Channel: Ammar Alshukry
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Lima, my bad, All praise is due to Allah we seek His guidance and his forgiveness and we seek refuge in Allah from the evil of ourselves and the whispering of our desires, whom Allah guides no one can misguided whom he allows to be misled, no one can guide and I have ever witnessed that there is nothing worthy of worship except Allah alone, having no partners and that Mohammed sobre la Heidi was Ella Mrs. slave and His Messenger, and his perfect worshipper. Oh you who believe Allah says in the Quran, oh you who believe fear allies, he deserves to be feared and do not die except in a state of Islam. And Allah says, all mankind fear your Lord who created you from a single soul and produced
from that soul it's made and made from their combination many men and women, so fear your Lord whom you ask each other by and by the ties of kinship, Verily, Allah is Ever watchful over you. And Allah says, Oh, you who believe fear Allah and say that which is correct, he will correct for your deeds and forgive you your sins and whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger than they are indeed Victorians. As for what follows.
In every community, there
may be a person who if you were to ask a handwritten message, the people of the masjid who is the best amongst you, who do you think of when you think of the most righteous people in the masjid and you may be able to come up with a list.
And there may be a brother who comes near the top of that list, that brother is always in masala, that brother is always helping people, that brother is always walking up and smiling. And when they shake your hand, they always shake it with two hands. They're always beaming, they're always so gentle and so pleasant to be around.
And you think of this person as maybe one of the best the community has to offer. And he may even be someone who many people consider.
And he may even be someone who is unanimously considered in that community to be of the best, he makes the top of everybody's list.
But there are some people who though they may make the list of everyone in the community, they make the list of the Imam, they make the list of
the people of the front row, they make the list of everyone.
There is a person whose list they would not make as the best in that community. And that person is important because he is also lost on Lola hardy who said no, they do not make his list.
The problem is some of them was approached by a group of women who came to his family.
And they were complaining about the actions of some of their husbands. And the complaint that they were complaining about was their husbands striking them hitting them and Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam he comments on this as was reported by Buddha, Allah subhanho wa Taala. And the Buddha said la tasa or Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam he says as reported by
Mohammed Nisa on casilda Nichkhun, as well as your laser like the article, he said, a group of women have come complaining to the family of rasuluh loss on the line to send them many men, many women complaining about their husbands. They are not the best of you. They are not the best of you. They don't make that list of being the mess of that community. And so today,
I wanted to speak about domestic violence. The month of October is the month of Domestic Violence Awareness. And I wanted to share five points with you in this book, but five brief points on on this notion of domestic abuse. The first is that it is not what the righteous do. The first is that it is not what the righteous do. How do we know that it's not what the righteous do? Because the prophets of Allah do send them who was the Imam of the righteous he did not strike his wives. In fact, I shall not be Allah and he says as was reported by a Muslim ma she says, The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she says that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
never struck anyone with his hand. Ma Ba ba ba
Rasulullah sallallahu SLM Shea uncut Beardy. What am ra y la la mujer de la. She says that a pseudo loss on the lightest, and I've never struck anything with his hand. He never struck a woman with his hand. He never struck a servant with this and the only time that he ever raised his hand to her and she said Shay and cut so Shay, is anything you could extend that to a child, you could extend that to an animal. The problem is the light is and I've never struck anything with his hand, except when he was in jihad in the path of Allah subhanho data, the only time he ever raised his hands towards anyone, and Allah subhanho wa Taala he defines the relationship of the believers with each other.
Allah subhanho wa Taala he says when you know when not to go home? Oh, yeah, about that the believing men and the believing women. They are the protectors, the defenders, the partners of one another. Yeah, Miranda went home it Moncada. They command the good and they forbid the evil and they obey Allah and His messenger. And so that relationship is defined for us by Allah subhanho wa Taala. Before a person is your spouse or before a person is your child, even that person is has the sanctity that Allah Subhana Allah gave them, that sanctity extends to them from Allah, that they are a believer in a loss of Hannah to Allah and so your role and our role together is to protect each
other, not to harm one another. The promise of the law to send them or the second thing actually that I would like to share is that it is not just not what the righteous do, it is not what the rational do. It is not rational the promise of a lie they send me says Be my LD boy hadoken m rato barbell family sumela Allahu, he says, Why is it that one of you strikes his wife like the striking of a, of a of an animal, the striking of a beast from Malala, who you are.
And then it may be that after that, after a person punches his wife in the face after he hurts her, then after that he wants to be intimate with her. It's not it doesn't make any sense. It doesn't make any sense. You do not abuse someone, and that extends to children as well that a person harms them, a person punishes them, and then after that they seek that love to be reciprocated. That is not the actions of a person who is rational. And so number two is that it is not something that is rational. And this statement that I just quoted of the province of Allied a synonym is reported Bible hottie number three
is that the victims of abuse are obviously the spouse and
it is not just the wife that suffers abuse. Sometimes it is, although it is rare. Sometimes it is the husband who is the victim of abuse in the relationship. But the victims are also the children because they are incredibly confused when they see someone who they love their father, in most circumstances. Their father is the one who's abusive towards the mother and they have an innate desire to love their father, and they have an innate desire to love their mother. And so it creates this confusion for them, it might create hatred towards the spouse that is the abuser.
But also the victim is the abuser themselves.
The victim is the abuser themselves. And so there's a verse that is so controversial that it can simply be referred to by its number.
Chapter 434 of the Quran. And chapter 434 of the Quran is Surah An Nisa where a loss of kindness to add gives license. A person may argue back and say I don't care if you're on the road, I don't care who you are. I don't care what you have. You are Allah Subhana Allah says that He gives me license. Allah subhana wa Tada. He says, that if you fear new shoes from your spouse's then do what? For what you
know, he says for a Luna for
Allah Subhana Allah says that if you fear new shoes, this conflict
that the scholars defined in many different ways, but if you fear new shoes from your spouse, then Allah gives you license to what he says a little when he says admonish them, rebuke them, try to correct them with your words. And then after that, if that doesn't work, then what? Why don't you feed them a budget that you separate your sleeping quarters from your spouse to indicate again, the severity of the of the harm that's being done by their actions? And then if that doesn't work, a loss of Hannah ties us well, then he would strike them
And some they try to alter the meaning and they say no, it doesn't mean strike or what have you, but let us agree on something. And that is no abuser who abuses their spouse is doing it out of fulfillment of Quranic injunction.
There is no one who is abusing their spouse.
And they are doing so because of the verse. No, the motive is not the verse. The motive is their rage, the
motive is control. The motive is many different things and then they come back after the fact and they say, well look, the Quran gives me license. But then we have to finish the verse because finishing the verse will introduce us to a threat. And finishing the verse, Allah Subhana Allah says for in
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Allah says if they obey you, then do not seek authority over your wife. And then Allah subhana wa tada ends the verse with two names of his and many times the names of Allah we don't pay attention to why does Allah and this verse was Semyon Aileen, why doesn't wash the kind of data and this verse with ID one Hakeem Aziz and Hakeem Allah subhana wa tada at the end of this verse, he says, In the Lacan, ID and kaviraj, that if you seek authority over your spouse,
when you have no right to do so, because you are deluded by the fact that you outweigh her by 60 pounds or 100 pounds, you're bigger than her you're stronger than her, Allah subhanaw taala is bigger than you.
And if you are diluted by the fact that you have some sort of seeming authority over her seemingly you have some authority over Allah subhana wa tada is IE Yun kevita Allah, Allah is higher than you. And Allah is bigger than you greater than us stronger than you and all of that. And this is a mechanism this threat is a mechanism to control the person who otherwise would not be controlled. And the promise of the law I didn't even send him he used this mechanism. abou Miss route, not even miss route. But Mr. Rhuddlan, Swati is from the unsolved.
He says that one time
he says we're gonna have to reboot, then Lee. He was being a servant that he had sent me to salt on him in healthy Yeah, Paul Elam, yeah, Obama's route. Lama, who after ya come in Cali, he says, I heard a voice from behind me. I was in the middle of beating my slave and I hear a verse of voice from behind me. What was that voice saying? He said, I heard a voice from behind me saying no Obama's route, no way. And he says, I look behind and I saw that it was a little less on the line to send them what was the province saying? He says no Obama's route, that Allah has more power over you than you have over your sleeve. Do not be diluted by this relationship that you have. Husband versus
wife, slave owner versus slave Do not be diluted by that Allah has more power over you than you have over your slave. And so I'm almost rude because he's also hobby. He's not someone who's gonna respond with arrogance, yada, blah, blah, he did this and he says Jada's will law who knew he loved
his friend free for the sake of Allah and the progress on the lightest and then commented and he says, low lambda phi lemme set can now he said if you did not free him for the sake of Allah in that moment, because of your abuse, you would have been touched by the fire.
You would have been touched by the fire. And so I person should not be diluted and do not think that they are not the victim of that relationship as well.
is that abuse? abuse is not just physical, but it is emotional. It is psychological. It is financial. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked by Maria Khushi
he says Yasser Allah Maha poo JT Idina LA, what is the rights of any one of our wives over us? And the prophets of Allah do sending them says, unto him, or her daughter ain't what to her is actus eight. He said that you feed her when you
are when you eat, and that you close yourself or that you close her when you buy a garment for yourself,
and that you don't strike her face when I totally been watch. And then he says Who else to add. And he says and that you do not say you that you do not say back in law, right, which is an insulting phrase that you don't do what we would call verbal abuse, that you would not call verbal abuse and the scholars they talked about so much of what we use in our common day to day language, the promise of the lightest synonym, forget verbal abuse, the province little light is sent me says there has been many, many
Muslim, it is enough of an evil that a person belittles their Muslim brother, but one of the challenges is that many times when we're in this familial relationship when they're in this very intimate relationship, we do not see our family members as having the same rights that our Muslim brothers and sisters outside of our house enjoy.
And so it's okay if I insult my family, they're my family. No, it's not okay. Why? Because they have the sanctity of being a being a believer and a loss of data from the first place and hence the province on the lightest enemies advice to a husband and wife. He said, la mina Mina. He says a believing man never hates the believing woman. And this is
Talking about the context of a husband and wife, meaning that if you have to zoom out, beyond looking at her as just your wife Look at her as a believing woman.
Either carry him in her head open, or the I mean, haha, that if he hates one attribute attribute that she has, if you dislike an attribute that you that she has, that you see the goodness that she has, there are many other qualities that are positive. And that is something that can be applied to everybody that you look at the positive and you don't look at the negative. I want to just share my last point. And that last point is that the community must be concerned. It is a
you know, there are some statistics that are actually I just want to share with you some statistics about this country here that we live in today. And we make up that two to 2000 to 4000 women are beaten to death annually in the US 2000 to 4000 women are beaten to death annually in the US. Nearly 6 million women are battered every single year, are battered every single year. Battery is the single major cause of injury to women exceeding street rate muggings or auto accidents. And so I want you to think about the amount of stress that you have over you know, your family members. We all worry about each other. When the person is outside, you're worried that they're, they might be
harmed, don't come home late, come home early. Why? Because I'm afraid of these things. I'm afraid of the rape and the street muggings and all of that type of stuff. Yet, the single major cause of injury to women are none of those things. It is battery. It is from their domestic partners. It is from those who are intimate with them, it is from their husbands, it is from their wives, that is or for women in particular it is from their husbands and their boyfriends. This is the number one cause and so this is a communal, a communal concern, and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam in a hadith that's reported by Eben imagine and I'll end with this this hadith is very beautiful. The prophets little
line is Adam Javid even Abdullah he says that a group of companions had come back from un habitat they had come back from Abyssinia and when they came back to the province, the ladies and me asked them and he said what is the greatest or the most amazing thing that you saw in Abyssinia? What's the strangest thing? What's the most? And so one of the many said Jada's a little while while we were in Abyssinia, there was a nun she was walking down the street. She was minding her business she had a well she had a bucket of water on her head. And while she was walking, she had the bucket of water and a man came up from behind her and he pushed her to the ground. Just a young man he just
pushed her to the ground for no reason. And so this woman she then got up and she looked at him and she said to him, you will come to know
oh traitor, on the day of judgment when Allah subhanaw taala sets up the footstool and the hands and the feet they talk about they what they used to do. You will come to know
this affair between you and me very soon. So she threatened him with your monthly on
the Prophet sallallahu de salud he commented on this and he says sada Sadat, k for you but this law, home and law you
add him. He said how can it last? She spoken the truth she spoken the truth. How can a law purify a community where the poor or the weak do not have a mechanism to secure their rights from the strong?
How does Allah bless a community where the weak are harmed and they are injured and they are and hence the profits of the lie they send them says or how do they do if you have to buy a Fein? Allah team one ma the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said I invoke I shame over the rights of two people. The two weak ones he called them, the woman and the orphan.
We asked Allah Subhana data to allow us to hear the speech and follow the rest of it. Hola Massimo Mustapha de la Christopher window for him.
hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah. So have you seen him? And for those of you who are just joining us, we spoke in this book, but about five points with regards to domestic violence. Number one is that it is not what the righteous do. Number two is that it's not what the rational dude number three was that the victims extend beyond the spouse. And number four is that domestic violence is many different ways. It's not just with regards to physical violence, and number five it is that it is something that the community should be concerned about. Because Allah subhanaw taala will not bless the community in which the poor and the weak do not have a mechanism
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