The Silent Battle

Ali Albarghouthi


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The speakers emphasize the importance of finding one's own happiness in life, avoiding negative consequences of pursuing happiness and the gap between seeking and finding one's own happiness. They advise individuals to practice exercise, volunteer activities, and rethinking behavior. Personal growth and advice on what to do when facing challenges are also emphasized. embracing one's own potential is also emphasized.

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Smilla hamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah

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salam alaikum, alumna, myInfo now and finally my LinkedIn I was in the element of the LME

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen that Allah azza wa jal

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Hank Grant had granted us an insight into ourselves and into understanding who we are by revealing the Quran, and the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Because they do not only teach us about who Allah subhanho wa Taala is, which is fundamental. That's the first thing that you want to know

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and about how to live your life. But it also tells you about who you are as a human being. And it tells you about who you are as a Khalifa on this earth, a person who Allah azza wa jal had entrusted

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who is a descendant of Adam. And he was supposed to live this life in a way that Allah has lived your life so that this life can take him back to his home his origin. Jana.

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So Islam teaches us a lot about who we are, what we are what we're supposed to be. So our heart, its conditions, its diseases, the obstacle that we face in our lives, how to deal with problems, with setbacks, with anxiety, with depression, all of that is embedded in all of Allah as Zildjian has revealed.

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one thing that we note about us human beings, it does not matter what religion we have, what we believe or disbelieve in all of us are trying to live this life and be happy.

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There is no exception to this, absolutely no exception.

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Even if a person gives up on that idea, at least in the beginning of their life, they had wished to live a happy life. So everything that a person does, everything that they avoid, whatever they learn, they do that because it's going to maximize happiness.

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Even if you are living a materialistic life, why do you live or a person lives a materialistic life, because they live they think that through the material, they will be happy.

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If a person decides that they will live an immaterial life, meaning a non focused on matter, matter life, they will live that life because they think that it would make them happy. So whatever decision you take, you take, because it's gonna make you happy. Am I right? So you stay up at night, I heard you students stay up at night for some reason, right? If you stay up, and you don't guess he's smiling. So if you stay up and you don't go to bed early is because somehow it is making you happy. If you sleep in late, if you eat over it, not eating up, whatever it is, you're doing this because it makes you happier. Now, the problem with this pursuit of happiness is that there are

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three things that are obstacles to this, that stop you.

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There is the world that you live in, and its nature.

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There is also your nature.

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And there's also what you do three things that stop you the nature of the world, the nature of you as a human being and then what you do.

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Now the nature of the world is that no matter what happens,

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the world is not going to allow you to be happy all the time.

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You agree?

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You're with me. It's not gonna let you be happy all the time. That is if it gives you some happiness, the nature of the world itself, the way that Allah azza wa jal had made it it was created is that it will give you but it will take away from you.

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It's never as stable. It's never complete. It never satisfies you in every single way. But it will give you success, but then that success was it will go away. It will give you recognition, but those who are famous have to continuously struggle to remain famous. And then eventually what will happen to that thing

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will fade and it will go away it has to

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it will give you money. But then with money of course you have to continuously struggle to maintain it and to increase it. But eventually sooner or later the world will do what to you

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We'll take that money away. So it's like a roller coaster. It never stays the same. So constancy, right? If you're if it's constant, if the world is constant, you may say, Well, I mean, it may allow me to be happy. I can eat all the time I can drink all the time. I'm healthy all the time. I'm Rich all the time. So that actually could make me happy.

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But of course, your nature itself, in this role does not allow you to happen for that to happen. There is even if there constancy, what happens is that you will be bored with it.

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If you are eating who likes chicken, who likes to eat chicken? Wonderful, if I give you chicken as your dinner every night? What are you gonna do?

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I'm tired of it. Give me something different. Although it's the best cook chicken you'll ever find. But do this every single night, and you'll be tired.

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So even luxury, even money even you know Subhanallah the sweet things in life, with enough repetition You'll be tired with them. So the nature of this life is such that is such that it can never make you happy all the time, you must experience loss in it, you must experience pain, and there is benefit to that pain. And if you say to the Why did Allah azza wa jal, Allah will legislate decree pain, because there is benefit to that pain because it is through this pain, that you fully become a human being. And I want to go into the hubba and further on why Allah azza wa jal allows this, but it is through this pain that you actually realize your humanity and you realize your

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Islam, you grow because of that pain, you're a better human being because of that pain.

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If you have questions about that, ask me inshallah. And I will try to give a longer answer about it. So the nature of this rule, that's one, the second is your own nature,

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your own nature. What do I mean by that? Is that you yourself,

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are designed in a way formatted in a way just like a program

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to see.

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You're a seeker.

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You are thinker and a seeker. Every single human being is a thinker, and a secret. So you are designed slightly you have the you this own your own compass. And it's always leading you to one particular destination. So every single day, and every single night, you have an intention, and you're trying to work towards that intention towards that goal, right.

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Can you live without an intention?

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Try it.

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You can. Yeah, the this hour this minute, you're thinking about the next minute and the next hour, right? Tomorrow, and next month, and next year, you can stop thinking about it. So you always have an intention. That's why you want Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said in the Hadith was the whole Esma he had when he says the truest of names, the truest, not the best, the truest of names to describe a human being is Hadith. And her mouth. Her man is an intended meaning someone who intends has an intention had it is a doer. Someone who does all the time. So you're always do are you have these two qualities, you always are thinking you have an intention. And you're acting upon

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that intention. So here, you're always are seeking in this slide, you're always are seeking and you are never devoid of Seeker show.

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So all of us are students here.

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No, not everybody. But a lot of us.

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Okay, so some of us are students. So as a student, what do you want?

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Yeah, hi is great. Okay. i After the highest grade, what do you want?

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Graduate? Okay, when you graduate, what do you want?

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A job. What do you get your job? What do you want?

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Raise, you get married. Okay. So you want to raise which one comes first you won't get married or raise or raising and married?

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A reason get married, okay. After you get married.

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Have children after you get children

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and grandchildren, right? Well, you got to first take care of your children go, right. They gotta graduate and they have to be educated and they have to be married. I see. You skipped over all that. But you see that constantly. You're seeking big things and small

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Thanks. Right. So this is wordly seeker ship. But the greatest seeking that you're actually pursuing, whether you know it or not, is what?

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There is a gap in all of us. We have it as as human beings, we have a gap, we're empty. That's why by the way, for instance, that's how you eat.

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Because if you're self sufficient do you eat? No, you don't eat. That's why you drink. That's why you need a person's company. Because if you're self sufficient, you don't need to talk to somebody else you find on your own. So you need somebody else to fill you. That's why you get married. That's why you also have children. But then the greatest gap, whether you realize it or not, is the gap where the creator is supposed to be.

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So the heart has a gap in it.

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And sometimes you fill it with what entertainment.

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Like when you feel agitated, upset down, bored, it means that your heart is seeking something. So sometimes you fill it dislike you fill your stomach with good or bad. So sometimes it's entertainment, music to movies, TV, sometimes sometimes it's company, good company, or bad company. Sometimes it's consumption. Actually, a lot of times it's consumption as long as you have the money to support that habit. So you go and buy and once you finish buy, what do you do? You buy again, because then they made you believe that whatever you have is an obsolete thing, right? Now you need a new phone, you need new shoes, you need a new bag, you need new clothes, you need a bigger house,

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you need a new car. So there is that consumption, and that consumption occupies you. It tries to let fill

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an emptiness, a gap.

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Or to go out or to eat, a lot of us also eat for that reason, just to fill a gap. But the problem with this type of consumption and that secret ship is that once you get one of these things, what happens?

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Getting tired of it,

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right? And you find that it's unsatisfactory, you were looking forward to it, and you wanted wanted it and you couldn't wait until you get it. But once you get it, it's what a disappointment.

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So you have to move to something else. And you then have to move to something else. And you find that none of these things actually satisfy you.

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Have you experienced something like this?

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None of these things actually satisfy you. Then, eventually, if a person is wise, insightful and an Allah Who wants the best for them, they have to pause and say, what is it exactly that I'm looking for? I can't find it in this thing, or that thing with this person or with that person? What is it that I'm looking for? And the only thing that can fill that gap completely, ultimately and forever? Is Allah azza wa jal

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because once you find Allah, then you found everything else, and you will have no other needs.

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So a human being is constantly looking constantly looking, until he finds Allah azza wa jal because when you find Allah What is it is exactly that you find an answer to what

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the burning questions.

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The question of where I came from, and where I'm going.

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The question is, can I be happy?

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Can I stop worrying about this and that? Can I be at peace?

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Can I give my burden to someone else so they can carry it? And I can be at peace?

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Can I just relax?

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Can I live a worry free life? When you find Allah azza wa jal? You find an answer to all of these questions. But until you find Rabbil Alameen until you find Allah azza wa jal, everything that you try to have filled that void can answer these questions can carry your pain can tell you where

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you came from, and where are you heading.

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Can't give you assurance can entertain you, but cannot give you assurance. So you as a self, as a human being cannot be happy until you find Allah azza wa jal.

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So it's

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said it's the nature of the world, the nature of yourself.

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But also what we do, stops us from being happy. In fact, subhanAllah it's strange to believe that we ourselves do things to stop us from being happy.

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That is what I mean by that is when you distance yourself from Allah, you distance yourself from happiness.

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And when you introduce disobedience into your life, you throw yourself into the bosom of sadness.

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So take care the example of

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our father Adam alayhis. Salaam, where was he?

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He was in Ghana. That is where would you find happiness?

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Where are you seeking it? If you die when you die, and when you are resurrected, what do you want to be?

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You know,

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in general, right. Why do you want to be in general?

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Yeah, why do you want to be in it for those

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to be handled?

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It's not another revelation for you right? Is to be happy. Right? So as I'm Ali salaam was where?

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Okay, so he was in a place in the abode of happiness what took him out?

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This will be a disobeying Allah azza wa jal. So, if you are in a state of happiness in this life, and then you disobey Allah, by which you are distancing yourself from him, removing yourself from his presence, you remove yourself from happiness into unhappiness.

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Now this happiness of yours could be in the form of

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you being

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close to the Quran.

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And you're reading the Quran constantly, every day, and that is giving you peace.

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Or you're reading the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam every single day, and that is giving you peace, or you're worshiping in your salah or other types of a badness and that is giving you peace, when you sin. Are you less likely or more likely to continue this Eva?

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Less Likely, you have less energy, less desire to do so. Are you less likely or more likely to find satisfaction with that Ibadah

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less likely. So you will find things less sweetness of that a bother and less desire and strength to perform it. So you we are removing ourselves from happiness gradually, by sinning against Allah azza wa jal by disobeying Allah. And when that happens,

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the heart starts suffering.

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It starts agonizing.

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Just like a child,

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remove that child from its mother. Take it away from its mother.

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That's comfortable, safe spot. What did this child do? Cry

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until you do what? Bring it back until you bring it back.

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And then it quiets down. Because now it knows it is safe. And now it is back home. So when you find that you're hard at times,

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you say I'm just you say to yourself,

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I'm just

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I'm ill at ease. I'm not happy. I'm not happy. He said, are you hungry? I'm not hungry. Thirsty. I'm not thirsty. Something major wrong. I mean going wrong in your lives is not really. But I'm still not happy, agitated, upset.

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See when that happens. That is a sign

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that your heart is calling on you to fix it.

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Just like when your stomach grumbles. And you know what, what am I supposed to do? Feed it.

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Your stomach is sending you a sign, hey, I need something from you.

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Or your foot or your hand paints. It tells you what

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what is that pain for.

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That's a signal take care of me there's something wrong, that that nervous signal. If something is wrong, take care of me. When the heart agonizes, is anxious is sad, is depressed.

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It is sending you a signal, take care of me something is missing. Feed me. Pay attention to

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stuff, start doing some of the things that you are doing or start doing things that you stopped doing this or that. Your heart is actually talking to you

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The problem with us is that we do not listen to our hearts. We have learned to numb the pain.

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So for instance, just like a person who physically is suffering, and you go and take what?

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You swallow it

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Yeah, painkillers, I don't know what painkillers, you have your Panadol. Okay, so you swallow that

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and you think you're cured, you're fine. But then once that wears off, the pain is

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still there.

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So you take another one, and then another one and another one. And you learn to live like that thinking that this is what normal until such a time where those painkillers stopped working.

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So we have learned to cope with what should not we should not cope with the pain of our heart, that there is pain. There is agony, there is uncertainty. There are questions, but we numb it. And how do we numb our hearts? How do we bury all of this? By ignoring it by burying your ourselves in doing something else? You know, I'm tired, I'm in pain, I'm this and that. What I'm going to do is I'm going to listen to music.

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I'm just going to put my headphones or earphones and just listen to music.

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And listening to music or watching a movie or all of this. Does it work?

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What do you think?

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So when you're listening to music, right, any music and by the way, some of these machines are no different than music, right? Some of these machines are exactly the same. Maybe the words are a little bit better. But as far as the instrument and all of that is basically the same thing. If you start listening to it, what does it do to you when you listen to music.

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And over those first two, three minutes,

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your mood changes,

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your mood changes.

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And based on the rhythm of it, right? It could make you happy, or it can make you sad, right?

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So it can really make you excited. And it can give you some energy, and all of that. So you have this right.

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But once this is over, what happens to your mood,

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drops back immediately,

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instantly drops back. So what music does is that it instantly elevates but instantly abandons you, immediately. So So what's the remedy? If a person you know wants to just fix themselves to music? What do they do? Is one song enough to three, you have to be hot, constantly hooked on music. That's the only way where your heart can actually feel some relief. Problem is that cannot last or you watch a movie, an hour hour and a half comedy. You're laughing your head off. While wonderful, nice, right? All of this. Once it's over once it's done, you go back and you face reality

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which is by the way very different from the Quran. If you try it

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the Quran

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is not instant. It correct me if I'm wrong, there was my experience. The Quran when you read the Quran, start reading it.

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Especially if you're in pain and you're trying to come back.

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It will take you some time until you reach or you are in tune with what Allah Allah wants to say. It's not just like music, music just it gives it quickly but it takes it away quickly. The Quran doesn't do this. The Quran wants you to struggle and strive so that you'll be elevated to a state where you can receive what Allah wants. Now when you stop reading the Quran, meaning I finished my page, my five pages, 10 pages, does it is does its effect wear off immediately stays with you. Right? And it can stay with you for hours or the rest of the day.

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That's the difference between the Quran what Allah has revealed his words and something that human beings have made a

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difference between reality and fiction.

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So we've learned to numb that pain, or I'm bored, I'm bored. What am I supposed to do? I'm gonna go out my friends and I'm not telling you not to do this. I'm not telling you not to go out and eat I'm not telling you not to enjoy life. I'm telling you that we're if whenever you have a problem that's your solution, then you have not solved the right solution.

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Yes, when you're bored, you need to go out you need to talk to your friends you need to eat you need to entertain yourself

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That's different. I'm not talking about being bored. Talking about having a problem and trying to run away from that problem by burying your head in the sand

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or social media

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or social media.

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I'm just gonna see what that person is saying what that person is talking about. I'm just going to occupy my distract myself.

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But none of these things actually work.

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So the heart here is actually trying to talk to you. And it's telling you that as you are feeding your body you need to feed me. And whatever junk food you feed your body and it makes you sick. I also do not want type of junk food that is going to make me sick. I want the kind of thing that is going to make me give me comfort. And the only thing that will do this

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is Allah azza wa jal

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is what Allah azza wa jal had revealed. And when you have this

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in your life, you will be able to deal with the other two that I talked about. You will be able to deal with this world and what it throws at you.

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And you will be able to deal with your expectations of this world and of your life.

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So, if Allah azza wa jal gives you something good in this life,

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and you have a heart that is alive,

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close to Allah azza wa jal, that hard part proximity to Allah Who will not allow you to rebel.

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Because you recognize that this is a NEMA from Allah azza wa jal that I need to thank Allah for. For it to be preserved for it to be blessed. I need to thank Allah azza wa jal for it. Because this is not something that I gain because of my own.

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Because I am unique because I'm special. More than the people around me I gain this because of Allah.

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So I need to thank Allah for it. So you don't become rebellious.

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Because of an AMA that you will ever have, it will not ruin you.

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And if things

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depart, and they leave.

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If your heart is attached to Allah azza wa jal, you will know the following.

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Allah gave it

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and Allah took it away.

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And Allah who was gracious in granting it,

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and Allah was gracious and taking it away.

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And this is only for the believer.

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That has a lot of reasons and I'm not telling you again that when you lose something, you're not going to be sad.

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Sadness is part of being human.

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The prophets of Allah Allah you know, Salatu was Salam did they get sad?

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They got sad.

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So you take the example of Iacobelli Salam.

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Take the example of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam all of them they got sad.

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But then how did they deal with that loss? How did they deal with that sadness, there is pain. But also with that pain coupled with it never absent from it is the realization that Allah has zero.

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And Allah compensates you for your loss. And Allah can take that pay pain away in a split second, in a blink of an eye. And Allah azza wa jal did send it your way. Because he has a better plan for you. He did not take anything away from you, except to grant you.

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You with me?

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To remember this. Allah azza wa jal gave you everything that you have whatever thing you have lost whatever loss you're gonna experience you have you are or you will experience in life, you will only experience loss because Allah gave you something to begin with.

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You wouldn't be

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otherwise you could not lose anything. So Allah in the beginning gave it to you. And then he said, What are

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you gonna take it back? And did he take it back? subhanho wa Taala because God forbid his stinky.

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Why did he take it back? Because he wants to give you more.

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Allah so Allah took it back because he wants to give you more. So if a person appreciates this and understands this and believes it, every loss can be turned into a game.

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Every loss in this life can be turned into a game in two ways in the hereafter if you are patient

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Allah will give you something better than what you have lost if you lose a child

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if you lose a child, but also allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, the meaning of the Hadith, that if a person loses two children, let me give you 100, meaning they have not reached puberty still young. And the loss of such

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freshers gift is painful. But if you lose three of them like that, a person goes to Jannah

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or two of them like that, a person goes to Jannah. And the sahabi said, I guess if I asked him if he a few rows, one like that, I guess if I asked him about that, he would tell me the same thing that that was that thing will take him to gender.

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So that that child, if you lose them, they will be waiting for you at the gates of Jana. So that they will take you in.

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If you lose wealth,

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if you use wealth, Allah who will give you more of it in Jannah. So that if you were to look then at your life, you would say, I'm happy I lost it.

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I want you to remember this. Like really remember it. Because there's gonna come a time

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where you're going to lose something.

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Don't be sad. If I say this, right? This has to happen, has to happen.

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So you're going to lose something. But if you believe this, if you remember this, it will make it better.

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So Rasul Allah has a lot of you said him said in a hadith,

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he said, the healthy on the Day of Judgment.

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When they see how Allah will honor the sick, would wish that their skin or bodies were cut into small pieces in this life, because of the honor that they see being bestowed on the sick on the Day of Judgment.

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So this is the healthy now who wishes here to be sick?

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Anyway, you shouldn't

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you should never pray that Allah Oh Allah make me sick. Never. Ask for Sofia, Allah, humaneness Allah, Allah here for dunya Allah because that's easier and safer.

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Allah azza wa jal is saying that the healthy knowing all that they know when they see that the sick there are being elevated, rewarded, blessed in the era for their ordeals in this life. They say we wish we were like them, and even worse than them. So it tells you here that the suffering of this life turns out to be for a heart that is close to Allah azza wa jal, believing in His wisdom, and His mercy in his Lahemaa, to be a blessing.

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So a person then needs to what realize this and revive their heart. So the heart can receive all of this with contentment, or at least with patience.

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So there is this loss of this life, and it's going to be experienced.

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Also, there are expectations about happiness.

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If you expect in this life, that you're going to get everything you want, you're going to be miserable.

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If you're going to expect that this life is going to make you absolutely and fully happy, you're going to be miserable.

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But if you understand this life well, and that it has its ups and it has its downs, and the app is good, and the down is good. And both of them ultimately are small and insignificant compared to the hereafter.

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If you make your pursuits, and your happiness, not this Dounia

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because there are people, us included, whose happiness is this world and only this world.

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And again, I'm not telling you not to be happy for good things that Allah gives you in this world.

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I'm not telling you not to. But if your happiness is only this world, I have one minute

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okay? So if this happiness is only this world, and your sadness is only this role and not the hereafter, you're gonna be miserable most of the time.

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But if your happiness is the hereafter, you will be happy most of the time.

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You see the difference?

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So Rasulullah sallallahu sallam said in the hadith is Abu denari ties

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Got the Devil Hunter Eisah So when he says misery to the slave of dinar to the slave of dyrham to the slave of gold and silver in North Yemen Hara Dewayne let me Amina Sahil, how had they become slaves of gold and silver? If they have are given of this world they are happy if not they are sad.

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So the barometer of their happiness is what the index is this world

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and also in another Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says the one whose main concern is this world.

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Jan Allahu Sakuraba is a Allah who would put poverty between his or her eyes. That is you wake up in the morning, and you spend your night. The only thing that you're worried about is this world.

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How much money am I making?

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How many grades? Or how many A's did I get not telling you not to Excel by the way, Excel but don't make that your primary concern. Because I want to compete. I want to be better than him. I want a better job. I want more money that's that's your only concern Excel for Allah. Be better for Allah azza wa jal that stays. But if you're excelling for this dunya the Prophet sallallahu sallam said that that person whose intent is only the dunya his pursuit is only the dunya Allah will make poverty settle between his eyes. What does that mean?

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That is if I look left or right, what do I see? Poverty. But ya see, brother Sister, you're a millionaire.

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What do I see? Poverty.

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You see, that's the irony of it. He cannot enjoy what you have. Even when your house is big. Because when your house is big, what do you do when your intention is the dunya when your house is big? What do you do?

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Spend it ya want a bigger house?

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Because that's your focus. So you move to another brackets as long as you are you know poor as you are right now, I don't know if you're poor or not, I'm assuming students right? So as long as you are dysphoria as you are right now, you compare yourself to what

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other students people who are around you. When you get a job you compare yourself to what

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those are there. When you're a millionaire, you compare yourself to millionaires, so there's always poverty and dissatisfaction. But when the accurate is your intention, Allah Azza to the province obvious enemy says your your richness will be here

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so that wherever you look it doesn't matter what you have or what you do not have but wherever you look, what do you see you rich

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even if what you have is a little what Allah had made you happy with it. So you're actually rich. See, you are living like a millionaire even though you do not have that money. So you're not cool. So what's the difference? Is the intention what's the difference? It's your heart

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to people could exactly be look alike, same money, same education, married children same everything. One happy and one unhappy why

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has to do the one thing

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the horrible. So last thing I'll save Charlotte before the break Desolator sort of lies a lot you sent me said there's a piece of meat or a piece of your body that if it is good, the rest of the body is good. And if it is bad, the rest of the body is bad. That is the heart

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so it all goes back to the center. You can exercise you can eat well you can marry well you can have children you can to have a good job, you can have all of this but if the center is missing, the rest is what flood

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and if the center is hold, even if you're missing things on the side, if the center is home, then the rest is home.

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So take inshallah five minutes break we'll come back with

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this one.

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what I want to inshallah in the second part is focus on is what they would call the disease of the age or the plague of the age which is depression,

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which is linked heavily linked to the state of our heart.

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there's probably Allahu Allah, more of it today than it was in the past.

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And the reason why it's more prevalent today will Allahu Adam,

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is because of how our societies have developed and how we have built them.

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two things that I've noted and there could be more reasons. But first of all, and this, of course, it starts in the West. And that's why it's more prevalent in the West, my depression is more prevalent in the West. But it doesn't stop there because we've adopted

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their ways of developments of even thinking. So two things, and there could be more reasons for that. One is the adoption of the secular. And the second thing is that the urbanization that has fragmented the family and shrunk the family.

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So the secular removes Allah azza wa jal removes the creature from the public sphere from the public realm.

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So you don't hear about religion, religion is not influential.

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It doesn't guide it doesn't

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So because of this, the absence of the creator, the absence of Allah azza wa jal leaves a vacuum. And of course, when there is a vacuum, a person or the human soul languages, it is it needs Allah all the all the time it needs Allah in the event, it needs Allah in the Quran, it needs Allah in the way that the city is built, it needs Allah azza wa jal in every single way, you take the Creator out and there is emptiness.

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So there is one reason that's one reason. The other reason is that urbanization has fragmented the family and shrunk it before you had an extended family.

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You had not only your spouse, and your children, but you had your cousins, and you had your nephews and you have your grandparents. So you always had people to talk to, right.

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You always had people to converse with to complain to, even to quarrel with, but even they even still, it's a human touch. It's a conversation that has taken place. But we have drifted away from that. So our main interaction right now is through this. And that's not real, even though they claim a new claim that you are friends, but this is not real friendship.

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So fragmentation and loss of the human touch had less than what had led to more depression.

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Now, wallow LMD, the younger, more vulnerable to it, the younger, more vulnerable to it. Again, probably for a couple of reasons. One, because of the transitions that you experience. So the more that you are experiencing transitions, the more that actually depression would affect you, because there is

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instability and uncertainty. You don't know.

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If there's constancy in your life, you're okay. That is, as long as you're studying. And you got 3456 years to go, you're what?

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Okay, because there's still a long road ahead. But what happens when you're about to graduate? What do you experience?

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Anxiety, ha, experience anxiety. I'm going to leave my comfort zone right now. I'm gonna go out, will I find this? Will I be able to get this will I be able to get that when you start something new, there's anxiety with that as well. So whenever you are moving, transitioning from one thing to the other, there is anxiety with this. And of course, especially as you start your life, you have hopes you have dreams, you have plans, I'm going to be able to achieve this be here be this, do this do that. When you fail, sometimes we fail another sometimes a lot of times we fail all of us, right? No exception. When we fail to achieve this, what do you feel

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sad sadness. And if it's for long sadness, that's what they call depression. If it's a prolonged sadness that you can overcome, that's what they call depression. So there's more of it today, in the way that this modern world is developing, there's more of it.

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So some people say or think that we'll there is no such thing as depression.

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And especially, you know, sometimes parents talking to their children, spouse is talking to each other and they feel or they see the other person

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becoming more and more inactive, more and more inert more and more responsive. And they think that they're making it up

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or somehow they can just snap out of it. Come on, you can just stand up you can go to work, you can just feel better. Alright, so they feel that feel if that's the case. But the problem with that thinking is that what you are experiencing what you're you know what your reality is it not

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The reality of the other person, the pain or how you process pain is not the how the other person processes being. So depression has a reality to it. There is such a thing called anxiety. Now, what is the remedy to it?

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First of all, it's not to blame the victim. It's not the other person is suffering from all of this, to hear that they are at fault. And they should just simply overcome. And it's easy to overcome, and they're making it worse. That's not the case. That's not the reality. So first of all, to recognize that there is real pain behind it. If you know someone who's suffering, or you yourself are going through this, it's sweet.

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Now, how do you overcome that? There are ways in sha Allah to overcome this. But also, we need to stop stigmatizing all of this by saying, it is your fault that you got into this because your iman is weak.

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And if you were a better Muslim, you would not be depressed.

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On the one hand, yes, Islam does help you overcome it and combat that. But it does not mean that you're a bad Muslim. And that's why you became depressed. Depression is simply sadness or anxiety

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or loss of hope that has attacked you in a moment of weakness and all of us experience these moments of weakness. Am I right or wrong? Otherwise, why do you sin?

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So all of us experience these moments of weakness. And so it came to attack you at that time when you are weak, and you're trying to push back but you can't, you can't.

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So you need assistance. So Islam does allow you when you come closer to Allah azza wa jal to combat depression

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and to combat anxiety. How does it allow you to do this? By when you take the Quran, take Islam as a whole into your life and you understand it and recommit yourself to it. And when you worship Allah azza wa jal with dedication, consciousness and devotion, it will make you feel better

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because in it are certain facts that will help you

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for First of all, and this is the first not at length discussion of depression how to fix it, then talk more about it if there are questions, but inshallah some peace. Depression is about loss of hope.

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And if you believe in Allah azza wa jal could you ever lose hope?

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Never. So if it is something that you want of this life, and it's not happening,

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could you ever believe that Allah azza wa jal will never ever grant you something good in your life just simply because this thing is not happening?

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If you go and you read the Quran and the Sunnah, and you read the stories of the prophets of Allah and those who follow them, who have been patient and patients and patient until Allah gave them exactly what they wanted, not even that a lot more than that, what they asked for, that fills you with hope, again.

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That yes, at this moment in this hour, I may not have what I want, and it's painful. But that does not mean that the next hour the next day or the next year is going to look like this.

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If you had lost confidence in yourself

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and you're looking down on your own abilities, or lot in life, or you think I'm not worth it, I'm not this I'm not that.

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Yet you read the Quran.

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And you know that Allah azza wa jal Welaka Ramana Vania then we have honoured the child of Adam, and you read that Allah azza wa jal there in the Quran talking about the children of Adam by anyone with whom you are included. And Allah is a numerating the blessings that He had given you, and you look at yourself and sometimes I'm telling you, you need somebody else's to tell itself somebody else to tell you that somebody to assist you. But somebody comes and Allah says that is Allah azza wa jal or hasn't ALLAH given you talents and skills and abilities,

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the ability not only to see and hear, but also the ability to be creative. And also particular skills that you have.

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You can memorize. You can solve problems, you are good with people, you are kind, you are patient. You have good qualities in you, no matter how terrible you think you are.

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If you're able to see this again, and this

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Second is part of hope. If you're able to see this again, will you ever lose hope in yourself or ever look down on the skills and the near misses that Allah had given you. In fact, you will thank Allah for them.

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Have confidence in him.

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Make dua, that Allah who will change your reality and believe that Allah at this moment is listening to you.

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There is a difference between Allah granting you

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what you asked for, and Allah listening to you.

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Isn't that

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that isn't I can say Allah Azza Did ya Allah, I want a new car now.

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Most of the time, are you gonna get it?

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Maybe maybe, out of nowhere, somebody comes and says, there's a new car, I don't need it to take it.

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But it's not going to happen.

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But if you are making that dua is Allah listening.

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There's a difference between Allah giving you what you want, exactly when you want it. And Allah listening. So when you sit when you make dua, believe that Allah is listening. And the only thing that you need is for Allah to listen.

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And if Allah is listening has listened to it, rest assured that the best is coming.

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It's like you know, somebody handing you a note.

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I am telling you, you say go to the treasure over there who has millions of dollars and ask them for whatever you want.

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You may be anxious along the way will I lose this note? Will I lose this or like that? But once it is in his hands, what do you say? That's it?

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Comes now it comes tomorrow it comes a week from now I know it's coming. Right? So when you will have the net amount of making do

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that since you've deposited that will Allah so that's it.

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Keep making it. But don't worry.

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That's why the closer you are to Allah azza wa jal, the easier it will be for you to come out of depression. Because you're not going to be worried anymore.

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Worried about what?

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Tomorrow my job my this my that. And by the way, this is all in the hands of who

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hands of Allah.

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And so you're worried about what

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you're worried about Allah.

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So don't worry,

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actually be happy.

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Just be happy. Because it's in the hands of Allah Allah has made you a guarantee

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with owning what I studied, make dua answer, it made you a guarantee.

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deposit this check, I'll give you money. Make dua I'll answer you may

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be happy.

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So they don't need to worry about what's going to come tomorrow. So already written, work hard study as you need to. Once you do that,

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sleep, sound asleep because Allah azza wa jal is going to take care of it.

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And about the past, should you be sad.

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I know that we're sad, and depression, you know, you know, as a consequence of this compounded sadness,

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that you just can't can't leave.

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But then when you find yourself becoming sad, or even sadder and sadder, stop yourself. Say there is no room for sadness with Allah azza wa jal. There is no

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because if you think about it, Islam is the opposite of sadness whenever you want to feel sad. Islam comes and says, Oh, stop, stop, stop, don't feel sad.

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That doesn't. As I said, you know, in a previous lecture, I said,

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when you when you trace that word, husband has an A in the Quran, it find it always when it comes to it, it's indicated in the Quran. Don't be sad, don't be sad, don't be sad.

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Allah is telling you don't be sad, as long as you are with Allah zoldan You should not be sad.

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Because if you lost something, you lost lost a loved one. Say those you lost a loved one. Have you lost them forever?

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Will you see them again?

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And will you see them again? Will that will that you reunion be better than whatever you had in this life?

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So you have not really lost them?

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Have we realized if Allah Azza didn't take something away from you, you

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you're applying for a job, you really want it you really want it. Yet Allah does not allow you to take it takes it away from you. Is that good or bad for you?

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I'm not gonna deny you're gonna feel sad.

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You say I really wanted it. And I'm sad. And I'm you know, disappointed.

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But if you think about the fact that Allah azza wa jal, as we said in the beginning, takes something away to give you something better, you'd say something better is waiting for me.

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And maybe if I've gotten that job, it would not have been good for me, would have tempted me taking me away from Allah azza wa jal would have been a burden on me would have been stressful would, would, would, would would. So Allah in fact, saved me. And he is preparing the best for me. So don't expect or wait for the worst, or interpreted in the worst ways interpreted always in the best ways.

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Allah made me late. Because it's better. Don't be late on purpose. But if you're late, despite your effort, it say there is higher in it.

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There is a tale in it. Every second is calculated with Allah azza wa jal, there's hail in it, you get a rage, or you don't get it, you get praised or you don't. someone hurts you or insults you and we you know,

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whatever happens with the sadness that is natural with the disappointment that comes with it.

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Don't let it proceed, sadness, but then say, but there is a reason there is benefit, there is gain. And when you have that, then you also your sadness, in the law will evaporate. And whatever it wants to come and visit you. You say, I'm not going to allow you to revisit me, Allah has destined this and it had to happen. And he destined this, for the best of reasons, it's best for me, and Allah knows what is best for me.

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So you will have plans and you will be successful at times and you will be sad at times. But in order to be able to combat depression in general, anxiety, or any disappointment in life, try to be closer to Allah azza wa jal closer to Allah, where you are reading the Quran. And by the way, understanding what Allah is saying, not just simply reading, sometimes we read but we don't understand what we are reading, or we read or we don't pay attention to the eyes. No, those eyes are not going to help you until you understand what Allah is saying to you in this day.

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So there is a lesson in them. So be close to Allah, by praying on time.

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And then whenever you want, one of the things that we forget all the time is to make

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when you're sad, don't live with your sadness when you're disappointed. Don't live with that disappointment when you are afraid. Don't live with that fear. When you are just agitated, don't live with it. When you're clueless, don't live with it. Put it in your drawer.

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Give it to Allah immediately. Put it in your sedan, put it in your sigil

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give it to Allah soldier because Allah did not design you to live with all of that. You're not supposed to

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what a Nana Wanda kya, lyrical Sadhguru Kobe Maya Kulu. And he says to His prophets of Allah how to use them we know that your heart becomes tight because of what they are saying. Who is he speaking to? So the why size

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and the profit here's what they're saying about him about Islam about Allah what happens to his heart

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gets perturbed.

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Well, we know we know what is inside your heart. Just this idea if you are reading the Quran, just this if you think about it, he says Allah is telling His Prophet we know

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that is the thing. Same thing that Allah tells you. I know.

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You with me.

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Before you tell him does he know I know what's inside.

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I know what's happening inside. I know what how it's moving. I know you're sad inside I know why. But I know.

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That is just by itself. If you take it, you'll feel better. He knows

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for certain baby hamdulillah pika welcome Mina surgery. So he tells us Prophet salallahu Salam setas V, with hand of Allah azza wa jal meaning Subhan Allah he will

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be handy. This is the vicar of Allah and may be among those who prostrate.

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So to exit this agony time's up, okay. Shall I was just finished the I Am.

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So to exit this agony What is he tell him not take medicine,

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right? Medicine is not the solution. What does he tell him? Make? The only by the way the only time where I would advise a person to take medicine for depression is if they are suicidal, right? If they're gonna like just That's it, they're gonna kill themselves. Okay, go ahead. Is that's the lesser of the two evils. But don't rush to take medicine. If you can. Pray, pray and prostrate to Allah Azza

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wa Boudhanath Buckeye and continue to worship Allah azza wa jal repeatedly until

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that is the medicine.

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And also the last thing in Sharla that I'll say I said, be close to Allah azza wa jal also have good company, good friends and talk to people. Sometimes when you're alone, or when you when you're with your phone, you difference, but exit leave all of that and talk to people exercise, volunteer, help others exercise I said exercise right so double exercise. Okay, do all of that you'll feel better inshallah and make sure you talk to someone, please make sure you talk to someone. It's not a stigma. It's not bad. I'm feeling down. Um, you so there's like, I feel like there's a mountain on my shoulders. Just talk to someone, someone knows the type of pain that you may experiencing,

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they'll be happy in Charlotte just to talk to you at least to make you feel better.

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The question our session, we have received several questions, but our best to work for you.

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The first question is, I always think about repentance, thought about intention. And yes, I regret

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it sad and how often they get back to talk about habits and therefore feel even more guilty.

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So, I'm not going to repeat the question because you heard it right. So first of all, it is the mark of a believer. What you've said, is the mark of the believer. The Mark of the believer is for him and her to feel guilty. Our problem is when we start feeling guilty.

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We start being ashamed of that sin. As long as you are guilty, and you regret what you have done. Then you're on the path to Allah azza wa jal.

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Now, yes, I knew are weak. And we're going to continue to make these mistakes. So the first thing the first thing the first thing is whenever you make such a mistake, you need to do what? Always repent and ask Allah for forgiveness, it does not matter if it's once twice or a million times, it does not matter. You need to keep doing this. You need to keep doing this. You keep need to keep doing this and never give up.

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And the shaytaan is going to come and try to play with you and tell you what kind of Muslim are you with gonna believe or are you? Aren't you ashamed? And you're going to try to stop you from repenting asking Allah for forgiveness, and having you accepted the sin as part of your life? Never. Never.

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So as long as you're doing this hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen. Now the next step, the next step, is how can I avoid that sin? First of all, make dua I want you to skip big, start small. Make dua and ask Allah azza wa jal to give you strength, so that you can overcome it, to detach from your addiction to it because doing it repeatedly means that we are used to it are addicted to it, rely on it for some reason. So ask Allah Allah, Allah allow me to detach and keep continuously making this dua in every suit of yours after the Salah whenever you can. Keep making that dua.

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When you make a sin, don't simply just repent and ask for forgiveness, compensate by doing a good deed extra to pay for that bad thing that has been done. Donate money

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or find someone who needs help and you help them or pray to four or six like as but do something to balance the scale.

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Then, if you do this insha Allah and you have that intention, you begin to investigate the reasons for that sin. Is it a person who pulls me closer

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Do it. Is it a place that brings me closer to it? Is it a line of thinking? That brings me closer to it? What are the steps that lead me to it and you try to tackle it at the steps at the inception before it starts before it becomes a reality. You try to put as much distance as you can between you and that thing.

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And you keep trying and you keep trying and you keep trying. And if you are sincere, and if you ask Allah for assistance, sooner or later you'll be able to give it up

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sooner or later you'll be able to give it up by the will of Allah azza wa jal so it's sometimes it's going to take effort, but what I want to leave you with insha Allah is that as long as you are regretting that sin then there is hope for you and me

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the next question

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we will chat versus

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we should break through heartbreak, depression, sadness things are now

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okay, I can repeat. So the question is what verses or chapters of the Quran should we say or repeat when we're suffering from depression, anxiety and the source. First of all, there is no set versus a or sewer designated for depression or anxiety.

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Now there are some scholars have collected Ayat for the rupiah so a person wants to read I asked for the repair on themselves, just to calm themselves down or to calm others down and to feel better they can do this.

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But what I would say Allahu Allah and I wanted to say the Metcons sorrows, but even the Madani sutras have lessons in them

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and have also had that explained the reality of this life. So I cannot think of one particular Surah more than the other.

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But what I would say is simply pick up the Quran and read it

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and continue reading

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as our state of mind is not born out of a problem that is or belongs to only today or yesterday, but it had been there for a while treating also our treating ourselves emotionally and psychologically also takes some time.

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So start reading the Quran.

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And as you are reading whether it is a murky Surah or a Madani surah you will encounter one of those days an AI and that AI is going to specifically speak to the thing that you're going through.

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There's a guarantee I'm gonna make you a guaranteed tonight Inshallah, if you have a problem, I don't care what that problem is. Does not matter.

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And you read the Quran, what are those days when you are reading if you're aware, paying attention, you're going to meet an idea that is full talk to you.

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And you will say it that is talking to me. That is the answer I've been looking for. Guarantee

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but you need to go and look for it

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is not all problems are the same

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and not all anxieties are similar.

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So look for it in sha Allah and He will find it and couple that with a couple that will do that is the Allah azza wa jal allow me to see guide me Give me that wisdom and insight let me talk to someone or hear and if sometimes it's not even you go into reading the Quran sometimes it's you attending a study circle or MHADA lecture

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sometimes it's you're listening to something online

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and Allah azza wa jal Subhanallah just guides you through it why this particular thing being said is for you so guide you through it you'll be being navigated lead lead lead lead until you hear it

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so seek it you'll find

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is hard to deal with the beginning of our our good deeds are rare is not accepted. Specially we repeat on the west coast because of the bad things we do.

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Should I be the question Are you okay, so how do we deal with the feeling that our Evander our worship our Salah is not being accepted, especially because of our how bad we are or believe we are especially at a time

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When we need Allah the most. So how do we deal with that?

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You deal with this by understanding that Allah azza wa jal is the most generous.

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That Allah azza wa jal loves to accept your repentance. All of the Manitoba Allah is the One Who accepts repentance with the web or hate. The one who is asked Accepting of repentance not just accepts it. He asked, Accepting of repentance, that Allah azza wa jal loves repay or repentance so much, that his happiness with this is that grace greater than the greater have the greatest happiness that you can ever experience.

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And you think about the greatest happiness as a human being that you could ever experience. Allah's happiness with your repentance is greater than that.

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So there is no reason for you to believe that if you pray that Allah did not accept it.

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So Halal is that Subhan Allah Allah somehow turned it away or turned you away. That when you gave sadaqa Allah turned it away and it is now one that from you, you must understand that that is coming either from the shaytaan because the shaytaan wants you to despair of Allah's mercy. Because when you despair of Allah's Mercy give up on everything, there's no reason anymore to do any good in life, just that you gave up on it. So shaytani the wants you to despair of Allah's mercy, or it is you your own self who feels down. So it says whatever I do is not good enough.

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I'm bad, I'm terrible. I did this bad thing, that bad thing, whatever I do is not good enough. But that's the right or wrong type of thinking. is as soon as you turn back to Allah azza wa jal, what does Allah do with your sins,

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removes them,

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wipes it clean,

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and receives you back and welcomes you back and is happy to have you back. So you have to remind yourself of Allah's Great Mercy.

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Danny, what is the prophets of Allah Azza wa sallam says, it says if you know about heaven, what are you know, none of you will think that he's not or she's not going to enter it.

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So at a time of despair, you need to remind yourself of Allah Salama and strengthen your Raja, you're hoping Allah azza wa jal, you would like when somebody was on his deathbed, and he was afraid.

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And he was a good man to somebody came to him and he was Why are you afraid? He says it's death. I'm coming in make and I meet Allah azza wa jal. He says, aren't you a Muslim? Didn't you pray? Didn't you do this? Didn't you do this? He says yes, yes, yes, yes. He says then Dada, do not matter. Don't worry about it. You're coming to who? The most generous, not someone who wants to punish you on his waiting to punish you. Someone who had led you to Islam bless you because of it and is waiting for you to bless you even more. So at times when you are desperate, despairing of Allah's mercy, you have to remind yourself of it.

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And that it is greater than the greatest of things greater than his anger,

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greater than his punishment. So this is all on how you deal with it. Say oh, when I'm in a shaytaan regime pray and say Allah accepted this. Give us a card give sadaqa Allah accepted this Make dua Allah accepted this, especially with dua make dua This is what Allah Allah said, he listened to me right now. And he accepted it.

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accepted it in the sense of what accepted it that he took it, and it will give me the best because of it, what do I put up asked for or something better, but he had to listen.

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Next question is,

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how to overcome it getting envy and jealous?

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So how do we start comparing ourselves to others? And how do we stop feeling envious and jealous? Very hard.

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It's very hard.

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It's very hard not to compare yourself to others, especially if you're on social media. So if you are suffering from all of this, I would I would suggest first of all, less dose of social media, spend less time on it right? And only spent time there where it is beneficial not when you're comparing yourself to so and so traveled so and so got hired so and so God man

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You don't need all of this. Just focus on the beneficial in it says things that you can learn and then leave it. But how can you stop yourself from being jealous?

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It's difficult because you have ambitions, you have goals, and others have those as well. And this life is built on competition I want and they want and not everybody's gonna get what they want. So if they get what they want, it means that I'm not gonna get. So I'm going to feel bad because of it. So you have to lean on something outside of this world, which is Allah azza wa jal,

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the fact that Allah has destined everything for a reason.

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So if Allah does not give you something, but it gives it to them, it may actually mean it is good for them, but it would not be good for you. And no one wishes for harm for themselves, right?

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No one wishes harm for themselves. So if Allah did not give you such thing, as hard as it is, because you're attached to it, say,

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it probably is not good for me because if it was good for me, Allah would give it

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the fact that Allah did not give it means what

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is good or bad? It's bad.

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So then I don't want it.

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So believing in Allah is destiny, that Allah azza wa jal is the one who grants and He grants for a reason. And He grants it also to those who need it at that particular time. So when you don't have it, it means that Allah azza wa jal had saved you from it. And if Allah had saved you from it, as we said, then you don't want anything that will harm. Also, the way that inshallah to combat jealousy and envy is to how to put this

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not limit your expectations so you can expect

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the best from Allah zodion but limit your venture into this role.

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And what you look at that the medina let them deny Kayla McDonald, here's what I mean home do not extend your gaze to what we had others enjoy of the beauty of this life. This is Allah azza wa jal speaking to His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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That is, if Allah had given you enough of this life,

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the more that you look beyond it, the more that you will envy others for what they have.

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So is telling His prophets a lot Absalom restrain your gaze when it comes to this dunya

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if you restrain it, they're not going to be envious of what this person has, and that person has compared to what you have.

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Because your focus is on the most important in life, and you're looking at it

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whether it is something pertaining to Allah Zoda or pertaining to this role, but it is more important than look at their house, and then compare it to my house, then you will be envious of them. But if you don't look,

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or you don't, you know, stare and focus, then you're not going to be envious of theirs,

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or their job or their car or this or that.

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Also, the thing also that will help you not to be so envious is that rather than invest or thinking that I should invest my energy, my focus into things of this life, say I want to invest in things that fully lost in the hereafter.

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So if somebody can piece that's there's a saying here if manifesta Caffee dunya fanatics who will ask him if somebody competes with you in the dunya compete with them in the hill.

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So I can have an OK car

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or I can have a very expensive car.

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But if I have that okay car, I can take that extra money and do what with it.

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invested in the era and whatever we invested in the hereafter. If you invest it in the Hereafter, at least you will know I spent it over there and it's waiting for me so your attention is taken away from here to there. So you no longer in competition with people of the dunya your competition is with over there. So you're not going to envy them for their dunya

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and the more that you work on yourself on your on your heart in that way, the less and less it will be susceptible to envy and jealous.

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It will never be you'll never rid yourself of it completely 100% Your human being.

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From time to time you'll be envious a little bit. You'll be jealous a little bit, but you can treat it if you're aware conscious and your heart is strong and you

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Consider your heart back to the accurate if you can.

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So make your competition the earth here, another dunya spent there rather than here. And know that if Allah did not give you something, he did not give it for a reason. So don't look at what other people have. Look at what you have, thank Allah for it. And Allah will continue to bless it for you. If you're envious of what people have, you're only tormenting yourself, and you will be increasingly dissatisfied with what you have. Rather, look at what you have. And thank Allah for it. And Allah will actually make you happier, and then bless it because of

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this test? So the question is, Can I read the Genesis?

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Or do I have the ability to see? Is it okay for me to suggest to abandon even if those things are appropriate to use?

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So next question, can I see that?

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The two similar questions

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to her what to abandon a Okay. Okay. Next one.

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Questions my grandmother,

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she doesn't

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Now I'm so this is, you know, this is what we're talking about of depression being a is a serious illness is that people do attempt suicide as a result as a result of their frustration or unhappiness.

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And so if somebody is thinking about it, or actually attempted it,

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intervention is necessary, right intervention is necessary, somebody needs to know about it.

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And whether it is you know, if nobody knows about it, what it's the parents or a therapist, or someone who will be able to come in and offer insight and offer help, so that this thing does not happen so that this person can feel better, so that they don't believe that the only thing that they can do, the only way that they can feel better is if they can themselves.

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You need to intervene. First of all, the way that to intervene is to listen and not be judgmental.

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You need to listen, there's no stigma to it, right? So remove any stigma that comes with suicide or attempting suicide or whatever. You're trying to help somebody. So listen, and try to understand what lies behind that suffering. Why is it that they want to take their life? Why is it that they're suffering? Why is it that they're sad? Why is it that they're depressed? Why is it that they're afraid, let them talk and try to understand the problem in detail. And when you understand the problem in detail, you will be able to come back and shallow whether it is you or somebody else, because sometimes it is too much for you to handle on your own. You don't have the skill, you don't

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even sometimes you have the skill, but you don't have the time. Or sometimes it's just it's such a burden on you psychologically, that you cannot do it on your own. You need somebody to help you see, you need to bring in other people for help. But try to understand, what is it that that is going on in their head, and to rewrite the narrative in their head? It's like pre programming. So a person doesn't love themselves? Why is it that they don't love themselves? What is it that they have done or others have done to them, that makes them think this way? And you have to re introduce to them the fact that no in fact, Allah as their will right now has blessed you with so much. And the fact

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that you're alive at this moment. By the way, this goes for all of you. The fact that you are alive at this moment is that Allah loves for you to be alive at this moment, isn't it?

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Or am I wrong?

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Because if Allah would hate for you to be alive at this moment, what would happen?

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He'd be dead. So Allah loves the fact that you're alive at this moment and he wants you to continue to be alive at this moment.

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So Allah is on your side is not against you.

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So if Allah wants you to be alive, that means that Allah azza wa jal loves you that

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look at all the good things that live given you. And this is the thing that you tell them and you tell yourself if you're feeling this, look at all the things that Allah has given you. Count the numbers of Allah on you.

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Would Allah azza wa jal go through all of these numbers, especially the name of Islam, the demo of religion to someone whom he hates?

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So it's all in your head that all of that you hate yourself or Allah hates you, it's all in your head.

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And if Allah loves you

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by the way, I'm not making this up. If a person is a Muslim,

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this has they say La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Allah

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Sula, they have Iman, Allah loves them in proportion to the Eman that they have.

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This is basic outdated. So if Allah loves you, who are you to hate yourself?

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If Allah the Creator, loves you, who gives you the right to hate yourself, you should love yourself because Allah who loves you,

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you have someone on your side, if Allah is on your side, then that's enough.

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But then you need to go into the incidence of the past or the feelings of the present that makes them feel so down and depressed and dissected. Sometimes we blame ourselves for things that are not our fault that were done to us failures that we attribute to our own selves, you are a failure, no, a failure in life is simply a failure in life. That does not mean that you are a failure.

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That if I fail, am I a failure? Because I failed once.

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Now, how many successful people like incredibly, insanely successful people in this role that in the beginning of their pursuits, they've been rejected repeatedly, over and over and they fail repeatedly? And they tell you, it is because we failed, that we succeeded. We learned something.

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So don't give up on yourself. So yeah, do you need to intervene? Yes, you need to intervene, and you need to be serious about it. But listen, don't preach. In the beginning. Listen, they need to understand what that don't say you depress pray.

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Sometimes you don't know how to pray, you need to actually tell them how to pray, read the Quran, to read the Quran, how you need to tell me how to read the Quran. Sometimes you need to bring me the ayah that I need. Find it and bring it to me see, see what Allah says. Because on my own, I don't have the energy to go and look for it, but you bring it to me. Sometimes you need to go and bring me the stories of the prophets, or early Muslims are telling me this is what happened to them. It looks like what happened to you. And then when I see this, I'll start moving. I'll start believing again.

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So that you need to intervene Insha Allah, and you need to pray to Allah azza wa jal to give you the insight to know how to help them

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it wasn't

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what I

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was, I was terrible at reading, especially when I

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was a proposal would be unfair.

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So the question is about OCD, obsessive compulsive disorder, and what Susa. And this is what Sosa called OCD. There's something that scholars have felt knew about long time ago. There's nothing new about someone who does although and every time they do, we'll do they feel that they haven't done there we go. So they go do it again and do it again and do it again and do it again. or would there Tahara they have this was suicide, this this compulsion. Now I'm not clean. I'm not clean. I'm not clean. or would there salah? No, I haven't said Allahu Akbar. Right. I didn't say Al Fatiha. Right. So they keep going on and on and on doing all of this. So again, it's a reality. There's a scholars

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talked about a long, long time ago, and they advise the person not to give into it not to give into that versa. There is the Hara is not that complicated. Your odo is not that complicated. And Allah has Zoda does not demand perfection. And perfection is impossible. demand that you just do your best and that is it.

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And your salah or your pronounciation it is not demand perfection. You do your best and the rest of Allah azza wa jal forgives. So how you deal with it. First of all,

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seek Allah's protection from the shaytaan in case there is one source or from the shapefile So seek Allah's protection. Oh bIllahi min ash shaytani R Rajim repeatedly. That's one. Okay. Second dura, if you are afflicted with something like that, make dua to Allah azza wa jal repeatedly that Allah takes this away. This is just like an illness like any other illness. So make constant dua that Allah will take it away. The third thing, no that is of Islam.

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And all of these matters. And if you consider that the prophets of Allah Islam would make will do in something similar to this

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tells you that you don't need a lot of water to make, right. You don't need the faucet to be running for you to me, you don't need need to be under the shower for you to make although just a little bit just