba. They apparently told by example. And that is how the Dean was transferred through love and confidence. And I'm looking for the half the school in the time of Veneto Lawson. After all year was new revelation here was a new thing that was revealed to the nerissa Salah, I would have thought that he would make every single effort to see that that was
transferred particularly to children whose memories were right for it. But he didn't do that.
And I know why they didn't do that.
Because children must be given a chance to beat children.
Like our parents to us, children must play. They must enjoy the life only from 10 you beat him to make Salah not from seven. If you don't make them seven, you leave them alone. They will see that you make Salah they will make them stand modernica then run away, but that's fine. But it's when they get to the to the age of 10
it doesn't make him fall down it becomes part of the new to see that they do it. So that was I think the kind of relationship than me sossalamander and he visited young people to visit our man was another young people who visit the US Army. He came one day came to visit my rhinovirus, a young boy maybe seven years old and he saw him it was crazy.
To my wife crying with your mercy, you know, I had a little bird and the bird died
when he was with the bird, and we went to take the bird, and we bury the burden, and he said, Don't worry, I'll get you another bird. Imagine the General of the Army, leader of a nation, and time to wipe the tears of a little boy who was a little bird and died. So this was the comforting manner of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
The What do we do today?
By the children the iPad,
and go sit in your room. You come from work. As Norman says, Norman. He says, You come from Hungary? Do children come to you say, Man, I'm tired. Just you? Don't? I'm tired. You know, I don't talk to me now. I've been working to eight hours or 10 hours, you know, and now to raise this knowledge down to rest parola
that is how we treat our children. And so
a time comes when the parents come to me or to you and they say, sir, please, will you speak to my son? Or do you speak to my daughter? And my first reaction is but if if you if your children, if you can speak to your daughter, mom can speak to you can speak to you, sir.
And when did they bring their son to speak? When the when the son is a teenager was in the veteran the problems start, but it's too late. The ship has sailed code ship is gone. ship is lifted it in the zip is God. Why? Because that child is now an adult. Nobody can speak to him for his own mind. He's got his
Mahalo. walaikum salam wa rahmatullah.
the time to speak to our children, is when the young Nabis Hassan spoke to the young Sahaba when they were very young.
And they became the treasure holders of the Quran. And they became the treasure holders of the pseudonym Mohammed Salah.
And they passed that holy heritage on to us, because of the kind of relationship that Ibiza Selim had with him.
And finally, and I don't see why you complain today to holiday, when it's not a holiday, nobody complains. marshawn strange our minds work sometimes. But I always say that when people want to leave, they have to leave. Maybe the man doesn't feel well. Don't think he's doing it out of spite. Maybe the female is an appointment or whatever it may be.
So the final comment I want to give is the story of hope, and I'll do it in three minutes, then. That'd be a cool head. How many sons
And what happened? What are the sons of profit do?
They took his most beloved young son YouTube, they threw him down a dark hole. And they brought a shed back to their father with blogger and said the fox 18
What would you What is your reaction has been?
Would you have been angry? Of course. Would you have shouted at them? Of course. Would you have said to them don't come home until you find him or bring his body to medleys of course. But what was the reaction of the APU? He said some room Jamil.
patience is beautiful.
He said patience is beautiful.
And again it brings it back to the last three dramas which I had the point which I made in the last three dramas which I had. And that is he could make that kind of statement because he put his full trust in Allah subhanaw taala.
He put his full trust in Allah subhanho wa Taala. So we allow swaddler giving Charla that we take some lessons from the scene of the Navy so solemn with regard to our relationship to our children.
And maze allows him to inspire us to inspire our grandchildren and our own children with competence and a loving relationship. And may Allah give give us the courage to listen to them and to speak to them? In shall be our last one to give that we do this in order for us to have a good relationship with them in the future.
And so that they may have a good relationship with Allah.
Then they may love this deal and out of their own God learn this D because that is the best knowledge that we can give to them will allow them Solomonic.