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Tap into your potential – 13.03.2014

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Edris Khamissa

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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh ln masala nama haben Welcome to Al mashreq. On ledger Islam international it is Thursday morning and it's been a bit of a delayed start, we've been trying to get hold of the Idris camisa, who was waiting actually for us on the other side of the line in the UK. But unfortunately, we could not get through to Idris camisa because of apparently some problems with the telecom line and telecom not being able to put calls through to

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to the UK. And so we will have to go on to the programming challenge as he is and go on with the program this morning. I'd like to discuss, preserve a simple issue, but something that could be beneficial for us as well. And that could perhaps even be means of saving a relationship. And

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I love that a space speaks about this in the Quranic room Surah Al Hajj fellas, Allah says we're hoodoo ilaqua, even in a holy war hoodoo illa sirop, in Hamid, Allah Subhana, Allah has guided the people or they have been guided to the purest of Torah. And they've been guided to the path of that Allah, who is worthy of praise. Now, when we speak,

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and when we just open our mouth, very first thing that comes out of our mouth. So whatever we speak about, it has an effect on the people who we are speaking to, and the response that our speech elicits, will have an effect, they after on our very own lives. And

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when we speak, we should speak that which is beneficial and be fitting to a particular situation. And also when we speak it should be brief, it should be direct, and it should be brief. And

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if you perhaps, are among the youngest present in the gathering, or in the conversation, or in the circle of people who are speaking, then the etiquette is that the youngest not speak unless they are asked to specifically speak or

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you know that what you are going to speak is welcomed by all for that whatever you speak is going to be of benefit to is going to please others. When we eat, we shouldn't prolong what we are going to say.

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And we shouldn't go on and on in what we are trying to get across to whomsoever we are speaking.

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Now, it's important when we choose our words, that our words are fair and say that which are going to be most beneficial. And the speech that we indulge in is going to benefit another and it is not going to be harmful to those people around us.

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And obviously every situation every relationship is governed and it's dictated by the way we speak the amount that we speak and how we speak as well. And NSLs Yola, and who reported that sort of loss of Omaha Isom speech was clear, and he said it was succinct and neither was it too long. Not too short. Enemy sal Allahu lism disliked shattering and ranting and this was the way that the sort of masala has spoken, spoken. If you just analyze this particular statement of Nabi sallallahu, Alayhi Salaam and we take it word for word, the speech of Navy SEAL, Allah Hollister must clear the succinct that the speech of the recent Allahu Allah Islam was easily understandable to all whom he

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was speaking to. And it was absolutely clear, it was not in mumbling, tone, pleasant, very low tone as well that people could not understand what Nabi sallallahu Sallam was saying. It was not

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in words that were also too high and beyond the capacity of those people whom he was speaking to. And it was words and speech that was easily understandable to all. It wasn't too long. There was a loss of a lesson with an extended

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lecture or extend an advice extended talk, extend the conversation to such a long period of time that people would become bored of what is said, or people become tired of what he spoke. nor was he too short either way, the true meaning of what a pseudo lasala and he's saying, you know what he was getting across would be lost. And Mr. Larsen spoke clearly and comprehensively. And similarly, it was reported in Bukhari and Muslim. The Ayesha de la Han ha,

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said Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam spoke so few words, that you could count his words, he spoke so few words that you could count his words. That means when the use of Allah Holy Spirit spoke, his words could be counted. But yet we see the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam

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I used right up until today, as a means

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of Vi use right up until today as a means of

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cadence as a means of Hidayat is a means of understanding the word understanding the deen and this was the beauty of the words of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam Swami.

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That was the description given the speech of livezilla Allah and Islam, that it was concise and comprehensive, these words of Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and that is how we should learn to speak as well. And we can learn to speak like that, when we understand the language properly that we are speaking, this is important for us to understand the language that we are speaking in, if like most of us do, if we are speaking in English, and we need to understand the nuances of the English language, we need to understand the grammar of the English language we need to understand what words are to be used in which place correctly and which are fitting in preflighting for a particular

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sentence in a particular situation. And that is how we need to learn to speak.

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And we sometimes speak English, just out of necessity, and our home, maybe karate, or Judo, or Arabic or some other language

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when we should be fluent in the language that we know best how to speak. And this would lend to the to our ability to express ourselves correctly, most adequately in the language that we choose to speak also as the etiquettes of the of the speech of Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. And that we can draw from the speech of Nabi sallallahu sallam. One is that if you hear the other, you should stop talking and you should listen to it, respond to the call of Allah subhanho wa Taala. That is make this a common practice in our homes, and particularly invite this within our children. When the event is being called out, then all talking chattering blame, everything should stop. Hey, remember

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just a few years ago and currently as well, it happens when people are playing in soccer tournament and you hear the event being called out. Then even what happens here is that even the non Muslim referees who have been with us for many years, they remind us that now is the event, hold the ball sit down, listen to the other hand, once the event is completed, we carry on with a soccer match. This is this is just with regards to the respect that they showed to the other

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end it was a practice among our forefathers that when they would hear the event and everything would stop nothing would carry or nobody would go ahead and talk or say or speak or do anything. Everybody would concentrate in focus on the event, listen carefully to the event and respect the event. So even our talking a certain place and certain points where we can talk and certain places and certain times when we can not talk. We should learn to use our intellect and our discretion and understand the etiquettes of way it is suitable to talk in a way we should keep quiet rather than opening up our mouths and causing problems for others, harming others and causing problems for ourselves as

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well. We'll continue this discussion inshallah after the break. Stay tuned for a second radio Islam international

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Up

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Welcome back to

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Islam international speaking with the etiquette of talking and

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we, we we spoke about when to talk about is a suitable time to talk and one practice that we need to imbibe within us within our children as well as that at the time of the event, to put away everything and to focus on the event concentrate on the other hand, and not to talk at all during the event. And it is an etiquette of being from the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu Matthew in the event is qualified to listen to the event, don't talk. And don't even study don't even recite the Quran, Karim, listen to the event and reply to the event and

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has a great status in our Deen and it is our responsibility then to listen to the event.

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And

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we have been

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another important point in that is that our speech and the other of conversation, the etiquette of our conversation reflects our personality, how we talk with reflect the type of person that we are, and

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just to understand this, when a person has a way of talking very rudely, very abruptly, then that is the mark of a person's personality, they are rude and abrupt type of person this was revealed watch reflects on us, in many cases in talks commonly, respectively, then it reflects on the person as well. And it is the speech and what we see with our sons,

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and that

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affect us, you know, we look at

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we look at how the speech and the actions have done mainly the person to defy of jahannam as well, because of what they say. And it may lead a person to agenda. Also

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the most delicate muscle that a person has, for the most powerful muscle is well could be the tongue because it can benefit in hammer person, the wise person who is one who thinks carefully before actually talking before actually making a statement, and the person who's foolish, who just blurt out what he wants, without thinking carefully, of the implications of what he's going to say. And it doesn't only involve what we are saying, but also the tone that we use, in our talk, the topic that we choose to speak the

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way we look at the benefit of our speech,

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the other the etiquettes of listening of debating, it also encompasses our intention, and everything that in that we can find as part of, of speech, and when we speak the tongue should not just flow mind is see but we need to think carefully about the consequences of what we are saying. And we need to be careful about how we speak what we speak, who we speak to, and what type of words we used as well we use as well. You know we've heard many different hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi Salaam and among the Hadees we sweat Rasulullah Assam spoke to more either of Yolanda Hakuna Safina Illa, Hassan, ido alsina to him, would it be anything else besides the harvest of the tongues that

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would throw people into the fire of hand them upside down? And from that, how do we learn that just by what we say? It certainly would affect what our condition would be in the US era as well.

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And we learn also about the etiquette of, of greeting and the importance of greeting. You know, we speak about the tone of our voice as well. When we are speaking. Looking at the tone of our voice. We speak in a pleasant tone. We speak in a low in audible tone and to raise the voice make it loud, unnecessarily scream out

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It's against correct other planet, it shows that we don't respect the person that we are talking to, when we speak loudly to the person and whether we are in the home with it any other place as a family or friends or others, we need to learn the etiquette of and the stone of talking and

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just add of of talking is to start at home, because we cannot have one set of rules for outside and another set of rules for for inside as well.

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And

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with the most important point to note is that we need to adhere to the status of talking in the correct tone when speaking with our own parents or with somebody of of some elder of somebody's status.

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If we if it is appropriate to smile, while we are talking to others, obviously we don't smile was non Muharram just for the sake of pleasing them. And it is a simple act of smiling while talking that may act as our charity or to simply allow others to be more receptive to what we have to stay why why what we have to say. And the court and that leads to us the advice of local man alehissalaam workers seed fee machico Baldwin zoetic in uncovered a Swati la SoTL hammer Oh, la C'mon la terrace is the de moderate in your face we know in your voice. The most harsh of sounds without doubt is the brain of a donkey. And Allah Allah speaks about the loud voice and Allah warns us about it that is

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like the brain of a donkey. Imam Al Bukhari Rahim Allah

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as a squatter with Abdullah, the man who said after the revelation of a verse of the Quran, Karim, Allah tala mentioned Lavina Amanullah Swati can focus on the individual, Natasha, Allah who will call the Don't raise your voice above the voice of Rasulullah sallallahu is known speak loudly to him. And Homer, whenever he would come to speak to Rasulullah sallallahu. I mean, talk almost in whispers. And also the last person could hardly hear what he was saying in would ask him to repeat what you were saying. And

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he was able to see a great score a great alum, when he was in the presence of his mother, you would talk in such a hushed voice that you would think he was ill, and a student of him and even a Syrian. He noted that one time his mother called him because he responded to the voice louder than hers she was fearful and repentant. And because he was afraid that he had committed a sin, He freed two slaves just because of speaking to his mother in a loud tone. So, we need to talk in the appropriate tone when necessary, and with with respect as well, but obviously, the conversation between Muslims

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between males will be different and then when we are talking to a non Muharram sometimes it is necessary particularly in a western country, for for the non Muslims to speak, not talking reflective of his personality and this can cause a problem in conversation between Muslims between non Muslim and knowing the sister talks with the non Muslim brother You should be aware of the tone was not beautify her voice, but

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she was attempt to make it thicker with the intention of pleasing Allah subhanaw taala and not falling prey to the one who may have illness in his heart. And this means that she has to make more effort if her voice is particularly gentle. So Allah tala will have greater reward in store for her and it's not something we should overlook. And another problem is that the western etiquette is that we look directly at the person that we are talking to. This is another cause for concern. Because the commands of Allah subhanaw taala is that we shouldn't look at the person that you are talking to especially if it is a nun Muharram and

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we should maintain this etiquette of not looking at a normal home and showing our

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our humility, or humbleness, our flesh fullness in sha Allah says Allah subhanho wa Taala grants Sophie an understanding it's just gone quarter to 12 brings us to the end of our discussion this morning. Unfortunately this camisa could not join us because of problem with the telecom lines in us being unable to speak him because he's in the UK. Shall I will speak next week with him from Junaid to satin this Thursday morning. You can to my studio operator seven Jad Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh