The Ultimate Detox Purifying Our Hearts

Ali Albarghouthi


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Smilla Heywood, hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah he was early he was happy he was selling Allah Allahumma alumna Am I in fact oh now and find me my LinkedIn I was in their Iman herbal Alameen begin by praising Allah as though to the Almighty they all hide all merciful to all forgiving the one who knows what we do and no one else knows it. The one who blesses that blesses us, whether we are obedient or disobedient, believe in him or not, he continues to bless every single one of his creations. Subhana wa Tada. So we thank him for the opportunity to worship Him to be close to him to know Him and to love Him Subhanallah with the Isla, and we send Salam Salam upon

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His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa aalihi wa salam, the best of humanity, the one who was sent as mercy to all to humans and animals and to the Earth itself. And we ask Allah, but Allah mean to reward him as the best that he would reward a messenger on behalf of his ummah, for what he had taught and for his sacrifices, we ask Allah azza wa jal to allow us to be His followers in his woman, this life and his companions in the next life, and his neighbors in Jannah. So that we get to see him and talk to him. And we get to tell him about the things that have happened to us our struggles, and he get to tell us to panels, China with sallallahu alayhi wa sallam about what he

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went through. So that is a beautiful, you know, image and something to look forward to.

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Thank Allah azza wa jal, and then I think everybody who's involved in this convention, preparing for it, making it possible. And I like to thank rather face Allah, Allah bless him for this beautiful introduction. And I'm like in Sharla, to borrow what he had said, as a introduction into this lecture.

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So he was talking about how

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we take care of our bodies. That is very true.

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And I want you in sha Allah to think with me, what is it that keeps our bodies healthy? That is, if a health is a concern of ours. And I think it's a concern of other human being, that I want to be healthy. It may not be the primary, the major concern that we have, but it's definitely a concern. No one wants to be sick. So if you ask yourself, what is it that usually we do, or we recommend that we do to be and to stay healthy? When we say that you should eat well, avoid bad food, but eat well, that will make you healthy. And also we add to it you need to exercise. So the more that you exercise, the more active you are, the healthier you are. So if you do this, and if you do that,

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you'll typically Insha Allah, I'm gonna stay away from bad food. Typically in sha Allah, you will be healthy. And if you get sick, and all of us get sick, I mean, there's just no escaping that physically. So if you get sick, what are you supposed to do to come back to your health, we'll say you need to take medicine. So if you take medicine, and you stay away from certain foods, and maybe eat some additional foods like herbs or supplements or vitamins or what have you, that will retrieve right will bring your health back. And then you can insha Allah resume your healthy lifestyle.

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And then think about it also in terms of how much we do for our body for it to maintain. Its beauty, it's glow.

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We go and we buy creams and moisturizers and we put them on our faces on our hands.

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We buy shoes to protect our feet right when we're cold, we pay something warm. When we are hot, we buy something breathable. We shower and then we make sure that when we showering the shampoo, the conditioner, the body wash and it's not making our bodies dry. So we really take care of our bodies. And if you think about if you sit and calculate how much money we spend on our bodies, you think that that's really most of what we spend on just to make sure that we're always comfortable. There is AC there is heat, there is not enough sun

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And there's more sun. So we're really taking care of our bodies. And yeah, that makes sense. Because that's how we stay comfortable. And that's how we stay healthy. Now you think about it.

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We're not only bodies, right, there's body, and there's so all of us. So no matter how much you take care of your body,

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if that's the only thing that you're doing, at the end of the day, when you sit back and just think, you feel that there's something missing, if you're just simply feeding your body, you're just eating and drinking, and sleeping and buying, but not doing anything about your soul, you feel that there is some emptiness, something that is missing,

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something that is nagging you, is this it?

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And that is maybe the answer to the question of, why is it that people who have everything in life, still find that unsatisfactory?

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And subhanAllah, think about it. Maybe you're at a you're at an age right now, not assuming you're any particular age, but um, maybe in an age when you're studying, and you're hoping in sha Allah to graduate, and once you graduated, maybe you have a plan for yourself, I'm going to graduate, I'm gonna get a job, then, you know, insha, Allah, you know, be paid this much get married, buy this house, this car move here, have these children. So you're planning your life in terms of how can I satisfy these needs, and that's typical, and that's usual, how can I satisfy these needs, and you're going to tie your happiness to these things. That is if I graduate, and then based on your

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assumptions, I need to graduate the top of my class, I need to graduate with that GPA, I need to graduate with this scholarship. So I can do this and do that. So if you do that, I think that is going to make me happy. And then I must be employed in this company, because they pay me this much. Or in general, I want to be be paid this much. This is how it's going to make me happy because I may afford a, b, c and d, right? then moves on to a total plan in life. If I have children, I have to be here, having earned this much and all of that. So we tie our happiness to this meaning, material happiness to having money to happen, wealth and possessions. Again, understandable, right? But if

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you think about those who have been born into wealth, meaning that person didn't really have to worry about, I need to earn money. I need to study in order to be rich, I already have money. And it's not just a little bit of money, I have a ton of money, and I have everything that I want, when I want it. This person right when you if you go and examine their life, and you ask them and you inquire and you dig deep, you'll find that there is this sense of dissatisfaction in their life, because they have everything already, there is no struggle in life anymore. But it's not only that, it's not about struggle. It's about that there is an element that is missing, which is okay, I've

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satisfied my body here. Okay, fine. I'm sitting here, I have all the food I want. I have all the entertainment I want. But still I feel empty. What is the missing part?

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Right. And this is not fiction that I'm talking to you about this is reality. So you see, as people get richer and richer and richer countries, what happens? Even Muslim countries when they become when we become richer, what happens? The sense of happiness decreases? Yeah, that's a sense of belief in God, by the way decreases, and the sense of happiness decreases. How come you have a lot of money, you have health care, you have entertainment, you can travel, you can buy the best things in life. How is it that you're not as happy? You're more anxious, you're depressed? You're antidepressants? Why are you on antidepressants? Why shouldn't the poor be on antidepressant? You're

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on antidepressant? Why is that? And I'm not blaming the person who feels trapped. Because under those circumstances, none at all. Because what has happened is, the more that you satisfied the body, the more that the body consumes you matter consumes you, and you forget about the other side of you. And the other side is the soul.

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And when you forget about the soul, you feel empty.

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And so if we are made of body and soul, I hope you agree with me right? When made body and soul and we're spending so much time on the body

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and not Allah really on the soul.

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Then there's a great imbalance in our life.

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And that imbalance is what is causing a lot of our anxiety, a lot of our depressions, a lot of our agitation that I don't feel okay on the inside. I'm hamdulillah I'm studying I'm earning well, I'm doing but I don't feel right on the inside. And so you see that a lot

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as Odin told his prophets on Allahu Allah, you are similar. In the Hadith in Allah Hernando de la so what he called it Sam eco, Allah does not look at your faces on your bodies. When that can young Morrow, either Kuru become but he looks at your hearts

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Subhanallah This is 180 degrees different than what humanity does. When I look at you, and you look at me, not only because I cannot see your heart, but I really am not interested into in your heart. When I'm looking at you, and you're looking at me, I'm looking at how beautiful are you know? How rich? How successful? How fat? How thin? How tall? How well dressed Are you are, if you're carrying about what bag? What brand is the bag, what brand? Are you shoes, what so I'm looking at your, your face and your body. That's what I'm looking at. And that's a lot of people's have had a lot they base their relationships and estimate of a person. He is a success. She's a failure. He's good.

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She's bad based on these criteria. Allah so just tells us prophets, Allah, Allah Azza wa salam and tells us he doesn't look at these things. It does not matter. You're beautiful or not, you're fat or you're thin, you're tall, or you're sure you're dressed well or not. Right? It doesn't matter if you're a good speaker or not. Subhanallah all these things that we worry about. All these things that we lose sleep over, what will people think about me, if I say this, if I make that mistake, if I don't get hired, if I don't graduate? If I propose and they reject me, if

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I didn't have enough money? What would my family say about me, if I if my success in my failure, and Allah says none of these things matter to him?

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You know, what Subhanallah What is something that is beautiful about Islam is if you really understand it, you'll just be

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Because then anxiety, if you know that, in the eyes of Allah Azza did, none of these things actually matter, which means that they in reality do not matter, you'll see who Hamdulillah I was worried for nothing, for nothing. So I am not a better or worse person based on my grades, I want you to get good grades. But I'm not better or worse, because of my grades or my job, or how well or bad my kids are doing. Or my promotion, or what people think of me. It's not SubhanAllah. And even if all of humanity

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were to think that I am something and Allah thinks otherwise, none of what they think matters.

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Subhanallah that frees you and me from people.

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Because as long as you're living based on expectations of people, you're a prisoner of so and so and so and so. Oh, I must make him like me. So I'll behave this way. And I'll say that. But if it's, it doesn't matter. Whether he likes me or she likes me. What matters is if he likes, because if he likes me, and that's it, then they can like me, Allah will make them like me. And if not, then better people than them will like me. I don't have to worry about them.

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To freeze you have people have anxiety, of expectations of peer pressure. Oh, you know, smoke this, do this. Listen to that, because it's good. And if I don't do this one live, what will they think of me? I better you know, just do it so that I can be cool like they are and if you only care about him, and he's not looking at what you're doing, but about what is here, you say no, thank you doesn't matter.

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So Allah looks at your heart.

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So as much effort as we put directed at our bodies, we need to really put an effort directed at our souls and hearts. Because this is what matters. This is what passes on to Allah azza wa jal

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when Ibrahim alayhi salam in the Quran, he makes this dua What are two Hasini Yama thornier, Allah do not disgrace me on the day when they will be resurrected.

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You will Mala and pheromone or whatever known on the day when money and children will be of no help. Ill except illa men at Allah have your column in Saline except for the one who comes to Allah with a pure heart

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Subhan Allah I cannot come to Allah azza wa jal see, you know.

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Again, I'm making an assumption your students but everybody can relate to this right? You're gonna go to an interview as

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An internship if you haven't graduated or as a job when you graduate, you're going to bring him you bring you what you bring with you. Where's your resume CV? Here it is recommendation letters here at this previous work experience here it is. What benefits you? This would benefits you Right?

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Right. Hello. In reality, if you think about it, before all of that it's Allah azza wa jal who will decide whether you're going to get this job or not. You need the physical means but on their own, they do not mean a thing unless ALLAH decides they mean a thing. Because that person could look at you and say, I just don't like you in their heart, you're not gonna get this job. Or I have somebody else who's lined up for this job, you're not gonna get it, it doesn't matter if you're the best. I already have my nephew's gonna get this job.

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It really Allah decides it by the way, just keep that in mind, right? You make dua to Allah helped me, it's not just your resume your great ask Allah for his help. So when you get when you're going for a job interview, these things will help you. Okay, I'm now thinking about it as a job interview. We're not going to meet Allah on the Day of Judgment. Ibrahim alayhis salam, the father of the prophets, he says nothing will help. You're going to come to Allah and see Allah You know what, I was a manager of a big company in life. So what Allah is not looking at this you know, I had a lot of children. So what

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I had a big house. Yeah, good. Good for you, though. What? You look at your house now It struggles. So what No, you can look around you can look around what is it that can give Allah oxygen, Human Eye In fact, there's nothing that's going to help eliminate Allah the only currency of sending a cure heart that you're going to give to Allah, pure of what healthy, healthy. Just like the body now healthy woman. What does it mean healthy. That is it had been taken care of. It was exercised, it was fed, it was protected from disease. And when it got an illness, you treated it.

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This is what it means. You spend money on it not money necessarily. I mean, you can spend money by buying books and lectures. Yeah, that helps the heart.

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But it's other things that help the heart. It's things that please Allah azza wa jal.

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And so

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the prophets of Allah, Allah, you it was in them said in the Hadith, the Lena being rich, is the richness of the heart. And being poor is the poverty of the heart, Allahu Akbar.

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See, we're afraid, right? We're afraid. And this is why the Sahaba and asked me not as we're the opposite of saying the Sahaba or the Allahu Anhu. We didn't shake so easily when bad things happen and would affect them, but wouldn't shake so easily. Right? Give you an example. Suppose for instance, that you've really been good at saving money.

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And you have 100,000 in the bank, or you're saying Oh Allah, I wish I have 100,000 Making during Ramadan, I wish I have 100,000 in the bank. Fine. Inshallah, if this is good for you, it's not a fit number. You have it. We all of us have it if it's not fitting for us. But suppose that you have 100,000 in the bank. And then someone family member comes in, he says, oh, you know what I lost? I was just playing with something and I broke something up you have, which costs 5000?

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You will say, Don't worry about it. 5000. That's nothing. Why? Because you have savings. 100,000 200,000 1000 5000 is nothing can replace it easily. That's nothing. Okay? So savings, because you've rich, materially rich, so you don't care about that loss. So how about all the Allahu unknown, right? Whether they were physically rich or not, they were spiritually rich. And something bad happens. They have the savings of the richness of the heart, the meaning, the you know, Allah, they love Allah, they were close to him. So when something bad happens in the dunya, yeah, it can make you sad, but it doesn't shake you because you know, it is small.

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And because it is small, you can overcome it. And because your eyesight is fixated on the hereafter, that's where I'm gonna go. So it doesn't matter if I lose this here.

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Right? Just like if somebody today because it comes comes and says, Oh, I mean, you lent me five cents. I lost them. You say, Come on, man. What's five cents, that doesn't matter. And if somebody comes and says, Oh, you know,

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you lost some money.

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And someone believes that Allah has the God say, no matter. Allah destined that I should lose it. Allah knows before. It's good that I lost it. I was going to lose it. So Allah already knows, and there's wisdom in it. And I'll thank Allah for it.

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Allah will compensate me for it by forgiveness of sin elevation of levels in gender we even Nila and I'll ask him Allah my last compensate me or hamara I mean, your Allah yeah al Wahab al Karim compensate me. Now this is what Allah azza wa jal forget about it

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see how we deal with loss? Why was that possible?

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Because the heart was healthy

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rich strong

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but just like what a body a body that is strong have been exercised healthy somebody comes in wants to push you or you push them back I've been exercising you strong you push him back but if the body is weak doesn't have energy so sick somebody comes to just taps you like that you'll fall right oh my god you pushed me up falling you know Why did you push me as I didn't do anything just barely touched you Yeah, but you can you're sick.

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The same thing right? If the heart is strong, something that happens it pushes it back. It says Not today. I'm strong and shall and that strong because it was created strong. Know how to screen it's strong. It is strong because of the strength that it got from Allah xuejun So pushes that away the shaytaan comes boom it will fight with him on the sheet one of the believer by the way

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and the prophets Allah it was in them says in the sheath honor in had the company on the Shavon Can you put your hand over your office somewhere he says one of you exhausts his shape on as one of you would exhaust his camel during travel you know that the camel if you take him on a long trip

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I know like a lot of people are afraid of the shale team

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and magic is like a big thing or magic this and magic that magic is real and Hamdulillah I mean we we affirm that magic is real

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but you exaggerate the shayateen and their power so much right so much Yanni

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agenne came you know we don't you know this hadith you know this hadith a gem came up with what Allah was guarding you know, some

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food and then one of the jinn comes in on he wanted to steal and I'm gonna gonna cut him like he caught him

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and then in the third time, right he wouldn't let go of him and so that that gap Ginny had and eventually he was saying hey, I'm a I'm a tough Ginny by the way because the formula was asking this is what like that Jin feel like it says you know the gin? No, I'm a tough I'm a tough one among them and one of their strongest. So he wouldn't let go of him until he had you know, to offer him something which is read AYATUL kursi before you sleep, Allah will protect you

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from us, then he let him go. So don't exaggerate be so terrified of the jinn. Read your ADKAR or read your Quran and you will have the strength insha Allah. So

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actually, I went on I digressed. Right and I forgot what I was saying.

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That's beautiful. I know I know that I was talking about the show I have a shale team headed show that we're talking about that the shaytaan doesn't have strength so all we're sitting there not how Yanni the Sahaba are the Allahu Anhu in the end I got it I got it I got it I got the heavy that Hamdulillah I needed no help I need to know Al Hamdulillah in that helicopter you'll leave a lot of Sheikh Tarnovo one of you would exhaust his shape on like you would exhaust your camera when traveling so imagine now taking your car old car right your student let's say or you know you borrowed car and barely making it so you know you travel from your city or distant city for eight

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right if travel is allowed I don't know if travel is allowed if not yet any

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any better luck insha Allah annex eight inshallah.

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But so you're traveling by the time you make it, the car is coughing, I'd sit I've surrendered. That's what I did. I can't do anything. So that's the example he says you exhaust your sheet plan that way if you looked over to look at the sheet one of the believer

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if you're talking with a believer would be exhausted. Imagine him he's coming back and saying oh my god, you know that this day is just this man is just trouble. Every whisper I give to him he rejects I tell him to do haram he goes do something had I kept trying whispering the whole night I'm exhausted. I'm not I'm not. I'm not making this up. This is a Hadith that says that you can exhaust your Shavon like you can exhaust your camel that camel by the end of travel. Just as exhausted doesn't have food doesn't have water. You can exhaust you she's gone like that. So it means that you can have power. Right? But where does this come from?

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It comes from a strong heart.

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So what is what

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What is a pure heart? What is a strong heart? What is a healthy heart?

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It is a heart that has turned to Allah as his origin

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and away from what Allah hates. Simple as that. But of course there's a lot to be said under that

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had turned to Allah and away from Allah Allah hates what is it that Allah hates? Or what is it that distracts away from Allah azza wa jal

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see excessive dunya is one

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dunya is not haram. The world is not haram. You eat, we drink, we marry, we have children, we get jobs we can do that. This is the Sunnah of life they say, Allah Subhana Allah Allah created us to do these things. Some of these things are obligations or they are sunnah. Too much of them though, on the other hand,

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decreases the time that you have for Allah azza wa jal the attention that you have for him, and the love that you have for him.

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It's like they're become opposites. So there's a limit.

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I love shoes. Is that haram? No, not really. But if I'm fascinated, obsessed with shoes, and Babs and or sports, school sports, I love sports. Is that necessarily bad? No. But if that's the only thing that I'm doing, and when time of Salah comes I watch this instead of praying.

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That tells me what what is it that I love more?

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That's when we said that our love for the dunya and attachment to it has crossed into an area where it's now competing with Allah azza wa jal competing with the hereafter competing where my body is competing with my heart is telling my heart don't know don't give me space give me time. I need more time to eat more time to drink more time to watch movies and TV and listen to music and sharp and go without with my friends. And the heart is suffocating it says but I need time for me. I need time to talk to Allah azza wa jal I have questions I have needs. I am becoming anxious and becoming tired.

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Now as brother Faisal does Allah hanger said

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you may not discover that easily. But it has signs

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but every time that the heart wants to speak with suffocated you know, what are signs that there's something wrong with the heart

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is when you get these things that you think will make you happy, and they don't.

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Right? When someone is listening to music,

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and as soon as the song ends,

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you feel sad, and depressed and empty with the silence that when there's silence after that music and it ends, you just feel empty.

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And he needed to keep playing. Just for you to forget this is like somebody who drinks alcohol just to forget their problems.

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If you need to keep buying all the time, just to be happy.

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If you wake up and you feel empty

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right? If you feel that there is no purpose

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if you no see no purpose in the things that you're doing, yeah, I'm studying but I feel that has no purpose. Why am I studying? Why am I graduating? Why am I getting married? Why am I go going through these motions? What is this doing? For what end? These by the way, are not bad things to feel. You don't need to run away from them. Our problem is that we are running away from them. Modern Life is teaching us run away from them. Because the answer to these things is Allah azza wa jal To what end to what purpose? The purpose and the end is Allah as if this is the heart asking you these really hard questions

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that demand and answer and only Allah can give you an answer try to answer them without Allah try go ahead answer these questions without Allah to what end to what purpose? What happens if I get this then what

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I graduate then what I hope please graduate I'm not telling you you know you go to your parents and you say I heard the lecture that says that to what end should I graduate I decided not to graduate please don't do this. It's not my fault. Actually wants you to graduate but I'm saying that think deeper.

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Okay, to what end? I want to graduate good then to what end? To get a job good to what end? You know what I'm going with this right. I want to get married. Yeah. Good to end to have children good to attend. Why? Because it's good that Yeah, but why? Oh, when I get older they'll take care of me. Okay, then what?

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Keep asking this

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You're going to reach a point where you're going to panic. Without Allah without a leg and a panic. What you think I'm going to die you after all this? I'm going to lose all that. All my fame, all my degrees, all my jobs, all my promotions, all my house all this, I'm gonna leave that I'm just gonna die. That's it.

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So whether I do it or not I'm gonna die. Perfect.

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So here's the answer

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if you panic or if you're asking these questions, this is your heart asking the question and it's a good thing.

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And only Allah azza wa jal can provide the answer.

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So the heart that is pure is the heart that says, I can take what I want from the dunya Alhamdulillah. But I'm gonna lose all of it. And I'm moving to Allah. And traveling to Allah has what have I prepared for that meeting for that travel for the hereafter? When I'm alone in the grave alone? And the angels will ask me and when I see Allah has his origin, and he will ask me, how did you live? I gave you money. How did you earn it? How did you spend it? How did you spend your time? How did you spend your youth? I gave you eyes ears body? How security health How did you use it? What did you do with it? Did you think that you're going to meet me? Did you do something for that?

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Or completely forgotten all about this? And when I told you to stay away from haram you did it and I told you to do things right you didn't

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that's the ultimate test. So the heart that is pure the heart that is Salim the heart that is healthy is a heart that loves Allah is Allah I you know the only one that lasts nothing else cool lumen Allah Yeah, for

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everyone that is on it will perish way up, which will rub bigger and only the face of Allah as though demeaning Allah azza wa jal soprano data only he remains only he remains. So as it is that Allah is the only one who remains. We want Allah to be the only one who remains in our hearts and then everything else is in His service Allah

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subhanho wa Taala following the Sunnah of his prophets of Allah and he was since I was started seeing a lot of Islam we put some Allah it was in them following the Sunnah of His Messenger SallAllahu Allah you Ernie was in them. So if my heart has the disease of schicke, where I rely on someone other than Allah, trust someone other than Allah, if I want something, I go to someone other than Allah, I'll say, No, everyone is created. And Allah is the Creator, I'll ask the Creator,

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if I find myself too afraid of people, too reliant on them, but not afraid of Allah, I'll say this is wrong. Allah is their Creator, why am I afraid of them? Not him.

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Allah is the provider. Why do I think that my paycheck comes from them? Not him.

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So I change my heart.

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And of course, changing the heart is not simply by wishing it. You have to learn this, and you have to practice it. We'll talk about that in sha Allah. But knowledge is the first step.

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So Schick is a disease of the heart. Pride is a disease of the heart. I'm better, I'm smarter. I am more handsome and more beautiful. I have better grades than usual and better. My house is bigger, so I'm better. My family is prestigious family. So I'm better than you. I can speak better. So I am better. I'm better educated. So you look at someone who's just sweeping the streets. A I'm better what does he know? And maybe, maybe he's better than you.

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And Allah said, When you meet, go to meet Allah azza wa jal, and you thought that you are all this and that full of ourselves, right? You go look at him, and he's there. Oh, you used to sweep the streets. Subhanallah

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Yeah, but when I was sweeping the streets, I will remember it Allah and my heart was humble. You will walk in with your degree again, I'm hoping you get your degree. I'm not you know, putting down degrees. No, no. But you were walking with our degrees that say, you know, we're, we're smart.

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There's so lack of humility to Waldo is a problem. Envy.

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suffer from envy. Envy.

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He got better grades. I hate him.

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He got my job instead of me. I wish he's dead.

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Why does she get to have this big house and not me? To she better than me. She's she's an idiot.

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I'm better educated. I'm bad, but better family. I can do this better I can do well

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I envy and envy by the way, and pride they do come from excessive love of the dunya

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right? Excessive love we love it so much that we judge others and US based on the dunya not the accurate the dunya that's the yardstick that we have this like you know our degrees, you got an A I gotta be that means you're better than me.

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This is that you understood this material better. But in the eyes of Allah azza wa jal the the exam is very different.

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Very different. Having money or less money does not impact that at all. What you do with that money does, envy is a disease of the heart

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suspecting Muslims thinking the worst of them,

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desiring sin and loving it,

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right desire and sinner loving it. That is typically a healthy heart

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not even the heart, think about a body. They say that if a body is sick, sometimes you know our bodies are sick. We've experienced this. Somebody could bring you your favorite food.

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He said take it away. Take it away. I can even smell it a vomit. But this is your favorite food. Exactly. Your favorite food is I can't even smell it. So what's the problem with the food? Or with the one who's smelling the food?

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The one who is smelling the food cannot smell that food, healthy food, good food, but can't smell it. Why? Because I'm sick. And if you're sick, sometimes you may crave something that is bad for you.

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I feel like eating this. And the doctor says absolutely not. You cannot touch this. I want sweets. It's absolutely not you know your blood sugar. You can't you cannot even touch this. I want this salty snack. It's absolutely not blood pressure cannot even touch it. So you can create things that are bad for you. A diseased heart unhealthy heart has the tendency as well.

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You will look at Salah fasting Zakka and he said I don't like them.

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I don't like them. And somebody tells you about haram things. Okay, say yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Ye That's not typical.

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Because Allah azza wa jal you know says in the Quran that you have been a cool man who was a you know who

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so Allah azza wa jal

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made him and beloved to you and beautified made it beautiful in your hearts and your chests what cutlery they come we'll go for our for so our CNN made hateful to you go for this belief for soap sin okay send meaning especially like seen sins right have to having to do with indecency is Zina

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you know decency with the opposite sex for so I see on generals camera Hey Annie, this is hateful to you and the man is beloved to you. That's That's what Allah gave gave. Our fifth Allah is that. So if I find in my heart that when I'm looking at haram and I'm saying yeah, yeah, I like more of this. And I'm looking at halal or the obligations of Allah and I'm having issues with them. That is a sign of a weak heart or a heart that has disease in it.

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Not that the commands of Allah do not require some struggle, they absolutely do. Some of the commands of Allah azza wa jal require that you fight against yourself until you love them.

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Right? So that's, that's okay. Hamdulillah quotevalet Community tanto como la who Allah says, you know, we've written, Allah had written Jihad upon you and you hate that, but perhaps you hate something and it's good for you. Allah says that sometimes Allah will tell you to do something you don't really like it's 100% but you force yourself to do it until you like it you find the benefit in it and then you like it, but I'm talking about something different. Because Allah says about the hypocrites in the Quran

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that what you the power will also let you call Musa when they rise up to pray, they rise up lazy, you will own a nurse they just showing up and only mentioned in Allah little.

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And he Allah Azza it also says about them that what are you gonna Illa well who carry who when they've spent for the sake of Allah? Because they have to.

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Because people watch them when they want to spend the spend while heating it. So they rise to pray because they have to and they're lazy because they're doing it so they don't want to they hate that. And when they spent they hated the cow. So if we find that our heart is when we obey Allah

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It just heats it. And when we disobey Allah we loves it. Then our hearts resemble the hearts of wet the believers like Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam and his companions, or closer to May Allah protect us, the hearts of the hypocrites. I'm not saying that we are hypocrites. But I'm saying that that sick heart the weak heart has some of the attributes of hypocrisy. Yes. Yes.

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You and I.

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I'm not like seeing you but now me know you and I

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have some of the attributes of hypocrisy. And that's why we have to ask ALLAH has the Vidya Allah protect us from this and save us from

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too much separation from You, because our hearts could be damaged because of it. So a pure heart is the heart of someone who struggles every day with their heart. They notice and they know my heart is not doing well. So they go to the obedience of Allah azza wa jal, they go to their salah, they go to their account, they go to the Quran, they go to their dua,

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and they start to also notice the bad things that they do in life. And they know that these things contaminate just like food, you can never be healthy. If you're eating good food and bad food at the same time.

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You got to stop the back foot. Otherwise, you've developed illnesses like brother Faisal said, illnesses later, you'll get this illness and that illness and then you will suffer because of it. So you can't mix up good food and bad food.

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So you start noticing I'm doing this sin and this sin and that sin and that's making my life miserable. I should let go of them and replace them with things that please Allah as if and when you do,

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that Allah azza wa jal will start clearing the way for you to reach him, to love him, for him to love you. For you to feel the sweetness of EMA the sweetness of a bad as a sweet connection to Allah azza wa jal to be intimate with Allah to be devoted in worship.

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That is possible when we are working on our hearts not consumed by the needs of our body. Just like in Ramadan, I want you to think about it. And maybe in sha Allah will think we'll

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talk about Ramadan insha Allah during the QA because I've noticed I've reached the end of my time but notice in Ramadan will just give you an example.

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If you overeat and Ramadan, you can pray.

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Like if you go to your thought, and some people are invited and told to all you can eat buffets. Imagine yourself going to an all call you can eat buffets and Ramadan. Right? You said, you know, okay, fine. Now is the fourth time you go quickly pre malignant, and you pile up the food one plate after the other one plate after the other goes intuition time. Right. So do you have the stomach? Do you have the energy? Do you have the mind to pray? motawi the prayer Thea, you're exhausted, you're tired, you're sleepy.

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So this is what it means. When there's a lot of the dunya the heart can take it and the body can take it and there is no room for Allah azza wa jal the dunya should be taken as needed. Take what you need, and let the rest go. And let the rest save the rest for Allah azza wa jal, right. So let me insha Allah stop here, because I know that you may have questions that brother Faisal may have questions, but we still need to talk about Ramadan. So maybe that is one thing in sha Allah I will this assumption Allah with Brother Faisal in sha Allah Allah

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desert hola heron. She has literally come back a month ago. Hi yah, Kamala Shia Batticaloa Yom Kippur from Autocar you hounded? 100 are doing great doing great hamdulillah

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Good to see you again. She mean to you too? Yeah fibrotic illogical hamdulillah your your introduction gives me energy right so like I can't without energy have the lie here I have some energy. How did you last on feeding off your energy

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baraclough figure in

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it's quite ironic because on your side of the world, it's nighttime right? So on my on our side we're fasting So energy is coming from this side. That's true. That's true. It's just like I always feed off other people energy right so I mean, just That's why even though we're supposed to have eaten and I can drink now, but I still like I don't have energy right so how can you on the other screen

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I can see you I've seen upgraded some products back there with the Ramadan props, Michelle, right. We gotta like you know, mix it up a little bit. Cheers.

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for Ramadan right? Yeah it's nice to come up with the environment as well keeps you in the mood in this in this blessed month Masha Allah and hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah it's the work of the family. So I don't take credit for it.

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So share to just first of all, let's say congratulations on the launch and the release of your new book. This is love Mashallah. Marika logical Hamden, Daniel have hamdulillah finally was released, and I hope inshallah people might find it beneficial in sha Allah and any feedback and comments will be welcome, Inshallah, once you start holding it and reading it in shop, I look forward to it chef may be a means of he Daya to nurture this beautiful aspect of our DNA which is love. I mean, I mean shall is something that we are having to love we need more of, I don't think we talked a lot about and we don't really address it. Other aspects of our relationship with Allah are often addressed but

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this part is not often addressed and you feel that when talking to people that they need to know about this, so I hope you know that people get to read it and digest it and share it with others in sha Allah. Because once you know Allah azza wa jal in that way, it does change your perspective and relationship with him.

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Okay, Mashallah. Mashallah, okay, she so Masha Allah, thank you for enlightening us on this topic of ultimate detox, purifying our hearts. So she just wanted to maybe mentioned a point which you said that a lot of people who have a lot of things in this dunya they still feel that they are empty, and that they have more physically, but their sense of happiness decreases. And you see the thing is shared, I feel that a lot of people find this difficult to film, you know, because people tend to think that the reason that they are feeling unhappiness is because of the things that we don't have, we tend to be fixated so much on what we are lacking in. But Subhanallah when we look back at the

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celebrities and the interviews that they have, they themselves will admit that they are there to suffering depression and sadness. And then you see that the some of them they have everything, but for some reason they have having high suicide rates. And yet, there was one show called the deen show. Have you heard of the show? Yes, yes, yes, yeah, I find it very beneficial, because you see these people who are former rap stars and even models, and they expose the reality that you think that we are having the life but in reality, we feel completely empty. It's just things that we try to patch on the surface. But but in reality, it just feels that there's a void inside, which may be

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coming back to the reality now, people are fine. We understand that aspect of it. But also on the other hand, they don't necessarily feel the sweetness of a bada. They don't see how maybe if I were to put it in a skeptic perspective, they would see that how are these set of mechanical rituals, this list of so called do's and don'ts, and how maybe even some Muslim now that we are they consider like a bar or some sort of burden? How do I link these physical rituals with this, this sort of fulfillment of happiness and filling that void? Right, right, right. Subhanallah sometimes a comparison could make sense to some people. And I sometimes I hesitate to make these comparisons.

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But I think it's important to make them because when you make them they'll say aha, okay, now I get you. So

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meditation is popular right now, right? And so, suppose for instance, you wanted to go to a, an instructor to meditate, what would that instructor tell you when you want to meditate, he'll tell you to sit in a particular pose, physical pose, and sit there and try sort of kind of clear, remind them all thoughts, or let all flat thoughts flow, whatever it is, right. But it'll ask you to sit in a particular pose and sit for a particular time.

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If you go to the kind of the basis or the origin of where meditation comes from, meditation comes from Eastern religions, Buddhism, in particular and Hinduism, right? And it's all about right disciplining of the body.

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That when you discipline the body and you control the body, then only will you be able to discipline the mind.

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And they will also tell you that you need to detach from the dunya they say that detach from the world, you need to detach from the dunya because this dunya is the source of your troubles and temptations. What's making you sad? This is non Muslim speaking by the way, yeah, that's truly

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nothing no Islam This is not yet what is making you sad and miserable is your attachment to the Jigna thinking that you need more and more and that is a monster. The more that you feed it the more the hungry or it's get and it's never satisfied.

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You know that we can take a lot of these things and find them in the Sooner right and find them in the Quran.

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That Subhanallah we go shopping sometimes outside and we so so impressed Wow. This is what you had this all along. There. You know your ship was teaching this

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Still, why wouldn't you listen to your shakes his check was cheating. Mohamed Somalia, Sudan was teaching you that nothing fills the eye of Adam, no matter how much you get, he was telling you this. So it means that the celebrities that you're talking about

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before they got where they got, they thought, you know, if I just be famous, if I just become a leading man or woman in that movie, if I just be a sell the number one song on the billboards, if it just reaches number one, that will make me happy. That's the happiest day of my life, they get this, but it's not enough. And they find that it's empty, because the medium is so corrupt. The medium is absolutely corrupt, and the medium is empty. And they're trying to think and they're grabbing onto something, but there is nothing. And so the soul is not satisfied, and the soul is empty. And so Subhanallah I mean, we learn from Islam, that if a little bit if what is satisfactory, at the basic

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level, if it's not enough for you, and to making you thankful, plenty is not going to be enough for you. Oh, ah, I don't want to learn, right? And that is discipline, discipline of what that do, I really need that much. In reality, we don't. But if you think of that, under that Mirage, or under that fiction of I always need and I always need and I always need, you trap yourself into that spiral where nothing is enough.

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No amount of money, no amount of success, no amount of possessions will ever be enough. Because always there is more. And always there's somebody else who has more. And you always look at myself as poor.

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And subhanAllah. I mean, the messengers of Allah, Allah, you send them said that, if you wake up in the morning, and your concern is Allah and the hereafter, Allah will make you rich on the inside.

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Michelle will be happy, even though you have little, you'll be happy. And then the dunya will come to you.

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The dunya will come knocking on your door, right?

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If you wake up in the morning, and your concern is the dunya

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then you will wake up and Allah will make poverty in front of your eyes. It does not matter what you see, you'll always be poor. It does not matter how much you have. You say I don't have enough, I'm gonna lose it. I'm going to be for my children. I'm not doing well. My wife is not beautiful enough. My house is small, and you panic and you panic and you panic, right? Why is it because it's just that monster is consuming you. You haven't learned to say wait, Allah was there and he can give that as like, you know, a cork light season.

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Nothing, nothing is too big, it gets bigger and bigger and bigger. And until you say yeah, Allah help, boom, a cork seals it hamdulillah Allah can take care of

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Allah can take care of this. So that's why we're saying that we need Allah in our hearts. Because without that, the heart will always be looking. How can I be happy by I went on Amazon and they bought something. Right? So easy, right? You go you probably have something either Amazon or something close to it. You bought you bought it.

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You bought it and it's just right there. 44 hours, 40 hours you got it? Because what's next, I'm still not happy. I played with this, but then what? And then you look for something else, and then something else. And he discovered that I'm just trying to feed a monster that is never happy. And it is really your heart that is asking you come on give me something else.

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This is where listening that to the Quran attentively. Like really wanting something from it. And listening to the Quran can really affect the change. The reason why coming back really to your to your question, why is it that sometimes when we perform it mechanically, we don't feel anything? Because we're not asking anything from it? Oh, not really asking anything from it.

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Okay, so I know a lot of a lot of us. I'm not gonna pretend you know, a lot of us okay, we watch TV and we watch series and we watch movies. Okay, fine. Have you watched the movie while playing on your phone?

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That's a good point.

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What do you get from that movie?

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So your friend in St. Louis missing out on this movie right? Have you seen the plot? Have you seen the acting? Have you seen the cinematography? Have you seen a say yeah, and at the end of it your your friend is saying wow, this was the best thing ever. And you're seeing really

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just the difference. Big sat in front of the movie didn't watch.

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Your friend watched it. So two people pray one

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people one person prayed thinking about the movie, the right. One person pray, thinking about the Salah, wanting something from it. So that's the difference. If you're going through a difficult time in your life, you will pray differently.

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Like you really want from Allah azza wa jal, something so and so is sick. And you really think I want Allah to cure them. When you enter your Salah al Fatiha will be different.

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You'll be crying when you're reading a fatty

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Serato most takim Serato Medina and anti Modi, you'll be crying, you'll be crying. Why are you crying? When you go into your schedule, you will be crying when you're making dua.

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Then when you finish your Salah, you will feel better. You say Well, I haven't prayed like this ever. Why? Because he wants something from your son. So the problem is that we don't want something from our so that we pray because we have to pray.

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And we fast because we have too fast. And we're glad when they're over. Okay, fine. We did the obligation, but we didn't want to find the sweetness because I wasn't in it. This luck in class, again, all of us. Maybe most of the people are students. You go attend class, you don't take notes. You're not listening to the professor, you leave. You haven't learned anything? Was it the problem with the professor and he was teaching? No. Sometimes maybe sometimes. He's boring. A lot of them? I don't know. But it wasn't him. It wasn't like you weren't ready to receive. Yeah, so the problem is sometimes yes, the channel is blocked, right? I think we talked about this we channel is blocked,

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and you need to remove these sins. And so we need to clear that path. Take some of these sins away. So when you want to pray, just arrive early to your Salah, you know, and structure that struggle with yourself. Don't think about the movie, don't think about the song. Don't think about your exam or that fight or food or whatever. Just think about your Salah and say let me at least ask Allah for one thing there because he can actually give it let me do this one thing that will be different than the rest of your advantage sha Allah will be different. Wow. Subhanallah you mentioned a lot of really, really good points that share mashallah, so, first of all, you mentioned that they talked

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about meditation, and Subhanallah, a lot of those elements are actually already built in Salah, but meditation by itself is actually empty isn't sure if there's no spiritual element to it. Whereas the salah has the benefits of the meditation, which is the discipline. And then you also have that being present that has shown and it's relating tying it back to the Creator. So the value of that is just way more, but only now it seems like the western world is kind of catching up is like, oh, it's meditation thing is pretty good. But they only kind of just solve one small fraction of the equation, isn't it? And then another point you mentioned as well is that they're saying, like the

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haven't minimalist attachments. And finally, like this concept of minimalism, it's really piling up these days, like digital minimalism. But Zuko has been it's been something that's already instated, like of 1000s of years. So how live is absolutely true. So we unfortunate sometimes, but maybe we have to, you have to discover it somewhere else to for you to appreciate it in Islam. I don't know why. But I think that we have been colonized in our brains. So that anything that is local, anything that is Islamic is a lower value. It doesn't matter. So when the West tells us something, we are impressed, and then we turn and say, Oh, it's in Islam. And how do I want you to discover it in

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Islam before they discover it so that they don't have to teach us that thing. But if you discover it through them find but at least discover that in Islam, and exactly what you said should be memorized. That whatever Allah offers in Islam is the full package. What they're offering there is just a partial solution. And it's very dangerous when you offer partial solutions, right? Because you take some of the medicine not the whole medicine, you think I'm done I'm cure and it makes you sicker and sicker right? It doesn't. So pay attention that if you want if you are impressed with meditation, seek that in Salah that's that's the full package meditation is not going to help

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mashallah mashallah vertical a feature

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Okay, so Sherry, I really like that point that you said that what Allah gives us is what's best for us. It is the full package, right? I mean, it's kind of like when you have good food analogy that you brought in your talk, right? If you have like, just one set of vitamins, kind of not the whole equation, isn't it? So it's fine.

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I think about good food that you brought the analogy that if you if you're sick, you can appreciate good food, when I was thinking about it as well, if you don't recognize the value of the good food, you don't even want the good food in the first place. I mean, just to relate my own personal experience, I used to be really overweight, and I used to eat really unhealthy. My wife, mashallah she's always been into this healthy thing. And like, that's totally not for me.

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But mashallah, when I tried it, tried the healthy stuff, there is this withdrawal period adjusting to it, but after some time, after, sometimes you get rid of the bad stuff, just by putting the analogy that you're putting, like, maybe the sinful habits that we're not aware of affects our performance, just getting rid of those stuff. After some time you start, you turn back in, like, I don't really like sugar that much anymore. I don't know, man, like, it's not so nice. And you know, subhanAllah, just check it just to share with you I used to, in my younger days, I used to be a smoker. And it was a time where I couldn't imagine myself how to quit. And it was a really struggle,

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shift and Subhanallah it was really, really tough. There was a lot of withdrawal. But Hamdulillah, Allah inspired me to quit. And now I cannot stand the smell of cigarettes. So I think this ties back to the analogy that you're bringing here what Allah gives you, it's sometimes it seems like it's difficult in the beginning. And it seems like it's like you quoted the IRA in Surat Al Baqarah, where you might love something, but it's bad for you, and you might dislike something but it's good for you. It's the best for you. And so I realized that a lot of these things, we don't realize it's good for us. But when we actually go through that struggle, Masha, Allah, what's waiting on the

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other side, it's so beautiful chef. And I think that's the part where I fail to realize it back then. Subhan Allah and I think this is a really beautiful point that you brought, which is that in the initial right, reform of our habits and our life, it is going to be difficult because we already have developed bad habits. How do you break a habit, right, and then develop a good habit that will roll period where you're forcing yourself, right, and you're fighting with your cravings. So this is a good habit, but it doesn't taste as good, right? It really doesn't taste as good. A lot of sugar is really nice and doughnuts and fried stuff. And it really this is nice and fried chicken and what

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have you. And and you're saying to yourself, I'm eating salads, and I'm eating you know, quinoa and what have you, right? So taste is good. But then, once you actually get used to it, then yes, it's absolutely right. This is too sugary. This is too oily, this is too fatty. And then if you notice the effect on your body, your body is healthier, you're thinner, you're fit you can you don't run out of breath when you do something, right. So you see the benefits and you love the healthy food. Because of the taste in sha Allah horrible enemy, right? Yeah, put spices, your spices are good. You can put spices but also because of the benefits that it gives you. And then you look at that

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unhealthy food and you say, I don't want to go there. And you actually there's another good point in sha Allah you know, you brought this example up here which is that like sin

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unhealthy food is easy to get.

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Right? It's true, it's easy to get and it's cheaper by the way, it's cheaper, it lasts longer, cheaper, whereas the healthy the good food, right? It is more expensive. And it's not readily available. It's not everywhere. So like the snacks and the junk food and what is so cheap. Oh yeah, it is and it's fill filled with nothing right and you and you're not full and you keep eating it it makes you worse and gives you headaches and you feel groggy, because of and why is that? So this is Subhanallah I look at all these kind of likenesses as parallels that Allah had put on earth intentionally. That's what I consider.

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Allah says, you see how it is there? Right? Is how it is here. So that you can understand. So bad food is so easy to get like haha, okay, so what is what is the difficult more difficult getting married or committing Zina? Getting married is difficult. It is so easy, right? But it's just like bad food, you get bad food and it's gonna make you sick. And so if a person walks the path of love, lust go running after just simply lust and Zina and this and that. They're feeding their soul poison, and they're pining poison. And eventually that is going to, as you said, catch up with them. Whether it's a physical illness, but even if not, you could be 100% Careful, there's a spiritual

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illness that will actually infect you. Unless Allah saves you from it. It's just as a major sin. So it's so easy to do this. But if you want to walk the path of Hala I need to find the woman I need to talk to the Father and I need to make sure but it is worth it in the long run. Just like good food, because you'll have peace of mind Inshallah, you'll have good children. You'll have a good

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Good companion in life. Whereas when you commit Zina eventually because the CHE plan is in the middle, right? Doesn't the prophets a lot he was sitting them say that whenever you're alone with a woman, the shaytaan will be the third. Now telling me what do you think is going to happen with the Shavon is in the middle? Like your friend now is the shapefile

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what kind of relationship do you think this one is going to give you? What kind of relationship is he in our allow you to have with that other person, he will make sure the poison that relationship, so you will hate them and they will hate you. And I want you to take this inshallah anyone who is hearing this and thinks I Oh, he's exaggerating. Just keep this in mind. If you commit that thing with that person, sinner, right, and you continue to do it, I guarantee you, you will hate them and they will hate you.

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That's going to happen, there will be conflict, and you will fight and they will hate you. In addition to disgrace in addition to whatever Allah knows, Allah, Allah will protect from this. So it's sweet in the beginning, just like junk food, right? Sweet in the beginning, later on, makes you sick, healthy food difficult in the beginning, but you'll be patient. You will insha Allah see the best outcome? If you are patient,

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masha Allah article, a fixture. So this is a very good point. Because I think for people who maybe it's difficult for them to imagine how, for example, as you said, because, for example, when we read the stories of the Salaf have the Sahaba, they used to be so focused in their heads to the point where if they were shocked by an error, they don't feel it, it's kind of difficult for us to imagine how to reach that state. And so the mistake that a lot of us make is that oh, Mashallah. They're like that, you know, they are like, it's as if like, Allah just put their heart the love of Quran in their hearts and so on from day one, when in reality, what the what you're what reminding ourselves

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now is that it's a struggle, it's a there's a process to it, and to for them to reach that part. You haven't seen what the efforts that they have done behind the scenes, they have to get through so much surely, throughout their lives. So much desire is more than what we are probably starting off with the reach that point I think they don't see that passion. So I think that that element of God that that struggle, is something that we kind of lacking shift if I if I can pick up this correctly. You're absolutely right. And it's a good point to keep in mind that when you were reading about some of the pious predecessors, he used to pray like this for this long read so much Quran in a meat

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stock, it's unimaginable that you'd be able to do this, even as a human being I haven't seen anybody perform this in front of my eyes. It's like, what am I reading reality or fiction? But okay, like, I mean, somebody actually, this is just recent, you know, somebody came to a chef and he said, Chef, there's this biography of authority, and one of the pious predecessors, look at what he did, how can I ever be like this one? And he says, Listen, you're pointing to authority at the end of his life,

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like this. Okay, so So was it more like, do you think when they were born to be able to pray or do or give this much, they struggled, as you said, for many years until they were able to achieve it, and then people looked at them at the summit of their taqwa and Zod and discipline. And they saw this, and they brought you an example. But if you were to look at them at an early age, they will tell you, I'm struggling with this sin. I'm struggling with that. Look, I'm struggling with this temptation. He's a human being like you and me. So you're right, that process of struggle is needed. Do you think that if somebody tells you fear Allah, I'm just gonna fear Allah 100% Right now know

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that dunya had has inhabited my heart and habit it my brain, I have to fight with it. So I have to slowly detach from the dunya and slowly attached to Allah zodion. And it's a battle. And sometimes as I say, you will win, and sometimes you will lose. And sometimes the win is great. And sometimes the loss is great, but it doesn't matter. As long as you're still fighting. You're still struggling and still asking Allah azza wa jal. So maybe when I'm starting to pray, I only can concentrate for 5% in my salah. Good, at least I have 5% Right, better than zero. But I'm gonna push myself for 10% and I'll try and I'll struggle and next insha Allah maybe 20% And maybe 30% Whatever Allah will

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decide, but at least I'm pushing and Allah has certain had made a promise in the Quran will let you know Yeah. Hello fina Lana de novo cebuana. Those who strive in our path we will guide them to our ways you tell me I'm too weak is no you are not too weak. You are not too weak. If Allah makes you strong, if you ask Allah to be strong, you're not too weak. So ask Allah and strive and Allah will open ways for you. This is what it means guide you to our ways, open way

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As for you, you know, you say, Chief Imam, so I'm struggling with this thing I can't overcome. And he say, if you want to overcome it, Allah will make you overcome it. It may take a year or two or five, it does not matter. But if you overcome it, Allah will make you overcome it. That is even Kareem said, he said, If you If Allah charges you with moving a mountain, with your bare hands, he doesn't say bare hands, but that's what I'm assuming it's not like having tractors or what have no, if he charges you with moving out, and if that's what he wants from you, and you seek his assistance, you can move it.

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And he doesn't ask us to move a mountain. But imagine Allah says, brother Faisal, go move a mountain where you live, maybe you have mountains, I don't know, go move a mountain, right? And he says, Allah, I can't. He says, Did I ask you to my mountain or not? You say yes. So just go and ask me for help and go move it. If you go to it and you hold it since he asked you, you'll move it.

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So if Allah asks you stay away from this haram then you can otherwise why would he ask you? Now you can follow on ifs and Elissa means you can is this you? And I have said we cannot.

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it's just we need to struggle. And we need Allah zoton in our lives. And we need also to recognize Yes, my heart at this moment is weak. Yes, it is weak. Let me make it strong. Let me read more Quran but reading more Quran. I want something from it. Let me make dua ask Allah azza wa jal, Leah Allah asked like, really ask brothers and sisters, I want you to really ask, what is it that you want? I want to graduate and I want a wife and I want children Good, good, good, good as all this, you finish the dunya dunya has an A good was the hero. Give me something for the earth him as Allah as the good for your heart. Ask Allah azza wa jal for Jana, as Allah as if you know, if you notice that

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your heart has a particular illness or something that is upsetting. hurting you talk about that. Ask something about it. So make your relevant. Not do

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you memorize something?

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What is it that you asked?

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I didn't know I said something. And I left the noun eating my support

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as something like something meaningful, right? Right. But Allah is here from your heart that you want something, ask it and not Allah give you that, that

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just crossed my mind shift. Something has recently recently happened. It's like coming to a proposal to your boss, with you reading a letter than us reading it mechanically is actually what do you really want? I don't know. I'm just saying.

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Exactly. Right. Yeah. Like have feelings, right? have feelings in a talent have commitment? Like, I want this right. Exactly. Otherwise, exactly. Your boss will say, I don't think you wrote this. You just better go and bring the bus someone who wrote this, let him talk. Let him speak at least that can convince you. But you're not convincing. Right? Exactly. Sure. He reminded me on something I believe it was also from Sofia authority. He said that I struggled I had to had jihad with my own soul for 30 years to perform the 100. If I if I remember this correctly, said the first 10 years I hated it. It was I struggled with it. And then the next 10 years, I kind of tolerated it. And the

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next 10 years I can't live without it. It was harder to struggle with 10 years. I mean, a lot of us share we struggled for like one one night, two nights when you say like, you know what, I'm just not a morning person.

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We're so quick in making judgments about ourselves. But the seller themselves. They used to be serious about these days to ask Allah and they used to be consistent at it. And I think that's one of the lessons that I'm taking from what you're sharing here share. Now. Absolutely. And this is another beautiful point and BarakAllahu Li and he is it's been brothers because they wanted it. That's the difference. Right? You know, I met somebody who just reminded me, I met somebody before a while back and he said he was applying to medical school or he was applying to get residency, something like that. And he'd been doing it and taking classes and doing tests and whatever. And

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he's been doing it for years, right. And I told him like, he was like asking for advice. I told him maybe this is like, maybe think this is not for you. Maybe because you've been trying so hard. He says no, no, I really want it so I'm gonna keep doing it. But there was no hope that he was gonna get it. No guarantee he was gonna get it. He spent years doing it, but he loved that thing. He kept doing. Okay, so they love the hereafter and they thought, Okay, I'm gonna die, man. I'm gonna die. Okay, so I want something when I'm gonna die. And this is not gonna last. This is hard, but I know that the Prophet saw you sitting them did it and loved it. The Sahaba did it and loved it. I can't

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be unlike them. Like I can't like die and have myself not be like them. I must feel like that. Something like that. So I'm going to push myself one day after the other one month after the one year

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after the other, and then when Allah sees that honesty in you, that you really want it, you get, you get along. And then you start like, as you said, you know, and now I enjoy it. Now nobody has to come and say Wake Up Fajr wake up five minutes, five minutes cry, you will have to say that your wake up before federal why? Because I want that thing. Yeah. This is part of you now. Right? Yeah.

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So here's the quote something i hope i Don't misquote you on this one is to enjoy the struggle. It's the process itself. It's not necessarily a journey or a destination. But the very fact that you are trying that's something that we should enjoy. At least we're trying the putting the effort inside. Yeah, there is. There's beauty in that too. Because when you see the achievement when you see the possibilities when you start gaining things from it, when you before thought to yourself, and so weak Islamically I'm so defeated that she finally strong you can do and you find no I can. And that opens other possibilities of ICANN. So when you start reading this about yourself that I can

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remember that famous Yes, we can write Yes, it turned out to be nothing right. But yes, we can Yes, like I can do this, then I can do that.

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And then that what seems to be fiction from the Sahaba or the Sedef. It's not fiction anymore. Why can fast three days every month, I can you know pray with you. I can pray to her. I can reduce of a Quran a day, it used to be seemed like unimaginable, but I'm doing it now. And I'm telling other people to do it. So I changed. So how did I change is because I want it to change, right? Because I felt I wanted the outcome right? That's that's a whole thing. And just you know, if we're speaking mostly or I mean, students or former students, if you're an academic, you're a former student, right? You couldn't reach or be sitting where you are now if you haven't pushed yourself to study

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and take exams and it was awful at times.

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It was times and sleepless night but we we stayed up Why did you stayed up and we lost to a toilet? We're doing it why did we do this? Because the outcome was worth it. We thought we did want that. So we can so this is not lesser than getting a bachelor or masters have you not less than that. So I think you can shop Yeah, well, I shall Yeah, we spent so much caffeine share.

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Yeah, we've put for by our bodies through so much, just so that we would get it kind of later on enjoy later all child labor, I'll do this right. But I need to do this. Because it's important. We did it to hamdulillah for the sake of the dunya. Good, good that Allah bless you. But let's put an effort some efforts in sha Allah for the sake of the era. Because, you know, you know what, I mean, none of this is we're gonna take with us now. So okay, what is what is your provisions? What is the food for the earth era that you will take with you just save something for the AFYA mashallah, you also mentioned something very valuable here is that, because the concept of motivation, a lot of

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people wait for motivation before it's action. But I remember reading a quote is that the more you do, the more you are motivated. And I remember reading a tafsir about this and when it comes to hidayah people have this kind of mental blocks that I haven't got Hidayat. But in reality, the more you do the more Allah grants you He died on top of that Eman. So I feel that this is strongly related to that is that as you if you're on the struggle itself, Allah will will strengthen you even more, but you have to start in the first place. absolutely have to take the first step like what are you waiting for to come your way? Right right. Yeah, what is the what are you waiting you with some

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kind of gift where you just all of a sudden will be pious. Go ask anybody have they ever received something like this where they just all of a sudden see oh, I have all the energy now to pray. Oh,

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that doesn't happen to anybody just as just fantasy right? This is the sheep farm playing tricks on you. Or maybe you're playing tricks on yourself and delaying what is inevitable which is later Later I'll just you know hedaya will come? No, I mean, Jaha do fina neTea know your Edina will come out of your jihad with yourself. You have to say to yourself

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this is not good enough. I need to do better. I don't need to need and only to be super Muslim. Now. You can be super Muslim. Right? All right, we've been flying. You can't be super Muslim now. But what you can do is I can do better.

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Do better. Right? I can do better in terms of I can worship Allah better, just slightly better. At least just take that step and less have less harm I could do less harm, especially in Ramadan. Ramadan is so helpful in doing all this because it rearranges our habits. Here are good habits. Take 12345

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Live and er bad habit stop 12345 So it does help you a lot in Ramadan right? No, we didn't have a chance to talk about it but at least in this in this couple of sentences where it does actually purify your heart detaches you from the dunya disciplines your soul connects you to Allah Zoda to the Quran through Salah. So it does, it's doing a lot of things to your body and to your soul.

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So it's helpful so we don't say like no one, no one's gonna say, I'm gonna fast when Allah gives me he died, too.

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What do we do is say, Okay, it's faster, even if you have to pull yourself to where you say, Okay, it's fast thing I have to do it. Okay, done. I'm sorry, my friend you do in? And what do you pray, you have to stand up you have to go you have to make your will do. And then you have to pray. And then you see the day of Allah has ordered, right. So don't don't kind of wait for this kind of miraculous

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descent of a Hidayat that may come or may not come. I think this is just a trick that we just played on ourselves. Russia, Allah, Schiff, maybe, oh, I didn't realize that we took quite a bit of time there. So one more point before we move to the q&a show. So just just to relay some of the feedback from our participants. So we did a survey on what they feel affecting their lives the most when it comes to their own struggles and their own matters of the heart and you know, maybe diseases of the heart that they see. So one of the comments one common ones that we're seeing right now is that a lot of them stated that they feel that they have this too much attachment to Xena. And it's made

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worse because they also have a very strong attachment to movies and TV and they realize this they acknowledge that because a lot of the sometimes even the harmless ones, even the Disney ones are so much guilty of promoting this Xena stuff, right? So, uh, how can we what kind of advice do you want to share and how we can sort of train ourselves to get rid of this, this this kind of difficulties that we're struggling with? Yeah, subhanAllah saw, like, I mean, in the heart therapy, there was that hadith where somebody came to the messenger, somebody was Silla, asking him you know, give me permission to commit Zina. Oh, yes, yes. Right. give me permission to commit Zina. And he saw a lot

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he was sent them was very kind of kind to him, right? Because he came right. He wasn't hiding or any things. give me permission, like he's struggling and you understand that he is struggling. So what he said to him so a lot he was sending me He says to people who don't make a to HIPAA holy holiday, he says, Okay, would you love this for your mother? Would you love this for your aunt? Would you love for this for your daughter? Would you love this for your sister? And he said, No, no, like, as an Arab, right? But that is just as a human being right? I'd kill that guy. Right? If he touches my sister touches me, I'll kill him. Right? So okay, so everybody else is somebody else's mother and

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sister and daughter and whatever. Meaning that he was telling him, don't think only in terms of your lust at this moment, think also in terms of compassion, of what are you doing to other people? And then what you're doing to this poor lady? And what you have? And if that lady, as you know, somehow, like that lady is the one who's pursuing them, and what are you doing to him? How you're damaging him? And how are we bringing the Shavon into his body and into his mind and into his soul? So let's consider what you're doing to them. So he just expanded his horizon as to don't only think about it in terms of only one thing, but multiple things as well. Then he taught us a lot he was sent to me

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to ask for him. Right he made up for him. For part of it Aloha Mata Alba will have sinharaja Here Allah purify his heart and make him chaste make his private parts Chase. So first of all, this is a perspective where if I do this, it brings a lot of damage to them to those people. Yeah. And if it is someone that I love, I mean, it's if it's an issue of love, if you want that left to stay to prosper,

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bring Allah has resulted in not the Shavon

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Shavon will damage your love. If you say I love her so much that I want to be with her. I love him so much I can't live without him. Hamdulillah that Allah put that love into your heart, okay, we're not saying no to that. But you bring in the Shavon you will lose this man or you will lose that woman.

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This is a guarantee I'm going to give to you because you bring the Shavon in, bring Allah and you will save that love. Do it the right way you will save that love. So for the next inshAllah 3040 years as long as Allah extends your life you will be with them.

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damage that love in a couple of years you're cursing her and she's cursing you

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because of what you have done to her and what she has done to you. So don't do this to yourself. That's one thing. Second if Allah had made you wise enough to see the gates that Lee

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Eat to it, then you know what you need to stop. Stay away from, right? So this is what is inflaming your desire. If I watch these movies, I go on these websites, I'm with these people, they just push me to Xena. So you know your medicine. So the medicine is to stay away from these movies and songs understanding your own triggers. Exactly right. If I'm if I'm an alcoholic, let's say, I won't go to a bar, right?

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Am I insane? Going to a bar just to be around people who drink and I'm a recovering alcoholic, right? Am I insane? To do this? You understand what triggers it? Right? So if I'm a person who is affected by this, I like it, I'm easily tempted. I'm not going to be around those movies. You have to say no to it. Not going to be around those songs. Most of the songs today are about Xena. Right? So I'm not going to be around those people who invite me to it okay, are you okay? Fine. Che fine him I'm fine with whoever. I'm not going to watch these movies. I'm not going to what am I going to do then? Like I have a lot of free time. What am I do? This is where you come in and you say I'll

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fill it in shallow with something useful play sports, go out with good friends. Go out to the masjid

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be have a happy developer hobby. build things with your hand. filleted sha Allah is something that is useful. Ask Allah azza wa jal. Why did you want to ask us SubhanAllah? You know why we can find other ways because we've closed the doors, do we not anybody else that's really closed. If we haven't asked Allah, the only way is for me to watch movies type, shut the TV and ask Allah for something else. Don't just sit in front of the TV and say okay, what not now? Right? Right. Ask Allah Allah. Allah for your sake, I want to leave this. Show me. Show me then you go online and you look for something to do. Hala. Ask your friends look for something and strife. And maybe the first

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second day, first weekend secondary, there'll be hard.

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Right? Then you will find something. Yeah, you find something and Allah will give you that thing. But just give Allah azza wa jal and give yourself that chance. And then then you're unsure Allah, you will not be so easily tempted by them. And of course, marriage. Right? We see I'm not sure of Shabbat but it's so common common. Definitely. It is a word for young people. If you can marry, get married.

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You go to your parents and you say I want to get married. Oh, you're still young. And this and this. And this. They say, well, listen, what I don't we could we can just have Nika, could just have Nika, well, we don't have to move in together, do it Islamically. I don't care about culture, right? We've reached a point where we're just going to care about culture, we're just going to have seen it everywhere. I don't care about culture, you go to them and you say, I want to get married. I don't have to move into her home. She doesn't have to move into my home. But we are married. We're committed to each other. We can be intimate with each other. Then we can plan our lives. We can have

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kids after we graduate we can do but marriage. I don't care about culture anymore. If culture conflicts with your taqwa it doesn't matter it cancelled. So go to your parents and say and ask them for this and keep badgering them until they see us and

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let them know CIF is since we're on this whole pandemic issue right you can say of course because he can't do a big walima

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really important

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dates to people package dates, dates and this is your one EMA of Hamas that fella

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mashallah, what you said is brilliant, Mashallah. I mean, I, for example, I read about this in the book Power of Habit, a lot of us when we, for example, the queue that there's a habit queue, there's the action and there's the reward. So a lot of us we can find that reward thing to those things, those movies or series, but even when you look at these non Muslim books, they teach you you understand your own triggers, and there is a way to change if people can be alcoholics and change, you can change all those habits. So I find that like, people don't see this and and reflect it back with respect to our own Deen. So mashallah, that's a really good point. And I shared maybe just on

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that final point about getting married, some of the sentiments that we can hear from our youth is that yes, I genuinely do want to get married. I genuinely do feel that for me, it is something already was upon me, but it is so many cultural barriers, like parents are telling me you need this, finish your studies. First you need to get a job you need to get a car you need to, you know, like there's so many barriers against that. And it's so nice. Some of them are saying like, Oh, I heard that hadith chef and if I can't, if I can't afford it, then fast, but chef, I'm fasting. I'm fasting. I'm fasting and I'm wondering when is my read?

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How can you advise the people who are struggling with this sort of intentions Java Subhanallah this is what I say this is the problem when culture takes precedence over religion. This is this