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Proper Treatment Of Husband & Wives

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Bilal Philips

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I had a brand new

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one I added here as hobbies. And then

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I tried to do for a more realistic and nothing's gonna last prophet Muhammad and the more I sell them and another others who can have a path of righteousness until the last day

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the issue of relationship

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has been a lie

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which will ultimately determine

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the success

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in established

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communities,

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communities in which

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thrive communities in which Islam will be transferred from

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the fan to the children

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and attach it is the duty of us

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to understand the nature of that relationship,

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how should it be

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what is meant by proper treatment

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because, for many of us in North American context

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assuming that many of us have grown up

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here

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or have been here have migrated here and in here for a period of time in which

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we have been affected by the

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relationship which exists between males and females

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as promoted by the media, and the systems of education, etc.

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that effect

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has made it

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difficult for us

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to understand

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the topic and

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had to say with regard to the relationship between males and females in marriage,

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if we are serious about understanding

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what our role should be, what our relationship should be,

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we have to look into the evidence from the Quran and the Sunnah.

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From the explanation given by the compiler to the Prophet,

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early part of a plan.

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without bias,

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we have to put aside those

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attitudes which we have developed from living in North America.

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The basis of marriage in Islam

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has to be

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related to the use of Muslims to Allah.

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Because

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marriage is not something

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as an institution which is

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outside of the bounds of Islam, it has its own set of rules, it has a different set of basis, it is attacked and fastlove Islam, it is inseparable from the fundamental teachings of Islam. So, the relationship

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that should be there between males and females

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should be one in which

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each is helping the other to serve.

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You all know that

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the statement in the ad when a law says

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in general in say law that created the gym and men time except for my Russia, that is the fundamental purpose of our creation, rare for any institution that we get involved in,

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whether it is education, economics,

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social case of marriage, such as

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such institutions should be functioning in such a way that it is

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helping us to fulfill our primary duties.

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And that is why Helen had said that a woman is married for four different things. You are familiar with the statement

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that they're married for you.

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Their

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family,

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tree genealogies are some a good family,

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for their wealth,

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and for their pies

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says that women are married for these reasons.

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We should not feel

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well. He was only speaking to the men.

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What about women?

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What about virtual

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addresses the men, because men generally speaking represents the head of the family, when he's addressing the oma. He oftentimes addresses the muscle memory. So that inserting about men marrying for these reasons, is the same feminine women marry,

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whether the man is handsome, whether it's from a Roman family, whether he has money,

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the reason stands for both sides.

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And he went on to explain that

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the one will choose

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on the basis of piety is the one who

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So, this is this statement reinforces the concept, that the relationship between husband and wife should be one in which they are not in each other's to serve Allah.

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Because all we should have a left with is

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a means we're choosing Iran is fulfilling his or her duty to a law to the highest degree possible.

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That we are striving to serve and to grieve the loss to the highest degree that we are capable

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we choose a mate

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really that mature than anybody in Sharla, who will help us to say

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and we would have them to serve

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the treatment

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has been to

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the best of you is the best of you to your family and affect the firm's family. Oftentimes use an abacus indicate your life rather than children the

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family

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if a person was to ask men needs another man and he was asked about impact on his life, he will not he will not hire you weren't at home with your wife.

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social exchange, they will not ask how is your life and if a man the man is Gemini is so what do you want to know that my wife

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How is your family

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and the family back to the new life that is without the use

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of you in the rest of us your family the best of

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the best to my

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ultimate is a mess

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is as ally said in the in the in the apocalypse, the most noble that that serve us in the face of a loss is the one who feels a lot more

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one sided to solve a loss to the optimal of his or her ability.

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The one then

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in the size of a loss will also be best in his treatment or her treatments.

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His own and that treatment, that relationship with social exchange is one off worship.

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It becomes acts of worship we are rewarded every time they have been his

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wife. Lazarus right why why smiles their husbands crying to her husband

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me

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Virtually

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all departments I fell in and said the best women,

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the one

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and he doesn't hold back

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when he tries to material

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possessions.

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And similarly,

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the death of men

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and women will be the one that she looks at. Not necessarily because he's handsome.

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That's because when she looked at him or when he looked at her, were reminded of a lot.

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They feel good, that each relationship is one in which they are holding a law as a law issue.

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Because it was simply a section of videos,

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when, when the female companion turned to the property hunted by Bella,

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as she said to him,

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that she cannot stand.

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It is the basis of the principles on diversity of law. And

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he said, I can't stand

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not because of his religious

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or anything else, the goodness that I just said, and I got lucky, probably without seeing him.

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Look at your life

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to somebody that rises up without seeing him.

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And, or maybe

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she saw him and she wasn't

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that she used to encouragement of others, or one of the things she accepted. And

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so she got into a relationship with somebody who displeased more when she looked at him, he just

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didn't

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know if he was something

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which was

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part of what makes a man a good man, she would not have said

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he's a good man.

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And SLM would not have concern

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for his goodness had nothing to do with how he looks, we

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are allowed to like and dislike people.

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We respect their religion, everything else, that if we are not,

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if we do not feel comfortable,

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we are not clean in looking at the surface of religion, we're discussing, you know, on a 24 hour a day basis, especially those who do not feel good about

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what the other considerations have been. Primarily, yes, primary consideration is

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the consideration of our own feelings

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has an impression, such an importance that the farmer made is the basis

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when he says about the wife is the one who please the moment

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as you said,

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this is the cause. But more importantly, it has to do with the sexual, the emotional, she feels good about the husband, he feels good about. Because ultimately, we are happy to each other to please Allah.

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Best

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Man

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who treats his wife well, and the best woman

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also, the husband.

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We said that the first emotion softens up in marriage is

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a law. So that treatment involves

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if there has been just up in the morning

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and advice that will

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allow her to stay and sleep

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It is his duty to wake her up.

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Similarly,

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this is part of the treatment.

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People make sure that all that has been retired, you know what a long night retired and so forth, let him sleep.

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I

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didn't wake him up.

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He did more than

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that, in short, that is bad treatment.

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The treatments, that we're talking about treatments, between male and female, it's not in accord according simply correctly.

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We're talking about treatment, return badges according to what he sees into a law

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that is what was offered in the temple is good and bad, and not pleasing to Allah. So what is pleasing to

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us?

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Let us see,

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that

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face involve

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a law, even if we disagree,

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though those who are

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similar, that

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it will be a law in order to please those who we love and

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then we have entered into

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becoming a force.

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And this is why a lot

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of your wife, and your children, or anyone

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in our family wants

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to be family, love and relationships. Why any

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enemies in the sense that yes, yes, your enemies know that they are potentially enemies because of our emotions. Because we can easily go beyond the bounds that are acceptable for love.

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That because of our love for our husband, we will allow them to do things which we may or displeased and

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we will do things and they asked us to do, which we know I be sleeping. So often, this will be perfect for us, in terms of the way we dress,

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you know, things which may have to do with the family's terms of the food or the people in the house, or the way that you know, the house is set up our relationships, social relationships with other people. There are many, many areas which we may know to be wrong islamically but because I have been before this,

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and this may lead them, but it freezes a law. And our exceptions are going along with it is bad treatment.

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This is a bad relationship between life.

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A good relationship is one in which he reminds him.

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He gets up the fabula matter how tired he is, she wakes him up.

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I'm saying this from personal experience. I know sometimes this happened in the past and sometimes it happens sometimes. You know, my wife may have guessed

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feeling sorry.

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But every time I get up, I tell her please do not

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shoot you.

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We shouted at you.

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This some water and

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sleep path.

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It seems to be compassion in the path of the woman after having tried

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is true.

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I mean,

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I didn't mean that. I'm interested in a handful of components, you know that change can cause you to wake up right?

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It seems to be compassion to let the person

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that that compassion is compassion in the long.

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Compassion is acceptable to allow a nurse is waking that husband up.

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This is true compassion.

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Because when you wish that husband you are helping him to fulfill his duties.

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You're helping him to gain good leads, which he would have lost if you didn't speak in local authority if he kept you

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Because you didn't wake him up.

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Because

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you're in a state of comments, as Alan said, the rays from the age of

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one were just

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so a patient that has a carpal what happened.

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So here's

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what I mean

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by you like this,

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he has

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the reward

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with the bad ones, as Alan said, is the most difficult, and the hypocrite.

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So, we have helped him accept down the word of hypocrisy.

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We met him,

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we have helped him to gain one of the attributes of the hypocrites, those who don't get upset.

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And one of the signs of hypocrisy

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in Islam

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is that

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it is not compassion, to allow

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it is compassion and mercy to wake them up to help them to do what Allah has promised.

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And

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of course, all of the various principles in slavery and should we approach them in the same way

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whether it is Becca, fasting, we approach them in the same way we encourage each other to pass outside of

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the lab is the foundation, that foundation of radius is one which should not be limited only to

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one route should be continuous throughout the various

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data labs have recommended that to pass on Mondays and Thursdays,

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every

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passing becomes a way of life.

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In one

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month of consumer financing, as you know, a,

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a renewal, but throughout the year, we continue that principle. So fast food becomes a way of life,

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not just

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in a nice way of life.

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So that means encouraging each other,

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to be charitable, share the walls, that allies

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and so on to all of the various principles and Pillars of Islam

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in order to give you an opportunity to be able to discuss these issues more or not go into the details of every aspect of an idea, an idea that we need to reflect on to really understand the basis of fascination.

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Now,

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there is a misunderstood principle

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in the relationship between males and females.

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And that is

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that a husband, maybe

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it is in the past a lot.

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A lot

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funding separate from them in the best

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in that the funding, then you miss

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the

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feminist.

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The feminist

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approach

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is that this is a

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man named his life and a woman may not his

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permission is in demand for the magic.

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This is the basis of

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violence in the form of

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the abuse of women we have all these are these for battered women.

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So you may find some women, Muslim women

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because of what exists in the society, in Muslim families as well as in the non Muslim society. They're the ones who deny that and she's in the Quran and that is very dangerous.

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Very dangerous.

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Because the denial of anything a lot.

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You can fasten next salon all the time.

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But if you deny one word of the word of a loss, you have

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a sense of the value of all the other deeds that

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you have believed in La ilaha illAllah, Muhammad.

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Because

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that's what I tell them what to ask them a lot.

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And the sooner we have accepted in person

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without any reservation.

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That is,

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if we had reservations, when we had reservations about

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Iraq, has

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permission sites

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within Canada,

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this is not just an open now

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permission,

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because to understand,

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we have to go to the center,

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from the army.

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And we don't look at the rest of the spirit of the verses of the army. And what's the problem.

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Because if you go back, you can turn the meanings of the cards upside down

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a lot

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better, you don't

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lose what is meant.

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When he explains what he meant by that

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particular circumstance, there

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are those who are negligible at best, those who try to deceive.

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If one is in a state of intoxication, one should not seek to

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be investigated, but also opposite of, you know, emergency situation, you know, some operation have to be done. And they put some kind of medicine in us where you enter into a state of intoxication

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on the side.

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And you know, as a woman, as long as you're not in your parents, when the time comes, whether you accept that in a bed in hospital with your arms and legs in traction, you have to pay when the time comes.

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If you This is the section where if you are in a state of intoxication, then don't say, because you may face what is displeasing to, you are not in control of your mind and your faculties. And you may say nonsense.

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So you seek to remember a lot of money now you forget a life lesson, you seek to remember a lot that you will not attempt

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to come up with an excuse.

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For the context has to be understood.

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The concept of the relationship between males and females is one of

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nurses, a lot talks about that he created between the the male and the female.

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Be mercy if a man is brutalizing a woman.

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And the Prophet Muhammad had stated

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that you should not see

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Hello, you may eat an animal.

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And the below that he talks about

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a blow which does not

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break the skin, create a mouth.

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Blood comes

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in other words,

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a gift

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and the PEPFAR program that also specifies that none of us should anyone in the face. Overnight children child becomes

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faster, whatever, you know, becomes very uppity or whatever

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the natural reaction is to just give the child

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Like

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any child,

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or a man who can drive

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should not be one of vocalization.

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That looks

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with the man looking in the face, where advice

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for separation in the bedroom

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is one of attempting to bring that woman to her.

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just catching her attention

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is not one of neutralizes

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the condition

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it is a permission based on authority

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to command as the final authority.

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As the woman has authority over the children, and she is permitted to save the children, children are not permitted to save.

00:31:05--> 00:31:10

The wife is not permitted to change the husband. This is an issue of our foreign

00:31:13--> 00:31:16

partners. fella said if you see why we should stop it.

00:31:18--> 00:31:25

This is the area where we have a heart If you are unable to do so because you don't have that passion.

00:31:29--> 00:31:33

And if we are unable to do even that, when we add

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one of our parks, that last resort is there.

00:31:41--> 00:31:42

As

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a part of that position of our practice, the man has relationships.

00:31:52--> 00:31:52

As I said,

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for Ireland, the cinema clarifies for us the boundaries of that

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principle, we should not deny it, because it's clearly stated in Ireland,

00:32:07--> 00:32:11

we should reject and oppose the acceptance,

00:32:12--> 00:32:21

which is a part of American culture, where the brutalization that exists and it is something which may be handed down from generation to generation.

00:32:23--> 00:32:28

I've looked when we have to get out of that cycle, we have to find ways and means of stopping.

00:32:30--> 00:32:42

But at the same time, we have to recognize principles which are in religion, that recognize them within the bounds that have been set by law.

00:32:47--> 00:32:48

Another area

00:32:51--> 00:32:55

which is important, one of communication,

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though the final state

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belongs to that.

00:33:04--> 00:33:11

Because, as he said, he has been has that position of authority over the family.

00:33:12--> 00:33:17

A lot of said that you put men above women, by a degree,

00:33:21--> 00:33:24

sense alive, given that learn and

00:33:26--> 00:33:32

looking after and maintaining his family's life chosen from the west.

00:33:37--> 00:33:37

Now,

00:33:38--> 00:33:44

because he's in that position about five, it doesn't mean that it will become the de facto

00:33:45--> 00:33:47

one will just come in

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and the wife is Your wish is my command. Whatever commands you just submit and vote, you know,

00:33:55--> 00:33:57

is that supposed to be the relationship

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the fact that the believers carrying the hammer home sure

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affair is one of neutral presentation.

00:34:12--> 00:34:16

And then in making a decision should consult right

00:34:17--> 00:34:20

it should be the second involves

00:34:23--> 00:34:29

the right has to recognize that ultimately, the final stage belongs to

00:34:30--> 00:34:32

making that decision.

00:34:33--> 00:34:36

Now, in the course of

00:34:44--> 00:34:46

which are displeasing to Allah

00:34:49--> 00:34:50

a lot of occasion

00:34:53--> 00:34:54

a message that was

00:34:58--> 00:34:59

sent to me

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seeking some kind of

00:35:02--> 00:35:03

arbitration

00:35:05--> 00:35:05

on

00:35:08--> 00:35:13

issues, problems which existed in the family were

00:35:17--> 00:35:18

one of the things that shocked me

00:35:19--> 00:35:20

particular

00:35:23--> 00:35:24

I've heard the

00:35:26--> 00:35:27

following

00:35:28--> 00:35:32

principle of Islamic God to the utmost

00:35:39--> 00:35:39

I mentioned

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that

00:35:43--> 00:35:44

it meant

00:35:46--> 00:35:47

to call him an NF

00:35:52--> 00:35:54

during the course of the discussion is happening

00:35:55--> 00:35:56

Lightwave

00:35:59--> 00:36:02

recently coming out of the month of this incredible

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that

00:36:06--> 00:36:07

then argument

00:36:08--> 00:36:10

that parliament is gonna happen,

00:36:13--> 00:36:18

important topics on the public domain, and interpersonal

00:36:20--> 00:36:23

communication should not involve words,

00:36:25--> 00:36:27

which I received a lot as

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a reference, only estimate, either say, Listen

00:36:36--> 00:36:37

to your tracks and be silent.

00:36:39--> 00:36:41

But decide to crush each other.

00:36:44--> 00:36:51

If all it does is increases the problem, it increases the enmity within the family.

00:36:55--> 00:36:55

And

00:36:56--> 00:36:57

you are

00:36:58--> 00:36:59

not from

00:37:00--> 00:37:03

North American images are not American backgrounds. So like

00:37:06--> 00:37:18

that in Villa coming out of the North American background, you know, we're in common speech, people use the word forbidding marriage, but that is common, that our people

00:37:19--> 00:37:41

are very easy for us to come out and in the course of arguments, etc. But neither of us coming from this culture have to work all the time to remove that characteristic from our character from ideation. This is improper use of our husbands and wives in

00:37:42--> 00:37:46

life, fundamentally, because it is pleasing to Allah.

00:37:47--> 00:37:49

It is pleasing to Allah

00:37:50--> 00:37:51

to come up

00:37:57--> 00:37:59

with our communication,

00:38:00--> 00:38:02

for demand of

00:38:04--> 00:38:08

mutual consultation, discussion recognized

00:38:10--> 00:38:12

and a lot in which red was

00:38:13--> 00:38:14

formed the basis of

00:38:15--> 00:38:16

our exchange.

00:38:18--> 00:38:19

Actually, there's nothing

00:38:21--> 00:38:24

that can be said that should be said

00:38:26--> 00:38:27

much more

00:38:29--> 00:38:36

with regards to this relationship, but as I said, if we have understood the fundamentals,

00:38:37--> 00:38:38

that

00:38:39--> 00:38:40

maggies

00:38:41--> 00:38:43

is an act of worship,

00:38:47--> 00:38:50

that our relationship can be one

00:38:51--> 00:38:53

of fulfilling identities to Allah.

00:38:55--> 00:38:59

That whatever explains that we learned the marriage

00:39:00--> 00:39:03

structure would be one of

00:39:04--> 00:39:05

losing a lot

00:39:07--> 00:39:08

of seeking to pay

00:39:09--> 00:39:19

when every single act can be judged on the basis of this and can then be identified as correct.

00:39:21--> 00:39:30

Without determined correctness and in correctness, on the basis of what we feel that I feel what I

00:39:31--> 00:39:39

what I was taught what I grew up with, it was not ready, correct and incorrect. It's not the basis for the feminine, some of it may be correct, some of this may be

00:39:41--> 00:39:50

the basis, entirely determined by the work that are probably the basis for determining correct behavior between males and females in life

00:39:52--> 00:39:52

is

00:39:54--> 00:39:55

whether

00:39:57--> 00:39:59

it is an act of worship.

00:40:00--> 00:40:01

Which when done correctly,

00:40:04--> 00:40:06

is less than incorrectly.

00:40:07--> 00:40:07

And

00:40:12--> 00:40:15

the last stage I just like to mention before

00:40:17--> 00:40:18

giving some initial testing

00:40:21--> 00:40:24

is the other statement, the department

00:40:25--> 00:40:27

concerning a woman's

00:40:33--> 00:40:38

relationship, their female relationship, sexual relations,

00:40:41--> 00:40:43

is cursed by the angels. Until

00:40:45--> 00:40:53

then, looking at it from a feminist perspective, this sounds very oppressive, something wrong.

00:40:54--> 00:40:58

But if we start to look at it within the context of the Atlantic,

00:41:00--> 00:41:01

those of us

00:41:03--> 00:41:08

that is this is this is an income statement and that I watched a man does.

00:41:10--> 00:41:10

He could be

00:41:12--> 00:41:13

on welfare,

00:41:14--> 00:41:19

you're out working, being nice and keeping up your money and you know, he just has the right to

00:41:20--> 00:41:23

look, this is not what it is.

00:41:24--> 00:41:33

That principles the quantified self identifies as one within the confines of a process.

00:41:35--> 00:41:38

wherein the man is fulfilling his role.

00:41:41--> 00:41:48

He has the right to us, based on him fulfilling his responsibility to us, which has been assigned by us.

00:41:50--> 00:41:52

He is not fulfilling his responsibilities,

00:41:53--> 00:41:57

when you are not required to fulfill your responsibilities.

00:41:59--> 00:42:00

That's the bottom line.

00:42:04--> 00:42:12

If you understand if you're in that position, with a man that is taking care of his responsibilities, then you should literally

00:42:13--> 00:42:14

no matter how you feel,

00:42:15--> 00:42:17

you should willingly help him,

00:42:18--> 00:42:24

you should give yourself to them to help him. Because if you do,

00:42:25--> 00:42:33

that health within this family was in the 777, that he will be tempted by Satan to look outside

00:42:36--> 00:42:39

and outside maybe within the confines of what is acceptable as movies.

00:42:42--> 00:42:45

And as such, we may dry up into

00:42:51--> 00:42:53

principles in that.

00:42:54--> 00:43:10

Rather the open principle is to give the man a right, which without any kind of response to lose, you know, in exam, life, always are based on because Islam does not Amanda, to any form of oppression.

00:43:12--> 00:43:13

Just represent

00:43:14--> 00:43:16

and it

00:43:18--> 00:43:25

has to be applied all of its principles, as a part of it totality and not as something

00:43:27--> 00:43:30

from the context in which it's

00:43:32--> 00:43:40

very, very important. Whenever we look at Islamic principles, we have to look at them within the context within the totality of

00:43:43--> 00:43:46

capital, he will not allow

00:43:49--> 00:43:53

the influence of this culture to cause us to deny

00:43:54--> 00:43:57

His messengers has commanded

00:43:58--> 00:44:01

be kept very, very dangerous.

00:44:02--> 00:44:05

Now we may hear something pleasing to us.

00:44:07--> 00:44:10

At first, the action should not be one of denial.

00:44:12--> 00:44:15

Our first reaction should be to accept

00:44:17--> 00:44:20

an offensive statement or not. If it didn't happen,

00:44:24--> 00:44:27

or if it's in fact from the authentic.

00:44:28--> 00:44:32

Why is that something similar because for example, we all have

00:44:33--> 00:44:34

to the statements

00:44:35--> 00:44:36

that

00:44:38--> 00:44:39

have been

00:44:42--> 00:44:48

the most displeasing form of the submitted Hello.

00:44:52--> 00:44:59

And on the basis of that, people will encourage people to stay together in the worship service instead

00:45:02--> 00:45:03

Because this is the most

00:45:06--> 00:45:08

However, this

00:45:09--> 00:45:10

is not authentic.

00:45:13--> 00:45:15

And because it is not authentic

00:45:16--> 00:45:18

the application of this is

00:45:23--> 00:45:25

there's a general principle.

00:45:28--> 00:45:42

However diverse is best to solve problems, all the problems, which may arise diversity here. And of course non Muslims like to criticize Muslims and Islam.

00:45:43--> 00:45:49

You know, the man just as you are diverse as the red side, the west side, the west side,

00:45:55--> 00:45:57

the plan is

00:46:00--> 00:46:01

easy and

00:46:03--> 00:46:04

haphazard,

00:46:07--> 00:46:08

useless kind of

00:46:09--> 00:46:12

way of relaxing between males and females.

00:46:16--> 00:46:17

That understanding

00:46:19--> 00:46:20

because they know, that

00:46:23--> 00:46:27

they're actually supposed to learn is maybe a woman that you have, here's

00:46:29--> 00:46:39

why a woman has an appeal, the reason why that men will be pushed to the edge of the natural diversity because you promote

00:46:41--> 00:46:45

things in psychological nurture

00:46:46--> 00:46:51

as a result of that biological sex and it happens to many women,

00:46:53--> 00:46:55

when parents come on their move

00:46:57--> 00:46:59

and they find themselves going and

00:47:00--> 00:47:09

militia and so, testing can lead to that analysis and therefore, allow before Can you pronounce

00:47:10--> 00:47:10

a period

00:47:12--> 00:47:16

to avoid causes, which are

00:47:19--> 00:47:19

not

00:47:22--> 00:47:23

under principle,

00:47:26--> 00:47:28

department that is in fact that you'd be better at the same time,

00:47:29--> 00:47:30

there is a second

00:47:33--> 00:47:34

principle that

00:47:37--> 00:47:40

recognizes marriage as having taken place

00:47:43--> 00:47:44

of I do

00:47:47--> 00:47:53

and why not recognizes that marriage may dissolve with a restatement of either

00:48:00--> 00:48:08

the same time it is within a context which helps to protect it from being just a you know, easy loose kind of

00:48:11--> 00:48:13

reverse is there too far.

00:48:16--> 00:48:20

And as such, when a situation becomes unbearable,

00:48:22--> 00:48:23

marriage becomes

00:48:24--> 00:48:26

when people should be allowed

00:48:28--> 00:48:28

without

00:48:33--> 00:48:42

going back to the principles that what has been commanded in the cinema, if we both understand it

00:48:43--> 00:48:43

to be

00:48:44--> 00:48:45

wrong,

00:48:47--> 00:48:47

let's

00:48:50--> 00:48:50

find out.

00:48:54--> 00:49:01

If it is authentic, then our first reaction has to be accepted.

00:49:04--> 00:49:05

Accepted

00:49:10--> 00:49:11

teachings to understand

00:49:12--> 00:49:15

the intensity behind this command.

00:49:19--> 00:49:24

Understand that command is important to us. So that it helps us in that acceptance.

00:49:32--> 00:49:45

Because our knowledge is limited, and we need to try to understand because when we have understood the rationale behind the command, then we can take it to heart.

00:49:48--> 00:49:49

That is our right to speak.

00:49:52--> 00:49:57

As I said, the foundation of that relationship has to be one of submission

00:50:00--> 00:50:00

To allow

00:50:02--> 00:50:04

and the judgment of our relationship

00:50:06--> 00:50:08

according to what is pleasing to Allah

00:50:15--> 00:50:17

that inshallah summarizes

00:50:18--> 00:50:21

that I would like to present these documents,

00:50:22--> 00:50:24

we can take one question

00:50:26--> 00:50:38

before entering into the office and come in a couple of minutes. So, we can just take an initial question. And after the follow up, we can

00:50:40--> 00:50:41

have a continuous

00:50:42--> 00:50:44

exchange of question and answer until

00:51:13--> 00:51:14

measure

00:51:18--> 00:51:19

as

00:51:21--> 00:51:22

a nation versus

00:51:25--> 00:51:25

nation

00:51:33--> 00:51:46

301 in the parameter vector refers to this principle, it says, use the term data,

00:51:48--> 00:51:48

data.

00:51:50--> 00:51:50

And

00:51:52--> 00:52:02

in the sunlight, the prayer in congregation is referred to being fuzzy seven times separated by some degrees sometimes better to use.

00:52:08--> 00:52:09

Which means I

00:52:10--> 00:52:12

didn't use that again.

00:52:18--> 00:52:20

Yeah, sometimes.

00:52:22--> 00:52:31

Sometimes it's usually 75. When the time is right, because actually, instead of using Abacus more purposes time, you know,

00:52:32--> 00:52:37

so as opposed to degrees, and the temperature of the time using the degree delta t,

00:52:39--> 00:52:41

in modern language,

00:52:44--> 00:52:49

degree has looked to me like 60 degrees, however,

00:52:51--> 00:52:58

that says in English, a person gets a bachelor's degree, we don't start to wonder what degrees is sufficient degree or my

00:53:00--> 00:53:05

degree has another connotation. When, in the case of the man,

00:53:13--> 00:53:17

as I was saying that the degree referred from the better

00:53:18--> 00:53:38

man above the woman by a degree, this is not a unit of measure. It's not one degree out of 360 degrees, a lot of it is just representing except the sense of inadequacy means ultimately, that except I'm not about

00:53:39--> 00:53:44

meaning that the man is in a position of authority over

00:53:47--> 00:53:48

the political left,

00:53:52--> 00:53:57

that alone has given the man certain qualities,

00:53:58--> 00:54:00

which makes him

00:54:02--> 00:54:04

stronger than the women.

00:54:05--> 00:54:07

Now, this strength

00:54:08--> 00:54:23

is not necessarily a sense, which makes me better and better because I'm becoming a swimmer solving method. So let me fix that that sense is something of a larger demand for him to fulfill that responsibility of authority.

00:54:25--> 00:54:30

And this is why these are family structures, you know, throughout history and devices as

00:54:32--> 00:54:38

the demand is the hunter gatherers, the texture, tailor, the woman looks after the family.

00:54:39--> 00:54:46

Now that is a more mature philosophy because of the fact that arrived, given the nail.

00:54:47--> 00:54:52

less physical strength is run against

00:54:53--> 00:54:59

every individual marriage stronger than every individual. That is a general principle. And this is why we know you're looking

00:55:00--> 00:55:17

Schedule athletics, etc. You know, many people don't want to limit events, because the the level is the top female sprinters, you know, that was sent as fast as extended as fast as the top, you know, high school level.

00:55:19--> 00:55:19

I mean, you just have

00:55:21--> 00:55:21

that level

00:55:23--> 00:55:23

of demand

00:55:25--> 00:55:33

doesn't make him better, he's a better person, a lot less of them is better than the females that would kill him and restart is a self

00:55:34--> 00:55:36

fulfilling his responsibility

00:55:37--> 00:55:42

subnets providing and protecting and maintaining the family

00:55:48--> 00:55:50

can be the length of the army.

00:55:56--> 00:55:57

Enemy night

00:55:59--> 00:56:03

shala we'll continue to answer any questions

00:56:04--> 00:56:05

that you may have

00:56:07--> 00:56:07

on the topic,

00:56:09--> 00:56:09

certainly

00:56:13--> 00:56:19

our directory of questions on the topic of treatment of husbands and wives.

00:56:20--> 00:56:36

And if you'd like to write those, and pass them up, we can do a good way shala and the shed will accept the verbal question back or sign up. And we will try to get through as many of you as possible. And we have to finish at around 35 minutes and Charlotte

00:57:09--> 00:57:20

if you want to get the reverse and that's right, I can pick it up for you afterwards. And the reverse is wrong for me. But the exact reason

00:57:33--> 00:57:33

is that

00:57:35--> 00:57:35

34

00:57:41--> 00:57:42

we're lucky to have him in the short

00:57:47--> 00:57:49

film Avaya, what did we do?

00:57:52--> 00:58:19

This is what I explained. It is explained in a sense. Secondly, we're lucky to have him in the shoes of him, that is the women who have become disobedient are refusing to function according to Islamic principles within the home. The woman is not submitting to Islamic principles and he has tried to advise her everyone left

00:58:20--> 00:58:38

then if they that is not working, then separate from them in the bed. And if that still does not work as a last resort, they have been made like the women there are conditions in terms of cycling is nothing brutalization but a a snap as you put it

00:58:39--> 00:58:44

as a means of getting their attention as a last resort to let them reflect

00:58:53--> 00:58:54

less punishment.

00:58:55--> 00:59:06

And this is not to punish because all of the principles involved here is that punishment when they have been advised is very advisable. Good way you're not supposed to stop cursing and screaming and

00:59:08--> 00:59:27

this is not the way to avoid all the Jim's religious advice This is everything. Everyone knows the same thing when we suffer in the best which is not punishment thing and this is also the route to us understanding that our relationship is not just basically a physical relationship. Our relationship is very complete and a lot

00:59:28--> 00:59:33

you know, that is that when there is no basic physical relationship

01:00:26--> 01:00:28

Concerning marrying, that is not a

01:00:34--> 01:00:36

direct topic,

01:00:37--> 01:00:47

there is an aspect of it that we can look at within this app is that fundamentally the permission given for men to marry people

01:00:48--> 01:00:49

who actually live.

01:00:50--> 01:00:52

And the first thing we cannot say that this is not allowed,

01:00:54--> 01:01:01

because we see it not working properly or the hand is sensitive, we cannot then say no, this is not allowed, we're not allowed.

01:01:03--> 01:01:18

Because a man has made it allowable. So we cannot forbid, we're alive made alarm. However, at the same time, we move to look at the context in which this alliance is given. And the purpose behind it.

01:01:19--> 01:01:22

We see that in a circumstance where

01:01:24--> 01:01:28

there's a Muslim society, if a man marries a Christian woman,

01:01:32--> 01:01:36

and he maintains an Islamic atmosphere and and

01:01:38--> 01:01:43

the likelihood of that women eventually accepting Islam is very great.

01:01:45--> 01:01:49

And the raising of his children as Muslim is ensured

01:01:51--> 01:01:57

is the ideal circumstance under which a man may marry a person

01:01:59--> 01:02:04

in a circumstance where it is a man looking society.

01:02:07--> 01:02:12

That does not mean shows, principles, and it has, nevertheless, he allows me

01:02:14--> 01:02:16

to tell you all the way up to this video,

01:02:18--> 01:02:22

and he has no control over the education of his service,

01:02:23--> 01:02:39

which would definitely be a despicable circumstance. If you're not still around with, as I said a lot with Hello, we can't make her Amara lively. But it is definitely not a separable circumstance, it is likely

01:02:41--> 01:02:45

if the women is one who

01:02:47--> 01:02:54

is a Christian, are you prepared to submit to the Islamic principles within the house

01:02:56--> 01:03:01

to submit to the basic principles of Islamic dress,

01:03:03--> 01:03:10

and the children will be will be looking at the two shells versus the master dog, which has been

01:03:11--> 01:03:16

assured, then, under that circumstance, he would say if

01:03:17--> 01:03:26

possible, and as I said that this is a longer description, but it's a situational possible situation. So if a man is going to marry a woman,

01:03:27--> 01:03:34

he should ensure that he chooses somebody is not going to be at odds

01:03:35--> 01:03:46

with when he destroys his Islamic household. I mean, that is a beauty in terms of the trust. They have the permission is not just a blanket permission.

01:03:47--> 01:03:54

Because a lot also describes the marrying of the people who say yes, and not center.

01:03:56--> 01:04:06

Law, and it describes them the people of the the women were Muslims are people who describe the women as being messed up. And the verbs women

01:04:08--> 01:04:14

are modest in their behavior, flagrant women who are involved, walk out of relationship, etc.

01:04:15--> 01:04:19

Who has grown up or who maintains a staff in in Margaret's fashion.

01:04:21--> 01:04:40

That means that she's not sleeping all the time, because that's not her background. A woman I got sent a background was who's non Muslim, it is definitely in Islam, which is going against the principle of the Iraq War, affecting one part of the idea that yes, he is a Christian that is going against the principle of Muslims.

01:05:02--> 01:05:09

Okay, I think is second concerning the principle of loving those who allow love and helping those who are alive.

01:05:11--> 01:05:11

Now,

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this is a general concept

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as an asset, but that also that will not allow for May, and we should get at that limit. That's

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the mission, the cast, which is one route

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versus other than a lot of people, a lot of the law and systems are floated amongst initially thought you could take that argument

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can we marry a Christian woman, a man like a woman, when she got

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married, and she got lucky, I'm assuming that's reflecting the principle of loving girls whenever

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and not marrying the machine that Allah has made an exception to the general principle, and the law has made an exception.

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That exception is specific for Christian and Jewish women. Not one, from the principle of grace. Again, this love

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has to be limited to the balance that allow her

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to see if I have accepted as love.

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My mother is another

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one. So now I must hate.

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My sister and brother, I love Muslims. This is one thing I Miss Mary hate them.

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I cannot love them.

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The fact is, there is a level of natural love.

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Because she brought me in she raised me that relationship exists, I cannot deny that relationship. There is love on the basis of that relationship. But that love can never exceed those bounds, where I know that they hurt desires in areas which are forbidden.

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Right, she has a dinner, and she wants to have some wine with her dinner. I cannot sit at the table with Mary. Because the government has said that we should not sit at the table with girls who are taking partaking in alcohol. So my love for her I love her and I don't want to offend her. But

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I cannot allow that love now to displease a lot.

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But it has to be kept within that limit, then the marriage of a Christian woman is one which I've laid on the statue of geomagnetism, a Jewish woman. And the more that is there has to remain within the bounds. And that's why I said marry, that woman should show the description

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of her being much better. If she has a lot of that.

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Even though he doesn't love

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her believe that the fact that you've missed that other thing,

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which which has not made her accessible one, at least she's with us.

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So she's much better. It means Sharla there's a good chance for her to become

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the following question that I have to on the same topic basically, that when it comes to considering someone as a potential sentence,

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are we allowed to deplete a pet?

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In other words, if the parents are clumsy inclined, or they aren't happy with their doctor, what nag a religious person, a pious person, they rather wouldn't get the marriage on the basis of the facts. Perhaps this person is not as for worldly reasons.

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Is it permissible for the woman at that point?

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to oppose this desire the parents? What should you do? If not,

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obedience to Karen

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is limited to

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the request that the length which I'm keeping with Islam,

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if there is a desire to do anything, which goes against the teachings of Islam, we are to disobey them

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that we are commanded to do.

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So,

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Islam tells us to choose a good husband.

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Finally are

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the parents

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we feel

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to allow us to marry somebody who is pious.

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Which is wrong.

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Maybe because

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Nothing doesn't come from the same country. And they're not going the same way. Or the same color, or you know, any of the others are on Islamic consideration. They don't have enough money.

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If it means that they're not capable of taking care of us

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because they don't have a job and you know, that means that is a valid objection,

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as a valid of the whatever it is that you don't have a license and you know, that kind of money No, that's not valid anymore. He has the means to look at us to look after who I

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should not object because

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a man comes

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in the hands of your doctor.

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without religion, you up, he says he

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accepted his request, then there will be corruption in the last in this will be a doses of corruption in the Muslim community.

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It is the duty of the Nazis to stop their children if they wish to marry somebody of their choice.

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through acquisition, what should they do a female, she then has the right to go to the Muslim body is a Muslim body lady, just a massive decimal who represents the head of the communities who officiate the marriage, she has the right to go to that person and ask that person to take a guardianship of yourself for marriage.

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And that person has the right after investigating that a person just had a very complex civil case because I didn't want to marry that person.

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Simply because, you know, whatever they say that he has to investigate. He needs to check it out, find out you know what, in fact are the reasons for the objections, etc, etc. And if he, as a community leader, or area judge was an apprentice for the Muslim community, you know, the judge in contrast, he Africans that, in fact, the evil for the objection of our planet, and he now has the right to go ahead and married couples, without the permission of the

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next question, again, summarization of several on the same line.

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What should a wife

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if her husband is lacks in his Islamic duties? For example, He does not get up to pray. Or perhaps he does something that I guess Islam that is wearing gold or shaving his beard?

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And doesn't that

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sound easy? What advice would you give for such a system

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should be to try to advise

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that relationships should be learned based on pleasing a lot

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of really

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good advice,

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either good or bad with each other, when we stray, by desire to remember a lot, we're very aligned, when we search for advice,

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by all means, that we can it could be verbal, it could be getting a good you know a very good or getting a choice, if you try to utilize whatever means to try to give him that push to submit to Him off in whatever assets that he has disobey the law. So, I could try this in different methods.

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What we can do is

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we can go to a chapter rather than the community you know, particularly dry for however the regulators in the community and ask that whether

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they have a good relationship with their husbands to speak to him on our behalf. Normally, we should not feel this bond between a man and his wife to not be the problem is it should not be clicking outside of the family normally. But in a case like this where it becomes disobedience

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to Allah and His messenger and surface is at their wit's end and shout out

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to bring this person in line.

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And they're unable then they then approach somebody trusted person in the community who set a purpose not just floating around in the family.

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That's one of

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getting this person out to approach and talk to them.

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It's after

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those moments, the individual the graph is

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Find out what the challenge is right?

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Then the woman has to think seriously of whether she wants to continue in population.

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One in which a person is deliberately disobeyed a mock neck sizing to change the size of the first response. And we may not be able to give up some bad auditors automatically accept Yes, it is that I need to change that that is your choice.

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But if there is no response, he doesn't care he is insisting on going on in this direction, then one has to consider seriously that relationship.

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And the ultimate step is to seek the voice and

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conditions of children and issues that involve easy decisions. But one has to

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consider seriously what the purpose and the fundamental role of marriage is, as you said, it is

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to please Allah, to help us to fulfill our duty to

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but this is

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not helping, is detracting breaking our own effort weaker and weaker, then it is advisable for such a person, if she has the way and the means to get out of that relationship to get out of a relationship. It's okay for us to either resetting the husband,

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or if he is unwilling to go again to the head of the community who handles these affairs, and seeking divorce by decree.

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In which case, you will have to return your diary.

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Perhaps as

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similar as the most interesting part of a question that suppose many times

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that the husband in his Islamic movies, generally it's good to pray, the fact that in sometimes in the history, when they argue he may abuse him, he actually may abuse his life physically, or psychologically, indeed, he may be falling short in some of his worldly duties that he is not providing, as he should, and all of the weights of the household falls upon the women children. What type of advice would you get to a picture like this, who sees the husband is he's trying to be a good Muslim on the one hand, but he fell into the evil

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family situation,

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to have access to that same

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situation, because he is different. This means that a lot in these actions can become simple, you know, by him not providing

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while having to use the data provided, essentially, by him abusing her physically or mentally This is simple. So,

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you know, she had up to 10 steps to get to advisors, either seeking to embed actually getting booked for wherever

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she goes to somebody else's eyes. And having said that, if he sees that the harm, which is coming from relationships, you know, makes us

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a tabulation of our summary of our relationship. He looked at

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the summary of his negative, or she adds it all up the end of the day. Is it a negative situation? When it's time to get up?

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If she adds it all up, it's still positive. There are some weaknesses there that is not happening right now. But you can vote is still positive, but it's better for her to measure in relationship.

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Why should a man marry a woman for Well, if he had to maintain her happiness?

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Or have you been a woman marry, a man marries a woman before we?

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Why should Why should a man a woman,

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a woman marry a man marry a woman for her well, if he is supposed to be safe.

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If a man marries a woman, primarily for piety, he has a stretch between a pirate feminine

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and a pious woman philosophy which

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is I think in America type of music.

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That rock may help him to do something.

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For example, He may be a person who has certain abilities with which to develop certain things which may be beneficial to the community, the particular setting as long

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as you have

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means that she will also contribute to this effort

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to choose to marry that woman. So that question is perfectly okay and perfectly justified.

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But he may not be enough to say that he's going to marry a woman, whereas many because he wanted to look after

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this is that objectionable.

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He still has a family duty of maintaining the Father.

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For him to marry a woman to look after himself is to send the principle of family

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is something that is

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not something

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that comes naturally.

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Because when you mentioned your wife, that makes a man marry live in one life,

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as if

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this is something which Allah has permitted in the God.

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It is a part of his godly marriage system that a man they have as much as four wives the same time

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what makes a man marry another wife,

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for maintenance, I cannot give a reason or he reasons there are many reasons.

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The bottom line is that

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men

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who marry a better life should be in a position to maintain and to look after that.

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If he is in that position, well, if it's something from

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the Muslim community today, in the Muslim community today, there are and they just accept

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women in a number of different positions, which may make them not necessarily desirable as a wife, to other children.

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So the permission that is they're given by law is one which has in it

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a solution to some of the problems which are like this in

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Muslim societies, till the undersigned.

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I would just say that the fundamental principles

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of marriage up to a law, usually the law doesn't change when a man marries

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a second wife, I said, why is

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that principle?

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under all those conditions?

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One question here is not to think that I think there's a good aspect

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who can correct me on a 10? Increase?

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What about a woman I think what is what is your advice to women, for example, as you mentioned, can't provide pay cannot provide him he's able to provide for his family,

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such as him being in prison. What is the advice for the

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wish he was alone caring for the home, while he has been is possibly a way

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to look at the situation.

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And judge

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is the husband not providing because

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he is unable, due to the fact that he's in prison

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for

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while he is another and otherwise, that individual is a good Muslim.

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And there is hope that he will be able to come out and maintain the family afterwards. He is the type of person who if you were given the opportunity would provide a woman recognizes it as a temporary situation that she will bear and struggle along with IVR personal data provider is just looking for an easy

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life, you know, somebody to take care of him. You know,

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he's in jail,

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due to major crimes that really

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didn't reflect that person's own personality character. And if he comes out with the same person that he's coming

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back in the same situation, if that's the circumstance, and it's better for her to let

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you know, she has to judge the situation objectively, that the people side the issue of how much she loves him or how much you've ever loved him.

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Judge the situation objectively according to the Islamic criterion,

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it is forbidden for a Muslim woman to be married to a non Muslim men.

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From the virgin which permission is given on deployment from a non Muslim woman,

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Christians and Jews and Muslims were the goddess on the panels our fellow

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Muslims were separated immediately upon their acceptance of Islam.

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This is something that there is no difference of opinion among scholars about

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women, her faith remains marriage where no Muslim man is a woman in a tape of sin.

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Every time that she has religions with him, she was committing an act of fornication.

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That's the bottom line is the act of litigation.

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And as long as she remains with him in the home, she is in a situation with a foreign men. You know, that's like when I'm living with a man who has no relationship you are not mad at me because that marriage is our marriage. And it's not a marriage is not recognized. Just like her living with a man

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that is just making garbage he's in bed with an infant. That is a state of symptoms a number of different aspects.

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I can't say exactly.

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Which specifically makes the permission given to men. The Hadoop is not a hobby, but from the era when after read the theorem, you know about the cell phones or cell lamps. And that is what happened when they accepted Islam they made a hit you ever left them behind. And

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we also know that is when the husband never accepted Islam, they will rejoin the marriage without the marriage taking place. So family cards concluded that the marriage is

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no longer valid.

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As long as the husband has not accepted Islam.

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If he does accept Islam, then the marriage can be become valid again, without another marriage taking place. This is some this year

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another

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direction