SAD – Stressed, Anxious Or Depressed

Asim Khan


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Shaka Salaam, again, slavery

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it's an honor to be here with the old my brothers and sisters. The special thanks goes to the ISOC brothers, especially Dr. Yahya, for inviting me here. The topic of today is around sadness. The word depression is also mentioned in there as well. I'll be speaking to you, not just a student of Islam, but also as a pharmacist. And also, I'll try to share with you some of the wisdoms I've learned from my mother, who has been a counselor for about 30 years,

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she has been involved in obviously helping people with problems such as depression, anxiety, so on and so forth.

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But the main focus would it be about what the Koran teaches us about sadness. And the first point I want you to make, really, my brothers and sisters is that

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the unfortunate thing is many of us have a very shallow understanding of the Quran. And when you think of the Quran, we we feel that the Quran talks about the big things. But when it comes to personal issues in our lives and dilemmas that we face on an everyday basis, we don't really feel that the Quran sheds light on those things. And that's, that's a view which I wish I wish to challenge today in this lecture in sha Allah.

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You see the Quran, if you were to read it, and understand

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the things that Allah mentioned in the Koran, you'd find that, in fact, the Quran touches on maybe every single dilemma that faces the human being.

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And there's actually one story which touches on four dilemmas, which are probably the four most common dilemmas that many of us go through now lives, in fact, maybe every single human being. And that is the story of use of Alice.

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You see in the story of use of Islam, even Tara says he faced four trials. And those four trials were like the four most common trials that human beings go through. So what was the first trial that he had to overcome? And he want to shut up jealousy, being the victim of jealousy? And who was he a victim of jealousy from his own brothers? Yeah. And you have to really appreciate that, because usually Sam is the youngest is the youngest brother. And so when it comes to older brothers, you know, the younger ones look up to them, right? they admire them, they want to be like them. And I have come to learn three girls, and

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the middle one, she looks up to the eldest one and so much, he's always talking about what she's not around. So ask us, you know, when will I get to go to school, I gotta go to school. So and so well, even my eldest daughter at the moment, she's going through this phase of being into princesses. And my, you know, the younger ones, she wasn't getting killer princesses. But as soon as the older one did, she wanted a princess

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dress like a princess and so on, so forth.

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So use when he was the subject of jealousy from his own elder brothers. And they plotted in the scheme to spawn even to kill him. And as a huge, you know, dilemma that he faced early on in his life. What's the second number that he goes through?

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First one is jealousy. And then he finds himself in a situation of fatal attraction and temptation. Fatal Attraction, temptation with the emulator disease. Now, I don't need to go into detail as to how relevant that is for many of us, isn't it? The trial and temptation of women and for women brothers, is not really common dilemma that someone's face. Yeah. And then the third trial is what when he refuses to dues in our area of the law with that lady, what happens to him

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is thrown in jail. oppression, the trial of being oppressed, the victim of oppression, and how many Muslims around the world today, millions are victim of oppression. Yeah. And there was the last one, anyone guess what the last trial that he has to go through? What is that last year he comes out of prison and things seem to go from bad to good and good to better so Was there another time is

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forgiveness okay. So he had to bring himself to forgive his brothers, but there was something else his wealth or power Rather, he was given power. He became the Aziz of that country and that was Egypt. Ancient Egypt was one of the, you know, top, one of the top civilizations of history. So he is given a position of power of fame and fortune.

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That's a trial isn't it? How many people become a little bit of famous and you know, it gets to their head and they go crazy.

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So all of this one story is knocking out for dilemmas that many of us go through. But then there's another backstory as well, that happens running throughout the rural use of is low. And that's a story of his father. jacobellis, a prophet of Allah, but he has his own dilemma, which is what knowing that his son's been kidnapped, and I say kidnapped because he didn't believe his sons when they showed him that bloody shirt. But at the same time he didn't know his son was to see that's worse than knowing that your son's dead isn't it was worse than knowing that your child is dead is not knowing where they are being kidnapped. So that was a dilemma that he faced in his life. So the

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conclusion of this introduction, is that doctrine teaches us that Allah places us in our dilemmas. And he also created the emotions that go along with those dilemmas. And then he taught us how to navigate ourselves out of those dilemmas and those emotions and to deal with them. Okay, so

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what I want you to do, the first thing I want you to do is to go through some of the words using the put on for sadness.

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So the first word is hum, yeah, the first one is a hum.

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Now hum is a word for sadness that comes in over on what does it mean? It means you see, because there's so many words for sadness, the scholars of language, they're trying to point out the subtleties between these words. So when it comes to them, they said it's a sadness which is related to a impending harm. And the word harm you also get another word from this root which is a woman a woman which means clouds clouds is another word for clouds using the Quran is god you know that word is so hot here. And they said the difference between the sahab and Baba is that these Obama in what they do is that they pile up together, and they will block out the sun light, right? So you can have

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an imagery of what dark clouds so you can see how dark clouds and sadness go together. Yeah, the idea is that a person feels like there's a dark cloud hanging over the head and see some talking about husbands talking about genuine sadness that some people feel like and some people live like this, isn't it? They live like there's a dark cloud hanging over their shoulders. They're very pessimistic. So the first take home messages if you wanted to know how the forum allows you to to navigate around feeling very pessimistic, like the dark cloud or in any of your head, have a look at where the word alarm appears in the Koran and see what the context is teaching you there.

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Then you have the word husband. Now this is the most common word in the Koran for sadness, there is about 42 times in the Quran and hillson they sit in the sun is related to a past trauma. Something that bad has happened to you in the past is making you brief now in the present. Okay. And

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this, this word is mentioned many times on and you find one verse that we recited very often. Last whole finale what our home

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alone and this is talking about support and love the believers male lawmakers from their own Yami Pamela says they won't have any faith upon them nor will they experience any grief and the grief from that lady has been on that day. So this is yet another word.

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Then you have the word birth. The birth is okay occurs quite rarely in the Quran. But this word birth refers to sadness, which spreads

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Mashallah, very good. jacoba Islam, which is quite amazing, isn't it? Because Yeah, COVID a Salaam is a prophet of Allah. The Prophet of Allah is a great grandson of which Prophet

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Ibrahim and his

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and his father was also a prophet, he was

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his heart. So he's comfortable line of profits and the greatest of profits and what kind of upbringing what he got from his father who was also a prophet right? Despite all of that, Allah tells us in the Quran that he experience but what is birth when sadness permeates throughout your body, and it becomes apparent

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when you got this word SF, as it is very interesting because it talks about sadness and

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This one is different as to what the real difference is between a certain husband and birth. But one opinion is that SF refers to sadness that manifests itself with anger.

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Again, you know, sometimes you can appreciate that sometimes someone is at work, maybe a brother at work, okay and his boss and giving him a tough time becomes sad, low mood.

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And that will happen when he comes home to his wife,

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his children, he takes out on the bright the anger manifests, where it manifested itself coming out of a sense of sadness is one of the things I forgot to mention. Very important.

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As the book she mentioned, that refers to sadness, that also lingers for a long time. Yeah, it's there. And it's being experienced over a long period of time.

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So as

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a sadness, which can manifest itself in negative emotions is low, such as anger, right? Okay, so these are some of the words are mentioned in the Quran. Now, we should share with you a case study about sadness.

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Remember the finger we mentioned, who experienced but jacobellis around?

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Well, here are some verses where love describes in so many different ways, the emotions and sentiments that the organism was experiencing is quite amazing. The kind of data that we're on goes into into giving us an insight into his emotional state.

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So this is the part of the story where, after so many years of that initial trauma where his sons came to him, and they lied, that use of an incident had been killed, or devoured by a fox wolf rather

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40 years down the line, because he says, What do you know, the same thing happens again, this time the sons, they come back to father and they say Binyamin, the other son, who was also very beloved to you. What do you know, is not here anymore. This time? It was unintentional. Yeah, it was unintentional. The first time it was intentional. Regardless, what is amazing, is that the response of Yeah, the first time he finds out is pretty much the same response he gives the second time. I mean, you would have thought like if something bad happens to you once, which is really bad. And then the same thing happens to you again, that you wouldn't be able to match the patients you show

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the first time.

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However, what tells us all about it, so well, it's lacunae and Fukuyama is speaking to his sons. And he says the same thing again. He says your souls have enticed you this word in our shoe says this wheel refers to trying to beautify something in order to in order to justify it. Because you're just trying to justify this to yourself. I don't believe you. I don't believe you. However, what am I going to do? What is it going to do? For me, Jamil is going to have a beautiful patience even taking off the law says a suburban Villa Shaco. Meaning a patience. We are not going to complain to anyone. And that's very difficult, isn't it? When someone experiences trauma, something really bad happens

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to them. The first thing they wish to do is do go until someone else does. I mean, that's the first thing someone wants to do.

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But as we know, he says Now I'm going to have sub and not just patients are going to have beautiful patients, which is even more amazing for southern Germany as a long way yet to be him Jamia and then he say something which is quite amazing. He says, perhaps Allah will bring them all back to me. So he's referring to who now who's your friend who's going to come back to

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us defend Islam and renewing and the eldest one is still stuck in Egypt. So how amazing how positive is he? Yeah, in the face of such a hardship is very positive is very optimistic. And the main thing is that, who is the optimistic amount?

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It was he optimistic about Allah.

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Perhaps Allah will bring the ball back to me. So the idea is that he's thinking good of Allah when something bad happens to him. All right.

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In Nauvoo, olalia he is truly the most knowledgeable, all wise, see, the whole wise, was wisdom have a lot to do with the bad stuff that's happening to me right now, saying that everything happens out of the wisdom of Allah, I know that I appreciate that. Now, you might think he's superhuman. I couldn't be like that, you know, to react like that. And your own son is being kidnapped. I mean, who can do that? He must have been superhuman. Then Allah tells us what to one the unknown.

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Beautiful imagery here. Allah says, and he turned away from them. His sons have come to him and they can imagine or they pleading with him, dad, seriously, you know, we, we made a mistake with being honest with you. And he's like, I don't want anything to do with you. And so he turns away from them. And then he starts to speak. Well, Father, yeah. So far used to be SES. Oh, my, what?

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So, what do we say a segment?

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who is listening? What type of services?

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Yes, a type of sadness, which can manifest itself in negative emotions such as anger. So he says, Oh, my acid over who? Use of Islam. But I think he's just been told that his son being You mean, has been lost in Egypt. But he's too worried about who the sons are missing 40 years ago. So what's that telling us?

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is telling us that he's been sad, abusive, for those 40 years? Yeah, for those 40 years. So he says what

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is useful for what they have, but this is unbelievable. Allah tells us that his eyes turned white, which either means he became partially sighted, or he became fully blind, meaner Herzen because of what

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he was, what do we say a husband was a sadness related to

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something that happens in the past. So what we were only told him between the lines is that jacobellis Ron was so sad for such a long time, that he cried and cried so much and so hard, that he's his psyche. He's not gay.

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That's unbelievable. Do you know anyone who's been that depressed? Where

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you end up losing the answer.

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So the case being presented, is like an extreme case. As if Allah is sending us up. If a human being can enjoy this level, then surely another human being can enjoy something less, something a lot less. Middle has the firewall Kelvin, Aha.

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But a lot the essays, but he was what he was Calvin, as much as a Calvin person is someone who has been filled up with anger. He has filled up with anger, that can lead is someone who though is filled up with anger, he is holding it back. So where's the anger come from? What type of sadness is that come from?

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See, he spoke about us at first. But there was anger inside. And that's not true. is not true. But what's wrong? Is what? When that anger starts to come out in a negative way, as we hope you feel angry, what is holding you back is quite amazing, isn't it? And how jacobellis has been described to us.

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Then the people around him, his sons and other people, they hear him saying these things and they say, Paul, Salahi, they say, viola, you heard what law he, the TA, is therefore to object shop isn't Oh, my God, hey, see him in this day saying these things that the alternative guru uses? Are you going to continue on talking about usage? What does that mean? It means that they've heard him say these things so many times about you symbolism. Yeah. He's been saying this words, this effect many, many times. Have you heard of them? Until you're going to get them? Hello? How are they someone or something that becomes skinny? Yeah. malnutritioned. Like the sheep when it becomes really, really

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skinny, there was a it's becoming harder. yaku leszno said, he says father in Asheville, best See, he says, surely only complain to a lot about what? Number one bus, my birth? What do we say? But this

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a sadness that lingers and what else?

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Was it?

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A sadness that can be now physically seen manifest itself because it's permeated throughout the whole body.

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Let's see what shows me in a lot. Both shows in both being Sanders. The first one is about a longstanding sadness who, which child is

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useless now, and the horizon is about something that just happened, which is bad and he's grieving who's about when you mean, yeah, this is what some school has suggested here in a law, but the question is, this didn't jacoba

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Salaam se is going to have a beautiful patience, which means that he's not going to complain and whine. How do you reconcile between the fact that he's supposed to have some Jamil and he's now complaining?

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And he wanted to stop this?

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Okay, I'll go go, go go with the hands first. You want to say that?

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Okay, very good. He's complaining not to human beings is complaining to Allah is complaining to Allah and that they will take losses does not negate something Jimmy. Yeah.

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You know, I mean, a lot humanitarian. And again, he's saying things about allowance are very positive you say is and I know, yeah.

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So that was part of those things. And you know, you don't know things. He I know something positive about the law, and you don't know those things. So once again, is being very positive. Now there's so many lessons you can learn just from this. The first lesson is that you are no less of a person if you experience sadness isn't. I mean, would anyone say that? Yeah, who suffer a lot was less of a profit or a man because he felt like this. Would anyone say that? Nobody said,

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and, you know, depression.

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Definitions of depression differ, but generally speaking, it's about having low mood for a long period of time, right?

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So which word out all those words of sadness reflects closest to the clinical definition of depression?

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But if jacobellis what I'm saying,

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is, but the controversial question is this, would anyone suggest that a prophet of Allah experienced depression?

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You'd hesitate, isn't it? You think now, it's not really right to say that.

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And that's why my brothers and sisters, there is a there is a problem with labeling yourself with the label of depression. There is, yeah, that's why you hesitate to say that jacoba snom could be said to be depressed. Yeah. And that's something to think about. may touch on that later on. Sure. So the first list is what you know less of a person if you experience sadness, and in the Quran, you find many amazing people who experienced incredible sadness, like Madame Elisa.

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When she became pregnant with Elissa as she was put in such a dilemma. She became pregnant and she's not married anymore.

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To the point that she says she what she says to Allah. Yeah, later the mid to

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Whoa, that I died before this. Can you imagine this lady? This incredible lady, righteous lady. She's asking a lot. Perhaps if I wasn't, if I died before, it will be better for me. Yeah. So you can exceed the sadness. Yeah, there's so many stories about sadness, no plan. This is one we got a story of Miriam, any others come to your mind?

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Any others? around you find people experiencing sadness? What are prompts a llama seldom.

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Seldom is stopped. We're told in the Sierra, that when his son Ryan passed away, he shed tears. He shed tears, which is, this is the leader of all mankind, shedding tears. So what are the lessons we learn from this passage? That's one lesson. The second lesson that we learn from this passage is that

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how do we nurture patience? You see when someone's I don't want to use the word depressed, but someone's feeling sad. Okay, and I got a problem with this service. We tell them how patients have suffered.

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But then they think in how should I have patients? Exactly. Can you teach me how to have patients? Yeah, poble. Islam is teaching us how to nurture patients. And notice any patient, beautiful patients. anyone tell me how he's teaching us to nurture patients. He says I'm going to have beautiful patients. What happens afterwards, that shows us that he has a coping mechanism in order to nurture patience, so

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very good. He has an intimate conversation with Allah. He's pouring out his heart to Allah. This is what's happened to me. This is what I'm going through. Please, Allah help me. So it's not this, you know, Iron Man is holding everything inside and he doesn't have to share with anybody else. He needs to share it with someone. He chooses. A lot. And boy does he complain because they said

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You're going to keep on doing this. And he's saying to them at the end, I'm not, I'm not talking to you. I'm not complaining for your ears. I'm saying it to be heard. But last.

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Yeah. And that teaches us another lesson. So this lesson was, one of the ways in order to nurture patience in your heart, is to complain to a lot about your sounds.

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And there's actually another there's actually mentioned this insha Allah is another way as well to nurture patience in your heart. And that is mentioned as sort of woo silence.

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After he has led, when he saw out of slavery across, you know, the sea, there were the two bodies of water parts, and it comes to the other side. Now he stands to give a hoot about Tibet is not that many is that, you know, that was a moment of incredible enjoyment for them. And victory. They have come from a very dark places. In Egypt, they were living as slaves, right. And the policy of their own was what was what was gonna happen to the boys, you up to Luna.

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Now that they boys are getting slaughtered today, they have lived under such a brutal regime. They've witnessed things which are unspeakable, almost a witness they own kids not dying or being slaughtered in front of the eyes. So they've been through a very traumatic time. Now, they are, things are beginning to change. So once they come across the other side of the water, then most of this dam stands to give them a hook. And the first thing he tells them, you might think you will tell them tell somebody about the bad that's happened to them. He doesn't tell them to have silver. He says we're in Chicago to Louisiana. He tells them how should

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have thanks. How does having things help a person help a person be patient? Wait helps you be patient, is because when you're sad? What happens is the only thing you start to think about is that one wrong thing isn't that one example I felt maybe that one day

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I made a proposal, and what happened, everything was going so good. And to the end of the day all went sour. One thing,

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the whole world your whole world is taught to revolve around that one thing. What does that mean? It means that you can't see the other blessings in your life aligns them to that one bad thing in their life, psychologically is very powerful as well. Okay, so this one thing how to nurture patients, by complaining to Allah and also by being more grateful to Allah by counting the blessings in your life. The other thing I teach us, which is one of the main remedies for sadness in the Quran, is Dora. It is to supplicate and to pray to Allah to bring about the change in your circumstances situation. And when you go away today, inshallah I asked you to do something read Surah ambia.

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Certain MBR contains the stories of many prophets of them is no of them in a you have the base also zecharia. And Eunice, your students as well.

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And what is remarkable is that when those stories are related about those four prophets, Allah tells us about each and every one of them that they reach a point where they are desperate. They're desperate. They in a dilemma, know what these people have to so many years and they're still not embracing Islam. And there was Yunus, he finds himself in the belly of a big fish. He's a dilemma. And Zakaria, with his wanting, wanting a child, okay, and then you afflicted with a lot of diseases. And Allah tells us that when they got to that stage, what happened? All of them, Fernanda? They called out to Allah, every one of them and every single time a latos follows up that verse with

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festa, Giovanna Allah. And we responded to him, we responded, and the fire here is connecting what came before with the response as if to say, we heard the prayer. And because they prayed to us, we brought about change in the situation. Yeah, so making a lot of making a lot of law. And one of the last lessons just from this is to always think good from a loss of power, always, never, ever thinking bad about a lot. And I'm going to say something here, which may be a little bit controversial, but I must say from what I know of the Quran, I must say, and that is

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the only people who blame a law for the wrong things in their life.

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The people that are far away from home a

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woman out of a decrease in the mindset of monka, Allah tells us whoever turns away from my remembrance, then for him is going to be a tight, miserable life. Yeah. And that even makes sense on a human level. Because you know, when you have a long distant relationship with someone is very easy to start assuming bad things about them isn't one day you are very close to somebody, your friend is so close. It's a bad thing here that you can look over because you know them you're close to them. But when you start to distance yourself from that person, some time passes by, and then you have a conversation, they say a few weird things or anything strange.

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Did you mean by se jealous of me?

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Can you be happy for me?

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Because now you have a long distance relationship, it's very easy for you to start assuming bad things about Allah, the more you know about Allah, the better is your assumption of a lot. And it's quite amazing look on that the very first name Allah introduces to us of his is what

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a rush man or rush man, and urashima, which means we've translate to the mercy of compassion comes from the root word Russian, which is the womb, the womb of the mother. And so you've been taught that if you were to reflect over the way the mother case for the child in her belly, and how she envelopes it in so much compassion, love and care, that will allow you to start thinking about how Allah case for you or human being urashima first name, Allah chose to introduce us to himself, it's quite amazing. See, the more you know about Allah, you see, the better you start thinking about Amazon, and the vice versa is also true. Now, just to conclude the case, he then turns to his songs

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and he says, Yeah, if Habu further has only used

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36 three songs son's,

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well, I want you to do is I want you to go back to college. And I want you to go and look hard for you. And his brother is is, is not concerned too much about when you mean as he is for us to see the attachment then his use of comes first, my name is low, the second one doesn't combine in anyhow, and the older one is never mentioned.

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They say is la de Mirage en la don't despair, of the role of Allah. The word ro means Rama. But Allah didn't use the word Russian, I use the word road. There's a difference of opinion. But some scholars say the root word route comes from reish, which is a cold breeze.

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Over here, you have many cold breezes, so you don't really appreciate as a good thing. But if you are an Arab living in the desert, on a sweltering hot day, when one cool breeze touches you,

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feels amazing. uplifting. They saying that feeling that comes from Allah, that Allah has mercy. Don't ever despair of that coming from a loss of power, which is amazing is that should they be telling him to not display? He's telling them to display? This is amazing.

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In Nola, I assume you're washing in an old castle. Now he gives a very strong piece of advice. He says, The reason I'm telling you not to disappear from Allah's mercy is not because it's a good thing.

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I'm telling you not to just leave us mercy because the only people disappear from God's mercy are people that don't believe in God, as strong as them.

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So what's the connection? The connection is that if you can think bad of a law and say to yourself, I'm in a really bad situation, and I'm really sad, things aren't going right. And you know what, God can't do anything for me now. I'm so far gone. God won't have mercy on me. Some people do that. They say that I'm so bad with so many skeletons in my closet. You know, I'm too far gone. Now. There's no hope for me anymore. No hope for me anymore. How can you say that about Allah?

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Allah, can I help you how I can do anything. So he's telling them Don't do this. So this is the final one of the fun lessons from this case study. And that is

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sadness, though. Experiencing sadness is not bad. So what is bad is when sadness can lead you to despair. This is the real issue here. And that's why one of the reasons why I try to avoid the word depression is because somehow we think that the person is depressed. It gives them a free chance at doing the wrong things. That somehow we

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feel that if someone is classified as being clinically depressed, then it means that they are allowed to say bad things about a lot about his degree of religion. And they are allowed to maybe not pray maybe not fast, maybe not. So you might think this is a, it's not really true, but trust me, it's true. I remember giving a lecture on depression. And I mentioned the example the brother came up to me after university and he goes, you know, there's a brother here. Every week, we call him for Juma. And every week, he says, I'm not going to pray, because I'm depressed.

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What do we do? I said, because every week, we tend to get depressed. Because

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I say that's not an excuse.

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We need to help the brother, which advisor we need to be there for him, but nothing justifies the problem. This is maybe one of the reasons behind

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putting aside the word depression, focusing more on sadness. Okay, so this is the final thing. Now, I want you to conclude and wrap it up. For me, personally speaking,

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the thing that can carry you, in times of sadness, more than anything else, is no exception. in relationship with a loss of power, nothing comes close to a remedy of dealing with sadness, then your assumption and your perception of a loss of power. And in order to illustrate that I have the story here of Austin. Who's read the story before vaguely Yeah, most people. So what happened in the story, very amazing story was that Islam is sent to another person to go and learn something which he doesn't know. So your Prophet Musa going to some other personable kid, and he's got to learn some lessons, which he doesn't know that well. So he goes with this man hitter. And instead of sitting

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down, like you're in a lecture theatre with the shape of the book, and, you know, going through the way we think knowledge is taught, he says to y'all come with me. Don't ask me any questions. By the way.

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Don't ask me any questions about anything whatsoever. And we're not going to sit and learn. We're going on a little journey. Some palapa so they head off was the first lesson let's go let's go on board this ship. The ship belongs to poor people. What is he gonna do? He says he was a communist. Is this this go to the basement? For ha ha. Ha commies to take. Okay, that is golden. tears off the plank at the bottom of the ship or starts gushing out mercilessness we do.

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He does something really immoral is something which is wrong and nonsensical at the same time, because we're on the ship but you just you know, you just took it. What's wrong with you? Today? did not tell you don't ask me any questions.

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Don't Don't take me to task for that. I forgot. Okay, don't be too harsh on me. Okay, lesson number two. Lesson number two is even more difficult than listening to one. Lucky Allah subhanaw taala walking along with what you know, a young boy. And it goes up to young boy

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kills him. Muscle So no, that is totally wrong. You can't do that. But the data jm nohcra. Look this time which means is is so bad. This is really bad for that he shouldn't have done that. He said did I tell you? You can't ask him a question. He says Look, if I ask you one more question tell us you can. They can tell her to go away. Lesson number three, going to a town this town they traveling they're tired. They go up to the people maybe knock on someone's door and say look, we know we just came from faraway. Would you mind hosting us? This is another house? Would you mind just some food? You know? We don't eat food in this download. Okay, next house. We just have some water we don't

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drink water either. Thinking Okay, these people are mean these people are really mean. And then he finds a G da you read a young pillar backup comma, we're gonna make a stand back off again.

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These people are so mean.

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You know, you could have taken some money for that is no question. There's no question but

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is that no, that counts as a question that Philip obey Anyway, I'm going

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to teach you why. The explanation behind all that exists is the lesson

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the lesson. So look at the way he describes the lessons he says I must Safina to Now pay attention to words for Canada to be Masaki in a minute. I feel badly for an adult

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He said when it came to the ship, it belonged to some poor people that were working. And what happened is, I wanted, he wanted.

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He wanted, he wanted to enable her to make some problem with it. Okay? Why? Because there was a king and he was a pirate isn't a common, you know, take the ship, and he would have killed them on his own. So he's saying, look, I wanted to do this lesser harm in order for them to avoid a greater harm. And you can you can appreciate the lesson is quite. Yeah, it's interesting. We get that lesson. Fair enough. What about the boy, comma, okay, but what about the third? Let's go to the third one. The third one, he says, As for the wall for kalevala mania team at Phil Medina, it belong to two poor orphan kids. So these are all awesome. They are below the age of puberty. They're young.

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And beneath the wall, there was a treasure.

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And then he says, What do you say to arada rabuka. And so your master?

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Who is Master?

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His master, meaning a lot? So when it came to the first one about the ship, whose name did he put on that? His name or last name?

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When it came to burying the treasure, so that when the boys grow older? Yeah, and they reached a stage, you know, where they can defend their money, because the town they living in? Has people, which I really mean, right? He puts His name on it.

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He puts

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What about the boy? Look at how he explains the boy. He says, As for the boy for Adana. He says, first of all, that boy, he had two Muslim parents, meaning that they were righteous people is mom and dad righteous. And that boy was going to compel his parents to become irreligious and immoral. How does a child make the parents go from being religious, to irreligious? How does that happen?

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anyone, any mothers?

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How does that happen? I mean, you're a good person, righteous person, and you have a child and that child grows up and somehow that child makes you become a bad person

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trying to get to how exactly?

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You remember the story that there are these two, I don't know if it's the same story, but like, there's these two rights people, and they ended up they had this child that they really loved. But then they love them like too much more than a whole lot. So it means they're, like,

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very good, the issues of love. Sometimes parents can love the child so much that they will do whatever it takes to give him or her the things that they want in their life. Even if it means doing how long things live, we have brothers who get jobs, and they know that the job isn't really right. But you know what got to put food on the table for my kids, right. So sometimes the love of your child can become your worst enemy. Because you're blinded by that love, you're blinded by the love. And you can end up doing things which take you away from a lot. So in explaining the boy, kitten says for Aradhana. And so we wanted, he put a last name. And then he put his name next to a lot we

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want to try for our other na ayyubid de la humara Puma, we wanted that they are Master, the master of the two parents would replace that boy with another boy. So he said we wanted. And then he said, there are a lot.

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So he put his name next to a large when it came to the bad thing, which was the boy. But when it came to giving the parents a better child who's never really put on it

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Because Allah only once good from the bad things that happen to us. That's why Allah only ever wants good things to come to human beings when he places them in Thailand.

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And that is what he was teaching us when it came to the boat. I put my name on that when it came to the treasure being hidden. That's a good thing about last name. When it came to the boy, the sea, the bad aspect of that boy losing his life. I put my name on that. But the good outcome was last name. Yeah. So he's teaching us an amazing lesson, which is

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We should always always think of a loss of power. And another lesson is that Allah has a plan.

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Allah has a plan or sometimes you cannot see the fruits of that plan. Just like musalla some couldn't see the good in those bad things happening when they happen before his eyes. But then the end of it is learning a lesson that you know what, Allah has a plan for every single human being, Allah has a plan. And for the believer who submits himself to Allah plan, and embraces it, just like a slave embraces the oldest from his master, those plans will always bring benefit to you. Always. Yeah. And so to be honest, I will end on that note, that let us through this lecture learn about sadness, and how to put on allows us to appreciate that it's not something that you can eliminate

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from your life, but it's something you need to deal with and navigate. And the way you can navigate through those difficult times is by learning the lessons mentioned, ourselves. And Charla, this brings us to the end of this lecture, how there was a loss

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on earnings.

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Towards the end of your slides, you've also got some

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certifications was a process someone has told us can be used for people that experience sadness, to use in order to alleviate those services. Now 123 you can go through the mission and your time

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is up.

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Because you know, you always thank God for the blessings that has given you like he thank God for having a degree

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for being able to afford expensive things, but sometimes

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forget about

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the small things