Channel: Mufti Menk
Series: Mufti Menk - Ramadan 2016
Ramadan 1437H 2016 from Bosmont Masjid in Johannesburg, South Africa, 3rd Talk.
This episode started with a reminder that everything happen per the plan of Allah therefore we should not take supplication out of our plan when facing difficult situations or success because Allah wants us to call out to Him.
Another salient point in this episodes is warfare. Muslims are told to fight in within limits by Allah. The people to fight are those who fight them and not those who do not fight them, women, children, those who put their weapon down, those who turn their back etc. There is chao in the world because killers don’t know why they are killing and those they kill don’t know why they are being killed.
Allah also told us to do what is beneficial to us and avoid what is harmful to us. We should be happy when corrected and not arrogant but dare to improve. One of the salient issue is about marriage and divorce.
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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatu
smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah He was happy here Jemaine All praise is indeed due to Allah subhanho wa Taala blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire household, all his companions, we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to bless them all without exception, and to bless every single one of us without exception and our offspring, those to come up to the end of time. May Allah subhanho wa Taala keep them steadfast. And may He make them from among those who achieve Jana as well. I mean, my brothers and sisters, many times we have problems and difficulties we face issues in our lives, it's only
normal and natural, nothing will happen exactly. Our plan, things happen as per the plan of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So, some people deal with it in different ways. Some will tell you that you know, I have a problem, I have an issue. This issue. I spoke to this person, I have a contact in this department, I spoke to that person I did this with this one. I went to this doctor, I went to the top doctor in the world, I got a loan from a wealthy businessman and so on. I'm sure we hear this and we hear these things at times people say I went to the bank and Mashallah you know, I got a loan, I'm only paying 6% but I got a loan, not realizing that what they are doing is actually Haram.
Sometimes, however, even if it is something permissible, that just remember, never takes application out of the equation, no matter what it is always make to call out to Allah keep on calling out to Allah. If it is a doctor, and you have got the top doctor in the whole world. It is only by the help of Allah subhanho wa Taala that that doctor will be able to diagnose the sickness and we'll be able to perhaps carry out the procedure if a procedure is required in a way that it is successful. It is only Allah subhanho wa Taala in our hands is the trial, but in the hands of Allah is the success or failure of that particular trial. So it's important for us to note that Allah subhanho wa Taala
wants us to call out to him at all times. Call out to Allah. When Allah has made a need in your life. It's because he loves you because he wants you to cry to him. That's the reason you haven't cried enough to Allah subhanho wa Taala those tears that will result in your entry into Jelena those are the tears that you are meant to be allowing to flow down your cheeks Subhana Allah
when it comes to Allah subhanho wa Taala being called out to he loves it so much that sometimes he keeps us in a difficult situation so that we keep calling out to him. A lot of us we have a disease what's the disease, when we are in need we made to our we come for Salah we become pious, we become close to Allah, the minute the need is not there anymore, everything flowing, everything smooth. We are wealthy and healthy. And we've got everything flowing as per our wish for a little bit of time for a temporary period we tend to forget Allah subhanho wa Taala until he strikes once again for us it seems negative but in actual fact, it is not. Verse number 186 of surah Allah subhanho wa Taala
tells Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam something very interesting. What either as I like
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win when my worshipers asked you about me tell them that I am very near. That's what Allah is saying. When my worship has asked you about me, tell them I am very near. I respond to the call of the one who simply Cates, me whenever he calls out to me, I respond. I know that he has called on and I know I have the solution for his problem. But I also know that that response is as per my wish, not his wish. I know what is better for him. It is something amazing my brothers and sisters keep calling out to Allah Allah says for in the Caribbean, Eg Buddha to die either Dan, I am close. I answered the call of the caller whenever he calls out to me supplicates it's important to keep
making dua, but sometimes we make dua and we tend to feel that Allah subhanho wa Taala has not responded. It's the weakness of our Eman. My brothers and sisters let's realize Allah says something very powerful.
fenley, StG buli so let them respond to me. That's what I say. They call out to me I will respond to them. But what about them? When I've called out to them? Have they responded to me? That's the question. We want Allah subhanho wa Taala. To respond to all our drawers, we want goodness, we want health, we want the spouse, we want happiness. We want children, we want good children, we want wealth, we want so many other things. But when Allah says Get out for Salah, we could not be bothered. When Allah says dress appropriately, we could not be bothered. When Allah says fast properly, we could not be bothered, stop the pornography, we could not be bothered. Stop the
gambling and the clubs. We are not bothered stop the drugs we are not bothered. So Allah says let them respond to me. It's something important for us.
It is more important for us to answer Allah. Allah does not need us. We need a man desperately. He doesn't need us at all. So let's remember never be fooled
by thinking that oh, I am the one who's supposed to be calling out to Allah. Allah has asked you things Allah has instructed you so many instructions, where are you with the call of Allah. If you were to respond to the call of Allah, Allah will respond to you instantly you will understand the plan of Allah Whenever you call out to Him. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease and this is why he says when you mean ob, let them believe in me they need to believe they need to understand when I've instructed something it is in order to save them from evil it is in order to protect them from harm. It is not in order to make them suffer when Allah says get up early in the morning for
Salah it's not so that you can suffer also that you lose sleep Not at all. It is the best possible thing for you but you don't know Allah. If I had to prove it medically that Salah is extremely healthy for you. Everyone would be here for Allah Subhana Allah. But why is it when Allah says it? It's not sufficient.
Love May Allah forgive us.
So this is a very powerful reminder for us to be saved from Hellfire to be saved from the difficulties to get our doors answered by Allah subhanho wa Taala. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about something very interesting regarding warfare. You and I know today on the globe, people are trying to spoil the image of Islam. People are doing acts that are gruesome and unacceptable in the name of Islam. People are perpetrating heinous crimes and claiming that the Quran teaches these crimes may not at all, never. Allah subhanho wa Taala allows every nation, Allah subhanho wa Taala allows the nation to have an army, it is only correct for a nation to have an army to defend it.
That's correct. That is valid. But even then army that belongs to the nation is not allowed to just perpetrate crimes, and do as they wish just because they claim to be the army of the land. Not at all. They are rules governing combat. They are rules governing what they should do. You and I our name sometimes is spoiled not because we've done something someone did something they happen to be Muslim. We happen to be Muslim, although we don't agree with what they've done. Because we are Muslim. We are just painted with the same brush across the globe. In order to save ourselves from this we need to understand the message of Allah subhanho wa Taala Yes, if a thief comes to you,
you're allowed to save yourself, defend yourself. If someone is attacking you, you're allowed to defend yourself you must if you die in the process, you die what we know as a Shaheed a martyr, because you've defended yourself, Your Honor, your dignity, your family and so on your wealth and whatnot. This is known as martyrdom, but at the same time, what do we do need to realize Allah subhanho wa Taala says in verse number 192, Papa,
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potty Luna kumala Tata do fighting the cause of Allah, those who fight you, and don't go beyond the limits. If someone's not fighting you, you don't fight them. I cannot just pick up people and say these people are not Muslim. They don't deserve to be alive. Let's fight them. That's not correct. All of us some way up the ladder. We're not Muslim, our forefathers somewhere perhaps great great grandfather, someone taught them Islam, someone who was cared and bothered about them. That is how they accepted Islam. The same applies to many of us sitting here who might have reverted to Islam or those who are listening to this. Surely, if we had to teach people to eradicate non Muslims, we
wouldn't even have been Muslims ourselves, if we would have been eradicated A long time ago. So that is a wrong teaching a wrong understanding. Allah says fight those who fight you meaning defend yourself, those who are attacking you, you have every right to protect yourself. And Allah says what not to do, do not go beyond the limits. So Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam explains this in the narration in his words, he says well Natacha do don't go beyond the limits. Do not kill a woman do not kill a child do not harm an old man. Do not harm a person who does
Don't want to fight don't harm the one who puts his weapons down don't want to fight the one who has turned his back in his going away, don't fight the one who's gone into his house and closes his doors. Don't fight those who are in the monastery or in the church and so on. Today, people blow up the massage in the name of Islam. People blow up the churches in the name of Islam. Let's save ourselves, my brothers and sisters. Let's save ourselves from this type of calamity and disaster. It will result in chaos. And that's what has happened in some nations. Chaos. There is chaotic situation because people don't know why they are killing and people don't know why they are killed.
The Prophet sallallahu Sallam says there will come a time
when moto nofima a person won't know why they are killing and the one who is killed won't know why was killing. There is just chaos on Earth. If you take a look at the way people are perpetrating crimes in the name of Islam, absolutely unacceptable. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us defend the Ummah May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness, may he protect our lands, and may He make us not from among those who fight each other and disunite. Today, we are a force to be reckoned with billions of Muslims across the globe. All we need is a little bit of understanding a little bit of unity, some love, we will always have differences of opinion. That doesn't mean we don't love one
another. We can still love one another with differences of opinion. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a deeper understanding. Then we move on to saving ourselves from harming our own bodies. We spoke about the oma a moment ago. Sometimes people think you know I'm a wealthy person, I can do whatever I want with this wealth.
That's not true. Even if you are wealthy, you can only do what Allah wants you to do. only do that which is beneficial for you not harmful for you. Allah subhanho wa Taala says in verse number 195, of surah to Bukhara. Allah says, well,
spend in the cause of Allah spending in the places that Allah has asked you to spend and to not cause destruction to yourself with your own hands, you causing harm? And from this, the scholars say all these bad habits are prohibited. What are the bad habits, people who use their money to do that which is haram? To do that which is harmful to the body? Let me give you many examples I know from amongst us, like I said on Friday, there are four or five people who smoke May Allah subhanahu wa taala. Grant us goodness and ease. When I say smoking, I'm talking of ordinary cigarettes, maybe four or five people who are hardcore smokers. I hope the number is decreased. I have gone to
countries where it is banned to smoke. The whole country not allowed. You got special designated areas where you can go and smoke and many people don't smoke. I've been to cities where smoking is banned, banned completely. And you're not allowed to smoke you leave the city. I was in the city of Davao in the Philippines and Subhanallah you're not allowed to smoke not at all they say when the head of state came to that city. The mayor made sure that he left the city to smoke and he had to come back later. So Pamela we are muslimeen Come on my brothers and sisters I plead with you to quit smoking. I plead with you it is harmful for your health. A packet is not allowed to be sold legally
without the writing on it. Smoking kills one law he you can give it up you will save a lot of money, you will save a lot of resources and Allah May Allah subhanho wa Taala guide us all okay, that is light compared to drugs. What about drugs, you cannot just use your wealth to buy drugs and to abuse substances. For example, you cannot do that. So this is Allah subhanho wa Taala saying, Don't cause destruction to yourself with your own hands. And this applies even in situations when you're dealing with a situation save yourself the harm, save your body the harm, save your nation the harm by doing what by being wise, do not try and solve a problem in a way that creates two or 10 problems. You
solve it in a way that resolves the matter decreases it what increases it sometimes the methods we employ to solve a problem happen to create a disaster instead, may Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. Then we have yet another beautiful teaching regarding prayer. Do our supplication some people when they make dua like I mentioned yesterday, they only make dua for themselves. And I said yesterday we should be making to our for others as well. Today, I want to speak about another aspect of it some people when they make dua, they only ask Allah Subhana Allah tala. For goodness in this world, and they forget about the life of the day. They forget about the grave the punishment of
On so Allah makes mention of these people. Save yourselves from the fire of jahannam by asking Allah to save you from it. Like we said, You're calling out to Allah.
ask Allah constantly Oh Allah save me from the fire save me from the torment grant me Jenna or Allah save me from jahannam protect me from Jana from Hellfire and so on. So Allah says in verse number 200,
from among the people are those who say, Oh Allah give me in this world, they continue praying give me in this world give me in this world, but they have no portion in the hereafter nothing will remain for them in the hereafter. They never ever asked Allah for goodness in the hereafter. Then verse number 201 of the same surah Allah says, but from among the people they are those who know how to supplicate to Allah subhanho wa Taala wamena
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from among the people are those who say Oh Allah safeguard us, or grant us goodness in this world groundless goodness in the hereafter and safeguard us from Adana, the punishment of hellfire. Allah says those are the ones who will achieve They are the ones who will achieve a portion of what they are asking Allah subhanho wa Taala so let's learn to call out to Allah in the correct way. Then my brothers and sisters, when we are connected, it's important for us to take the correction Mashallah, I remember when I started leading the tarawih I met shift zaidan, Chef Ismail who are leading with me the tarawih this year. And I told him listen, if I make a mistake, you can yell the correction. I
don't feel bad. You can say it as loud as you want. I don't feel bad. I remember making an announcement in the semester that if you are having, please come forward. Do you remember me saying that the first night? Why? Because we want to be corrected. We don't feel bad. That's how we've improved ourselves over the years through correction. If you feel bad when you are corrected, you will never ever improve. Remember that. So don't be from among those who becomes arrogant when he is corrected and that makes him do the sin or that which is wrong even more and make leads him further into that particular wrong. That shouldn't be the case. We should be from among those who when we
are corrected. We are happy, we smile. We thank Allah Oh Allah someone has corrected me. It is reported that
Allah as powerful as he was ameerul momineen one day someone corrected him and the people were worried now this man is going to get it because you know, you correct him the ameerul momineen Allah He made it. He asked Allah subhanho wa Taala Oh ally, thank you that there are people who are still correcting the Amir Subhana Allah, Who are we, we none of us are Kumara on that level. We are we are not leaders on that particular level. So Allah speaks about hypocrites. And Allah speaks about those who become more arrogant when they are told fear Allah change your ways change your habits. My brothers and sisters, all of us need to be told we all need correction. Even if a child is
correcting you take the correction, thank Allah. Ibrahim alayhi salatu was Salam his father lost out because he did not take the advice of his son, the son was young. He became arrogant. He says No way. Who are you to tell me? Allah says verse number 206 suited to Bukhara why either Ilana was talking
to beneath me for high school.
When it is said to him speaking of the hypocrite, the deviant The one who is a stray fear Allah, what happens? pride overtakes him in the sin. He continues further indexing. Never let that happen. Allah says that person jahannam is sufficient for them. They don't want correction, what was their whole purpose? May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us from among those who can accept correction whenever we are corrected? Take heed Don't feel bad. Then Allah Subhana Allah, Allah speaks about hardships again, and he speaks about sovereign. Again. Notice every day we're talking about sovereign because it is one of the most important factors in the life of a Mormon of a believer.
Allah says verse number 214. Has HIPAA.
Do you really think you are going to go into paradise and we haven't yet tested you.
You're going to get an old level certificate or a matric certificate. Depending on what exam you are writing without writing the exam. You need to come we will test you we are going to have difficult questions then we will give you your results. So Allah says do you think you're going to get paradise while I'm
methadone levena fallone babine and that which came to those before you has not yet come to the tests, we tested those before you have not yet come to you Allah subhanho wa Jalla says, As for them must set rule Max
was Zulu, Zulu hardship and poverty overtook them and they were shaken,
including the messengers from among them. The messengers didn't say, when is the help of Allah going to come?
And Allah says, Allah
indeed the help of Allah is very near. the help of Allah is very near. Do not despair. Don't lose hope. Allah subhanho wa Taala is the greatest. My brothers and sisters in the next 10 minutes I would like to talk about the topic of marriage and Ballack Ballack meaning divorce. We need to save ourselves from marital discord by choosing the spouse for the right reasons. It doesn't mean the most handsome person is who you should run after all, the most pretty of the girls is the one whom you feel will be the best wife. Not necessarily. You need to look for character for conduct and for commitment to Allah. If there is commitment to Allah subhanho wa Taala it is known as Deen the
religion, the faith, the inclination to Allah. And if there is character and conduct, you will enjoy the person's company. This is what you need. So Allah subhanho wa Taala warns us and he speaks about divorce. He speaks about the rights of men and women, many people they come into the house and the man says I'm the boss here. I am the boss here. So you do exactly as I say you're a woman. You're supposed to be under me and I can tell you anything. Now come kiss my toes.
Jolla honestly there are people who do this there are people who say this. But Allah says investment but 228 of the Baccarat while I
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Indeed, for them meaningful the women are rights just like the men have rights, you need to fulfill each other's rights. Some of them are interlinked. Some of them are the same. Some of them the man has more rights than women. And some of them the woman has more rights than the men. This is a loss plan. So Allah says fulfill each other's rights, respect each other, help each other. Remember that is your spouse make life easy for them not difficult. And Allah subhanho wa Taala then speaks about the scenario where
the marriage is broken down. totally broken down. In the in the verses of Surah Baqarah. Allah subhanho wa Taala explains to us how divorce takes place. You only ever issue one o'clock if you really have to divorce your wife, or a woman, you need to only issue one pallet one, a lot of people think, Oh, I just rattle out this word face. And that's the way you divorce a person. That's wrong. That is actually a sinful way of doing things, you need to know that it's wrong, you only ever issue one talaq and thereafter, you are given approximately three months to reconcile if you wish, and if you haven't, then she can marry whom she wants. And as it is, your life continues. But if you have
reconciled within three months, Alhamdulillah you can take her back, and you can live once again. And then you issue a second follow up if you do not get along thereafter. After the second one, you only have the last meaning the third, when the third happens, you cannot get back to her. So people say I've divorced my wife twice. I can't get back to her. Why?
Well, you try once you try the second time. Now the third time, let someone else try so
perhaps they will get along with someone else the third time meaning
once you divorced, you issued one Palenque and then you left again, you didn't get along and everything broke down beyond repair, another talak went through it broke down again beyond repair. Now a third time if she marries someone else, perhaps they will be better qualities in that person. And if without your planning or interference, she happens to be divorced from the second person. It only makes sense that she will now appreciate you. The reason is she will realize this man had 20 weaknesses but the guy I went to after him had
200 weaknesses. So Pamela, this man used to smoke 10 cigarettes, that guy used to smoke 10 packets of cigarettes. Well, Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. So then when she comes back, she will appreciate it. So this is one of the very important points that Allah subhanho wa Taala raises. However,
when the period of a day is being passed, or is passing, Allah subhanho wa Taala warns us and Allah subhanho wa Taala says, you don't take back a woman in order to punish her. Some people say, you know what, I'm going to punish this woman, I'm not going to divorce her. I'm just going to keep her and let her hang on let her do what she wants us to villa. Did you know that she can actually get what is known as a fast, fast meaning she can get the nullification of that marriage?
She can, she can actually do it without you. Do you know that if she has legitimate reason, a lot of the women don't know this, because we've kept them in the dark. We don't want them to know this. But they can actually get a notification of that Nika. Allah says, keep them in goodness on good terms, or release them on good terms, but don't hold them back in order to punish them. That is mentioned. Verse number.
Three 251 of Serato Baqarah where Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Allah
do not hold them back in order to harm them, in order to punish them, release them, let them go, let them go happily with a smile, perhaps they will regret perhaps they will say no, this man was really a good man. Look, he released me and I'm gone. Whoa Subhana Allah, he didn't harm me. He didn't hurt me. And he didn't hold me back to punish me. So Alhamdulillah it was something good. However, let's remember my brothers and sisters, we save ourselves from the punishment of Allah. When you hold back a woman knowing that you don't want to but you don't want to release her. Allah will punish you at some stage in this world. And the next may or may not do that to us. May we not do that to anyone.
Then Allah subhanho wa Taala says something interesting to the fathers of the girls.
We all have dreams. We all have children, Masha Allah, may Allah bless those who don't have children, with children. But those of us who do when they grow older, we all have a dream. We want to get them married here. We want to get them married there and so on. But we don't realize sometimes they want to marry someone we didn't even expect. So if they want to marry that person, for as long as their Deen is in order, and their character is in order, let them get married. Because this child is not yours is actually a lost child. It's actually a loss worshiper. You are only a custodian for a period of time. Allah can take the child away at any time, you need to
fulfill that examination question, the answer needs to be correct. What is the question? Will you lend this amount of mine ally, St. Mary, according to what I have dictated? Or do you want to add your own flavor and pepper, whether it's racial or you know, a racial issue, or any other issue, tribal issue, sometimes it's an issue of nationalities and so many other things, all that we have made up it's not from Allah subhanho wa Taala.
Remember this? So Allah subhanho wa Taala warns us about this. But what is more difficult is when your child is married, and then she's divorced from that man, and she wants to go back to him. But you as a father or mother saying, No way, don't go back. No way. I'm not happy, I will disown you. I'm never going to talk to you again. And the child is saying But dad has got two children with this particular man. And you know what, I think it's okay, I will manage I will cook No way. We don't want Over my dead body. So now they're making their own law let this man die over his dead body.
We don't want that to happen. My brothers and sisters, listen to what Allah says. Allah says, fella da da
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verse number 232 of Surah Al Baqarah. Allah says, when the if that is over, they are divorced, do not stop them from getting married again to their spouses who they were divorced from. If they have agreed both of them are happy, they want to get back together. You don't block them. Imagine this is a verse of the Quran. And some of us go against him openly, clearly. blatantly. Never, don't ever go back analysing, let them go back. They know if they want to let them go. I want to say one last point before I close, let your child make a mistake rather than them becoming mad and depressed. Rather than your home breaking. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us all inshallah we will continue
tomorrow. Until then was Allahu wa salam ala nabina Muhammad Subhana Allah
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