Friday Night Etiquettes Class – August 13, 2021
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu wa he was Salam ala and OB Hill Karim. Allah He upon osato oedematous Lim rubbish rockne Sabri way acidity Emily Western ocular 10 Melissa Annie of Coco Kohli, my brothers and my sisters, a Selim were at a comb or a metal Mahi or bought our cattle. So it is the 13th of August 2021. It is Friday night, the night of the fifth of Muharram if I'm not mistaken, and these are blessing days too fast. If you want to go through that afterwards in sha Allah, we can discuss a little bit about the month of Muharram and fasting throughout this month in the Holloman shout along to Heather. For now we're gonna get right into it,
you'll notice the change in timing. So we're now starting at 9pm and that, and that is because
of the timing of solitary motherhood. So solitary motherhood is at 824 tonight, you know, if we were to start our class at eight o'clock, it just wouldn't really make sense we'd finished by like 815 so I figured now that most of it is much earlier, let's start the class at 9pm. And you know, roll with that for a few weeks in sha Allah and then maybe bring it back to 830 as solid today shall gets earlier and muffled it gets earlier inshallah which means that we're nearing winter, you know, Autumn is coming, of course, Autumn is between the summer and the winter. But you know, once the timing starts to roll back, we start to feel a you know what, it's almost time for
snow, it's almost time for snow. I'm
just gonna do a quick adjustment here. So now that we are enjoying, I would say, the last part of this month of August, and that the weather is changing, I want to also encourage all of us to encourage others to take advantage of the online classes. Hopefully inshallah we do go back to in person classes very soon, I'm hoping that we can get over this hurdle of, you know, six foot distancing, especially considering we're wearing masks yet we're still six feet apart.
And we can't have our programs because you can't have classes more than 25 people. So it's a little bit annoying and frustrating but you know, we are patient with it. We've been patient with it for quite some time. We continue to be patient and shut a lot of data but hopefully, you know, we can get past this little hump in in our lives and enjoy some in person sessions in sha Allah.
So I do encourage you to encourage others to still attend online you know, send out a message to others let other people know that they could attend the class especially now that the time has changed and it's after moded usually people are at home at nine o'clock especially on a Friday night right out chilling there's nowhere to go and chill. And even if families are getting together you can always open it up on the big screen. You know and YouTube, Facebook, Instagram
and what Twitter right so it's being live streamed in multiple places so we can all join and benefit inshallah. Alright, so we're going to be going through the next parts of this chapter the chapter on food and drink etiquettes of food etiquettes of eating etiquettes of drinking. We spoke about standing and drinking last week we also looked at
the method of drinking rage. So drinking in one gope is something that is permitted, but it is encouraged and better for us to drink by taking small sips 123 sips with a breath in between why well the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that it is more thirst quenching, it is healthier and more whole more wholesome right
When we take a sip and then breath and then take a sip and a breath and then take a sip and a breath, and of course it's encouraged to sit down. Now science of course always shows benefits to the son of the Prophet sallallahu added his son and we always will find you know, Muslim scientists or people who love science or medical doctors and stuff like that, that will look into the son of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and let us know that there's also scientific benefits to you know, the things that we do within our Deen however, the very first thing that we focus on always is that we do what we do for the sake of pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala that right we want
to please Allah azza wa jal in everything that we do. So if we take three sips Yeah, it might be good for us physically, right? But we do it because of the pleasure of Allah subhana wa tada first and foremost, okay.
Today we look at khata he had to show min Fie, a cigar, okay, which is that it is disliked to drink from the from from basically from a bottle or from the mouth or the opening the spout of a large container. Okay. So for example, you know, you have your big carton of milk in the fridge, you know, or you have a jug of water in your home and you're going to take the whole jug and you start to drink from it. That is something that is disliked within our Deen and we see many authentic Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that discouraged this and stop us from doing this. Okay? The first Hadith or proof or evidence that we will look at is the hadith of Abu Zubaydah. It'll be a
long line, where he says color,
were sorry, were above the law and says, no ha sort of law he says, The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Messenger of Allah forbade us from drinking from the mouth, or the spout, or the opening of a water skin, or a leather container, right? A sick off. Like I said, it's basically like drinking from a large container. So if you have your milk carton, a large milk carton, or a jug of water at home on the counter, or you know, a juice, you know, bottle, a large juice bottle, whatever it is, aesthetically, it's not permitted to do that. Now, I know we live in North America, and some of us have a fridge at home, where we simply take our cup, and you know, there's a spout on the
door, and you just put your cup in there, and the water starts to fill inside of the cup, and then you drink it. Well, we have a friend of ours, where when you put your cup there, the spout actually just
throws water out onto the floor. But let's not get into that and shall all right. So if we were to even take that as an example, is it permissible to go over to the fridge and push the button with your finger and open your mouth
and let the water pour into your mouth? No, that's not from the sun, not not from the etiquettes of our dean. So whatever it is that we're talking about, we're talking about a large sum of water, juice, milk, any drink that we are going to be consuming, that is highlighted, of course, it's not permitted for us to drink from the large container. And we should take it from that and pour it into a glass or a cup or something smaller and drink from it. We see in another Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
where he says,
We're even above the Allahu anhu Mark says, know her and nebia some Allahu Allahu wa sallam and he should be mean fee a seeker. He says the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam forbade us from drinking from the spout of the large container, right? And their time they used to use a water skin. So they would take a leather, a big piece of leather, and sometimes it was the stomach of the animal, right, but usually it was a piece of leather and they would have it closed and sealed up and they would have a spout. Now you could take the leg part of the animal and you know, fold it and mold it and so on, and then seal it and then you have a small you know, piece of leather at the
bottom that you would just twist up to stop the water from leaking out.
So that's with regards to that. Now.
Here we see clear advice
or sorry, clear evidence from the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam that it is forbidden to drink straight from the large container. Now, there are some reasons for that the scholars look into it and say, Well, why, why should we stop drinking from the large container? Is there a problem with it? So the scholars from the advice of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam deduce a number of things let's look at for examples. First of all, the scholars mentioned
the saliva of a person
When you drink from a large container and you leave it there, because the large container stays for a long period of time, it's not like drinking from a glass and you're done drinking, you put in the sink and you wash it, it's the large container and there's still a large amount of juice or water or liquid in it. And so what happens is when you drink from the the saliva from your mouth that goes on it, eventually, it may, you know, change the scent on the edge of the spout and start to smell bad. Okay, start to smell that.
The scholars mentioned the second point is that there may be insects or small animals, something small spider fly, something that went inside could even be a mouse that went inside it overnight, or, you know, over time, and when we drink from it straight from the large container, we might not realize that there's some sort of impurities that might be inside that could be harmful to our health, and therefore, we should pour it out into something else. And we're able to look inside the cup of the glass and then drink from it. We also see that the scholars mentioned that the saliva of a person
on the spout, right or the the the container, the large container, the jug may bother other people and not allow them to comfortably come and pour from it and drink from that. And lastly, you know, that the person may be sick. And if they drink from it, then they become a means of infecting others, right? They spread their germs to other people, and other people may get sick from it. It's now usually we don't do this right? But within a family sometimes you'll find one of the kids goes to the fridge at night just takes the milk and drinks from it or takes a juice and drinks from it. We need to learn these etiquettes so we share this of course. Now you notice someone mentions, why
are we talking about this topic? Why not something that we're almost currently facing because they're almost currently facing this problem. Okay, whether you think it's a problem or not, our oma is facing this problem of lack of etiquettes we need to learn more of the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in order to be better people. And Allah subhana wa Jalla says in the Quran in the law Hello yo yo ma be comin had your hero maybe unfussy him, Allah Subhana Allah says that he will not change the condition of the entire Ummah or a nation until the people change that which is within themselves. And so it's important for us to have etiquettes you might think to
yourself as an oma, we have this problem and that problem. Well, my brother, my sister, you could talk about those problems all day long, you're probably not going to solve them. But if we all try to change ourselves and try to work towards something that's good, in sha Allah, through that Allah Subhana Allah Allah will make the change that we want to see happen, and we ourselves will have bettered our own selves in order to you know, come closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala and the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and remember that Amen yazeed way on course, as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that Eman increases and decreases How does it increase and
how does it decrease? Well, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said al Eman yazeed way, of course, is he Vitara Wham crossbill Masseria, Eman increases and decreases it increases with obedience of Allah subhanho wa Taala and it decreases with the disobedience of Allah subhanho wa Taala and if we're not going to do what Allah is pleased with and happy with which is the Sunnah of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, then what obedience of Allah subhana wa tada we really talking about. So that's a little bit of something that I share with you and share with everyone to really understand why we come back to the basics of our Deen. as Muslims, we always look at what's
happening in the media and we say, Oh, we need to tackle this problem. There's issues in Palestine. There's issues with this and there's problems with that and this is going on in the world. Yes, there are. me sitting here right now in Canada, I can't really change that. But if I'm obedient to Allah subhanho wa Taala and I submit to Allah in every aspect of my life, when I raise my hands and ask Allah subhanho wa Taala for help Allah subhana wa tada will bring the help because the believers are connected to him. But if we don't submit to Allah Subhana Allah in our everyday life, in the little things that we ignore all the time, like eating and drinking and how we interact with one
another and how we display our DNS and our dean and so on and so forth. Then what makes us think that Allah Subhana Allah will answer our door when we call out to Him. Yes, Allah says in the Quran with the Rooney a steady biller can call upon me I will answer you. But what good to Allah is the call of the caller who misses their prayer. What good to Allah is the call of the caller who disregards the some of his most beloved prophet messengers on a long ladder usnm Muhammad what good
To Allah subhanaw taala is the call of the caller for one who doesn't even care about the little nuances within our Deen and the beautiful aspect of our Deen that we find within the Quran and the Sunnah of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So that's a little bit of a
motivational piece that I use for myself first, to remind myself why we do this. You see, we if we don't know basics, and we don't know the little things in our Deen, then we are no different than anyone else. So why why does it matter? Then? Why does it matter? What's happening in the world to people into Muslims and to non Muslims, right? Why does it matter? If we don't care about the little things that we as human beings have to focus on?
Then the big things don't matter? Right. So we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make us from amongst those that understand as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, ballyhoo our knee with a higher spread convey from me, even if it is one idea, one verse or one principle of this Deen or one Hadees, or one sign of Allah subhanho wa Taala is greatness. So spread something even if it is small, and remember the Hadeeth of a Chateau Viola and her where she says that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said from the best of deeds, right clay, it will Amell at the one will have what is called the best of deeds are those that are done consistently, even if they're small.
Those that are done consistently, even if they're small, the best of deeds. So never underestimate the smallest good deeds that we might do. That takes us to paradise. It is the little thing that we disregard, that could make the huge difference that we need on our scale that takes us from from the total destruction that we're seeing happening in front of us on the Day of Judgment where people are going through hardship and difficulty, and maybe that small little deed that we did in our lives, saying Yeah, Allah I submitted to you in following the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in drinking, I submitted to you in following the weight of the prophets on a long ladder, he
was send them in not eating what I'm not supposed to, in not speaking the way I'm not supposed to, or at times that I'm not supposed to, or going places that I'm not supposed to, and so on and so forth. And that becomes the good deed that is heavy on the scale. that pushes it down, that allows our good deeds to be a means of our success in entering into paradise. Allahu Akbar. Right. All right, so let's move on in Sharla. Now there is discussion, we were talking about how it is
how it's discouraged or disliked to drink from the spout of a large container or jug. Some of the scholars say that it is complete prohibition that we are not allowed. Some of the scholars say it's even how long to do that right. However, some of the scholars say that it's disliked, to drink from this spout of a large, you know, container or or jug or something of that sort. And that is the more common stronger opinion amongst the scholars based on the wording of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam as well as an action of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam that we'll look at now. So here's a must Allah for all of you what is the ruling with regards to drinking from it because the prophets on a
lonely island he was Salaam was known to actually have
consumed or drink drank, drank, drunk drunk, to actually have drunk from or drunk in from drunk from sounds weird saying the word drunk. But he drank some Allahu alayhi wa sallam from the container or the jug the water skin.
And this was while he was traveling and he stood and he drank from it because the water skin was hanging and so he went to it and he opened the bottom and he drank from it some along it USL. So, the scholars now have this conversation or discussion as to whether it is permitted because hey, the prophet SAW how long it was some of them drank from it, right. He stood and he drank from the bottom of it now, to give some context he some a longer idea who was alum when this was narrated, was traveling. Okay. The other thing is that the waterskin was hanging, okay, it was hanging. So he went to it and drank from it because well, it was there and he just went up to and drank from it. So the
scholars talk about this. Many of the scholars have rahimullah he says that our chef right he says Carla, Chef Luna, she shot at tirmidhi. He says our even hedger is the one who wrote even hijo Rahim Allah
Last colony, he wrote the explanation to the headings that are found within society handbook body and his explanation of it is called fraternity body. So this chef this scholar who wrote the explanation to the most authentic hadith, what we consider to be the most authentic IDs this check says my chef said to us in his explanation of the Hadeeth that are found within the collection of hadith of Mr metonymy the or him a whole lot he says
if we were to differentiate between
between a necessity and the norm, we would say so i'm i'm just summarizing here right? He would say that we don't see that drinking from the water skin or the large container is something that is encouraged within our Deen however it is permitted to be done in a case of necessity Okay, and if it is necessary for someone to drink from it then we do not see any issue with it and there is no you know cut all heard there's no it is not disliked within our dean. Okay, I hope that makes sense. Insha Allah tada All right, let's move on to the next topic. The next topic is that it is preferred for the one who is pouring out or serving others drinks or something to drink, it is preferred for
them to drink last. So if you are the host or you've been appointed by the host to pour let's say tea and to serve to everyone well you don't pour your tea and drink some and then keep serving others okay? You pour out the tea and you serve it to others and when everyone has been served, then you are the last one to drink.
So the also the origin in this is found in the hadith of Qatada about the long run
which is a lengthy Hadith Okay, it's a lengthy Hadith of the prophets on a long ladder you SLM where he says in this Hadeeth vagina Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Yes,
see him? So the prophets on a longer it he was sanlam was, you know, pouring and had appointed him to pour, you know, drink or water for the people
had been pa he says until there was no one left, except myself really was a Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam so he said I poured for everyone until there was no one left except myself and the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
He said, from Sabah Rasulullah sallallahu ala usnm, then the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam poured the water out
gave to him and said drink
and he says, so I said,
Let a Shara had to shrivel your rasulillah
right. I will not drink until you drink or a sort of law son a longer legal seller. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in syrupy elcom Pharaoh home shorba so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that the last the person who is pouring and serving is the last one to drink. So when we backtrack, we see the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was pouring to drink and serving the people pouring to drink and giving to the people pouring to drink and getting to the people. And then he says in this hadith Qatada of the llama, and that there was none left except myself and the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and so he poured in gave to me, and I
said, I will not drink until you drink out of sort of law, and the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, that the one who is pouring in serving the drinks is the one who is last to drink. So he gave to him and then so patata rhodiola and he then says, For Sherry to washery Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says, so I drank and then the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam seldom drank, okay, and then the Hadees continues. So we see from this Hadeeth First of all, that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was serving his people, right? He was not a leader who sat back and said, okay, you do this and you do that. Alright, good job, guys. Good
job. All right. Okay, everyone. Yeah, all right. I just I'm going to delegate and you guys carry out okay, everything's good. I'm the light worker. Perfect. atisha you stay home. All right, you go and do it. No, no. The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was one who took matters into his own hands.
He was a hands on leader he was active in his community. He was there with the people through thick and through thin through hardship and ease, right some along with some of them. He was always with his people and helpful to them. And even at times when there were gatherings and people came over to eat the profits, and along it, someone would not sit down and everyone would gather around him. And he's like, yeah, you know, I'm, I'm the host. And the show revolves around me because I'm the Prophet of Allah and you guys need to talk to me and come to me know the prophets and along I need to send him sat them down and serve them. So he was pouring to give to the people to drink. Some
Allahu Allah, he was sending them.
And usually at that time, they didn't have multiple cups, like everyone gets their own cup. Here you go, yeah, I'm going to fill this and drink. And now it was more like one or two cups, right? a vessel or a bowl, and they would fill it and give it to someone and they drink from it and then fill some more in someone else would drink from it. That's old times, right? That's how it was. I know we look at it like, oh, but what about germs? What about COVID? What about this? Well,
this is the way that they live right? In the desert. So Pamela, and of course, those that were looking after the utensils, they knew you could take some water and sprinkle it on and wash it right you can just pour a little rinse it and then pour some more and and give it to someone else. So they had these, you know this tough to this method of doing things. And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentions that the one who is serving is the last one to drink. And we see by default, this means that the one who is serving food should be the last one to eat as well.
And now when we transition and we look at the host at the wedding
is the bride and the groom more particularly most likely the groom? And what happens is we usually wait to eat until the groom sits down and they're served their food and the bride and the groom. They start eating and then everyone starts eating.
It should be that everyone that's invited eats and the host eat last right the host eats last man was paired with Adam make it easy for us. I mean,
okay, let's look at is the hubbub
around a bomb. So, it is
it is permissible. Or this title heading is the permissibility of speaking while eating. Okay. First of all, the scholars say that we should be different than others and the norm at their time was that people would not eat right especially you'll see in some cultures, people will not eat and talk they will just be quiet and eat and then they will talk afterwards. However, even mostly for him a whole lot. He says his half even Ibrahim said
to her Shea tomahto rotten. I had dinner once. Enter What about Abdullah? Who is about Abdullah Ahmed even humble. Okay, so even muffler says that is happy bin Ibrahim said that he had dinner with
Maddie been humble who's not even humble Rahim Allah. He is a scholar. Right? The you know when we say this is the chef error emails have the Maliki method the Hanafi madhhab the hum belly method so even even humble is the person we're talking about here. Okay, we're not talking about the profits in the long run. It was something we're not talking about as a hobby. Okay, just making this very clear chama
sumeet I'll try and scroll up and take a look at afterwards inshallah.
So he says is happening. Ibrahim says I had dinner once myself and Ahmed even humble
and those that were close to him, right his his close friends, his students, whoever were close to him. For Jana, learner qlm were who are yet cool, we're cool. So we were eating and we were not talking. We were all silent. And so Mmm, rahimullah. He said Alhamdulillah wa Bismillah.
While eating, he said Alhamdulillah or Bismillah.
Nowadays, his friends and his students, those that were close to him that were with him. They were like, looking around, it was so silent and all of a sudden out of nowhere. You know, Allah He says Alhamdulillah what this mill
says so they're like, okay, what's going on? Then he says,
He says, a colon wha Hamden Hiram min
Lin was something he says eating and praising Allah while you're eating is better than eating and not saying anything at all.
This is really not a Hadith, it's not a hadith. This is a statement that comes from one of the greatest scholars of our history.
And so he mentions this now.
We don't find that within the Sunnah mention about eating and talking. But we do see that you know, the Sahaba of the Allahu anhu they gathered, they were together. And it was probably just the norm for the Muslims to eat, to save Bismillah to praise Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, that it was not really something that was mentioned. And in sha Allah, Allah will look deeper into this. However, this is what we learn from the scholars that it is encouraged for us to.
It's encouraged for us to, to to praise Allah subhanho wa Taala when we're eating as opposed to just eating and not saying anything at all. Okay.
The last thing that we'll look at insha Allah Allah
maybe we'll stop there. I think we'll stop there inshallah, and then we'll open it up for some questions.
Because I don't want to go too late and then it's going to be time for Asia and then people are going to come and start knocking on my door and my window. Okay, so we'll end here in sha Allah, quickly write the date down.
And feel free to ask some questions. inshallah. I'll scroll up, I know that something was mentioned here. So if you have any questions, feel free to type that in the comment section inshallah.
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Duck. Hello, Hayden. I just see your question there. Can I please mention what tonight's livestream is about? As as we've been going through, I mentioned the topics of tonight's live stream etiquettes from the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And this is something that we do every Friday, if you go back and look at every Friday evening, you'll find a video that we did on that, okay.
And we do this every single Friday insha Allah data and on Sundays we will cover chapters from
sick, right jurisprudence. So we'll look at different aspects of our Deen and how we're supposed to do things. And in fact, we started the chapter on food and looked at the types of foods and animals that are held on for us to consume last Sunday, and we'll continue with that this Sunday. inshallah Tada.
There's a question here on Instagram that says, How can one control obesity from an Islamic point of view? Good question. We're actually going to touch upon this topic next week. But in a nutshell, very briefly, if you permit with regards to controlling obesity, we have to look at how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam ate the times that he would eat. And is that something that's feasible for us at our time as well, the kinds of foods that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam would eat the amount of foods that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam would eat as well. And so all of these put together we see that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not eat three times a
day. In fact, most of the time, they only had one meal for the day. And if the prophet SAW longer it was on them. Usually when he got up in the morning, he would make intention to fast for the day, right? Or he would get up and pray for budget and then after budget and returning back, he would look and see if there's any food to eat. If there was no food to eat, then he would continue. He would make his intention because it's assumed that enough, you know, fast, you would make this intention. I'm going to be fasting for today. Right?
So that was the way of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he also would eat until not until they're completely full, but he would eat until the hunger is gone. Right and that was the way the Sahaba of the long run home as well. They would not eat until they're full. They would eat until the hunger is gone. And this is a mistake that many of us make with our children.
We are telling our children to eat right, we usually tell them finish your plate, finish your food. So we then see that our children are forcing themselves to finish their food. Really what we should do is if our children are done eating, they're done eating, but tell them you're not eating until the next meal. And so if you want to eat some more, now's your chance, because sometimes they don't like the food. And so our children being as spoiled as they are in the Western world that we live in the so called first world environment that we are raising our children in, we find that a lot of the time our children, you know, are like, oh, tomorrow we're getting this. So let's eat less today. Or
Tonight, we're invited out someone's house, so we're not going to eat lunch. And that's because we do that as adults, right? And so if we are going to do something in our life, expect your children to do that as well. And when they do it, don't get upset with them, because hey, they're just doing exactly what we're doing. Right. So, again, with regards to our children,
and ourselves, eat until the hunger is gone, when the hunger is gone. Alhamdulillah if an hour later, we're hungry again. Then we could simply eat like, you know, an apple, a banana, something small to get rid of the hunger and carry on with our day. And then we look at the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in terms of sleep, where he would sleep early and wake early, and he would not eat late at night and stuff like that. And, sadly, these are things that we do, mainly because our days revolved around being awake so late, especially in North America, where the timing is so late as well. Like, I'm still at work in my office at the masjid and waiting for Salah
to that Russia and then I'll go home. Right? Did I have supper yet? No. Why? Because I've been here since like, almost the whole day. So somehow a lie. It is what it is. Right? Man last minute how to make it easy for every single one of us. I mean,
question here from Zach here. What is the etiquette of handling family disputes between couples?
It depends. It depends on what the dispute is. Generally we see within our Deen as we spoke about in our fit classes earlier, we see that if we are going to help someone within the family that has issues. Our Deen tells us that there should be one person from one side of the family and another person from the other side of the family that helped to resolve the issue. The problem is sometimes we go to the wrong people within our family, we go to people that already have a vested interest in us being right in the dispute within the family. And therefore we should look at appointing someone who is neutral, or both parties come to someone who is neutral who doesn't have a vested interest in
resolving that matter. And then they can help to, you know, shed some light or guide them through the problems and the difficulty that they're going through in their marriage. And of course, we always want to look at someone who can give them some advice from an Islamic perspective, right? What should we do? islamically? Who has the right in this? islamically? Who is wrong in this islamically? And how do we correct this islamically? And is there even Islam within the marriage and those are things that In short, a long tail and need to be looked at. So generally, we usually say go to someone who is neutral, someone who doesn't have a vested interest in one side or the other.
And whoever you go to has to try to remain neutral as well by listening to both sides of the story. And not just one side of the story. There's a whole you know, type of tea of going through this in sha Allah May Allah subhanho wa Taala make it easy for anyone who's going through problems and difficulties in their marriage or within you know, their family.
Any other questions from anyone?
Any last questions? So, before we conclude, here's a reminder, it is the month of Muharram and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as I mentioned in our Juma football today, mentions that after the month of Ramadan, the best month to fasting is the month of a law as it is the month of allowable heaven as in it's the month of Muharram. Right, which belongs to Allah subhanho wa Taala and all the months belong to Allah He created everything on this earth.
And so, being such a blessing month we should try to we should try to increase in our good deeds. Okay. Also we see that fasting the 10th of Muharram which is coming up next week on Thursday in sha Allah Allah is prescribed upon us as something that is from the Sunnah of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam encouraged as well to fast one day before it and the day of Muharram so the ninth and the 10th to differentiate us from those that are, you know, not Muslim that are fasting on the 10th of
Harlem as well.
Why it is the day that Musa Moses alayhis salaam was saved and granted victory over fit our own. So Allah subhanho wa Taala granted him victory saved him protected him and and the people as well. So it's encouraged that we do this, okay?
For those that are able to do it and hamdulillah what is the reward the reward is that Allah subhana wa tada grants us expiation or forgiveness of our sins from the previous year. So the year that passed is a year of forgiveness from our sins by fasting on the day of Ashura, the 10th of Muharram. And again, we fast day with it, the ninth and the 10th, or the 10th and the 11th. So keep that in mind and shout Allahu Allah as something that we should do throughout this month of Muharram. Just Camilla Haider. If someone is asking intention of the fasting should be before fudger or can it be later for both funnily enough, okay, so we should intend to fast before fudger Okay, we make our
intention from the time before 5g enters, right? However, if someone you know says you know what, I'm going to get up, like I mentioned in the example I'm going to get up and if I have no food, or I'll see how I feel, and you know if they're delayed in that and you know, fudger is already time has entered or they finished praying budget and like, you know what, I should fast today Oh, today is the 10th of Muharram. I should fast I didn't eat anything, then you can continue on. Why? Because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also told us how about the lava and home, you know, those that had eaten something if you already ate something, it doesn't matter. Continue fasting for the
rest of the day. Right continue fasting for the rest of the day.
So that was an encouragement, and remember that fasting the 10th of Muharram was considered prior to them upon becoming compulsory. It was compulsory to fast on that day, but once Ramadan, fasting became compulsory upon the Muslims, fasting on the day of Ashura, the 10th of Muharram was no longer a compulsory fast it became a date that is some not too fast on okay.
Hope that answers all the questions. We will conclude here in sha Allah just come along with it and for attending, I like how the intendant the attendance has increased, I guess because it's a little bit later. It's much better for everyone else. Also because I posted online so inshallah we'll try and do that more often. And please do share this afterwards with your friends and your family. You can simply forward the link of the video off to those who you know, Allah Subhana Allah to Allah bless every one of you and myself included every one of us and grant us the best of this dunya and the best of the ophira and we ask Allah subhana wa tada to make it easy for us to continue to learn
about the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the etiquettes that we find within his life. mean barakallahu li Khan does not come along Faden or sun Allahu wa Sallim wa barik ala nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam was Salam or aleikum wa rahmatullah wa he over