Ali Albarghouthi – The Disease and the Cure #17 Sins the Prophet Cursed

Ali Albarghouthi
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So that was salam ala Rasulillah. While early he also had he was salam

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Allahumma eliminare million pharaoh now one fan of Mr. Olympia now was in that element or Bill al Amin

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Lahoma in Allah the Chiricahua Shoukry cow Hosni Burdick

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so last we met

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with going through we were going through the list of what even acclaimed Rahim Allah

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included, of the

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sins that the Prophet was Saddam had cursed. And remember what we said about them that he was offering us this as a reminder that if these sins are worthy of a curse, and a curse is to be distant from Allah's mercy, that's what Atlanta is a Lana to Octoman Rahmatullah. When you put Lana on someone down this and dam that that damnation is, may you be distant from Allah's Mercy expelled away from Allah's mercy. So when the Prophet salallahu Salam, he is cursing these sins, he is selling us if no am that if the sin is bigger than this then is more worthy of a curse even though it's not mentioned specifically. So that's that's the context of it.

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Right? So we talked about alcohol and everybody who's involved in it that is cursed.

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The one who changes the boundaries of the earth the one who curses his parents, the one who

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takes an animal as a target practice. We mentioned all these things, right? Okay. And then effeminate men and manly woman, the one who slaughters for other than Allah azza wa jal, the one who innovates we didn't mention that. So the last thing was that the one who slaughtered for other than Allah azza wa jal, okay?

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So we said that's slaughtering for other than Allah azza wa jal does shirk. So in this list,

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that and second one is Allah Allah or the one that follows well, that element added the Headington an hour more detail and he cursed at a salatu salam, the one who

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a header the header that can be understood in two ways. One, he innovates, meaning a bit more depth, the

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other one he commits a crime a crime that is a Genia, like killing someone, something big, not just any kind of menial, small crime but a big crime. So one one commits a big crime, generally, and I attend mean he killed someone would it's something of similar magnitude. So something big or Alhadeff, also is a Buddha, and the greater the Buddha, the greater the curse. So either he does that or he gives shelter to the person. Right, he gives shelter to that person gives aid to that person protects him, especially in the Haram

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especially in the Haram whether it is in Mecca or Medina.

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So if a person innovates in the Haram

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that's a greater crime. He shelters and innovator in the Haram that's a greater crime. A person commits an offense a big crime in the Haram or shelters, that person in the Haram that is a greater cop. If he does it outside. It's still a crime, but it's greater in the Haram. So here is a warning for those who commit to be there and the greater the better the greater a person will deserve. That curse from the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. So when you hear these things, you have to ask yourself, Do I want a portion of that curse because who is making this dua

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Rasul Allah salAllahu alayhi wa sallam it's not a una so this sticks. And you could you know you could make a dua but it sticks or it doesn't stick may be accepted or not. But the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, he makes the DUA and he curses a sin. If you take part of that sin, you taking part of the course.

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So that's how what how careful you have to be with all all these sins, and anything that Allah has noted or the Prophet alayhi salatu salam had cursed, okay?

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And he said, Well, Anil Musa worryin, and he cursed the picture makers.

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The picture makers, picture makers of the Swede, meaning he or she, they do a statue, they carve a statue, so a three dimensional picture Surah or a two dimensional one, drawing it by hand. Right? So the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. He said that they are cursed and on the Day of Judgment, they will be told bring life to the image that you carved to the image that you made, indicating that they will be punished and

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till they do.

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And we understand maybe the position behind such strict condemnation.

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Why were picture makers condemned so much? By Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam that they were cursed, because that is the path to what

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Sherkin Allah has ordered because Sheikh requires an image.

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Right? It's a physical

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image that the person needs to direct their worship to. That's how worship degenerates from Allah azza wa jal into a physical image on Earth. So whether it's three dimensional or two dimensional, but they have to look at something and worship it. So in the beginning, when a person adopts something like this, it may not be for the sake of worship, but eventually it turns into something like that. So to close that door completely, that thing has been crushed, meaning you stay away from it, and you don't do that, right. Now, as long as that thing has a soul,

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a man woman, human animals, you won't do that. Plants that's different, the sun and the moon and the planets that's different. So you are allowed to make pictures of those these things, but not of humans and not of animals. And by the way, here, as we're going through these things, there's a difference between cursing the sin and cursing the sinner.

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Right. So if I pay if I say for instance, if I find someone who's drinking alcohol and the prophets Allah was salam cursed sharable Humph. He cursed the alcohol drinker.

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If I see someone who is drinking alcohol, do I curse him? Do I say Allah Allah Tala Ali.

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we don't do that. The curse is to the sin. So as much as he takes that he deserves, so we curse the sin, but not him. Because I don't know maybe with Allah azza wa jal he'll be saved. Why why are you making dua against that person? Right? So Allah anon y en cursing the individual, a particular person that's not allowed. That's not allowed. Because you don't know where they're going to end. But cursing the sin Lana to Allah He I love Bonnie me.

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How many of us commit injustice

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and all degrees? We don't say Allah Alec. No.

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But I log on me, or for this thing or for that sin. So this is what the Prophet sallallaahu Salam, here's them. Hello. Hola. Hola, Miami, la mala coma, Lutz, and he creates the one who does the actions of the people of Lot, which is *.

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So that is cursed in the book of Allah and cursed as I'm talking about the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam which tells you that it is a major sin. And there is grave punishment that follows such an act so everybody should know this. Right? Well, Andaman, said Baba OMA, and he had cursed the one who insults his father and his mother. And that is similar to what we've talked about whether the person insults them curses them, directly or indirectly.

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So doing it directly, that's the greater sin.

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You know, he calls them name, insults them, or curses them, or indirectly by causing it, acting in such a way or saying such a things that brings that curse to them.

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So you attack someone's parents, so they attack yours, you become responsible.

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That tells you that you and the consequence of your actions, okay? Your actions and the consequence are yours.

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Right? Whatever you do, and the consequences are yours. So if you insult someone's parents and they he insults yours, you've caused it, you've earned it, you brought it to them, you will become responsible for them. So the Prophet sallahu wa salam cursed the one who does that or similar to it. Carla Anna man, come on man.

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And yet curse someone who misguides a blind person of the road off his path off his destination. So the blind is a very weak, vulnerable person. You can see they cannot you miss guide them intentionally off their path towards maybe something that is detrimental, dangerous, harmful.

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You take advantage of their weakness, the prophets Allah Allah, Selamat curse, the one who does that. You go to someone who's weak

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and you take advantage of their weakness and you harm them.

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So something as simple as this is Chris

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first. So imagine someone who takes advantage of people's vulnerability, whatever that vulnerability could be. So he scams, the naive.

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He steals their money

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preys on the elderly, calls them you know, give me your money,

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whatever we, you know, they scam money out of them. Is this not cursed as well? Right? It is. Because they're taking their money, they're frightening them. So whoever takes advantage of the weak and the vulnerable in ways that harmed them. They shouldn't be included in that curse of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam to tell you that it is a major sin. And it doesn't matter. If you are Muslim or not. If you are Muslim, you should know that this is a major sin. He can't scam you can't steal, you can take advantage of people.

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And he also cursed at a Salatu was Salam Manitoba Hema, the one who has * with an animal

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that is kind of to some people unimaginable, right?

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Like who would do this, right? But there are people who do that. There are people who do that, and that is cursed, just like * is cursed. This is cursed as well.

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And actually, though, they are not a big segment of society, but there are some people who practice this and they seek to normalize it.

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Like they had a protest in some European country, then a big in number, but they were saying we deserve rights by should be able to marry a dog.

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Right or something similar. And to you, it may seem now to be something so far fetched? How who thinks like this, and how could this become normal? Right? But who knows in 20 years?

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Just like what is normal now was unthinkable 20 years ago, right? So who knows, in 20 years what's gonna happen?

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So they always surprise us. So you shouldn't be surprised once you start walking down that path. There is no end to it. Right? There is no end to it. So that's why you need to stop the sin as soon as you see it. Not tolerated thinking about hola me, okay, we can live with this. If you live with this. You're going to live with something so detestable later. Right? So detestable later, right?

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Carla Anna Minosa Muda. But in future he had a nascent, he had cursed one who brands an animal on the face branding meaning with fire.

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Right? Because that torments and tortures the animal for no reason. So that's why it's a hobby said he had branded the animal as far back as he can away from the face to avoid the curse of torturing an animal like this. So a person needs to mark an animal if there is a better way than branding them than you do it. If not your brand will not in the face. Because this is what Lana

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and he's learned comes to an animal just to tell you that do not belittle a sin. When it comes to animals do not belittle a sin you do not know if you torture an animal like that, how that animal could come back on the day of judgment and seek. Right justice, right.

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Hello, Hola, Ana. Mandara Muslim and OMA Karabi he this is the Hadith that this is based on his weak it says and he cursed the one who harms a Muslim or he plots against him. Of course this is haram but the particular Hadith that this is based on is weak.

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Hello Allah Allah azza wa jal erborian with the Halina Allah Hill messaggi. There was so much and he had cursed the woman who visited the graves and will build on them mosques and put planters on top. The part of lanterns at the end is weak. Like the Hadith that this is based on is weak, but the condemnation is sound. Okay, so taking or building lanterns or putting lanterns on.

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Graves that's haram. But the Hadith that condemns it, in particular is weak but the first part, the second part that's authentic, had cursed the female visitors of the graves and those who built messages on them. Okay, now, here's point of filth here.

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Some of the Allama they allow a woman to visit the graves and some of them don't.

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Those who will prohibit women from visiting the graves basis it on this hadith and similar Hadith. So he said Lana is a Waratah hobo. He had cursed women who visited the graves. Why specify women

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Why specify women? You think? Because of their reaction,

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because of their reaction, because they tend to be more emotional than men. And with those emotions come statements and actions that displease Allah has likely not always likely. So they may cry and they may whale they may scream, tear off their clothes and do something like that. Especially if that person who had passed away is very dear to them, or say things that displease Allah azza wa jal. So here there is a curse to that there is another opinion. But since this is not an issue of Amin, a lesson of film, I'm not going to go into detail. Unless you asked me a question about it, then I will address it inshallah. I just want to focus on the fact of, he mentioned it, right. With

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the Halina la homicide, if you will, the Masjid on the grave. This is cursed in this hadith and many other Hadith of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. And he specified that this is one of the main problems of Jews and Christians. Whenever that someone who preaches dies a prophet or otherwise, they'll build a masjid on top of his grave. So this is absolutely haram. And the person is cursed if they do this, because the grave is very different from a masjid and they should not come together.

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MST is is a place for Salah a grave is a person a place for burial. They don't come together. And of course if you build something and you put lanterns and do decorate and that is absolutely haram. It's haram money. It's a major sin and should be avoided. Again, the grave is not a place for worship, visitation in that that type of visitation or declaration. Right?

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Kala and I'm an FCM Ratan Allah azza wa jal, I'm Luca and Allah Sadie. And he said he had cursed the one who turns a woman against her husband, or a slave against his owner at the time when people own slaves.

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The pertinent part here, the one we want to focus on is turned a woman against her husband.

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And how does this happen?

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He or she, they go to her and they say your husband is a, b, c, and d, do this and that to him, don't listen to him. Your husband is awful your husband, so she was okay with him. Right? Until that person came and gave her or gave that type of advice. And she started to hate him and showed it to resent him. It started to attack him, started to threaten him, right? So this relationship was spoiled because of that interference. Because there's really something going on because of that interference. So if he turns a woman against her husband, the prophets a lot, he was hilum curse that person.

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And you could imagine how destructive that behavior is. So this is also a message for anyone who's married male or female.

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Be careful when you listen to

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not everybody who's sitting next to you is a friend or if they are a friend wise, right? So maybe they maybe they don't want the best for you. Maybe they're envious of you happens right? The person sitting next to you could be very envious of you. You tell them mashallah I did this. This my husband, my kids that and they they say why?

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Or your husband said that to you or he must be this this this treat him this way.

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And so that naive woman or naive men, they start listening to it thinking that person really is giving them advice, and they turn against their wife, or they're saying that you're trying to dominate me and she's not but now he interpreted this way. I better put you in your place. Oh, okay. You're looking at other women. This is this is this is what all men do. Okay, now I'm going to do this. So they spoil that relationship. So you have to watch out for this. And you must not be a person who does that and give poisons is poisonous advice. And the curse of the prophets. Allah syndrome is waiting for someone who does that. Okay. Carla, and I'm gonna Tamara on February here,

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and he had cursed la salatu salam, the one who had * with his wife in the *. So that is a major sin and people that that's * *, right. So this should also be known anyone who is going to get married anyone who is married you should know that this is haram and not only haram, it is a major sin.

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Like it doesn't matter what people in society do and doesn't matter what they like or what they dislike. When you when you have a relationship with your wife who determines halal and haram in it.

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Allah azza wa jal and also the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. So you know this is halal, but this is haram.

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Okay, and if it's haram, it doesn't matter what

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society thinks of it or doesn't think of it if it's haram It's haram. See avoid it, right?

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Kala Anna Macbeth. mohajir rotten if you Rashi Zoji Hala, Anatel melodica. To be honey, you said that the one who abstains from her husband's bed, the angels will curse her until the morning. And what is abstaining from the husband's bed mean? Meaning he invites her for intimacy. And she said,

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And he said, It is Salatu was Salam, that because of that, the angels will curse her until the morning because this is one of the greatest, if not the greatest, right? that her husband has on her.

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Between the rights of male and female, right, husband and wife, one of the greatest right, if not the greatest, right? He has on her

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that she should listen to and obey. Is that call for intimacy? Right? And if you cannot meet maybe women, sometimes they don't comprehend that. But I think women and men understand why. Right? Men understand why. Because if that is not fulfilled,

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what is left?

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because the man one of the main reasons that a man marries is to escape the Haram because of the intensity of the desire.

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So if the woman says no, no, no, no, right? She's in a bad mood. No.

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And of course, on the one hand, we're not saying, you know, to, to everybody, I mean, no matter what, right? You got to ask her no matter what, but at the same time, we say to the woman, that this is one of the greatest obligations that Allah had put on you. A good good, good good mood or bad mood. That's not justification. Right? Because if you say no, Haram is the other option. And Allah azza wa jal hates that he understands the consequence of it. Why otherwise is there a curse associated with it? Right, because it is dangerous. Hello, Hola, Andaman Intesa ILAHA Uribe and he the one who cursed one who attributes his lineage to other than his father. He claims he's from a

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different father, a different tribe, a different lineage. He has a curse, because He is spoiling the lineages right and lying about where he came from. Welcome Ramona Shara Isla de Hebei, hottie that's in Finland melodica till I know he says he had told us at a Salatu was Salam is that when you point that your brother with a piece of weapon an iron, something that can hurt you point at him,

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the angels will curse you until you put it down.

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So what what can what kind of Hodeidah a piece of iron could be included in this? A sword, a knife? What else?

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Anything actually, anything that if you hold in your hand, if you were to stab him with it, punch him with it, it will hurt it will kill. It will injure anything, even if you're just intended to be funny. You know, I have some people do that with funny they just hold a knife and they said hahaha, right. And they point it at you. Right? And once you do tell them he said you know that the angels are cursing you at this moment put it down.

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But I'm just want to be funny.

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Is this but you don't know. Hola Hola, Shavasana. And you'll see if you call Becky you don't know maybe the shaytaan at that moment where you are most dangerous. They will say you know, just for fun job.

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Just do that. And you end up hurting him or killing him. Because of that possibility. It's cursed immediately. So you cannot a screwdriver. Whatever is in your hand. You don't toy with this.

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You don't point at your brother with something that can hurt him. And again, that's the sanctity of the Muslim soul and the Muslim body. Hello Hola, Anna and Saba. Sahaba.

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And he had cursed Alia Salatu was Salam, the one who insults or curses the sahaba. So he said Mensa was hobby for Allah, He Lana to Allah, He will mela Ekati were nasty hmm. And he says the one who insults my companions me the curse of Allah, and the angels and all people beyond him.

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Which tells you that the Sahaba of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam are a red line. That's what the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, a red line, you don't insult you don't curse, you Don't devalue the companions. If you know that he's a companion. He's an off limit. And we talked about this before and we said it does not mean on the one hand that they are infallible.

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Do they make mistakes? The Sahaba Yeah, of course. Do you want to talk about their mistakes? For what? You know, you know that they make mistakes? Fine, but you want to talk about their mistakes? What is the purpose behind it?

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Because somebody would come to you

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And he would say for instance, you know, you know, when sometimes when, you know, Omar fought with Ali and Ubercart, you know, said this to Al Abbas and then Fatima was, what do you want with all of that?

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You know, when the you know, he they said this and the Prophet said this to look around, what do you what do you want with all of that? Okay, fine. Maybe some of these things are authentic. But what do you want with all of this? When you focus on some of the negative which is minimal, and you forget all the positive? What is the reason you just want to poison us towards the Sahaba of the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam so you eventually start to hate them.

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It's a well documented path. It begins with a B and you know where z is going to end. Right? Hating mobile worker hazing and Omar not only that cursing Oba can carcinoma, as you eventually person will be like this. He himself deserving the curse of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam because he has transgressed

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and went against the advice of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam, right?

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He also said, still, the list is about to finish, but it's not yet. And he said that I know if you gotta be him, and if so they will all do Katara Hema, he said he had cursed in the Quran meaning Allah azza wa jal, the one who spreads corruption on the land and then severs his family ties and he also had careers the one who upsets him and upsets his messenger Allah His Salatu was Salam.

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It says whatever whoever rasool Allah Who okay and the word Allah Who here you have to translate it as upset him not harmed him, because he can harm Allah. Right? So you can harm the messenger la salata but you can harm Allah so wherever the law How do you have a video of Allah? Right? Because Allah azza wa jal says, In Medina you do not Allah Allah Sula, hula Anahola Fionnula here, so you can translate it as those who harm Allah and His Messenger, because he can harm Allah. So what is this the those who are upset Allah upset his messenger they receive, of course from Allah azza wa jal in the dunya and in the AF era.

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And he has said any course the one who withholds and conceals the evidence and the guidance that Allah Azza did has revealed, and he had cursed those who accuse the chaste naive women are fornication or adultery. Right?

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naive, chaste woman of fornication and adultery. And here, Allah filat laferla, here is a good type of Godzilla. To be naive here is good because you're naive of sin.

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Lovely, they don't know sin.

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Right. So you know, some of us weren't some of us are very worldly. They know every bad thing, even though you know, and it was maybe way in their past, or maybe they're still part of it. But if you mentioned any bad word, they know what it is any bad place. They know what it is. Any bad gesture. They know what it is.

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That's very worldly. You have others men and women. All right. They don't none of these things. Were like children mentioned a word. What does that mean?

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What does that mean? I've never heard that before. Maybe I've heard it but never really understood. Gesture. What does that mean?

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Some few words, places no clue what that means. being naive, like that is good. Not bad, doesn't mean that you're ignorant. They mentioned the name of a song what what is that? Right? A singer? What is that an actor a movie? What is that? They don't know. You're not dumb, right? You don't make people make you feel that you're uneducated, unaware, right? That type of naivety is good? Because you don't know sin. You don't know the sinners. It's a burden to know the sinners and sin. To have to think about them. They're in your head. Right. This is a panel I mean, some of the scholars have mentioned before, which I thought is interesting. It says

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it says looking at the faces of prostitutes is a sin. Nothing else just looking at the faces of prostitutes is that's a sin. Another sin nuts nuts punishment.

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Is Where did they take what did they take that take that from? From the story of Judah ah, you know, the one who was worshipping. And then his mother came and called him and he didn't and he says he didn't respond. He says he hola don't let him die until he sees the face faces of

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prostitutes. Don't let him die until he sees the faces of prostitutes. He's alone right in his hermitage where he's going to find the face see faces of prostitutes until when they dragged him in the market. And there were prostitutes in the market. He saw the faces of prostitutes as they say from the that's punishment to see the faces of prostitutes. That is

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So think how many of us is being punished because you're seeing their faces because their faces fill

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media, their waves,

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social media, even though they don't come and they're not prostituting themselves, meaning for money, but what they show of themselves, what they do for the sake of money, what they show of their bodies, what they're willing to do, as prostitution. And you see their faces and you consider yourself more educated, because you know his name and her name. So, being naive, actually, not even knowing them not even recognizing them. That's, that's being chased. So here a Prophet alayhi salatu salam is saying what do we have Muslim woman who are chased so naive and you come to them and you throw these false accusations against them of fornication of adultery, she knows this she does that.

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That's a curse from the prophet that is solid.

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And Allah Allah Masha Allah sebelah caffeine and that means Severian, Mina, Sabina, and he had cursed the one who had made or claims that the path of the disbelievers is better than the path of Muslims. And that is in reference to the people of the book when the polytheist would come in to ask them

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Are we better or Muhammad Ali is Salatu was Salam. They say you're better.

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So anyone who reproduces this today, and says that the path of the disbelievers, what they believe what they do what they practice, anything about them is better than Muslims. Islam I mean really slam is included in that course.

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Allah Allah Allah rasool Allah Azza wa Jalla, El Paso Lipset, Marathi will Murata attend Besu lips, SATA Rajul. He says he had courage to lay Salatu was Salam, the man who dresses like a woman and the woman who dresses like a man

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relevant or not irrelevant, because it's a major sin and It's haram.

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So anything that is peculiar to a female

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a man is not supposed to wear

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bracelets, jewelry, makeup, there's makeup, fermented dairy,

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there's makeup, fermented makeup, anything, right? That is female, even if a color becomes peculiar to have females who don't wear it.

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So you don't, you don't act feminine. You don't look. So what's the problem? If I look feminine? What happens if you look one particular way,

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you start acting like that. Right? Like if a person wears a dress, they start acting

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And the other way is true. If a female starts stressing like Camille, he starts acting what? Masculine,

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masculine, and it's not that it is with you or within you, you have the ability to be anything you can adapt to any, any trait. You could be here, you could be this or you could be that.

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It depends on how you

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look at yourself, what you dress, how you dress. So that's why, you know, one of the reasons why men are not allowed to wear gold or silk, things that are feminine, but females can't. So why, why you know, male can do this, no gold at all, no silk at all. Nothing feminine at all. Why?

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It's not for play is because there is a boundary, there has to be a boundary between what a man does and acts and what he wears, and women and never blurred it from childhood to adulthood.

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And if a person dresses in a certain way, and you say, Well, I have these feelings, maybe I am a female is no no, you're just being misguided and accepting whispers from the shaytaan act the way that the Prophet alayhi salatu salam wants from you. And then you're going to stop these feelings. These are whispers

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okay, but don't follow every impulse kind of at lands into your head. I am this thing. No. Carla Anna Ross, she will move the Shiva ish. And he had cursed at a Salatu was Salam. The one who gives a bribe takes a bribe. And so bribes are cursed also by the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. And he has said that he cursed other things as well. And he said, if nothing else,

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except for the fact that if one does this, he'd be satisfied that you'd be included in the curse of Allah and the curse of the Prophet and the angels. If not only for that you should avoid these sins and summers since because you know, if you're going to do any of this, include yourself, include yourself in a curse and say to yourself, do I want to be cursed?

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Do I want to be

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Among the people who are cursed, like every time when you are praying,

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right you will mark do belly homolog valine add this Surat, not this Don't make me among those who Allah is angry with and those who have deserves Allah's Anger. I mean, Allah is angry with and those who are astray. Don't make me of them. Don't make me of them. Don't make me of them, because these people who have been cursed.

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So if you're running away from that curse, you're running away from that path. Why do you bring back yourself to it by committing the sins and carrying in proportionality to your ad is a curse word, the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. So you say, Don't be satisfied with that course.

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And he also then he said, Wamena, the effects of sin, that it denies you the supplication of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam and the angels there.

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He says, Because Allah subhanho wa Taala

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he commanded His Prophet, to seek forgiveness for the believing men and women. And he said, and this is in describing the angels of Allah azza wa jal, and their dua. So I'll just translate the idea. He said, those who carry the Throne of Allah as his origin, meaning the angels, and those who are around him.

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They glorify Allah azza wa jal, and they praise Him and they believe in him and they ask forgiveness for those who believed and they say, a Robina, or Allah, even compassed everything in mercy and a knowledge so forgive those who had repented, and followed your path and protect them from hellfire and allow them entry into a Gardens of Eternity. And then he goes on on and then protect them from sins on and on and on. So he says this is a dua from the angels to the believers who had repented.

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And who had followed his book and the Sunnah of His Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam, and there is no other path other than those two. So you will not be included in that dua unless you have these qualities in you. Fairly ladina turbo turbo Sabetha.

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Alright, so if you're not among those who have repented and followed the path of Allah as origin, the angels are not praying for you. So he's saying when you sin, you receive less of the

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supplication and Doha of the angels.

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Now, what follows is a long Hadith,

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So I'll consult you

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should we do it now?

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I didn't finish yet. Should we do it now? Yes.

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Should we do it now? Do you have a little bit of energy? I'm the only problem is I'm not going to make it very long and shall tell you. Okay, but we'll try. We'll try. But if you're in the middle, you don't want to surrender. He says, stop, please stop. We'll stop in Sharla it's not a problem. So a woman Okhla batil. Ma say this from the punishment of sin. Right? What will will hurry narrated in his saw here, that the Prophet sallallaahu Salam would often say to his companions, did any one of us see a rope via a dream? He would ask them frequently Did anyone see a dream? Holler for your Casali? Hey, Masha, Allah, what are your costs? So they will tell him whatever dreams they saw. So

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you would often ask them, Do you see a dream? They'll tell him Yes. He'll give them the interpretation after they tell them what that dream was. And he says One morning he told us in our attorney, Leila Artheon, a says to came to me this night and it is a dream. You'll understand that it's a dream, they two came to me. And they asked me to go with them, and said, Move come with us. So he came.

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He says, When I came with them, I thought, you know, I don't know God Mode. The day I came upon a man I saw a man who was lying down, and someone was standing on top of him with a rock. And he would take his rock and he would hit his head with it. The man the lying was he would hit his head with it and breaks his head, then that rock would roll. He goes after the rock picks it up. By the time he comes back. That man's head would heal. So he would hit him again with it, it would roll and he would keep going on and on and on like this. Cut a hole to Lahoma he said Subhanallah What is this? He said come with this. Meaning, not going to tell you it yet. Come move with us. Hello says we went

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and we went upon a man we saw a man who's lying on his back. And someone on top of his head. He has a hook a metal hook. So he puts it in his mouth. And he rips it all the way to the back. And he does the same with his nose and he does the same with his eye. He does it to the right. And then he does it to the left and when he's done with the left the right is he

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yield. So you started doing it to the right again, and on and on and on.

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So I said Subhanallah and you imagine the prophets, all your cinemas, seeing this in the dream, you say subhanallah What is this? The first time he has seen this Subhanallah What is this? Who said Come with us come with us. It says when he came and he says for Athena, I'd like to know something like an oven. And people who you know, in, in villages, you know, what at dinner is something you would put to bake right bread and chicken and you know, meat in it.

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And he said, there is some screams and some noise in it. So I looked inside, and there are men and women that are naked and there is fire underneath. So when that fire reaches them, they would scream and wail. I said, Who are those he says, Come with me. He says one Telangana says we continue to go. So he says, I passed by a river we saw a river. It is read like blood.

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And in that river, there is someone who's swimming. And on the bank of that river, and the bank won't bond back of that river. There is a man that has a lot of stones with him. And with that swimmer comes close to him. He throws this rock at him. He opens his mouth, he swallows it and he goes swimming back. And he comes back opens his mouth and he swallow throws another rock at him and so on and so on. I said what what are who are those? He said Come with us.

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He said then we came and we saw someone who is very ugly looking as ugly as you could imagine a man an ugly as a man, you could see the ugliest. And he has a fire that he is kindling lighting up. And he's going around it said who is this? What is this? He said Come with us. He says we went on. And we came to a garden, right? That is very fertile, very green. And it had all the colors of the spring.

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All the beautiful colors of the spring. And then in that garden, there is one man that is very tall, I could hardly see his head, because he is so tall way up there. And he had a lot of children around him, as you know, as as many as you could see. And they say who is this? He says, Who is this? Who are these? I said come with us. So he said we walked we came to a great garden. I didn't say anything greater than that. They said a cent go up. So we ascended. And we saw a city that is going by that is built with one brick of gold and one brick of silver and so on. So we came to the door of that or to the gate of that city. And we asked for entry and we were allowed to entry. And we

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entered and we saw men in it. Half of them is as beautiful as you could see. And half of them is as awful as you could see as as ugly as you could see.

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And then these two who are with me, told them go and throw yourself or dip into that river. And so they went there and that river was

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completely white, right? completely white. So they went inside the river came they came out and that ugly parts had disappeared. So half of them were ugly, that ugly part had disappeared. They said then told me this is Jenna to Adam, this is the garden of eternity, what you're seeing that city that you ascended to was built with gold and silver that is the Garden of Eden, the garden of eternity. This is your house. This is your palace, Karla for some bizarre usoda So I looked up and there is a mound there is a palace like a white cloud. So I said

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they told me this is your house. And I told them about a colossal bukhoma May Allah bless you let me enter it. They said no, not now. You will enter it another ration it says no, you still have some time to live. When that is over, you'll enter. Okay. So he told them he said I saw from this night or in this night's incredible things. What did I see? He said, Now we will tell you it says the man that you've seen whose head has been broken with that rock he's the man who takes the Quran rejects it and he sleeps and he misses the obligation. Obligatory Salah. So he had taken he had learned the Quran, but he rejected it in practice, rejected in terms of belief, and also when it comes down to

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the salah. He is what he misses it because he's asleep. Okay. And the one that you cane, who's being torn, his face is being torn from the from the front to the back, mouth, and nose and eyes. Is it the person who leaves his house and he lies and his lies reaches the horizons of

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And as far as the naked men and women that you see in in the oven, these are the fornicators.

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And as the one who you've seen swimming in the river of blood and being swallowing rocks, he's the one who eats riba consumes riba

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they want to use seen who was ugly, who's lighting the fire and going around it. He's Malik, the keeper of hellfire. The one who is very tall, they're seen very tall man in the garden, that's Ibrahim, and a sinner. And the children that you had found around him is every child who dies upon the FITARA.

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So every child that dies around the peninsula is around Ibrahim. So some of the Muslims, he said, Oh, and how about what about the children of the polytheists, the disbelievers, he said, and the children of the polytheists, meaning that they are with them too. And as for the people, half of them were beautiful, and half of them are ugly. They are people who have done good deeds, and they have done that but done bad deeds, and Allah has legit forgave them. So half is good. That's the good part. That part that the did the part that is bad, ugly, that is the part deeds that they've done. That's how they will look at Allah as digit had forgave them. And that's why they dip inside

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that river and they come out, Hey, we finished it. It wasn't too bad, right? So

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this is the punishment were in Alberta.

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This is the punishment in Alberta and the prophets already Sydenham sides and have access to it in a dream. So here you have a window, and it's a small window into what's going to happen in Alberta, what people will experience in Alberta, right. So some of these sins, you can see the connection between the Act and the sin itself, right. So for instance, the person who

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is being hit on the head right with that rock, right? If you miss the Salah is because you miss it, because you're sleeping, and where do you sleep? What does it affect it affects the head. So when you favor this over the Salah, you receive punishment in that area. Right?

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And of course, especially if you take the Quran and you rejected comprehension understanding is in the head, she gets punched in the head, the person who lies and that lie reaches the horizons everywhere and it causes damage.

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So he gets punished with damage on his face the tool that he had used to spread those lies, right.

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The men and women who are naked

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and be there baking cooked or baked alive in that oven.

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What are they *?

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Right? Because this is what happens when you fornicator you become * unlawfully. And what is that heat? They cannot correlate it to the heat of shower. The heat that the heat of desire. It is that heat that propelled them to disobey Allah as the Dillon commit this major sin, Salah oxygen makes them taste the hate of hellfire as they will be the heat of desire. Right? So a person you know thinks oh, I'm just you know, it's fine is just Zina and it's think about it that a person will be cooked and they will be screaming and wailing in * and and hellfire right and that is just the browser.

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That's what I've seen is just the browser this is the thing of the Versa the browser has not just don't think of the browser which is in between the next life and this life in the grave. Don't think of it only in terms of what just a grave like this small no no it's it's a world on its own

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world on its own with full extent and only know maybe to Allah as ordered, right. But this is your water habit window into this is what's going to look this is what people will feel the one who is swimming right in that river of blood. Whenever he wants to come to the bank, he receives a rock that sends him back and so on the one who consumes rubber, see because the person who

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puts people in rubber traps them.

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They cannot they cannot escape it. You feel that you're going to come out and there's interest, see, keep swimming in it. Right? You never escape. So he never escapes that river. He wants to come out but not that sends him back. Like what he used to do to people. Right. So there is correspondence, Malik, the caretaker of hellfire then

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Ibrahim alayhis salam is taking care of the children who die on the fitrah right. So any child of a Muslim

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who dies with

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or puberty? What is ego?

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And that is a NEMA from Allah azza wa jal. Now the added benefit here in this narration is that the as the Prophet alayhi, Salam Abad, the children of the non Muslims, where do they go? He says similar fate. Now, the scholars disagree just as background information, the scholars disagree about what happens to their children of the non believers. So, some say you know, they go exactly where Muslim children would go and others say Allah knows best what's going to happen to them because that In another Hadith So the Prophet alayhi salatu salam said, Allahu Allah will be Mecca, Anwar Armenian, Allah knows what's going to happen to them, because Allah knows what they get, what

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they're going to do, what they were going to do. So Allah will judge them. So some scholars are of that opinion, some scholars are are of that opinion. Okay, so just for you to know in case you hear this opinion versus that, but according to this hadith, now, it says that they have the same fate as Muslim children, are most children born to Muslim parents, and the people who have done bad and good, they will also look like that, in that area. unless Allah azza wa jal forgives them. And if that happens, then Allah azza wa jal will take away that ugliness. And then of course, you have a short description of heaven, of what it's built, of how beautiful it is, and that the prophets of

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Allah it was in them wanted to go in, but he was told what you could see it but you cannot go in, you still have some days left on earth. So he was sent back, and he Salatu was Salam. So this is also something to keep in mind when a person thinks about sin. Think about how long a person will stay in the versa. And what that punishment could be and is it worth momentary pleasure for a person to experience years and decades and Allah them how long of punishment just for momentary an hour or two or a week or two of pleasure? So a little bit of patience saves you a lot of pain later on between the layers?

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So we'll stop here with Neela and let me know if you have questions or you want to add something but or not me no shop

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other hobbies that allow them to go.

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Now, so the other opinion and that's why I didn't say it, I've did not explore it because I thought maybe a person would ask it. So as far as women who are,

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are they denied

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grave visitations or not. So one opinion said they cannot period. Another opinion said no they can.

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Because the prophets of Allah Azza wa sallam said, come to know how to command zrt and for booty for Zulu, hi, I forbade you visiting the graves, but now visit them. So they said that's inclusive and male and females. So they say, Well, what about this hadith, the Waratah Ebola and Allah azza wa jal, kobold, may Allah and of course, the female visitors of the grave, they said that the form here that is used is a water the orphan, the ones who do it often. So they say if they do it once in a while, avoiding all the prohibitions of

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visiting the grave, so they don't commit any sin. And it's not often they say, they're allowed to,

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I don't hear the distinction between burial time or non burial time, as long as they can hold their emotions that they don't say anything that upsets Allah as if they know that they cannot hold it together. They shouldn't. They shouldn't. So there is this opinion, and there is that opinion. Okay. And they're both have scholars behind them.

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Does that answer your question?

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I saw another

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What do we know about it? I mean, some of the some of the things that we discussed here, right and the beginning of it is the questioning of the grave. So I will cop and then you will see your place in heaven or a person who is condemned or who is to be punished. He will see his place in hellfire, a portal will be open between him and whatever place is going to be. And then we also know that the believers will have access to Jana. So their souls will be inside birds in Jannah. So it means that they have connection they have entry they have. They are familiar with portions of Ghana, right. So what do we know is limited, we don't know a whole lot and

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That tells us something but it's far beyond what we know. So that is what I recall at this moment

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different sins or different punishments

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Nam so can a person have a different punishment for a sin mentioned in this hadith, but could you punish differently? Right?

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Oh, yeah, yeah. So could a person received punishment in the bursa for a sin that wasn't mentioned? Yeah. Yeah, definitely. Because as long as they deserve some punishment, they may receive it in the Barossa or they may receive it in the next life. So we don't know exactly how or what that punishment may be a lawyer yeah

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since curses are connected to them,

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if a person is a sin, and then his first word

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is there any redemption for that?

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Example? Yeah.

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Insha Allah. So if the brother is asking if a person is included in that course, that the Prophet sallallaahu Salam had issued pon the

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doer of that sin, is there a way out? So that he could avoid that sin? And how what would the process be? And because it's a major sin,

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the path out of a major sin is repentance. So if a person repents from that sin sincerely and makes up for it, then he would avoid the curse because the curses well person who does this, so if you stop and Allah forgives it, and you're doing good deeds right to make up for the bad deeds that you've done in Al Hasan at youth ministry, yet the bad the good deeds, they just erase the bad deeds. Then Allah azza wa jal forgives that person and he is no longer included in that curse because he is no longer sinful or responsible for it ALLAH forgive him. Yeah.

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like this,

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school bus was sold

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is certain cities where the punishments get expedited in this life.

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One of them is that this child was like, disobedient to

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their parents.

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And then there's another heavy to learn. You

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sold on us

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it was good for our person. The expedite, the question is like, a few rows back from the state right, we stays the same for the next month. So like,

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like Chandi disobedience, an example of other

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students that

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was before I get it, just for kind of sake of brevity. Insha Allah so I don't have to repeat everything you said? Or shall I just answer your question? No, it isn't. Because if you understand the spirit of the hunter first Hadith, it's opposite the spirit of the other Hadith. The spirit of the first Hadith indicates that as a punishment, right, and the spirit of the next Hadith indicates that as part of Allah's mercy, so being unbeautiful to your parent or Katya to Rahim, and hate that hastening punishment indicates that Allah is angry with the person right? So you should avoid it. Whereas the other one is says Allah will hasten that for you and that is good for your haste and

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punishment and that is good for you. That indicates Rama

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so the spirit of both are different. So they're not the same. Not connected

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appears to disobey the child or three people one and two are careless and one of them is the child who's disobedient to parents right. So that so the person who is

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making that syndrome or the law that all chocolate, their gods, the parents and the receipts punishment is life, right? Will they be punished in the next life?

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Sentence or Will they still be fined? So if

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A person who was awful to their parents most of their life and they repent from it, will they still receive punishment for it in the next life or not? So, if they repent, they repent between them and Allah has xojo. And if that repentance is sincere, Allah accepts it from them. What is left is the right of parents, the parents has to forgive him.

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So if they forgive them, he's not punished. If they don't forgive him, he still has to be brought to account for what he had done to them. So two things Allah azza wa jal can forgive you. But the Parents also need to forgive you.

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Let me see in Charlotte, just tackle this question.

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In reference to when a woman spends the night away from the bed of her husband, angels cursor until morning, how can spouses have a fair conversations on this and maintain being merciful and compassionate to one another? And does the sin extend to the husband who refuses to share intimacy with his wife? So, of course, when you hear a hadith like this, it should

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influence how you think and influence your actions, right? So a curse is not something to take lightly. Because because it's a major sin, it means that I will do my best to comply with the advice of the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam and to what, avoid that sin on the part of the husband, right? We advocate being understanding right? Now, I'm not gonna take anything from responsibility put on the wife, we're not saying Oh, him being understanding, meaning that take advantage of it. No. Okay, so it's like if I can have the husbands in one room and just talk to them without the wives listening, and other vice versa. So the husband you say, Try to be understanding,

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accommodating, understand her psychology and her needs, and this and this, and this, and this and this, right? Because it's not an issue of, I'm going to call it to bed and if not, Allah will curse you. And if you do that every single time, that is what repellent? He's not gonna like it. Right? It's not something that is appealing. So you have to understand, is this how the Prophet alayhi salatu salam acted? Right? No, he's using the Hadith against her every night. No, no, she's begin to hate this. So we have to understand there has to be mercy and there has to be compassion. So it's a complicated relationship is not one where you just holding the Hadith as a hammer and saying, You

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got to do it, you got to do it, you got to do it. At the same time, the hadith is there to tell you, you got to do it.

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You understand?

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The hadith is also there to tell you, you got to do it. Why, because of the evil consequences of that is not pursued. So on the one on the part of the wife, you understand the gravity of that responsibility. So as long as you can do it, as long as it's possible, you don't abstain.

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If you reach a point where it's really difficult, you can then have a conversation with your husband, and you will find him to be with the law as understanding, just like and as much as you are understanding when he cannot perform some of his responsibilities. So if he finds you understanding, you'll find him understanding, right?

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But if you like understanding, he will like it, or if he likes it, she will like it.

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So here we're talking about the basics, but the basics, don't tell the whole story. But it tells you how you should act. They do tell you how should act? Does it work otherwise, meaning for the husband? Who's not intimate with the wife? No, it doesn't work, because the need is not the same. Even though the wife has rights upon the husband, but he has to be intimate with her right? But it's not the same intensity. That's why these don't see the prophets a lot he was sent him saying, and he will be cursed if he does something similar to that. No, so it's not the same. Okay, so why are the lack of equality here? Because there's definite lack of equality, right? Why the lack of equality,

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because the condition is not the same. And when the condition is not the same is not fair to be equal.

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You understand? So you can't tell for instance, I can't I see this person is very strong, very muscular, and this person is very tiny. And tell them both of you carry the same weight.

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That's equal, right.

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But it's not fair.

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It's equal but it's not fair. So Allah has written this prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam, right? They don't pursue equality or equality is unfair.

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They pursue justice and wisdom. So here Allah as certain as Prophet that is salatu salam they know best. So rather than take this in a confrontation on men versus women, no

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