Ramadan the Mindset, the Obstacles, and the Goals
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the things that I want to do in sha Allah today is not it's simply being a lecture but I will ask you in sha Allah for your input in terms of questions in terms of ideas in terms of things that you want us to talk about.
And before to get us started one thing that I mentioned in the hotbar that I wanted to stress
with Nila, as is kind of the mood that we are in and in which we will be receiving Ramadan. So every Ramadan is slightly different than the other one, isn't it?
Every Ramadan is slightly different because that Ramadan finds you in a different position in life. One of these Ramadan's will be when you're young, another one when you're married another one when you have a child, right? Another one when you're in debt. The other one when you're doing well, another one where, for some reason, you're just in the mood for Ramadan. And for a Buddha and another one where you have to be dragged into them, you're still the same person. But it's a very different mode and a different very different attitude and a very different level of iman, based on how we lived the whole year, but also based on what is happening in your life, the stage of life
that you're in, whether you're happy or sad, whether you're frustrated or motivated, so that Ramadan will encounter you in very different moods. And some of us may get very anxious when Ramadan is about to come in terms of what in terms of Am I ready? Right for it when it happens. Can I fast? Can I pray? I used to do it in the past, but now I find myself maybe distant or unwell, unwilling to move or not really motivated. So can I drag extract myself, it's an it's a process of extraction, from Adan. Because if you're doing one thing throughout the year, and then Ramadan comes in, you need to shut it all off and move to do something else. That is what
difficult, right? Like it's a change, of course, and is so drastic that I've never or read the Quran throughout the year now you're expecting me to sit and read the Quran? How is this gonna happen?
It's challenging or not. Right? And so you get into this struggle with yourself that I'm supposed to like it. Right? But I'm not. It's supposed to be easy, is supposed to be inspirational, but I'm struggling with it, struggling just to sit and read, struggling to concentrate, not finding myself having that much joy in the read of the Quran yet. So emphasize yet. So you begin to blame yourself and it becomes a cycle of defeatism that is, I'm not good enough. This is not working. Fasting is too hard. So you stop. And you go back to the same cycle that you had before Ramadan, because that's the cycle that motivated you with inspiration and happiness and joy, where as the Ramadan and
everything around the Ramadan is difficult
and challenging. So you have first to do to realize that any change of course, okay, is going to be difficult. So if you're embarking on a new you a new you, right?
If not going to be easy, right? So if anybody is smoking and they want to quit smoking, is that going to be easy in the first few days? Right? And what happens to you when you say I want to quit smoking? Not the Any guess right? I don't know. But what happens right when you want to quit smoking, you physically don't feel well. Right? And you have this I'm sorry. Headaches, right? So physically, you know, well, headaches, you're not. You're very moody and cranky, right? Okay, can't tolerate anyone talking to you. So does that mean that you should stop and go back to smoking? No, but these are the steps necessary to detoxify your
Self from that in order to be a healthier person, right. So think also of things that we are used to eating, that are also going to make us cranky and moody in the first days of Ramadan, example sugar, right? If you're used to eating sugar, right, it's part of your daily intake. And then you stop it, what happens to some of the some of the very same things that he talked about, you could get headaches, you'd be moody, you'd be cranky, and be difficult in the beginning until your body adjusts to it, because it's sort of an addiction of sore until you overcome it. And then when you overcome it, you enter into a new normal, right?
If this is true about the physical, and it's absolutely true, right, that it will challenge you. So you'll get the headache maybe the first day or the second day, then you're better. You get, you know, a body fatigue, you don't have really tired, your schedule is not really right. Sleeping is a problem, especially like you come towards the end of it. So it's all striving. But first of all, think about it that the more you strive, the more Allah what
rewards you, right? So find remember this because then you will find sweetness in the struggle.
And that is beautiful, by the way, right? You find sweetness in the struggle, so you have a headache. If you simply have a headache, and you hate the fact that you have a headache, that compounds the problem.
It becomes taller, it's miserable, to tolerate that headache, he can take any pain, relief, he can't you know, do anything, take caffeine to be able to help you just there with the headache while you're fasting. But if you take the fact in that Allah rewards you more because you are suffering at this moment, that becomes what more tolerable sweeter, and that idea brings you closer to Allah xojo Because now Allah is rewarding me more because of it more so then your neighbor or your brother or sister, same house, who is not struggling as much. So the struggle in itself is beautiful. So if we are struggling physically, and Allah rewards us for it, and we're saying there's difficulty in it,
how about let's call it the non physical struggle, struggle,
the emotional and the psychological and the religious struggle where it's hard to stop something that could be sinful, and turn to a cleaner life that Allah has Zota loves so before you can use to hang out with people who are fun, but sinful
to man, they're fun in your in your mind to you, they're fun,
cool to hang with, but they are sinful. So when you extract yourself from their company, you will feel what alone until you find an alternative but that adjustment is difficult if you used to listen to something that used to give you what you think is happiness and joy but now in Ramadan you're gonna stop or now Ramadan you cannot talk to so and so or now in Ramadan, you cannot going to visit this particular app or this particular site. So you find yourself your time, empty, right? And dry. So what are you supposed to do?
First of all, you ask yourself, Is this not jihad?
This Jihad Am I not leaving these things for the sake of Allah?
Yes. So then ask Allah for assistance and don't give up by saying this is too hard. I'm going to quit or this is too hard. Well that you know kind of innocence taints the whole Ramadan experience. No, you say I'm leaving these things to be conscious of it. I'm leaving this for the sake of Allah. Ya Allah I ask you Allah Who MK fina Behala alikhan Hara Mika, was an inner Be Fugly. Kanmon Siva, yeah, Allah suffices with the halal so that we don't need the Haram and enrich us with Your favors, so that we don't need others. So the halogen should be sufficient. But because we've gotten used to other things that are contaminating our lives, we want the contamination all the time. So the
Ramadan allows you to withdraw.
But that would roll itself needs patience. And that's why Ramadan is called the month of Sobor the month of patience. Let me ask you how do you learn patience in Ramadan? That's kind of the interactive phase now how do you learn patience in Ramallah, by what?
By fasting so you want to eat and you see No, that's a practice practical patients, not not lectures that you hear practical patients. Now that's one level but also
So you want to say something you want to fight with someone or so remember the heady that we mentioned in the hotbar, where the Prophet sallallaahu, Selim said that you're not supposed to engage in profanity or to be loud and argumentative. So somebody wants to fight with you. You can This is very practical. There's a reputation that people have for Ramadan, that they are crankier in Ramadan. So they are more argumentative. Because they're fasting. Right? And in one sense, maybe biologically, it's true in the first few days become angrier because you don't have enough food you go don't have enough sugar, that's maybe biologically the case. But Islamically should it be? No, it
should be the opposite. Not like, I'm worse, in Ramadan, in terms of manners, it should be better. So don't go back home and fight with your spouse or fight with your children with the excuse that I'm fasting, the prophets of Allah, he was hitting me saying that when you are fasting, as if you are clothing yourself with a body that asks you not to shout,
there is no shouting, and also no arguments. And it was easy to apply this outside.
But even inside the house, you don't argue with your spouse, you don't argue with your parents, you don't argue with your children. Except of course, if you need to tell them something and teach them that's different. But talking a bit about argumentative posture, I need to be right. No, you will hold your tongue. And when you learn that you learn patience, and when you learn that you will learn patience also in other ways as well. Because when you say to yourself, no, stop.
Something better is waiting for you. You can say things and other avenues as well when it comes to what you're seeing what you're listening to, to your company to the places that you're visit to what your plans for the future are, you can say no to yourself. Right? So obviously, there's a period of adjustment. So if you're feeling right, because you're on we have been following one path in life and Ramadan is going to ask us to follow another path, if you feeling anxious or burdened don't and the first step in sha Allah is to say what as we said that the shaytaan is going to blow and magnify your anxieties and burden. So when you are feeling a burden when it comes to any type of a bad, it
could be a hijab, by the way right. So a sister who did not put the hijab on thinking that if I put the hijab on what would people say
and how will I live and it will be too restricting? And so all of these thoughts come into her head to stop her from what
putting the hijab on right? So that's what the shaytaan wants. So if the shaytaan can operate from now, till Ramadan to stop you from Ramadan, then he will do his best. So you say no, for go any anxiety and any any apprehension and say oh the bIllahi min ash shaytaan Rajim from these types of thoughts, and try from now on in sha Allah to start adopting and it's never too late to start adopting some of the things that you want to do in Ramadan gradually, so Ramadan is not such a shock.
So what is it that you want to do introduce it gradually, even even if there are just a couple of days before Ramadan, but it will give you a taste of what is coming and it will allow you to an easier transition into Ramadan and ask Allah for support. Whenever you fear something. Ask Allah for support the Allahumma inna is indeed part of the dua of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam after each Salah Allahumma inni Allah de carica or Shoukry Kawa husen Ariba the tick your Allah assist me to do what Vic Rica to remember you are sure Kritika Auntie Thank you. Well, history balletic and to worship you well, so without Allah's assistance for Eva, you will not be able to worship Allah.
Well, so ask ALLAH that for fasting or any other Hosni Siyam Yeah, Allah allow me to fast well, and to pray well in Ramadan, and to make dua, and all of these things. So that is a point that I wanted to address in sha Allah. And if you have want to bring it up again in questions, please do. So that's one, the other one that I want to bring, which is related to this one. It is idealism. So sometimes that is a trap. You hear all these things about Ramadan, and then you start planning in your head. And I don't know if you some of us have these idealistic perfectionist personalities that you want to do everything. So you begin to plan in your head that you want to do everything and you
don't want to waste a minute. And when you start fasting, you find that the reality of it is far more challenging than the plan that you had in your head, and that some of the days that you will fast
will be difficult days. So let me ask you I mean did have you encountered these types of days? The difficult days? So what are these difficult days like what happens without you know, sharing too much of a personal experience but tell me what do these personal days feel like difficult days
I'll just share one thing that comes to mind you're sick basically, you're just way too tired to be able to fast or I mean to be able to make a lot of dua or to be able to pray at night basically, you're simply tired or maybe sick that's a difficult day. What's another difficult day that you may have encountered
or not you somebody else? If it's too personal
Long hours in hot places, right? When you really have too fast long, right? And you get so tired and especially he said if the day is hot, right, that's a very difficult day of fasting by the end right you just out of energy. That's a difficult day that's a struggle just to fast and conclude that day.
Some days you just simply not in the mood
and sometimes at hamdulillah you're energetic and you can fast and you want to go to them as did some days. For some reason Allah Allah am why he just not in the mood. It's not clicking, you go to the mystery, you can really concentrate. So that is typical. That is to be expected. That's part of the struggle because your Eman has to go up and it has to come down.
Our hope insha Allah is to keep the Eman high as much as possible. And when it drops, it doesn't drop too low. But drop it must. So what do you do in the Iman drops and you don't not in the mood? Okay, you don't feel like it? What do you do? So you must have also some kind of strategy. You don't necessarily have to push yourself as much as when you had your Eman. Hi, you won't be able to but you do what you do enough. You do enough in terms of the obligations and especially in Ramadan, you do enough in terms of some of the sunnah to maintain continuity. Right. So when your Eman is high, maybe on the last days of Ramadan last nights of Ramadan, you'll be able to pray the entire third of
the nights especially when there is clear man tahajjud for you. What if there's one of those nights especially early on? Because I'm hoping that we'll be able to push ourselves more in the last 10 nights but what if one of the early nights of Ramadan you don't feel it luck like pm a lot. You can pray a lot. What is the minimum that you can do that at least will satisfy that definition of PM.
So you pray to Asia to man
and the Sunnah of Asia to work as so what is the minimum definition of Korea that it will allow you to participate in the Hadith of the prophets Allah He was a lemon camara Madonna Iman and YT Saba will feel Allah who might have had them and then be the one who will pray the nights of Ramadan, Eman and YT Saba out of belief in Allah anticipating his rewards Allah will forgive him his past sins. So what is that minimum?
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I share in February in the masjid is wonderful. And I'll and I'll emphasize that now.
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half of the night and the one who prays it in Fajr and Gemma as if he prayed the whole night, the whole night. So you can say to yourself, right Aisha and Fajr in Gemma.
That is a price by the way. And sometimes when you give yourself right, a little bit of space just to recover. It comes back to help you the next day because you have energy so Aisha and feathered in Gemma. So that's the first thing and then I asked how many Iraq as of Sooners and the brothers said accurately he said to rock as and Witter
Supre in addition to the limited February pre Toorak as you want them to be long they can they want them to be medium you can you want them to be short, they can pray to a gas and then add water to the winter you can make it to America or you can make it three rockets that is up to you.
But that's the minimum of the for you to have what year Ramadan consistently. Now I tell you that if Allah offers you this, should you miss it?
No, because we're talking to
Got the minimum of what three Iraq as two and one, two and one, two and one. Now hopefully, that's not going to be your normal salah. But that is when you are weak allows you to do this so that you can just relax, you can do other things. And then in sha Allah the next day, you will be in a better position to continue. So think about it in terms of yes, you want to have a great plan for Ramadan. But realize that you're not going to be able to achieve all of it immediately. Because you need to what build up to it. And accept days that will be challenging except days where you will be tired and defeated except days where it's not going to go where the way that you want. Don't go back and
blame yourself and say it's your fault. You wasted a day of Ramadan you wasted the night of Ramadan, if there is good knew you would have done this and that because this negative talk is only going to demoralize you but rather than say subhanallah it had to happen this is human I'll try best or better tomorrow.
I'll try bad be better tomorrow and keep going like that and engage in a burger right and vary the a burger. So that also you don't feel tired.
Right? So we talked about this previously even the the hotbar or in halacha but the one of the easiest Abraham does in Ramadan is the decree of Allah azza wa jal
right, the vicar of Allah which does not require a lot of things from you, there is no time there is no space there is no Waldo, there is no facing of the Qibla it could be done everywhere but the Dhikr of Allah azza wa jal, so you pick a vicar of Allah, and like Subhan Allah Al Hamdulillah, Allah, Allah Allahu Allahu Akbar, Allah Hola, La Quwata illa Billah, as to who lost the fear Allah stuff your Allah, and you see as much of that as you can, and especially go to one of the hours because you need a an authentic source for your vicar and your DUA has no Muslim download has no Muslim app, or similar apps that distinguish the authentic from a non authentic and then download
that and read the earth card that are there and also take from that the DUA that you can read in the month of Ramadan. Now, you could favor some of these two apps. So you could always go back to them in the app, you could write them on a piece of paper or in a notebook so that you could always open it and say, This is my daily portion of, I'll ask Allah for this, this, this, this this, but that makes sure that you at least have a program for and a program for thicker, but thicker than if you are tired, if you're not in the mood, you can't come to the masjid, et cetera, et cetera. You can always stuff it'll last for Allah stuff for Allah Al Hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah. And what you will
find is that this will elevate your fasting.
Like the quality of your fast will increase, because you have brought the words of ALLAH, the name of Allah, His praise into your life and into your tongue. And the Dhikr of Allah azza wa jal also gives you energy and motivation.
So again, with the Hadith, when faultily model the Allahu Allah as the prophets, Allah Allahu Allahu alayhi wa sallam for a servant, because of her tasks at home. Were too much for her. So Ali and Fawlty model the Allahu Anhu they come with the s of the prophets, Allah wa salam like it, can you spare? Do you have a servant that you could send to us who could help us? And what did he tell them? Allah, His Salatu was Salam to do that is better than a servant,
that you will see before you go to bed. Subhanallah hamdu lillah Allahu Akbar. So SubhanAllah 33 times Al Hamdulillah 33 times Allahu Akbar 34 times he says, If you do this, that is better for you than a servant. So I want you to think about this, and kind of absorb it. When you're asking for an assistant like a human being to come and assist you, you know that they can do a lot to help, say, Allah. They, this is his daughter. And no and then he loved her. You know that right? He loved her at a Salatu was Salam so much. So this is the daughter coming asking the Father, can you help me now the father at this point, if he could do anything to help her he would like just like a child of
yours, especially a daughter was coming to you for help. You will say I will do my best to help you better
Rather than look for someone, a person who can assist he say this is better.
This is better. Meaning that they're saying that the vicar of Allah azza wa jal gives the person energy to do what they cannot do otherwise,
especially if they are consistent with it, that they see this every night. And keep doing that gives them energy that they could not have without. So in the fast itself, that is a thicker that you should hold on to, before you go to bed. That so the thicket of Allah azza wa jal before you go to bed, remember those of course they are, of course, and then the app, it will have that
after you pray your Fudger, right, you stay. Now it's up to you and to your schedule. He says to me, at a minimum stay to read these UScar of the morning. And those who have more energy and more power and more time, you can stay from February to sunrise, right? remembering Allah azza wa jal and the prophets are seldom. So he used to do that. And the Sahaba they used to do that.
And you have the earth car between acid and mercury. So you can recite that just before mercury, if you want, or right after also designate the time that works for you, and your obligations around the house.
But also, as you read these Earth car, and you approach the time of IFLA engage into as well, because he said Allah is Salatu was Salam when he saw me individually he that our to learn, the fasting person, at his time of breaking fast, has a supplication that will not be rejected. So for that day for each day, what is your supplication? That is not being Nila gonna be rejected? What are you asking for?
Now you're going to be asking for the dunya and it's permissible, the Allah college university wife children
better job but you could we ask him for the dunya and that is permissible. But also, what is more worthy is asking for the akhira. So asking to stay away from the Haram if the Haram is plaguing us, asking for more pleasure in performance of a badass if that is eluding us and you pray and you drift
or the Salah is you don't pray on time. And you want Allah Azza to help you with that ask Allah for it and make that your concern the entire month. That's a constant do I Allah help me help me with this. So locate that thing that you really need from Allah xojo You really need it, especially am emphasizing in terms of Ava and in terms of your fate in the next life, what is the thing that is missing?
So locate that. So it could be as I said, Salah when our regular with it, or a haram that we commit continuously without repentance or a sin that I was not able to ask Allah for forgiveness for
hola hola. Number it is but or a character also the o'clock character, anger hazard arrogance. ask Allah for that. Or you're having issues or worried about your children. You ask Allah for it. You want to get married? Ask Allah when you want a pious woman or a pious man you ask Allah for it. So all of that, keep asking Allah for that. So yes, the dunya but the era is better and more lasting. Right is better and more lasting. So the more that you remember Allah azza wa jal, the more that you will be close to him and the better your fasting is. And as I said, schedule it. Schedule it so that you don't miss it. And be aware of thieves who steal your time.
What is that? Haha, yeah, social media, right? Because it's a habit. You get bored and tired. You're in a read the Quran. So guaranteed if you begin to read the Quran and your phone next is next to you. You won't be able to finish a page or two. Right? It's very hard because you start reading and your mind wanders, and you get tired a little bit and bored and he said, let me check what so and so said, maybe he sent me something. And before you know it, you've lost an hour. Right? Play Why did this happen? Because it's habit. First of all, that thing is very tempting and addictive. And you did not separate yourself from it. None of you need to separate physically yourself from your phone
and discipline yourself by saying I'm going to sit and read for the next day.
Then or 20 or 30 minutes, sit and read. And then once you finish, then maybe you can go on you can look at things that are halal on social media or otherwise, but discipline yourself so that you could do things or a better that pleases Allah azza wa jal and you could vary that a bladder so it does not burden you in the beginning. So reading the Quran that's one thing, but have also a book of Hadith.
And as we said, reenable Salah Hain summarize, Bukhari summarized Muslim, you know, put a bookmark there, I'm going to finish the chapter on fasting good, that is very helpful, by the way, that when you flip through, and you read the virtue of fasting, and it reminds you again of why you're doing these things, remind you again, of what Allah wants from you, a rewards that are waiting for you, that improves the fast motivates you to faster better. So you move from the Quran, you move to Hadith, you move to another book of biographies or the sayings of the pious or the biography of Muhammad Alayhi Salatu was Salam. I'm not telling you that you're going to spend all your time doing
these things and only these things, but when you introduce a healthy dose of Quran and Hadith and useful information, yourself begins to change.
And when you withdraw from what upsets Allah azza wa jal, the more and more that you do this when you move on to social media, and you'll look at some of the trivial and ridiculous things that people are posting and liking and talking about, you'll see what is this and how is it that I was so drawn drawn into this, like that, that triviality superficial living and commenting whatever, how was it that I was so drawn into this, while we did not know because we lived in the midst of it all. So you did not know the the mistake of of a society or a culture until you extract yourself and see it from the outside. So Ramadan is that beautiful process of extraction from what Allah hates, and
allowing yourself to see and experience the world in a very different place? Different way, but it has to happen with determination. So be so be aware of YouTube that is going to steal you away from a badass watching one video after the other. If you want to go on YouTube, be selective
and have a purpose. I'll watch these lectures and watch these people because that thing is going to help me other things they say, at least say after a Mullah at least in the hope that by the time that you arrive at the end of Ramadan, maybe you're not going to find them as attractive and as appealing. Right? But at least say delay it, can we not? We delayed food right? We delayed eating and drinking. So why can want not delay these things and say okay, there will come a time maybe then, but not now. Now take advantage of the fact that Ramadan offers you the best opportunity in the entire year to be better and to change. Why not take advantage of that.
Okay, so yes, push yourself. And when you find yourself, it's after some time you got tired, you got bored a little bit, go and do something halal. Go and do something entertaining, avoid the Haram in it inside the house, outside the house, things on YouTube things on social media, but again, be very selective and away from the Haram know that people that you're following, don't allow your eyes to wander. And if you can't, if you can't put this line between halal and haram avoid it for now. Avoid it for now and limit that influence so that you could see the change of Ramadan. Right. And in terms in terms of you know, staying away from my terms, this is one of the things that were helpful always
is that that practical guidance that one of the Silloth had offered his student as they were walking or as they were traveling, and his student on a travel as he said, in a hot day got thirsty and they didn't have any water with them. So they reached a well, and the student wanted to drink. And he said Lisa Abadi says not yet continue. And they kept walking, and still thirsty, both of them and they reached another well, and he said, I want to drink from this one. He says Not yet. And then they kept working until they reach the third well, and when they reached the third dwelling, he said now drink and he drank from it. And he said Cavalli could dunya he says just like the dunya this is
exactly like the dunya and what did he mean? Is that if you say to yourself, no, it will follow you.
It will listen to you right? If you say to yourself, no, it will listen to you
And if you're patient with sin and say no to it and bypass it, it will go it will follow you. So whenever you see something attractive say no to it, no to it no to it and eventually you'll reach a stage where you can drink
that that point could be either that you've reached the halal or you've reached what Jana
so eventually you are going to drink right eventually you're going to eat eventually you are going to get you know everything that you desire in this life, but yet eventually you're going to get something that satisfies you.
But not that haram so either you wait for the halal if it's on earth or you wait till you meet Allah zodat but he that's what he's saying when you command yourself and forbid yourself it will follow you so fasting tells you exactly the same teaches you exactly the same story that don't eat don't eat now eat don't drink don't now you can drink right so it's the same thing not to this haram no to this haram. So discipline of the self right
now I want to stop here a little bit and I want to see if you have questions or if you have things you should do you think we should talk about because I think I do benefit from your feedback and questions a whole lot inshallah. So in terms of you know, struggles that people face in Ramadan concerns that people have in Ramadan or if you have simply questions or if you have advice of you knowing and doing things in Ramadan that helped you and you think if people do that, I think it will help them as well. So let me hear from you Julia.
to the bottle Quran. So to emphasize the double of the Quran.
So the double of the Quran is kind of the contemplating the meaning of that Allah azza wa jal had has in the eyes and the consequences of that for you. So you've read so if you read a story, right? You listen to it in the Torah, we let's say, or in a recitation,
or, you know, you're reading it yourself. And Allah as the title tells you the story of Benwick Surah, Al tells you the story of Pharaoh tells you the story of the prophets of Allah, or the destructions of some of the nations. So how is this story relevant to you right now? What do you take from it?
Because obviously, Allah azza wa jal had told you that story. And think about it. Allah had told you that story, right?
You understand what I'm saying? Allah azza wa jal had told you this story, in what sense that first of all, the Quran is the word of Allah who is the word of Allah azza wa jal. Now when you happen to have read that story,
right that day, or neither of Ramadan or you've listened to it, and you understood the meaning here, Allah azza wa jal is talking to you. Because at that particular moment you read it, and the meaning reached you so Allah was talking to you. Right? So any feel,
that that reality that Allah azza wa jal in that moment, had talked to you with that story. Has speaking to you with that story, is conveying something to you with that story. Like, not exactly like but like, when Allah as though did would reveal to Muhammad Ali his Salatu was Salam do this and do not do that he was talking to him, right? And he understood that this is coming from Allah azza wa jal. So when you hear the Quran and the story has reached you, and you understand it, then Allah is talking to you about it, then the question is, what does Allah want you to do with that story? What do you learn from it?
How do you not repeat the mistakes of the people of the past? How do you listen to the prophets of Allah as their followers did? What are the consequences of you, after you listen to that story? So that is the double that the brother was referring to. And the more that you engage with the Quran in that matter, the more that it be relevant, and very beautiful, because the Quran then will become a conversation between you and Allah azza wa jal, Allah tells you what to do. And you take it and you think about it, and it starts changing your life.
Right? So if it commands you to be patient, if it can ask you to be generous if it commands you to be forgiving. What do you do with that?
You become more forgiving. You practice forgiveness, and you spread that around you. If it commands you to be more thankful for the name of Allah and to for you to notice them. You start counting the damage of Allah and noticing them. So you respond
and you're being reshaped by the words of Allah azza wa jal. So sad this is something that is beautiful. And what's interesting is that the thing that should draw you to the Quran should not be only the beauty of the voice
of the reciter.
The voice of the reciter is important. Yeah. Yeah, right, Gani. The Prophet sallallahu sallam said the Anita noble Quran, meaning that beautify the Quran with your voices. So it is important, right? But if you stop there, and only there, it'd be as if you're listening to a singer, because you're only interested in the melody
that is a very superficial
level of engaging with the Crown listening to the Quran, that you just simply wanting somebody to sing.
And you will do when they have these competitions, right? This is I'm critical to a degree of the competitions that they have with the Quran, what will be evaluated based on the beauty of the recitation meaning just simply the voice? Okay? The voice is a gift from Allah as though to know if you use it, to bring people to the masjid so that they are their hearts are in tuned with the Quran, then that is a good way.
But if simply in competition to see who has a better voice, or who cares, really, who cares who has a better voice? But so is your engagement of the Quran simply because of the voice? No, the voice is an invitation and entry point or Allah brings you in it allows you to sit and listen. Because naturally Why would attracted to beautiful voices right naturally. But now after now you're listening becomes the second thing. The second thing is now I'm here, I'm listening, learn from it. Right. So
what was a thought talking about before this?
Did the board right? So that the duckboard is you need to take the message of the Quran beyond just simple recitation Allah said this, and he forbade that Allah wants us to act in this way. And he wants us to bring his closest to him Subhana wa taala. And all of the Quran by the way, if you want to talk about like the greatest, greatest greatest message of the Quran is the love of Allah azza wa jal, it is knowing Allah better
knowing Allah with his names and attributes, so you will hear a Rahman of Rahim and Salim al Habib, Aziz al Hakim and all that that is the most common thing in the Quran. The names and attributes of Allah azza wa jal concludes almost every i the names and attributes of Allah so Allah Quran revolves around Allah azza wa jal and what we owe him by, you know, in terms of a baddha, but a better also free to marry for meaning knowing him and loving him. subhanho wa taala. So what you want really out of this fasting and out of the Quran, is the love of Allah is to feel that Allah zoodle Is everything in your life.
And these are words, what I'm saying, just telling you telling you now, Allah is everything in your life, these are words, but they will not mean anything, until you begin to feel it yourself. Right? You know, like, I don't know, if you've heard your parents tell you, when kind of they're frustrated with you, they'll tell you wait till you have children yourself, and then you'll know what I'm talking about. Right? Right. Because they understand the difference between not having children and then having children and having your life transformed by the presence of this new entity that you love more than you ever thought you could love someone and you worry about more than you worry about
anybody. So it transforms you. So when you tell the child that the child says or whatever, they don't really care until they have a children, the child themselves, and then begin to relate to your experience with them because now they go through the same thing. And they remember all I remember when my father did that to me, and did this at destiny, and they start Subhanallah to reproduce some of the things that that parent did and said to them, like they model the same thing that their parents did. Right?
So you so we can just say love Allah loving Allah is the most important thing until Allah is everything in our lives but until somebody actually does it, do the just gonna be words for a lot of us. But when you really love Allah as though did until you feel that Allah is enough for you,
I don't need anyone or anything else. And whatever Allah gives me, is the thing that I need and I don't need anything else. And the promises of Allah azza wa jal filled me with such happiness and joy and excitement that I cannot wait to see him.
Subhan Allah to Allah and Jana is more important than
this life and whatever it's promising that is the message of the Quran so it requires the burden Pires engagement Zachman live something else anybody would like to add totally
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so Hey sighs Malik and won't be able to kind of repeat everything that you said but you got to a point there of how there are things that you read in the Quran and once you read them when you get to no
insights or let's say archaeological evidence from other nations and other religions and it tells you of how it ties to the Quran in ways that kind of escape your understanding before then it tells you I this is why Allah azza wa jal put it there because it's like a lucky like a lie.
blessings of hiding
hiding hiding lessons from your guardian or guardian
Okay, so, so so your height so you got blessings and you're hiding those blessings from home? Exactly.
Parents, okay, so why would you hide it from their from their parents is a reason.
Okay, okay. Okay, so if you have blood, so Allah blesses you with something and you hide that from your parents. I mean, I don't imagine that there is a reason to hide that from your parents because they will be happy for you. Right? And so there is really no reason to have that that kind of attitude to say that you need to hide them from your parents.
Very tiny minority might have a very complicated relationship with their parents, especially if their parents are not on the straight path or Muslims. That's a different kind of circumstance I think. But in general if a person has Muslim good Muslim parents that actually they'll be happy whenever Allah is Ever blesses you because they will be asking for it. So it will please them inshallah
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what do we mean
this type of also they attended the law we have another tahajjud
Okay, okay, so we're talking about Vidya Tama Okay. Insha Allah so the first question is, if a person is praying to Allah we in Gemma meaning in the masjid, but he does not in the last 10 nights of Ramadan does not pray tahajjud does that mean that he had missed the leader to Qatar or to Amrita to Qatar? No, because Tara we and tahajjud are equivalent. They're like they're exactly the same thing. The only difference is the time. So if the time is after Isha directly we call it tarawih. If the time is late at night after you sleep and then wake up, that is called tahajjud. Both of them are TM.
Both of them are TM so you pray the big
inning of the night middle of the night the last part of the night. It's all TM. Is that clear inshallah so yeah, it's only the names are different based on when it happens. But other than that so if you pray it in Gemma with with the Imam Tara we did not miss Priam of later two other boys Nila soldier. So that's the first question. The second one is talking about the fifth year if a person cannot fast the days of Ramadan, so we're assuming that that person
no longer has the ability to fast. The fifth year is a person who no longer has the ability to fast meaning if you're not safe, if you are sick and Ramadan, you have to break your fast, but later on, you expect that you will be healthy again you'll be able to fast then you wait, there's no failure, you wait and then you make up those days after when you're healthy. If a person is unable to fast anymore, because they are sick, or they are old, right, then they have to pay the fifth year and the fifth year is what that you will feed a needy person per each day that you've missed. So will be for a person who cannot 29 or 30 days of feeding. So we will feed one needy person for each day. So what
is feeding a needy person is that you take a meal equivalent to our average meal that you eat an average meal that you eat not the best and not the worst. Okay, the average meal and you will feed that to needy people. So you can do this yourself if you want or you can you know deputize ask some other people to do it on your behalf it could be the masjid it could be people of charity there's make sure that it comes out I mean a charitable organization just make sure that it comes out as food not money and that you're feeding 29 or 30 people depending on the days of Ramadan
Does that make sense
you can you can wait you can wait you can do it by the end of each day. So day by day right? Or you can wait till the end of the month and pay it all in one sum.
Right make sense? And shall and so either will day by day if you want or by the end of the month you could pay it all in once
the beginning of the month so some of the some of the vocal ha because they said it's not an obligation yet because he did not break your fast that's what they're saying. No, you did not violate anything or you did not an obligation on you. So what are you paying for? So they say easily either a day by day or by the end of it right Laura?
Anyone else you'd like to add something insha Allah even advice strategies things you say worked for you? Oh yeah.
alone the kids and teenagers, so they want to start from this time and they want to start and
what is the best to find out? Is it just from this will continue throughout, they won't be able to maybe finish to look at the best thing
right, so the question is that it is difficult for non Arabs for, for them to understand the Quran. So because they still have to translation So language is a barrier, right? So that's one and add to that the difficulty that the teenagers and the young will have to be able to relate to the Quran. So you're asking about how they could have a better to the broader contemplation understanding of the Quran
so I mean, let's say that
they will need first of all, like anyone who wants to have the bar of the Quran, this is a good question because then when we talk about the bar also we need to talk about tools that will assist us. So if you speak Arabic, and you couldn't read Arabic, of course, you have many more tools to help you because you will have to go to some sort of tafsir a commentary that will explain the idea and then maybe even extract some of this evidence for you. Or at or if not, but at least clarify the meaning of some of the is not necessary.
Only every single idea, but as an English speaker, and only as an English speaker who does not understand Arabic, you need a translation. And you also need and the thing is to be helpful and kind of see that can extract the benefits that you have in the Quran. So starting from Surah Al Baqarah, if the if the child has stamina and has stomach to at least finish one single surah in the in the in Ramadan would be beautiful, even if just one surah. Right? If they're not that that level yet than the 30 if part of the Quran that has the shorter source, and it's more Medcom. And it doesn't go into fic and law, right. So if he could start with the 30th, or from the 29th, or the 28th, but
whatever you think you could finish, but at least it's a portion that they can say to themselves, I read this, and I understood it, and I was able to take lessons from it. So the reason I recommended this a while back right there's the translated complete translation of Sita Sadie
and the beauty of Tafseer to Sadie even in Arabic, right and in English Inshallah, and I hope that that translation did not look at it myself, but that that translation is
good enough that it was able to convey what he's saying is that he does focus on lessons. It's not long. But he talks about he talks about and the lesson from this and a lesson from that and he expands the meaning of the idea to include everybody, right? It's not just the people that happened to them, but also us today. So what I've seen is Saudi whoever has it, or whoever can buy it, or you know, it's probably also available online for those who cannot afford it. But reading that Tafseer insha Allah will help you can unlock what has been locked from the Quran. So Yanni, if they have the stomach to do Surah Al Baqarah then that's beautiful because Surah Al Baqarah is really important
right? But if they do not do that cannot do that and they're young than the 30th part of the Quran because they already have memorized a lot of it right so with Tafseer Sati I think insha Allah would be something beautiful and chill
clear relation specifically to bones for kids
but in clear language run ladies
and it takes lessons for kids those two volumes a teenager
okay, so brother is recommending the translation the clear Quran by Dr. Mustafa tab and then also you said that he has lessons for kids. That's that addition
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believe it. Okay? Okay.
Okay, so this is addition specifically targeting children and teenagers insha Allah so it's not the whole Quran that specific edition for them. Inshallah, so that's an easy thing that you can purchase and give to them in sha Allah.
Allah Quran Salam
Zach, here, so you're talking about kind of prioritizing the theory of the over the Sunnah. So he's saying that people rush to, and they value taraweeh but they miss Miss Asia? Or they go for tahajjud and they miss Fajr. And definitely that happens because we in the gym, Ah, right. Right. And that definitely happens because federal army because there are we had 200 are new, and everybody's talking about it. Whereas Fajr and Asia, the happens all the year, so there's nothing special about them. So because they become so routine, they get overlooked, although Asia and Fajr are more important than that. Are we handed tahajjud so that definitely right? If you are going to
break the head, good. But Miss Fajr we say no, do the opposite. Pray 200 at home by the 10 Fajr in JAMA. Now if you can do both, then do both right. But if you're going to attend one Fajr is better than tahajjud. And if you're going to do one either Aisha or two
Are we in German then do Asia better than tarawih and that is a really a good point about a global fake because the person you know, goes in life with priorities that he gets from Allah azza wa jal, not from people and not from himself. So everybody's excited about tarawih Han who's leading the Salah, and he has a beautiful voice and this and that and how that overshadows Asia that's a mistake is that you don't don't follow it people do rather Isha and then tarawih Rachel first and then tarawih comes Federer first and then 200 comes and whoever can do all for Gemma and Husna could lie and he did you know the best of everybody. But if you have to be selective back pick the best of the
best and the best of the best always is for either in JAMA more than sunnah in Gemma radical perfect so this is good. And then also
when you come to the salah things in short logistics keep in mind, don't overeat in Madrid, right don't you know shock yourself with so much food that you can stand you can think so eat light, right you can eat you can come back and eat later. Like if you really want to eat you can come back and eat later or eat for yourself. So it's not gonna go away, but for Iftar stay light. So take your dates and break your day you know fast on dates or on water, relax a little bit prayer for a Maghrib eat a little bit and then give yourself time to go to the masjid so that you could be there in time not rushing into Salah and missing some of Asia. So come to it you pray your Isha you pray your
tarawih you're focused you're ready and when you're done you can go home in sha Allah and food will be waiting for you but it's important that when you come you give yourself time because when you come to the salah you don't want to rush you want to have the dignity of the Salah with you and you have want to have the concentration of the Salah with you Baraka Luffy
this is about but based on the selection of the message right which mistake should you select to pre end so there missed it that has a bigger Gemma and a mystery that has a slower I mean
a fewer Gemma, the this is one of the categories that would help you choose because the more that you have, the better the more that you have Gemini in msgid that is better. But that's not the only criteria that will help you. So for instance,
a place that is closer to the Sunnah would be better, a place where you find your heart closer to Allah azza wa jal than the other message it would be better a place that does not maybe burden you as much so you can catch Aisha from the tech Bay versus another would you'd have to miss a tech beer or the first raka that first is better. So all these criteria play a factor in the selection the best of them the best of them is that when you are have the greatest shoot that's the place where you should pray the greatest for sure. And then on top of that if that place has more people than that's even better and better right, but it may not be that low inshallah okay
Nam insha Allah so blood work withdrawing blood for for just an examination does not affect your fasting insha Allah because the amount that comes out is not that much. Okay, so it's not a big amount in sha Allah. So if you have to do that test, you can do it in Shell.
more people crying when the chef's making numbness
or making the same crying game that is. For example, the IMA has talked about in Toba Prophet Muhammad
the Prophet telling him
so the past No
no, no, no, no, no. So it's like a lie. So you're pointing out to kind of a an anomaly, which are where people he's saying medical Luffy that you find them in tarawih. It's common that when there is dua in the Tarawera, especially along to people start
crying really like they a lot of people start crying but when throughout the reading of the Quran in terra we have very few people do. So there's more crying and more reactions when you come to the DUA, but far less winded so the Quran is being recited whereas it's supposed to be what? The opposite? Yeah neither do is just one person who is giving to and asking Allah azza wa jal, but the Quran are the words of Allah azza wa jal. So, it's because people are primed for that. Yeah. And they themselves have primed themselves for what that when the dua is gonna be there, that's my time for crying. So they concentrate and one person cries and the rest cry, right? So that's what
happens. Where as the fact should be what the Quran is the thing that when you actually think about it, that's the thing that should move you to cry, but people are waiting for and people actually beg and they want that too, because they want that crying. And the more that you extend the DUA, and the more that the Imam cries and the more that people cry, the better that night was right? Although that's not the sooner the sooner should be a short dua that is asking from Allah xojo Not a performance. Right? We don't have time to talk about it, but we have turned taraweeh into a performance and as somebody like a theatrical performance, it's theater, because the person comes in
the Imam knows they want me to make a long do they have to cry, so he makes sure that he makes them cry by saying and screaming yell Allah. Yeah, there's Yeah, they're right. Right. So whatever your heart is not gonna be made of stone you will cry. But then why? He knows what he has to do. They know what they want. They insist, but that's not the Sunnah. The Muhammad Ali is salatu salam did he pray like that? He didn't pray like this that would be short at the end. But the length and the meat of the Salah is given to the Quran. Right? So Subhan Allah is like Allah here that's that's a very keen observation and we don't have time in sha Allah to do more. So about Allah will you Allah
configure Ramadan May Allah azza wa jal lesson Ramadan for all of us and give us the mafia and the eight from a knot in it Subhanak along with him take a shadow into it I learned the stuff you don't get to be liquid hamdulillah
Allah Allahu Akbar Allah