Channel: Ali Albarghouthi
The importance and virtues of patience in human life
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The religion that Allah subhanho wa Taala revealed to humanity is built on the pillar of patience.
That is without patience, the religion of Allah cannot be practiced and it cannot be established.
And you'd find a testimony to the importance of patience as a pillar that Allah mentioned it in the Quran either as a direct command
or as a derivative of it more than 100 times sometimes commanding the Prophet sallallahu send them directly to have patience and trust in Allah subhanho wa Taala
so it is said
in a saying in a tradition, that patience is half of a man.
And in another tradition, or one of the scholars have commented he says the likeness of patients to Emad menza to submit an email and Kevin zero similar Jason, the likeness of patients to a man is like the head to the body
filler email and alleman la sobre la so the one who does not have patience, has no Eman. It's not possible for him to have Amen.
And you find that in testimony to that as well.
In the Surah Surah tell us
where a man was shefali amatola Allah He commented and said, had not revealed anything else but this surah it would have sufficed humanity.
Why is that? So? Because to complete yourself, you need two things you need knowledge and Eamonn and you need to implement that knowledge. Right. A Latina Muhammadu Buhari has so to complete yourself, you need a man and catch his good actions that completes you. But still, that is not enough because you're not living alone.
So you need to extend that message to others. You need to have data because if you do not have data to others, they're going to have data to you. They're going to call you to what they believe. So you better call them to what you believe and spread good, rather than the opposite. So Allah continues to work, I was so happy so they recommend the enjoying the command and have the truth. And Allah says also and also the command and enjoying and recommend patience, because you will receive opposition. And if you will be able to endure the spread of truth for me to spread, you need patience to accompany that.
So first of all, religion is built on patience. Second of all, Allah had built this universe on patience. Even a person is not religious, to be able to coexist with other humans, unit patients, you will not be able to get your way all the time. And you will find testimony of that in the Quran as well. Look at that iica jalna Baba company bottling fitness and
so we will have made you to each other a fitna a test to see Will You Be patient.
See, if you are surrounded,
in family, in your neighborhood, in the masjid in society with people who think like you act like you, then there would be no problems. Right? You will not need to struggle with anyone you don't need to convince anybody of anything, everybody thinks the same. If you say something, everybody agrees you do something, everybody goes with it. But you know that that is not the truth even within your family, you will find opposition sometimes and your workplace you will find opposition you come to them as if sometimes opposition different point of views on the street everywhere you will find opposite. So how will you be able to live with other humans? that some have power, you may not have
power or you might be the person of power and others don't have it? How will you behave
towards them? Some are poor, some are rich, some are by nature kind Some are by by nature are cruel, how will you behave? So these variations are a test from Allah subhana wa COVID
to see how much patience you have.
And you can see also the importance of patience.
And for instance, a saying of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam where he says in the hula MIPCOM he had he dunia ala fitna to know Bella Bella is sobre This is an igloo manager. He says the only thing that is left of this dunya our trials and misfortunes fitna and Bella, that is what is left of this to me. So now the Prophet What is he say? What should be your attitude? For I do so prepare patients for these misfortunes. So you're not supposed to sit idly waiting for the misfortune or misfortune to come and visit you for the test to come and visit you. You have to be ready actively ready for it? And how does he recommend Saul allottee? What do you send them that we
get ready for it? by cultivating patience?
So the question is this summer, how do we cultivate it? How do we practice it? What is it
and to be able to actually to cultivate or to be able to practice something we must understand its value First of all, so what is the value of patience? Why should we have patience?
And briefly we can say and this is a topic as I said more than 100 times as mentioned in the Quran. So we only are going to give ourselves today a taste of it, of why we should be patient, how we should be patient and so on.
To be able to actually understand the message of the Quran you need patience.
What Allah is saying to you in the Quran, you need patience, as Allah says in the theoretically it liquidus of God in Chico. Indeed, in those are Signs for everyone who is Subhadra oft, he is often patient, often thankful. So a person is often thankful and often patient and he has this combination.
He'll understand the signs of Allah subhana wa dallah If not, he may be prevented from understanding them. So to understand the Quran, Johnson, what does Allah mean and these these verses in this ayah in the Quran as a whole what is Allah one? Or if Allah sends signs your way, and things happening a particular way that you did not expect? Why are they happening in that particular way, if you don't have the patience, the mind to sit back and analyze and understand why Allah is moving in that direction, you may never understand it. So you need that. To be able to implement what Allah wants from you. You also need patience, as Allah says while you will not call her a Latina
highlevel hobnobbing with Allah commands some of the more difficult times and things in the Quran. If someone, someone sends to you some evil, repays you with evil, you can choose to repay him with evil as well. Or you can choose actually to be kind to them. And if you do that, that is transformative, that will change them from an enemy to a friend, as Allah says in the Quran.
He will turn from an enemy as if he is a dear friend
just because of your kindness, but who can do that could do this. Alina Sabo, those who have patience because they have to put their ego aside
and put forward what what Allah loves, and what is beneficial in the long term.
An example of this,
in both and it gives us both a value of patience, and also how to be patient
is when the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says,
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Allah is The Omen tiama.
This is a beautiful Hadith and the connection is amazing. He says the one who holds back his anger
and he's capable, he has the ability, right? to release it, to unleash it on people and do some damage. So this is the eighth, he's angry, and he can unleash that anger, nothing prevents him from it, but he unleashes, but he holds it back, what would be his reward on the Day of Judgment, he says Allah and the presence of all he will call him so he can choose from among any of the whole and holding a the woman of Paradise that he wishes to choose among.
And you can see here the you know, a the incredible connection between the first act and the second act, what is the connection
and the first act, he has a choice.
He's not afraid to unleash the anger and punish the other person. He's not more powerful. This person, I am not weaker, I am more powerful than the other person or or we are of equal power and status in society. So I can damage I can insult
but he holds it back and he buries it deep inside. So there is a choice and hiding of anger. On the day of judgment, what Allah will do is that he will give them a choice, but a sweet choice, because the first choice was better.
It's better to hold back your anger, it's better to be patient. That's why also the call the bitter medicine in Arabic sub or the bitter plant in Arabic, also salt because it has bitterness to it.
So that shows is bitter, so like gives him a sweet choice of the Day of Judgment. And because he hid his anger, he buried his anger, Allah announces his virtue to everyone. So each person who is confronted with such situation, can ask himself, I have a choice. I can take my rights right now in this dunya right now this moment, where I can wait and delay gratification, delay my reward till I meet Allah subhanaw taala. And if I do this,
then my reward my recompense, the consequence would be 1000 times better than whatever I will gain right now.
So an essence, or a motivation for patients, brothers and sisters is for the person to look beyond the immediate
at what Allah subhanaw taala has in store for him or her.
And that is vital in patient in patients in southern
Africa long as we are focused on the here and now I want my right.
I want to hurt someone, I want to do what I want.
I can't stay away from this particular thing because I am so attached to it as long as we are trapped by the here and now. We cannot be patient.
But when we expand our vision and we include in it, what's going to happen five years from now 10 years from now, on the day of judgment.
Allah tells his prophet first with in no other light when I started.
He tells him be patient. The promise of Allah is true.
Now Allah did not give him at that time, the promise that he's going to see the fulfillment of his dour
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Mr. Jerome is going to show you some of what we have promised them are you going to die before that? eventually they're going to come back to us. So when his dad was alive,
Hollywood cinema in any person in his life, or when he's making data to Allah, you may not see the consequences, but it does not matter. Because the ultimate consequences when you meet Allah subhanho wa Taala.
And it may take time, and it will give you a story that happened in the time of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and the story is famous. But maybe the last part of it may not be famous.
This is the story
of Abu talhah, or the Allah Who,
who came home.
But he did not know that his son has passed away.
And his wife, who already knew that the son had passed away, and the son was actually in the house.
She had the presence of mind, she had the patience, to first of all, prepare dinner for him. She didn't tell him about what has happened to his son. She was actually taking care of his feelings. Can you imagine, you know a mother who lost a child. And she's the one who was actually taking care of the feelings of the husband. It's not the other way around. She says, first of all, she prepares dinner for him. So he eats that she beautifies herself for him and they are gay get intimate. So he satisfied from that area also as well. And when they are eating, she presents him with an argument to mentally prepare him for what he's going to hear. He says, if somebody we have these neighbors,
and they borrowed such and such from somebody, and then the original owner came back for the borrowed, and they resisted, and they did not want to give it back. And he said these are bad neighbors. These are bad people, because they know that this is not theirs.
So this this is when she told him Allah subhanho wa Taala took your son back to him. An incredible understanding and an incredible patience. And actually, the Sahabi goes back to the messengers of the law to send them to tell him and to complain a little bit. He said, she waited until I did this and this and this and then she told me about my son.
And the Prophet asked him what are you intimate last night? And he said, Yes. He said, may Allah bless your night.
Then he comes back, she got pregnant that night, she got pregnant. And when the when she delivered, he took that child to the messengers, Allahu Allahu alayhi wa sallam, he put it in his the messengers lab, the prophet took some dates, chewed them and then put them in the, in that newborns mouth. That's also the messenger, but you could do when you have a child. So he put it in his mouth.
So you can see here by a consequence for patients, but then also the last part of the Hadeeth so one of the unsolved said I saw nine of his children, all of them from the era of those who had memorized the Quran, nine of the children of that child, all of them had memorized the Quran.
And for us, you know, to understand the impact of saying something like this is what is the status of the person who had memorized the Quran then it would be similar in our reverse standards today if I told you, nine of his children are old medical doctors
and they will say Oh, Mashallah, very successful. That's what it meant for you to say then nine of them had memorized the Quran.
So the consequence of patience may not be in this generation could be the next generation or the one after or you will see it with Allah subhanho wa Taala. But it is there in our lighthouse the promise of Allah is true. Only had was the Fulani one
hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen
wa sallahu wa Sallim wa salatu salam ala Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam about
what also motivates patients is to understand the nature of this life and that nature of this life is built on instability and tests.
That if something happens that pleases you, it will be followed by something that displeases you and saddens you and if something saddens you to be followed by something that pleases you and so on.
And a lot makes it clear in the Quran, the Quran that we read and should we be and we should be reading all the time. What any blue element Mujahideen I mean, come on Allah masabi. We are going to test you until we know the Mujahideen among you know those who are patient, or when Allah says do you believe what do you think and suppose that you're going to enter Paradise before Allah knows who is patient and who is truthful to him and who's not
Do you suppose that that is going to happen. So this is an announcement from Allah, that this life is headed towards the the Hereafter, and that it involves a test for the benefit of the hereafter.
So if you understand the nature of this life, then you understand that patience is necessary in it and that it does not last.
And that the best thing that Allah could give to you
is patience. Because that is what the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, when he had an alpha and higher on when
no one has given something that is better and more expansive of the heart than patients.
If someone came to our Nagila, Aziz,
and he said, Oh, Prince of the believers, yeah, I'm here on more meaning you've lost your son.
Soon after you lost your brother. Soon after you lost your servant. Each one of them is a jewel.
Each one of them is a jewel, so we came, we give our condolences.
So his head was lowered, or they allow and then one of the companions sitting next to me said you really you have revived the sadness of ameerul momineen. Then Omar lifted his head and he said, What did you say again, he said, You have lost so and so. so and so. So and So, he said, Even so, I do not wish that any of that did not happen.
I did not wish that I would not lose my son or not lose my friend, my brother would not lose my servant, despite how dear they are to me. Why because though the he loves them, he understand that Allah His love is higher than that and that our last choice is better than his. So, that is why he can be patient with it.
And he understands also something essential about this slide is that the more that you are tried in it, and the more patience that you have, the better person you will be and the veteran believer you will be
when you read the law will be high on use obey if Allah wants the best for you, he will test you he will afflict you, he will keep afflicting you. And there could be as an adage says but could be a station in Paradise, you will not be able to reach by your own deeds. Or you are destined to go to Hellfire because of your deeds, because of what you've done or you did not do so Allah will test you and increase your patience so that you enter heaven.
That is why that can reverse our understanding of affliction and misery in this life that it is not bad. In fact, it is good. And you can actually mix them suffer with Riba you become patient, and also thankful to Allah Subhana Allah that you chose me for this test.
Now the choice that we have is how do we receive it?
As Allah as the messenger says, from unworthy of Allah horiba woman, so
if Allah tests you, and Allah demands patience from you, and you receive it actually with patience, what you have is better than what you have lost. Whatever it is that you've lost via job, could be security, could be a person in your family, could be a whatever it is,
it would be better for you, you'll be in a better station, you'd be closer to Allah. And you are destined, right if you continue on your patience for Allah to give you something better in the muscle mass of victory for you to prevail. Victory is joined with patients.
But if the opposite is true, and you resist, and you cry, and you complain, and you're dissatisfied, then you will receive the dis dissatisfaction and the anger of Allah subhanho wa Taala Plus, it's not part of wisdom and it's not part of prudence anyway, as they say, the foolish does on the seventh day of misfortune, what the wise does on the first day,
the foolish does on the seventh day of misfortune, how he handles it, on the seventh day is what the wise person does. On the first day, the wise person does not resist does not cry, does not curse. He has prepared himself to what is coming, he could be sad.
But still, he is connected to Allah Subhana Allah and the foolish curses, Christ is in disbelief. He's in disarray on the first day, second day, third day by the fourth day he begins to accept fifth sixth by the seventh day his car.
So eventually we're going to reach that stage better that we reach it on the first day and get the reward for it because that is when your patient
when you first receive it, not after 10 days or a month or so it's when it happens. Are you patient Then why are you not in the most top row in the sub Matilda if we had time I could have explained this a little bit more, but as the profits
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in the patience is when you first receive the news, What is your reaction
and that is not going to happen. You're not going to have this patient unless you are very close to Allah subhana wa Taala. And ask him for patience, and practice it. And know that your patience is for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah for a station in paradise for him to honor you on that day for Him to forgive your sins on that day. And to believe that so this dunya is so miniscule, so small, that is really insignificant. Whatever happens in it is of no significance. Whoever says to you or takes from you, it is of no significance. Because if Allah compensates you then you're gonna forget about everything that happened to you.
So it becomes easy to be patient.
So I urge you and I urge myself brothers and sisters, to practice patience, to cultivated to increase it in our life, to commend ourselves and our families to be patient and to learn about the types of patience and to live with the examples of the prophets of Allah and the companions of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and those who follow them to understand how they were patient. If we if we put them as examples in our life, then patients will become easier and easier will lower them. Whereas last panel Darla to make us of those who are patient, while applying patience in our hearts and in our lives. While our plantations in our hearts and our lives. A lot of patience in our
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